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10 Everyday People Who Will Restore Your Faith in Humanity

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Have you lost confidence in humanity?

It’s easy to focus on all the bad things going on in the world, but if you take a look around, you will find positive, everyday people doing nice things for other people. Motivated by their own unique situations, these people find creative ways to make the world around them a happier place.

We live at a break-neck speed, with life throwing hurdles in our way as we run through our lives. We can get caught up in all the bad things in the world around us. Instead, let’s slow down and find the good people who remind us of our own humanity and kindness.

Ten Kind People Who Restore Your Faith in Humanity

Here are ten people’s stories who will restore your faith in humanity.

1 – This woman provides and jobs for the disabled

When Erin Willman lost her vision at fifteen, people assumed she couldn’t do many things. But Erin refused to allow her disability to slow her down. Several employers declined to hire Erin. Instead, she decided to start her own business, and now she is the CEO of White Cane Coffee.

Her storefront coffee shop selling freshly brewed organic coffee to the residents of the small community of Warren, Pennsylvania. Plus, her company is impacting the lives of blind and autistic people through practical on-the-job skills. Erin’s White Cane Coffee shop currently provides jobs for eight disabled workers. Her goal is to inspire hope and the freedom of independence to her employees.

Because she experienced first hand the difficulties of living with a disability and feeling left out, Erin decided that every package of her coffee would include Braille on the label. Today White Cane Coffee is the first company to label its products in Braille.

“If you can change one person’s life, you are changing the world.” ~Erin Willman

Besides providing a liveable wage to each of the employees, the company donates some of its proceeds to The Sight Center for Northwest Pennsylvania, an organization that trains leader dogs for the blind.

Erin also works with schools that teach the blind and disabled. During her regular visits to the Western Pennsylvania School for Blind Children in Pittsburgh, she emphasizes the importance of work and self-reliance to the students and their need to grow in independence.

Erin spoke at the National Federation of the Blind Convention in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Her message of hope to those in attendance began with this statement,

“When you lost your vision, people stood in line to tell you what you can’t do, now let’s talk about what you can do. You have value, you have worth, and you can live an independent life.”

Another program close to Erin’s heart is the Warren County Children’s Advocacy Center. White Cane Coffee created a special blend of coffee to raise support, so a portion of the proceeds from this special coffee’s sales goes to the center. Erin has inspired so many people. She says she never dreamed of being a CEO of a company, but she did dream of changing the world. Today Erin is doing this by providing jobs and hope to the handicapped community.

2 – Funny teachers go remote to provide stress relief for kids and parents

These ten teachers found themselves in a whole new teaching mode last spring. Just like their students, the teachers suddenly had to learn how to maneuver online learning. There have been many up and down during the year, but the teachers decided to make the best of it and have fun along with the kids. So, they created funny videos of themselves, played rock music to keep the kids’ attention, and posted silly teaching bloopers to encourage kids and parents to hang in there.

These ten teachers show their dedication and love for kids while keeping a good sense of humor about all the things that can go wrong. If laughter is good medicine, then these fun-loving teachers keep kids and parents healthier and happier despite the unusual circumstances.

3 – Dancing doctors blow off steam during the pandemic

In the midst of the stress and strain of the current pandemic, these doctors and health care workers found a positive way to release their stress. At first, they danced for its fun, but after realizing how helpful and uplifting it was for even their patients, they decided to create dance videos. When the videos went viral, other health care workers from other hospitals around the country joined in with their own dances.

Dancing is a great exercise and stress reliever. And as these doctors prove, dancing boosts your mood and makes you feel happier. So, take a cue from these docs and blow off some steam by dancing.

4 – One veteran’s passion for fitness leads him to help others

James Coley, an Air Force Veteran and personal trainer in Tampa, Florida, is making a huge difference in people’s lives. While helping friends work out at the gym, Coley suddenly realized he loved helping other people get into shape. His passion for physical fitness impacted lives, especially those who had significant weight to lose. His compassionate, caring attitudes inspired those who wanted to lose weight without making them feel judged.

One of his clients tipped the scale at 316 pounds, but after working with Coley, they weighed 175 pounds. Coley says he’s learned how to help others from his own experiences in life in the military.

He contributes the 3 D’s: dedication, determination, and discipline as what has helped him and what he uses to inspire others to get fit. He’s a great example of someone who has impacted many lives by simply doing what he loves: helping humanity.

5 – Dancing against stereotypes

Twenty-seven-year-old Erik Cavanaugh set out to show that stereotypes are meant to be broken. Cavanaugh has been a dancer since he was 16. Today he dances professionally in Nashville, Tennessee. His dancing has gone viral, showing people that you can still perform graceful dance moves no matter what your body size. He competed on America’s Got Talent, where he did a ballet performance.

Cavanaugh hopes to inspire others to pursue dance if they choose. He creates videos to display his talents and depict his mood each day. He’s had 70 million views so far, and there’s no sign of his popularity letting up. His dedication inspires all of humanity to become more accepting.

6 – Inspirational marriage poem

When 25-year-old Taylor Myers posted her poem about divorce, millions of people found it helpful for their own relationships. Her “Relationships for Life Class” inspired her to write the poem. She said the class transformed her view of relationships and that her own relationships are healthier now.

As part of the class’s homework, Taylor had to interview dozens of adults who had been married and were now divorced. She asked each person if love was an emotion or a choice. Every person told her it was a choice you decide to make every day with a person who has the same commitment.

The people also told her that you couldn’t build a strong, lasting relationship based on feelings because feelings change all the time. Taylor says the interviews have changed her view of humanity and inspired her to write her now-famous poem.

7 – This inspiring teen raises money for cancer

When she was four years old, Megan Cross was diagnosed with AML Leukemia, a rare form of cancer. Fast forward to today, the 16 years old is celebrating 10 years of being cancer-free by raising thousands of dollars at the Terry Fox Run, a 10-kilometer run to raise money to fight cancer. Megan says she has strong memories of being in the hospital, getting chemotherapy, and all the ways people reached out to care for her and her family. She hopes to keep raising money in different ways, saying, “I think in 2020, we just need to keep moving and making the world a better place..”

8 – From custodian to nurse practitioner

Jaines Andrades started working at Baystate Medical Center ten years ago as a custodian cleaning operating rooms. Being in the medical environment inspired her to pursue a medical career. Today, she’s a certified nurse practitioner in trauma surgery. After getting her nursing degree, she worked as a nurse at Baystate.

But she wasn’t done pursuing her ultimate dream.

While keeping her job at Baystate, Andrades returned to school studying to become a nurse practitioner. She got the job as a nurse practitioner and was offered the job as a nurse practitioner in her current job. She’s inspired others to be humble and ready to work hard for your dreams. Her days as a custodian reminds her to treat everyone with dignity.

9 – Cancer survivor and mom inspires others

Today, six-year-old Kingston Forrest has a lot of energy. He wasn’t always so energetic. Diagnosed with leukemia at the age of one, Kingston endured many rounds of chemo for his cancer. He never lost his happy smile but found ways to entertain other patients in the hospital. Back then, the Pinky Swear organization supported the Forrests during Kingston’s cancer.

Today, both Kingston and his mom, Michelle, are both volunteers with Pinky Swear to support other families through their cancer journey. They’ve raised money for the organization and look for ways to encourage people they meet.

10 – Free ukulele lessons

Duncan Perry, a retired college professor, wanted to give back to others, so he played his ukulele for hospice patients. The patients loved hearing him play, and he loved bringing joy to humanity in the midst of their suffering. After he moved to a different state, he volunteered at a trauma unit to help people who were injured or dying.

But when Covid-19 hit, he couldn’t visit the trauma unit to play his ukulele. At first, Perry was tempted to feel useless that he couldn’t help anyone, but he came up with an idea to offer first responders free music lessons. He knew they needed an emotional outlet and that music could help them. Perry says music gives people peace.

He offered free ukulele lessons to first responders at Maine Medical Center, and instantly his classes were a hit. Each student was given a donated loaner ukulele for their lessons, and Perry played a song in the first lesson.

One student said that this year had been challenging for her as a nurse, but having these free ukulele lessons helped relieve her get through. In return, Perry says he’s found joy in sharing the gift of music and helping the first responders who have done so much to help others.

Final Thoughts on Meeting These Ten People Who Restore Faith in Humanity

During challenging times, we lose sight of the things that are most essential to a well-lived life. Stressful days erode our faith in humanity. But these ten people remind us that we still share this Earth with many wonderful people.

3 Mistakes To Avoid If You Want to Find The Right Partner

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

If you are trying to find the right partner, you’re not alone.

About half of the United States population is single, and only half of the singles out there are looking for a partner. This means you only have 25 percent of the population to pick from. These numbers may sound low but consider that only 22 percent of the population was single in 1950. That really narrowed down the pool of prospects.

Since the pickings seem to be slim, you should probably make it count while you are dating. In other words, stay on your best behavior by avoiding certain mistakes. Here are three mistakes you should avoid at all costs.

Mistake #1: Misrepresenting Yourself

An unbelievable number of people pretend to be someone or something they’re not when dating. Online dating is even worse – you’re lucky if people even use a real picture of themselves. At first, misrepresenting yourself seems like a great way to attract a lot of potential mates. It works, but it doesn’t last.

Most people seem not to realize that shortly after you meet someone, the truth will come out. They will realize you’ve been lying to them, and just like that, trust is broken. You cannot build a relationship without trust, so the potential relationship is over before it can even get started.

Catfishing

In the case of misleading online pictures and profiles (known as catfishing), you may as well not even bother. Unless you are only looking for an email relationship, the person will see you and know that you aren’t the person in the picture. It makes no sense to use fake pictures.

The same can be said for outdated pictures. If you have gained 100 pounds, don’t use a picture of yourself when you were skinny. Do not use a picture of yourself from a decade ago or from high school. Current photos are the best and most honest policy.

One annoying habit that some people have when posting profile pictures is posting a photo with other people. Don’t have people guessing which person is you. Make sure you are the only person in the photo.

Creepy Coincidences

Coincidences, when they occur, are not creepy. What’s creepy is when it seems like you like every single thing as a potential partner. Their favorite color is blue? So is yours! Their favorite food is chicken cordon bleu? How crazy is it that you eat that all the time! At first, pretending to like everything a potential partner likes may seem cute, but it will get old fast.

There are not that many coincidences in the world, and people are a lot smarter than you give them credit for. Eventually, they will catch on to the fact that you’re lying about what you like. They won’t be able to trust you after that, and a potential relationship will have gone sour.

Mistake #2: Being Too Picky

Have you ever met someone with a long checklist of qualities that their perfect match needs to have? You can bet your paycheck that they will still be single a few years from now. Being too picky is a great way to stay single.

You must realize that no one is perfect. A match can be perfect for you, but not perfect. You will have a better chance of hitting the lottery than you will of finding someone that has every single quality you want in a partner.

Having Standards vs. Being Picky

The difference between having standards and being picky can be confusing because it’s such a thin line between the two. Indeed, you should not be picky, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t have standards and deal breakers. Standards and deal breakers will ensure you find the right partner, but being picky will likely result in you missing the right partner.

So how can you tell the difference? Here is an example. Amy’s perfect match must make six figures a year, drive a nice car, and not have kids from a previous relationship. Michelle’s perfect match needs to earn a decent living that can support a family, have a vehicle, and not have kids from a previous relationship. They both choose traditional gender roles and want a partner who provides for a family.

At first glance, these ladies seem to be searching for the same thing. In fact, there is nothing wrong with what they have listed. This is called standards. However, things switch over to picky if they are not willing to negotiate.

For example, Amy may meet a man who earns $65,000 a year as a medical resident, so should she turn him down? Michelle may meet a man who doesn’t earn a decent living but has an inheritance that can take care of him and his entire family for a lifetime. Should Michelle skip over the man because he isn’t “earning” his living?

In both cases, these men can support a partner and children, but they would get overlooked because they don’t match Amy’s and Michelle’s picky standards. Finances aren’t the only area where you can be too picky. It could be any quality on your list. Have your standards, but don’t be so rigid that you find the right partner and skip over them for something petty.

Potential vs. Laziness

When you’re trying to find the right partner, you should know the difference between potential and lazy behavior. Standards are what ensures that you don’t fall for someone lazy in life. Standards are important but don’t overlook potential because of your standards.

Let’s be honest. No one wants a lazy partner (unless they are equally as lazy). Most people are trying to improve their lives, so they need someone who can go out and hustle for the better things in life just like they can. If you’re gunning for CEO of a Fortune 500 company, you likely aren’t going to pair well with someone who is satisfied being a burger flipper at a fast-food restaurant. That statement does not mean that one job is better than the other. Instead, it reflects an almost insurmountable gap in career goals.

However, don’t make the mistake of dismissing someone who is showing future potential. They may not have it together right now, but they may be pushing hard to be successful every day. A good example is someone who is in college. They may be broke right now, but when they graduate and land a decent job, you will wish you had given them a chance.

Mistake #3: Ignoring Intuition

In the famous words of DJ Khaled, “don’t play yourself.” That’s exactly what you’re doing when you ignore intuition. Unfortunately, it is common for people to ignore intuition. In fact, that is how so many bad relationships occur.

You have probably heard of women’s intuition numerous times throughout your life, but men have excellent intuition as well. Intuition is some subconscious part of you is telling you that the person isn’t the right one. It will be a nagging feeling that you cannot shake.

Many people choose to ignore intuition. Some people will marry their partner even though that intuition has been present throughout the entire relationship. That’s when the worst usually comes out – after you’ve said, “I do.”

Why People Ignore Their Intuition

Unfortunately, many people of both genders ignore this intuition because they are so into a person. The results can be very disappointing and sometimes even devastating. Most people know this, but they still silence that inner voice anyway.

When it comes to dating, it can be disheartening to find someone that seems so perfect but must face the fact that there is just one thing that is so major it’s a deal-breaker. This is especially true if you have been having trouble finding the right person. Disappointment hurts, and it can make you feel like you will never find the right partner.

Another reason people tend to ignore their intuition is that society tends to groom you to ignore it. According to Dr. Lindsey C Pratt, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, MA, LMHC, NCC, trusting your intuition is a skill that needs to be practiced and developed daily. If you are not trusting yourself daily, this could be a reason you ignore your sixth sense when it comes to dating.

It is important to listen to your inner voice, not just for dating, but for almost everything in life. When a potential partner is not right, you’ll know it. Identifying this early can keep you and the other person from getting hurt and allow you to be free to find the right partner.

Final Thoughts on Mistakes You Should Avoid to Find the Right Partner

In many cases, when people are making these mistakes, they don’t mean any harm. They don’t realize the damage it can do even before a relationship sparks with a potential partner. People are just trying to find the right partner the best way they know-how, and some people get desperate and resort to unhealthy dating practices.

No one is perfect, so don’t beat yourself up if you are guilty of any of the mistakes listed here. After all, you’re reading this to be a better dater. This information is intended to help you grow, become a better partner, and ultimately find the right partner, so soak it all in and find that special someone!

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How to React to Someone Who Flirts With Your Partner, According to Psychology

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

What could be more wonderful than to meet the person of your dreams and fall in love? Perhaps yours may have been love at first sight. But what if someone else experiences that same attraction and flirts with your partner?

There’s no denying that humans are sexually driven beings. If not, the human race would have died out in the beginning. However, it’s the mature people who know how to control their sexuality and be faithful to their partners.

Were Humans Always Faithful to One Mate?

Anthropologists and psychologists aren’t positive that human beings were always monogamous. Studies indicate that our earliest ancestors probably practiced serial polygamy. However, the experts note that humans still gravitate to an exclusive relationship between only two partners.

This doesn’t include sexual encounters that are outside of long-term relationships. Nor does it provide for instances where people have another partner after one has died. Generally, you are usual to want to have your significant other to yourself.

Remember in junior high school when everyone was honing their flirting skills? According to studies on human relationships, flirting is hardwired into our brains. Science classifies this as a primordial function that tells potential mates that we are interested, much like a mating ritual.

When you think about it, how did you get your significant other’s attention? You probably saw each other from across the room, smiled, and started to flirt mildly. Just because your significant other is taken doesn’t stop others from looking and flirting.

You will encounter at least one person who flirts with your mate. Although it’s inevitable, how you deal with it is the key. If the flirting happens often and your mate plays along, your relationship may be in trouble.

How To React When Someone Flirts with Your Partner

Some people don’t care to flirt with people who are obviously with somebody else shamelessly. How can you deal with these situations without looking like the green-eyed monster? Here are some helpful ways to react when someone flirts with your partner.

Psychologists point out that online flirtations are also on the rise. So keep that in mind as you read these points.

•Appraise the Situation

Picture this scenario: You are having a night on the town with your significant other, and you notice someone obviously flirting with them. It happens to everyone at some time in a romantic relationship. Before you lose your cool and do something foolish, take a breath and appraise what’s happening.

First, was it a stranger who was making eyes at your person? On a crowded dance floor or in a busy restaurant, it may be impossible to know if people are a “couple.” This stranger saw what you saw the first time you met your mate and did what comes naturally.

If it’s someone you don’t know, it’s probably a harmless faux pas you can ignore. Was it a simple, flirty smile or a little wink? Try not to make a big fuss over something when the person meant no harm. As long as your partner doesn’t return the flirtation in kind, you’ve no worries.

If it makes you feel a little better, stand close to your partner, hold their hand, and smile. Then, you can give a quick, polite smile toward the person who flirts with your partner. Most people with any scruples will back off and flirt with someone else.

• How Does Your Partner Respond?

Here’s where a little innocent wink or flirty smile gets complicated. Did your mate even see the person flirting from across the room? It would be harder not to notice if the flirtation were face-to-face and it’s in front of you.

Try to maintain calm and watch how your partner reacts. If you are in a loving and faithful relationship, your partner will ignore it. When it’s up close and personal, expect them to speak up and say, “Sorry, I’m taken.”

Since your partner didn’t reciprocate, you don’t want to shift the blame to them. Place the blame on the flirter. A person who loves you won’t entertain flirty suggestions from others.

Look for any decent person who unknowingly flirts with your partner to make a quick exit. Chalk it up to you being with a darling, attractive person. Let it go, and enjoy the rest of your romantic time together.

• When the Flirtation Continues

Say you have noticed somebody flirts with your partner, and they haven’t taken your apparent hints. What do you do if the shameless flirt keeps trying and makes you and your partner uncomfortable? It gets even stickier when you see that the person has cornered your significant other while you are across the room.

These are the cases when it’s time for you to step in to diffuse the situation. You can intervene without raising your voice or risking your dignity. Step over to your partner, hug them, and introduce yourself as their partner to the flirter.

Make good eye contact with the person and give a determined smile. You may also ask, “Have we ever met?” Stay by your partner and wait until the offender has gone their way. Unless this person has no decency, this should be all your necessary intervention.

• Be the Bigger Person When Someone Flirts With Your Partner

It’s difficult to watch someone flirt with your partner when you are in love with someone. If you keep your cool and rationalize the situation, you take the high road. It shows that you are secure in yourself and your relationship.

The last thing you want to do is make a big scene. Not only will it make you look bad, but it will be a great embarrassment to your significant other. Be the bigger person and keep your dignity.

• When It’s Time for a Confrontation

It’s one thing when a total stranger flirts with your partner, but it’s quite another when it’s someone you know. Realize that some people are naturally flirty and mean no harm. Even then, you have a right to say what you will and won’t tolerate.

Are you tired of being in a group setting, and that same person who flirts with your partner starts? After you’ve tried everything to show that their advances are unwelcome, it’s time you speak your mind. The French call it “en tete a tete,” meaning a face-to-face confrontation.

Be assured that things don’t usually get to this point with reasonable people. However, some people are so flirty by nature that they don’t even realize what they are doing. For those who are being intentional, a confrontation.

The way you handle this conversation is crucial. You want to do it in a way that doesn’t seem hostile. Still, you must convey your message to the person who flirts with your partner. Choose your words wisely, calmly, and unapologetically. Set firm boundaries!

Most strangers will be gone once you introduce yourself as your partner’s significant other. The situation is more complicated if the flirtatious offender is a friend or family member. If a friend or a family member has the gall to flirt with your partner, they must lack respect for you.

• What To Say

If you must confront someone for their offensive flirtation with your mate, do it when calm. A conversation in the heat of the moment will probably go south quickly. When you’ve had time to assess the situation and talk to your partner, you can ask the flirter for a little talk.

It’s not a good idea to discuss in front of people. If need be, you can bring your partner for support. Be firm and polite but direct about how you feel about the situation.

Tell the person you wanted to bring something that’s been bothering you to their attention. Then, be direct: “I know that you enjoy flirting and may not mean anything by it. However, you know my partner is with me and isn’t looking for anybody else.

“When you’re flirting, it makes both of us feel uncomfortable and disrespected. I do value our relationship, but this behavior needs to stop. If not, we are going to have to part ways until you can respect our wishes.”

You can’t be any more honest and direct than that. You’ve given the offender enough room to apologize and make the necessary changes. If it’s a friend or relative, you’ve acknowledged that you value their relationship, and they’ll be fine when they stop the offensive behavior.

• The Dead End

Should you deal with a narcissist or a sociopathic person, your conversation may fall on deaf ears. If the behavior continues, follow your word and cut ties with the flirter. You don’t need a relationship with them if they are that dense and disrespectful.

Final Thoughts on Dealing With a Person Who Flirts With Your Partner

Flirtation is a natural part of human attraction. Although most flirtations may be harmless, it may come to a point when you must speak up. Do so while maintaining your dignity and the respect of the partner you love.

A Patient Person Does These 10 Things Without Realizing It

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

One of the most challenging qualities to learn is patience. When you were a child, your parents probably used wise sayings to help you remember. You may have heard that “good things come to those who wait,” and “patience is a virtue.”

Like most good character traits, patience must be taught from the cradle and developed over a lifetime. If you have children, you know that being patient doesn’t come naturally to them. When they want something, they want it now, and they don’t want to wait.

Unfortunately, impatient children often grow up into intolerant adults. One definite cause is our technological society that usually provides instant gratification. When you order food from a drive-thru or press a button on your computer, you want it now, no excuses.

It was once assumed that animals don’t have the level of patience that humans do. However, recent studies suggest that this assumption may not be entirely accurate. When most people are faced with getting something now or waiting until later, it’s challenging to be patient.

Most of the world’s significant religions promote being patient as a divine command. Many sacred writings, books, and poetry have been devoted to quality. On the other hand, impatience is equated with misfortune and immature spirituality.

When you browse the shelves of self-help books in the library or bookstore, you’ll notice that many of them discuss how to have more patience. Many life coaches teach that being patient may reduce your stress and anxiety levels.

Humans don’t like to wait, and nobody has perfect tolerance. It’s called a “practice” because you’ll spend a lifetime improving on it. Having the desire to be more patient shows that you are making a step in the right direction.

10 Habits of Patient People

Do you consider yourself a patient person? Maybe you’ve noticed that you get a bit angry when you are standing in line or put on hold. If you want more tolerance in your life, consider these ten habits of patient people.

1. They are Humble

Those who have cultivated fortitude in their lives also display other cardinal virtues, like humility. Have you ever noticed people who lean toward narcissism or have a false sense of entitlement? They often have haughty attitudes and aren’t the most likable people when their demands aren’t immediately met.

However, people with patience usually are humble and treat others how they want to be treated. They realize that some things take time regardless of who you are or your socioeconomic status. Those who practice patience see others as equals.

The next time you are in line in a store or restaurant, notice how each patron treats the service people. Those who have tolerance will be the courteous ones, while the impatient ones may be a bit snarky and rude.

2. They Practice Active Listening

While some people are naturally good conversationalists, active listening is a skill that takes time and practice. Someone once said that you should listen twice as much as you speak since you have two ears and one mouth. Those who have learned patience also know how to be good listeners.

Do you want to follow the example of these people? Practice good listening skills when you are talking to others. Use neutral body language, lean slightly toward the speakers, and nod your head occasionally.

Instead of thinking about what you will say next, listen intently to what the speakers say without interrupting. Mirror the emotions they are showing and try to restate their points if you need clarification.

People who’ve learned patience are often the best friends to have in a crisis. Instead of overwhelming you with corny lectures and advice, they listen to you. Theirs is a “gift of presence” that you’ll remember for years to come.

3. They Gather All the Facts

Remember the iconic phrase “just the facts” from the classic detective TV show? It’s challenging to decide an issue without pertinent information. People with patience have learned that they can save themselves a lot of frustration if they don’t get in a big hurry.

This individual gathers all the facts before doing anything. When you practice tolerance, you find that taking your time can work in your favor. Quick remedies aren’t always the right answer.

Think of a time when you said or did something before you knew the whole situation. It probably didn’t work out very well. Patience is a tool that helps you do your homework before acting.

4. They Center on Positive Thoughts

Where do people get the energy to be so enduring? Perhaps it’s because they are usually positive. If you have a negative mindset, it’s easy to get irritated if you must wait for something.

Easygoing people have an aura of positivity around them. They know that time can be a friend, and waiting may be a good thing. Other people enjoy being around them because they are usually upbeat.

5. They Have a Good Sense of Humor

What could be worse than being around people who are sour and lack humor? Multiple studies support the old saying that laughter can be good medicine. It can lower your stress level and make you a happier person.

For the people who practice tolerance, humor often comes naturally. Instead of getting hot-headed when things aren’t going their way, they deflect it with spirit. They are also the first to laugh at themselves instead of taking things so seriously.

When’s the last time you had a good belly laugh? Have the burdens of life made it difficult to laugh or even smile? Being enduring and tolerant can help bring joy back to your life.

6. They Don’t Waste Time

Just because people aren’t in a rush to do something doesn’t mean they waste time. They see time as a precious commodity and don’t waste it by being pessimistic and throwing fits. Sure, they like to see things done promptly and efficiently, but they don’t let it be a burden.

Long-suffering people don’t have time to gossip and complain. They feel that their time is better spent working out their problems. Others often look to them when they need a project done correctly.

7. They Are Peacemakers

Did you know that patience usually goes hand in hand with peace? Think of an instance when you were angry and impatient with someone. The conversation probably went south rather quickly.

Being tolerant helps calm your nerves so that you can think rationally. Instead of losing your cool in a moment of frustration, you may be the first to call a truce. Peace also takes time.

8. They Are Considerate of Others

Isn’t it fascinating how much about adult life you learned in kindergarten? Most of these rules were centered around tolerance and how to treat others. When your teacher instructed you to raise your hand for questions, take turns, and share, you were learning how to wait politely.

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all remembered our kindergarten lessons? People who practice patience are usually the first to prefer others before themselves. They are empathetic and exercise kindness.

9. They Are Good Planners

Have any of your children ever informed you that they had a big school project due the next day? They neglected to tell you that they had two weeks to have it done. It’s a hard lesson to learn how procrastination creates impatience and frustration.

If you are a good planner, you are also probably a person with perseverance. You know how to allot your time and break a project into smaller goals. You stay well organized, and you don’t wait until the last minute to get things done.

10. They Know How to Cope with Stress

Countless medical research shows a connection between high-stress levels and disease. When your body is overstressed, the brain goes into survival mode and pumps up the cortisone and adrenaline. Too many of these stress hormones can affect your physical and mental health and even cause premature death.

People who practice patience give themselves a time out for recharging. They often use stress-reducing tools such as meditation, visualization, yoga, and tai chi. It doesn’t take their problems away, but it can change how they react to them.

One of the things you’ll often see in eager people is that they are usually frazzled and stressed. The stress affects their nerves and can make them short-tempered. Learning patience can ease anxiety and make you feel better.

Final Thoughts on the Habits of Patient People

If you talk to people who have patience, they will tell you that it doesn’t come overnight. You must patiently wait while you learn this beautiful practice. It’s a virtue that is well worth your while and will benefit your body, mind, and spirit.

15 Quotes on Hope That Will Restore Your Faith in Humanity

November 27, 2020 by Sarah Barkley

Sometimes it may be difficult to hold onto hope and your faith in humanity may waver. Luckily, many quotes on hope will help restore your faith and help you see the good in the world.

Even when things aren’t going well and you can’t immediately see good things, remember that they are there somewhere. There are always good, loving people in the world, and there are always beautiful things and experiences.

As you go forward, you may need reminders to stay hopeful. These quotes on hope will remind you and they will help restore your faith in humanity.

Fifteen Quotes on Hope

With hope and faith, you will be able to make a huge difference in the world. You will be able to pave the way for change, helping to make the world a better place. When things seem out of control, remember that you are capable of making a difference, as long as you keep hoping. Read these fifteen quote on hope during those challenging days.

1. “Hope is like a road in the country; there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence.” – Lin Yutang

When one person has hope, it will lead others to have hope, as well. Eventually, that hope will become reality, as more and more people join in. Keep hoping so that you can help pave the way for the change you wish to see.

2. “Just as despair can come to one another only from other human beings, hope, too, can be given to one only by other human beings.” – Ellie Wiesel

In a way, hope is contagious. It spreads from one person to another, just as despair does. Instead of losing hope and spreading despair to others, remain hopeful, and spread hope to others. This is the only way to see a positive change.

3. “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie

Just when you feel like giving up hope, the important things might happen. You will never know unless you keep hoping and trying to make things better. If bad things keep happening, keep hoping and reminding yourself that it means the important things are coming soon.

4. “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Disappointing things happen to everyone, and sometimes the world around you will seem out of control. Life can never be perfect all of the time, so disappointment is unavoidable. Even so, you have to keep hope, as Dr. King describes in this quote.

5. “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Just because there are some bad people in the world, it doesn’t mean the entire world is bad. It is still beautiful, and there is still good everywhere. Remain hopeful and remember that there are good people out there.

You can’t lose faith because of a handful of bad people. Remind yourself that there are people out there who have good morals and that together you can make a difference.

6. “I don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains.” – Anne Frank

Even in the hardest times when people seem the most awful, there is beauty to be seen in the world. Instead of focusing on the bad things, focus on whatever bit of beauty you can find. This will help restore your faith in humanity.

7. “Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.”– Thich Nhat Hanh

Without hope, life would be unbearable. There would be no reason to go on, and no reason to try for anything. Don’t allow your life to become meaningless by losing hope, because you’ll be much happier if you can find it.

8. “Hope is a renewable option: If you run out of it at the end of the day, you get to start over in the morning.” – Barbara Kingsolver

Hope can never run out completely, as long as you remain open to experiencing it. Each time you wake up in the morning, you have a new chance at hope. If you give it a shot each day, you will be able to restore your faith and find the good in the world.

9. “You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.” – Thomas Merton

Life is unpredictable, and no matter how much you prepare, things may not go as planned. Even still, you have to remain hopeful that everything will work out. Embrace the unknown and be courageous as you move forward in life.

10. “Hope is the companion of power and mother of success; for who so hopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles.” – Samuel Smiles

Without hope, you will have no power and little success. Only with hope will you be able to accomplish great things, because this is where the gifts in life come from.

11. “The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” – Barack Obama

Don’t sit idly as you lose hope, letting life pass by without you striving for a change. The only way to restore hope and faith is to stay active and keep working toward your goals. You won’t find the good in the world if you aren’t out looking for it.

12. “There is some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

No matter what has happened, there are good people and good things in the world. If you aren’t finding any good, then you need to change your environment. Begin looking for the good, and then use it to fight for the change you wish to see.

13. “What is true of the individual will be tomorrow true of the whole nation if individuals will but refuse to lose heart and hope.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Your thoughts and desires for the world can only become reality if you remain hopeful. As Gandhi explains, one person’s hope can change an entire nation. Stay hopeful and spread that hope to others so that there is a greater chance of positivity in the world.

14. “You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.” – Woodrow Wilson

Life is more than going to work and earning a wage. You were born to change the world and to offer your insights, hopes, and spirits. Remain hopeful and keep striving to make a change, no matter how small, so that you will be fulfilled.

15. “To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness. What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something.” – Howard Zinn

While you may feel foolish to remain hopeful when it seems all hope is gone, you should still keep that hope. The reason hope is still so important is that history has shown that there is always good in the world. Even in the most tragic of times, compassion, sacrifice, courage, and kindness have been present.

Final Thoughts on These Quotes on Hope Will Restore Your Faith in Humanity

Having hope is important to living a fulfilling and happy life. Without hope, you wouldn’t be able to achieve anything or make a change in the world around you. You wouldn’t be able to look forward to anything or dream of a brighter future.

With hope, however, anything is possible, as these quotes on hope explain. Even when it seems that there is no hope left and that there seems to be no good left in the world, you have to keep holding on. Remain hopeful, because that hope will help pave the way for change.

As these quotes on hope detail, the more hope there is in the world, the greater the chance of change. Do your part and remain hopeful so that you can spread that hope to others. Only then will you be able to see a change in the world.

Scientists Explain How One Workout Can Boost Brainpower for 2 Hours

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Your alarm blasts alerting you that it’s time to start a new day. You push the snooze button as many times as you can to get a few extra minutes of necessary sleep. You finally drag yourself to the kitchen to put on the coffee and boost your brainpower. Without this caffeinated drink, you know you will be lethargic and sluggish till lunch.

This common scenario happens in nearly every home in America. People are exhausted from a lack of sleep and stress. They try to self-medicate their fatigue by using things like caffeine and other harmful stimulants. The truth is that your body is crying out for something else that can give you the boost you need without any side effects.

You can boost your mental abilities with sugar or caffeine only to crash a short time later. Or you can get your blood flowing to your brain with a cardiovascular workout. A study done in Germany proved that when you exercise, your brain functions better, and your cognitive performance increases.

Boost Your Brainpower with Cardiovascular Exercise

How long has it been since you’ve been to the gym? Perhaps, you bought expensive equipment that has become excellent storage for your clothes or other household items. Your body was meant to move, and when you allow it to remain in a stationary position, you are causing more harm than good.

People have developed a sedentary lifestyle because of technological advances. The National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey collected data from American workers over the age of 18. Shockingly, they found that 44 percent of the participants have a job that keeps them sedentary.

These people said that they barely move at all. Only three percent of the participants moved more than four hours each day. Wow! It’s easy to see why the obesity epidemic is so out of control in this country.

With computers, smartphones, tablets, laptops, smart televisions, and all the other devices out there, people have become lazy regarding exercise. Sadly, as a person ages, they automatically experience cognitive decline.

However, aerobic exercise has been proven to give you better brain functioning and enhance memory, concentration, and learning. Remember the last time you hiked up a mountain, jogged in the park, or did a vigorous cardiovascular workout. The chances are that you felt energized when it was completed.

Instead of trading your desk chair for a seat in the cafeteria at lunch, why not go outside and do a brisk walk to boost your brainpower? It could make the difference in how you feel at the end of the day and give your brain the jolt it needs.

Boost Your Brainpower Without Harmful Substances

When you do a workout, you will think clearer, and you won’t have to pump yourself full of coffee to get a similar effect. You will lift the brain fog and tackle each happenstance with a crystal-clear mind. Think of your brain as a light bulb.

When you turn on a compact fluorescent lamp or a CFL bulb, it takes a few minutes for them to illuminate fully. They start with just a dim glow, and it’s hard to see when they are in this initial warm-up phase. Slowly, they get amped-up, and they can shine to their fullest potential.

Your brain functions like these CFL bulbs. When you first get out of bed, you’re sluggish because your brain waves slow as you sleep. While your mind is still alert, it’s shut down many of your body functions so that it can heal and restore damaged areas.

The fact is that you can’t go from zero to 100 with your brain with the snap of a finger. It takes time to boost your brainpower. Many people are doing this all wrong with harmful substances when a good workout is what they need. A one-hour workout has the power to increase your cognitive functioning for about 120 minutes after you’ve finished.

Sweat More, Stress Less

Have you ever tried going up and down the stairs several times? When you climb stairs, it’s easy to sweat. The sweat is a sign that you’re breathing is increasing, and so is the blood flow to the brain.

Your brain is getting oxygen and blood to each cell, which is necessary for function. When you work your muscles, they send a rush of hormones straight to your head. Inside your brain, they mix with your brain chemicals to help with your mood, cell growth, and learning processes.

An excellent way to think of it is like giving your brain a dose of miracle grow, much as you would do to a plant. It’s those hormones that alter how you feel. How many times have you heard someone say that you need to boost your serotonin, norepinephrine, or dopamine levels to combat anxiety and depression? These vital transmitters are responsible for your focus, tension, and anxiety, as well as your overall wellbeing.

When these chemicals become unbalanced, you will suffer in your mind and body. However, you can take control of these issues without expensive trips to the doctor or pharmacy counter. When you get your body moving, everything goes into perfect balance.

Now, here’s something that will shock you; exercise can work the same for you as antidepressant medication. That’s right; many people are popping pills, and all they need to do is get their body moving. They have the power to control their depression and anxiety by simply moving more and charging their hormones.

If you did a workout for one hour a day, three days a week, then you would see a significant change in your mood and overall cognitive function. Another exciting fact about boosting your brain power with exercise is that it increases your hippocampus area’s size. This part of the brain is responsible for both your learning and memory capabilities. Your recall and concentration levels will improve.

When you’re doing a dreaded task like balancing the checkbook or working on your taxes, it may be a good idea to do a workout first. Since cardiovascular exercises will improve your attention, enhance your memory, and help you with accuracy, why aren’t more people learning that you have the power to fix the sluggishness you feel?

The Mental Benefit

A study found that individuals who exercised on lunch and breaks at work are 23 percent more productive on those days. The research looked at people that engaged in an aerobic workout to see how it influenced their body. They found that a pulse-pounding exercise session was as stimulating as coffee, plus there are no harmful side effects.

Workouts that get the heart pumping have such a powerful effect on the mind that many experts dub the phenomenon as cardio-induced clarity. People who learn how to time their workout sessions exactly right can ensure they have the adrenaline boost they need for specific periods during the day.

Now, what about your ability to remember names and other important details? Forgetfulness is something that many people struggle with as they get older. However, if you just run on your treadmill for 20 minutes, it can increase your problem-solving abilities. Keep in mind that the more intense your workout, the better clarity you’ll experience.

It’s the end of the workday, and you barely have the strength to make it to your car and do the drive home. You pull into a houseful of children who are waiting for dinner. How are you ever going to make it through the evening with all you need to accomplish?

You’ve already had a ten-hour day, and you have at least another six hours of stuff to do at home. There’s nothing that says that you must workout at a particular time. You can do several small sessions to boost your brainpower when you need it most.

Why not get the kids together and dance to the oldies for 20 minutes before cooking dinner? Not only will they have fun jumping around and spending time with you, but you will help everyone with their clarity, focus, and energy.

Final Thoughts on Using Exercise to Boost Your Brainpower

Feeling sluggish all day is not a unique problem. Some say that a low diet and lack of exercise is why so many people are stressed and exhausted. You need vital nutrients to help fuel your system, and exercise helps fire those neurons and get critical blood flow to the brain.

If only people would learn that the answer is not taking one medication after another to combat something that can naturally be taken care of. How many times do experts recommend a diet that consists of no sugar, red dyes, wheat, soy, and dairy products for the child with ADHD? The reason is that stimulant medications can do the same thing for you as alterations you can make without using prescriptions.

Those who currently take medications must talk to their primary care physician before stopping any medications, but natural remedies work. You can boost your brainpower, improve your mood, and have a better life when you get moving.

10 Everyday Moments You Should Never Take For Granted

November 27, 2020 by Lakeisha Ethans

The life we live often goes by so quickly that we forget to be grateful. We’re so busy with our tasks and worlds that we take so many different things for granted.

But if you were to stop and think about it, you’d realize just how many amazing things you’re missing because you don’t stop to appreciate them. Here are 10 everyday moments you should never take for granted.

1. Positive Physical Contact

Not everyone is comfortable with physical contact, but the forms you are comfortable with should never be taken for granted. Not only are hugs from loved ones simply lovely to receive, but even pats on the back and high-fives from friends and acquaintances give you a boost of positive thinking.

Hugs and other forms of close physical contact release a feel-good hormone called oxytocin. The support you receive results in not just better mood from the oxytocin but also pain reduction and mental strength, according to studies. Here are some more benefits of hugs and physical contact!

Better social support
Reduced fear and anxiety
Reduced stress
Better communication
Higher immunity
More positive cardiovascular health

2. Finishing A To-Do List

In today’s world, everything is fast-paced. Days are always busy, and life comes at you fast. Your daily activities involve the hustle and bustle, and sometimes, it can all feel overwhelming.

But when you finally check off the final item on your to-do list, the wave of accomplishment that follows should be celebrated! Just because it’s something you have to do doesn’t mean you shouldn’t appreciate it. Give yourself a pat on the back and a routine reward – like a relaxing bath, reading a chapter of a good book, having a piece of dark chocolate, or watching an episode of a favorite show!

When you don’t express thankfulness to yourself for accomplishing your tasks for the day, you’re setting yourself up for monotonous boredom. Make this success something to look forward to! And if you haven’t made a schedule or don’t make to-do lists, consider turning them into a habit. Here are some benefits of doing so:

You can hold yourself accountable.
Everything becomes more orderly.
You don’t forget anything.
You’ll experience less stress.
You can delegate more easily.
You get to be more productive in the long run.
You’ll improve and grow.

3. Internet Access

Internet access is so normal in today’s technologically advanced world that we often forget to be grateful for it. The days of rushing to the library or asking as many people as you knew for answers are long gone. According to industry analysts, the internet has transformed how we seek out specialized information, such as exploring the beste Buchmacher ohne Oasis im Vergleich for offshore gambling options. Everything is at your fingertips. It’s truly amazing, but it’s so normal that you might take it for granted. Here are some things to be thankful for about the internet:

A wealth of information, constantly at your fingertips
The ability to stay in touch with distant friends
Syncing technology means you never lose your files
Finding a community of people who share your interests
Being able to do virtually everything from home

4. Kindness – Even Of Those You Will Never See

Kindness and compassion are beautiful. A world without these acts would be cold, empty, and broken. How many people’s lives have been bettered or even saved by compassion? How often have you been cheered up by someone’s kindness?

Imagine that none of that kindness ever existed. It isn’t very comforting to think about. As a society, human beings have grown to love and care for each other. We’ve learned to be selfless and helpful. That’s something we should always appreciate and never take for granted. Around the world, people are helping each other. Here are some acts of kindness to both do and appreciate from others:

Smiling at someone
Holding open the door for someone
Giving someone a compliment
Buy a busy friend, a drink, or a snack.
Volunteer with a charity or donate to them

Need a reason to perform acts of kindness? Well, studies suggest that doing these things reduces depression and boosts positive thinking. As such, your capacity for kindness is something you shouldn’t take for granted, either!

5. Access To Basic Necessities

The necessities that you receive every day are ones that keep you alive. While they are basic human rights, it’s also fair to not take them for granted. At any moment, your life could be uprooted, and you could lose access to them due to situations outside of your control. This isn’t meant to catastrophize, but more so to encourage you to understand better why this shouldn’t be taken for granted:

· Clean Water

Did you know that 780 million people worldwide do not have safe drinking water that they can access? That’s one big reason to think in positive ways that this is something easily available to you! You have clean water to drink, cook with, shower with, and clean with.

· Food

Food is more than just eating for sustenance alone. It’s nourishing and flavorful, and there are many things about food that you can appreciate. Don’t take your tasty and healthy food options for granted, and don’t take the fact that you can eat all your square meals for granted, either!

· A Roof Over Your Head

Your home protects you from the elements. It may not be perfect, but it’s outfitted to keep you alive. Think of all the harsh weather you’ve seen and how difficult it would be if you didn’t have that roof. It’s not something to take for granted, especially if you’re able to decorate it and turn it into a home, not just a house.

6. Contributing To The World With Your Work

Every day you work, you have the chance not just to be productive but also to share your efforts with those around you. The work you do matters and affects other people. Even if you have a “normal,” “boring,” or unassuming job, what you’re doing means something. Jobs don’t exist for no reason, after all.

When you work, you display your character and your strength. Each day gives you a chance to show off what you can do. It adds purpose and career goals and helps you shape the future that you want. It can transform your life, and anything that powerful to you should never be taken for granted.

7. Health

You don’t have to be the perfect picture of health to be grateful for what your body and mind can do. Sickness is a part of life, and chronic illness – be it physical or mental – isn’t a sign of lesser worth in the slightest.

Your body is an amazing marvel that carries you through all your best and worst days. It’s gotten you through every single ordeal alive, and it keeps ticking and ticking away. That’s something worth celebrating, appreciating, and even thanking yourself for. Think of all the things you can do with your body – running, writing, holding hands of loved ones. Are those not things worth being happy about?

Loving your health, your body, and your mind may also encourage you to take better care of it in the long run. When you don’t take yourself for granted, you realize how much you’re worth and how much care you deserve!

8. Boring Days

It seems weird to be grateful for boring days. But the busier you get, the more you’ll wish you had better appreciated the days when you had nothing to do. So don’t take those precious moments for granted!

Do you have trouble being appreciative of boredom? No problem. All you need to do is learn to utilize your boredom well. Consider:

Thinking of all the positive reasons this boredom has occurred, like finishing tasks early or being financially secure enough for a break
Diving headfirst into something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t had time to
Engaging in self-improvement tasks that will further your abilities, skills, and talents
Designating this to be a self-care time where you pamper yourself and do whatever you want to do with no shame or judgment

Learning to be comfortable with the concept of resting and simply doing nothing for a day, and then be grateful for the rest it’s giving your body!

9. Time To Spend With Loved Ones

It goes without saying that you shouldn’t take your loved ones for granted. But on top of that, you should also appreciate the time you get to spend with them. This doesn’t just refer to fun dates with your spouse, playtime with your kids, or dinner with your parents. These are obviously positive things that are easier to appreciate. Gratitude for time spent with loved ones includes:

The time you spend dealing with your rowdy, loud, and messy children, with all the tantrums and shenanigans that come with it. Someday, they’ll be all grown up, and this valuable time will be lost.
The time you spend arguing or fighting with your partner. By working together through it, you’ll grow as a couple and become stronger in the long run.
The time you spend caring for an elderly relative, who might be forgetful, confused, or difficult to look after. They will leave this world one day, and you will miss them when they are gone.
The time you spend locked up inside because of a natural disaster warning means you can’t leave the house, no matter how much you want to. When you no longer have free time for your family, you’ll wish you had taken advantage of this.

10. How Your Trials Have Shaped You

The things you’ve been through may have hurt you, changed you, and been difficult to overcome. But at the end of the day, each of those things played a crucial role in shaping you and who you are today.

Your strength comes from the hardship you have endured. And your wisdom comes from the lessons of your mistakes. Your trauma has shown you your power and the amazing things you can do, and it’s shown you who you can trust. Your past has shaped every single element of you. It’s time to appreciate what brought you here.

Final Thoughts On Some Everyday Moments To Never Take For Granted

It’s like the saying goes: you don’t know what you have till it’s gone! Please don’t make the mistake of not giving something the attention and gratitude it deserves, only to miss it when it is no longer here. Even the most mundane everyday moments have sparks of magic in them. Please don’t take them for granted!

10 Things People Can Do to Become More Attractive

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

When you look at a person, what is it about them that makes them become more attractive to you? Do you look at things like their eyes, their figure, or do you delve deeper into things like their humility or knowledge? Many people use physical attraction when, in fact, there are more things in a relationship than intimacy.

Sure, intimacy is essential, and it is a healthy part of any union, but there must be an attraction beyond physical aspects to ground your partnership. It doesn’t matter if a couple is spicy in the bedroom, as those moments don’t last long. What goes on beyond the intimate realm is what will solidify you as a couple.

Do you feel that you’re attractive? Do you look in the mirror and think that you’re an object of desire? What things could you change about yourself to make you a more viable catch? Even if you’ve already found the person you wish to spend your life with, think about the alterations you should make to ensure that you keep the relationship vibrant?

Enhancing Male Attractiveness

If you’re a male who wants to become more attractive, have you ever thought of what work you need to do? The more effort you put into this endeavor, the better your chances of finding the kind of person you want to attract. Here are ten things that the male suitor can do to make themselves a better catch.

1. Improve Your Body

There’s no right or wrong size as everybody is different. However, you should at least put some effort into improving your body. Some girls like a man with a little weight because they’re like a teddy bear, while others like the athletic type.

It would help if you ate healthily and hit the gym at least a couple of times a week. Being healthy and fit makes you a better catch than someone who gives little attention to their body. After all, you want to be able to take a walk with the girl of your dreams without needing an inhaler and a nap afterward.

2. Enhance Your Grooming Skills

To become more attractive, you must pay attention to your grooming. Ladies like a man who takes time to shave, put on some cologne, and wears stylish clothes. Sure, some variations are acceptable depending on where you live, but your grooming should never be lax.

Remember, when you smile, your lady wants to see pearly whites that have been well taken care of. It’s the little things like this that make such a significant impact on your overall appearance. Lastly, always take a shower, put on deodorant, and clip your fingernails before any date. It’s incredible how many people skip the little things, and they turn out to be huge to potential mates.

3. Find Your Passion and Dive in Headfirst

There’s nothing sexier than a man that has a passion and throws himself into it. Perhaps you want to fly a plane and are working on getting a pilot’s license. You may have many civic events you’re involved in as you wish to give back to the community.

There are so many things you can do. Women like to see driven men who have more on their minds than video games and lounging on the couch. It’s attractive to see a man enjoying life.

4. Practice Long-term Resourcefulness

Do you take into consideration tomorrow? To become more attractive, you must become grounded. Women like to feel secure in a relationship and their future. Have you prepared for the future with resourcefulness?

5. Prioritize Play and Fun

When you’re all work and no play, it’s no way to live. While everyone must work to make a living, you should make sure that you have a good balance to allow time for fun. A relationship where you never see each other will never be successful.

6. Live A Full and Dynamic Life

Are you living life to the fullest? Do you engage in new experiences and have moments where you are free-spirited and fun? Women prefer men who aren’t afraid to do an impromptu weekend away in the mountains because it sounds like an adventure.

To become more attractive, you must learn how to let your hair down and throw caution to the wind. It’s okay to be let everything go for some downtime.

7. Cultivating and Honoring Your Boundaries

What are your morals and beliefs? Do you have personal boundaries that make you the good man you are? Women love to see someone with convictions that have rules they live by.

For instance, you may believe that there should be no intimacy until you’ve dated someone for at least six months. When you have boundaries, it shows that you’re secure as a person and won’t compromise on the big things that are important to you.

8. Develop a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset is a beautiful thing. You want to show someone that you are optimistic in life. Do you want to be with someone that is always so negative that they bring you down? Of course, you don’t want to be with someone like that, and neither does anyone else.

You need a partner that picks you up when you’re down, and even when things look so bad, they always see the glass as half full. To get this kind of person, you need to show that you have a positive mindset too.

9. Be Grateful for Your Blessings

Are you thankful for all the things that the universe has blessed you with in life? It’s enduring to be with someone humble and appreciative. There’s nothing worse than someone who has a sense of entitlement, so make sure to practice humility.

10. Practice Being Honesty Above All

One of the most important things that makes you more attractive is your honesty. A woman wants to know that she can count on you. When she asks you a question, she doesn’t need to query your answer.

Things like being honest and having good communication are the core of any relationship.

Enhancing Female Attractiveness

Women seem to live by a different set of rules than men. Many guys want a good-looking woman who completes them. It’s hard to be real in such a superficial world. However, many men are interested in more than your exterior, so here are ten ways that you can become more attractive.

1. Show Off Your Personality

Personality is everything when you’re trying to be more attractive. It’s the second thing a person sees after they meet you. Do you like to be the life of the party and laugh and joke around? Guys want a woman who knows how to have fun and doesn’t take herself too seriously.

2. Create Your Best Look

Creating your best look may mean getting a new hairstyle and color or carrying a designer purse. The requirements for a good look are different for everyone, so you must do what makes you look and feel like a million bucks.

3. Wear Clothing That Flatters Your Female Shape

The clothes you wear aren’t as important as how they fit you. Have you seen someone that wore a nice outfit, but it didn’t compliment their body type? Many women don’t know how to dress for their figure.

Find something that accentuates your good parts and hides your bad. Most of all, if your clothing is comfortable, then you can be more relaxed.

4. Practice Mindfulness

You must be aware of your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and the environment around you. Rather than living in the past, focus on the present and the future. No one wants to be with someone who can’t get over an ex or a traumatic event, so to be attractive, show that you can let go of your baggage and live in the moment.

5. Improve Your Mind

There’s nothing wrong with improving your mind through education or experience. Guys like a girl who is smart and can have decent conversations and be the authority on a subject.

6. Exude Confidence

Do you have confidence, or are you cowering in a corner during a party? Guys like to see a woman who is assured enough to approach him and is not waiting on him to make a move. Being confident and a bit assertive will be attractive to suitors.

7. Stop Trying to Look Model-Thin

Women think guys want the model-thin woman by their side, but a study from the University of Aberdeen shows that men prefer a woman with a bit of meat on her bones. Please stop trying to impress others by starving yourself as it’s not attractive. It’s okay to have a healthy appetite if you keep your weight in an acceptable range.

8. Give Back to Others

Being grateful for your blessings is a big turn on for men. Do you give back to others in your community, family, and across the world? Having a heart that is eager to give and shows humility in the things you’ve been blessed with is very attractive.

9. Wear Something Red

If you want to become more attractive and stand out in the crowd, you should wear red. A study conducted by Rochester University in 2010 found that people who wear red attract more attention and are more likely to get a date than those who don’t.

It can be a redshirt or lipstick, but make sure to incorporate this bold color into your wardrobe.

10. Engage in The Power of Positivity

Do you have a positive attitude and show kindness, or do you complain about every little thing? If you want to be attractive to others, then you will learn how to remain positive even when the whole world around you seems to collapse.

Your positive attitude will put good vibes into the atmosphere. Everyone wants someone who is optimistic and can make things like going to the grocery store fun. Life is hard enough without being with a partner who is always down and depressed.

Final Thoughts On Ways To Become More Attractive

The old saying states that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which means that everyone has different tastes. People will see your kindness and humble nature above your outward appearance.

However, just because your personality and mind are essential doesn’t mean that you should skimp on good grooming. It takes a perfect balance of mind, body, and spirit to be attractive to others. What things did you find that you should work on to make yourself more attractive to others?

Dietitians Reveal 10 Weight Loss Myths You Should Stop Believing

November 27, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Are you tired of the endless weight loss myths confusing you on what you genuinely need to do to get healthy? The diet industry rakes in more than $72 billion each year, and everyone seems to have an idea of what you should do or a gimmick to help you. While there are grains of truth in many of the claims, many falsehoods can cloud your judgment.

Some people believe that you need to take supplements or pills to lose weight, but nothing could be further from the truth. There is absolutely no reason to put anything into your body to speed up your metabolism when wholesome eating with the right combinations of foods can do the same thing.

Myths That Mess with Your Weight Loss Mindset

When it comes to weight loss, many of these gurus seem to provide more hype than help. Stop believing all the propaganda you read and stick with the facts. Here are the ten most common weight loss myths that people take as gospel.

1. Obesity Is Caused by A Lack of Willpower

Remember, there are grains of truthfulness in most of these myths, and a lack of willpower causes that obesity is only a partial truth. Did you know that obesity can have a lot to do with your biological makeup rather than what you eat? Why do you think that you see families where every member is heavy?

Your genetics can help define obesity, but what you put in your mouth can help or hinder your weight. You can’t eat a large pizza, a pan of biscuits, and polish it off with a few double cheeseburgers, and blame your weight issues on genetics.

The Metabolic Medicine Associates conducted a study and found that about 70 percent of people who are obese is because they are predestined from their genetics. The truth behind this weight loss myth is that some people can cut their food intake and remain overweight because of their biological makeup.

2. Weight Loss Is A Direct Process

Losing weight is not always as direct as someone would think. Some days you will not lose a pound, and other times it seems 2-3 lbs. will come off. Water weight and many different factors come into play when you’re on the scale, which is why experts say that you should only weigh yourself once a week.

Weighing yourself every day can easily discourage you if things don’t shift downward. Many people get caught up in what the scales say, and they don’t consider the other factors. While eating a 1,200 calorie a day diet seems like the weight should drop off, it’s not always the case.

You can send your body into starvation mode if you don’t eat enough. When you’re depriving yourself of nutrition, your body will hold onto the fat rather than flushing it out of your system.

3. Carbohydrates Should Be Avoided

One of the biggest weight loss myths right now has to do with carbohydrates. This myth is only fueled by diets such as the Keto or Atkins plans. First, your body needs carbohydrates to function. Second, it’s not healthy to live on 20 grams of carbs indefinitely.

Lastly, there are two types of carbohydrates, which are simple and complex. The body doesn’t have any issue processing simple carbs, but it takes longer for the complex one to pass. When you mention carbohydrates to most people, they will automatically think of pasta, bread, and sugary treats.

However, grains are also considered a simple carb that your body needs. No, you don’t need those complex carbs to be healthy, but you need simple ones to keep your body functioning.

4. You Must Eat Breakfast to Lose Weight

How many times have you heard that breakfast is the most important meal of the day? If you don’t like breakfast, then don’t force yourself to eat it. There is nothing that says that you can’t lose weight if you skip breakfast.

Studies show that people who eat breakfast tend to lose more; it’s not mandated for weight loss. A new study proves that you don’t need breakfast to fight the battle of the bulge.

5. Fast Food Is the Most Fattening Food Around

Fast food should generally be avoided. They use fats, sugars, and MSGs to keep things preserved. However, many strides have been made in the past decade to change the fast-food industry.

While it’s not the best option, you can find healthy things to eat that are low in fat at the local drive-thru.

6. You Need to Reduce Your Calories to Starvation Levels

Why do people think that they need to eat 1,200 calories or below to lose weight? Stringent diets with such restrictions are meant for people who require immediate weight loss. One of the biggest weight loss myths around is that you need to starve yourself to be thin.

The recommended daily calorie intake is 2,000 – 2,500, which is decided by your activity level. If you want to lose weight, you need to figure out how much you want to lose based on your height and current weight. It’s safe to lose 1-2 pounds per week, but any more than that and your body can go into starvation mode.

7. Dieting Works Wonders

No! Diets never work for the long haul. Remember plans like the cabbage soup diet or the infamous company that stated you should drink two shakes and eat a sensible dinner? These plans typically offer quick solutions that last for the short term.

However, lifestyle changes and adopting a new mindset is guaranteed to work. You can try 101 diets and still end right back at square one. However, if you want to conquer your demons, you must change your mindset to change your life.

8. Thin People Are Healthy, And Obese People Are Unhealthy

Thin people are healthy and plump people are unhealthy, according to popular opinion. Honestly, your weight is only one fraction of your health. Take, for instance, Whitney Way Thore from the popular TLC show My Big Fat Fabulous Life.

She currently weighs around 335 lbs. She is currently a bodybuilder, dancer, marathon participant, and super active. Her weight peaked at nearly 400 lbs., but she never let it stop her from doing the things she loved. Now, it’s not healthy to carry that much weight on a small frame, but she doesn’t have any major health issues aside from the PCOS that triggered her weight gain.

While she is at a more significant risk of developing complications, she is healthy despite her clothing size.

Someone who is pencil-thin can have issues on the inside that the outside world cannot see. It’s unfair to judge people based solely on their body type.

9. You Must Buy Diet Foods to Be Successful At Weight Loss

Diet foods are nothing more than gimmicks to pad the pockets of weight loss companies. Are there some foods that can help and be a useful aid for you? Yes, you can lose weight with the products you buy.

The fact is that these items are very costly, and you don’t need them. Mother Nature provides everything you need to lose weight and be healthy. There’s no need to break the bank to buy frozen entrees or specialty treats when you can cook nutritious meals in your kitchen that will taste better and be far more economical.

10. Consuming Fat Only Makes You Fatter

If you’ve done any reading on the Keto diet, then you know that consuming fat will not make you fatter. There are healthy fats that are good for your body, such as olive and coconut oil. Weight loss myths about consuming less fat aren’t helpful.

You really need to cut out unhealthy fats like trans and saturated, which can clog arteries and cause high cholesterol levels. Good fats provide energy to the body, make hormones, provide nutrition to the skin, and help the body build healthy cells.

Final Thoughts on Weight Loss Myths

Everyone worries about their metabolism and carbohydrate counts. Sadly, weight loss is about so much more than those two items. It’s easy to get caught up in the latest gimmick or scheme when everyone else is jumping on the bandwagon.

Weight loss is a simple equation where you must eat less than you burn, but other factors come into play. Your water weight, health conditions, and genetics also play a significant role in how quickly and how much you will lose. Please don’t believe all the weight loss myths out there, as they will only confuse you.

Try a few things and see what works for you and what doesn’t. Your body has specific needs that aren’t the same as the next person, and it’s all about trial and error until you find something that fits.

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