No one is perfect and no one has the perfect relationship. We all have things that we need to work on and things we can do better in our personal lives and relationships. Both men and women are human beings, perfectly imperfect. And they all have things they could work on improving. In order to have a happier, more fulfilling relationship, read on to find out what things both partners should refrain from doing.
Here are ten things every people should stop doing in their relationships:
1. Talking About Other People
Men and women can both feel self-conscious if they think their partner has eyes for someone else. Think about how you would react if you caught your partner staring at or flirting with another individual. So, with that in mind, would you really blame your significant other for getting angry when you do the same thing? Most partners won’t really care if you think another individual is attractive, but talking about it with your significant other is probably not a good idea. Some things are better left unspoken in this case.
2. Talking Trash About Others
Strong women stand up for other women, not try to bring them down–and same for men. Talking badly about others shows signs of insecurity and low self-esteem, so even if you feel inadequate in some way compared with another person, try to remember your good qualities. It’s okay to sometimes admit to your significant other that you feel insecure, but talking badly about others will not help the situation or increase your self-esteem.
3. Apologizing All The Time
If you did something wrong, of course you should apologize. But don’t say sorry unless you really need to. For example, you don’t need to apologize for wearing your PJ’s all day, not putting on your great-smelling cologne, or not cleaning the dishes one night. Learn to go easier on yourself, because lowering your stress will also benefit your relationship.
4. Not Giving Their Partner Enough Alone Time
Every person on this planet needs a little time alone to rejuvenate and keep up other relationships as well. It’s not normal or healthy to only spend time with your significant other, so make sure you allow your partner the space he or she needs.
5. Cutting Out Your Friends
Don’t neglect your own friendships either. You need friendships just as much as your partner does, so make sure to nurture your other relationships, too. Strong friendships help rather than harm good long-term relationships, so try to strike a balance between the two.
6. Texting Other People When Out With Your Partner
Sure, answering one or two texts isn’t a problem, but staring at your phone the whole time you’re out with your partner will make them feel neglected. Spend quality time with your partner when you can get it because relationships can’t work unless both people put in some effort. Referring to an old saying, “You should dance with the one that brought you.”
7. Talking About Your Ex
Men and women both want to feel like they’re the only person you’ve ever loved. Of course, you can mention people you dated in the past, but talking about them all the time or comparing them to your current lover will only cause arguments and confusion in a relationship. You cannot erase or rewrite your past history, but you should not flaunt it, either.
8. Not Really Listening
Everyone wants attention and for people to hear what they are saying. So, when your partner talks to you, put down the phone and really listen to what they have to say. You wouldn’t want your partner to ignore you or half-listen to you, so give them the same respect you would want.
9. Flirting With Other People
This one should go without saying, but if you’re in a serious relationship, flirting with others should be off-limits. A relationship requires commitment, and flirting with others damages that trust and love you’ve built with your partner. Flirting with other people undermines this level of commitment and may cause your partner some concern.
10. Taking Your Partner For Granted
If you partner takes you out to dinner or drives you places, let them know that you appreciate all the kindness and generosity they show you. Remember – they don’t have to do these things for you – they want to, so make sure to tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life. As time goes on in a relationship, we can start to take our partner for granted, and that’s normal. Just remember to show your appreciation from time to time for how amazing they are.