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These Tiny Birds That Resemble Cotton Balls Will Steal Your Heart

May 9, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Residing on the Japanese island of Hokkaido and throughout parts of Europe and the Palearctic region, these tiny birds look much like cotton balls at first glance.

Called silver-throated dashers, these birds enjoy a mixed woodland as well as river grassland habitat. They also have been known to dwell in farmlands, parks, and gardens.

The silver-throated dasher comes in many different colors, but most are black and white. They have long tails and tiny circular bodies, which make them easy to spot if you happen to come across one in your garden. They love socializing with other birds, and sometimes they’ve been known to land on bird watchers’ shoulders to say hello!

Their bird call sounds like si-si-si-si, which makes them easily distinguishable among other birds. The calls will become louder and louder as they get farther away from their families. They have a system of breeding where other birds help co-parent offspring so that the parents have the freedom to keep breeding. This cooperation ensures the species’ survival and helps with collaboration among the birds.

They construct their nests out of feathers, moss, lichen, and spider egg cocoons, which turn into a flexible sack. They like to nest either in a low bramble bush or high in the forks of tree branches. Unfortunately, their nests only have a success rate of around 17% even though the tiny birds tend to have a pretty good strategy for nest building. Breeding season runs from July through February, at which point the dashers join forces with other birds.

You’ll fall in love at first sight with this tiny bird.

They all help in the species’ survival, whether they breed or simply help other parents watch baby birds. The silver-throated dashers enjoy socializing among themselves and seem to have a friendly disposition with some people as well! If you’d like to attract these adorable fluff balls into your garden, make sure to plant shrubs or trees, so they have somewhere to nest.

On the Japanese island of Hokkaido, you can spot these birds all over the place!

Other ways to bring the dashers into your garden include leaving smaller seeds, breadcrumbs, grated cheese, and peanut fragments around your plants and grass. We could all use a little more cuteness in our lives, so if you live in one of the habitats where the dashers dwell, you will want them in your garden!

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15 Behaviors That Reveal Someone is Falling in Love (Without Realizing it)

May 9, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Falling in love can be a tricky thing. It can be confusing. There may be someone in your life that you vibe with, but you don’t know if they’re actually enamored with you or just flirting a little bit. When you want answers, all you have to do is look at their behaviors. Here are 15 actions that reveal someone is subconsciously falling in love.

15 Signs Show That Someone is Falling in Love With You

1. They Smile When They See You

The way they look at you when you connect in person says a lot how they feel about you. If they are always smiling and seem to glow when you walk into the room, you know they are falling in love. Look to see if there is a difference between how they react when you walk in the room and other people to gauge the reaction.

2. Acting Somewhat Nervous

Many people get nervous around someone they are falling in love with. It’s typically quite cute. You may notice them looking embarrassed when they say something somewhat silly or when you make fun of them. They may even just blush by being around you. Be gentle if you notice this, or you may scare them away.

3. They Feed You

In many cultures, food is a way of showing love. If someone is continually bringing you delicious food, that could just be their way of expressing their affection. This action is especially true if the food is homemade. Show appreciation and even consider doing the same in return to speak in their love language.

4. Body Language

Body language can tell you a lot more about someone than the words they speak. Someone who is falling in love with you will show it in their body language. They will likely angle their body toward you or touch you in small ways. Many times, they won’t even be aware they are doing these subtle movements. They may also try to sit near you when in a group setting. Of course, positive body language should not be confused with lust. You should make a point to do little gestures yourself without overdoing it.

5. They Celebrate Good News With You

The good news is even better when you have someone to share it with. If your crush is starting to fall for you, they will probably call you first when something good happens in their life. You call the person who you want to impress. This habit means they enjoy impressing you with the good news. They also probably feel comfortable telling you things and know that you will be supportive and make them feel good about their good news. Be supportive and excited when they call you.

6. They Listen

To develop an emotional connection with someone, you need to talk. It’s not enough just to talk. The other person has to listen. You will tell if they listen by if they jump in with their own stories or sit back and let you talk. They may repeat things during the conversation. You’ll also know they were listening if they remember details about the conversation later on. They will remember details and make a point to let you know they remember by repeating certain things back to you. More than anything, they make time to listen to you when you need an open ear. Someone can’t listen if they aren’t there for you when you need them. Of course, you need to be reasonable about your expectations.

7. Using “We”

When someone is falling in love with you, they will start to look at the two of you as a unit. Instead of talking in individual terms, you will notice them saying “we” a lot to friends and family. It’s especially telling if they use “we” when it comes to the future. It shows that when they see the future, they picture you in it. Thinking long term means they plan to take the relationship to the next step eventually.

8. Eye Contact Reveals They’re Falling in Love

The eyes are often called the window into the soul. Someone who wants to develop an emotional connection with you will want to see into your soul to get to know you even better. They will make a point to look into your eyes when you talk. It’s a way to capture your attention. On the other hand, if they avert their eyes every time you talk, that could be a sign they aren’t very interested. Make a point to make eye contact yourself without being creepy.

9. Constant Communication

Communication is key. If someone is interested in you, they will make a point to talk to you often. You won’t be the one reaching out to them all of the time; they will reach out to you. When you speak, the conversation will be natural. It may even get deep at times. These in-depth conversations will help you develop a connection that goes past a physical attraction.

10. Putting Effort Into Their Appearance

If someone is attracted to you, they will likely try to look their best around you. You may notice them putting more time into their hair and grooming. You may also see them wearing certain outfits you complimented in the past. If you catch them by surprise, they may not be done up as well as when they know they are going to see you. They want you to have a physical attraction to them, so they put effort into their looks when they are going to see you.

11. They Compliment You Often

Compliments are one of the easiest ways for people to express how they feel. You may suspect someone is growing enamored with you if they compliment you all of the time. They may compliment you on your appearance. However, someone who is falling in love will also compliment other things, such as your personality, intelligence, and emotional strength. It’s even more telling when someone compliments you often in front of other people. It shows they aren’t afraid to express their admiration for you to the world.

12. Playful Teasing

You and your crush should be free to have fun with each other. You may notice them teasing you about small things, such as your little mannerisms and quirks. Of course, teasing should contain a certain amount of respect. The teasing should never cross the line into disrespect. It should be playful and flirty. Of course, you should feel free to fire right back. Likewise, you should keep things as respectful as possible to ensure that you don’t cross any boundaries.

13. Opening Up to You

Everyone has secrets. Some people even have trauma and negative experiences that they carry with them every day without letting other people know. It can be hard to talk about these things, and some people might be worried about being judged. If someone opens up to you, it means they trust you dearly. You should take this seriously. Allow them to open up and show them the support they need. You should also make sure to keep the conversation between you.

14. Friends Comment on It

Someone’s friends may see a connection between two people before they see it themselves. Other people may notice the flirting that you aren’t sure is flirting or not. They may even notice something even more developing. Listen to what other people see. If people are always joking about how you and your crush should just get together already, there’s something there. Your crush may have even expressed their feelings to their friends, and they could just be trying to help things along.

Look at their reaction when people mention an apparent connection. Are they embarrassed or do they shut it down immediately? Someone who shuts it down immediately might be trying to clarify their feelings instead of hiding them.

15. Helps You Without Hesitation

Everyone needs help on occasion. You may need help moving or with homework. When you express that you need help with something, does your crush offer their assistance immediately? They may see this as a way to spend time with you and also demonstrate their value to you. When you need to call someone for help, do you call them first, knowing they will be likely to be there for you? The reliability and quickness to help you are not only a sign that they are into you right now, but it’s also a sign that they will be dependable in a relationship as well.

Final Thoughts on Recognizing When Someone Is Falling in Love

Do you notice any of these behaviors from someone in your life? They may just be falling in love with you, whether they know it or not. Of course, you don’t want to look for things that simply aren’t there. If you don’t specifically notice these behaviors, they may not be as into you as you’d like. That’s okay. Wait for someone else who does demonstrate these behaviors naturally.

Polite People Do These 15 Things Without Realizing It

May 9, 2020 by Power of Positivity

When you read the title of this article, perhaps a few folks you know will pop into your head automatically! These are the unfailingly polite folks in your life, i.e., folks who always seem to be doing the kindest things and making the right moves. This type of behavior is accessible and beneficial to anyone who wants to incorporate it into their lives and benefit from these actions and their repercussions.

Luckily, the ability to show kindness and listen attentively aren’t traits we are either born with or without, like big feet or certain eye color. These are learned actions which can take a bit of practice first, but you will be amazed at how easily they can become habits in your life as well.

What regular, everyday things do polite men and women do, and how can you jump on the niceness bandwagon? It’s no secret that compassion, kindness, and manners make the world a more pleasant place, right? Read on to discover 15 things polite people do without even realizing it.

#1 They Actively Practice Compassion

Compassion is a habit that needs honing in most folks because sometimes our natural tendency is to think primarily about our own best interests. Practicing compassion involves employing empathy, which is tuning in to the emotional state of other folks around you.

How Do I Practice Compassion?

Put Yourself In Their Shoes

The easiest way to start is to simply spend one moment considering what it would be like to be the other person during your daily interactions. Instead of responding immediately and with your own needs first and foremost, think about what the other people around you are experiencing before you act or speak. Then, do your thing, and observe what happens.
Act How You Would Like Someone To Act

A lot of times, we complain about the actions of those we interact with instead of taking responsibility for our part in drama. If you consistently act compassionately, like how you would personally like others to be, chances are you’re on the right path to politeness.

#2 They Do Not Openly Judge

It’s just not a polite move to scorn other’s decisions and actions, particularly right there in-person. You always feel safe saying something to a polite friend because they won’t raise their eyebrows or sneer right after your story!

Tips For Not Judging:

Control Your Face

Many of us betray our thoughts by wearing them right on our faces! It’s called a “poker face,” and not everyone has one. Practice the Mona Lisa smile when hearing some particularly dramatic or salacious confessions from your friends, so that they know they are in a safe space without judgment.
Control Your Thoughts

Ultimately it comes down to changing your mind when it comes to judgment. The fact is, you don’t have a right to be the judge and jury of other people’s paths or actions because it is exhausting and counterproductive. Plus, this way, you don’t even have to actively control your body language because your natural thought process will be to avoid judging altogether – and just listen.

#3 They Do Not Overshare

Polite people are all about trying to make others feel comfortable, while also feeling comfortable themselves. It’s a nice, balanced way to be and can be very healthy and gratifying.

One key tidbit to having these types of interactions is by not oversharing. You’ll find that polite pals don’t generally pull you aside and give you the juiciest new gossip about their personal lives. Follow their lead, and keep your general conversations to topics other than the oldest skeletons in your closet.

#4 They Do Not Pry Into Others’ Lives

On the flip side, polite people do not ask repetitive personal questions of others or noticeably pry. It would simply be rude to do so because no one likes to feel pressured to reveal details of their personal lives on the spot.

One thing to note is that #3 and #4 describe behavior appropriate for basic social interactions. If a shoulder is required for leaning, even the politest of people will call on a friend for a listening ear and some camaraderie. Don’t let the blanket of “politeness” keep you from getting the support you need or from being there for a friend who needs to share.

#5 They Have Basic Manners

No, you don’t have to be well-versed in Everything Emily Post to be considered polite, but you do need to have the basics down pat. It’s a matter of being respectful to those around you and presenting your best foot forward at all times.

Absolute Musts Include:

Table

MannersPolite folks can go to the ballgame or the fancy five-course dinner and be just fine. Get familiar with the standard operating procedures of eating all types of food and behaving in a decent and even graceful fashion in front of others.
Saying Please & Thank You

Mastering these childhood basics is critical, as well as “excuse me” or other necessary niceties during simple social interactions. You are not too busy to say “Thanks” every single time!
Appropriate Group Socializing

This habit includes being considerate to others in conversations, not dominating the entire stage all the time, and also not spending all night checking your apps instead if engaging.

#6 They Listen Attentively

This tip is a big one. Everybody knows people who make them feel like the only person in the room because of how well they are listening, almost as if they are hanging on your every word. Being polite like this is absolutely a learnable skill that will make a huge difference in life.

It’s simple but requires diligent discipline at first because, let’s face it, minds wander! Focus on what the person is saying and let them finish their entire thought or entire story before piping in with your two cents. Follow up on what they said, and don’t just use the silence as a chance to share your version of the same story.

Ask questions and listen to the responses. Look them in the eye and nod or react encouragingly throughout the conversation. And for goodness sake, do NOT look at your phone!

#7 They Can Take Constructive Criticism

Not only can these people accept helpful tips or strategies when planning, they welcome it. They aren’t so prideful that they need to be the hero every time and will even actively solicit input during projects.

#8 They Respect People’s Property

In general and overall, they have respect for other people, and they have respect for their things. A good rule of thumb is to treat all possessions as if they were your grandmother’s. Would you set a dewy mug on grandma‘s coffee table without a coaster, or rest your dirty feet on her dashboard? We didn’t think so.

#9 They Show Kindness To All

Kind people act the same regardless of who they are interacting with, and it consistently shows when you look at how they treat people. From the CEO to a general colleague, from the waitress to your fiance’s parents, everybody gets the red carpet treatment no matter what.

#10 They Have Respect For Others Behind Their Backs

This is the definition of gossip, and polite folks don’t engage in this behavior. If other people come up in conversation, they will either speak of them well or not at all. People who are truly polite and have respect for others do not rejoice in the miseries of others. They truly think well of the people around them and want them to be happy.

#11 They Are Mature In Quarrels

In general, these people take responsibility for their actions and don’t resort to immature tactics during disagreements. Let’s face it, not everyone sees eye to eye on everything, but there are basic rules to staying respectful while quarreling.

Tips For Fighting Fair

Stick To the Current Topic
No Name-Calling
Listen Before Responding
Accept The Reality of Your Actions/Avoid Instant Defensiveness
Agree to Disagree if They Still Don’t Reach a Conclusion

#12 They Know When To Take Their Leave

Unless they are staying behind to help with the dishes, polite friends won’t be the last ones out the door. They will read the social cues of the gathering and leave when it’s appropriate. This type of consideration is also applicable to popping into someone’s office, chatting on the phone with a friend, or visiting out-of-town relatives.

#13 They Communicate Well

Communication spans a broad array of behavior. If you are unsure of how you come across with your overall communication, consider asking a trusted friend or family member for their input, since we are not always able to see ourselves.

Good Communication Skills To Master:

Using An Appropriate Volume
Not Interrupting Others
Not Being Passive Aggressive
Displaying Positive Body Language

#14 They Are Natural Hosts

Making others comfortable is second nature to polite people, and they don’t even need to be in a formal setting. Regardless of location, the kind human is going to include others and not hog the spotlight day-in and day-out.

Consider seeing yourself as a host or hostess during conversations, and imagine it’s your job to make others feel welcome, validated, and interesting. See how this behavior transforms how others treat you in return!

#15 They Do Not Harm Others

This might seem obvious, but it is an umbrella rule for a number of examples. Harming others could mean people, and it could apply to their physical bodies or even their feelings. Be mindful of your words, for they can injure just as cruelly as a weapon against the flesh.

Harming others could also include children, animals, and even bugs. It could apply to possessions even. The name of the game is just to be respectful of everything in your orbit.

Final Thoughts on Polite People’s Natural Habits

We’ve broken down several behaviors and overall philosophies of the polite people who walk among us and make life more pleasant. Yes, they generally don’t have spinach stuck in their teeth and probably won’t start a food fight, but it’s much more than that! They listen attentively and treat all people they encounter with respect and dignity.

Employing the Golden Rule methodically throughout your day quite simply reaps amazing rewards, and it sums up how some people continually show kindness as they walk through life. “Treat others how you would like to be treated” are wise words that can apply to both people and things, and usually winds up with great results.

Take a look at the polite people in your orbit, and observe their behavior along with the responses they get. You’ll see a beautiful and effortless harmony that could also be yours to delight in! A true kindness never ceases to perpetuate through life.

8 Ways Meditation Rewires Your Brain and Helps You Stay Calm

May 9, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Millions of people today have taken up the practice of meditation due to its ability to rewire the brain and promote calm feelings in the mind and body. This practice offers a wide range of benefits from easing depression to helping with weight loss. Therefore, meditation can transform the lives of everyone who practices it in some way.

Many people look forward to vacations or time off of work. Indeed, this break gives them a chance to rest their weary minds. However, you don’t need to travel or spend any money to get the solace you seek. Search within, and you can find everything you’ve been looking for.

During meditation, you can detach from the mental chatter and emotional states. You learn how to connect with the soul. Those who delve deep in meditation can quiet all of the senses and experience a peace that most of us couldn’t even fathom. However, everyone can access this realm of pure tranquility by using willpower, concentration, and dedication.

We all can create either chaos or peace in our lives with the power of our minds.

Our thoughts create our realities, so we get to choose what we experience on a minute by minute basis.

Meditation allows us a path back to ourselves. We came from love and peace. Thus, we must find our way back to this place within ourselves. Meditation can rewire your brain and change your thinking patterns, and the best part is, anyone can do it free of charge in their own home.

“To understand the immeasurable, the mind must be extraordinarily quiet, still.” ~Jiddu Krishnamurti

Here are eight ways meditation rewires your brain and helps you remain calm:

1 – Meditation lowers your heart rate and stress levels.

In a study from Stanford University, participants who completed an eight-week mindfulness meditation course had more significant activity in areas of the prefrontal cortex that regulate emotions. In turn, this helped lower their stress levels. Another five-year study asked 201 patients with coronary heart disease to engage in transcendental meditation, which involves repeating a sound or mantra, for 15 minutes per day. The meditators had a 48% lower risk of heart disease, stroke, and death following this meditation program. Their blood pressure and stress levels also decreased.

2 – Meditation preserves the brain.

One study from UCLA found that long-term meditators had less brain decay as they age. Participants who’d practiced meditation for around 20 years had more grey matter volume throughout the brain.

The older meditators still showed some volume loss in the brain, but the non-meditators’ brains had much more noticeable signs of aging. Study author Florian Kurth said that the research team didn’t expect to see such distinct effects from meditating, but they observed widespread changes throughout the brain.

3 – Meditation reduces activity in the brain’s “me” center.

One study from Yale University found that mindfulness meditation reduces activity in the default mode network (DMN), the area of the brain that causes disorganized, chaotic thoughts. The DMN becomes activated when our minds don’t have anything specific on which we should focus. And unfortunately, our thoughts tend to become cynical when left to their own devices. Our monkey minds often focus on the negative because biology wired our brains to scan for threats in our environment.

In our modern world, however, this innate characteristic can lead to ruminating about the past or future, worrying about bills, etc. Meditation can help to quiet this area of the brain so that we can focus on one task and activity at a time.

Meditation causes new synapses to form in the brain so that when the mind does wander, the meditator can easily come back to the present moment.

4 – It helps reduce depression symptoms.

A review study at Johns Hopkins looked at how meditation can reduce symptoms of depression in people who practice it regularly. Researcher Madhav Goyal and his team found that meditation had an effect size of 0.3. That number may sound low, but antidepressants have the same effect size.

“A lot of people have this idea that meditation means sitting down and doing nothing,” says Goyal. “But that’s not true. Meditation is an active training of the mind to increase awareness, and different meditation programs approach this in different ways.”

Meditation isn’t a magic bullet for depression, as no treatment is, but it’s one of the tools that may help manage symptoms.

5 – Meditation can lead to increased thickness in the brain.

In 2011, Sara Lazar and her team at Harvard found that eight weeks of mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) increased cortical thickness in the hippocampus, which aids in learning and memory. Areas of the brain responsible for emotion regulation and self-referential processing also showed increased thickness. The team found decreases in brain cell volume in the amygdala, which makes us feel fear, anxiety, or stress.

These changes matched the participants’ accounts of their stress levels, which shows that meditation can alter the perception of our emotions as well as areas of the brain responsible for regulating them.

So, not only can meditation improve learning and memory, but it can help reduce unwanted negative feelings, thus enhancing our quality of life in general.

7 – It improves concentration and attention.

In our world of constant distractions, it doesn’t come as a surprise that many people have trouble concentrating on one task at a time nowadays. However, meditation gives us the tools we need to retrain our brains to focus. One study found that in just two weeks of meditation training, people scored higher on the verbal reasoning section of the GRE. The average increase in score was a whopping 16 percentile points.

Meditation involves concentration and focuses on achieving desired results, so this carries over into the “real world” as well. Better concentration and attention can improve job performance, test scores at school, and even conversation and listening skills.

7 – Meditation lowers both generalized anxiety and social anxiety.

Anxiety seems pervasive in almost every area of the world today. In our fast-paced culture, this just seems to occur as an unfortunate side effect. However, the meditation we mentioned previously called Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), can help to lower stress and anxiety levels. Research shows that mindfulness meditation can help reduce anxiety symptoms due to the decrease in rumination and reduced activity in the “me” center of the brain. Mindfulness meditation can even help with a social anxiety disorder. A Stanford University team found that MBSR led to changes in areas of the brain governing attention. In this way, meditation helps to calm self-destructive thoughts so that socializing and being out in public doesn’t seem as overwhelming.

8 – Meditation can help to fight addiction.

A growing number of studies have shown that meditation can help people recover from addiction due to the increase in self-control one experiences after regular practice. One study, for example, compared mindfulness training to the American Lung Association’s freedom from smoking (FFS) program. They found that people who learned mindfulness had a much higher chance of quitting smoking by the end of the training, as well as at 17 weeks follow-up than those in the FFS program.

Researchers believe that meditation may help people control their cravings better. Thus, they can simply watch the waves of thought pass by without reacting to them. In other words, they can simply observe their desire without having to give into it. However, some different types of therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, might be necessary as a supplement in some cases.

Final thoughts on how meditation can rewire your brain and help you stay calm

Meditation offers us such a powerful tool to rewire our brains and help us remain calm even amid chaos. Meditation helps reduce depression and anxiety symptoms, fight addiction, improve concentration and attention, decrease social anxiety symptoms, and reduce aging in the brain.

It also lowers heart rate and stress, leads to increased thickness in the brain, and reduces rumination and negative thinking. Meditation offers mental and emotional benefits. Plus, it can improve our physical health as well.

This shutdown offers all of us an excellent opportunity to slow down, go within ourselves, and start up a regular meditation practice. We all have incredible power within us to assert more self-control and achieve a better balance in our lives.

If you haven’t started a meditation practice of your own, just make sure to find a quiet area that you feel comfortable in. Also, try using crystals, calming music, incense, or whatever else adds to your experience and gets you into a zen state of mind.

Even if you can only spend 10 or 15 minutes before work meditating, that is fine. This time spent can change your mindset for the rest of the day. It can seem daunting at first to just sit alone with your thoughts. But once you start feeling and seeing the results, it will make it easier to incorporate into your daily life.

How Adding Rosewater to Your Beauty Regime Helps Beat Stress

May 8, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Did you know that using rose petal water in your beauty regime can reduce stress and anxiety? If you prefer to use natural beauty treatments, then rosewater is one solution to consider. Stress relief and a lovely complexion can be just as close as your garden.

Most botanical historians believe that roses were discovered and cultivated in China over five thousand years ago. The majestic blooms were soon grown in the Middle East, where they were prized for their matchless beauty and tantalizing scent.

Over the centuries, early apothecaries used rose essence for perfumes and culinary ingredients. Rose petal water was also valued as a powerful antiseptic, antifungal, and nerve tonic. Its gentle cleansing and toning properties made it a highlight of every lady’s beauty regime.

The Rose: The Empress of Flowers

Perhaps no flower in the world has impacted history quite like the rose. It has inspired art, poetry, books, and music. Its perfect grace and beauty remain the ultimate symbol of purity, femininity, and true love. No wonder Mother Nature has crowned the rose as Empress of Flowers.

If you have a flower garden, then the chances are that you have a rose bush or two. These stunning blossoms have been hybridized into a dazzling choice of colors. Roses may grow as bushes, small trees, or even climbing vines.

The mesmerizing aroma of this flower is instantly recognizable. Rose scents range anywhere from a heady, peppery smell to the delightfully sublime. Many of the perfumes and beauty regime products on your vanity probably contain rose essence. You may also be surprised to find it as a subtle flavoring in many gourmet foods.

Avoid these mistakes when washing your face.

The 8 Top Benefits of Rosewater

If you’ve had a long love affair with rose petal water, you are in good company. From historical icons like Cleopatra, Michelangelo, and Queen Victoria to modern movie stars, this floral elixir has timeless appeal. Here are a few ways that a splash of rosewater can enhance your beauty regime.

1 – Hydrates Your Skin

Do you have irritating dry skin? Then you are familiar with the burning, itching, and scaly patches it creates. If you use rose essence in water, it will hydrate your skin naturally. Women have used it for centuries to soothe and hydrate their dry skin. Just a light mist on your face in the morning may rejuvenate your skin cells and give your complexion a youthful, radiant glow.

2 – Diminishes the Appearance of Fine Lines and Wrinkles

Nobody wants to look older before their time. As you age, your skin gradually loses elasticity, and you start to notice fine lines around your forehead, eyes, and mouth. They may be more exaggerated if you have skin damage due to years of overexposure to the sun.

Instead of going to the dermatologist for costly creams, lotions, and injections, why not use an old remedy your grandmother probably used? Rose petal water can nourish your skin with vitamins that defend your cells from damaging free radicals. The result is a smoother complexion that makes fine lines and wrinkles less noticeable.

3 – Disinfects a Blemish or Sore

What could be more frustrating than to wake up in the morning of your big presentation, and you have a big zit on your face? Did you know that rose petal water is a potent antibacterial that can cleanse and disinfect skin blemishes? In a pinch, you can also use it to sanitize your hands when soap and water aren’t available.

Rosewater can also improve acne-prone skin.

4 – Makes Your Hair Shiny and Manageable

Are you tired of having bad hair days? Say goodbye to frizzy, flyaway hair by spritzing it with rose petal water. Not only does it smell divine, but it reduces static electricity and helps condition your hair.

When used daily, this ancient beauty regime will make your hair smooth, shiny, and easier to manage. Vitamins and trace minerals from the roses nourish your scalp and can strengthen your hair from roots to tips. You can use it as a spray or as a rinse when you wash your hair.

5 – Improves Mental Health

The same rose petal water that invigorates your skin can also benefit you mentally and emotionally. Discover why early doctors recommended it as a daily tonic to help their patients relax and heal. Modern studies show that these doctors were on to something that can benefit you, too.

6 – Aromatherapy for Headaches

Headaches have countless causes and can range from mild irritation to debilitating agony. Health care professionals maintain that allergies and stress are chief contributors. If you battle occasional or chronic headaches, talk to your doctor about using rose petal water as a complementary treatment to your regular medication.

Smelling this fragrant water can soothe stuffy sinus tissues and reduce the inflammation that causes sinus pressure in your head. Rose aromatherapy has also demonstrated positive results for people whose headaches are induced by stress. Keep a fresh bottle in your medicine cabinet for the onset of an aching head.

7 – Taking Rosewater Internally

Before you take any herbal or natural supplement, including rose petal water, talk to your doctor. Although experts agree that it’s usually safe, some people may be allergic to roses or their compounds. Try to buy rose petal water or capsules that are organically certified and discontinue using them if you have any side effects.

People have drunk and cooked with rosewater for as long as they have used it as a beauty treatment. Michelangelo touted rose petal water as a miraculous health tonic, and he drank it every day. It may not inspire you to paint the Sistine Chapel, but rose petal water may make you less prone to sickness.

For indigestion, people in the Middle Ages often reached for a bottle of rose petal water. Modern studies indicate that ingredients in roses can soothe heartburn and other digestive issues. It has a mild, floral taste that many people enjoy.

8 – Boosts Your Mood and Reduces Anxiety

Remember the thrills of meandering through your grandmother’s garden and sniffing her beloved roses? Perhaps she let you pick one to enjoy in a bud vase. Just remembering this unmistakable scent lifts your spirits instantly and makes you smile.

To recapture these moments, try using a fresh spray of rosewater when you feel overwhelmed, sad, or grumpy. Let the refreshing, captivating mist bring your mind to a rose garden, where you feel relaxed and inspired. It’s hard to be in a foul mood when the uplifting perfume of rose petals surrounds you.

Do you fight anxiety or panic attacks? Some people diagnosed with an anxiety disorder find relief when they smell fresh rose petal water or spray a little on themselves. You might also see the benefits of reduced anxiety if you try this remedy.

On the flip side, rosewater aromatherapy shows promise for people who battle depression. The familiar scent is comforting and may take them to their happy place. If you are depressed, it’s certainly worth a try.

How to Make Rosewater at Home

Rose petal water is a staple of many Middle Eastern cuisines, and you can easily find it in a specialty store. You may also purchase it from various online sites, but you can never be sure of its purity. Plus, rose petal water can be pricey.

Why not make your own instead? Do you or a friend have a rose bush that has not been treated with chemicals or insecticides? With a few roses, purified water, and a pot, you can have fresh, organic rose petal water in no time.

You will need 12 cups of perfect, organic rose petals. Place the leaves in a stockpot and add enough purified water to cover them. Arrange a medium-sized metal bowl in the center of the pot, with the rim being a few inches above the water. Put the lid on the pot upside down to form another dish and bring the water to a rapid boil.

Once the water is boiling, fill the top of the lid with ice. Reduce heat to low and allow the mixture to gently simmer for two hours, replacing melted ice as needed. Be sure to check that the petals are still covered by water and add water if necessary.

In this homemade distillation, the boiling water will condense on the cold lid, filling the metal bowl with pure rose petal water. Pour into a clean jar or spray bottle, seal tightly, and store in a cool, dry place. Use it as a tonic or a refreshing spritz.

To use your homemade rose petal water in the kitchen, do some online research for tasty recipes. The essence of roses is delightful in cakes, pastries, and cocktails. Some Middle Eastern cuisines use it regularly in savory dishes.

Final Thoughts on Using Rosewater: Nature is Always Best

Now that you know Queen Cleopatra’s secret beauty regime, you can make it some at home. Whether you use it topically, drink it as a tonic, or use it in exotic dishes, rose petal water can be an invaluable ingredient. Every time you use it in your beauty regime, you will think of the lovely blossoms that made it all possible.

Psychology Explains 3 Reasons Jealousy Happens (And How to Stop It)

May 8, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Few people don’t struggle with jealousy to some degree. It’s difficult just to tell yourself to use positive thinking when the green-eyed monster is slowly but surely taking over.

Sometimes, you may not even understand why the jealousy is occurring, or how you can stop it from pouring outwards and overwhelming everything. To help you out, here is how psychology explains three reasons jealous happens and how to stop it in four steps.

Why Does Jealousy Happen?

1. Obsessive Thinking

Obsessive thinking can be immensely damaging in all relationships – and for most aspects of life in general. In more extreme forms, it can be a part of a mental disorder or a symptom of one. However, there are less severe levels of obsessive thinking on the spectrum of obsession. Here are some forms of obsessive thinking:

Facing difficulty managing anything uncertain or unknown
Reacting poorly to being unable to control a situation
Engaging in doubt-filled thoughts
Wondering about tiny details and blowing them out of proportion
Catastrophizing minor issues by turning them into bigger ones through slippery slopes

But how does this fuel jealousy? Well, jealousy is often an irrational feeling, born from misinterpreting something. These obsessive thoughts are often a product of insecurity, guilt, or other similar emotions, which can translate to jealous spiraling. As an example:

A friend’s excitement for a new like-minded group is blown up in your mind as a possibility of them losing interest in you for that new friend group
A partner’s noticeable business over the last two days leads to you wondering if they are cheating
An employee’s praise of another person over you causes you to fear that you will lose your job because you aren’t good enough
Your lack of ability to help a family member makes you worry that they will cut you off

2. Disconnect From Reality

Some feelings of jealousy have a good reason to pop up, but by its very nature, most jealousy is disconnected from reality to some degree. It sees things that aren’t there and can even twist the thoughts in your head, causing you to believe your ideas are logical when they are not.

To determine whether jealousy is rooted in reality, you can ask yourself the following questions:

Is there an exact pattern that indicates a reason to be jealous, or are these emotions spawning from one isolated event?
Are the facts you’re basing your jealousy on truly factual?
How much of the inciting incident involves misunderstand and miscommunication?
Have you exhibited jealous behavior in similar situations often in the past, only due to the condition triggering the emotion, with no other trigger?
Are you 100% positive that what you are seeing is correct? Research indicates that jealousy can affect vision accuracy!

3. Paranoia

We’ve talked about how obsession can be on a spectrum – and fear is on a spectrum, too. You’ve probably heard of severe disorders with paranoia as the main factor, or how moderate paranoia is a staple symptom of a wide range of other mental health conditions.

But paranoia can take milder forms on the spectrum and fuel jealousy. The problem is that this is a never-ending cycle: paranoia fuels jealousy, which fuels more paranoia, which fuels more resentment, and so on. This is how you can wind up becoming so overly paranoid that nothing you believe is rooted in reality.

Mild to moderate paranoia of a jealous variety often involves:

An inability to trust others due to fear of being harmed or hurt
Feeling like everything is out to get or harm you
Worrying that people secretly think poorly of you, even when none of their actions indicate that
Blaming others or making excuses for small things that few people, if any, would have noticed, to begin with
Protecting themselves to an extreme degree against sabotage, betrayal, and perceived threat
Grasping at shreds of barely-there evidence to support your beliefs
Believing that most, if not all, people have malicious intent within them

How To Stop Jealousy

1. Understand Jealousy

Though used interchangeably with envy, jealousy and envy are not the same things. Envy refers to the act of desiring something that someone else has, but you don’t, while jealousy is defined as the fear that something you have will be taken away. As an example, you would be envious of someone’s job promotion, but jealous when someone else flirts with your romantic partner. Here are some ways to understand jealousy:

· Learn How To Recognize Jealousy

When you are able to figure out what you are jealous of, the emotion loosens its grip on you, and you won’t be ashamed of it anymore. Identifying what you are suspicious of opens the door to acknowledging it and learning from it, and it can also help to show you where your values are in life so you can take positive steps towards them.

· Know That You Can Learn From Jealousy

By understanding what you are jealous of, you can use that knowledge to better yourself. Instead of being jealous, you can instead use those emotions to fuel your desires for betterment. For example, jealousy that a friend is more interested in a new class or club than you can spur you to try new things on your own as well. or better.

· Know That Festering Jealousy Is Toxic

Keeping jealous emotions bottled up inside is pointless and unhealthy. Whenever you have those feelings, you need to learn to let them go, or they will fester inside of you and become extremely toxic.

2. Do Some Assessments

First, start by assessing the relationship that is sparking your jealousy. We will assume, in this situation, that the cause is a romantic relationship. Romantic jealousy is actually much more complex and has multiple sides to it that are affected by positive, negative, and other traits of the relationship in question. Consider:

Are the foundations of your relationship based on respect, trust, and love? Relationships founded on shaky bases are more prone to both performing actions that warrant jealousy and developing jealous reactions irrationally.
Does your partner’s behavior match their words? Do they act honestly and truthfully, or do they often act in ways that can trigger insecurities or perpetuate jealousy?
Does your partner behave in a controlling manner? Are they insecure about the relationship from the get-go?

Next, it’s time to assess yourself. If you have determined that your relationship has a solid foundation, but you are still feeling jealous, you should turn your sight inwards and look to yourself and your experiences. A person’s basic attachment style influences their tendencies towards being jealous. Attachment styles are influenced in turn by your growing environment, especially in childhood? Consider:

Did you grow up in a loving environment with secure attachments?
Were things in your childhood home often volatile and unpredictable?
Did you deal with abuse or abusive situations from people you thought you could trust?
Do you often feel empty inside or experience feelings of worthlessness?
Were you able to depend on the people raising you or the people around you?
Do you have negative experiences with previous partners cheating?

If you learn your attachment style is to blame, don’t despair, and keep your positive thinking. Attachment styles don’t have to be set in stone; in fact, they’re malleable! You can still influence and change your style by growing and gaining new experiences. A mental health professional can also help, so consider booking therapy or a similar appointment. A qualified professional can guide you, build your self-esteem, and help you resolve your concerns.

3. Stop The Initial Reaction

Controlling your feelings and not acting immediately based on their impulsiveness is not easy. But stopping this initial emotional response is crucial in stopping jealousy. The feeling of envy itself is often not the problem you are facing, with the real issue being the decision to act on strong emotions and become lost in them without forethought.

It is okay to feel jealous. That’s just part of being human sometimes. But don’t act on it right away. Remember that those your jealousy is directed at are also human. They may be flawed, but that does not mean they will harm you, cross boundaries, or act with malicious intent. These people are ones you care for and respect for a reason! Accept your feelings, but remember that they shouldn’t be your driving force.

Try to implement thought-stopping techniques. You can:

Say the word “stop” to yourself out loud
Take several deep breaths over the course of ten seconds or more
Counter your thoughts with logical ones

4. Find The Root

You can’t do anything about jealousy until you know why it’s happening. Here are some tips for finding the root of jealousy, so it can be stopped or redirected to a more productive thinking style:

· Separate Your Own Feelings From Your Knowledge

Instead of saying you are jealous, separate yourself from your brain, which is the organ providing this response to you. Knowing the distinction between you and your mind can help you to keep a level head, drawing a clear line that prevents the feelings from overtaking you. Once your thoughts have calmed down, you can decide if the emotions need action or not.

· Determine Where The Jealousy Comes From

Where do these feelings come from? Do they come from something in the past that the person did, or do they just stem from your own personal insecurities? Knowing the answer can tell you if you need to bring up the issue with the person or not, or if it is something you need to work on internally.

· Write Down What You Feel To Sort Out Your Thoughts

Taking some time to write down what you are thinking and feeling can help to slow the flood of overwhelming emotions. Putting pen to paper and expressing your feelings can allow you to view the problem objectively while giving you a chance to sort out your thoughts first.

Final Thoughts On Some Reasons Why Jealousy Happens And How To Stop It

Jealousy can be a very toxic emotion. If it’s justified, then you need to communicate those feelings to the person inciting them. If it’s not warranted, you need to turn your thoughts inward and focus on self-improvement to overcome the feelings. While neither is an easy path, both can provide a happier future for those involved.

5 Ways To Lower Blood Pressure (Without Medication)

May 8, 2020 by Power of Positivity

High blood pressure is often caused by narrowing blood vessels and arteries. Hypertension connects to adverse cardiovascular health. Plus, it can worsen your risk of developing many diseases as you age.

Blood pressure medication is readily available in most places, but not everyone has that option or wants to become too used to them. Luckily, there are ways to bring down blood pressure in a natural way.

Here are five ways to lower your blood pressure without medication.

1 – Reduce Certain Food and Drink Intakes

A lot of what we eat and drink can affect health in general. Blood pressure isn’t the only aspect that can be harmed by a poor diet. You also put yourself at risk for many other disorders and conditions when you don’t eat well.

If blood pressure problems are plaguing you, you might be surprised by how much that pressure can balance out if you cut down certain foods and beverages. Here are some to reduce the intake of:

Sodium

Sodium – the component you get from eating a lot of salt – is present in high amounts in processed foods. High sodium consumption has been linked to issues such as heart problems, high blood pressure, and even increased risk of stroke. More research is needed to entirely place a positive link between sodium and hypertension, but this mainly due to genetic differences, as different people process sodium in different ways.

Sugars

Sugar links to a wide range of disease risks, including hypertension. Even only drinking a single serving of soda per day can lead to higher blood pressure levels than those who drink less than that. Less-sugar beverages, on the other hand, as replacements for high-sugar ones, can help bring blood pressure back down. The same thing happens with junk food and other refined carbohydrates; in fact, carb-restricted diets can reduce blood pressure, alongside other common markers for heart disease.

Caffeine

There isn’t a lot of evidence around the idea that caffeine generally severely increases blood pressure on a long-term basis. Some studies even show that regular, non-excessive coffee intake can help reduce the risk of a wide range of arterial disorders and heart problems. However, those who are caffeine sensitive may suffer more from consuming caffeine too regularly, as there is at least a short term spike in blood pressure when you take caffeine.

Alcohol Intake

Did you know that a whopping 16% of all cases of hypertension link to alcohol consumption? This isn’t to say that drinking any alcohol is bad; moderate consumption, defined as two drinks per day for men or one drink per day for women, can help to protect cardiovascular health. But consuming more than that is likely to raise blood pressure without any positive sides to back it up.

2 – Increase Certain Nutritional Intakes

Just as reducing certain food and drink consumption can help bring down blood pressure, increasing some consumption can help! Healthier forms of nutrition can do wonders for full-body health, improved blood pressure included. Here are some things you should be eating more of if you want to balance out your blood pressure:

Calcium

A fairly common problem in those with hypertension is that they don’t consume enough calcium. A diet rich in calcium has been linked to healthier blood pressure balance. As such, you should aim to consume around 1000 mg of calcium per day, increasing that to 1,200 mg as you age. The nutrient comes in leafy greens, collard greens, dairy, sardines, beans, and tofu.

Potassium

This highly crucial mineral helps reduce blood vessel strain by aiding in the removal of sodium. As we’ve previously discussed, sodium can have relatively serious adverse effects on blood pressure when repeatedly taken in excess. Potassium is present in dairy (yogurt, milk), fruit (avocados, apricots, bananas, oranges, melons), vegetables (tomatoes, sweet potatoes, potatoes, leafy greens), fish (salmon, tuna), nuts, beans, and seeds.

Berries

There is a compound in berries called a polyphenol that provides moderate benefits for the heart. Individuals who consume them on a regular, long-term basis have better blood pressure and heart health overall, and this even works for those who have bad blood pressure to begin with!

Garlic

Garlic and its extract, as well as other similar herbs, provide aid to blood pressure levels, bringing them down. In general, garlic has plenty of positive effects beyond just this, too.

Dark Chocolate

There are plenty of benefits that you get when you eat dark chocolate, and one of these positive effects is blood vessel dilation. This is thanks to compounds within them called flavonoids. Small amounts of dark chocolate or cocoa provide these compounds, which help the body’s vessels to promote better circulation, thus lowering blood pressure. Opt for dark chocolates with no added sugars for the best results.

Magnesium

Just like some of the other components we’ve mentioned, magnesium is a blood vessel dilator. As the blood vessels relax, blood can flow more easily through them, reducing congestion and blood pressure. The links between magnesium and blood pressure are still unclear to some degree. Still, consuming sufficient magnesium can help with blood pressure health. You can find this mineral in legumes, meat, chicken, vegetables, whole grains, and dairy products.

Tea

Drinking certain kinds of tea – even up to three cups of hibiscus tea every single day! – can help lower blood pressure significantly, and within six weeks, seven points of systolic blood pressure can be dropped. This is largely due to the phytochemicals within the hibiscus flower and thus may work for any tea rich in those components.

3 – Physical Activity

You’ve probably heard plenty of times that physical activity can help improve your life in countless different ways. Those who exercise very regularly rarely deal with dangerous hypertension. Here are some forms of physical activity to consider, and why you should consider them:

General Exercise

All forms of exercise help with many functions, including boosting heart and lung health, providing feel-good hormones for positive thinking, and reducing artery pressure, thereby bringing down blood pressure. 75 minutes of intense exercise or 150 minutes of moderate exercise weekly can provide these results. This is because exercise helps make the body more efficient, so it processes oxygen better.

Power Walks

When the results of more than 400 relevant studies are analyzed, a conclusion can be drawn that brisk walking as an exercise (alongside other forms of regular exercise) can be just as effective as hypertension drugs in improving the blood flow. Thirty minutes of this kind of cardio per day can help with this, and you can challenge yourself further by boosting the speed of your walks or adding weights to your regimen.

Yoga

Some people roll their eyes at yoga, but it’s an excellent means for improving a wide range of things, from posture to positive thinking and, of course, blood pressure. The combination of stretching, strength-based exercise, breathing control methods, and meditation allows for a significant decrease in blood pressure levels compared to people who don’t exercise.

Relaxation Methods

You’ve probably heard that stress elevates blood pressure, and people often joke about how high their blood pressure is when they’re dealing with negative emotions. This is actually somewhat accurate – the more relaxed you are, the better your blood pressure levels will be, but you have to choose the right methods of relaxation. Here are some to consider:

Meditation

This is a very common method for reducing overall stress. It helps the body to relax by activating a part of the nervous system known as the parasympathetic system, which helps to relax the heart rate. Different variations of meditation can have different effects altogether!

Deep Breathing

Taking deep breaths can lower blood pressure compared to sitting still. If you stay put and focus on your breathing for six deep breaths over 30 seconds, you may be able to experience dropped pressure. Most breathing exercises will provide similar results.

Listen To Music

There’s a good chance that you already listen to music when you need some relaxation. But specific types of music can do more than just relax you – they can also help to bring down your overall blood pressure. Celtic, Indian, and classical music, when listened to for just half an hour every day over several months, can do the trick.

4 – Lifestyle Changes

Bad blood pressure, when not the result of congenital issues, is typically the result of certain lifestyle choices. Changing aspects of your lifestyle can be much easier said than done. Still, seeing as hypertension can put you at risk for potentially fatal complications, you may want to consider implementing certain lifestyle changes to lower it. Here are some changes to consider:

Quit Smoking

You don’t need us to tell you just how bad smoking can be for health on the whole. As soon as you begin smoking, blood pressure spikes immediately. The spike is temporary, but eventually, long-term smoking causes blood vessel damage and artery narrowing, which both worsen blood pressure. Do note that even secondhand smoke can increase hypertension, so if you live with a smoker, inhaling the cigarette fumes can harm you, too.

Sleep On Time

When you sleep, your blood pressure drops, and insufficient sleep means your blood pressure is higher. Sleep-deprived individuals often face a worsened risk of developing blood pressure imbalance. So doctors recommend that you sleep for between 7-9 hours to avoid those problems. A regular sleep schedule, winding down at night, and avoiding naps during the day can help with sleep.

Lose Weight

Being overweight can significantly harm your heart health. Just losing 5% of overall body mass can help to bring down blood pressure. This is because weight loss helps the blood vessels maintain flexibility.

5 – Cut Down On Work

People who work for over 41 hours per week increase their risk of developing hypertension by a good amount. This doesn’t mean you need to leave early and should never do overtime ever, but it does mean that you need a good balance of work and life to avoid optimal health.

Final Thoughts On Some Ways To Lower Your Blood Pressure Without Medication

Hypertension comes with a wide range of health issues. If you don’t always have access to medication or simply don’t want to rely on them long-term, there are natural ways that you can lower your blood pressure. Try them out, and you’ll be surprised by how well they can work!

18 Uses of Body Language To Stop Immediately

May 8, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Nonverbal communication can speak just as loudly – if not more so – than verbal communication. If you perform great types of body language, they can enhance your message, improve people’s positive thinking of you, and impress those around you. If your body language is bad, though, you’re more likely to wind up pushing others away.

Some types of bad body language are so common that you might not even realize that you’re performing them and, therefore, hurting other people’s impressions of you.

Here are 18 uses of body language to stop immediately.

1. Not Smiling

In social interactions, smiling is a great way to show off your confidence and openness. It is something we may often forget to do, especially in more formal situations, but smiling can have positive effects on many social relations. When you smile, others will:

Be more receptive towards you
Feel more open around
React with more positive thinking to you
Offer a smile back

However, do note that you should not give out fake smiles, as most people can very easily tell when someone is being insincere, even if they only pick up on it subconsciously.

2. Rubbing The Neck

Rubbing your neck seems like a natural and innocent gesture. In fact, you might be rubbing your neck just to relieve stress or tension in the area. Unfortunately, doing it around others might send the wrong message. Others might interpret this move as:

Anxiety in a social situation
Discomfort with the people you are interacting with
Dislike of a situation or the people around you

3. Eye Rolls

It’s often said that the eyes are the window to the soul. That’s probably why the way you use them can convey so much information.

The act of rolling your eyes is a common and obvious sign of disrespect. It may be harmless in your mind, especially as an act of non-verbal communication around people you are close to, but it is just plain rude around many other people. Rolling your eyes expresses:

Boredom
Annoyance
Disagreement
Sarcasm

4. Looking Around Too Much

When you’re in a conversation, you should remain present within it. Looking around the room constantly and paying insufficient attention to the person you’re talking to is just plain bad manners, and it gives the impression that:

You are looking for someone else to talk to
The conversation topic is not interesting or engaging enough
You don’t respect their time or company

5. Bad Posture

When you stand around with bad posture, you’re conveying a huge list of different negative pieces of information to those around you. Here’s how:

With slumped shoulders and a caved-in chest, your body language indicates that you have surrendered and are not willing to take on challenges.
When you slouch, you are telling others that you are insecure and have low self-esteem.
General bad posture shows others that you lack the energy and enthusiasm to carry the conversation.

Learn the exercises that help correct poor posture.

6. Playing With Hair

During any conversation, you should avoid playing with your hair. It’s distracting to the people you talk to. As such, you should refrain from running fingers across your hair and scalp, fidgeting with your hair, or even twirling it in a playful way. If you don’t stop, it can both damage your hair and send the wrong message, and it’s a habit that’s tough to break.

7. Invading Personal Space

No one likes it when someone else enters their personal bubble. Unless it’s somewhat you have a very close relationship with, it’s generally not a good idea to invade the personal space of any person. This is especially true with strangers or in business relationships.

As a general idea, you shouldn’t get closer to another person by 1 and a half feet, and remember that someone’s personal space isn’t yours to invite yourself into. Be aware of where and how you stand, as you can still get into a person’s bubble unknowingly.

8. Fidgeting

When talking or listening to someone, the act of fidgeting may be perceived as disrespectful to them. Actions such as twirling your hair, tapping your fingers or feet, touching jewelry, or constantly checking the time are considered as fidgeting. Others may think that:

You are bored
You don’t think the person is worth talking to
You would rather be somewhere else
You are impatient for the conversation to be over

9. Using Repetitive Gestures

A lot of people aren’t too sure what to do with their hands in conversation. Where should they rest? How much movement is too much movement? The latter question is more crucial than the former.

Many people who don’t fully talk with their hands fall victim to using repetitive gestures. Repetition speaks of anxiety and can make your point even less clear, as your gestures are supposed to match your speech. Use gestures sparingly and only when it is natural or helps emphasize a point. Each gesture should be strong, clear, and end cleanly.

10. Biting Fingernails

Biting your fingernails is a big no-no in social interaction. It’s a bit of a gross habit, to begin with, and it’s quite unsightly to do in front of other people. People often bite their nails when they are nervous, too, so others may consider you anxious when you use that gesture. Plus, it damages your nails and leaves a terrible impression on others.

11. Never Showing Acknowledgment

People often discount the importance of showing acknowledgment during social interactions. You need to show the people you are interacting with that you are listening to them. It helps them feel like they’re being listened to and it’s a basic sign of respect. You can show acknowledgment by:

Giving a certain amount of eye contact
Smiling at them
Nodding when you agree
Making the appropriate facial expressions

12. Crossing Legs or Arms

It’s natural for a lot of people to cross their arms and legs when they sit. However, if you’re speaking to someone, this might make you look defensive. It could send a message that you`re not open to interacting with another person or hearing what they have to say, or that you feel uncomfortable in their presence. If you keep your arms and legs uncrossed and your hands visible, you will appear more trustworthy.

The act of crossing your arms and legs when sitting comes naturally for most people, but during social interactions, that action may give off the wrong impression. It looks like you’re uncomfortable and like you aren’t open to interaction.

To begin with, you can appear more trustworthy to others when your hands are visible. But crossing arms and legs, in general, creates a closed posture that makes you seem defensive, and it’s commonly read as an anxious motion – so if you’re trying to convey a message of positive thinking, it’s not going to work that way!

13. Furrowed Brow

During social interaction, it is important to maintain a neutral expression. The act of furrowing your brows and scrunching up your face may give others the wrong impression. Effects of furrowing your brows at someone include:

Unintentionally intimidating them, or coming across as hostile
Discouraging them from opening up to you
Causing them to be more defensive during the interaction

14. Acting Distracted

Giving someone your attention when they are talking is a common courtesy. It shows that you are engaged in the conversation. As such, it’s not a surprise that people find it rude when you look distracted while they are talking.

Even if you are paying attention, if your body language conveys otherwise, it will still offend the other party. So make sure you look at the other person you are speaking to and engage in active listening practices.

15. Shuffling

The way you walk affects people’s perceptions of you. People that walk with a straight back and a puffed chest, for example, have a more confident stance. In fact, there’s an unusual positive side to this behavior. Confident walkers have a lower chance of being mugged, so there are even more reasons to stop this body language.

On the other hand, walking with a slouch and shuffling along clearly speaks of nervousness and fear, and it indicates a lack of confidence that can make you a target for criminals.

16. Eyes Glued To Your Phone

If you are at a social gathering, it is respectful to put your phone away and engage with the group. After all, you’re surrounded by people – why would you need to check social media when real-life social activities are right in front of you?

Refrain from openly checking your phone and only do so if it is a prior obligation or emergency. With fewer distractions, it is easier to be present in conversations with others.

17. Bad Eye Contact

Eye contact is the foundational building block of almost all forms of social interaction. Good eye contact conveys confidence while a lack of it can make you seem untrustworthy, and over-the-top eye contact can come across as aggressive.

You want to find the balance between intimidating staredowns and unconfident avoidance. If eye contact is not comfortable for you, try to communicate that to the person you’re speaking to, especially if it’s someone you may work with or be around for a while.

18. An Odd Handshake

More often than not, the first impression someone will have of you is from your handshake. The intensity of your grip changes someone’s perception of you. A weak grip may send signals that you are new to a group or profession and are, therefore, unsure of yourself, while a very strong grip may send signals that you are aggressive or boorish.

Once again, just like with eye contact, you’ll want to find the balance between these two extremes. Your handshakes should be firm, not linger for more than two or three up-and-down motions, and not be a contest of strength.

Final Thoughts On Some Uses Of Body Language To Stop Immediately

Body language is a very powerful communication tool, and it can be difficult to learn to interpret and use correctly. It’s about more than just how you hold yourself and what your expression looks like – it can change entire messages and speak louder than words.

By learning about the forms of body language you commonly use, you’ll be able to easily avoid making social faux pas by accident through negative body language. Make sure to avoid these 18 kinds of body language and replace them with better alternatives!

13 Signs Your Personality May Be Intimidating People

May 8, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Have you ever noticed that some people are just naturally intimidating? Or, have you noticed that people tend to be intimidated by you?

Being an intimidating person is an intriguing situation to be in, as it can be tough to tell why people are so nervous around you – especially if you’re not a physically “scary” person. But it actually might be your personality traits that are causing the discomfort!

Here are 13 signs your personality may be intimidating people.

1. You Don’t Do Small Talk, Which Can Feel Intimidating to Some People

Being direct and to the point can be pretty intimidating, and if you match that description, you do not waste time with small talk. You likely consider beating around the bush pointless and would much rather get straight to the point and talk about pressing and significant issues.

This means you often skip pleasantries or avoid talking to people who won’t start an engaging or productive conversation. This can cause a projection of you that appears cold or even rude to others, and that’s certainly intimidating.

Though this is fine and a preference you likely share with many people, keep in mind that small talk can be positive. Many communities worldwide consider it a crucial part of their interactions and bonding.

2. You’re A Problem-Solver

It’s good to have the critical thinking skills necessary to be a good problem-solver, but that can sometimes intimidate people. This is because you’re always finding solutions independently and taking charge.

Others around you might feel like you hog the spotlight, like you are excluding them, or as though they are unneeded. This can lead them to consider you intimidating.

3. You Have Big Goals

Someone with big goals always strives to be the very best version of themselves. They do so by setting goals to work towards, and these are often ambitious and exciting, with motivation and commitment involved that propel them forward.

If this description matches you, it can be intimidating to the people around you. This is because of your colossal drive and forward movement. The good news is that the people who will likely be intimidated are those who are insecure about themselves and their achievements.

4. You Don’t Conform

Others are often intimidated by someone who has confidence in themselves and does not bend or conform to the expectations of others. Suppose you are an independent thinker, where your opinions are often not shared by the people around you. In that case, others with low self-confidence will find it hard to understand how it is possible to self-validate and not look for the approval of others.

In addition, people who are less knowledgeable in certain subjects may find it uncomfortable that you are so much more well-informed. Once again, this will not be an issue for people who are secure in themselves and have positive thinking for their actions.

5. You’re Assertive, Which Can Be Intimidating to Others

To an introvert, extroverted people can be intimidating. This is especially true if those extroverts are assertive. But you don’t necessarily need to be a stereotypical extrovert – or even an extrovert at all – to have this trait.

If you are the type to speak out while expecting others to do the same quickly, you can be perceived as aggressive toward those around you. Unlike some previous points, this intimidation isn’t necessarily a mark of insecurity.

As a matter of fact, by taking up all the space in the room and disregarding the different communication styles of others, you may alienate the people around you. This doesn’t mean you should stop being assertive – it just means that you must find the balance in a conversation instead of consistently dominating it. Here is what you can do in that respect:

Take the time to assess the people surrounding you. Do they speak the same way as you do? Are they the type to interrupt your long assertive speeches, or would they likely wait for you to stop talking – which might not happen until the point is lost?
Take note if people are unusually quiet or sensitive towards you. Try and encourage these people to speak or ask them what they think.
Match the pace of others. You have great ideas, but let others share theirs, too. You can dominate the conversation when it’s your turn to speak, not throughout an entire meeting.

6. You’re Opinionated, Which Is Intimidating to Many

Being highly opinionated can also be intimidating to others. If you are not afraid to challenge societal conventions and even stand alone with those opinions, you’re giving off a power that may cause others to feel intimidated or uncomfortable.

Being opinionated is a great thing with many positive sides to it, including improving your persuasiveness and making you less vulnerable to other people’s persuasion. Just make sure that sound arguments back your opinions. Being opinionated involves:

Determination to do something, even if it means not conforming to others’ expectations of you
Dedication to keeping trying to achieve the desired result, even if it may seem strange or pointless to others
Bravery in sticking to your guns, even if others are not backing you up.

7. You Never Make Excuses, and You Don’t Accept Them Either

Others may find you intimidating if you do not make or accept excuses. Not taking nonsense is not a sign of a lack of sympathy, but rather a sign of your willpower. Still, as justified as it is, no one can deny that dealing with someone who wants results is quite intimidating, not excuses.

People that don’t make or accept excuses:

Don’t see themselves as a victim, even if their entire world is crumbling
Don’t have a place in their life for complaints from anyone
Pursue whatever goal they have set with vigor
Have zero tolerance for procrastination and laziness

8. You Don’t Let Fear Control You

It can be intimidating and unsettling when someone is unphased by fear. Fear can have such robust control over so many people’s lives, so for someone to have the utmost in positive thinking and never let fear stop, you can be quite a shock. You may consider fear:

An opportunity to grow and better yourself
A new experience to live through and learn from
An essential part of life

9. You Are Stubborn

Stubbornness can be an excellent trait in moderation, but others may find your determination intimidating. Being stubborn is one of the key reasons why you may be such a good problem-solver. Not taking no for an answer and doing your best to solve issues you can see solutions to is the sign of a go-getter.

Others might find it challenging to understand this trait of yours, and if they aren’t intimidated or impressed by it, they may even become confused. It’s a mystery to them why you would take up much of your time-solving problems they’ve given up on instead of merely letting them go.

10. You Never Get Envious, Which Often Feel Intimidating

Refraining from falling into patterns of bitterness or envy at other people’s success can be a tricky thing to do. As such, it makes sense that someone might find you intimidating if you never get envious of others.

Here are some traits that someone may have if they don’t fall prey to the green-eyed monster:

They know that their chance for success is unaffected by their current job, money, or status
They can congratulate others without any envy or malice present
Being career-focused people with their own goals and don’t bother trying to meet other people’s
They know that every person is different and has a different path in life
Finally, they don’t view life as a race; they take their time and work on their aspirations at a pace that challenges them and them alone

11. You Always Want To Learn More

Close-minded people feel intimidated and insecure in the face of someone full of curiosity and always striving to learn more. So if you’re someone who understands that you don’t have all the answers in this complex world, your open-minded eagerness to grow and learn may throw off the people around you.

12. You Are Quick To Read Others

People find it intimidating to meet someone who can accurately read them within moments of a first meeting. This is especially true for people with ulterior motives, malice, or unfavorable characteristics, as you will not hesitate to call them out once you get a read on them.

Still, even those with good intentions only can be intimidated by quick reads. No one wants to feel like their entire life has been spilled within a few seconds, and it can make some people feel quite unsafe.

13. You Select Friends Carefully

Are you someone who chooses your friends very carefully? If so, the fact that you are so selective and even picky can be intimidating. This is because you don’t hesitate to cut off toxic people and want friends who are your peers, not those who will use you or who can’t contribute to your life in the same way you can contribute to theirs.

Still, this level of selection with friends can be a positive thing. This is because:

Equally strong-willed friends can boost your self-control and discipline, while those who are not disciplined will lead to slacking on your end.
You are less likely to take financial risks that may not end positively if you have fewer friends.
Having proper socialization levels can lengthen your lifespan.
The friends you make influence the choices that you make throughout your life.
You can learn from good friends who are in the right positions or have the knowledge to share
A good friend group lifts each other up.

Final Thoughts On Some Signs Your Personality May Be Intimidating People

Is it bad if your personality intimidates people? Not necessarily! It often points to a strong will, determination, and independence for which others should strive.

You shouldn’t feel the need to change those parts of yourself unless you want to. But do expect people to be a little nervous about speaking up around you, and don’t be surprised if people are taken aback when you reveal you can be a sweetheart after all!

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