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Psychologists Reveal 10 Counterproductive Habits That Destroy Success

November 1, 2020 by Lakeisha Ethans

Everyone is chasing their own success. You likely put a lot of effort into working towards your goals. But what if some of the things you’re doing are actually ruining your chances. It’s frightening to imagine that habits you’re not even aware of could be hindering your progress. To help you uncover your own negative behaviors, here’s how science and psychologists reveal 10 counterproductive habits that destroy success.

Eliminate these ten counterproductive habits to achieve your goals.

1. Seeking Approval From Others

It’s not unusual to want to impress your peers and others around you, especially if you’re in the early stages of a career. But there’s a big difference between showing your best side to your colleagues and seeking approval. This habit is counterproductiveThe former is focused on professionalism and making your name. The latter is focused on hinging your self-esteem on the opinions of others, which isn’t great!

There are also ways that this incessant quest for approval can backfire. For example:

Being worried about an interviewer’s perception of you could lead to poor performance in that interview.
Worrying over someone’s reply could result in you tuning out the conversation altogether.
Your quest for seeking someone’s approval will allow them to take advantage of you.

There are, of course, times when you need someone’s approval. But outside of those rare occasions, you should learn to stop seeking reassurance, says psychotherapist, mental strength expert, college psychology instructor, author, and licensed clinical social worker Amy Morin. You’ll gain approval from others naturally by being your best self and focusing on your efforts towards your goals, anyway.

2. Catastrophizing is Counterproductive

Catastrophizing is the act of creating a catastrophe where there is none. Basically, it is what happens when you spiral down a tunnel of negative thinking, constantly expecting the worst out of a situation.

At its core, catastrophizing is a form of irrational fear. Whenever you hear bad news, you imagine all the worst-case scenarios and become obsessed with those thoughts. Sometimes, this can happen to the point of genuinely expecting these things to happen and losing grasp on reality.

When you’re chasing success, you’ll often be taking a lot of risks all at once. This means it can be effortless to catastrophize and start living with anxiety about impending doom or the risk of failure. Studies have found that this way of thinking can severely affect mood and positive thinking, sometimes leading to depression and anxiety.

According to cognitive behavioral therapy expert and psychologist Judith Beck, the best way around this catastrophizing cognitive dissonance is to list the pros and cons of considering all these bad outcomes. She also suggests playing your own devil’s advocate – counter your negative thoughts with positive ones, instead!

3. Comparing Yourself To Others

It’s easy to compare yourself to others. After all, so many people are great at their work and are chasing success too. You might:

Think your peers are doing better than you
Attempt to match the level of your peers
Engage in unhealthy levels of competition with your peers
Think worse of yourself because you don’t “match up” to your peers
Be unable to feel good about your own accomplishments if a peer has a “better” one

This comparison is unfair to you and your peers, as you are all in unique, individual situations. What’s more, it’s a well-known fact in the field of psychology that the way we perceive those around us versus how we perceive ourselves is often inaccurate.

According to a Society for Personality and Social Psychology study, any person usually displays more positive emotions and sides than negative. This means your comparisons that you draw between yourselves and others are inherently flawed. You can only see what others show you, but you know all the worst things about yourself. You’ll never get an accurate comparison that way!

Regardless, comparisons like this are never healthy. You don’t need to match others to be proud of your own achievements. Accomplishments are unique and are your own, and everyone has their own journey to go on.

4. Playing Blame Games

Do you find yourself often shirking some percentage of responsibility for an event or task by passing it onto others? If so, you’re engaging in blame games. According to the University of Massachusetts Amherst Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences Susan Whitbourne, we do this as an act of self-preservation for your self-esteem.

Unfortunately, this kind of blame-passing means you don’t learn from mistakes because you refuse to admit that you made them. The goal in life is to grow through experiences. If you never grow by accepting accountability, your success will be forever stunted.

5. Doubting Yourself

In your uphill battle towards success, it’s not unusual to feel a little uncertain. Can you really succeed? Are your efforts paying off? Are you really good at what you do?

It’s not an inherently bad thing to worry about yourself, as it shows that you have a good sense of self-awareness. However, there are times when this can go to an extreme that is simply unhealthy. Here are some forms of self-doubt that Morin says can be counterproductive to your success:

· Second-Guessing

Reflection on your past mistakes and actions is healthy. But being wishy-washy and second-guessing every single decision you make is extremely negative.

· Putting Yourself Down

Insulting yourself when you make mistakes is a form of negative self-talk. This will bring you down in the long run. You’re better off using positive affirmations or speaking about yourself as you would a loved one.

· Believing Negative Thoughts

When you start believing your self-doubt, you’re opening yourself up to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Essentially, the lies you tell yourself can become truths if you start to believe them.

6. Focusing Only On You is Counterproductive to Reaching Your Goals

It’s normal to be a little bit self-centered in life. But did you know that focusing on yourself too much can actually have negative effects on your attempts at networking? In your attempts to seek the attention and admiration of those you speak to, you may just end up pushing them away.

Studies conclude that focusing on others is actually a much more efficient way of achieving the spotlight. To better understand this, consider the following points:

Human beings naturally tend to repay kindness or favors with their own compassion and acts of service.
Listening to others when they speak and engaging with their words genuinely will often lead to them happily listening to you later.
Focusing on others will, eventually, cause others to focus more on you, leading to increased influence.
Too much self-focus is often interpreted as narcissism and can ruin your uphill climb.

7. Personalization

Speaking of focusing only on you, let’s talk about personalization. Personalization refers to the act of taking things personally, even when there is no rational reason for you to take the blame. For example, you might:

Blame yourself for not insisting on more studying when your child gets a bad grade.
Worry that it’s your fault if your partner is in a bad mood.
Think that general criticism of your work team is directed specifically at you.

This can often lead to a lot of decreased positive thinking and is a form of cognitive distortion. The field of psychology already has plenty of research on the topic, and this kind of thinking has been linked to:

Shame
Feelings of inadequacy
Guilt

Stanford University School of Medicine’s Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences adjunct professor emeritus David D. Burns has something to say about this. In his work, he recommends taking a step back and considering your situation from an outsider’s perspective if you experience this type of cognitive distortion.

8. Constantly Criticizing Others

97% of all people have something known as a Bias Blind Spot or BBS. This means that many people have so much positive thinking regarding themselves naturally that they are unable to see their own flaws. Instead, they have an easier time constantly pointing fingers at others.

It’s important to bear in mind that you’re not an expert on anyone, not even yourself. From your vantage point, someone’s motivations, personal life, and thought processes are not visible. Judging others turns you into a fool who finds fault in everyone around them without ever looking inward to find the fault in themselves, and this can make success difficult to reach.

9. Arrogance is Counterproductive

Intellectual arrogance is an annoying and often toxic trait to deal with. It’s not unusual for someone who knows their worth to let it get to their head, but it’s crucial to remember that humility is always your best option.

Someone who is arrogant can hinder their success by:

Failing to evaluate their opinions properly.
Rejecting the ideas or thoughts of others
Seeking closure instead of fairness.
Being unable to contribute meaningfully to any situation

Interestingly, research has found that intellectual humility has positive effects on chances of success and goal achievement. Strive, then, to be humble. You can be confident without getting a big head!

10. Emotional Reasoning

Emotional reasoning is a kind of fallacy that occurs when you consider your emotions as concrete evidence for real-life situations. It’s a straightforward trap to fall into as you attempt to walk the tightrope so you can both consider your emotions valid and retain logical vision all at once.

Examples of emotional reasoning that may affect your chances of success include:

“I believe I’m bad at my job, so I’m not going to bother trying for that promotion.”
“I feel like I don’t have any good ideas, so that I won’t share them at the meeting tomorrow.”
“Perhaps my colleague dislikes me, so I’m just not going to work with them.”

It’s difficult to come out of a slump of emotion reasoning once you’re in it. Start by asking yourself questions like:

“How do I feel about this situation?”
“Can I identify any hard facts that support my conclusions?”
“Am I allowing bias to affect my judgment?”
“Are there other, more logical explanations?”

Learning to put aside emotional thoughts when you need truth and clarity is a valuable skill, says Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., a private practitioner specializing in trauma resolution, anger, stress, compulsions, addiction, and depression. Your feelings deserve attention and validation, but they shouldn’t be taken as gospel! Indeed, negative emotions become counterproductive to success.

Final Thoughts On Some Counterproductive Habits That Destroy Success

Negative, counterproductive habits are easy to fall into accidentally. By being aware of the bad habits you’re making, you can stop them in your tracks and get back to chasing success!

Cosmic Views for November 2020

November 1, 2020 by Linda Joyce

The cosmic views for November 2020 show that life is about to shift, and I hope it will be a good one. Mars is still square Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn, so anger and frustration remain high. It goes direct on the 14^th, and the forward movement brings relief. November 3^rd is election day, but you can vote early, and I recommend that you do.

On November 4^th Mercury goes direct, and life becomes less confusing, and the future becomes clear, according to the cosmic views. The month begins with the Sun in opposition to Uranus – be prepared for the unexpected. Change is in the air when it comes to finances. The market may fluctuate for a while, but it will settle down. With an isolated Venus in Libra until the 8^th, when Mars opposes it, it shows that relationships may be out of sync with each other for most of the month.

The world is changing, and it won’t take much to get you annoyed. You’re tired and fed up with all the restrictions. Wear your mask. Protect yourself and others in the simplest of ways. There will be relief by the middle of December, more on that next month. By the 15^th, Venus squares Jupiter, then Pluto and Mars, connecting with others, and getting your work done is a challenge. Neptune is strong, and it resides in Pisces, influencing everyone and everything in a mysterious way.

The more you surrender to what is and embrace it with faith, the easier your life becomes. Venus enters Scorpio on the 18^th just as the Sun leaves it and enters Sagittarius. Whatever grudges you’ve been holding on to may suddenly return and rise to the surface. Learn to let go of what you can change and forgive what happened in the past – you don’t want it to rule your future. Happy Thanksgiving. Don’t forget to be grateful for whatever you have in your life, no matter how big or small.

Cosmic Views for November 2020

Here are your cosmic views for November of 2020, according to acclaimed astrologer and life coach, Linda Joyce.

Aries (March 21^st – April 20^th)

Aries is the sign of vision. It looks into the future and sees what needs to change. So how are your cosmic views this month?

Its vision encompasses where it feels it can make a difference or where it might find an advantage as it moves forward. With Mars, your ruler, in Aries since July of this year and in retrograde since September 10th, the energy has been reflective – showing you who you are and what needs to be strengthened or improved. Seeing your flaws and accepting them is not easy for a fire sign.

However, it’s the beginning of peace and greater strength. You don’t have to be perfect if you don’t know that yet, but it’s important to keep learning and growing. Mars goes direct on the 14^th and squares Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn in Capricorn. This increases frustration. You can’t change others, but you can concentrate on your own goals. What you want to do may be different today than it was yesterday. Something has shifted, and you need to adjust. Mars goes direct on the 14^th, and the energy begins to break free and moves forward. Don’t use Mars to express your anger. It will get you nowhere, instead use it for motivation to get things done.

The Full Moon on the 30^th in Gemini brings the issue of communication to a head. If you’ve been suppressing your emotions and ideas, now is the time to speak up.

If you’re in a relationship, you feel disconnected. But knot that there’s nothing wrong with owning your own space and reminding you are in charge of your happiness, no one else. If you’re single, it’s a good time to reconnect to yourself. When you’re ready for a relationship, you’ll meet someone.

Taurus (April 21st – May 20^th)

Taurus energy prefers to attract what they want rather than chasing a dream. You do have charisma, and you are good at getting attention, so let go of your ego and focus on your goals. If you don’t have one, create one. You can always change it. With Uranus in your sign, you don’t feel settled. This is the planet of change, excitement, and new ideas. Don’t lick your wounds. The cosmic view show you should seek new solutions to old problems.

Mars is journeying through your 12^th house since July, and it’s kept you impatient and annoyed. The square it makes to Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn, adds stress to the picture; nothing is going the way you’ve planned. Get organized. Be clear on what you want to accomplish. Don’t hop around and do a little of this or that. Finish one thing at a time, and then you can eliminate it from your “to do” list. Venus, your ruler, is isolated for the first part of the month. If you need to be alone, do it.

Your soul wants to connect to you. Mercury square Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn make communication difficult. The problem is no one is listening. The Full Moon on the 30th at 8 degrees of Gemini brings financial issues to your attention. You want to make more money, and you can — get a plan. Mars goes direct on the 14^th, and it brings up old anger. Try not to let the past dominate the moment. It won’t help you move on or grow.

Relationships are difficult because you need to be alone. If you’re in one, give yourself some space. If you’re single, it’s difficult to connect with anyone at the moment. Take care of your own needs, and know that when you’re ready, the right person will appear.

Gemini (May 21^st – June 20^th)

Gemini is a sign of curiosity and exploration. You love to get into things that you shouldn’t. What you need to do is slow down and think things through. When you direct that curious nature toward the right goals, it serves you well. You learn advance, and grow. When you get into trouble, it slows you down and can even lead you away from your chosen path. With Mercury square Jupiter, Pluto and Saturn, you’re not in the mood to socialize or enter into long conversations.

People seem too difficult at the moment, and you may be right. Mars rules your house of friendships, the square it makes to Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn only makes getting along with others difficult. Mercury goes direct on the 4^th, and Mars goes direct on the 14^th, which gives you a push forward. Delays and obstacles begin to disappear. Be careful about engaging others in a controversial conversation until the end of the month when Mercury and Mars are direct. Before that, you could regret what you say.

The Full Moon in Gemini, your sign, happens on the 30^th. Something you’ve been holding on to is exposed, and now you have to deal with it. When you keep things hidden, they grow in power. Deal with things when they arise, don’t wait. With Uranus opposite your Sun, it’s a time of new ideas and opportunities. Allow your imagination to dream and create.

If you’re in a relationship, the cosmic views say that things are not easy but will get better soon. This is a time to get rid of old problems and make room for the new. If you’re single, take care of yourself. Next month it should be easier to meet new people and have a good time.

Cancer (June 21^st – July 22^nd)

As a Cancer, you have a strong inner world. You live with powerful emotions that are struggling to connect and find their place in your life. The more you pay attention to them, the stronger you become without letting them take the lead. The mission is to link the positive and negative and not see the world as either good or bad, but the integration of light and shadow. It is this connection that keeps you from going too far in either direction.

The Full Moon on the 30^th, in Gemini, increases your emotional response to events. What is activated is your unconscious fears and your life’s invisible powers, such as dreams, vision, emotions, wisdom, and truth. All these things may increase at this time. Mercury and Mars go direct this month, Mercury, on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th. This removes the resistance and obstacles, and moving forward begins to happen slowly.

Until the 11^th, Mercury is square Pluto, Jupiter, and Saturn, and it keeps things at a slow pace, partially because communication is difficult. Mars remains in square to these planets for the whole month, so although it will be direct, the obstacles don’t disappear until the end of the month. Just keep treading water until December, and relief will be in sight.

The cosmic views say that if you’re in a relationship, it’s not easy. Indeed, you may feel under attack. Ride the waves of discontent, and you’ll be fine. If you’re single, keep your cool and your distance, unless you love chaos. Relationships have been a challenge for the last two years. The good news is that’s about to change. The new year will bring new possibilities and an awareness of what will make you happy.

Leo (July 23^rd – August 22^nd)

Leos are the sign of the ego, of the quest to be the best and the first in all they do. Your challenge is to connect your ego with your spirit, intuition with your need for attention, and accept wherever you are. Once you do, things begin to move. The month begins with the Sun opposite Uranus, and it adjusts your goals.

You have a new view of yourself and the world, so don’t be afraid to make changes. You’re not alone. The world is changing, and those that adjust get ahead. Accept what you can’t control until you have a choice. Your perseverance is a great asset, but it can also exhaust you if you don’t know when to let go. Things will begin to fall into place with Mercury going direct on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th. You will feel a shift that will lead you forward, but not without some opposition.

Mercury and Mars are still square Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn, at least until the end of the month. The road’s not clear, so be prepared to be challenged. Keep your eyes on the goal and accept what you can’t do, at least until a door opens. Venus enters Scorpio on the 22^nd, and old wounds resurface. Scorpio energy hangs on to resentment, but it’s important now to let go so you can move on. However, Venus energy knows how to have a good time. It will be in your 4^th house of the home. You may find ways to make your sacred space feel more comfortable. This is not the time to be a perfectionist, do what you can, and let go.

If you’re in a relationship, things are changing. You’ll see things clearly next month, so don’t be in a hurry to make things right. If you’re single, you may find that you’re open to new ways of meeting people and perhaps even a different type of person. It’s all good.

Virgo (August 23^rd – September 22^nd)

The cosmic views for November for show that Virgos seek something more than success and power. You’re seeking a deeper meaning to your existence. When the spirit is strong, and in balance, you look to serve humanity, you have a desire to make a difference. This month your ruler, Mercury, joins Mars in a battle against the authority. You are not at peace with the situation that surrounds you. Voicing your opinion and power is always important, but timing is everything. So choose the moment carefully.

With Uranus in opposition to the Sun, you feel the change. It’s all around you. You’re on alert, and there is something you want to fight for. Venus in Libra is isolated for the first part of the month. Financially, you may feel restricted, don’t let it affect your creativity and confidence. Venus enters Scorpio on the 22^nd, and old anger reemerges. Scorpio energy brings up hidden wounds, and it’s important to remind yourself not to get stuck in the past.

The Full Moon on the 30^th in Gemini affects your career and goals. It’s time to decide about work, either adjust to the changes or move on. Have faith in yourself and your talents, and you’ll find your path – even if it’s a new one. Gemini rules your 10^th house of career, and you’re comfortable with juggling a lot of different things. You love variety. Use your skills to reposition yourself. If the world around you is changing, you need to adjust. Don’t ignore what is, or you’ll suffer later.

If you’re in a relationship, things are doing well. Whatever you had, is still in place, and if there is a difficult, you’ll get through it together. If you’re single, you’re not looking for anyone at the moment—too many other things to focus on.

Libra (September 23^rd – October 22^nd)

Libras represent truth – your truth. Stop worrying about what others think and do and focus on yourself and what you believe in. Towards the middle of the month, you may feel under attack, or you may be the aggressor. Either way, it may take you out of your comfort zone, but that’s where you need to be.

Mercury goes direct on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th, making it easier to get things done. However, the square both planets make to Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn slow everything down until next month. Life is uncomfortable, and finances are an issue. If you keep your center and proceed with clarity, you will get past the problem. The Sun opposite Uranus at the beginning of the month brings friendships into play. You may let go of a few friends or make some new ones, but change is inevitable in that area of your life. Venus is disconnected for the first half of the month, and you may feel isolated and alone.

Use this time to connect to yourself, go deeper into your feelings and desires to feel centered and strong. The Full Moon in Gemini on the 30^th brings your ideals and past choices under scrutiny. Are you striving for the right things? As you evolve, everything else needs some tweaking. Don’t be afraid to adjust. If you’re in a relationship, things are not going well. Bot of you are angry or holding on to resentment. If it’s not directed at you, you’ll still feel it. If you’re the focus of the problem, take responsibility for your part – but just your part. Remember, you determine your life, no one else.

If you’re single, it’s not a good time to meet someone else unless you want to share your anger and wounds. It’s important to get in touch with your feelings, whatever they may be.

Scorpio (October 23^rd – November 21^st)

Scorpio energy revolves around power and the ability to transform your life. This happens by first eliminating the superfluous. It’s difficult to rise above problems if you’re weighed down with what’s unimportant. If you do, you’ll feel stuck. Scorpio is about value, and for every person, it is different. And that’s what you need to be clear on – what’s important to you. If you have not defined those needs, it will be difficult to make good decisions.

Mercury goes direct on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th. This helps you feel that moving forward is finally possible. However, the square these two planets make to Jupiter, Saturn and Pluto, keeps you running in place until the end of the month. Mars rules your house of work, and this area of your life gets reenergized by the end of the month. Mercury enters your sign on the 11^th, and you may attempt to handle more than you should. Mercury is led by curiosity, not common sense. You have to bring that to the moment. Save your time and energy to handle the changes around you.

Getting lost in busywork is not a good idea. On the 22^nd, Venus joins the Sun and Mercury in your sign, and old injuries and jalousies resurface. Let go and let things flow. If you do, you’ll land on your feet and be stronger than before. By next month you’ll feel lighter and open to new ideas and paths. The Full Moon on the 30^th in Gemini, the ruler of your house of finance, opens the door to new ways to improve your income.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s been changing for a while, and if you’ve been able to adjust, then things are good. If you’re single, you’re almost ready for a relationship. Next month may bring you what you want.

Sagittarius (November 22^nd – December 21^st)

Sagittarius is a sign of inner strength. When you acknowledge your spirit, that invisible part of who you are, your intuition, motivation, and the faith you have in yourself, then limitations don’t exist. You are the sign of wisdom, which is nothing more than the sum-total of your experiences, the wins, and losses that taught you about yourself and the world. Jupiter, your ruler, is ending its journey through Capricorn, and by mid-December, it enters Aquarius – your independence and communication skills will improve.

Here is what the cosmic views say about the upcoming month.

Mercury goes direct on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th, shifting the energy toward forward movement. However, both planets are square Jupiter, Saturn, and Pluto. Although they regain their power, conflict is not removed until the end of the month. Don’t give up. Focus on your goals, and things will slowly begin to move forward. Don’t let hidden anger take over. Release anxiety through exercise and expressing your feelings. Anger serves no one.

Venus is isolated until the middle of the month when it squares Jupiter. Be careful of either over-spending or doing too much. Venus has few limits, and with Jupiter, the ones that exist tend to disappear. Venus enters Scorpio on the 22^nd, and the past with all its unresolved issues may reemerge. Whatever comes up, resolve it and let go. Set yourself free and lighten your load. The Full Moon in Gemini brings up issues in relationships. There is disagreement or conflict that may arise, and it will seem impossible to fix. Have a little patience. It will dissipate.

If you’re single, it’s not a good time for harmony in relationships. If you’re not with anyone, you only have to take care of yourself.

Capricorn (December 22^nd – January 19^th)

Capricorn is the sign of authority, authority over your life. You’re either living by everyone else’s rules, or you’re making your own. You want to express what makes you different and what you believe is right. Mercury and Mars go direct this month, Mercury, on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th. If the mail-in-votes are still being counted, we may know the results when either of these planets goes direct.

From around the 8^th to the 12^th, Uranus opposes the Sun, ruler of your 8^th house of joint finances. How you make your money may experience a change or adjustment. A new opportunity can present itself, so don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith. If you take charge of the moment, you’ll shape it and be happy with the results. The Full Moon on the 30^th happens in your 6^th house of work. It’s ruled by Gemini, which is often about the choices you make and how many different things you take on at one time. If you’ve been overloading yourself with work, you’ll feel it now. A Full Moon brings forth what needs to be seen.

Try to keep your center and be open to new ways of handling your environment. Venus enters Scorpio on the 22^nd, and friendships become important. In fact, they could lend you a helping hand. If you need help, reach out to those who are close to you. By next month, your finances should improve. New opportunities are presenting themselves, and if you’re open to change, you’ll do well.

If you’re in a relationship, you feel connected and strong. But the cosmic views show that there are a few problems to work out. If you’re single, life is crazy, and so is your love life. Enjoy it any way you can.

Aquarius (January 20^th – February 18^th)

Aquarius is the sign of independence and freedom. Your soul yearns to express its uniqueness. With the Sun and Uranus in opposition around the 8^th, be prepared for new opportunities and take a calculated risk. It’s important to move beyond your routine and experience new things. You have another month until Saturn and Jupiter enter your sign and shift things in your life in a major way. Even though Saturn can cause restrictions and limitations, it can also indicate where you focus your attention.

Saturn produces results, but not without doing the work. When you make a strong commitment, you change the energy you believe in gets energized. Mercury goes direct on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th. What was stuck begins to move. Whether it’s the results of the election or your personal life, things will get resolved. The Full Moon on the 30^th occurs in Gemini, your 5^th house of authority. It brings new options and opportunities.

Use this month to better position yourself, the world is changing, and if you adapt sooner than later, it will work in your favor. If you haven’t cleaned out your closets or rid yourself of nonessentials, this would be a great month to do so. Mercury and Mars in square to Saturn, Jupiter, and Pluto for the first half of the month, makes it challenging to get your message across. Don’t give up, be consistent, and believe in what you want. You have the power to create change and opportunity.

If you’re in a relationship, you may find yourself at opposite ends of a decision. Neither one of you will want to compromise. If you’re single, it’s more about expressing who you are than joining forces with someone new.

Pisces (February 19^th – March 20^th)

Pisces is the last sign of the zodiac, and it has the difficult challenge of bringing the past and the future together. What should you hold on to? What needs to change?

Here is some advice according to the cosmic views.

The key to Pisces is being in the moment. Be present, and you’ll know what you need and what to do. Mercury goes direct on the 4^th and Mars on the 14^th, beginning the difficult process of advancing. Change is slow, but at least it’s going in the right direction. Your biggest challenge is to know what you want and what you don’t. The clearer you are, the easier it is to achieve your goals. Mars rules your 2^nd house of finance, your clarity on how to manage your money improves.

Mercury square Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn make communication difficult or controversial. Try not to let how you feel get in the way of your message. Don’t push too hard to make a point. It won’t change any minds. The softer you speak, the more you’ll be heard. Venus, this month is out of touch with the rest of the planet. It’s in Libra, and relationships are not present. They’re taking care of themselves. You do the same, but be kind and thoughtful.

The Full Moon in Gemini on the 30^th brings issues around the home to a head. Stay centered and if it’s not important, let go. No one really wins now, so take the brownie points. In the long run, it will be in your favor. The good news is around work. If you want to be busy, you will be. The challenge is your mind, keep it positive, and all will be well. If you’re in a relationship, It’s under stress. Keep communication going and try not to shut down.

If you’re single, it’s difficult to connect with others. Everyone has some crisis they’re coping with. However, follow your heart. It will tell you what to do.

10 Reasons to Use Positive Words in Your Communications with Others

October 31, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Language is one of the most potent interactive cultural tools that humans have. One mouth can speak both words to uplift and those to destroy. When you use positive words, you have the power to encourage and help build self-esteem and make someone feel good.

Did you know that your brain is hardwired to process more negative information than positive? Scientists call this phenomenon the negativity bias. Humans tend to pay more attention to negative stimuli as a learning experience.

To be an effective communicator, you can overcome this negativity bias by challenging negative self-talk and using mindfulness exercises like meditation and mindful breathing. It can also help when you learn to reframe past events and change your attitude toward them.

Positive vs. Negative Personalities

Think of your favorite people to be around and find their common denominator. You’ll find that these people are often warm, genuine, funny, and use positive language. Their positive conversation and outlook on life influences you and makes you want to be close to them.

How do you react when you are around someone who is constantly spouting off negativity? Regardless of their blessings and the kindness others show them, they always find a reason to be gloomy. Negativity is also contagious and can eventually destroy you physically, mentally, and spiritually.

A negative personality can eventually influence even the most positive person. While you can avoid negative people, it’s not always possible if they are close family or your supervisors. Keep your optimistic attitude by keeping conversations with pessimists short, sweet, and on a surface level.

How Positive Words Affect Nature

It’s no big secret that people respond better to positive energy than they do to negativity. Numerous studies with plants demonstrate a link between speaking positive words to plants and their ability to thrive. The plants that were spoken to harshly not only didn’t thrive but some shriveled and died.

If plants thrive in an environment of kindness and positive communication, think how much humans do. Have you wanted to improve your communication skills in your personal and professional life?

Here are ten reasons to use positive words when you communicate with others.

1. Your Words have the Power to Speak Life or Death

The concept of cursing or hexing someone is a lingering superstition before recorded human history. However, your negative words have a strong impact on people’s psyche, especially your children and other loved ones.

If you are a person in a position of authority who uses negative speech to communicate with others, it is bound to affect morale in the workplace or home. When you use positive words in your conversation, you speak life and encouragement to those around you.

Even if you must reprimand someone, you’ll have more positive results if done with kindness and concern. Positive people attract positivity to themselves, such as positive relations and situations.

2. Positive Conversation Creates Gratitude

When you use positive words in your conversation, it’s easier to be grateful for others and what they contribute. Kind words that reflect a positive outlook often show how grateful you are. In turn, you become an inspiration of gratitude to others in your sphere of influence.

3. Upbeat Communication Empowers Others

Remember the pep rallies you attended in high school? The music, cheering, and hype created a positive atmosphere that your team needed to win the game. The gymnasium’s ecstatic charge empowered the players to use their skills and work as a team to beat their rivals.

It’s the same concept when you are conversing positively with others. Let them know how much you believe in them and that you know they can do anything. Employees are much more apt to do top performance work when management is supportive, encouraging, and positive.

4. Encouraging Interaction Improves Brainstorming

When you’re facing a challenge, a positive attitude can clear your brain for fresh inspiration. Naysaying does nothing but hinders the creative thinking process. Have you ever been to a planning meeting that got nothing accomplished?

Whatever positive point you pose, the Negative Nelly in the group is quick to staunch it with a pessimistic spin. It’s difficult to deal with these negative attitudes in life.

Being positive in a brainstorming meeting doesn’t mean that your head is in the clouds. Use positive words to discuss alternatives and other choices that can be made to remedy the situation. If there are some negative aspects of the problem, try to combat it with positivity.

5. Turn Your Negative Speak into Positive Statements

Effective communicators know how to take a negative issue and spin it into a positive light. For example, assume you have an employee who is chronically late with his monthly reports. You can reprimand and say, “You never get your reports in on time. Why can’t you do your job?”

By using this tone, you’ve automatically downgraded his esteem, and you’ve put him in a defensive mode. Now, take the same situation and turn the communication into a positive statement.

Try saying, “I see that turning in monthly reports on time can be a challenge for you. Are there some ways we can rearrange your workload, so you’ll have more time to do them?”

In the second example, you’ve not sugar-coated the situation. The employee still has the issue and a responsibility to fix it. However, your positive approach makes it a team effort and allows the employee to solve problems more efficiently.

6. Positive Conversation in a Love Relationship

Even couples who are head over heels in love still have problems and disagreements. How do you relate to your lover? Do you find yourself bringing up the positive aspects of your relationship, or does negativity overshadow the conversation?

Statements that begin with “You always” or “You never” are not only unhelpful in a discussion, but they do more to undermine your relationship. Instead of using the words “I” or “you,” try to use “we” when you find a solution to a problem. When you say “we,” it becomes a situation that you can overcome together.

7. Your Tone Matters

Did you know that your tone and body language can say as much as your words? If your body language isn’t congruent with your speech, your words will be perceived as dishonest.

Take time to listen to the tone and volume of your voice when you speak with others. If your facial expressions and tone aren’t cordial, you can say the sweetest things, which will all seem negative.

Practice smiling, using active listening skills, and neutral body language.

8. Find Ways to Build People Up

It often said that it takes a little person to put down another human being. Use positive words to uplift people and put a ray of sunshine in their day. Positive communication includes noticing things about others and offering them a genuine compliment.

Offering an encouraging word goes a long way to boost people’s spirits. It costs you nothing to be kind to someone, yet the positive effect can be priceless.

9. Share Your Enthusiasm

It’s hard to be around someone positive and enthusiastic and not have it affect you. Both attitudes are contagious and draw people. Do you create a positive atmosphere when you enter the room?

It’s much easier to communicate with others when you have a welcoming smile that shows that you are willing to hear what others say.

10. Don’t Gossip About Other People

The late Eleanor Roosevelt didn’t achieve what she did in life by being negative and petty. She is credited with saying with bringing others together and encouraging positivity.

Anyone can jump on the bandwagon and gossip about others without knowing the individuals or the facts.

Have you ever felt the heaviness in the room when someone is speaking negatively about another person?

This type of negative communication may appeal to some people, but it eventually makes the hearers feel untrusting and bitter. If you are around someone who is constantly gossiping about others, rest assured that she is probably gossiping about you, too.

Final Thoughts on Using Positive Words

When you frame a conversation with positive words, you create an atmosphere conducive to sharing ideas and compromising. Even when you must address a negative situation, you can still use positive tools to find a solution. Remember that your words have power, so use them wisely for the greater good.

Be the encourager that helps lift someone’s spirits today and put a bounce in their step. When you give to others, it helps to lift your mood and make you feel good too. Giving back and speaking love and kind words to others make the world a better place to be.

5 Effective Ways To Achieve A Near-Perfect Work-Life Balance

October 31, 2020 by Lakeisha Ethans

Do you ever feel like your life is a juggling act? You have to manage your work, personal life, your family’s expectations, other errands and chores, and all while continuing to do your best and work on yourself. It’s certainly no easy task, and it can be daunting to many people achieve a work-life balance.

Those who fail to juggle their responsibilities properly often find themselves exhausted, drained, and unable to meet any aspect of their life requirements suitably. Those who work too hard burn out and lose meaningful bonds and joys. Conversely, those who spend too much time relaxation wind up being unable to progress in their careers.

Of course, the solution is not to go to either extreme, but to learn to balance these different parts of your world, so they play well together. But how? Here are 5 effective ways to achieve a near-perfect work-life balance.

1. Determine What Your Priorities Are

You can have any work-life balance if you don’t figure out what you’re supposed to balance in the first place. This is where determining your personal priorities comes into play. What are your general priorities in life? What are your priorities at work? How about at home?

Everyone has a different set of priorities, and there’s nothing wrong with having ones that aren’t the same as many other people’s. All that matters is that your priorities work for you and get you where you want to go in life.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you determine your priorities:

What are the things most important to me?
Which things are non-negotiable?
What should I start doing?
What should I stop doing?
Which things should I continue doing?
What should I do differently?
What should I do more?
How can I do less?
How are these priorities serving me?
Are these priorities skewed or accurate?
How do I need to adjust my priorities?

2. Maintain Your Health

Work-life balance is quick to fall off-kilter when your health isn’t in order. Your physical and mental health needs to be in tip-top shape, or you’ll see the negative effects permeating your personal life, work, and free time. Here are some things to incorporate into your life that can help maintain your good health:

· Exercise

Regular exercise can have huge benefits on the body, from improving mood and positive thinking to boosting your life expectancy. Aim to exercise at least thrice weekly or to meet a total of 150 minutes of elevated heart rate a week.

· Food

You don’t have to maintain a perfect diet, but balanced meals with good nutritional value are ideal for your health. Make sure you eat breakfast every day to give you the energy you need to power you through the day. Believe it or not, research really does show that it’s the most important meal of the day – its quality can dictate your mental and physical health!

· Sleep

You should aim to get between seven and nine hours of sleep every night – never less and, ideally, not more. Sleeping too little can cause a huge number of health-related problems and lead to poor work performance and concentration issues. Sleeping too much can also have similar effects, believe it or not! According to studies, both extremes can increase the risks of obesity, cardiovascular issues, and similar problems.

· Avoid Vices

Vices like alcohol, tobacco, and drugs are often turned to when you’re tired and need some stress relief, but they’re just bad news. They increase stress levels in the long run and typically can have severe negative effects on the body. At the end of the day, these vices will only cause you damage.

Taking care of your health in these ways can seem simple and arbitrary, but the positive effects you gain are significant. For example, you get:

A stronger immune system
Higher energy levels
Better productivity
More engagement from your brain and body
Improved mental clarity
More positive mood
Lower levels of stress

3. Learn To Say No

In this day and age, people are often expected to be yes-men who never say no and always take all opportunities that come their way. This can be quite a tiring way to live, as it never gives you a break that you likely need. But saying “no” when you’re not used to doing so can be a bit of a struggle. Here are some tips to help you on your way!

· Know Your Limits and Boundaries

Everyone needs boundaries, and people who say yes too often may have forgotten to set them up. Start being aware of how much you can put on your plate before you’re tiring yourself out and learn to stop accepting anything new once your plate starts filling up.

· Say “I Don’t,” Not, “I Can’t.”

The phrase “I can’t” isn’t substantial – it sounds like an excuse that challenges others to counter it. But with “I don’t,” you’re conveying a clear message about where your boundaries lie. Does it seem arbitrary? Maybe. But people have more positive results saying “no” when they say “I don’t,” as it simply gets intentions across more clearly.

· Be Assertive

Others might try to push you into changing your mind – don’t let them! Caving into these requests tells others that your decision can shift if they push you hard enough. Don’t let that be what they learn about you! Instead, be clear and decisive. Better yet, don’t be afraid to be just as pushy as those demanding something out of you!

· Offer Explanations

You don’t really owe anyone an explanation for saying “no,” but it might help you feel happier with your decision if you soothe their disappointment for those closest to you. Provide a clear, honest explanation of why you’re unable to be of any assistance at this moment and, if it’s something you’re capable of doing, offer to make it up to them in the future.

4. Allocate Daily “Life” Time

Things can get very hectic when you’re a go-getter with a lot of work to do. But don’t forget to set aside a little time every day for yourself, enjoyment, and things that don’t work. Filling up your days with nothing but tasks can drain your energy, ultimately resulting in burnout and difficulty continuing your efforts.

But what kind of time should you allocate? Here are some ideas:

· One Hour To Yourself

Dedicate one hour every day to yourself and your me-time. During this space, you can do absolutely anything you want as long as it is not-work related. Read a book, participate in a hobby, learn a new skill, do some self-reflection, pamper yourself… the possibilities are endless! Over time, you’ll be improving yourself and making sure you get some rest time so you can return to work fully refreshed. The best part? Instead of always saying you never have time, you’ll always have a little bit of time every day to spare!

· One Thing You Love

It is a similar concept to the previous idea, but for those who truly have even less time than to spare. Take some time to do one thing that you genuinely love and make it a habit to do that thing simultaneously every day, for the same duration, over a prolonged period to form a habit. It can be absolutely anything you like – reading, meditating, watching a show, cooking, playing with pets… again, the possibilities are endless.

· Family Time

If you live with family – whether your parents, a spouse, and children, or even found family – then it’s a good idea to set aside time for them every day. Yes, your work is important, but your loved ones are even more so. Let’s put it this way – no one, on their deathbed, ever wishes they spent more time at the office. Your family and loved ones are the people who matter most to you and will fulfill you so much more than any material objects ever will. Try to remember that!

5. Have Limits And Schedules

Achieving a perfect work-life balance requires structure and, at first, strict monitoring. Over time, this will become more natural to you, and you won’t need to stick to a firm, rigid schedule to maintain balance. For now, though, it’s a good idea to properly outline personal limits and create a schedule that helps you stay true to your boundaries. Here are some tips for doing that:

· Make Schedules Based On Tracked Time

First, determine how much time you spend on different tasks. Then, arrange the tasks you absolutely have to do on a reasonable schedule for the week. Then, sprinkle in your personal me-time and non-work appointments. Finally, if you like, you can add any additional non-crucial work tasks to fill in the gaps here and there. Sure, you can’t always follow a timetable directly, but it certainly helps to have a guideline.

· Don’t Bring Work Home

Work is meant to be done in one place – your work environment. It’s a bad idea all around to start bringing it out of the office with you. Once work infiltrates your free time, your home, and the rest of your life, you’ll find it very hard to leave it behind again. Have trouble putting work out of your mind once you’ve clocked out? Schedule something for post-work hours, such as going to the gym, meeting a friend, or running some non-work-related errands. This will form a transitional period that allows you to move from work to the rest of your personal life in a smooth, unforced manner.

· Set And Communicate Your Boundaries

What are some aspects of work and life that are important to you? How can you protect them? Set up your boundaries and then inform those involved, if applicable, about them. These boundaries can include not checking work emails while at home, not working overtime unless there’s an emergency, or setting up an hour on non-work days to catch up on extra work from the week.

Final Thoughts On Some Effective Ways To Achieve A Near-Perfect Work-Life Balance

Work-life balance can be tough to achieve. Still, it’s possible to set your priorities well, take care of your health, learn how to say “no,” allocate enough me-time to yourself, and schedule out your time. It can be a little overwhelming, but keep your positive thinking! You’re more than capable of finding ways to walk that fine but important line!

Psychological Study Confirms: Kids Need Less Screen Time and More Green Time

October 31, 2020 by Kristen Lawrence

Today’s children get far too much screen time and far too little green time. Children have started to use technology at earlier ages, which can cause mental and behavioral problems. Until the last decade or so, kids spent their evenings playing outdoors or riding bikes with friends. Past generations didn’t have to contend with so much technology at their fingertips and had the freedom to explore the world around them.

Of course, kids today still have ample opportunities to enjoy nature, but the parents tend to park them in front of screens. Various educational apps do serve an essential purpose, but children still need green time for their development. Sadly, the use of tablets and smartphones among young children only seems to be increasing with time. According to an alarming report by Common Sense Media, almost half of young children have their tablets.

Here are some of the significant findings on screen time among kids 0-8:

Since 2013, the amount of time young kids spend on mobile devices has tripled from 15 minutes to 48 minutes a day in 2017.
On average, kids have around 2 hours and 19 minutes of screen time per day. This includes mobile devices as well as computers, TVs, video games, and DVDs. Sadly, the average TV time per day was only 10 minutes longer than the average time on mobile devices.
Nearly 49 percent of children ages eight and under falling asleep using some type of media. This may mean playing on tablets, watching TV, or playing video games. Also, 42 percent of parents say they have the TV on “always” or “most of the time,” even if no one is watching.
On average, kids from lower-income families spend 1 hour and 39 minutes more per day on screen media than children from higher-income families.
95% of families with kids 0-8 have smartphones, an increase from 41% in 2011.
98% of homes with kids 0-8 had a mobile device, up from 52% in 2011.
Fewer than half of children under two years old read along with their parents daily. However, parents may use social media for reading and educational purposes.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children between the ages of two and five spend a maximum of one hour daily using these digital screens. They also recommend setting limits for kids older than six to around one hour per day of high-quality programs. Children younger than two should only use digital media with parents for video chatting family members.

Older children and teens also need more green time.

Media use among older children and teenagers is especially troubling. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported the following screen time among kids 8-18:

Among children ages 8-10, kids spend an average of 6 hours per day on media devices.
Children 9-14 spend a whopping 9 hours a day on average behind screens.
For kids 15-18, it drops off slightly to an average of 7.5 hours per day.

Sadly, this means that most children in today’s world spend nearly half their waking hours on mobile devices. This may not even include the time they spend on technology during school hours. Teenagers have seen a considerable increase in rates of anxiety, depression, and suicide over the years. Experts believe that social media and smartphones play a large role in the mental health epidemic. (click to tweet)

In our always-on society, it seems difficult to put down the phones and get some green time in our lives. However, children especially need access to the outdoors to help with their development and social connections. Experts have observed troubling behaviors in kids who spend too much time in front of screens and too little in nature. Below, we’ll talk about the importance of green spaces for kids’ mental and physical health.

Here’s why children need less screen time and more green time:

According to a study published in the journal PLOS ONE, young people had better health when they spent more time in nature. While this might not seem surprising, the study may encourage parents to keep children engaged in more outdoor activities. Mental health seems to suffer when people spend too much time on screens and too little in nature.

The positive outcomes of more green time:

Because of the infatuation with smartphones, children and teens spend much less time outdoors than they used to. However, green time boosts health in many ways, such as:

increased physical activity
social connections made in parks and urban gardens
reduced air and noise pollution in green spaces, which promotes good mental health
regulates circadian rhythm because of the exposure to sunlight
improves sleep
reduces stress
boosts cognitive functioning and concentration

The negative impacts of excessive screen time:

In this particular study, researchers observed the following adverse effects of too much screen time:

depressive symptoms
conduct problems
emotional problems
negative affect
short-temperedness
sleep problems
somatic complaints
poor attention span
executive function impairment
memory and learning issues
lower happiness levels
poor academic performance

The study on the lack of green time

Tassia Oswald and colleagues published the previously mentioned PLOS ONE study at the University of Adelaide. Research in the past typically investigated the effects of screen time and green time separately. However, Oswald and her team aimed to understand how both factors combine to contribute to or harm mental health and cognitive abilities. They analyzed the findings of 186 studies to gather evidence about the links between screen time, green time, and psychological outcomes. This data included mental health, cognitive functioning, and academic performance for children and teenagers.

In general, they found that high usage of media devices caused adverse psychological outcomes. Green time seemed to result in more favorable mental health. It’s unclear how young people from low socioeconomic backgrounds are affected, as they were underrepresented in the study. The researchers say this group will be a priority in future research efforts.

However, the team still needs to do more research overall into the effects of decreasing screen time and increasing green time. Preliminary evidence suggests that green time could potentially ease the harmful effects of too much screen time. This means that nature may be an under-utilized (and usually free) remedy for the adverse effects of technology. Researchers will continue to study this in the future to determine recommendations about screen and green time.

Oswald said this:

“This systematic scoping review highlights that nature may currently be an under-utilised public health resource, which could potentially function as an upstream preventative and psychological well-being promotion intervention for children and adolescents in a high-tech era. However, robust evidence is needed to guide policies and recommendations around appropriate screen time and green time at critical life stages, to ultimately ensure optimal psychological well-being for young people.”

As parents of young children, especially, it’s essential to monitor their usage of technology and set limits. They should only use tablets or smartphones for educational purposes or to video chat with family members. For adolescents, parents should remain involved in their children’s online activity and keep lines of communication open. Teens are vulnerable because of cyberbullying and comparing themselves to others, which promotes low self-esteem.

The results of the study

Phones and tablets have essential places in our society and can significantly aid with education and raising awareness for specific issues. However, they should never substitute for in-person relationships or be used as an escape from problems. Children still need love and attention from parents for development and well-being. Teenagers require this as well, plus healthy relationships with peers at school.

Parents need to take responsibility for their children’s exposure to online activities and enforce rules and limitations. They can still use technology for school and socializing, but they also need time for relaxation and nature. We have started to lose an important connection with ourselves because of our constant attachment to technology. However, we can restore our inner peace and happiness by carving out more green time in our lives.

Final thoughts on why children need less screen time and more green time

Studies have found that children who spend too much time on technology tend to suffer emotionally and psychologically. They do poorer in school, have difficulties socializing, and in general, have worse health overall. Kids who spend more time in nature report more positive mental health and less stress. Time outdoors also gives kids a chance to socialize and make new friends. Technology does serve an essential purpose in modern life, but it needs to be used as a tool, not a crutch.

Parents can teach their kids to maintain a healthy relationship with technology by monitoring their usage. They can also take children to parks and set up playdates with other kids to enable more green time. While technology may be here to stay, children still haven’t evolved to use it for hours at a time. Hopefully, society as a whole will find a healthy balance between technology and nature.

It’s clear that we need both of them in the modern world, but our connection to nature doesn’t have to suffer as a consequence.

10 Myths About Midlife Crisis That Are Rarely True

October 30, 2020 by Power of Positivity

When you were in your teens and early twenties, you never worried about getting older. At that phase of life, it feels like you have all the time in the world. Sadly, time seems to sneak up on you–some call this phase, “midlife crisis.”

Before you know it, you have aches and pains that seem amplified with the weather changes. When you look in the mirror in the morning, do you fear that a midlife crisis is on its way?

Depending on gender, race, and lifestyle variables, an American’s average age expectancy is currently 78 years old. If you divide that number into half, the midpoint of life would be 39 years. Some people consider turning 40 as the beginning of their middle-age decline, while others say it begins at 50.

Is there such a thing as a midlife crisis? Is the sum of your life only calculated from birth to middle age? Are you destined for a mental breakdown when you reach that dreaded number, or is it more hype than truth?

Midlife Studies

The term midlife crisis was coined in 1965 by Elliott Jacques, a Canadian psychoanalyst. During his research that lasted for nearly a quarter of a century, Jacques believed that when people reach the midpoint of their lives, they become depressed and do uncharacteristic things to stop the process of aging.

Decades later, psychologists and social scientists have taken another look at the supposed condition called a mid-life crisis. Some say that a few points of the theory may be valid, while others doubt it even happens. They agree that your body does go through hormone fluctuations and other physical challenges as you age, but they’re not sure it’s an actual crisis.

Of course, nobody wants to get older. The new aches and pains and fine lines and wrinkles you discover are subtle reminders of your mortality. But does reaching 40 or 50 mean that a midlife crisis is imminent?

Ten Midlife Crisis Myths to Debunk

If you are close to middle age or are already there, you needn’t feel that such a midlife disaster is unavoidable. Many middle-aged people claim that these have proven to be the best years of their lives. Here are ten midlife crisis myths debunked.

Myth #1. Everyone Experiences It

Have you been led to believe that you will also have a midlife crisis since other family members experienced a midlife crisis? There’s no evidence to support that because this as everyone has individual experiences. In a national research project conducted by Midlife in the United States, only about 26 percent of the participants claimed to have experienced a crisis between ages 40-50.

Some people may use this so-called life dilemma as an excuse to spend uncontrollably or become uncharacteristically promiscuous. It could be that some people go through these states of uncertainty due to society’s power of suggestion. You may have some depression and soul searching, but it doesn’t mean you will have a complete break with reality when you reach middle age.

Myth #2. Your Life is Almost Over

Reaching the midpoint of your life expectancy may create the illusion that your life is on a downward swing. It depends if your viewpoint is optimistic or pessimistic. Do you see the glass half-full or half-empty?

Remember that nobody is promised tomorrow, so each moment is a gift to be accepted with joy and gratitude. Russian culture has a lovely way of viewing the middle-age years. When they experience a warm weather shift after an autumn cold snap, they call it Babuletta. It comes from an old Russian term for a middle-aged lady when she is in her prime beauty.

Other cultures worldwide also view middle age and the process of getting older with dignity and respect. Could it be that the Western world’s unrealistic ideals make people dread middle age so much that it turns into a crisis? Your life isn’t over until you die.

Myth #3. It Happens after Your Parents Pass Away

As Americans live longer, you are more apt to have one or both of your parents still alive when you reach your 40s and 50s. The death of a parent is devastating, no matter how old you are. You may feel like you’ve lost your foundation and the loving support you’ve had all your life.

True, some people have psychological breakdowns due to the grief of losing a parent. Losing both parents makes you feel orphaned at any age, and, understandably, your grief would be unbearable. However, most people cope through the loss with support from family, friends, and faith, and they don’t experience a midlife crisis.

Myth #4. You’ll Never Get Over Empty Nest Syndrome

Another milestone you reach in life at middle age is your children becoming adults and leaving the nest. It will take some time to adjust to having more space in your home and not seeing your adult kids every day. Some parents go into a deep depression with empty nest syndrome, but it doesn’t always culminate in a midlife crisis.

Myth #5. Change of Life is Always Negative

Yes, there are some negative points about getting older. However, have you considered the advantages of reaching middle age? It may be difficult for a while when your kids leave the nest but think of all the extra space you will gain. Plus, you will have more time to do the things you have always wanted to do.

Most car insurance companies give you a discount as you get older, and you may be eligible for other savings and perks. You may also have different options to invest in your retirement plan with many years in a company. Being middle-aged is hardly not the end of your journey. No wonder they call it “The Golden Years.”

Myth #6: The New Sports Car and Overboard Spending

Here is one of the most significant Hollywood stereotypes of the middle-aged man. He sees that his youthful days are behind him, and he needs something flashy and expensive to make up for it. Don’t most people assume that when they see a man in his 40s or 50s riding around in a swanky new sports car, he is going through a midlife crisis?

Overspending can happen at any age for both men and women. Some people become chronic shoppers and nearly bankrupt themselves on buying frivolous things to try to impress others. If you have an addictive personality, you may go into a spending frenzy in your middle years, but you might not.

Myth #7: Trade Your Old Spouse in for a Newer Model

Some people try to use a middle-age crisis as a reason to get a lover on the side, especially men. Sorry guys, there’s no excuse for cheating on your spouse, nor is it an excuse for the ladies. True, all marriages have their ups and downs, but reaching middle-age doesn’t mean it’s time to call it quits.

You will often see men who have been married for years suddenly divorce their wives and marry women half their age. It’s another stereotypical scenario. If a man or a woman is cheating on their spouses or trades them in for someone younger, the marriage may have been on the rocks years before they hit middle age.

Myth #8: Trying to Dress and Act Younger

According to their definition, today’s society and Hollywood put intense pressure on everyone to stay young, thin, and sexy. It often leaves no room for those who embrace their beauty and style. Recent reports show that the beauty industry is worth about $532 billion and growing.

It’s ok to be yourself and grow old gracefully. Do you think celebrities are fooling anyone with the outlandish cosmetic surgeries, hair plugs and wigs, and clownish makeup? Have you ever felt sorry for that soccer dad in his forties but is trying to dress like his 15-year-old son?

Love your body and learn how to dress age-appropriately. You needn’t try to trick anyone by dressing or acting younger than you are. You’re only fooling yourself.

Myth #9: Crisis of Faith or Belief System

The words of Socrates remind us that an unexamined life isn’t worth living. At some point, you may have a crisis of faith and begin to doubt what you’ve been taught. It isn’t automatic as soon as you hit your 40th or 50th birthday.

There comes a time when you examine your faith as you see it, not as you were told. There are inconsistencies, misinterpretations, and a history of corrupt power in all religions. However, you can make an informed decision to keep your belief system, amend it, or walk away from it. Frequently, a crisis of faith can make you more spiritually open and stronger.

Myth #10: Leave Your Career to Do Something Crazy

History overflows with stories about people who became disenchanted with their lifetime careers and made a midlife change for something they enjoyed. Hollywood has spoofed the midlife career change with characters who leave lucrative careers to become farmers, circus clowns, or professional hikers.

Granted, life is too short to stay stuck in something that you despise. If you want a career change, you needn’t wait until you are middle-aged. You also don’t have to wait until a crisis hits you to take that cruise or European backpack vacation you’ve always dreamed of.

Final Thoughts on Dispelling the Myth of a Midlife Crisis

We are all different, and there’s no definite point in life that demands that you fall to pieces. While many people do battle a typical midlife crisis, it’s not a sign that you will. You only get one chance to live life to the fullest, so there’s no reason to worry about age. Just enjoy every minute of every day.

10 Ways to Be More Positive (Even During Struggles)

October 30, 2020 by Sarah Barkley

If you want to be more positive, there are many ways you can work to do it. Even during hard times, when you are struggling, you can be more positive if you have the right mindset. With some changes, you can make your life and your positivity all the time.

Developing this mindset likely means making some changes to your life. These changes will be for the better, however, and they will quickly become welcome habits. The changes will help you with overcoming negativity and living a happier life, even amidst hardship.

Not everyone naturally has a positive mindset, but anyone can learn to develop one. Following these tips will help put you on the right path if you want to be more positive. After a short time, the changes you make will become a habit, and it won’t take so much work anymore.

You deserve to live the best life you possibly can. Negativity will not allow that to be possible. Make sure to work on being more positive so you can be happy in all moments of your life.

Ten Ways to Be More Positive Every Single Day

Here are ten actionable tips you can try to maintain your positivity.

1. Spend Time with Positive People

The people you surround yourself with play a big role in your positivity or negativity. If you spend your time with positive people, you will experience more positivity, even during struggles. Likewise, if you spend your time with negative people, you’ll experience negativity.

Don’t let other people bring you down. Instead, spend your time with those who bring positivity. Choose people who bring out the best in you and encourage you to be your best. They will support you during the hard times and help you through.

It’s important to remove the negative people from your life. They are toxic, and it can harm your mindset, even if you try not to let them. Negative people will keep pulling you back down instead of helping to lift you.

Life will throw you off balance, but a grateful heart won’t let that stop you. (tweet this)

2. Show and Express Your Gratitude

One sure way to be more positive is to practice gratitude. Doing this will give you a positive perspective because you’ll remember what is most important in your life.

You’ll think about all the things you have and the people who love you. Gratitude will help you through even the hardest times while still staying positive. Anytime you feel negativity setting in, mentally think of all the things you are grateful for.

In particularly struggling times, it may be hard for you to remember all the great things in your life. If that is the situation you are in right now, consider some of these things:

-gainful employment

-a bed to sleep in

-the sun shining

-a smile from a stranger

-your loved ones

-a healthy body

You could begin keeping a gratitude journal to help you remember all these great things. Write in it each day and list a couple of things you are grateful for, no matter how small. When you are struggling to stay positive, pull out your journal, and read over some of your old entries.
When you write in a gratitude journal daily, you may not struggle to remember good things, either. It will become a habit to identify the good each day, allowing you always to stay positive. This habit will help you identify the good things during struggling moments, too.

3. Improve Your Posture

If you are struggling to be more positive, your posture could have a huge impact. Instead of slouching, stand up or sit up straight with your shoulders back and chin high.

If it helps, stretch your arms out for a couple of moments as it’ll help you feel more powerful and positive. When you make these changes, it will help you be more positive. After a while, your posture and positive mindset will become habits that you won’t have to think about anymore.

4. Smile Even When You Don’t Feel Like It

Many people don’t know that you can trick yourself into being more positive. By smiling when you don’t want to, you will send a signal to your brain that you should be happy. Then, you’ll experience a boost in your mood.

Smile when you are at work or out in public. You can even smile while you are sitting at home if you are feeling down. It doesn’t matter where you are. This simple trick can make a huge difference.

Keep in mind that if you smile at someone else, they will likely smile back. Not only does smiling boost your mood, but receiving a smile from someone else will, too. Then, both you and the person who smiled back will experience a boost in your emotional well-being.

5. Do Something Nice When You Don’t Have To

When you do nice things for people, you’ll experience a boost in your mood and feel more positive. Donating to a charity or helping a friend or family member are great ways to do this. Or, you can do a random act of kindness for a stranger.

No matter what you choose to do or who you choose to do it for, it’ll be beneficial to you. When you do this, it allows you to forget about your troubles and focus on someone else. It’ll give you a new perspective and allow you to live a more positive life.

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6. Call a Friend or Family Member

When you have strong relationships with your loved ones, you’ll experience more positivity. Just a few close people in your life can make all the difference. These people should be the ones that are supportive and are there for you.

When you’re going through a difficult moment, think of the person you can call. Whether they can help you with your situation or just talk to you about it, it’ll leave you feeling more positive. However, if you choose to isolate yourself, it’ll only make the situation worse and cause negative thoughts.

7. Watch Your Thoughts for Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk is one of the most detrimental things you can do to yourself. It’s unproductive and offers no positive or effective solution to your problem. Don’t be so hard on yourself, and remember that you can get through any struggle positively.

When you notice your thoughts or words are negative ones, change them. Make an effort to think positively and say good things to yourself instead. Then you can have more positive energy and produce better results.

8. Always Look for Something Positive

Even in the hardest moments, look for something to be positive about. Any little thing will help boost your spirits and foster positivity.

You could think about the sun shining or your favorite song playing on the radio. Even seeing a nice bouquet or field of flowers could be your positive moment.

Other times, it may not be so easy to recognize something positive, but it is there if you look for it. Even if the positive thing is that you had a learning experience, it will help you feel better. No matter what the situation is, always look for something positive, and you’ll experience positivity.

9. Celebrate Everything You Can

You don’t have to wait for major events to celebrate. Instead, you can celebrate little things like completing an assignment or finish your to-do list.

When you celebrate these smaller things, you’re giving more meaning to your life. Plus, it’ll give you something to look forward to once the task is done. This will make the tasks easier to handle and help you be less stressed.

10. Get Adequate Rest

Sleep is essential when it comes to your mental health. If you don’t get enough sleep, you are sure to become stressed out and negative. The longer the lack of sleep continues, the more negative you will become.

According to the National Institutes of Health, you should try to get at least seven hours of sleep each night. This way, you can start your day positively and continue it that way.

If you do this, you will be well-rested, less irritable, and think more clearly. This will help avoid negative thinking and negative self-talk and promote constant positivity.

Final Thoughts on Finding New Ways to Be More Positive

Life can’t always be perfect, and there will be struggles, but you can still work to be more positive. When you do, the hard times won’t be as difficult to handle, and you’ll be happier. Plus, you’ll produce better work and have a more positive influence on your relationships.

It all comes down to your perspective in life and the environments you spend time in. By making some of the changes mentioned, you will be on the right path to a more positive lifestyle. Not all of the changes will be easy immediately, but give yourself time and grace, and you will get there.

By doing so, you’ll be allowing yourself to be more positive even during struggles. You’ll see the learning opportunities and positivity in every situation you encounter.

Psychology Explains Why Being Single Is Better Than a Toxic Relationship

October 30, 2020 by Power of Positivity

You’ve been there – you get a sick feeling in your stomach as anxiety overcomes you because you know you’re in a toxic relationship. Things aren’t working anymore, and it seems that all you two do is fight, nitpick, and nag each other to death. Perhaps, there could be more serious issues like infidelity, or your life goals don’t align.

The hardest part about being at this relationship stage is knowing that you need to end things but not having the courage or strength to do it. Some people find comfort in unhealthy relationships because it’s what’s familiar to them. Others fear jumping back into the dating pool where they perceive the fish as piranhas or sharks.

When you suffer from a breakup, it can be emotionally taxing on you. Not to mention dodging all the questions from friends and family members who want to know why things didn’t work out. Reliving the story as you tell each one can be a daunting task.

However, there’s nothing worse than staying in a toxic relationship. A study conducted by the University of Ontario showed that 18 percent of people stay in relationships long past the expiration date because they are afraid of being single. So if you’ve waited too long because you’re scared of going solo, then you are not alone.

When Do You Know It’s the Right Time to Go?

The toxicity from your relationship can affect your self-esteem and also cloud your judgment. Before you consider giving up on a man or woman you’ve invested a great deal of time and energy into, you need to determine if it’s a toxic partnership or if it’s one that can be saved.

All couples will have troubles, and how you handle these difficulties measures your strength. If there is more good in your relationship than bad, then perhaps there are things that you can work on together. The problem could be that you haven’t had much time together due to work and other obligations.

Another issue may be that one of you is still reeling from problems regarding a previous breakup. While these are issues, they are not ones that can’t be resolved. If you put a little bit of effort into making each other number one, then you might be able to salvage things.

Now on the flip side, a toxic relationship can cause you a great deal of stress in many areas of your life. When you sit back and look at all the wrong things, you may not see something that can change even with effort. One issue that may affect you emotionally is a lack of respect or commitment from your lover.

You should never put up with someone who doesn’t treat you with respect. Did you know that many studies have been conducted on how toxic relationships can affect your psyche? Whitehall II handled a particularly interesting one in 1985.

This study examined 10,000 participants over 12 years. The people in this experiment confessed to being in toxic relationships that brought them great distress. Of particular interest was that people with lower social standings seemed to have more negative relationships than those with high social classes.

The most important thing that the study showed was that people who had toxic relationships in their inner circle were more apt to develop cardiac trouble. The relationships of those closest to you can be the most poisonous, affecting your health. What will it take if that doesn’t give you a good enough reason to cut the cord?

Each person is born with an intuitive nature about them. You feel things in your gut that let you know it’s time to move on. Don’t waste your time or energy second-guessing these feelings, as your gut will better predict your happiness in a relationship than your heart.

Why Being Single Is Better Than Staying in a Toxic Relationship

Being single isn’t so bad. You probably have false memories of how lonely it was, but being single has many advantages. You can prepare for your new life once you cut the ties that bind.

Remember, rebound relationships are usually bad news, so you mustn’t jump right back into the ocean looking for another fish. Instead, it would help if you focused on all the things you can do that you were held back from before.

Do you have a bucket list? It would help if you started fulfilling that list of difficult things to do when you’re in a relationship. You will be more attractive to someone when you are a person that loves life and lives it to the fullest.

Just think of all the connections you will make while you’re out there, fulfilling the things you’ve always wanted to do. You’re happiest in life when you’re productive and experiencing new and exciting things.

Six Reasons to Be Alone Instead of in a Toxic Relationship

If you’re struggling with being single, then here are some reasons why being a party of one isn’t so bad.

1. Single People Tend to Be Healthier

Now is the time for you to focus on your health. You can lose weight and boost your immunity. Many people in relationships say they don’t have time to exercise.

However, once you break off that toxic person from your life, you have more time to focus on your health.

2. They Are Better at Making and Saving Money

When only one of you can feed, clothe, and pay utilities on, you can save money. Plus, you can use this time to enhance your career by furthering your education or changing jobs.

You can transfer to another state or country if you don’t have someone holding you back. Doors may open you never thought possible. Many single people are better at saving money because they can learn to live on less.

3. They Have More Time

You don’t have to rush home after work every night to slave over a hot stove. You can pick up a new hobby and surround yourself with new and exciting people. It might be possible for you to join a book or wine-tasting club. Your imagination only limits your options.

4. Single People Love Philanthropy

Many people rush to take antidepressant drugs when life hands them blows they can’t overcome. However, one of the greatest medications you can take to help your mind is altruism.

When a breakup with that toxic individual has knocked you to rock bottom, use your energy to help others go through the same thing. Helping humanity balances the toxicity and allows you to rebuild your self-esteem.

You will find contentment in life by volunteering at a charity event or a soup kitchen. Here, you will learn how blessed you are and learn to give back to others.

5. They Have More Time for Family and Friends

Now that you won’t have the old ball and chain hanging around your feet, you can be free to visit friends and family. You won’t have to worry about missing weddings, family reunions, or other events because you lack the time or your toxic partner didn’t want to go.

6. They Reap Emotional Rewards from Solitude and Self-Sufficiency

Some people like being alone. It doesn’t mean that you want to be alone all the time, but you like the peace that comes from being the only person in the house.

You love that you can blare your music as loud as you want and watch whatever television show you choose. Know that you do not have to answer anyone why you didn’t start the dishes until this morning instead of last night. You are your boss, and it can be emotionally freeing not to have anyone to answer to.

Final Thoughts on Getting Out of a Toxic Relationship

Have you ever seen those swimmers climb to the top of a high cliff and dive into the water below? Before they take the plunge, they feel anxiety and panic. The fear of death by hitting a rock or landing in water that’s too shallow is a real threat.

Still, something inside them pushes them to do it for the thrill and the adventure. Once they jump, they feel themselves fly as they land into the water below. Their body is filled with adrenaline and finally a euphoric release as they’ve just conquered something so amazing.

The free-falling experience is similar to freeing yourself from a toxic relationship. Sometimes, you must close your eyes and jump. While fears of failing or falling plague your mind, you must not worry about if you fail, but you should be focused on the ability to fly.

There’s a whole other world out there, and you’re one decision away from an entirely new life.

Why The Right Person Will Never Let You Go

October 30, 2020 by Power of Positivity

Finding the right person or a soul mate is not always an easy journey. Everyone wants true love, you know, the kind that is selfless and full of compassion. Many relationships end over the smallest of offenses that can fester and cause a wedge.

Thankfully, some people go together and socks and shoes, and they won’t give up on you no matter what comes your way. How do you know if you’ve met the right person and if their ability to see beyond your faults and love you for who you’re in the real deal?

Twelve Reasons to Stick with the Right Person (Once You Find Them)

If you’re curious if you have what it takes to have a forever relationship, then here are 12 reasons why the right person will never let you go.

1. They See Forever in Your Eyes

There are always those men and women you date for a fun night on the town. Then, there are those people you bring home to meet mom and dad. The right person won’t let you go because they see forever when they look into your eyes.

Their heart is racing as if they can see your soul looking back at them. They want the wedding, children, and the house with the proverbial white picket fence. They want a future with you and not just a here and now.

They want the whole package, and they can’t imagine it being with anyone but you. What you have is the stuff movies are made from, and your relationships give hope to others that soul mates exist.

2. There’s Always Sparks

Whether you’ve been dating for a month or a year doesn’t matter. If he or she brushes up against your elbow, you feel sparks. Their kiss, embrace, and just being close to them still makes your heart go pitter-patter.

Relationships that still have embers burning 10, 20, or 30 years later are the right ones. It doesn’t mean that life or the connection is perfect, but it means that there so much fire and love inside that you weather life’s storms together.

Thankfully, no matter what you’ve been through, your fires still burn bright for one another.

3. There’s Little Drama in Your Relationship

A good relationship is about empathy, compassion, and selflessness. When a partnership is full of drama, it’s not fun for anyone. The right person will hang around because you make them feel good about themselves, and they like that they don’t have to deal with unnecessary drama.

That’s not to say that there won’t be problems along the way, but you have an innate ability to tackle them without causing an uproar.

4. They Value What You Have to Say

You can still be physically attracted to one another, but you must also be attracted mentally. It would help if you cared about the other person’s thoughts and feelings outside of the bedroom.

When you find Mr. or Miss Right, they won’t let you go because they know that this kind of love doesn’t come around very often. When you value what they think and feel and show empathy towards them, it’s a sign that you’re a keeper.

5. They Have Confidence in You

Some relationships are great if friends and family are not around. If you should run into people important to your significant other, does he or she act embarrassed or shy, or are they happy to introduce you?

If they can gladly introduce you to their inner circle and seem proud to have you on their arm, then it’s a sign that you have met the person that may be right for you.

6. Your Happiness is a Priority

When you’re in a committed relationship, you should care about the other person supremely. One thing that good relationships consider is the happiness of the other party. Does your partner care whether you’re happy or sad?

When you’re hurting, do they hurt too? When you find your true love, you will know because they care about every little aspect of your life, even your happiness.

7. You Lift Them Up

It doesn’t matter who you are or how much money you have in the bank; there are days when you feel like you don’t matter. There will be times when you want to pull the covers over your head and stay in bed. The right person will show you what true love means as they lift your spirits when you are down.

They may be selfless and call off work to stay in bed with you and watch TV. You need those down days, and they know just how to fix things. They won’t leave you because you are the greatest support system for them.

8. You’re Allowed to Be Independent

Relationships are about two individuals coming together to form a union. The critical thing to remember is that you don’t have to change who you are to this relationship. They won’t leave if you value their independence and allow them to maintain it.

You allow him or her to keep their friends, continue nights out without you, and still are excited to see them when they come home. There’s no pressure, no verbal abuse, for spending a few hours away.

When it comes to relationships, being allowed to maintain independence is a game-changer for many. It signifies trust, and they won’t ever let you go.

9. Mini Storms Don’t Cause Break Ups

Have you ever seen those couples that fight and breakup about 2-3 times a month? These people are on a merry-go-round of emotions, and it’s hard to keep track of whether they’re together or not.

However, the right person won’t leave you when storms come your way. You handle them like an adult. You sit down and talk to them about how wrong things are, and you never go to bed mad. Even if something can’t be resolved in one evening, you table the conversation kindly to the morning.

No relationship is without issues or a little drama. It’s how you handle this drama that makes your partner never want to leave you. Even during the most significant battles, they feel safe knowing your level head is by their side.

10. You Turn to Him Not on Him on Your Worst Day

If you could give the best relationship advice to someone, this would be the place to start. When your day is horrible, and you want to run and hide, don’t run away from him or her, but you must run to them. Allow them to help you share the burdens you carry.

If the first person you want to call when life hands you a blow is your partner, and feel the same about you, you know that you have something special that could be forever. They won’t leave you because you have found a safe place and not a mental punching bag for your stress.

11. Your Communication is Great

Remember when you first started dating your partner? You could talk to her for hours. It seemed like she heard everything you had to say. Here you are, months or even years later, and you still can talk for hours.

To you, there’s nothing better than curling up beside a fireplace and discussing world events, hot topics, and things in your life. You could grab a cup of coffee and talk the day away. When you can still communicate like everything is new, then you know it’s right.

12. They Can Be Themselves

Have you ever dated people that you had to put on a façade to be around? You had to dress a certain way, order only certain things, and watch how you talked. When you find the right one for you, they are free to be themselves.

They can order the foods they like, no matter how strict your dieting lifestyle. They don’t have to be anything other than themselves for you to love them. Being comfortable with each other on that level is one reason why people will stay forever.

Final Thoughts on Holding On When You Find the Right Person

They say that all is fair in love and war, but there are many battles that you must fight till you find the right person. Great relationships don’t just happen; they take work. When a man or woman finds that they can talk to you, be themselves, share their day and that you care about their happiness, then they won’t ever want to leave.

It’s essential to maintain your individuality when you are in a relationship, as it’s not all about being a couple. The true test on whether this person is your future is often found by merely looking in their eyes.

Do you think you’ve found the one for you? There is the right one, and then there is the one that’s right for now. It’s important not to get these two confused as they both serve pivotal roles in your life.

However, there’s only one person that can grasp your heart and make you weak at the knees. Have you found the right one? If so, then make sure you never let them go.

Weekly tips, affirmations, and small actions to feel your best.

Every day is a day to shine. Shine on!

Weekly tips, affirmations, and small actions to feel your best.

1. Seeking Approval From Others

2. Catastrophizing is Counterproductive

3. Comparing Yourself To Others

4. Playing Blame Games

5. Doubting Yourself

· Second-Guessing

· Putting Yourself Down

· Believing Negative Thoughts

6. Focusing Only On You is Counterproductive to Reaching Your Goals

7. Personalization

8. Constantly Criticizing Others

9. Arrogance is Counterproductive

10. Emotional Reasoning

Final Thoughts On Some Counterproductive Habits That Destroy Success

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Positive vs. Negative Personalities

How Positive Words Affect Nature

1. Your Words have the Power to Speak Life or Death

2. Positive Conversation Creates Gratitude

3. Upbeat Communication Empowers Others

4. Encouraging Interaction Improves Brainstorming

5. Turn Your Negative Speak into Positive Statements

6. Positive Conversation in a Love Relationship

7. Your Tone Matters

8. Find Ways to Build People Up

9. Share Your Enthusiasm

10. Don’t Gossip About Other People

Final Thoughts on Using Positive Words

1. Determine What Your Priorities Are

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you determine your priorities:

2. Maintain Your Health

· Exercise

· Food

· Sleep

· Avoid Vices

3. Learn To Say No

· Know Your Limits and Boundaries

· Say “I Don’t,” Not, “I Can’t.”

· Be Assertive

· Offer Explanations

4. Allocate Daily “Life” Time

· One Hour To Yourself

· One Thing You Love

· Family Time

5. Have Limits And Schedules

· Make Schedules Based On Tracked Time

· Don’t Bring Work Home

· Set And Communicate Your Boundaries

Final Thoughts On Some Effective Ways To Achieve A Near-Perfect Work-Life Balance

Here are some of the significant findings on screen time among kids 0-8:

Older children and teens also need more green time.

Here’s why children need less screen time and more green time:

The positive outcomes of more green time:

The negative impacts of excessive screen time:

The study on the lack of green time

Oswald said this:

The results of the study

Final thoughts on why children need less screen time and more green time

Midlife Studies

Ten Midlife Crisis Myths to Debunk

Myth #1. Everyone Experiences It

Myth #2. Your Life is Almost Over

Myth #3. It Happens after Your Parents Pass Away

Myth #4. You’ll Never Get Over Empty Nest Syndrome

Myth #5. Change of Life is Always Negative

Myth #6: The New Sports Car and Overboard Spending

Myth #7: Trade Your Old Spouse in for a Newer Model

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