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Esper the Borzoi Dog Is a Star on Instagram (You’ll See Why!)

June 15, 2022 by Kristen Lawrence

Jacob Chattman is the owner of two Russian wolfhounds, also known as Borzoi dogs. Their names are Esper and Ora, and they’re jokingly called “magic spinning Russian noodle horses” on Instagram. The funny nickname comes from their love of spinning around in circles and their horselike features, like the long nose.

“Esper is my best friend. We do everything together. She likes to come on runs and hikes, and she sleeps in my bed,” Jacob says. “In 2015, I adopted Esper and her brother Vladimir. When we first met Esper, she was not in the best condition. She actually only had a little area to exercise when she was a young puppy. We had been looking for adoptions for years ‘cause I always wanted to rescue and adopt dogs, and the opportunity just fell in our laps.”

While he and his wife Christina were on vacation, they got a call about two Borzois available for adoption in New Mexico. They ended up driving 16 hours from Arizona to New Mexico to get them both. They’ve been on a fantastic journey with the beautiful dogs so far. However, Jacob is no stranger to the Borzoi breed.

“My parents have had Borzois since the 1970s, so I’ve grown up with nine different Borzois, and now the two of my own. I couldn’t understate the amount of positivity that comes from having a dog. There’s something to be said about the unconditional love that comes from having a dog that you just don’t understand until you own one,” he says.

“You’re having a bad day; your dog’s never really having a bad day; they’ll cheer you up. I’ve been making videos with Esper pretty much since I got her. This is back on Vine, and Esper got famous because we made “The little Russian lady” video, and we just continue doing content together. It’s something we love to do.”

The Borzoi dogs love the online attention but have a wonderful life behind the scenes, too.

In January 2020, the family grew with the addition of another Borzoi named Ora. She’s a bit rowdier than Esper and loves to “jump and eat everything in sight,” according to their website. Ora also seems to enjoy being behind the camera, and she and her sister make tons of videos together.

They also get to explore tons of national parks and forests with their amazing humans. They’ve been to the Grand Canyon, the Petrified Forest, and all over Arizona pretty much. Not only do Jacob and Christina love having new experiences, but they also love taking their dogs along for the ride.

“You know, it gets me out of the house, too. It gets me traveling. It gets me having new experiences, it’s good for all of us. I think the best memory I have is the first day we had Esper and the first time we took her outside, and she started spinning. I have never been more terrified and excited and curious, I mean, we didn’t know what was happening, and we were so worried,” Jacob says.

She looked like a tornado, and both Jacob and his wife Christina thought, “What is wrong with my dog?!” That’s just another quirky part of Esper’s personality, but they wouldn’t have her any other way. They accept all of her spinning Russian noodle horse self.

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Despite their fun, active lifestyle, raising dogs requires a lot of patience and hard work.

Jacob gives the following advice for anyone looking to adopt a pet:

“If you’re going to start with a puppy, just expect it to be difficult, especially the first few months of having a puppy. It’s crazy, but think of it as an investment as your putting this effort, then you’ll get it back. When you train your dog well, they will give you all of that back tenfold because of the experiences you’re gonna have with your pup.

“Now, when you adopt a dog, there are quirks and stuff that come with adopting a dog because they’re older, and they’re more set in their ways. We got Esper when she was luckily fairly young; she was eight months, but where she came from, she had never seen cars, bicycles, skateboards, stairs. There are all of these things we had to prepare her for and get her used to,” he says.

“So, it’s going into it with an open heart and open mind, and trust it that over time, your dog will overcome their fears as long as you’re with them. It’s been a life-changing thing for me, and I would absolutely, absolutely do it 1,000 times, a million times.”

A few interesting facts about the Borzoi dog from the AKC:

They’re considered a giant breed, with adult males standing 28-32 inches high at the top of the shoulder. They weigh anywhere from 75-105 pounds.
The Borzoi dog is a hound group member and uses its eyes to find and chase prey. They have a 270-degree field of sight with eyes placed on the front of their head.
They were initially bred to hunt wild game like wolves, foxes, and hares. That explains their large yet agile body type, as they relied on their speed to catch prey. Indeed, the name Borzoi comes from the Russian word for “swift.”
Borzois make lovely family pets, as they’re gentle, sweet, and affectionate dogs.
They’re around the 90th most popular dog in the US, making them a pretty rare breed.

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Final thoughts on Esper the Borzoi dog and her sister Ora

Esper and Ora enjoy a happy, active lifestyle with their parents Jacob and Christina. They love spreading positivity and humor into people’s lives on their social media accounts. One of Esper’s videos went viral, titled “The little Russian lady.” We have to say. She pulled it off perfectly!

If you’re considering getting a Borzoi, make sure you have plenty of room since they are giant dogs! They will need lots of exercise and space to roam around. Overall, they’re just happy-go-lucky dogs with a lot of love to give.

Have you ever seen a Borzoi dog in person? Let us know in the comments!

Earth’s Energy Imbalance Has Doubled, According to Science

June 15, 2022 by Kristen Lawrence

A joint NASA and NOAA study found that Earth’s energy imbalance approximately doubled between 2005 and 2019. This term refers to the difference between the Sun’s radiative energy the atmosphere absorbs and how much Earth emits to space. When the Earth gains energy (the current scenario), a positive energy imbalance occurs, and the planet heats up. Essentially, this means that Earth traps twice as much heat today compared with 2005.

Scientists fear that the energy imbalance only provides further evidence of rapidly accelerating climate change. The study was published June 15 in Geophysical Research Letters.

Scientists at NASA and NOAA compared two different data sets taken between 2005 and 2019:

The atmosphere: NASA’s Clouds and the Earth’s Radiant Energy System (CERES) satellites measure how much energy enters and leaves Earth.
The oceans: A global network of ocean floats, called Argo, measures the rate at which the world’s oceans are heating up. Around 90% of extra energy from an energy imbalance ends up in the oceans. So, the overall trends of heating in the atmosphere should correlate with changes in ocean temperatures.

“The two very independent ways of looking at changes in Earth’s energy imbalance are in really, really good agreement, and they’re both showing this very large trend, which gives us a lot of confidence that what we’re seeing is a real phenomenon and not just an instrumental artifact, ” said Norman Loeb, lead author for the study and principal investigator for CERES at NASA’s Langley Research Center in Hampton, Virginia. “The trends we found were quite alarming in a sense.”

What’s causing the Earth’s energy imbalance?

The scientists discovered a few critical reasons for the rapid warming trend on the planet.

Increases in emissions of greenhouse gases, such as carbon dioxide and methane, from human activity. Otherwise known as anthropogenic forcing, this causes a chain reaction of events. First, the excess heat generated by burning fossil fuels gets trapped in the atmosphere. As the radiation builds, more significant amounts of snow and ice melt. Then, the increased water vapor and cloud change further amplify warming.

All of these factors contribute to the planet’s energy imbalance. However, the investigators wanted to narrow down the primary reasons for the warming trend even further.

What the researchers observed:

To do this, they used a method that analyzed the following:

changes in clouds
water vapor
combined contributions from trace gases and the output of light from the Sun
amount of light reflected by the Earth (surface albedo)
atmospheric particles called aerosols
changes in surface and atmospheric temperature distributions

The study found that excess greenhouse gases have partially caused the energy imbalance to double, as researchers suspected. They also found that atmospheric water vapor increases have trapped more outgoing longwave radiation. Finally, a decrease in clouds and sea ice has caused the Earth to absorb more heat from the sun. These factors are mainly driving the energy imbalance. However, there’s one more component likely contributing to a warming Earth.

A flip of the Pacific Decadal Oscillation (PDO) from a cool phase to a warm phase. This likely contributed significantly to the rapid intensification of the energy imbalance. The PDO is a long-term, fluctuating pattern of ocean-atmosphere climate variability in the eastern Pacific. The massive water area goes through cool and warm phases every 20-30 years. This cycle can cause significant impacts on the Earth’s weather and climate. In 2014, the PDO shifted to a warm phase, which continued until 2020. It caused a considerable decrease in cloud coverage over the ocean, leading to greater absorption of solar radiation.

“It’s likely a mix of anthropogenic forcing and internal variability,” said Loeb. “And over this period, they’re both causing warming, which leads to a fairly large change in Earth’s energy imbalance. The magnitude of the increase is unprecedented.”

The good news: the Earth’s energy isn’t off by much, and it may stabilize in the future

According to an article by Scientific American, scientists say there’s a relatively small energy difference. In fact, there’s only a 0.3% difference between radiation going in and out of the planet’s atmosphere. However, that’s enough to throw the planet’s climate and weather out of whack. Over the last 150 years, the Earth’s global average temperatures have increased by almost 2 degrees Fahrenheit.

While these are grim findings indeed, Loeb added that the study captures a relatively short period. There’s no way to accurately predict what the climate will look like in the future or if the energy imbalance will persist. However, the study proves that trapped heat in the Earth’s atmosphere is causing significant instability. Unless the Earth starts cooling down somehow, we can expect further climate volatility in the future.

“The lengthening and highly complementary records from Argo and CERES have allowed us both to pin down Earth’s energy imbalance with increasing accuracy, and to study its variations and trends with increasing insight, as time goes on,” said Gregory Johnson, a co-author on the study and physical oceanographer at the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration’s Pacific Marine Environmental Laboratory in Seattle, Washington. “Observing the magnitude and variations of this energy imbalance are vital to understanding Earth’s changing climate.”

Loeb says that they will use this data to confirm their climate prediction models if the energy imbalance continues.

Final thoughts: Earth’s energy imbalance doubled between 2005 and 2019

Scientists from NASA and NOAA have found evidence that confirms our planet is going through a warming cycle. In fact, there’s twice the amount of heat on Earth now compared with 2005. Several factors have contributed to this: greenhouse gases, rapidly melting snow and ice, and decreased cloud cover.

Also, a pattern of ocean-atmosphere climate variability, the Pacific Decadal Oscillation, is in a warm phase. Scientists say this likely significantly affected the energy imbalance recorded over several decades. If the climate becomes further destabilized, we will likely see even worse effects in the future. The team will continue running climate models and analyzing data to better understand what we can expect.

A Self-Assured Person Does These 13 Things Without Realizing It

June 14, 2022 by Kristen Butler

How would you describe someone who has confidence? Are they self-assured, or do they know and feel when they’re their best?

Every person is different. So having assurance and confidence in yourself means something different to each person.

For instance, you may wake up in the morning and love what you see looking back at yourself in the mirror. However, another person doesn’t even consider that as confidence. They would see someone who goes to work, does a good job, and lives to face another day as assurance.

The good news is that there is no right or wrong way to show assurance. Yet, there are ways that you can increase your self-confidence and learn from those who have this natural gift.

Thirteen Things the Self-Assured Person Does

Maybe you’re a self-assured person, or perhaps you’re working on becoming more convinced. However, here are some habits that the assured person does without even realizing.

1. They Won’t Stay in Abusive or Unhealthy Relationships

The self-confident person won’t find themselves in an abusive relationship or won’t stay there long. They know they can take care of themselves, so they don’t depend on anyone. Did you know that many people stay in an abusive or unsatisfying relationship because they fear they won’t be able to make it financially?

While that’s a lackluster reason to stay with someone, it was pretty commonplace in times past. However, in today’s society, both men and women bring home a paycheck, so the reason to stay with someone based on money matters has declined.

Consequently, the person who is assured and confident in themselves knows that they will make it come what may. So, they will not subject themselves or their children to a harmful situation in fear they will struggle. This person loves themselves enough to leave.

2. They’re Goal Oriented

It’s essential to have goals and to work towards accomplishing them. Goals can be described as short and long term, but both types are essential. While most people see these challenges as hard work, the self-assured person looks at them with both excitement and optimism.

3. They’re Not Afraid to Be Assertive

The ability to stand up for yourself is a skill that everyone should cultivate. However, someone who is confident knows their value. They can be pretty assertive if the situation warrants.

With each use of their assertive nature, they gain a bit more confidence in their abilities. For instance, assume your job requires that everyone put in a mandatory ten hours of overtime this week. Knowing that you have children and responsibilities outside of your job, you are assured enough to voice opposition.

While others are afraid to speak up because they fear losing their job, you don’t care. You know that you’re a vital part of the job market and your skills are highly desired. So, in return, the boss listens to your reasons and understands that it’s an unfair call to make overtime mandatory.

It’s also common to see the confident person as a leader, as they have the drive and skillset that makes people listen and follow their lead.

4. They Live Life Without Regrets

Part of developing a good sense of yourself is learning to make those tough decisions. You use rationale to make your choices and trust that you will make the right call. For instance, if you go shopping and want to buy a pair of leggings as they’re super stylish, your rational side tells you that you will look better in jeans.

When you get to the office, you might see others wearing oh-so-comfortable leggings and become jealous. However, those who have confidence in their decisions remind themselves of the exact reason why they didn’t buy that pair of pants. They live life without regrets because they make wise and informed choices.

5. They Embrace Learning New Things

Learning new skills is both fun and good for your brain. However, the assured person knows that they can also help to boost their confidence. Whether it’s taking on quilting, learning how to code computers, or grasping karate, assurance comes with each new mastered task.

While most people think of the fun aspects of these hobbies, someone with confidence gives it their all. These individuals know that one day they might be able to use these skills to impress a boss or to get a leg up in the job market.

6. They Embrace Constructive Criticism

Getting negative feedback can be very crushing to some folks. However, when you’re self-assured, you know that there are bits of truth in these statements that can be helpful. According to Indeed, one of the authorities in the job market, there will be both positive and negative aspects of criticism.

The assured person stops their initial reaction and takes time to digest the statement. They weed through the harmful stuff to take the parts that they can work on. They are strong enough to admit they need to improve and determined sufficient to make such improvements.

7. They Value the Thoughts and Opinions of Others

It’s often thought that the confident person will be dominating, and this includes conversations. However, these folks know how to listen quite well. They know that other opinions are valuable.

They will listen closely because they are ever eager to learn new things. You can discover a lot by listening to others and hearing their thoughts and opinions too.

8. They Share Successes Without Bragging

There’s a big difference between someone who brags a lot and someone who lets you know their skill set. For instance, Thomas and Keith work in the same office. Both are well versed in computer programming.

Consequently, when there’s an issue, people prefer to call Keith over Thomas. The reason is that Keith gets the job done and showcases his skills without bragging. Coworkers know how skillful he is as he often shows them tips and tricks to make their life easier.

Thomas, on the other hand, constantly brags about his education. He often acts like everyone else is beneath him. He is unrelatable, and people feel odd around him. The confident person shares their knowledge with others to enhance their lives, and they don’t need to brag.

9. They Know Kindness Increases Their Inner Strength

People often think that self-assured folks are arrogant and self-absorbed. However, nothing could be further from the truth. They know that kindness does wonders for their inner strength, and it makes them better people.

These folks often go out of their way to be kind to others, and they’re confident enough in their abilities to help others when they’re down.

10. They Keep Their Purpose in Mind

Everyone has a purpose and a destiny here on earth. While some folks get easily sidetracked by the little things, the self-assured keep their purpose in mind. Jack Hawley wrote a powerful book entitled Reawakening the Spirit in Work.

In his writings, he states that your purpose is a place where your talent and values live. While they’re there all the time, they need you to arrive. Many people spend so much time living in a basement apartment that they never consider there’s a vacant upstairs penthouse that’s calling their name.

Thankfully, the purpose-filled person knows that there’s more out there for them, and they won’t settle for mediocrity.

11. They Trust They Will Say and Do the Right Things

Did you know that your mind wanders naturally? It’s been said that you’re only aware of what’s going on about 50 percent of the time. It’s hard to pay attention to everything that’s going on around you, but those who have confidence in themselves know that even when their mind is daydreaming, they will say and do the right things.

12. They Uplift People and Never Gossip

The confident person has little time for idle chatter, so you won’t likely see them engaging in gossip. They would instead focus on their aspirations, dreams, and goals for the future. They tend to be more positive than negative, so they try to avoid negative things like gossiping.

13. They Ask for Help

While this person is assured of their abilities, they’re also sure when they’ve taken on too much. They know that it’s impossible to do everything by themselves, so they have no qualms about asking for help when needed. Unlike many others, they don’t see needing help as a threat to their status or position.

Final Thoughts on The Self-Assured Person

Do you feel that you’re confident, or is this an area you need to work on? Becoming self-assured is born into some folks, but others must work extremely hard to achieve this status. However, by incorporating a few things from this list into your life, you will soon find that it’s much easier for you to gain confidence and live a better purpose-driven life.

10 Ways an Honest Man Handles His Relationships Differently

June 14, 2022 by Sarah Barkley

You can recognize an honest man by the way he handles his relationships. When someone values honesty, they do things differently than others.

Honesty is important to him, and it shows in his relationships.

He won’t tell lies to hide things from his partner, and he expects the same treatment in return. Since he is so honest, he will look for someone that holds that same quality. This makes healthy communication possible in his relationships, and it is where he will shine the most.

An honest man knows that he must earn trust, and he speaks openly with his partner. He won’t deceive or betray those he is closest to, and his desire to tell the truth never wavers. While many men might claim to be this way, sincere men are rarer than that.

Ten Ways an Honest Man Handles His Relationships Differently

Since honest men handle their relationships differently, it is easy to spot the signs. They do things in ways that no one else does. Once you know the differences, you will begin to notice these characteristics about them.

1. His Partner Always Knows How Much He Cares for Them

An honest man will not let those he cares for doubt his feelings for them. He is affectionate and makes his partner feel wanted and appreciated. His words and actions will match up, further confirming his true feelings.

When a man is honest, he won’t have a problem showing and communicating his affection. His partner will never have to wonder how he feels in the relationship.

This type of man will also show his appreciation to show his partner that he cares. He notices the things his partner does, no matter how little it is. Not only does he notice, but he expresses his appreciation sincerely.

2. He Works to Establish Trust in the Relationship

Trust must be earned, and honest men know that they need to prove their trustworthiness and commitment. They know that trust brings confidence and comfort to the relationship, and they want to achieve that.

Honest men also know that their partner can’t trust them without establishing that stage of the relationship first. Trust isn’t something that can just be handed over by choice. He will work to earn it, and then he will maintain that trust throughout the relationship.

Not only does he work to gain his partner’s trust, but he also works to trust his partner. He doesn’t accuse them without reason, and he takes his partner for their word.

Plus, he won’t believe things people say about his partner unless there is proof of wrongdoing. He can confidently do this because he has worked on trusting them and knows them at that level better than others.

3. He is Always Improving

An honest man always works on bettering himself. He likes to learn new things, develop new skills, and continually self-improve. Because of this, he is likely intellectual and keeps his partner’s attention.

He doesn’t do this for his partner, though, because he will do it even if he isn’t in a relationship. Continually improving himself is essential to his well-being, and he needs to feel like he is always getting better.

4. He Opens Up Emotionally

While some people struggle to express themselves emotionally, an honest person won’t have that problem. When a man is like this, he will talk about his feelings, fears, and desires. He doesn’t hide how he feels, making it easier to work through problems in his relationships.

Rather than allow problems to create tension and frustration, he speaks his mind. He won’t let things fester as his relationship crumbles. Plus, he is straightforward and doesn’t make his partner guess what he is feeling or hinting at.

He lets his partner into his mind completely and opens up to them. Even when it is hard, he understands that a healthy relationship requires this level of connection.

5. He Makes Others Feel Comfortable Being Honest with Him

An honest person will make others feel like they can be open and honest without judgment in their relationships. He encourages people to be honest and share their feelings because he wants to work on things. His partner won’t have to be afraid of him overeating or lashing out when they speak up.

He understands that no two people share the same views and beliefs, and he is okay with that. His understanding of this is what brings comfort to his relationships because people can be themselves around him.

6. He is a Source of Safety

If he is honest, he makes those around him feel safe. His partner might not need protection, but he is ready to be their safe space anyway. He won’t ever be the one causing his partner pain, either, so the person in his life won’t ever have to feel unsafe.

His partner knows they can come to him for anything at any time, and he will be ready to help them. He will offer support, speak on their behalf, and stand in the way of any potential harm.

When his partner is afraid of something, he will be their comfort along the way. If he can, he will take care of the problem his partner is scared of so that they can feel safer. When he knows his partner intimately, he can often take care of these issues without his partner having to ask.

7. He Takes Responsibility and Doesn’t Shift Blame

In his relationships, an honest man takes responsibility for what he does and the decisions he makes. He doesn’t shift the blame to other people or situations. When he makes a mistake, he admits it, apologizes, makes it right, and uses it as a learning opportunity.

He isn’t uncomfortable saying that he is sorry, and he knows that it doesn’t diminish his worth. Another reason he takes responsibility so easily is that it makes him feel more confident and courageous. Admitting his faults humbles him and helps him grow as a person.

8. He Pursues Passions That Don’t Involve His Partner

Although he loves spending time with his partner, he pursues other passions, too. He stays busy and doesn’t plan his life around the person he is in a relationship with. Not planning his life around his partner isn’t to say he doesn’t make time for them, but he also makes other plans that don’t involve them.

His relationships don’t define him, and he understands that everyone needs to be an individual. He is confident enough to pursue things he is passionate about even when he is in a relationship. Plus, he knows that his partner has things they want to do, too.

He encourages his partner to chase after their dreams and do things they are passionate about, as well. This understanding and encouragement allow both partners to grow as individuals while strengthening the bond in the relationship.

9. He is Helpful

When a man helps with responsibilities, errands, and other things, he might be an honest person. He knows that all of the work can’t fall to his partner, so he helps without being asked. His level of honesty doesn’t allow him to pretend that he doesn’t see the things that need doing.

Since he is happy to help out without being asked, his partner won’t have anxiety about needing or wanting help. They will know that he doesn’t mind helping out, and it gives them a sense of relief to have someone like this in their life.

10. He Has His Priorities Straight

An honest man never has to be told that he needs to adjust his priorities. He knows what he must do, and he can easily prioritize without being told. This type of man stays on the right path because he knows what is most important in life.

He has more than a few priorities, and he makes sure to take care of them all. Taking care of everything involves spending time with his family and friends, working toward self-improvement, and maintaining a healthy romantic relationship. There will be other things he prioritizes, and he won’t forget about them when he gets into a relationship.

Final Thoughts on Ways an Honest Man Handles His Relationships Differently

An honest man is rare, but he is out there. Knowing the ways that he handles his relationships can help with identifying honesty in the people around you. You can eliminate dishonest people quickly and easily and won’t be easily fooled.

An honest man will have his priorities straight, and he won’t make excuses for his shortcomings. As he works to strengthen his relationships through honesty, he will work on improving himself, too. His relationships don’t define him, so don’t mistake that quality for indifference.

Watch for people that tell the truth even when it isn’t beneficial to them. Those are the people that likely have these other qualities, too, as they aren’t afraid of honesty. Once you find an honest man, keep him around because they are hard to come by.

10 Secretive Behaviors That Cheaters Exhibit Without Realizing It

June 14, 2022 by Chris Butler

Cheaters have plenty of things in common, but the most familiar signs are the inclination to be unfaithful and overall secretive behavior. Do you have a partner that you doubt their fidelity?

What causes a person to cheat on someone they love, and how do they act after they’ve committed such a sin? Is it a selfish urge to act on and don’t think of the consequences, or does the person have dysfunctional mental issues lurking below the surface?

There has been much research done regarding cheaters, and most point to one standard set of characteristics. Serial cheaters are different than those non-philandering folks.

The good news is that once you understand and readily identify these qualities, you can protect yourself from getting hurt.

Do You Know How to Spot the Traits of Partner Who Might Cheat?

Here are some of the warning signs of a cheater.

Excessive flirting: Everyone loves to be a tease and be toyed with when they’re trying to get someone’s attention. However, this person flirts with people right while their wife or husband is sitting with them. They know no boundaries and have an overly flirtatious nature.
Insecurities: One of the reasons why people cheat is insecurities. It’s like this fling helps their ego and gives them a boost as they still feel desirable.
Thrill-seeking behaviors: According to the National Library of Medicine, some folks with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder often have trouble with impulse control issues. It’s derived from a frontal lobe dysfunction that occurs with this mental health problem, but other things can cause it too.
Immorality: Anyone who has had affairs in the past will likely repeat these behaviors. Once they have a taste or the thrill of cheating, it’s easy to do it time and again.
Reality distortions: Many people have a distorted view of themselves and the world around them. This can also be caused by mental health issues, such as narcissistic personality disorder. According to Neuro Tray, cognitive distortions are often the cause for many breaks from reality, though they’re not severe enough to affect going to work or other responsibilities.
Lack of respect: Some individuals have no respect for those they claim to love. These are often the folks who usually can’t keep a job because they have a challenging time with authority.
Narcissism: Did you know that most serial cheaters are often narcissistic? Part of having this mental health disorder is being greedy, selfish, and using people to benefit your needs. When a cheater feels a sense of entitlement, it can be part of their brain’s wiring that feeds their disorder.

Ten Common Secretive Behaviors of The Cheater

Whether they’re about to be caught or they’ve already been figured out, there are some specific behaviors or actions they engage in.

This lifestyle is very secretive, and they want to do whatever possible to keep someone from finding out their sins. Here are the most common behaviors of a cheater.

1. Jealousy

Perhaps, jealousy is the most confusing of the behaviors that the cheater exhibits. It could be due to the cardinal rule that what goes around comes around. However, these people often become very jealous of their spouse, even stooping to the level of accusing them of cheating.

Their jealousy can consume them, especially if they’re afraid that you will leave them. Sure, they’re the ones that made a mistake, but they’re fearful of what you may do, and they don’t want to lose you.

2. Flirting

While it’s already been discussed that most cheaters are flirtatious, it’s worth mentioning again. Not all cheaters have this flirty edge, but most exhibit this behavior. It’s not that they want to hurt you, but it’s that they need validation to soothe their low self-esteem from the opposite sex.

3. Lie

One thing you can count on with a cheater is that you can’t count on them to be honest. They have a way of lying to those around them, and those lies often snowball into a big mess. If you stay with a cheater long after the event, you will often find that they lie about anything and everything.

You would think that they would be on their best behavior after committing such an act but remember that a leopard can’t change their spots.

4. Vendetta With the Opposite Sex

Many cheaters have secretive hurts from the opposite sex, so they have an “I’m going to get back at you” attitude. This is often true of those who have been abused. The selfish person will usually have deep wounds from their childhood, and if a mother hurt them, then they might take this vengeance out on women.

Another thing to consider is that people often accuse men of being serial cheaters, but women can be cheaters too. How many girls have you seen with “daddy issues” that turn to lascivious acts to ease those pains?

5. Mood Swings

When someone has a secret to hide, they’re often nervous. This anxiety can cause mood swings that make a living with them unbearable. So, if you find that you’re walking on eggshells around this person, then it could be because they have something to hide.

As they say, the truth will set you free, and once this person gets this massive secret off their chest, they will feel relief.

6. Buys You Guilt Gifts

Has your partner started buying gifts for no reason? If you’ve been together for ten years and they’ve never bought spontaneous gifts before, it’s a cause for concern. Their guilt may be eating them alive inside, and the only way they can soothe this guilt is to buy gifts to ease their conscience.

7. Too Much or Too Little Interest in Romance

One way that many people can tell something is wrong in their relationship is that things are disrupted in the bedroom. If a person gets plenty of intimacy somewhere else, they don’t need their desires taken care of at home.

However, they may be fearful of losing you, so much so that they can be a little overzealous at times too. Therefore, anything out of the ordinary in your romantic life is a cause for concern.

8. Becomes Obsessed with Grooming

When someone has a new fling, they often want to groom themselves to look good. So, a big red flag to spot the secretive life is to see their grooming habits. Do they suddenly get a new wardrobe, hairstyle and act younger than they usually do?

They may be having a mid-life crisis, or they have a big secret to hide. The grooming maybe for their new fling.

9. Gaslighting

Gaslighting is an age-old problem with a new reality. When someone tries to make you doubt your sanity or makes you believe that your speculations are insane, it’s called gaslighting. The standard trick of the selfish person is to turn things around so that you doubt yourself.

Sure, they may be guilty, but they want to turn things around so that you feel bad, and they’re off the hook. Therefore, they will twist things, lie, and do whatever they can to cover their secret. You must be one step ahead of this conniving person, as they will stop at nothing to keep their affair hidden.

10. Spends Extra Money or Has Money Issues

Money issues are a hallmark of a cheater. They may become secretive about their spending, or there is money missing you can’t account for. They may get a checking account separate from yours or even suggest keeping finances separate.

There are lots of expenses involved with affairs. Often, they will need to pay for hotels, flowers and gifts, new clothes, and other things to keep up with this game. The money must come from somewhere, and if you often had your hand in the bank accounts, then it’s not so easy to hide.

Final Thoughts on The Secretive Nature of Cheaters

A study found that 55 percent of men admit to cheating on their partner, and 50 percent of women. Those numbers are staggering, and it means that you must be on your toes when it comes to abnormal behaviors from your partner.

Sadly, you may be a cheater or be cheated on at least once in your life. These actions make you develop a secretive nature as you fear getting caught. Many cheaters don’t want to leave their spouse or long-term relationship, but they want the thrill of the fling.

Sadly, some people feel that once you cheat, then the relationship is through. These folks want to stroke those feel-good chemicals in the brain, and once they get their thrill, they will return to the comforts of home. Unfortunately, dealing with a cheater is never easy, even if you decide to stay and work things out.

Once you find out for sure they have been unfaithful, you both have a lot of work to heal the relationship or move on apart. However, their secretive lifestyle is a dead giveaway that something is not right with them. It might take a little detective work to figure things out, but you can solve the case.

10 Habits of Women Who Lose Weight (And Keep It Off)

June 14, 2022 by Chris Butler

Do you feel pangs of jealousy when you read an article or see a blog about women who lose weight and keep it off? It’s only normal to be a bit envious when someone conquers a problem you fight. It’s not easy to lose weight, but it seems effortless to pack on the pounds.

Why do women seem to have such an issue with weight gain? Well, for starters, you have hormone fluctuations that cause bloating. Second, you retain water at certain times during the month, and then there are the lovely things that childbirth does to your body.

Add to this that there are fast-food restaurants on every corner and ice cream and donut shops aplenty, and it’s a recipe for disaster. What makes these women who lose weight so much stronger than you? Do they have some internal mindset that drives them, or do they have strong willpower to resist temptation?

If you lined up several successful women in the battle of the bulge, you would start to see some similarities. There are certain things that you do and habits you develop that ensure you will lose weight and keep it off.

Ten Daily Habits of Ladies Who Lose Weight for Good

According to Ace Fitness, there are many reasons why some people are more successful in their weight loss journey than others. For instance, one person may have a different amount of muscle mass that affects their metabolism. Another factor can be starting weight.

When a person tends to be in the obese or super obese category, it can be easier for them to lose weight than ten vanity pounds. Lastly, the mindset in these people is much different. They have a definitive goal before them, and they won’t let anyone stop them. Here are ten habits of women who lose weight with ease that you should adapt.

1. They Become Determined

It’s often been said that weight loss first begins in the brain. If you don’t have your mindset geared towards success, then you won’t go far in your journey. Your words hold power over you, so the things you speak about should be positive and uplifting.

Doing daily positive affirmations is a good place to start. Tell yourself that you will stick to a low-calorie diet; you will not buy any more junk food, limiting your carbs and high fatty items. When you start each day with morning affirmations, it sets you up for success.

2. They Keep A Food Diary

Journaling is an essential part of a mentally well-balanced person. It’s a space for you to get out all the angst you feel inside. One way that women who lose weight succeed is by keeping a journal of their food intake.

You can keep this diary through an app on your smartphone or use the old-fashioned pen and paper method. The goal is to ensure that you take account of every bite that you put into your mouth. Also, keeping a diary about your thoughts and feelings during this process is likewise essential.

Who knows, you may end up having a bestselling book on your hands that can inspire others to fight the battle of the bulge.

3. They Meal Plan

Living a healthy lifestyle takes some work. Sure, it’s easy to stop at the fast-food restaurant down the road and grab a burger and fries for dinner, but it’s not the healthiest option. Someone determined to lose weight will plan, shop for the freshest produce, and be prepared for the week.

It takes a bit more time and effort to have your meals planned out, and lunches packed, but it’s worth it. While it costs more to eat healthily, you may find that with the reduction in your consumption, you save money anyway.

4. They Know They Will Have Bad Days

Part of having a good mindset realizes that you’re not going to be perfect. There will be days that you stumble and have that big slice of chocolate cake. The difference between someone successful in their weight loss journey versus someone who isn’t is the ability to keep going after failure.

Oprah Winfrey has achieved monumental success with weight loss. Her journey has been ongoing for more than 40 years. Her highest weight was 237 lbs, but now she is a trim size ten and isn’t looking back.

Even with all her money and prestige, Oprah still goes up and down with her weight. However, 10-20 lbs. weight differences for someone who was once pushing the mid-200 range is a significant achievement. Why is Oprah so successful? Even when she gains a little bit because she’s fallen off the wagon, she gets right back on and continues her journey.

5. They Set Small Obtainable Goals

Assume you have 100 pounds to lose. It seems like an overwhelming amount to consider, and it might be too much for your mind to comprehend. However, if you break that down into smaller, more manageable goals, it’s easier to succeed.

Set your goals at losing ten pounds rather than 50. When you hit that ten-pound mark, then you should celebrate in some small way. When you hit larger goals like 25 or even 50 lbs., your celebrations should be grander.

It’s all about stroking those pleasure centers within the brain that give you the boost you need to keep going. The child inside you likes to be rewarded, so give them what they want to keep your mojo going.

6. They Get Help

If you have a serious problem with your weight, you must realize that you may need help. There are many natural ways that you can get the guidance you need without going under the knife. Things like weight loss hypnosis have proven to be effective as a tool to help you.

Other things that work include psychotherapy, joining support groups, and having an accountability partner may also be beneficial. You must understand that this is a big job, and oversized tasks require more than one person to help.

7. They Drink Plenty of Water

One thing that women who lose weight know are that their water intake is crucial. According to the Mayo Clinic, your body is 50-70 percent water weight. Your system uses water to help function, and without the proper levels, you will die.

Water helps flush toxins and fat from your body, so you need to increase your water intake rather than decrease it when you’re dieting. Forget diet sodas, coffee, and juice as these have water in them, but they don’t have the same benefits as pure H2O.

8. They Know They Need Carbs

While the Keto Diet is popular because it makes people lose weight quickly, but smart women know they need some carbs. If you cut yourself off from all carbs cold turkey, you’re setting yourself up for failure. It’s okay to have a donut on occasion, but you need to work it into your daily caloric intake.

Women who lose weight know that it’s all about keeping a well-rounded diet full of fruits and vegetables and healthy complex carbs.

9. They Hit the Gym

Regardless of where you are in your weight loss journey, you need to move your body more. Exercise is beneficial for your mental and physical health, and it should be a regular part of your week. Strive to hit the gym or do a workout at home at least three times a week for about 20 minutes at a time.

10. They Ditch the Diet Mentality

Finally, women who lose weight know that diets don’t work. Instead, they must make adaptable lifestyle changes that will go with them for life. Achieving weight loss is a journey and not a destination you will ever arrive at.

While you may get to your goal weight, like Oprah, you will need to maintain that weight. There will be times when you gain a bit and need to cut back even more. This journey will be ongoing and one of the hardest of your life, but you can do it.

Final Thoughts on Women Who Lose Weight

A recent Gallup Poll showed that 56 percent of Americans want to lose weight. Sadly, more than half of today’s society is not happy with their body and the way they look. The good news is that you can do something about it.

You can make some changes and develop new habits starting today that will change your life. You can have the amazing body you want and be healthy without taking invasive steps to accomplish this. First, make up your mind that you will conquer this weight.

Next, keep a journal, meal prep, and stay away from fast food. Last, get some support and help along this journey, as it seems to consume you if you let it. Surrounding yourself with women who have been successful in weight loss can only encourage you.

3 Reasons Why Rejection Hurts (And How to Cope With It)

June 13, 2022 by Lakeisha Ethans

Being rejected hurts! It can be devastating, or it can just sting, but the bottom line is that it’s painful. For some, being rejected can cause severe emotional reactions to the point of disrupting everyday life and damaged self-worth.

If you’ve recently faced rejection, you’re probably still dealing with some feelings related to that situation. But why does it sting so badly, and how can you get through it? Here are three reasons why rejection hurts and ways to cope with it in three methods.

Three Reasons Why Rejection Hurts

Here are the causes of that emotional pain.

1. It Triggers Genuine Pain Responses

On the surface, why does rejection hurt? Well, that’s because it’s meant to. The human mind and body naturally react in this manner to rejection. Here’s why and how:

· It’s a Physical Pain

Brain scans in studies have shown that when you experience rejection, the part of your brain that lights up is the same as activated when you feel physical pain. In other words, the reason that rejection hurts on a physical level, simply put, is because the brain feels it as physical pain!

· It’s Social Pain, Which Is More Vivid

Social pain is a different kind of pain than generic emotional pain, and rejection is a type of social pain. When you recall physical pain, your memories become less vivid and severe over time, leaving behind a mere conceptualization of the pain. But with social pain, your memory of it only becomes stronger and more vivid, meaning that you can re-experience rejection exaggeratedly even long after you’ve moved past it, even when put through a filter of positive thinking.

· It’s an Emotional Pain On A Deeper Level

Many people naturally feel a need to “belong” to a group of people or a social circle, which means that rejection hurts on a deep level. This feeling is a behavior rooted in human evolution. In ancient times, there was power in numbers, and being disconnected or rejected from a group of people could mean you wouldn’t be able to survive on your own.

· It Is Aggression, Turned Inwards

Rejection can indeed cause outward-turned aggression that makes you want to lash out at others, but that isn’t necessarily the case, and most of the time, that kind of aggression will be directed internally. You may become angry at yourself, which worsens emotional pain because even you are mad at yourself. The American Psychological Association explains that even mild rejections can lead to heightened levels of aggression, based on previous research.

2. It Is Unreasonable

Rejection’s ensuing emotions, by nature, are not inherently wise. They are unreasonable and will not be an accurate reflection of reality in any way, shape, or form. This is because rejection causes these outcomes:

Temporarily reduces your IQ levels
It worsens your short-term memory
Makes it hard to solve problems
Cannot respond to any reason
It does not create logical emotions

What does this mean? Well, essentially, rejection hurts because it isn’t something you can reason with. Your emotions following rejection are always going to be irrational, which can make comprehending those feelings so much harder.

3. It Turns You Against Yourself

You are your own worst enemy. You are armed with all the knowledge of your worst moments, your biggest failures, and all of your flaws. And when you are on the receiving end of rejection, you feel inadequate – and you are the only one who truly knows how to push your buttons.

You know your genuine flaws, and you know your insecurities off the top of your head. And when rejection hits you, you can use every single bit of knowledge you have about yourself to destroy your self-esteem. You become filled with self-loathing, and you think about all the reasons you weren’t good enough to be accepted. You blame yourself, you point out the ways you weren’t sufficient, and you beat yourself up. No wonder rejection hurts!

Three Ways To Cope With Rejection

How do you overcome these negative feelings? Try these things.

1. Acknowledge The Inner Turmoil

To cope with something, you have to acknowledge that it exists. Some people falsely believe that the best way to manage a problematic emotion is by pretending it’s not there, but that’s primarily counterproductive. This is even more true for feelings like those stemming from rejection, which is easy to dismiss as “irrational” even though they’re perfectly reasonable and valid. Here are some ways you’ll need to acknowledge the turmoil from rejection:

· Allow Yourself To Feel

It’s tempting to repress your emotions when you’re feeling the painful string of rejection. But studies show that emotional repression will only make the emotions in question stronger, so don’t bottle up those feelings, even if it’s hard. It would help if you experienced the full sweep of your emotions to allow yourself to process them and let them pass naturally. So create space for yourself to experience the emotions involved with rejection.

· Acknowledge Your Emotions

Now that you’re allowing the feelings to sweep over you, it’s time to acknowledge and pay attention to them. Trying to ignore how you’re feeling is just repression again! You don’t have to react to what you think – be an observer, like a witness on the outside looking in. Look carefully at how you feel and allow your mental strength to fill you with the ability to tackle the discomfort and pain face-first. Don’t invalidate, minimize, maximize or catastrophize – watch and acknowledge them as they are.

· Let Yourself Grieve, If Applicable

Not all forms of rejection involve the necessity of grieving, but more severe forms can be so painful that you do experience grief. This may be from losing out on a vast promotion you wanted, receiving a scathing rejection from a potential employer, or even from being rejected by a partner or romantic interest. It is okay to need a while to process the loss that stems from the rejection and goes through all the stages of grief in the process.

Trying to resist will only prolong the process, so allow yourself a day or two to fully grieve before you start to pick yourself up again. As time passes, the grief will lessen, and you’ll be on your way to acceptance and recovery. If you need to, you can cry, go to therapy, write in a journal, and even say goodbye to what was lost in your unique way.

2. Be Kind To Yourself

Rejection can fill you with self-loathing. After all, you’ve been turned away, as if you weren’t good enough, and it’s tough not to see things that way. But to cope with the complex emotions of rejection, you need to be kind to yourself first. Without the necessary positive thinking, all the harsh thoughts that surround rejection can worsen. Here are some tips for being kind to yourself so you can better cope with rejection:

· Remember Your Positive Traits

In the heat of the self-loathing that can spawn from rejection, you may have forgotten a lot of good things about yourself. Resist those negative thoughts by actively listing the things you like about yourself. You can even write them down in a list if that will help!

· Do Not Allow Self-Criticism

Self-criticism is entirely unhelpful as you cope with rejection. Do not tolerate personal negativity for even a second. It would help if you were on your side to manage your current emotions best. The second you think something negative about yourself, counter it with positive thinking, respond with values you like about yourself and compassion. It can be helpful to treat yourself as you would treat a friend in this situation, as we are often harshest on ourselves.

· Don’t Blame Yourself

There are tons of different factors that could have caused a rejection, and a lot of them aren’t things you should take the blame for. Rejection isn’t a reflection of your value, nor is it a sign that you’re doing something “wrong.” There are situations where rejection may have stemmed from some of your actions, but even then, blaming yourself while you try to cope is not going to be helpful. Taking responsibility does not involve blaming yourself and beating yourself up, especially since the rejection has already “righted” the worst of any wrong you may have done!

· Use Self-Care

Self-care should be a part of your routine, but as you try to cope with rejection, it’s even more critical. Ensure you eat enough, sleep enough, and even get a little bit of exercise if possible. Don’t forget to treat yourself, give yourself some me-time to unwind, and indulge in your favorite things and hobbies, too.

3. Grow From Rejection

Sometimes, the best way to cope with negative emotions – including those stemming from rejection – is by moving forward with positive thinking. That’s easier said than done, but one of the most transparent ways to do this is by finding ways to improve from experience actively. By taking growth into your hands, you’ll find your footing and control again so you can leave the rejection behind. Here is how to do so:

· Learn From The Rejection

Instead of feeling powerless in the face of rejection, take the reins in the one way you can. Find the lesson in the rejection and learn it. What did you gain from experience? What lessons did you learn? How can you improve your chances of future acceptance in similar circumstances? Did you genuinely desire what you sought here? The wisdom you can gain from here can be empowering and help you cope positively!

· View It As Proof Of Your Efforts

Rejection only happens when you make an effort and try to be accepted. When you’re rejected, think of it as a sign that you’re moving forward in your life and are pushing the limits. You weren’t sufficiently prepared this time? Well, that means that you impressively challenged yourself! Take the strength from that knowledge and move forward.

· Don’t Let It Define You

Rejection is a single event, and it’s not meant to define your future beyond the current moment. It is also not a representation of you or who you are as a person. Don’t fall into the trap of making a lot of generalizations about yourself based on rejection. You aren’t incompetent because you didn’t get a job, you’re not unloveable because you were turned down for a date, and you aren’t unworthy because you were rejected. Keep things in a healthy perspective.

Final Thoughts On Why Rejection Hurts And How To Cope With It

Rejection is, sadly, a compulsory part of life. No one will be able to live a full life without also facing rejection now and then. Understanding its mechanisms and learning to cope with it will allow you to manage emotions from such a situation positively.

Say These 20 Romantic Statements Every Day to Keep Your Love Alive

June 13, 2022 by Chris Butler

They say that some folks go together like a sock and shoe. Well, since you’ve owned several pairs of shoes, you know that they can become worn out quite easily. To keep them fresh, you must clean and maintain them.

Your relationship requires maintenance, too. By using romantic statements, you can help keep the fires of passion and love burning bright. Plus, just because you’ve been married or together for several years doesn’t change your feelings.

However, they will evolve as you’ve been together for a while. When you don’t show your partner how much you love them each day, you allow room for doubt to creep in. Additionally, they may look for someone else to say everything they long to hear from you.

Twenty Romantic Statements To Say to Your Partner Each Day

If you don’t know where to start your journey of being more engaged with your partner, saying romantic things to one another is the best place to start. Here are some of the things that your lover wants to hear from you every day. You can start small. Try sharing two or three of these romantic statements to start with. Also, be sure to choose or modify phrases that you can say naturally and with genuine feelings.

1. “I Love You.”

It’s these three simple words that have such a powerful meaning. One of the basic needs in life is to love and be loved in return. Telling someone that you love them solidifies this need is being met.

2. “You’re Beautiful.”

When’s the last time you told your significant other that they were beautiful or handsome? While you may think such thoughts, they need to hear them from you. As a partner, you can help build your lover’s esteem by telling them how stunning they are, so use romantic statements like these often.

3. “You Look Amazing.”

If your lover has a new outfit on or tried a new hairstyle, make sure you tell them how amazing they look. Be sure to notice the little things as they show how in tune you are with one another. They long for people to see the changes they’ve made, but you’re the only one that matters to them.

4. “You Smell Wonderful.”

It would help if you commented on how amazing they smell. Is it a new fragrance, a lotion, or some aftershave that turns your crank? Tell them their fragrance intoxicates you and that it’s a good scent for them.

5. “You Make Me Smile.”

One of the best things a couple can do for one another is make them smile. Life can be very challenging at times, but knowing you have solace in one another is priceless.

6. “I Miss You.”

Drop your special someone a quick text while you’re at work to let them know how much you miss them. Make dinner plans that evening, and let them know you won’t relax until you’re curled up with them enjoying the nighttime.

7. “No One Will Ever Take Your Place.”

Now and again, it’s nice to hear how special you are to the one you love. Telling your lover that no one will ever take their place gives them a firm indication of where they are in your heart. Sure, you might have told them 100 times you love them, but making a statement like this shows the depth of your love and dedication.

8. “Nothing Else Matters but Us Together.”

The world around you can erupt in chaos, but as long as you have your partner by your side, then you can make it. Let them know that having you with them would make you feel safe if the world ended tomorrow.

9. “How Did I Ever Get So Lucky?”

Treat your special someone like a prize you’ve won, and watch how much better they treat you. You want your lover to feel special and that you’ve hit the jackpot when you want their heart.

10. “You’re the Love of My Life.”

There will be many loves that pass your way in life. According to Thought Catalog, the average person will fall in love between 2-7 times in their lifetime. Since love is an emotion that can be felt by anyone, it’s important to let someone know that they’re the love of your life.

This statement elevates them beyond the other loves you’ve experienced, putting them in the top ranking.

11. “Come Home Soon!”

Romantic statements telling them to come home soon show how eager you are to see them. Text them this message on your lunch break to let them know you can’t wait to be together again. It also adds some anticipation that can help them through a hard day at work.

12. “I’m So Happy”

One of your main goals as one side of a couple is to make the other party happy. You must tell the other person how happy they make you. The last thing you want is a union where one or both of you are miserable.

Happiness doesn’t mean you can’t have a bad day, but it means that being with this person completes you overall.

13. “All I Want To Do Is Lay Here in Your Arms.”

Do you feel safe when you’re lying in their arms? Why not tell them how much their embrace means to you? There’s something special about lying in the arms of the one you love, and you need to tell them how wonderful it feels to you.

14. “I Feel Completely Comfortable With You.”

You want to be with someone with whom you can share your deepest and darkest secrets. When you find your person, you feel that you can be completely comfortable with them in almost any situation. They’re the one that completes you in all ways, and you feel 100 percent free to be yourself.

15. “Can I Have This Dance?”

Romantic statements like “Can I have this dance?” will indeed send their hearts racing. Why not have an impromptu dance across the kitchen floor while waiting on dinner? These small moments create memories and give your heart warm and fuzzy feelings.

16. “I Trust You.”

Speaking of deep and dark secrets, when you feel like you can share these sentiments with someone you love, then you’re developing a deep level of trust. Sure, you trust people like your mom, dad, siblings, and other relatives, but this level of trust goes far beyond average.

17. “You’re My Everything.”

Some loves are so profound that they give you a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Perhaps your partner saved you from depression and overwhelming anxiety by showing you a different way to live.

Tell them how much they mean to you by telling them they’re your everything. They need to know more than the fact that you love them, as they need to know why you do.

18. “I Can’t Live With You.”

Romantic statements like I can’t live without you show them the depth of your connection. Would you want to go one hour, day, week, or month without them by your side? Now, you have to go to work and handle other responsibilities, but knowing that they’re with you no matter what you must take care of is essential.

19. “I Need You.”

Theresa E. DiDonato, Ph.D. wrote an article on why you should tell your partner you need them. When you’re an indispensable part of each other’s lives, it’s a classic component of an attachment. Telling this person that you need them by your side through all the ups and downs of life shows them you’ve developed a healthy attachment to them.

20. “I Get Lost in Your Eyes.”

Have you ever looked into someone’s eyes and been mesmerized by what you see? Perhaps, you see future children, the home with the white picket fence, and growing old together. Whatever you see when you look into their eyes, it’s impossible to keep from being lost in their beauty.

Tell your partner what you see when you look at them, and share your dreams and plans. They may share the things they see when they look in your eyes too.

Final Thoughts on Sharing Some of These Romantic Statements to Your Partner Every Day

There are so many things that you have to say to each other in a day. You’re worried about work, dinner, getting the kids to and from sports practices or dance recitals. However, the essential things you can say to your partner are romantic statements that solidify your bond.

Use the list above and pick out a couple of statements to tell them daily. Try not to overdo it and make it sound planned, but you must bring these things to them regularly. The more work and effort you put into your relationship, the better it will be. Communication can make or break your connection, so choose your words wisely.

15 Ways to Make Someone Smile Instantly

June 13, 2022 by Kristen Butler

Life has many ups and downs, but the ability to make someone smile is a gift that anyone will cherish. How many times have you had a bad day, but something changed your whole mood because it made you smile? If someone you know or love is having a difficult time, you want to cheer them up however you can.

Fifteen Easy Ways To Make Someone Smile

Some folks have a knack for making people feel better when they’re going through a time of grief or they’re just feeling down. Here are some fantastic ways to help make someone smile with ease.

1. Tell a Joke

Most folks like a good joke, even if it’s silly and doesn’t make much sense. Jokes can make you laugh, and it sure helps boost your spirits when things are down. If your friend or loved one needs to smile, telling them a riddle, pun, or joke is a viable solution.

2. Put a Note in Their Lunch Bag, Briefcase, or Purse

The little things in life count, so putting a note in a conspicuous place might do the trick. When they open their lunchbox, purse, or briefcase and find that you went out of your way to handwrite a note, it can make their day. Indeed, they will smile at the kindness of your gesture.

3. Send Flowers to Make Someone Smile

Flowers were often thought of as just a gift for females, but men love to get flowers. While they might prefer some more woodsy pieces, flower shops can certainly provide gender-neutral arrangements. Flowers can brighten any space, and the surprise of receiving such a gift won’t go unnoticed.

4. Spend Quality Time With Them

Sometimes people don’t need expensive gifts, or you’re trying too hard to make them smile. Perhaps the one thing they need more than anything is for you to be there for them.

When someone is going through a challenging time, knowing you’re standing right beside them may be all it takes to make them smile and feel a sense of peace.

5. Have Movie or Game Night

Throw out the electronics and bring on the board games! Yes, some of the old-fashioned board games are still the best way to have a night of fun. If you want to make someone smile, then why not show them how to win at a hand of Monopoly, Clue, or Battleship.

With a little bit of creative thinking, you will think of so many amazing games out there that will surely make everyone smile.

6. Bake a Sweet Treat to Make Someone Smile

Who doesn’t like some freshly baked goodies or something made from your kitchen? Baked goods tend to show how much you care, as they require real-time and effort to create. If you know whether they prefer brownies, pies, cakes, or some other yummy treat, it makes it easier to make them happy with a homemade delight.

7. Send an Inspirational Message

Sending an inspirational message is always a good idea. The Universe has a way of giving you the right things to say when they need it most. You can send them a message on social media, a text, or even an email.

8. An Easy Way to Make Someone Smile–Hug Them

Did you know that your embrace has healing properties? It sounds crazy, but according to the National Library of Medicine, hugging someone helps release the “feel good” hormones like oxytocin.

In fact, the same site reports that therapeutic touch is being explored for helping people recover from a significant illness. So, why not hug someone you love that needs a little boost in their mood?

9. Buy a “Just Because” Gift

Do you need an occasion to buy someone a gift? You don’t need to spend thousands of dollars or buy something significant. Remember, it truly is the thought that counts and they will appreciate the gesture.

10. Tell Them You’re Proud of Them

Life isn’t always kind, and sometimes you need to hear that you’re doing good. Many folks seek validation from their parents, friends, and other relatives. So, by you going out of your way to tell someone how proud you are of them and their accomplishments, it’s just enough to make them smile.

11. Encourage Someone Who Is Bummed Out

There are 101 ways that you can encourage someone who’s fallen on hard times. However, find some way to lift the spirits of someone who’s bummed out. Maybe you give them a lovely card and leave it on their desk at work, or perhaps you buy them a cup of coffee to start their day.

Think outside the box a bit and come up with something to lift the spirits of someone who’s having it rough.

12. Say “I’m Sorry.”

Perhaps one of the reasons why this person is so upset is because you did something to anger or hurt them. Saying the words “I’m sorry” has powerful effects. If you were in the wrong, then you need to own your mistakes and make things right. Indeed, apologizing can make someone grin.

13. Smile at Them

Did you know that smiles are infectious? Trends in Cognitive Science posted a study conducted on how smiling was contagious. Try smiling at someone and see how long it takes them to smile back?

The study proved that your brain would mimic what it sees and perceives, which can also pick up on negativity. However, when feeling down and out, smile at them and watch the magic happen.

14. Give Them a Kiss

If the person is someone you love deeply, your embrace and a kiss can be very comforting to them. How can you not smile when someone passionately kisses you? If it’s not your romantic partner, a kiss on the cheek is very appropriate in many situations, and it’s a commonplace in countries like France.

So, pucker up; it could be just what your friend or loved one needs to smile.

15. Give a Huge Tip at Your Favorite Eatery

Okay, so this one might be a bit random, but leaving a big tip can sure make your waitstaff’s day. According to Zip Recruiter, being a server isn’t a lucrative career. Some can earn as low as $6.97 an hour with tips. It all depends on the restaurant, the crowd, and how many hours they get.

In states like Ohio, the minimum wage for wait staff is a mere $3.65 an hour, according to Pocket Sense. So, if you want to make someone smile who’s got the challenging job of waiting tables, give them an extra tip. If they’ve done an excellent job serving you, then they should be rewarded. Also, think of all the people who don’t tip at all or leave very little.

Eight Things Not To Do To Cheer Someone Up

Now that you know all the things that you should do to make someone smile, there are a few things you should try to avoid. Here are some things that can be offensive or of little help to someone down on their luck.

Telling them to cheer up
Stating that you know what they’re going through
Expecting them to snap out of it when they’ve had a significant blow
Acting as if nothing happened or ignoring the obvious
Asking for detail about a situation that they don’t want to talk about
Analyzing the situation
Judging them or others involved
Taking sides in a family dispute

It’s so easy to try to interject into the middle of a problem, but your advice may be unwarranted. Only give advice when someone asks for it, or you could make matters much worse. Sometimes people don’t need you to judge them, ask questions, or form your own opinions, as they want you to be there.

If you want to make someone smile, avoid anything considered aggressive or offensive to a hurting heart. In many instances, people have bad days for no good reason, so they need a smile to help boost their mood and nothing else.

Final Thoughts on How To Make Someone Smile

Everyone deals with grief in their way. Sadly, there is not one thing that will make everyone smile, so you might need to get a bit creative. If someone has gone through a significant tragedy, then you might not be able to cheer them up with a small act, as it might take some time to work through things. Never underestimate the power of just being with someone as they go through a rough time.

Sometimes the most supportive thing to do is be there. Being a positive force in someone’s life helps to contribute to the good of the world around you, and the Universe will repay your kindness when it’s your turn to go through troubles.

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