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12 Ways to Make Organic Vegetables and Fruits Last Longer

If you’ve noticed the price of produce lately, you know that it’s not getting any cheaper. Did you know that the average American household of four people wastes up to $1,600 of produce a year? Would you like to know how to stop throwing away cash and save your organic vegetables and fruits?

How to Wash Your Produce

When you buy certified organic vegetables and fruit, you can be assured that no pesticides or other harmful chemicals were used to raise them. However, it’s still a good idea to always wash the produce you get from the store or your garden with a little vinegar solution.

Directions

  • Wash your sink well to get rid of any lingering bacteria, then fill it halfway with lukewarm (not hot) water.
  • Add 1 cup of white vinegar and use a spatula to stir it nicely.
  • Add your fruit or veggies and allow them to soak for about 10 minutes (3 minutes for berries)
  • For some heavy skinned veggies or potatoes, use a vegetable brush to brush away any dirt.
  • Rinse the fruits and vegetables well with plenty of cold water.
  • Dry your produce with paper towels. Use a spinner to dry your leafy veggies completely.
  • Do not worry that your produce will taste like vinegar because it won’t if you rinse it well. If you don’t have white vinegar, apple cider vinegar will do just as well. You can also sprinkle your produce with a little baking soda, let it sit for a couple of minutes, then rinse well.

12 Ways to Extend the Life of Produce

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1. Bananas

When it comes to America’s favorite fruit, bananas top the list. A USDA report revealed that Americans consumed at least 14.1 pounds of this tropical fruit annually. They ripen and then turn brown quickly, so storage and timing are of the essence.

Choose organic bananas while they are firm and still a bit green. Only buy what you can use in a couple of days and store them openly at room temperature. To preserve these yellow wonders, peel, slice them, then freeze or dehydrate them.

2. Berries

If you want to enjoy the sweetness of nature, you can’t go wrong with berries, especially the dark ones like blackberries and blueberries. They are loaded with antioxidants that protect your cells against free radicals, and they have a low glycemic index. They add the perfect touch of juicy sweetness to any food.

Of all the organic vegetables and fruit you buy, they are the most perishable. Wash them thoroughly in a vinegar solution, dry them, and refrigerate them in their original package. If you can’t eat them within a couple of days, freeze them in a single layer on a sheet pan, seal them in reusable freezer bags, and keep them frozen for up to six months.

3. Avocado

What would Tex-Mex style cuisine be without tender slices of this green wonder? This delightful pitted fruit can also boost the flavor factor for sandwiches, salads, and smoothies. Its heart-healthy oil is rich in Omega-3, which is an essential fat. Avocados are the star ingredient of classic guacamole sauce.

Like many organic vegetables and fruit, avocados are best when consumed as soon as possible. Their delicate green flesh browns quickly with oxidation, so coat a leftover half with lemon juice, wrap in plastic, and store in the refrigerator. You should also store whole varieties for no more than two to three days.

4. Greens

When you pick up your organic vegetables and fruit at the store or farmer’s market, don’t forget the greens. Whether you prefer mustard, kale, collard, or turnip tops, they make the ultimate side dish when cooked or tossed in a salad.

Even if you get a bag of mixed varieties that are pre-washed, it’s still a good idea to give them another wash and spin or pat them completely dry. Put them in a reusable sealed bag and store them in your fridge crisper for the best taste and texture.

5. Onions

These humble bulbs have been treasured for thousands of years, hence the stunning onion-shaped domes on beloved buildings worldwide. They, along with their pungent cousin garlic, provide zesty flavor cooked or raw.

Don’t make the mistake of storing whole onions in the refrigerator, where they will go bad quickly and leave an unsavory aroma. Instead, place them in brown paper bags with holes for ventilation and store them in a cool, dry place. Sliced ones can be stored for up to a week in a reusable sealed bag in the refrigerator.

6. Potatoes

Spuds are royalty among the world’s favorite organic vegetables and fruit. They are one of the most versatile foods you can imagine, whether they are prepared with other foods or stand-alone. These tasty tubers come in many varieties and a rainbow of colors.

To keep your potatoes their freshest for up to six months, place them in reusable mesh bags and store them in a cool, dark place, like a cellar or basement. Avoid storing them close to other vegetables, especially onions. Preserve their freshness by only washing what you need for the meal.

chlorpyrifos7. Fresh Herbs

Herbs were one of the earliest crops that humans cultivated since they were valued for medicine and food. You can use them fresh or dried to enhance the flavor of almost any dish. They are also easy to grow in your yard or the kitchen, so you always have fresh herbs on hand.

Soft herbs like dill or cilantro should be stored upright in a glass of water on your counter, with a water change every two or three days. To store woody herbs like rosemary or thyme, roll them up in a damp paper towel, seal them in a reusable bag, and keep in the refrigerator. Both types will keep this way up to two weeks.

8. Mushrooms

There’s been a fungus among us since recorded history when humans learned to tell the difference between what was food and what was a deadly poison. The delightful beauty of these fungi is that they come in countless varieties and lend a meaty, earthy taste fresh or cooked.

Keep your shrooms fresh by sealing them unwashed in a clean paper bag and putting them in the fridge for up to a week. Use a damp paper towel to wipe off the fungi before eating. You can freeze cooked mushrooms, but not fresh ones.

9. Nuts and Seeds

One of the best sources of meatless protein and essential fatty acids are nuts and seeds. A small handful of almonds, pecans, or walnuts is the ideal snack to keep you satisfied without the guilt. Their imitable flavor and crunch enhance savory and sweet dishes in most global cuisines.

Nuts and seeds in the shell can be put into a sealable glass or plastic containers for best storage. If they are still in the shell, place them in your pantry for up to four months. Those that are shelled can be put in your freezer for up to a year.

10. Lettuce

Did you know that the lettuce family includes many varieties for your dining pleasure, not just the iceberg variety? They can be loose-leaf, romaine, butterhead, or asparagus style. You can use them for countless salad recipes or as a yummy sandwich topping.

Lettuce and other leafy organic vegetables perish quickly, so it’s best to use them for a couple of days. Wash the leaves and make sure they are totally dry. Wrap some dry paper towels around them, place them in a reusable sealed bag or container, and store in your crisper for up to three days.

11. Tomatoes

Who would have believed that tomatoes were once thought to be poisonous because they belong to the deadly nightshade family? Fortunately, naysayers were proven wrong, and these glorious fruits have become one of the most versatile crops known.

Keep your tomatoes at peak flavor by arranging them on your kitchen counter out of direct sunlight. You may also store ones that are overripe or sliced in the fridge for up to three days. For long term storage, chop and can them to last up to 18 months or freeze in resealable bags for up to four months.

12. Citrus Fruit

Citrus fruits like oranges, lemons, limes, and grapefruit are a powerhouse of Vitamin C and other beneficial antioxidants. They add the perfect touch of tangy sweetness to countless savory and sweet dishes from around the world. These tropical treasures tend to be a bit pricey, so proper storage is essential.

If you find a good buy on some citrus fruit, like tangy lemons, you can prepare it for longer storage. Slice or quarter whole fruits, place in a single layer on a sheet pan, and freeze. Place the frozen slices in reusable sealed bags and freeze for up to three to four months.

orgganic vegetablesFinal Thoughts on Making Organic Vegetables and Fruits Last Longer

Buying or raising organic vegetables and fruit helps you provide nutritious meals and snacks for you and your family. Don’t throw money down the drain by letting your produce go to waste. When you wash and store it the correct way, you will have plenty of healthy food and virtually no waste.

Meet The Man Who Dances His Way Through Body Image Stereotypes

Do you struggle with body image stereotypes? Meet a man who shreds all misconceptions by sharing dance videos that are setting the internet on fire.

Erik Cavanaugh, a 27-year-old professional dancer, living in Nashville, Tennessee, truly dances to the beat of his own drum. His passion for dancing began at the age of 16 during his years at a creative & performing arts high school.

He first majored in theatre, but by the end of the sophomore year, he knew he wanted to pursue a career in dance. So, by the team junior year rolled around, he switched his major to the dance department and hasn’t looked back.

His dancing career has taken him worldwide and allowed him to perform at music festivals and in commercials. He’s also appeared in magazines and music videos and posts frequently on Instagram to showcase his diverse dance skills. He even competed in season 11 of America’s Got Talent with a ballet performance!

While at one point, no one believed he could achieve his dreams, including himself, his passion and dedication for the art have paid off.

 

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Erik’s Message About Body Image Stereotypes

His goal is to prove that anyone of any body type can pursue dance, as long as they have a true love for performing arts. Erik says he creates his videos based on what mood and vibe he’s feeling that day.

Whether it’s contemporary, jazz, or more freestyle dance, Erik lets his soul speak to him in the dance studio.

He says that for his TikTok and Instagram videos, he asks himself, “How wacky or ridiculous can I be?” His goal is to bring a smile to people’s faces and encourage them to be their authentic selves too. He says that the challenge and fluidity of dance excite him, making him want to learn and grow even more.

“You achieve something new in dance, you have the next goal to go to, so you are always training, you are always growing, you are always attempting to achieve and become more,” he said in a video.

He trains as a dancer two to three hours a day, making a living by teaching dance classes and doing commercials and music videos. For anyone new to dancing, be sure to check out dance faqs for helpful tips and advice. He also licenses his videos on social media platforms, selling them to websites and media outlets.

A couple of years ago, he recorded himself dancing at a studio in Pennsylvania, and just four months later, it had been viewed over 70 million times.

 

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Erik Took the Internet by Storm

The Facebook page Scary Mommy made it into a meme, titling it “When You Have the House to Yourself.” It was a huge hit with all the moms in the group and everyone who saw it elsewhere.

Another video he made back in 2016 got shared on the Instagram page worldwidedance and then got picked up by other outlets. Between all the different websites and platforms that shared it, including Power of Positivity, his video got over 90 million views. This video launched his dancing career, and even granted him a spot in an edition of Oprah Magazine! The original video had the hashtag #dancerscomeinallsizes, which Erik now uses on his posts.

Fergie from the Black Eyed Peas came across the video and asked Erik to FaceTime with her. During the call, she said that the video had moved her to tears. Through Fergie, Erik got noticed by choreographer Fatima Robinson and Emmy-winning director and producer Michael Jurkovac. This led to an invitation for Erik to star in a Dodge Ram commercial, which was scheduled to air during the 2018 Super Bowl.

He also launched his clothing brand using that same hashtag, selling items such as shirts, sweatpants, and even phone cases. Erik proves that by following your heart and not caring what others think, your wildest dreams can come true.

 

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Overcome Body Image Stereotypes and Follow Your Dreams

For those who want to pursue their passion for dancing, Erik suggests starting at a local dance studio if you’re feeling a bit cautious or afraid. That way, you can learn the basics in an environment where everyone is pretty much on the same page. He says at the dance studio he teaches at called Millennium Dance Complex, they have classes ranging from beginner to advanced.

“We welcome everybody. Our motto is unity and diversity, so find a local studio in your city that has those drop-in classes for adults. Just walk in, sign up and do it; don’t overthink it, don’t fight yourself about it – just go straight into it,” Erik said when advising about how to get started.

You may feel embarrassed or shy at first, but remember to have fun and give yourself a chance to learn the moves. You never know. Maybe you may end up loving it and sign up for all the classes they offer!

Erik also says not to let your body image or size stop you from achieving your dreams or goals. “We all have different bodies, we all look different, and that’s what makes us beautiful as human beings.”

 

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Final Thoughts: Break Down Body Image Barriers and Live Life to the Fullest

Erik believes that everyone deserves to do what makes them happy, no matter what that looks like to others. He says, “Love yourself and have fun. Don’t worry anymore.” Not only does Erik have amazing dance skills, but he gives great life advice as well! Everyone can offer the world unique skills and talents, and if your heart comes alive with dance, then go for it. Don’t let anyone else’s opinions stop you, or the voice in your own head, either.

Known for dancing in heels and breaking the mold when it comes to male dancers, Erik brings inspiration and happiness to millions of people. He shows us all what can happen when you decide to forge ahead and have an unshakable belief in yourself. What started as just a dream for him became a full-time career, and he shows his students how loving yourself can lead to beautiful new beginnings.

10 Ways to Empower Yourself to Walk Away from a Narcissist

Walking away from a narcissist can be difficult but, if you can empower yourself, you can do it. The first step towards leaving is to acknowledge the situation for what it is.

Sometimes recognizing a narcissist isn’t as easy as you’d think, which could make you question yourself. Questioning yourself is what makes walking away tricky, so you must empower yourself and learn which characteristics to look for. It’s easier to walk away once you have learned to identify narcissistic behavior, luckily.

There are sure signs you can watch for that will let you know someone is a narcissist. These signs are generalized, so keep in mind that a narcissist may not exhibit all of them. To identify a narcissist, look for the following signs:

  • they think they are the single most important person
  • a sense of entitlement
  • require constant communication
  • they think they should be superior even when others have achieved more
  • exaggerate personal events, achievements, and talents
  • won’t associate with anyone they feel is beneath them
  • frequently take over conversations
  • belittling
  • they expect others to do whatever they say
  • take advantage of others to benefit themselves
  • an inability to recognize or acknowledge the feelings or needs of others, lack of empathy
  • arrogant and easily angered
  • they need the very best of everything, or they can’t be happy
  • can’t handle criticism and always has a problem with other people
  • easily offended and take innocent remarks as a slight
  • will begin to shout and insult to gain superiority
  • can’t regulate emotions or control explosive behavior
  • become moody or depressed when they don’t do something perfectly

Recognizing the signs may not be enough to get you to walk away for good, however. You must continue to empower yourself in other ways, too.

How to Empower Yourself to Walk Away from a Narcissist

You recognize the need to leave, but you must muster up the courage. Here are a few guidelines to help you make the transition.

1. Join a Support Group

pop quoteWhen you first recognize that you are in this situation, it can be hard to overcome. You might feel as if you are a failure for not walking away sooner.

You aren’t a failure, however, as there are many narcissistic people in the United States. Encountering a narcissistic person is common, and you may be in too deep before you realize their real personality. This means that many other people have been in a situation similar to yours.

To overcome the situation, accept the way it is, and walk away for good, you may need support. This support is best when it comes to those who fully understand what it is like.

Joining a support group can be the perfect place for this. Make sure the support group is led by a therapist so that you can learn to move forward positively.

It’s crucial that you don’t turn to those who may judge the situation. Whether they will talk badly about the narcissist or they make you feel bad for staying, it can be counter-productive. This reason is why it is often best to turn to a third party for support.

2. Have a Life Separate from Them

Narcissists like to isolate you from other people who love you. This is one of the ways they gain control of you. They may also expect you to give up your hobbies or career so that your life only revolves around them.

This situation makes it harder to walk away, so you have to build a life separately from them. If you have gone out-of-touch with friends or family members, reach out and work to rebuild the relationships. Start spending time pursuing your old interests and hobbies, and find a job that makes you happy.

The relationships you rebuild should be separate from the narcissist’s friends and family. Likewise, the hobbies and job opportunities shouldn’t include them, either.

This attitude will give you a chance to start fresh and have people to support you and things to keep you busy. Plus, it will prevent you from returning due to loneliness or overthinking.

3. Learn Your Worth and Practice Self-Love

To successfully walk away, you have to learn to love yourself. Know your worth and work on building your self-esteem and confidence. Value your needs and wants and take the time to take care of yourself.

When you do this, you’ll begin to trust yourself more. You will be stronger and well-equipped to walk away. Then, you will notice that you no longer feel guilty, and you’ll stop doubting yourself.

4. Set Boundaries and be Assertive

When you have been affected by a narcissist, it can be hard to set boundaries and be assertive. It is possible, though, and you will be glad you did afterward. Typically, the first time you do this, you’ll feel powerful and in control. Each time you are assertive after that is only helping you gain strength.

Set boundaries by making it clear that you don’t like the behavior. You can also set boundaries by having an exit strategy when things go awry. Make sure you have a car, Uber, or a trustworthy person who can pick you up quickly.

This way, you can leave a situation when you are dealing with a narcissist. You won’t be stuck with them, and you won’t have to count on them for a ride. Use this same way of thinking for all situations you are in, and you’ll be able to walk away.

When you give yourself the power to decide when enough is enough, you’ll quickly build self-esteem. Plus, it’ll help get the point across that you aren’t going to be their victim anymore.

5. Leave When you Say You’re Going to Leave

If you keep threatening to leave only to stay every time, you’ll be going in circles. When you say that you are planning to leave, it’s time to leave. If you don’t walk away, you will stay trapped as a victim in this toxic cycle of narcissistic behavior.

Don’t let them convince you to come back, either. When you walk away, let it empower you. Embrace the freedom and the safety you feel when you are away.

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6. Identify the Role of a Victim

No person deserves to be a victim, and you might not even realize you have become one. If you begin feeling hopeless or powerless, it’s a sign that you have become a victim. These are signs of an unhealthy, toxic relationship.

When identified, you can use it to empower you to walk away. Choose to stop being a victim and put yourself, your happiness, and your mental health first.

7. Learn About Narcissism and Toxic Relationships

The more you know, then the more you will feel empowered. Learning is key to successfully walking away from a narcissist. As mentioned before, you have to learn the characteristics so that you can identify them at the moment.

You must also gather your inner-strength and remain assertive about your intent. Likewise, you have to learn how you can begin to detach yourself from this person.

It might help you to read about the effects a narcissist has on another person. This could help you understand why it is so important to walk away.

You can also learn how to safely walk away if you feel physical abuse might occur. There is a way out, and by learning all you can, you will feel stronger and more capable of leaving.

8. Take Steps to Do Things for Yourself

Don’t wait on this person to get things done for you. Usually, they are so busy thinking of themselves that they forget what you’ve asked of them. Learn to do something for yourself, and you will feel empowered.

It will make you healthier and help you realize that you don’t need them as much as you thought you did. If you cannot complete a task yourself, then hire someone, or find a handy neighbor to help you out. The sooner you realize how independent you can be, the sooner you will be ready to walk away.

This doesn’t just pertain to getting things done around the house, either. If you feel stuck because you have no education or work history, begin taking classes or signing up for training. Even if you can only pursue it at a slow pace, it will get you started and empower you.

Before you know it, you will embark on the journey to being more independent. With empowerment comes confidence, and that could lead to you landing the perfect job to help you walk away.

9. Take Control of Your Happiness

You are solely the person to ensure your happiness. When you are unhappy, remind yourself that you are responsible for that, too.

If you continually feel like something is causing you to be unhappy, think of how to change it.  Remember that you are 100% the only one who can make changes in your life. So, if you are unhappy with something, it is your responsibility to change it.

10. Cut Off Contact or Make it as Minimal as Possible

Once you have walked away, it is crucial to stay away. Narcissists have a way of making you believe they will change, but you can’t fall for that. It’s easier said than done, so cutting off contact is the best way to avoid the trap.

If you can’t cut off complete contact, make it as minimal as possible. Only discuss necessary topics, and set boundaries to ensure they don’t try to discuss anything else.

empowerFinal Thoughts on Ways to Empower Yourself to Walk Away from a Narcissist

Narcissists are manipulative and controlling, and their behavior can take a considerable toll on your mental health. Even so, it can be hard to walk away. If you can empower yourself, however, you will be able to do it.

Remember that you are tougher than you realize, and you deserve happiness and positivity. Remember these tips for empowerment the next time you are in a toxic situation, and think about your wellbeing.

9 Ways Losing Weight Improves Quality of Life

Losing weight and obesity are hot topics in the world today. Some people have a warped idea of what the ideal figure should look like. Some don’t care at all and will ignore the science that sounds worrying or contradictory to their beliefs. Plenty more people are in the middle of those two extremes.

The scientific fact, however, is that being overweight – especially if you’re obese – is a dangerous thing. It puts you at elevated risk for so many more problems and disorders. Worse still, you may not even realize what you’re missing out on if you haven’t been at a healthy weight for a while.

But are any of these reasons excellent enough to justify undergoing the grueling, often discouraging, and exhausting effort it would take to work off those extra pounds? Well, why don’t you decide that for yourself? Here are nine ways that losing weight can improve the quality of your life.

1.    Reduced Respiratory Trouble

The heavier you are, the higher you face the risk of developing asthma. There’s no universally agreed-upon reason for this, but most believe that this happens because most overweight individuals carry excess weight in their midsection. This placement of fat reduces the volume of the lungs, thus affecting respiratory function.

Asthmatic and obese, but want to get down to a healthier weight? Try simple exercises like racquet sports, volleyball, and gymnastics to be kind to your lungs. Remember, take into consideration that you should:

  • Choose activities that require only short bursts of energy.
  • Steer clear of activities that involve constant energy
  • Keep the end goal in mind with positive thinking; the less you weigh, the easier it will be to exercise.

Just ten pounds of weight loss can make a significant difference in your life if you deal with respiratory problems like allergies, asthma, and more. Just don’t overwork yourself – slow and steady wins the race!

losing weight2.    Reduced Migraine Occurrence

Migraines can be debilitating. They ruin productivity and rob you of positive thinking; in some cases, they can render you completely nonfunctional. If you’re overweight, shedding some extra pounds might change your migraines. Here are some studies that show their close link.

  • “Migraine and Obesity: Epidemiology, Possible Mechanisms, and the Potential Role of Weight Loss Treatment” in Obesity Reviews (2011). This research paper found that migraines and obesity are closely linked, with different mechanisms adding the risk of the concurrence of these two problems.
  • “Behavioral Weight Loss Intervention for Migraine: A Randomized Controlled Trial” in Obesity (2017). This study revealed that women who changed their diet and worked out to lose weight experienced migraines at a lower frequency and severity than before.
  • “For migraine sufferers with obesity, losing weight can decrease headaches” published by The Endocrine Society (2019). This information was pulled from a meta-analysis of research that found that weight loss, whether by surgery or through lifestyle changes, would reduce intensity, length, and frequency of headaches.

3.    Food Tastes Better

Yes, you read that correctly! Being overweight can lessen the sensitivity of your tastebuds, meaning you taste less of the food you eat. It’s a little ironic to think that your tongue may perceive tastes in a more positive way if you eat less, to begin with. Still, it’s something that researchers discovered when investigating body weight regulation and its links to obesity.

But why does this happen? Well, there’s no concrete answer just yet, but experts believe that it has to do with hormonal changes. It’s possible that the hormones released in excess when you’re overweight intercept or deafen communication between the receptors and the brain.

If you do lose that weight, then perhaps you may find that many foods you weren’t interested in before now taste delicious to you. Similarly, foods you used to love might become much too overwhelming in flavor for you to stomach.

4.    Better Memory

Did you ever wish you could remember more? Well, studies indicate that losing weight could help you with that process. When you’re overweight, your brain can shrink in the temporal lobe – responsible for memory – leading to a worsened perception and things becoming all too easy to forget.

  • “Improved Memory Function 12 Weeks after Bariatric Surgery” in Surgery for Obesity and Related Diseases (2010). This study noted that bariatric surgery could help weight loss significantly and leave lower instances of inflammation that could harm the brain. Researchers had hopeful thoughts regarding the possibility of those losing weight through other means experiencing the same positive.
  • “Weight loss improves memory and alters brain activity in overweight women,” published by the Endocrine Society (2013). This scientific article details some results from society’s tests and research. They discovered that women who lost weight through dieting over half a year had altered brain activity in certain areas of their brain, specifically the ones used for memory-related tasks.
  • “Improved Memory Function Two Years After Bariatric Surgery” in Obesity (2013). This study found that those who underwent bariatric surgery and experienced a drop in BMI had lower levels of inflammation and insulin resistance, both of which researchers believed to play a large role in determining overall cognitive function and memory.

losing weight5.    Reproductive Function

With obesity comes a lot of hormonal changes and difficulties. Conditions such as PCOS, which are not that rare in overweight women, affect fertility levels completely and make it difficult to conceive. Even obese women who opt for IVF are at risk of not particularly positive things, as they:

  • Reduce your chance of carrying a baby to term, or have a higher risk of miscarriage
  • Lower your chance of becoming pregnant via IVF methods
  • Increase your risk of complications during a pregnancy

On top of that, studies have also found that obese women have a longer labor time when giving birth. This can be quite the problem and, though most mothers would agree that the extra time is more than worth it for bringing a beautiful child into the world, it’s still not very convenient. Added pain and a higher risk of complications make this a more anxiety-inducing researched fact.

6.    Better Libido And Intimacy

Losing weight can lead to a higher libido and drive for bedroom fun. According to research, when weight is lost via bariatric surgery, many individuals have a stronger desire for intimacy than before. On top of that, this effect could occur for a prolonged period, even lasting for up to five years! This could be because of:

  • Higher self-esteem
  • Better stamina and feelings of satisfaction
  • Reduced risk of erectile dysfunction due to better blood flow

7.    Your Knees Will Hurt Less

Knee pain is common in overweight individuals. In fact, osteoarthritis is linked in numerous studies to obesity. Losing weight will help remove the strain off of those joints, leading to a lower risk of developing this wear-and-tear disorder. Here are some things about obesity and osteoarthritis that you need to know:

·         Pressure

Those of healthy weight absorb approximately 1.5 pounds in their knees with each step they take. That’s already a significant amount, which is why some people of healthy weight still develop knee pain. If you’re overweight, you’re adding to the risk of joint misalignment and putting even more force on your knees.

·         Inflammation

Fat is always releasing proteins that cause inflammation, sending your body into a state of chronic inflammation that affects many different aspects of your health. This inflammation can increase the risk of joints in developing osteoarthritis.

·         Progression

For obese individuals, the progression of osteoarthritis can be much more drastic and severe. If you’re overweight, you are also more likely to require knee or hip surgeries, which could cause more complications.

8.    Improved Positive Thinking

The Obesity Action Coalition conducted a study recently that uncovered how much of a positive thinking boost you can get from losing weight. Sometimes, when something is getting you down, the simple act of working on yourself can improve self-esteem, mood, and hormones like feel-good endorphins.

However, it’s worth noting that weight loss cannot cure depression. Some people like to tout depression around as something that will go away if you try hard enough, but that isn’t how it works. Still, weight loss can improve the presentation of some depressive symptoms. In some people with milder depression, it might be enough for them to feel sufficiently better!

9.    You’re At Lower Risk For Life-Threatening Diseases

A lot of overweight or obese individuals face fears about their risks of contracting life-threatening illnesses. It’s a valid concern and not one to be taken lightly. Here are some of the diseases you will be less at risk for if you lose weight:

·         Heart Disease

Excess weight puts a lot of undue strain on the heart, which has to pump more and harder to circulate blood properly throughout the body. Cardiovascular issues are so linked to obesity that countless studies have been written on the topic, almost all of which have reached a similar conclusion regarding heart strain due to added weight.

·         Nonalcoholic Fatty Liver Disease

This term refers to any liver disease not caused – or at least, mostly not caused – by alcohol. Research has found all sorts of different diseases of this kind can be linked to obesity.

·         Cancer

Believe it or not, obesity has been considered a risk factor for the development of cancer for a while. It is believed that pathogenic links are the reason behind the higher positive cancer testing among the overweight, with issues such as cell crosstalk, oxidative stress, hypoxia, and more triggering the growth of cancerous cells.

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Final Thoughts On Some Ways Losing Weight Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life

Well, now you know just how much good weight loss can do for you. But losing weight is much easier said than done. Do not be too hard on yourself if it takes a while to get the ball rolling, and don’t feel guilty if you hit a rut; everyone does.

If you’re struggling to lose weight or aren’t sure if your weight is endangering your health, it is an excellent idea to talk to a doctor to hear their ideas on the subject in a medically informed, professional way.

As a final note, please try to lose weight for the right reasons. Wanting to appear more desirable to the person you’re attracted to isn’t the most effective motivational thought. Learn to love yourself and think of it like this: you love yourself enough to do difficult things to save your life. And that’s a beautiful, wonderful thing!

10 Tips for Avoiding Germs When Using Public Bathrooms

Have you ever considered how many germs are in a public restroom? Bathrooms are nasty, but there something about the bacterial and viral infections that float around a public facility that makes your skin crawl. Your parent always taught you to wash your hands after using the commode, but with the germs and diseases floating around today, soap and water aren’t enough.

Consider this scenario. You’re at the mall, and you need to use the restroom. You have no choice as it’s an emergency. You are careful, and you cover the seat with toilet paper so that you can protect yourself from the germs on the surface.

Suddenly, you’re just about to sit down and take care of business, and all the paper you have carefully arrange goes into the bowl. You must settle for doing a squat where you pray to hit the right target. What you might not know is that the seat on that toilet isn’t as dirty as what you might think.

However, the rest of the bathroom is pretty much a petri dish for every germ and fungi you could imagine. It would help if you considered the dirty floor, nasty faucets, and door handles. How in the world are you supposed to social distance when there is a line, and people are busting to go?

The Germy Reality

You need to know some facts about the bathroom to know what to do to keep from catching an infection. The toilet seat isn’t that dirty because the workers that service these bathrooms wipe them down all day long. They use disinfectants on them as they know that this area will be up close and personal with many people.

If you do happen to sit on the seat, you shouldn’t worry too much about it. Very few germs will transmit from the seat to your skin. The time you spent lining the seat with toilet paper is also for naught. The toilet paper has a porous texture, and it will do nothing to prevent the transfer of germs.

The real threat to you is the bathroom floor. Each time the toilet flushes, tiny droplets escape from the commode and land on any surface within six feet. Sadly, these drops often have fecal-borne illnesses within them. While you’re putting your focus on the toilet seat, the real danger is under your feet.

Ladies put their purses on the floor, diaper bags, child carriers, and bags from shopping. They can transfer things like shigella, salmonella, norovirus, or E. coli to their bags and other items. If you’re not feeling nauseous yet, it gets worse.

For those who need a cleaner, more hygienic alternative when out in public, investing in the best portable toilet can provide a safer option. With portable toilets, you can avoid the crowded and potentially germ-laden public restrooms, offering you a cleaner environment that minimizes exposure to harmful bacteria and viruses.

Whether for outdoor events, road trips, or emergencies, having access to a portable toilet can offer peace of mind when it comes to personal hygiene and safety.

How many times have you answered your cell phone or made a call while in a public bathroom? Don’t handle your cell phone as you’re just transferring all the bacteria in the area to your phone. Remember, this is the same phone that you are putting on the side of your face.

Making an Action Plan While Visiting Bathrooms

bathroomsSince there’s no way to avoid using restrooms when you’re out in public, there are some things you can do to protect yourself. Here are ten tips for you to consider when using public bathrooms.

1. Don’t Touch the Doors

Not everyone washes their hands after they go to the restroom. Some people change babies’ diapers and don’t even rinse off afterward. While it’s completely irresponsible, it is putting you at risk.

When they touch the door handles on the way in or out, the germs stay behind. Use a paper towel or the tail of your shirt in a pinch to open and close the door. Many places are updating their entrances so that you need to open a door, but many still have the old germy methods.

2. Don’t Handle Your Cell Phone

Before you go into the restroom, make sure you put your cell phone in a pocket or purse. Even if you get a call that you won the lottery, you won’t be able to enjoy the money if you’re sick because of the bacterium you’ve picked up in the local laboratory.

Don’t touch your phone until after you’ve cleansed your hands and you’ve left the bathroom. Those germs you pick up will be too close to your mouth and nose, and there’s a real risk of contamination.

3. Don’t Set Things on the Dirty Floor

There’s usually no right place to put anything in a restroom. No matter how hard you try to be careful, even hanging something on the stall door can be dangerous. Try to leave all packages and handbags outside in a cart or with someone else. You don’t want to take a chance of picking up viral infections and spreading it to your family.

4. Wash Your Hands

Cleaning your hands is a no-brainer, but you need to make sure you’re doing it correctly. Scrub for at least 20 seconds, and make sure you get the back of your hands too. Did you know that a study found that only 63 percent of people cleanse their hands after using the restroom? It’s a disgusting statistic that is alarming as it is. These careless actions can make you sick.

5. Don’t Trust the Faucets

Fortunately, most modern public facilities now feature hands-free sinks. When you encounter faucets in older restrooms, though, approach them with caution.

One would assume that the faucets in the bathroom are clean. However, they are subject to all sorts of microscopic germs too. If you have a little bit of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, you can take your soapy hands and lather up that part of the sink to help keep the germs under control.

Once you wash your hands, don’t touch the water spigot. If you must turn it off, try to use your elbow. Thankfully, many bathrooms have the taps that turn off and on without your assistance.

poop6. Dry Your Hands Thoroughly

Are you one of those people who scrub your hands but don’t dry them? It will help if you dry your hands thoroughly to prevent picking up more germs. Your wet hands can easily pick up bacteria more so than your dry hands.

Think of a wet dishcloth. When you want to clean something, you always wet your cloth first. The key here is a damp rag picks up more stuff than a dry one. Now, use that analogy to think about your wet hands in public bathrooms.

7. Keep Your Conversations Brief

Some people like to chatter away in the bathroom, but it’s not a good idea to linger. You need to get in and take care of business and get out. Plus, you want to remember social distancing so you don’t want to get too chatty with someone who might invade your personal space.

8. Wear a Mask

Since many areas have mask mandates, it’s not a bad thing to wear one into the restroom, either. A mask helps protect both your mouth and nose from inhaling germs and other bacteria commonly found in bathrooms.

If you have disposable masks, it would be best to bring along an extra one to use in the bathrooms and pitch it as you go out the door. The germ level in public restrooms is far worse than that of the stores, and you don’t want to take any chances.

A final not on masks–resist the urge to touch or adjust your face covering while inside the bathroom.

9. Spray Disinfectant in the Stall Before you Enter

While it may be odd to carry around a spray bottle of disinfectant like Lysol, you can’t be too careful these days. When you open the door, take the disinfectant and spray down the area.

A disinfectant will cleanse the region so that you are less likely to get germs in your mouth or nose. Plus, with all the smells wafting around, you may enjoy a fresh blast of something clean anyway.

10. Flush and Rush

The minute you flush that toilet, you need to exit. You should have all your belongings picked up, your pants buttoned, and be ready to head out that door the minute you flush the loo.

If you are using a manual-flush commode, remember to use your foot and not your hand. As you can imagine, the CDC reports that the number of germs on the lever is massive. Flush the toilet as your opening the door to run. You don’t want any of those microscopic droplets getting on you or your belongings.

bathroomsFinal Thoughts on Avoiding Germs in Public Bathrooms

Everyone is concerned about social distancing and such, but they often forget how many germs are in a public restroom. Even your home bathroom is where germs congregate, so can you imagine how much more bacteria is in a public establishment?

Another good tip is to use hand sanitizer after your touch door handles while exiting a lavatory because you can never be too careful. While E. coli isn’t deadly, other strains of norovirus and other viral infections can kill. While you don’t want to think of a trip to the loo as having the possibility to end your life, the potential risk of infection is too significant not to be cautious.

Though doctors tell people not to hold their bladder as it can cause an infection, the risk of getting sick from using a public bathroom is such that waiting till you get home is warranted. Avoid using busy restrooms or those that aren’t cleaned and serviced correctly to protect you and your family.

10 Funny Teachers Share Their Thoughts on Remote Learning

inRemote learning is a new concept for parents, students, and teachers alike. Since it was a surprise to many, everyone had to scramble and come up with a plan. Educators had to learn a whole new way to do their job, and they shared their thoughts along the way.

Teachers had to deal with the issue of improvising with teaching materials and supplies. They also had to set up a teaching space free from background distractions and people walking by. Many times, however, these plans and setups failed and were recorded on video.

Other times, they had to learn about new student distractions that they weren’t able to take away. From students playing video games to shouting during the video, educators experienced it all. Plus, their thoughts on student’s excuses are hilarious.

Since much of the teachers’ learning experiences during this time were recorded, there is plenty of proof of their thoughts. Funny educators decided to upload their videos that expressed their thoughts of distance learning during the Coronavirus pandemic.

Teachers Share Their Funniest Observations on Remote Learning

1. What It’s Like to Be a Remote Teacher

In this funny video, a teacher shares what it’s like to teach students remotely during the Coronavirus pandemic. He points out how he can see the date and time that students click a link. Yet these students still try to tell him they never received the assignment.

This teacher also makes jokes that he can see the children doing other things. His reaction to the option for muting all microphones except his own is priceless, too.

You can hear about his experience talking to students’ parents during the virtual learning session. Plus, you can hear about how he spends his time while the students are working on the assignment.

2. Things You Only Say When Remote Teaching

Remote learning is new for everyone, so, expectedly, there are some hiccups along the way. Parents, students, and educators are all in new situations and learning along the way. This teacher shared a video of things she has only said during distance learning classes.

From giving students suggestions for the microphones to greeting pets, she covers many humorous things she’s had to say. Students ask if they should take their computers with them to the bathroom or if they can see the teacher’s home. Her responses are funny and lighthearted.

3. Best Distance Learning Parody

Professor Michael Bruening teaches History and Political Science at Missouri University of Science and Technology. He created this parody based on the song “I Will Survive” to show how educators are getting by. It Is intended to show what teachers are experiencing and to help them overcome this new lifestyle.

The humorous lines of the song that many educators can relate to help them all feel like they aren’t alone. Plus, he includes lyrics that can relay the concerns and worries that many people are in right now. While he brings up concerns, he does it in a way that will help everyone feel better.

Through his funny parody, everyone can smile and laugh a little, despite all of the hardships occurring. His video can remind us all that we can get through this and that things will be okay. There is no better way to get this message across than in a humorous way that can help everyone relax.

4. Funny Teacher Bloopers – Online Learning Blooper Reel

As can be expected, teaching online comes with challenges. These challenges often include learning how to behave when they are on camera where students can see them. Luckily, this teacher from Australia shares some of the funny mistakes she has made.

This video shows the teacher making mistakes or forgetting what is supposed to happen next. Sometimes, she even asked if they can cut and start over on their recorded video. While these bloopers likely didn’t make it into the video posted for student learning, they are still funny.

It shows the struggles of a teacher to learn this new method of teaching. Plus, listeners get a funny insight into their thoughts on distance learning.

5. The Struggles of Remote Teaching

This funny video shows the true challenges that educators are experiencing. Having to improvise and use the refrigerator as a dry erase board is just one of the funny ways that he shares his experience. This teacher also makes it a point to show the troubleshooting that is involved with teaching a virtual lesson.

Plus, he humorously shows how parents all want something different done for their children. By the end of the video, you will understand his thoughts on the whole situation.

6. When Online Teaching Goes Wrong Lockdown 2020

Educators at St John’s Diocesan School for Girls in Pietermaritzburg, South Africa, share their thoughts and bloopers from the first day of virtual teaching. Their thoughts and mistakes during this video are priceless and hilarious.

Some of the teaching staff have their children at home, and the video offers funny insight into that. If you can relate, you will appreciate that part even more. They also struggle with family members making noises in the background or walking into the background.

While they may not directly express their thoughts, they are sometimes shared accidentally. The parts that aren’t shared are highly apparent in the faces of the educators.

7. Virtual Learning Video Etiquette

The staff at Cambridge School in Pennington, New Jersey, share their thoughts through this video. They address the issues they see with the students and put together this funny video to help teach virtual etiquette.

This funny video shows how students will interrupt the class by shouting for their parents to bring them food. It also shows the many distractions students now have access to and how they should avoid letting them interfere—the distractions that the educators have encountered and shockingly surprising, which makes them even funnier.

From student preparation to distracting other students, this video brings light to the issues that teaching staff is having. Their thoughts are very clear in this video, but they funnily show them to lighten the mood.

8. Distance Learning Bloopers

Patricia Kucharski, a 1st-grade teacher at Round Elementary School in Hartland, Michigan, shares her funny thoughts on distance learning. Her struggles with improvising to use the supplies are all too real and will leave you laughing.

From this video, you can see that the teacher wants to do the best possible job for her students. She stops and re-starts multiple times, and struggles to get it just the way she wants it. The humor is there, however, and she works her way through it.

9. How I’m Handling Online Teaching (Original Video)

This short video is one of the funniest ones about teaching remotely. An elementary school music teacher named Liz makes her feelings very clear by singing a song. She uses a ukulele while singing the song “So perfect” by Mark Ruffalo to express her thoughts on remote learning.

This video is probably not what you are expecting, so keep that in mind as it begins. It’s a hilarious way to explain the thoughts of a teacher during distance learning. Plus, it’s just good to let go of those thoughts and feelings sometimes while allowing others to laugh.

10.  A Parody Reveals an Online Educator’s Struggles

Many people probably believe teachers have it easy when teaching remotely since they can work from home via Zoom. This isn’t true, however, as this teacher points out in a creative and hilarious video.

All the distractions and interruptions they encounter at home are sure to be frustrating. They are working, after all, and expected to remain professional even while at home. Plus, each lesson probably takes longer to prepare and record because they have to keep starting over–not to mention how parents seem to chime in on the lessons!

This funny video shows the things educators have to deal with while trying to teach their students. Needless to say, it will leave you laughing even after it’s over.

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Final Thoughts on Funny Teachers Share Their Thoughts on Remote Learning

Even though remote learning may be a learning experience for everyone, you can still find the humor in it. These funny teachers were at the heart of the new learning style, and they overcame the hardships and were able to laugh at themselves.

Plus, they were able to make light of the new issues they encountered with students and parents. Having a sense of humor during these times is essential, so watch the videos and share them with others. Remember, if you can find the humor, the experience will get better.

Don’t feel bad for laughing at these thoughts, because the educators shared them just for that reason. Enjoy them and revel in the thought that you aren’t the only one struggling during this time. Then, try to do what these educators did and make the struggles into a funny situation.

Scientists Alarmed by Two Decade Decline in Monarch Butterfly Population

Sadly, scientists have observed a vast decrease in the monarch butterfly over the last twenty years. Fortunately, the researchers know the way to restore them–but these creatures need our help.After looking into reasons for their decline, researchers have found that the destruction of milkweed is to blame. Female monarchs lay eggs on the leaves of milkweed plants, secreting a sticky substance so they’ll stay attached. However, humans have been destroying their habitats and either mowing over the milkweeds or eradicating them with herbicides.

Because the monarch butterfly only lays her eggs on milkweed, the species can’t exist without it. While adult monarchs eat the nectar of many types of flowers, they only breed on milkweed. The larvae receive nourishment from the plant as well, allowing them to develop into adult monarchs. Humans have mistaken the milkweed as a noxious everyday weed, which removes a vital habitat and food source for the monarch.

Why does the monarch butterfly choose milkweed?

The monarch ingests toxins in the milkweed, making them poisonous to predators, yet they don’t harm the butterfly. Milkweeds have certain chemical compounds, including a cardiac poison, that would seriously injure or kill vertebrates. These toxins help protect the monarchs as adults because the vibrant coloring of their wings warns predators to stay away. Not to mention, the toxins ingested by the monarch make them taste terrible, which is advantageous to their survival.

Monarchs have evolved to tolerate the poisons in milkweed and store them in their bodies to ward off predators. These plants contain compounds called cardenolides, which would make most animals vomit or even cause cardiac arrest. This occurs because the compound binds to critical parts of the sodium pump, inhibiting its function.

However, they don’t affect the monarch because they have a mutation in at least one gene, which carries instructions for making sodium pumps. This protein allows for recovery after sodium floods the cells, causing an electrical discharge. Therefore, milkweed makes a beautiful food source as well as a nesting ground for monarchs.

Other interesting facts about the monarch butterfly

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  • Their average life span is only six to eight months.
  • They’re native to North and South America but are no longer found in South America.
  • They are divided into two groups in North America, the western and eastern monarchs, due to their breeding patterns. The western ones breed west of the Rocky Mountains, and the eastern ones breed in the Great Plains and Canada.
  • They’re also found in Hawaii, New Zealand, Australia, Portugal, and Spain.
  • A female monarch usually lays between 300 and 500 eggs for two to five weeks.
  • Monarchs’ migration patterns take them up to 3,000 miles per year!
  • The monarch is the only butterfly that has two-way migration patterns as birds do.
  • Tens of thousands of these butterflies cluster on a single oyamel tree to stay warm in the winter.
  • Monarchs may travel up to 100 miles a day during their migration.
  • The monarch butterfly will continue to feed and reproduce for several generations throughout the U.S. and Canada. The fourth generation of monarchs migrates to Mexico in the fall.
  • They have a unique gene that gives them highly efficient muscles to endure long flights.
  • It’s estimated that around a billion monarch butterflies arrive in the mountains of Mexico each year.
  • Female monarchs have thicker veins on their wings than males. Males have two small black spots on their hind wings, which scientists believe release hormones to attract females.
  • Monarchs smell using their antennae and taste nectar and water with sensory hairs on their feet and legs.

The great migration

Thousands of people travel to sanctuaries and reserves throughout North America to witness the annual monarch butterfly migration. However, with the population on the decline, scientists fear that their days are numbered. According to research, Western monarchs have declined by more than 99 percent since the 1980s. Eastern monarchs have declined by an estimated 80 percent.

Luckily, though, we can reverse this trend and help the monarch make a comeback in the future. Below, we’ll talk more about why the destruction of milkweed, and not migration patterns, is to blame for their demise. Also, we’ll discuss what you can do to help this beautiful butterfly survive.

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San Francisco man repopulates a rare butterfly–the pipeline swallowtail.

Here’s why scientists are alarmed by the decline of the monarch butterfly:

As you can see from the above-listed data, the monarch butterfly population has sharply declined over the last twenty years. Some scientists believed that migration patterns could explain the decrease, but a recent study disproved that theory. The study of these creatures, published in the peer-reviewed journal Frontiers in Ecology and Evolution, analyzed data collected on 1.4 million monarchs. These butterflies had been tagged in the United States Midwest from 1998 to 2015 to track their migration patterns.

Monarch butterflies breed mostly in the Midwest during the warm summer months due to the plentiful milkweed in the area. However, scientists believe that reducing the milkweed host plants could explain the smaller population of monarchs. They didn’t find any evidence that the migration patterns or conditions along the route have caused such a decline.

However, researchers did find several pieces of evidence to support what they call the “milkweed limitation” hypothesis. John Pleasants, an adjunct associate professor at Iowa State University, said this should finally put the migration mortality hypothesis to rest.

“If there was some problem with migration, we should have found fewer tagged monarchs recovered in Mexico over time, but that was not the case.” ~John Pleasants

Monarch butterflies make a long journey each year, covering thousands of miles during their migration. Monarchs, born in Midwestern states, move south to the more temperate central Mexico for the winter. The monarchs make the journey north once again in the springtime when the weather gets warmer. However, the steady decline of the monarch population over the last 20 years makes scientists worry they could vanish forever.

The importance of milkweed

Milkweed used to grow abundantly in the Midwest in agricultural fields and surrounding areas. However, the increased use of the herbicide glyphosate on corn and soybean fields has destroyed much of the milkweed population. Since humans have treated milkweed as a common weed which harms crops, monarchs have suffered dramatically as a result. Changes in land use because of agricultural development have also hurt the monarch population.

The rapid decline in milkweed from corn and soybean fields began in the late 1990s when farmers started using glyphosate on crops. Milkweeds had been almost entirely eradicated from fields by 2006. During this period, nearly 71% of milkweed in agricultural fields plus surrounding areas were eliminated. This equated to around 25 million hectares of land that no longer had milkweeds to support the monarchs.

Some scientists posited that migration patterns might explain the decline, called the “migration mortality” hypothesis. However, when scientists tagged the butterflies and tracked their migration, they found no evidence to support this. The tag recovery rate remains steady, which indicates that the majority of monarchs have reached their destination successfully. While they did find a discrepancy between surveys of summer and overwintering populations, Pleasants said the loss of milkweed could explain this.

The number of monarchs tagged correlates with the size of the overwintering population in Mexico, which disproves the migration theory. Surveys conducted during the late 1990s and early 2000s didn’t include field habitats. Thus, they didn’t count the monarchs in fields. Pleasants said this would cause a massive underestimation of the monarch population.

“Our analysis points us back to the idea that the loss of milkweeds, particularly from agricultural fields, is most responsible for this decline,” he said. “If you want to bring the monarch butterfly back, you need to bring the milkweeds back.”

How you can help restore the monarch butterfly population

The Iowa Monarch Conservation Consortium wants to launch efforts to plant between 480,000 and 830,000 acres of milkweed by 2038. This would equate to over a billion milkweed stems planted in the Upper Midwest in the next two decades. These efforts should greatly help the monarch butterfly, but you can also play a role in their recovery.

If you have a garden, you can consider planting milkweed to attract monarchs and give them a place to lay eggs. Make sure to choose a plant native to your area, as several dozen species of milkweed exist. Also, choose an open area unaffected by mowing or pesticide use. The Monarch Joint Venture has an in-depth tutorial for planting milkweed if you’re interested in helping repopulate this beautiful butterfly.

butterfly memeFinal thoughts on the decline of the monarch butterfly

The monarch butterfly is in danger due to the overuse of herbicides and the development of urban and agricultural areas. They feed and lay eggs in milkweed, but humans have eliminated much of this species in recent years. As a result, the monarch population has rapidly declined, but we can help by planting milkweed in our backyards. Let’s do our part to ensure this magical creature will always have a home to come back to.

Experts Reveal 4 Things Couples Should Do Before Getting Married

Marriage is a serious commitment. Before leaping into this territory, you need to make sure that you and your partner are ready before getting married.

But how can you be assured that you’re on the right track? What can you do before saying your vows that will help you determine whether marriage is a good idea?

Relationship experts reveal four things couples should do before getting married.

1.    Have Serious Conversations

The significance of knowing what you are getting into before tying the knot cannot be overstated. You and your partner need to practice positive communication to make sure you’re moving forward on the same page. Here are some things you should talk about:

getting married·         Money

No matter how much positive thinking you have as a couple, the fact remains that, scientifically speaking, financial problems are a chief cause of divorce and have been for decades. You and your partner need to talk at length about economic plans and goals, including ones for the future that seems unimportant to you right now, says Love Inc. founder Brittny Drye. Talk about 401Ks, financial responsibilities, bill-splitting, savings, the division of living expenses, retirement… absolutely everything related to money you can think of.

·         Names

Who’s taking whose name in the marriage, if anyone is? Are you hyphenating? Going for a traditional approach? Not changing any name at all? This topic is an important thing to decide on, according to Emily Sullivan Events’ titular founder Emily Sullivan. Think about your children and the last name they will inherit. What implications may arise for them and your current extended families?

·         Kids

Whether or not you desire to have children – and how many – is a huge point of discussion that needs to be cleared from the beginning. This is a huge step that will significantly affect the direction of your life, says SQN Events owner and event director Beth Bernstein. It involves personal responsibility and financial and emotional commitments. Most couples consider a clash in the desire to have children a deal-breaker.

2.    Open Up Completely

It’s fair to not tell a partner everything early in a relationship. When you’re planning to move forward into marriage though, being open about yourself is crucial. After all, there is little that you can hide from a spouse without it being a severe cause for concern or a breach of trust. Here are some ways to open up to a partner before getting married:

·         Talk About Your Family And Childhood

For some, childhood and family is a fun thing to talk about. For others, it’s a little bit more of a sensitive topic. Regardless of your past, it’s a good idea to talk about it with your partner and listen to their story, too. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Becky Whetstone, Ph.D., consider this crucial in understanding your partner for a more substantial relationship.

·         Reveal Bad Habits

No one is perfect. When you first begin dating, it’s easy to try and pretend that you are, or at least try and soften the reality of your bad habits. Hopefully, that isn’t something you did. But even if you did try and conceal your worst sides before, the chances are that your partner already knows about them to some extent. Be open about the person you are, talk about your struggles and areas you need to improve on and ask your partner to share their own. You need to love each other exactly as you are, without any desire to change the other!

·         Know What The Other’s Values Are

The goal when you marry someone is to spend the rest of your life with them. Though it is possible for people to stay happy and in love when their values differ, it’s still a good idea that you do know if your values are at odds before making these long-term commitments. Get all beliefs, opinions, and potentially controversial thoughts out in the open before tying the knot. This way, you’ll know whether any are deal-breakers, says Drye. If they aren’t deal-breakers, you can then talk about how to handle conflict in those areas and how to respect each other’s values.

·         Discuss Goals

You and your partner probably have your own goals in life. By now, if you’re considering marriage, you should both already know about each other’s plans to some degree. Ideally, your continued partnership will allow both of you to continue to follow your dreams. You shouldn’t give up on those dreams for anyone, and neither should your partner! This is an excellent chat to see if your lives are heading in the same direction.

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Therapists explain why couples should set ground rules before getting marries.

3.    Do Stressful Cooperative Tasks

What is marriage but a long-term cooperative task? (Yes, we know it’s more complicated than that, but the concept stands!) If you and your partner can’t handle cooperation under challenging times, you may not yet be ready for marriage. Here are some ideas for testing the waters:

·         Learn Together

Sure, it’s not exactly very stressful, but the process of learning together can give you a shared experience that will make you stronger in the long run. You’ll have a bit of fun, learn to support each other as you gather new information, and figure out how you handle success and failure both independently and as a couple. So try attending a class, lecture, workshop, or talk about something you’re both interested in and see where you go from there!

·         Do Some Grocery Shopping

Have you ever seen couples hashing out a big tiff in the middle of a grocery store? You do not want to become a party to that behavior one day! A great way to test if you work in a positive way is to try doing some shopping together, especially of the kind that involves shared purchases. Food shopping and buying necessities for your home is an excellent way to gauge your compatibility on this scale. It’s not the most stressful thing in the world, but it can still be a challenge!

·         Go On A Trip

Traveling is fun, but no one can deny that things can get stressful and heated. Going on a trip with your partner will give you some fascinating insight into how you both deal with the stress of planning, being on time, and organizing, says So Eventful founder and CEO Marisa, Manna Ferrell. If you are unable to have a good time traveling with someone, you probably wouldn’t want to marry them, either.

·         Live Together

The person you truly are is never more apparent than when you’re at home. That’s why cohabitation is a great way to gauge whether or not you are truly compatible with a person, according to Drye. You’ll have to live with this person, their good and bad habits, and their housekeeping preferences, after all. This might be why 59% of adults between the ages of 18 and 44 have lived with a partner before marriage, and an impressive 85% of them have positive beliefs about premarital cohabitation.

Of course, whether you want to do this or not may differ by your belief system and personal values. A similar option would be having regular sleepovers with your partner – whether intimacy is involved or not – to get a similar glimpse into what life with them would be like.

4.    Get Through A Tough Time

Tough times are a standard part of any relationship. They will come and go throughout a marriage. What’s important is that you know you and your partner can overcome them. Here are some tough times that, if you iron out before marrying, point to a better chance of long-term relationship success:

·         Resolve A Big Fight

Fights are inevitable in a relationship. In fact, frequent arguments, when handled correctly and not done in excess, can actually be a sign of a healthy and positive relationship. This is because you learn to communicate, get through the tough times, and work through problems together, coming out stronger.

The key, then, is in learning to fight well, says marriage and family therapist John Amodeo, also an author. Do you speak to each other with honesty, openness, and respect during fights? Do you know when to step back and take time to breathe? Are you able to find workable solutions and fair compromises? You’ll have many fights in your “career” as a couple, so make sure you know how to work through them!

·         Learn To Deal With Fight Aftermaths

When fights are resolved, what’s the next step? Respect, as always. If you were in the wrong, learn to apologize. This proves to your partner that you respect them enough to put aside your pride. Similarly, you should also be able to rely on them to apologize when they are at fault. But what about situations where there’s no blame, but the end result is that you can’t agree? Be comfortable with sticking to your guns and letting your partner stick to theirs. It’s okay to agree to disagree!

·         Experience A Rut Of Intimacy

In an allosexual relationship, it’s typical for intimacy and libido to have its ups and downs, says marriage and family therapist Sheri Meyers. But when a “down” period is prolonged, both parties can feel neglected, undesirable, and even rejected. That disappointment and hurt can build up over time into resentment.

Take the opportunity to talk about your expectations for intimacy, discuss how you can overcome your current plateau, and think of ways to spice things up just outside your usual comfort zone. Sure, it’s not necessary for you to go through this rut before getting married, but that doesn’t mean it’s not good practice for the fact that these ruts will crop up now and then in the future!

·         Be Apart

Being apart can be challenging for partners who have spent so much time together. The inability to see someone can make resolving arguments harder, and it also makes emotions run higher. You need much more positive thinking to stay strong together when you’re long-distance. We’re definitely not saying to intentionally force a long-distance relationship, but spending a bit of time away from one another is suitable for testing the strength of your relationship and uncovering co-dependency issues.

·         Hit A Rough Patch

Love is not always rainbows and butterflies. Hard times are a standard part of relationships. If you and your partner have never hit a rough patch, there’s a fair chance that you’ll struggle to overcome one that you do hit later on in a marriage. Learning to work through wrinkles with positive thinking, love, trust, and communication is very important, says Sheri. Overcoming these hurdles will show you how committed you are and how secure the relationship is as a whole.

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Each relationship is unique, but they all share the need for security, trust, respect, and love. By doing the aforementioned four things before getting married, you’ll know that your relationship is strong enough to thrive in the long-run.

10 Ways to Deal with a Child During a Meltdown

Children are always learning about their emotions, and this can sometimes cause a meltdown. These situations can be unexpected and are always unpleasant, but it’s an integral part of development. Unfortunately, these meltdowns can be challenging for the caregiver, too. You must show the child a healthy way to get through the emotions.

When caught up in the moment, it might be challenging to think of what to do. Before learning how to deal with a child during a meltdown, it’s important to know common triggers. These triggers include the following behaviors:

  • sensory overload
  • trauma from early childhood
  • fight or flight response
  • being tired
  • hunger
  • being thirsty
  • being overwhelmed
  • not knowing how to handle the emotion
  • anxiety

How to Deal with a Child During a Meltdown

All children have occasional tantrums, but resolving an episode hinges on your positive response.

1. Stay with Them and Connect if You Can

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The most important thing to do at this moment is to stay with your child. Avoid making them feel alone by walking out or leaving. Staying lets your child know that you are comfortable with their emotions and that they can be, too.

Don’t try to reason with them or get angry, because that will only make it worse. Acknowledge the feelings and let them know that it is okay to feel that way. You can also tell them that you will stay there with them until they feel better.

Since children need connection, you should try to connect during this time. You can foster this by making eye contact, walking them through normal breathing, and re-assure them.

Try not to tell them to calm down or get over it, because that will invalidate their feelings. Negatively reacting could make the situation worse instead of better, making them feel alone or abnormal.

2. Be Understanding of Their Feelings and Validate Them

Even if you disagree with the way your child is behaving, be empathetic. Children are exploring how to control their emotions and how to express them.

Plus, these types of situations can cause their heart rate and stress hormones to increase. These things can cause headaches and upset stomachs for kids. The mix of overwhelming feelings with headaches and stomachaches can cause children to behave in a seemingly irrational way.

Don’t ignore or dismiss their emotions or their tantrum, because it will only make it worse. Instead, try acknowledging how your child is feeling and why by saying it out loud.

You don’t have to say that you agree with their emotions or behavior, but acknowledging that you understand will validate it. This response can make the situation better and help the child calm down. Sometimes they want to know that they are heard and understood.

3. Make Sure They Feel Loved

Sitting with your child and validating their feelings can show them that you love them, but go a step further. Make sure you re-assure them that you love them, even during a frustration meltdown.

When a child knows that someone loves them even when they are out of control, it will help them regroup. It will also help them feel more self-confident and better able to handle their emotions.

4. Change What You Expect of Your Child

Not all children are alike, so you can’t expect all children to react in the same way. If you acknowledge that your child struggles with a particular area of their life, you have to change your expectations. Understand that your child processes emotions differently than you and that you can’t let it ruin the day.

When one of these upsetting situations happen, remind yourself that it was only one moment. You and your child still have the entire day for things to go well, so don’t ruin it all over something you’ve expected. Begin to realize when things have gotten better and stop wishing for them to be perfect.

When you do this, you will prepare yourself for unpleasant situations. You will know that it’ll pass and that the day doesn’t have to be overshadowed by it. The single most important thing is that your child feels loved and supported, not that they got through the day without a single tantrum.

5. Talk to Them About It

Wait until your child calms down and feels more in control. Talk to your child about how it’s normal to feel different emotions and that it can be hard to know what to do. Assure them that everyone is always learning and that sometimes we don’t like how we reacted.

If you, as the parent, got upset or angry during the situation, address that, too. Tell your child why you behaved that way and what you would do instead next time. This explanation will help them think about how they can react differently next time, too.

If the child is old enough, ask them what upset them so much. Then, ask them to try to describe their emotions. Remind them that feelings aren’t scary, even if they may feel like they are at the time.

When your child realizes that you sometimes feel that way, too, they’ll be better able to regulate their emotions. It’s a learning experience, so you can’t expect perfection right away. By talking about it, however, you will be speeding up the process and helping your child.

While you are conversing with them, make sure you are listening. If your child is speaking, sit quietly without interrupting or arguing. This response will make them feel like you genuinely understand and that they are okay to feel that way.

If you interrupt or argue, it’ll make them feel bad all over again. Plus, it could make the child start bottling their emotions up, instead, which can cause other issues.

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6. Check Your Feelings

You must think about the way you are feeling during this situation. If you become frustrated, angry, or overwhelmed, it’ll only make the child feel worse.

If you can stay calm and understanding and address your child patiently, it can help them. It will make them feel more stable, and like they can contain emotions. Plus, if the child realizes you aren’t feeling the same way, they can find a way through it.

Children tend to mimic the emotions of trusted adults, too, so staying calm will help calm them. On the other hand, if you are worked up, they won’t be able to calm down.

7. Be Patient

Remind yourself that your child is continuously learning to regulate their emotions. They try their best to react appropriately, but you can’t expect perfection or anything close to it.

Children don’t want to be this way and feel all of these negative emotions, so be patient and empathetic. Since your child doesn’t choose to be this way, allow them to take their time. They will learn a better way eventually, but it doesn’t happen overnight.

8. Avoid Making it Worse

If you argue with your child about their reaction, it’ll only make the situation worse. Likewise, if you criticize them, talk too much, or try to force them to talk, it can cause further anxiety. Use calming words or sit quietly; instead, you can let them cope on their terms.

9. Try to Distract Them

If no other technique seems to be working, you can try to distract the child. This generally only works when they begin to calm down slightly. As they calm, a distraction can help them recover even quicker and accept the situation sooner.

This distraction could be telling or reading them a story. You could consider telling a story about a time when you felt the way they do and how you got through it. Children often feel ashamed about their tantrum once it’s over, but a story about your experience can help them feel better.

Another option for distracting the child is a sensory distraction. Children can cope better if they have a sensory experience, so it works well for most kids. This expression could be in the form of play dough, squeeze balls, or anything else they can squeeze or manipulate.

10. Consider Your Child’s Needs

Often, children have a meltdown if they need something essential. This could be if they need more sleep, a healthy snack, or a glass of water. Children can’t process things appropriately when they need any of these essentials.

meltdownFinal Thoughts on Ways to Cope with a Child During a Meltdown

Since children are still learning to regulate their emotions, it’s expected that they have a meltdown once in a while. While it may be hard for you to deal with, you must stay with the child. Be sure you let them know you love them, as well.

Being present during the hard parts is what is most important to a child. They need to feel supported and understood as they learn to cope and understand how they are feeling. Remember these tips the next time you have to deal with a child during a meltdown.

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