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Doctor Explains How the Power of Positive Thinking Improves Mental Health

January 7, 2023 by Dr. Kirstin Kraft

By now, we’ve all heard about positive thinking, and innately as humans, we intuitively know that it feels better to feel good than to feel bad. Did you know that your thoughts can impact how you feel, and the same thoughts repeated over time can impact your mental health for better or worse?

Yes! This is why it’s so important to be aware of your thought patterns and to make sure that your thoughts align with what you wish to experience in your health… and life.

What Is Positive Thinking?

Positive thinking boils down to having a mental attitude of optimism most of the time. It doesn’t mean that you’re always positive every second of every day but that overall you’re a positive person and your thinking follows suit.

Positive thinkers strive to make the best of situations, even unfavorable ones. They try to see the good in everything. So when something bad happens, they think about what they can learn from it and look for the silver lining. They look past the current circumstances to hope. They improve or make the best out of situations and focus on what they can control rather than what they cannot.

Positive thinking doesn’t mean you ignore life’s unpleasant circumstances; you approach these difficult circumstances positively and productively. Instead of thinking about the worst things that can happen, think about the best things that can happen, and when tough circumstances arise, try to ask yourself how you can learn and grow from it and take the time to work through those emotions.

There is power in positive thinking; when you harness your mind’s power to work favorably for you, your mental well-being will improve.

Good Health and Why it Pays to Think Positively

There are differing opinions on what a good life entails, but no one will envision a life that includes poor health and being mentally unwell. Thinking positively is an extremely powerful and free way to impact your mental health for the better.

The health benefits of positive thinking are highly impactful, and not only can it reduce stress, but it can also improve mental health. Some studies show that optimism and pessimism affect a multitude of areas of health and well-being. If your mind jumps to negative thought patterns, don’t worry; you can change this by learning positive thinking skills and implementing them.

Positive thinking starts with inner conversations or the conscious and unconscious thought patterns that make up those unspoken thoughts that continuously go through your head. Awareness of your dominant self-talk is so important. Indeed, you could very well operate in a dominantly negative space without this awareness. When the thoughts running through your head are mostly negative, you will see this reflected in your life; likewise, if most of the thoughts going through your head are positive, you will see positivity reflected in your life.

Yes, sometimes bad or negative things happen that are out of our control, but many are within our control. Therefore, you must take the reigns concerning your mental health and decide that you want to impact your life positively. It all starts with your thoughts. Sometimes negative circumstances can lead us into a negative thought loop, and it’s okay to cry, sulk, and be sad when something bad happens. Still, it’s more important to come out of that space and make the conscious decision to direct your thoughts to positivity.

The Benefits of Positive Thinking

Researchers have found numerous benefits to positive thinking on overall health, including increased life span, reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease and cancer, and decreased likelihood of illness from viruses or the common cold. Specifically, as it relates to mental health, scientific research points to lower rates of stress, and depression, better mood, and better coping skills during difficult times, hardships, and distress. Positive thinking also improves psychological well-being, thereby improving mental health.

4 Easy Things You Can Do To Promote Positive Thinking

Everything in our bodies is connected in some way. How can you give yourself the best chance to engage in positive thinking think most of the time? Practicing these four things will increase the likelihood that you will lean toward positive thinking rather than negative.

1. Eat a Brain-Healthy Diet

Eat nutrient-dense whole foods and combine them to make interesting, delicious meals. Try to stay away from foods in packages or foods that are heavily processed. Buy organic whenever possible, especially foods with no skin or thin skin, such as berries, grapes, and spinach. Pesticides and herbicides can penetrate these kinds of fruits and vegetables easily since there is no thick skin protecting the inside of the fruit, such as you find on bananas.

Your brain loves healthy sources of fat (avocado) and omega-3 fatty acids (salmon). Consume more foods that your brain loves. Remember what foods make you feel good and energized after consuming them, and consume more of those foods.

2. Exercise

Most everyone knows that exercise is beneficial…but how is it so good for the brain? Exercise increases blood flow to the brain and promotes endorphin release. It helps keep your brain healthy by improving cognitive health by helping you think better, problem solve, learn, enjoy experiences, and foster emotional balance. It has also been shown to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Regular physical activity can reduce your chances of getting dementia. One study found that cognitive decline was twice as prevalent in people who were inactive as compared to those who were active. That’s HUGE! This reason alone should be enough motivation to make it a point to be active.

3. Sleep

Quality sleep is one of those essentials to life and something that cannot be ignored. So many necessary processes occur while we sleep. Thus, it’s important to get the best sleep possible so that our bodies can successfully perform the tasks they need.

Sleep is critical to numerous brain functions, including how neurons (nerve cells that transmit information) communicate. Sleep is the time when the brain clears out toxins that build up while we are awake.

Research shows that sleep is essential to every tissue type in the body, and chronic lack of sleep negatively affects them. Lack of quality sleep has been associated with numerous mental health concerns, including depression.

4. Have a Relaxation Practice

We can all be guilty of being too busy and not taking any downtime. But these are necessities for sound emotional and mental health. Take some time to be mindful and focus on the positive things as you go through your day. When you struggle to do this, think about something you’re grateful for, even if it’s as simple as just having the ability to breathe.

Having time to relax and quiet the mind is vital to nurture brain health and stress. You can try deep breathing, yoga, journaling, mindfulness, and meditation.

Think Positively

It doesn’t matter how positive you are…you have had negative thoughts. We all have. When most people think about positive affirmations, they think about saying words out loud, and this is a major aspect of them, but there’s more. We think thoughts all day long and have inner conversations. These inner conversations and thoughts aren’t always uplifting or positive. Many times, it’s an unconscious process, but before you know it, you’re feeling down, negative, or downright depressed.

Use the way you feel as information as to which kinds of thoughts you’ve been thinking. When you’re feeling down, have the awareness to know that your thoughts (even if unconscious) are not serving you. Likewise, you can be sure that your inner thoughts serve you well if you feel uplifted and great. Your feelings are messengers and can quickly inform you of thoughts running through your mind.

So what are positive affirmations?

They are positive phrases and/or thoughts used to challenge negative or unwanted thoughts. For affirmations to be effective, they must be practiced with repetition. So, to see and feel the benefits of positively affirming in your life, you must repeat them daily until it’s second nature, until the new neural pathway has developed, and you are now thinking these positive thoughts on autopilot.

It’s important to be aware of these thoughts and monitor them accordingly. When you become more aware of these negative thoughts that may come across your mind, you have much more of a chance to switch that thought to a positive one immediately.

You can also practice reframing- when unwanted situations happen, take a deep breath and accept that at that moment, all you have control over if yourself. Simply smiling more can give you a positive frame of mind, even if you’re not in one already. When you smile, the muscles that contract send a signal to your brain to release happy chemicals. You always have this tool to use when you’re not in a positive state.

Neuroscientific research and MRI evidence suggest that certain neural pathways are increased when people practice positive thoughts and physical changes, specifically in the ventromedial prefrontal cortex. Think positively. It’s good for you!

Final Thoughts About How Positive Thinking Impacts Mental Health

It’s common for many to wake up in the morning with that ugh feeling or a feeling of I don’t want to get out of bed. These can quickly spiral into thinking negatively. It’s essential to be aware of this and fill your mind with positivity first thing in the morning. It sets the tone for the rest of your day.

Tell yourself it will be a great day.
Affirm positively over your life.
Express gratitude for things as commonplace as the ability to move your body or read this article.

Always remember that you control your thoughts, no matter what’s happening around you. Even when something bad happens, you can choose the thoughts you think about it. No one can take this away from you. You hold the power to think whatever thoughts you choose.

10 Reasons Men Fall for the Wrong Women

January 7, 2023 by Chris Butler

Falling in love with the wrong woman and being in a bad relationship is effortless. Maybe their beautiful looks or charisma draws you in, but you can’t help how you feel. Remember the old saying, “the heart wants what the heart wants?”

Sadly, it’s true, and men know firsthand that your heart can often lead you astray and cause you to fall for the wrong woman. Just because someone isn’t suitable for you doesn’t mean they’re not a great person. Take, for instance, the mixing of oil and water. Oil is excellent for frying things and baking.

Water is excellent for drinking and a million other uses. However, when you put them together, they don’t mesh well. Could it be that you’re falling in love with the wrong woman because you feel pressure or you’re lonely?

Ten Common Reasons Why Men Fall for the Wrong Woman

Sometimes people tend to bring out toxic characteristics in one another, and everyone has good and bad qualities. There are many reasons you might fall for the wrong woman, and here are just a few.

NOTE: We recognize that women also make similar relationship mistakes. However, they generally do so for slightly different reasons, which we address in a separate article.

1. The Wrong Woman Was There – You Were Lonely

Loneliness can do some horrible things to your mental well-being. How often have you made foolish mistakes because you let miserable feelings dictate your actions? When you’re lonely, making the wrong choice is easy, as it’s one of the worst places to be.

Sometimes falling in love with the wrong woman happens because she’s there. It doesn’t mean she’s the right one for you, but you’ve found someone who met your needs. It’s always important to live by the phrase that it’s better to remain a single person than to be entangled with the wrong one.

2. Your Libido Was Dictating Your Moves

Everyone has essential physical needs. The need for physical touch and companionship is just as real and necessary as the desire to eat. You were created with an intimate side to you, and when you don’t have anyone to help fulfill those desires, it can leave you lacking.

Maybe you’re not into her as much as what she can do for you. When someone is stroking the fires of passion, and you’ve been in a desert place, it’s easy to let feelings get in the mix. Some people can’t separate love from physical acts, as it’s very personal.

However, it’s usually thought that women are the ones who often can’t be intimate without falling in love, but men also struggle with such feelings.

3. The Biological Clock Is Ticking–Driving the Need for a Relationship

Women have a biological clock that dictates their desire to settle down. Once they get beyond a certain age, they start to feel the hands of time winding down on their window of opportunity for kids and a man. While men aren’t the ones who carry a child, you also feel the pangs of aging.

You don’t get pegged with derogatory terms like a spinster, but there’s certainly pressure from within to find someone and settle down. People make foolish mistakes when they feel they’re running out of time. It can make you do things that you never thought possible.

Instead of waiting for the person that completes you and is your other half, you might find yourself falling in love with the easy catch.

4. Pressure from Outside Sources

Though your family and friends love you, there’s often a lot of pressure from them for you to settle down. If your parents want grandchildren, it can be the topic of conversation when they see you. While they mean well and don’t want to hurt you, it’s still painful to have that constant reminder that you haven’t found anyone.

Many guys get into a relationship with someone because they feel pressure. It could be a friend you grew up with who is also available. If you’re feeling peer pressure from friends who’ve already settled down and parents who are tired of waiting, jumping into a situation that’s not the best for you is effortless.

5. Your Subconscious Mind Draws You to the Wrong Woman

It’s often been said that women like the proverbial “bad boy.” They know it’s the person that’s probably going to hurt them as they’re not going in the same direction in life. However, they can’t help falling in love because this person triggers something good or bad inside them.

Men are the same way when it comes to choosing the wrong woman. They know from the start that she’s not a good fit, and it will likely end badly, but they can’t help but feel this gravitational pull toward the wrong woman. She’s nothing you need, but you can’t help yourself because you’re being sucked in like a moth to the flame.

6. Hoping She’ll Make You Feel Better

Sometimes you get into a bad place and need a way out. Sure, women want a superhero that will save the day, but men also look for a lady that can help them get to a better place. According to Greater Good Science Center at Berkley University, people often romanticize the Western idea of marriage, but it doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you.

The thought that one person can complete you and meet all your needs is a far stretch. Life is a kaleidoscope of drama; sometimes, you feel lost and scared in this big world. Things are much easier when you have a partner who’s helping you and encouraging you every day, but you can’t put that much pressure on one person.

Remember, she has needs, too, and she can’t create happiness for you. Many men fall for someone hoping she can save the day, but you will find that it’s usually the wrong person and only worsens matters.

7. Feeling Unworthy, Undeserving, Or Not Good Enough

If you have low self-esteem, you might settle for someone who isn’t right for you because you don’t think you can do any better. Entering a dissatisfying relationship to have someone on your arm is not the answer. Maybe you’re exhausted from the search for Ms. Right, and you don’t want to be alone anymore.

These feelings of desperation can cause you to make poor decisions. Before you get into any relationship, you must first love yourself. How can you expect anyone else to love and care for you when you don’t even do those things?

According to an article published by Southern Nazarene University, you learn to value your very existence when you love yourself. Reaching this place allows for growth physically, mentally, and spiritually. You will notice that you have more self-confidence and are happier. However, the most important thing that happens when you love yourself is the ability to love others.

8. It’s Your Only Goal in Life

Falling in love with the wrong woman may occur when you have no other goals in life. Your very existence is to go to work and find someone to love. You’re putting much unnecessary pressure on yourself, and you can’t expect to make good choices under so much stress.

It’s often been said that love happens when you least expect it. When you stop looking, this is when the person who’s meant to be with you finds you. When you’re on the trail of a lady like a bloodhound, you might find someone who isn’t the right match for you.

9. Ignoring All the Red Flags That You Met the Wrong Woman

Sometimes you make foolish choices and ignore red flags because you don’t want to see what’s right in front of your face. Maybe she’s lied to you more times than you can count, she’s not very dependable, and she’s had more relationships than you can trust, but you’re falling fast regardless. You know she’s not good for you, but you don’t make any attempt to turn around.

Do you ever feel like you’re just asking for trouble? You know what they need, but sometimes the constant cravings for something exciting and different cloud your judgment.

10. Thinking You Can Change the Wrong Woman into Mrs. Right

So, she’s not perfect and has some flaws, but you think you can change her into the woman of your dreams. Sadly, this usually only works in movies. If she comes with emotional baggage and many other issues from her past, the chances of changing her are slim, as she’s the wrong woman.

People naturally change over time, and it’s not to say that your love can’t make her a better person. However, you need to have realistic expectations regarding life and love. If she’s had an issue with being unfaithful in all her previous relationships, she will likely remain the same way.

There’s something fundamentally wrong under the surface, and she needs help beyond what you can provide.

Final Thoughts on Choosing the Wrong Woman

Don’t beat yourself up too badly if you’ve chosen the wrong woman in your past. Life is about learning and growing and falling in love is an experience you’ll never forget. Each relationship makes you better, and you’ve learned valuable lessons about what you don’t want and need. Remember to watch for those red flags and use your mind and heart when choosing a partner.

13 Reasons Men Are Scared to Date

January 7, 2023 by Chris Butler

Are you a guy who complains because you don’t have a love life? If you dig a little deeper into why some men remain a party of one, the real reason might be fear. How many dates have you been on in the last six months? Serial dating in the quest for that perfect partner becomes exhausting! So, why not visit ListCrawler to find you perfect match?

If you can easily rattle off those numbers, something under the surface hinders you from meeting the partner of your dreams. When you don’t go out on dates very often, it’s hard to get into a groove and figure out what works. The fear of the unknown can be crippling if you allow it to be, but like driving a car, practice makes perfect.

You’re undoubtedly a good guy that any woman would be proud to have on her arm. The real problem is you’re afraid. The biggest fear is rejection, but it’s not the only thing you worry about with women. One way to boost your confidence and overcome this fear is by enhancing your online dating profile. Using AI dating pictures can help you present your best self, making a great first impression and reducing the anxiety of initial interactions. Cupid’s Canvas replaces a professional photographer to help you create realistic dating pictures

NOTE: We acknowledge that some women also fear dating. Because their reasons vary slightly from the guys, we share them in a separate article.

Thirteen Top Fears in Dating

The fear of dating, though not an actual medical condition, can be devastating. While your doctor won’t diagnose you with this issue, they might find an underlying anxiety disorder. A little bit of angst in these situations is warranted, but if anxiety is overpowering your life and causing you to live reclusively, it becomes a problem.

Anxiety causes a sense of impending doom or unrealistic fears, which can be why you’re not going out as much as you should. Here are the top worries of why men avoid dating.

1. Small Talk is Challenging on a Date

Once you’re on a date, there’s a lot of pressure to talk and interact with the other person. Will you say the right thing, or will there be an awkward silence where you want to hide under the table? Guys aren’t usually as good with small talk as women, but if you want to go out on the town, it’s a skill you need to polish.

2. The Ex May Reappear After You Start Dating

Everything is going well, and you’ve met the woman of your dreams, but suddenly, an ex that you thought was long gone has come back into her life. If this man is a person she talks about all the time, the concern is that he will return and take her away from you.

Some ex-lovers have a powerful hold on the heart long after they’re gone. So, the thought of this person returning after you’ve settled into a cozy routine is unnerving.

3. You’re Too Strapped for Cash to Date

Ladies don’t worry as much about the cost of the date as men do. As a man, you feel compelled to pay for the meal. You might have all these thoughts running through your mind about your credit card being declined or her ordering something you can’t afford.

While these are probably unrealistic fears, they’re still ones you must overcome. If one date turns into two and so on, can you take her out and accommodate her taste? Will going out too much buy you a one-way ticket to bankruptcy court?

4. You Lack a Sense of Humor – Or Have One That’s Quirky

Some guys love to tell jokes, and some women will appreciate the humor. However, what happens if she doesn’t laugh when you tell a riddle, and she looks at you like you’re strange? The fear of her not liking your personality or those eccentric little jokes you tell is real.

The flip side is that the right person for you will get all your little quirks, and she will love you for them. You connect with your soul mate on a deeper level, so she overlooks so much and sees straight to your heart. Consequently, you might only find her if you overcome some of these fears and get out there and start mingling.

5. You Don’t Know How to Ask Someone Out

So, you are attracted to someone, but you’re unsure how they feel about you. If you ask her out and she turns you down, you will feel like a failure. However, if she says yes, you might have a date with the woman of your dreams.

There’s a lot of anxiety about the initial invitation, as the fear of rejection can make you freeze. Things can get so bad that you can develop anthropophobia, which is the official term for fearing rejection till it becomes a chronic condition. According to the Cleveland Clinic, this is not an official diagnosis, but it usually occurs alongside social anxiety.

If you fear being in public places and with people, it might hold you back if you don’t get treatment.

6. Fear of a Humiliating Dating Experience

Anxiety causes all sorts of things to run through your mind that isn’t true. You may fear falling walking into the restaurant, or you’re afraid that you might leave your wallet at home. Anxiety can put all sorts of things into your head that make you paralyzed for no good reason. You want to go on a date and kiss her so badly, but letting your fears overrule you will destroy the possibility of having a good time.

7. You Have No Time to Date

Some guys don’t want to start anything because they fear they won’t have time. You might have no issues asking her on a date, and you’re not worried about her liking you. What you’re most fearful about is that she will leave you because you don’t have sufficient time to spend with her.

Work and responsibilities do take up a big part of your life. However, there’s an old saying that states that you make time for the things that are important to you.

8. You’re Afraid of Being a Fashion Don’t

While you probably think of women as the people who worry about their attire, guys are just as concerned. You may fear having the right clothes or style for dating.

You don’t want to be laughed at on a date so you may avoid them altogether. If you have feelings for someone but think she is out of your league, you might be fearful she won’t like you because of your clothes. You’ve dodged a bullet if that’s her reason for not liking you. No one wants someone so shallow that they are only interested in you for your style or the clothes on your back.

9. Getting Ditched Would Crush You

What happens if you’re into her, but she isn’t into you? Unrequited love and being stuck in the friend zone is not a good place to be. You’re terrified you will fall in love with her, but she won’t feel the same, and you would rather avoid the heartache.

10. Afraid You Can’t Please Her

Some ladies are picky, and you might need help measuring up. Asking someone out is a challenge but trying to please them seems impossible. You might be worried that you don’t have enough money, aren’t good enough in the romance department, and lack what she needs. Stay calm about all the things that can go wrong, as you might miss an opportunity to find someone who completes you.

11. Apprehensive of Commitments

Commitment is a huge issue for some guys, especially if they have past experiences that shed a negative light on the situation. If you’ve watched your parents struggle through a turbulent marriage, it’s only natural that you would be apprehensive. You can protect your heart by not getting involved, or so you think.

Another common issue is that you’ve been hurt in the past. Once you’ve had your heart broken, it’s challenging to move forward with the baggage you carry. You don’t want to be alone, so you must get out and date. Letting go of these apprehensions and preconceived notions about relationships is something therapy can help you overcome.

12. Toxic Women Irritate You

Some ladies are eager to express dissatisfaction with the men they’re dating. If a woman doesn’t see you as her equal, it can make for a toxic situation. Overall, men are turning away from women who aren’t focused on equality as much and have a negative view of men.

These feelings likely come from abuse or other trauma in their past, but you’re afraid to get yourself in a situation where you’re made to feel less than her.

13. You Don’t Know What You Want From Dating

Some guys are looking for a person to settle down with and start a family. Other guys want a one-night stand and a tussle between the sheets. However, you are still determining what you want as far as love is concerned.

The thought of marriage and forever sounds too big, but you know you want something more than a one-night ordeal. You may not be stepping out there because you’re scared and don’t know what is right.

Final Thoughts on Men Being Afraid to Date

You don’t want to spend all your days and nights alone. While it’s better to fly solo than to be with someone who makes you miserable, you know there’s a soul mate out there looking for you. Having a great partner makes the holidays brighter and vacations grander, and it’s comforting knowing that there’s someone there for you when the chips are down.

While overcoming the fear of asking someone out and dating is challenging, it becomes easier with time. You’ll find a groove and a type of lady that attracts you, and you may find that you’re happier than you ever dreamed possible.

9 Hidden Signs of Colon Cancer Most People Ignore

January 6, 2023 by Sarah Barkley

Signs of colon cancer can be confusing because common ailments can indicate other issues. You might not realize that your body is signaling a life-threatening condition. It often leads to ignoring the signs of colorectal cancer, but it’s always best to contact a health professional to be safe.

Even if you believe your symptoms aren’t life-threatening, consider visiting your doctor early. It can either reassure you that it’s not cancer or get you into treatment before cancer spreads.

Understanding the risk factors and signs of colorectal cancer can help save your life. Ignoring the symptoms can have deadly consequences, so it’s always best to know for sure.

Risk Factors of Colon Cancer

Some risk factors increase your chance of developing colon cancer. Understanding the risks can help you decide to make beneficial life changes. Some of the risks include the following:

Unhealthy diet: Overeating red or processed meat can increase colorectal cancer risk.
Being overweight: The risk of colon cancer increases for those who are overweight or obese. It increases the risk for men and women, although men have the biggest risk increase.
Lack of exercise: Physical inactivity can make you more likely to develop colorectal cancer than people who exercise regularly.
Family history: Colon cancer is hereditary, so you might consider early screening if someone in your family had it.
Age: Your risk of colon cancer increases as you get older. While young adults can get it, it’s more common after you turn 50.
Smoking: Many people know that smoking is associated with lung cancer but can also lead to colon cancer.
Alcohol consumption: Moderate to heavy alcohol consumption can cause colon cancer.

Nine Hidden Signs of Colon Cancer Most People Ignore

Never ignore these red flags–they indicate something is wrong.

1 – Nausea or Vomiting

Colon cancer can cause gastrointestinal issues, including nausea or vomiting. These symptoms typically occur when the tumor cells appear in the upper area or get big enough to cause an intestinal obstruction.

Nausea and vomiting often occur in advanced cancer stages, so you’d probably already know you had it. It often occurs after the patient has already begun treatment. However, it sometimes happens sooner, so it’s essential not to ignore it.

2 – Bloating or Discomfort

Feeling bloated, uncomfortable, or having the persistent urge to have a bowel movement are some signs of colon cancer. You likely also notice an increase in gas and bloating.

Even after a bowel movement, you might still feel like you should go again. It often occurs when a cancer tumor blocks the intestinal tract. While these signs might indicate colon cancer, they can also be a sign of Crohn’s disease, celiac disease, and others.

3 – Blood in Your Stool

Noticing blood in your stool is a sign of colon cancer. You might see blood in the toilet or recognize it when you wipe.

Sometimes you might not realize there’s blood in your stool, but you will notice a change in the appearance. It might look bloody or black, indicating bleeding in your rectum, anus, or digestive tract.

4 – Cramping

You might want a colon cancer screening if you experience persistent cramps or low back pain. The cramping might involve sharp pains, but it’s sometimes a dull ache.

Cramping is often one of the signs of colon cancer that’s harder to recognize because it can result from many other common conditions. It could occur because of poor diet, food intolerance, stress, excess gas, or poor digestion. However, consider visiting your healthcare professional immediately if your cramping becomes chronic, intense, or long-lasting.

5 – Changing Bowel Movements

Experiencing a change in bowel habits can indicate cancer. Having diarrhea for more than three days is cause for alarm, and you should consider consulting a healthcare provider. Consider discussing constipation that lasts for more than two weeks with a doctor.

Consider tracking when your bowel movements began to change to recognize how long it continues. Tracking can also help you determine if other lifestyle changes are to blame rather than cancer. Plus, the more information you have for your doctor, the more likely it is to get a quick and accurate diagnosis.

6 – Fatigue or Weakness

Fatigue and weakness indicate colon cancer, especially when nothing seems to ease it. You might constantly feel tired, even after improving your health in other ways or getting more sleep.

Cancer cells deplete your energy as they grow, causing your healthy cells to miss out. Additionally, you’ll lose energy if you can’t eat well or experience diarrhea. Sometimes colon cancer causes anemia, another issue that makes you feel tired and weak.

7 – Anemia

Anemia, or a lack of healthy red blood cells, means that your body’s tissues don’t receive enough oxygen or nutrients. It can make you tired and weak and frequently occurs because of internal bleeding. You might also notice that your skin is paler than usual.

Colon cancer sometimes causes internal bleeding if the tumors bleed. It results in a loss of iron in your body, triggering anemia. Your doctor can do a routine blood test to determine if anemia is the issue.

8 – Getting Full Quickly

It could be a sign of colon cancer if you feel full soon after you start a meal. You might be full because you feel nauseous or if the tumor is large enough to affect the intestinal tract.

Getting full quickly might put pressure on your stomach, signaling to your brain that you’re already full. This sign is often overlooked but is common, and discussing it with a healthcare professional can save your life.

9 – Rapid or Unexpected Weight Loss

Colon cancer can cause unexplained or unintentional weight loss. You might notice an immediate and dramatic decrease in weight. Experts explain that losing 5% of your body weight without changing your diet, exercise, or sleep patterns fits this description.

You Won’t Always Have Symptoms That Reveal Colorectal Cancer

Some people diagnosed with colon cancer don’t have any symptoms before they begin treatment. Not having symptoms is alarming because you won’t know that you should seek treatment.

Visiting your health professional early on can help save your life. Around 90% of colorectal cancer is treatable when in the early stages. Colorectal cancer is the third most common cancer in the United States, and it’s not worth waiting to see a doctor.

Since colon cancer doesn’t always have symptoms, consider getting a regular screening when you turn 50. Your doctor will likely recommend it, but ask if they don’t.

Lowering Your Risk of Colon Cancer

Having an increased risk of colon cancer can be scary, but there are things you can do to reduce it. These things include the following:

Eating fruit, vegetables, and grains: These foods are rich in fiber and clear toxic waste from your intestines. They promote healthy bowel movements and lower inflammation.
Stopping smoking: Smoking increases your chance of developing cancer. Quitting smoking can decrease your risk of rectal cancer.
Exercising regularly: Getting plenty of exercise can help you fight inflammation, clear toxins, and maintain a healthy weight. It also promotes regular bowel movements.
Managing your weight: Being overweight or obese can increase your risk of developing cancer. Reaching a healthy weight can be life-changing, and you’ll also feel better overall.
Limiting alcohol intake: Excessive alcohol intake can increase your risk of colon cancer. Limit how much you drink and how often to promote your health.

How the Doctor Will Know If It’s Cancer

Visiting a healthcare professional can help you get a diagnosis for your symptoms. You’ll start by discussing the signs with your doctor, and they’ll likely do some screening tests to check for abnormalities. The screening results will often help the doctor know if they should do more testing.

Your doctor will likely want to know how long you’ve had symptoms and when they started. They’ll also ask about family history and potential risk factors.

The doctor will also feel your abdomen to check for masses or enlarged organs. They might also want to do a digital rectal exam (DRE), to feel for any abnormal areas in your rectum. Then, if necessary, they’ll consider the following tests:

Colonoscopy

During a colonoscopy, you’ll have a thin tube with a light on it inserted through the anus. It goes into the rectum and colon to observe the inside and identify lumps or growth. From there, the doctor can take a piece of any abnormal growths (biopsy) to check for cancer cells.

CT or CAT Scan

This scan is like an x-ray, but the pictures are more detailed. The doctor can use the results to identify lumps or see if the cancer has spread.

Ultrasound

An ultrasound involves a technician moving a wand around your skin. It gives off sound waves and recognizes echoes bouncing off your tissues. The echoes produce a picture on a computer screen and help identify cancer and if it’s spread to other areas.

Treatment Options for Colon Cancer

Your doctor will help you decide on treatment options if they find you have colon cancer. The options will depend on the size of the tumor and whether it has spread to other areas. Some treatment options include:

surgery
radiation
chemotherapy
targeted therapy
immunotherapy

Final Thoughts on Hidden Signs of Colon Cancer Most People Ignore

Many signs of colon cancer are also symptoms of other things, leading to people ignoring them. However, discussing the signs of colon cancer with your doctor is essential. Either they rule out the possibility, or you can receive a diagnosis and begin treatment.

The sooner you start treatment for cancer, the better your chance of overcoming the disease. Early detection can be lifesaving, and you’ll be glad you didn’t ignore the hidden signs of colon cancer.

8 Ways to Flip the Script on Negative Thoughts

January 6, 2023 by Kristen Butler

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could control the negative thoughts that rush into your head each day? While managing what pops into your mind is impossible, you can stop letting them dominate your life. Did you know that some people are more prone to negativity than others?

Assume you’re driving down the road, and everything is going well. The sun’s shining brightly, and it’s been a great day. Suddenly, the thought pops into your mind that you might have an accident on the way home.

Your body tenses with fear as you play the game and start imagining the worst-case scenario in the chaotic traffic. What’s ironic is that this thought came out of nowhere, and now you’re sweating with anxiety. You entertained the negativity, and this pessimistic thought caused you to have an uncomfortable ride home.

How would things have been different if you had dismissed the thought and put the negativity in its place? It’s time to flip the script on intrusive thoughts and chronic pessimism ruling your life. You can do it when you use a mind-over-matter strategy.

Eight Easy Ways to Stop the Negative Thoughts

Remember the classic movie The Wizard of Oz? Dorothy was desperate to return to her home in Kansas, but she was stuck in Oz. She tried every way she knew possible, but she remained in a land where she was terrified.

She tried the yellow brick road, but it didn’t bring her anything but one traumatic event after another. She understood her potential when Glenda the Good Witch finally stepped on the scene. Glenda reminded her that she had the power to get home all along, but she just needed to realize it.

Using this powerful inspiration can help you to flip the script on the negativity in your life. You’ve always had the power, but you need a little direction. Here are some ways to kick pessimism out of your life and focus on more positive things.

1. Cry It Out

Why do people see crying as weak? Crying can be very refreshing, and it can help you to release pent-up anxiety and stress. According to Harvard Health, crying is beneficial because it removes toxins to relieve stress.

When you cry, it has a soothing effect. The negativity can be from situations beyond your control. You’ve had a bad day at work, you forgot to pay the electric bill, and there needs to be more money to cover your expenses. Rather than succumbing to pessimism, why not cry out and flush your tension and stress?

Crying will enhance your mood, help you sleep, and put you in a better mind. This is why you feel so refreshed after a good crying session.

2. Use Positive Affirmations to Overcome Negativity

You’re your own worst critic. So, if you didn’t get the promotion you wanted at work, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Yet, you have a challenging time because you feel less than others. You may tell yourself things like you’re not smart enough, you don’t have enough personality, or you’re a loser.

You will say these everyday things when you feel down and out. However, you must change the view. Remember, you have had the power all along, but this wasn’t the position for you. You don’t know what nightmares might have unfolded down the road with this role, so be thankful.

Start telling yourself things that enhance your esteem and not destroy it. Here are some confidence-boosting phrases that can affirm you and push the negative away:

I am a talented person.
I am worthy of a high position.
I’m accomplished.
I won’t let anything stop me.
I am a wonderful person, and there’s a company that will realize my potential.

See how your pessimistic views will change when you start feeding positivity into your soul.

3. Stay Away from Negative People

Consider a bowl of fruit on the counter. It looks beautiful and smells fragrant. What happens if an apple gets a bad spot on it from inner decay? It won’t be long until the whole bowl rots because the toxins from the decaying fruit will move to good pieces.

Now, if you remove that bad piece of fruit from the bunch, the other fruit will last longer than if it stayed in the bowl. You can’t reach your full potential with toxic people hanging around you. Start by changing your inner circle to flip the script on your negativity.

People aren’t responsible for your negative thoughts, but they can put you in a place of negativity. The right folks will positively boost you, and it is life-changing to have such a glowing influence on you.

4. Avoid Past Negativity and Focus on the Future

What’s behind you is never as good as what’s in front of you. You’re older, wiser, and going in a different direction. There’s not a person alive who didn’t make mistakes when they were younger, so stop beating yourself up over these matters.

You must focus on the future and stop turning back to see all the mistakes you’ve made. It’s easy to develop a pessimistic view when you are stuck looking in the rear-view mirror.

5. Label Your Negative Thoughts

Have you ever filed anything at work? Most files go alphabetically, as it’s a neat way to categorize everything. When you have negative thoughts that creep in, you need to label them and put them in file thirteen.

You don’t want to alter your pessimistic thoughts in this exercise, but you want to acknowledge them and move on. If the thought is from past traumas as a child, then say to yourself, “Okay, this one is another childhood memory, and I realize I am no longer in this situation.” “I am safe; I have moved on.”

By using this “filing system,” you’re saying it was horrible, you were hurt, but you’re not in this place anymore. It’s processing the thought and putting it away.

6. Stay Away from Social Media

Social media is dominating many people’s lives. Did you know that the average person spends two hours and 24 minutes daily on these outlets? A shocking study from Broadband Search proves how much of an issue it’s become.

Not only is social media a time waster, but there’s stuff on there that can change your mindset. First, if you’re already feeling down on yourself, you don’t want to see someone who appears to have the perfect life bragging about a promotion, a new home, or what they had for dinner. Second, you’re feeding yourself with lies.

The majority of what you see on these sites is skewed. Most people will only share positive things and want to keep the negativity to themselves. However, scrolling for many hours can put you in the wrong mind.

Instead of counting your blessings, you’ll start realizing all that you lack. You’ll wonder what’s wrong with your relationship, life, and children. While there is a lot of good on these sites, there’s a lot of negative that you don’t need. At the very least, you need to limit yourself.

7. Pause a Moment

Being pessimistic is effortless when you live in such a hostile world. However, there are many times when you need to pause for a moment. If the negative thoughts are rushing in like a raging river, the only way to stop them at times is to pause.

During this pause, you can meditate, pray, and be present. How do you keep a pot from boiling over on the stove? You turn off the heat. Sometimes you must turn off the heat and what’s fueling these negative thoughts and be still.

8. Write Down and Destroy Negative Thoughts

Journaling is a great way to get all that pessimistic stuff out of your being. However, some folks want to keep an account of only some of the garbage in their life. Another tactic is to write and destroy it.

Burning letters is a great way to have self-therapy. You can write it all down and then set it on fire. When you watch the smoke ascend into heaven, remind yourself that your pessimistic thoughts and tormenting mind struggles are going with it.

There’s something powerful about watching your troubles go up in flames, as it signifies you’re putting an end to their hold on you. This exercise is often done for people who didn’t get to say goodbye after losing a loved one. It’s a way to release their inner guilt and destructive thoughts healthily.

Final Thoughts on Controlling Negative Thoughts

Christina Perri wrote a powerful song on her “Head or Heart” album, Human. The song reminds you that you’re only human and when you fall, you will break. However, the good news is that you can put yourself back together.

If you find yourself more pessimistic, and the negative thoughts rush into your mind quickly, you can fight them by flipping the switch. Using some of the ways listed above, you can put this negativity in its place and learn to be more positive.

Learn to Embrace Possibilities and Let Go of the Negativity

January 6, 2023 by Kristen Lawrence

Opening yourself up to the endless possibilities in life means you will attract abundance from the universe. When you place limitations on yourself and doubt your abilities, it leaves you paralyzed with fears. To embrace everything the world offers, you must let go of this negativity and believe in yourself.

Sadly, many learn from parents and peers to live according to a prescribed plan and never stray from normalcy. But it would help if you remembered that no one can define you except yourself. No person on earth can make you feel inferior without your consent. You get to make up the rules on how you will live and what opportunities you’ll explore.

Your thoughts and actions make up who you are, so practicing positive thinking is essential. If you let go of self-perceived limitations and believe in the power of the universe, you can achieve anything. Learn more about the importance of letting go of negativity below.

Why You Should Shift Your Thinking From Negative to Positive

Even in the darkest times, there’s always room for encouragement and hope that things will turn out well. When you live in a constant state of fear and anxiety, it keeps blessings from reaching you. Have you ever heard the saying, “You can never live a positive life with a negative mind?” Truer words have never been spoken because your thoughts create your reality.

Focusing so much on everything going wrong in life only attracts more of those experiences to you. However, if you learn to believe in possibilities and see the world through childlike eyes, you’ll start noticing the clouds in your mind dissipating. People view the world differently because of their upbringing, habits, and thinking patterns. While we can’t change our past, we can alter our routines and mindsets to release negativity and become more positive.

For instance, practicing positive affirmations and loving kindness meditation have increased well-being for many. People who utilize these techniques open up their energy fields to the possibility of love and bliss. When you close yourself off from life, you can’t experience anything beyond doubt, fear, and barriers between yourself and others.

The only way to let go of this negativity involves looking deep within yourself and removing the obstacles keeping you from love. We all have these barriers, to some extent, due to societal programming and childhood trauma. But we’re not meant to live in such a restrictive, depressing manner. Our brains are wired to experience blissful union with the divine, so we need only peel back the layers shrouding our souls.

Trust the Universe to Open You to New Possibilities and Let Go Of Limiting Beliefs

On a smaller scale, embracing joy and love will make your daily life flow effortlessly. For instance, most people experience blockages in their energy field that cause frustration and confusion. But when you live in the present moment and surrender to the universe, beautiful things happen, and more possibilities become available.

You start seeing yourself as a light being, capable of anything and free from self-defeating thoughts. Instead of seeing the world as a problem to solve, you can live from moment to moment without feeling the need to change things. You’ll stop worrying about the whole world and only focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

We’ve come here to learn lessons and spread love to each other by living harmoniously with the universe. The only reason we can’t experience that feeling comes from past karma and the illusion that we’re separate from each other. But this illusion dissipates when you get in touch with your soul, beyond the body and mind.

As you have probably noticed, many people today have forgotten what’s possible with a positive mindset. News programs and social media accounts have become inundated with negative, destructive language and information. We must learn to move past fears and primal instincts if we want to explore the vast possibilities in the universe. Our human nature wants us to preserve ourselves, but our spiritual self longs to break free of these limitations.

We’re much more than the mind and body, but we can only know this by surrendering to infinite possibilities. The universe doesn’t want us to live in turmoil and anxiety for eons and neglect our divine nature. When you doubt yourself and your place here, remember that you’re already perfect and don’t need to prove anything. You only need to remove the layers between you and the infinite to realize the possibilities within you.

Ways to Practice Letting Go of Negativity

In addition to positive affirmations and meditation, you can explore other methods to clear your mind. Here are a few examples:

Let go of the need for control. We’ve lost touch with our intuition and become too logical in the modern world. This reliance on reasoning has made us overly controlling and rigid in our actions. By surrendering to a higher power, you can remove this burden from your soul and feel freer.
Live in the present moment. More than ever, we need mindfulness and patience in our lives. Studies show mindfulness can improve mental health, increase focus, and lower cortisol levels. After all, where else can you be but the here and now? Reminding yourself of this simple fact makes it much easier to remain rooted in the present.
Put yourself first. Don’t feel guilty about practicing self-care and making time for healing. You can’t explore the endless possibilities that come from self-development if you don’t do the work. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish; it’s the greatest act of love you can offer yourself.

Final Thoughts on Learning to Embrace Possibilities and Release Negativity

Have you ever wanted to experience more possibilities in life but didn’t know where to start? The human journey can sometimes seem confusing and overwhelming, and throwing in the towel is easy. But when you subscribe to negative thinking, it prevents the flow of love and bliss from reaching your soul. Only by remembering your divine nature through meditation and surrendering to the universe can you experience these possibilities.

Women Reveal 20 Habits That Keep The Love Alive

January 6, 2023 by Lakeisha Ethans

One of the most precious parts of life is finding a love that withstands the tests of time. However, creating a fulfilling, loving and exciting relationship comes with its challenges. Nevertheless, with the right amount of effort, affection, and care, any couple can keep the fire of love burning bright even when the weight of life takes away from the fairy tale of a happily ever after.

The good news is there is always room to grow and strengthen love in a long-term relationship. Despite this, sometimes it is hard to figure out why things aren’t perfect all the time. Women have a unique role in romantic relationships. Aiming to create a balanced and harmonious relationship with the special lady in your life is essential. Read more to learn about what habits women say keep the love alive and thriving.

NOTE: We realize that it takes two partners to maintain a healthy connection with your partner. If you want to learn the ways a male can add to the relationship, a separate post addresses their specific habits.

1. Make Time To Go On Dates Just The Two Of You

If you have been in a relationship for a long time, it can be easy to forget to go out and enjoy dates! One common misconception is that going on dates ends after the dating phase of a relationship is over. In reality, dating should continue for the whole relationship. Whether it is a fancy dinner date and a movie, going on a walk in nature, or staying in and cooking a fancy meal, setting aside this quality time is a great habit to develop in any romantic relationship. In addition, setting aside time to go on outings just the two of you without children, family members, or friends tagging along is also key.

2. Doing Little Things To Help Around The House To Show Love

Chores are not a very fun part of daily life. Because of this, helping each other with chores can brighten up someone’s day. If you notice your significant other is tired and there are piles of dishes or laundry throughout the house, completing these small tasks can make a big difference. This may seem like a basic habit to build, but research shows that sharing housework and emotional work creates balance and harmony in couples and increases satisfaction in the relationship.

3. Checking In With How They’re Doing

This might seem simple, but building the habit of asking your lover how they are feeling can make them feel like their emotions are a priority to you. Whether it is a question as simple as how they’re feeling on a particular day or how their workday went, it can allow them to express their feelings. Checking in can help mitigate miscommunications.

4. Thinking Of How You Could Make Their Life Easier

This is similar to doing little things around the house but a bit broader. For example, let’s say your significant other has to leave early for work. Making them a cup of coffee in the morning only takes two minutes, but it lets them know that you want their day to be as smooth as possible. Likewise, picking up some takeout is a classy touch if you are driving home from work and know there is nothing in the fridge for dinner.

5. Engaging In Physical Affection Displays Love

Many couples struggle with feeling physically close to each other during the fast pace of life. Making a point of kissing your lover’s cheek before you leave the house or giving them a hug when they are feeling down can make them feel loved and wanted.

6. Planning Trips Together

A change of scenery is always refreshing. Similar to planning dates, planning trips can give both of you a chance to decompress and enjoy an exciting, romantic getaway. Are you not the biggest fan of traveling? Planning a staycation can have the same effect, allowing you to take a break from everyday life and focus on your love.

7. Giving Them Space When Needed

This suggestion may seem counter-intuitive. But the truth is no couple should be together 24/7. Everyone needs a chance to decompress and have alone time. Studies suggest that spending some time apart gives your lover time to connect with themselves as an individual and develop a longing to see you. It is essential to strive for a healthy balance when spending time with each other.

8. Complimenting Their Appearance Is Loving And Kind

Although looks certainly aren’t everything, it is important for your partner to feel like they are attractive in your eyes. Two kinds of compliments in this category can strengthen confidence, love, and security in a relationship. The first kinds of compliments are on the things about their appearance that they can’t change. This includes complimenting their eyes, smile, body, or their height. The second kinds are compliments about the things they do to their appearance. That includes their outfits, hair, makeup, and stuff like that.

9. Bringing Them Tokens Of Appreciation

Gift-giving is a love language. For people whose love language is gift-giving, this does not mean they are greedy or desire expensive presents frequently. In fact, for most people, it means they want to know that you saw something they would like and you thought of them. Whether a simple gift like a book or a more dazzling gift like jewelry, you give them a token of your love and a reminder of you.

10. Celebrating Their Accomplishments

Sometimes we are so busy dealing with our work and obligations that we disengage from what is happening in the lives of our loved ones. Praising your lover in areas of their life can remind them that you are proud of them and they are valued in the relationship. This is especially the case if you are married or living together as their work life directly affects your home life.

11. Sharing Your Hobbies

Does your significant other have different hobbies than you? Often this can happen in a relationship where one person spends time painting while another spends time watching TV or reading a book. Make it a habit to engage in their hobby once or twice a week to share what you love with one another.

12. Running Errands Together

Everyone has to run errands. Often this task is delegated to one of the people in the relationship. Making it a habit to run errands together occasionally makes the chore more fun and gives you time to connect. Research shows that older couples who run errands together become more competent in collaboration which can extend to other aspects of the relationship.

13. Making Compromises Shows Love And Respect

Compromising is an essential aspect of any loving relationship. However, many couples do not think about the unique ways they can make compromising a habit in their day-to-day lives. When we think of compromising, our minds tend to drift to big, high-stakes decisions. However, compromising can be as simple as watching a romantic comedy for movie night one week and then an action thriller the following week.

14. Planning Surprises

Surprising your significant other is a great way to liven up the relationship. Although it might seem like surprises should be reserved for special occasions, incorporating surprises is an easy way to catch your lover’s attention and make them feel appreciated. Some examples of this could be, making dinner one night when they weren’t expecting you to, taking them on a surprise date, or purchasing them a new outfit.

15. Reminiscing On Your Lives Together

Sometimes the monotony of life can make you lose sight of the initial spark that brought you to your person. Making it a habit to share your favorite loving memories, hang photographs of good times around the house, and observe how you have grown together can revive the spark that started it all.

16. Be Open, Honest, And Empathetic When Disagreements Happen

Nobody is perfect, and every couple struggles with disagreements now and then. Unfortunately, it can be easy to let these disagreements drive an edge between you, and resentment could build. One way to mitigate this is to take a deep breath and consider your partner’s point of view. This helps keep things in perspective and reminds you that even though you might not see eye-to-eye all the time, you still love each other.

17. Instead Of Only Saying “I Love You,” Tell Them The Reasons Why You Love Them

When you have spent a long time with someone, sometimes you take it for granted that they feel secure and loved in the relationship. Saying “I love you” can sometimes feel like an obligation, not a declaration of your true feelings. Instead, try saying things like “I love your laugh,” “I love the way you always know what to say,” or “I love your perseverance and strength,” this can reach your partner’s heart and help them hear your love.

18. Spend Time Learning Your Lover’s Love Language

Experts suggest that love languages can make or break a relationship. Five love languages speak to individual love. These are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Experts such as psychologist Dr. Gary Chapman, who first wrote on the five love languages, claim that learning your partner’s love language and practicing things that appeal to them can strengthen love and longevity in relationships.

19. Be Open To Trying New Things Together

One thing that can spice up your relationship is to make it a habit to try new things together. Whether trying a new activity, going to a new place, or spending time with new people, being open to trying new things together can build confidence and closeness in any relationship.

20. Create Healthy Habits Together

Creating and maintaining healthy habits can be a struggle for all of us. One great way to keep the love alive is to work on healthy habits together. Whether it be getting more sleep at night, eating more healthy foods, or getting back into a regular exercise regime, building these habits makes an overall difference in how we feel. When we work on these habits with our romantic partners, it can increase support, affection, and love as well.

Final Thoughts on Some Habits That Keep Love Alive

It is easy to feel lost when it comes to keeping love alive in a long-term relationship. So often, we feel like when the spark fades, our relationships are doomed. However, that is not the case. Try implementing some of these habits in your daily lives; it won’t be long before you start seeing the positive effects in your relationships!

15 Positive Attitude Quotes to Make You Feel Happy

January 5, 2023 by Sarah Barkley

Maintaining a positive mindset is life-changing as it helps you get through difficult times. Positivity can help you focus on your goals and believe in yourself, even when unexpected situations occur. These attitude quotes will help you remember to stay positive so you can feel happier all day.

With a good attitude and positive thinking, you’ll notice improvements in all areas of your life. Your relationships will thrive, your work life will improve, and you’ll achieve a better work-life balance. It’s not always easy to stay positive, though, which is where these attitude quotes come in handy.

Positive Attitude Quotes That Make You Feel Happier

By remembering these positive attitude quotes, you’ll have an easier time maintaining a happy mindset. Whenever negativity begins to creep in, recalling your favorite attitude quotes will help push it away.

1. “Virtually nothing on earth can stop a person with a positive attitude who has his goal clearly in sight.” – Denis Waitley

If you maintain a positive mindset, you’re likely to keep your sights on the goal. Things don’t always go as planned, and your reaction to the situation determines the outcome. If you stay positive and look for solutions, nothing will stop you as you keep pushing forward.

When you focus on the goal rather than the obstacle, you’ll experience happiness even during hardships. Remember this quote the next time negativity threatens to take over, and you’re sure to feel happier.

2. “A positive attitude may not solve all our problems, but that is the only option we have if we want to get out of problems.” – Subodh Gupta

While a positive mindset doesn’t make your problems magically disappear, it does help you get through. The only other option is to focus on the negative aspects of the situation and give up. As Gupta explains, positive thinking is the only way to overcome the issue.

3. “What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? Our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty, and every difficulty has an opportunity.” – J. Sidlow Baxter

When you think of obstacles and opportunities separately, they seem different. However, in this quote, Baxter explains that the only difference between the two is your attitude. If you think of each difficulty in your life as an opportunity for change, you’ll be happier as you work through them.

4. “Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.” – Dr. Roopleen

Mental blocks cause negative thoughts, making you feel trapped in disappointing situations. If you can switch your mindset and focus on your life’s positive aspects, you’ll set yourself free. Pushing through mental blocks can be scary, but push through and seek each opportunity.

5. “Everything happens for a reason, we just don’t get the reason with the thing” – Linda Carvelli

Unexpected things always happen, and we don’t always know why. If you can’t understand why something happened right away, it’s easy to be unhappy about it. This attitude quote reminds you that you will eventually know why something happened the way it did.

If you remember that you’ll eventually understand the situation, you’ll feel a little better now. Plus, it’ll help you move on from the upsetting situation as you look forward to the future.

6. “You cannot tailor-make your situation in life, but you can tailor-make your attitudes to fit those situations.” – Zig Ziglar

Even seemingly perfect plans go awry sometimes because you can’t control everything. When something happens in your life that you didn’t plan for, learn to accept it with a positive mindset. The only thing you can control in life is your attitude, so make sure you choose one that helps.

7. “It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.” – Germany Kent

This is one of the best positive attitude quotes because it reminds you to look at what you already have. As Kent explains, acknowledge the things you’re grateful for, and you’ll be happier overall. The items you don’t have won’t take up as much space in your mind, and you can enjoy life again.

8. “Now is the time to realize your potential and look beyond disappointment and focus on blessings. They are all around you, if you only take the time to welcome them into your life.” – Carlos Wallace

Right now is the perfect time to acknowledge what you’re capable of. You can do anything you want, despite any setbacks or obstacles.

Don’t focus your thoughts on disappointments in your life. Focus on the good things you have right now, including your loved ones and friends. If you make a conscious effort to focus on your blessings, you’ll feel happier all day.

9. “Cultivate an optimistic mind, use your imagination, always consider alternatives, and dare to believe that you can make possible what others think is impossible.” – Rodolfo Costa

When you remember this quote, you will experience a positive mindset and happiness. You’ll be more creative, optimistic, and logical with positive thoughts. You’ll be able to do things no one else can.

10. “Life becomes easier and more beautiful when we can see the good in other people.” – Roy T. Bennett

If you always see other people’s negative qualities, it’ll make you unhappy. However, if you can focus on the good in others, you’ll experience happiness. You control your mindset in all situations, so choose to see the good instead of the bad.

11. “If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” – Frances Hodgson Burnett

There is beauty in the world no matter where you go. Hodgson explains that you can fixate on the negative things in life, or you can look the right way. If you look away from the bad aspects, you’ll see all the beauty surrounding you.

12. “Affirm the positive, visualize the positive, and expect the positive, and your life will change accordingly.” – Remez Sasson

With a positive mindset, you’ll see more possibilities in your life. You’ll see the good in all situations, and you’ll begin to experience a more positive outlook. Once you spend time affirming and visualizing the positive, the rest falls into place.

13. “Your attitude can either be your best friend who has your best interest at heart or your worst enemy who wants to see you fail, destroy your life, and be miserably unhappy. It’s imperative that you check your attitude. Make sure that your attitude is working for you, not against you. There’s limitless value in having a positive, empowered, and optimistic attitude! Choose wisely which attitude you give life to.” – Stephanie Lahart

You decide on your attitude, whether it’s negative or positive. As Lahart explains, your attitude can focus on doing what’s best for you or make you unhappy. Make sure you check your attitude often so you can switch your mindset whenever you need to.

If you can consciously recognize negative thoughts, you’ll easily switch your mindset. When you have a positive outlook, it’ll help you get far in life, and you’ll feel empowered.

14. “When you are joyful when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you.” – Shannon L. Alder

With a positive mindset, you’ll be joyful and have fun. These qualities will attract others to you, and you’ll soon find yourself surrounded by positive people. Make sure you radiate positive energy to be happier and positively influence those around you.

15. “Never say anything about someone which, if called to testify, you are unable to repeat to the person’s hearing or the hearing of the person’s close friend. This will save you a lot of trouble in life.” – Chikamso Efobi

Negative people often say bad things about others that they wouldn’t repeat later. This behavior causes the negative person to become unhappy, as it’s a source of tension and toxicity.

One way to ensure you don’t do this is by not saying things you wouldn’t say around certain people. If you never have to worry about what you say, you’ll feel happier all day.

Final Thoughts on Positivity Quotes That Make You Feel Happier All Day

Maintaining a positive mindset has many benefits, and you’ll feel happier all day. These attitude quotes can help keep your mind in a joyful place. Plus, they’ll help whenever negativity threatens to take over your mind.

Whether you’re a naturally optimistic person or need a little help, these attitude quotes are for you. Unexpected situations occur, and your attitude can affect how things play out.

10 Things Every Woman Loves to Hear

January 5, 2023 by Chris Butler

Guys try so hard when they’re trying to attract the attention of a female. You will bring out all the cheesy one-liners and try to woo her your way. However, these efforts often fail because you say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Whether you want to get the girl or you’ve already got her, you’ll learn that there are certain words of love a woman longs to hear.

Most women will appreciate any accolade from their man, and they seem to work like a charm. You must remember that compliments are only effective when genuine and from the heart. A woman can easily spot someone using insincere flattery to get her attention, and she also knows when someone isn’t being truthful.

You can’t just tell her she’s beautiful, but you must have confidence and mean what you say. Part of this is made more believable when you have the right tone. Your lady wants you to reciprocate her love, and while she may know how you feel in her heart, she longs for you to say it.

If you want brownie points, you should pay close attention to the details, like a new hairstyle, perfume, or an outfit that looks fantastic. She needs you to be her cheerleader and to appreciate all the success she’s had in her professional life. When you applaud her efforts, she will carve out a special place for you in her heart.

NOTE: We acknowledge that men also crave kind words from a partner. However, their desires differ slightly from women’s, so we address gentlemen in a separate article.

Ten Things Your Woman Wants You to Say

It’s easy to put your foot in your mouth and say all the wrong things. You long to tell her she’s the most amazing person you’ve ever met, but it never comes out the way you intend. There are certain words or phrases that a woman needs for her esteem and to solidify the relationship.

You will learn to say what makes her feel special if you want a strong bond. Here are some phrases you should become familiar with to make sure your lady knows how much she means to you.

1. “I’m Sorry.”

The male ego is often bruised easily, and nothing will hurt more than admitting you’re wrong. However, a lady needs to know that you have humility and aren’t too arrogant to admit when you’ve done or said something inappropriate.

If you resort to measures like beating around the bush and telling lies, you will only push her further away from you. Thankfully, telling the truth, admitting fault, and being vulnerable, will bring you closer together.

2. “I Want You to Meet My…”

When you ask your woman to meet your family or friends, you tell her a lot without even knowing. While this gesture seems simple, it’s significant to her. You’re telling her you’re proud of her and want the world to know you’re together.

Additionally, taking her home to meet the parents means that the relationship is going to the next level, and you might be close to making a long-term commitment. You’re saying she’s an essential part of your life, which should bring you closer.

It also means that you have no secrets to hide as you’re allowing her to meet people that could expose the good, bad, and ugly about your past and present. When you take a girl to meet your family, she will hear stories from your childhood and all the rotten things you’ve ever done. However, it’s another step in getting to know one another on a different level.

3. “I Need You.”

If you want to see her eye sparkle, try telling her that you need her. She looks at you as a strong man who has it all together, and when you humble yourself enough to say this to her, she’ll melt. When you tell a woman that you need them by your side to make it in life, it lets her know how important she is to you.

4. “You’re My Best Friend.”

When you tell a woman she is your best friend, it is a significant compliment. Above all your guy friends and the other people you trust, you put her at the top. You’re showing her that your trust level is immense, and you know that you can share your innermost secrets with her and feel safe.

You’re telling her how much she’s valued and appreciated as a friend and lover. What woman doesn’t want their man to say these things to her?

5. “You’re Gorgeous.”

There’s power in your words. According to the Daily Mail, the GEMS Wellington Academy studied how plants would respond to being praised or bullied. The classroom in Dubai had two plants. Both plants received the same food, water, and light, so there were no differences in the growing conditions.

The only thing different was the way the students spoke to them. The plant was bullied and told how small and unattractive it was, and it nearly died after 30 days. However, the plant that was praised thrived.

If words could destroy a plant in a month, how much more could your words hurt a human? Telling your woman that she’s gorgeous is something she needs to hear from you. She needs these positive reinforcements for her esteem and her overall value in your eyes.

6. “I Love You.”

Telling a lady that you love her are three words she longs to hear. Sometimes, ladies are the first to say they love you, and it might be a shock to hear her say it. However, she needs you to tell her you feel the same way.

When you say something like “Thanks” or “That’s nice to hear,” she will feel rejected after she says she loves you. If you love her, tell her how you feel. When you’ve been in a relationship for any length, many guys assume she knows that you love her as you’re there with her.

However, that’s not good enough for a lady, especially those whose love language is words of affirmation. She needs you to say, “I love you” frequently.

7. “I Miss You.”

A lady likes to hear that you’re on her mind when you’re not together. Telling her that you miss her allows you to show your vulnerability, as most men aren’t always good at articulating their feelings. You’re letting her glimpse into your heart and mind for a moment.

Vocalizing how you feel when you’re apart showing that you’re developing a deeper connection. She will love that you throw out the age-old concept of a manly man and show your more sensitive side.

8. “I am So Proud of You.”

There are a couple of ways that you can spin telling her how proud you are of her. First, you can tell her you’re pleased you’re her man. Second, you can tell her how proud you are of her accomplishments.

Maybe she’s a great single mom, and you want to encourage her. Another thing is you can admire her accomplishments professionally. If she does a lot of charity work and has a heart for giving, you should tell her how that makes you feel so proud.

Anytime you compliment her about how special she is, it will make her feel like a million bucks.

9. “I Can’t Imagine Being with Anyone Else.”

When you tell her that there’s no one else for you, you’re saying she’s your future. You may be ready to pop the big question and want to ensure she’s ready. Some ladies feel insecure in relationships, especially if they’ve been hurt.

However, telling her there’s no one else for you will do something to her esteem. She knows that other girls could always turn your head with their beauty or money, but you’re validating that no one in this universe compares to her.

10. “We’re In This Together.”

Life is hard, and there are times when you’re surrounded by people and still feel alone. A woman tends to be an emotional creature by nature, so she needs your support when her world is chaotic. Tell her you’ll be a shoulder to cry on and never leave her side. She needs to know these things when everything is crumbling around her.

Final Thoughts on Things a Woman Loves to Hear From You

Proverbs 25:11 states that a word spoken in love is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. So, this reminds you that saying the right words to someone is essential. When you tell your lady how much she means to you, how wonderful she looks, and how much you love her, you’re doing more for her than you can imagine.

Saying these things to someone that means so much to you solidifies their place in your heart and life. It might send chills down her spine when you tell her all the sweet things she longs to hear. It’s also telling her not to give up on you or the relationship, as every couple goes through rough patches.

You’re vulnerable when you tell her things like “I was wrong” or “I’m sorry.” She needs to see your vulnerability, which will encourage her to open up to you. Remember that your words can’t just be something you say because you’re trying to get on her good side, as she will know if you’re putting your heart and soul behind them.

As you’ve often heard, your actions speak much louder than your words, so make sure the words you speak come from the heart. If you want a good relationship that will last the test of time, tell your woman things that boost her esteem.

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