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Health Experts Reveal 8 Foods That Are Bad For Your Brain

Health experts are always telling people to be careful about what they eat because it can affect the health of our bodies. We know this by now, no doubt! However, there are also foods that are harmful to the health of your brain.

Your brain is the most important organ in your body. It keeps your heart beating, lungs breathing and all the systems in your body functioning. That’s why it’s essential to keep your brain working in optimum condition with a healthy diet,” says Elise Mandl, BSc, APD on Health Line.

Different foods have different effects on parts of our bodies. If you’re looking to ensure that your brain stays just as healthy as the rest of your body, avoid these specific foods – or, at least, eat them in moderation!

Here Are 8 Foods That Are Harmful To Your Brain

Avoid these foods to improve your brain health.

1. Highly processed foods

Processed foods aren’t easy to avoid these days, but it’s best to do so for both your body and your brain.

According to a recent study by a group of scientists, “Animal work over the last three decades has generated a convincing body of evidence that a Western diet – one high in saturated fat and refined carbohydrates (HFS diet) – can damage various brain systems… there is a causal link running from HFS diet to impaired brain function in humans, and that HFS diets also contribute to the development of neurodegenerative conditions.

Foods that are highly processed are going to be full to the brim with sugar and salts. As we all know, eating too much of these foods isn’t good for you. Instant TV dinners, chips and sweets are the kind of processed foods that you’re going to want to avoid for the health of your brain.

2. Alcohol

Drinking alcohol in small amounts and moderation isn’t going to be harmful to your brain. However, it’s all about excess. When you drink alcohol every day, or drink alcohol in excess, you’re bound to be doing damage your brain as well as your body. Chronic alcohol usage can really do a number on your neurotransmitters, as well as brain volume.

A group of scientists have concluded that, “chronic alcohol use is accompanied by volume reductions of gray and white matter, as well as microstructural disruption of various white matter tracts. These changes are partially reversible following abstinence.

It’s okay to enjoy alcohol every once in a while, but know when enough is enough!

3. Mercury

When you eat fish, you always have a chance of that fish having something unsavory in its body, but usually it’s in small enough amounts that it isn’t a big deal. In fact, most doctors recommend eating a serving of fish once a week or more. However, predatory fish are more likely to be carrying mercury that can affect humans when they are eaten.

When ingested, mercury can affect the whole body, including the liver and brain. “The effects of mercury toxicity include disruption of the central nervous system and neurotransmitters and stimulation of neurotoxins, resulting in damage to the brain,” adds Mandl. Be careful about the fish your purchasing and from where, because mercury is no joke. Avoid shark and swordfish to keep mercury out of your body.

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4. Soda and sugary drinks

When health experts suggest a diet change for your health, the first thing to go is usually drinks that are full of sugar, like soda. Too much sugar and soda can cause negative effects in your brain, including causing diabetes that can increase someone’s risk for Alzheimer’s disease. High blood pressure from the sugar can also cause a risk of dementia later down the line. Kick the sugary drinks and soda and drink more water! Your body and your brain will thank you for it.

5. Sugar

Sugars are what are known as “refined carbs”, along with things like white flour. Sugar is something that your body often craves when you eat it enough, and it can really spike your blood pressure. However, it’s also incredibly damaging to your brain. When you eat too much sugar, it can cause memory problems in both kids and adults.

Expert in osteopathic medicine, Christopher Calapai, MD says that sugar, “causes the hippocampus, the brain’s memory control centre, to become inflamed, meaning it can’t work at 100%.” Now, eating sugar once in a while isn’t a bad thing! But, like most things, you want to make sure you’re having foods high in sugar only in moderation.

6. Artificial sweeteners

Most people choose to use or consume artificial sweeteners when they’re trying to avoid sugar. While it may seem like the right idea, artificial sweeteners aren’t much better for you than sugar itself. A particular artificial sweetener, called Aspartame, has been linked to cognitive problems when consumed in high amounts, or regularly.

A group of scientists have concluded that, “Sugar- and artificially-sweetened beverage intake have been linked to cardiometabolic risk factors, which increase the risk of cerebrovascular disease and dementia. Artificially sweetened soft drink consumption was associated with a higher risk of stroke and dementia.

Sometimes, choosing sugar over artificial sweeteners is a good thing, but eating either/or in moderation will keep your brain safe.

7. Saturated fats

Foods like bacon and other things that are full of saturated fats are usually pretty delicious. But, you want to eat them in moderation because saturated fats can make it difficult for your brain to fight against Alzheimer’s disease. According to this study, “Intake levels of both saturated and trans fat were positively and significantly associated with Alzheimer’s risk.

Not only that, but saturated fats can cause your brain to have problems when it comes to forming memories. Bacon is delicious, but make sure you’re not eating too much of it!

8. Fast food

It’s the end of the day, you’re tired, and you just want to run through the drive thru and get some dinner. We’ve all been there! There’s no shame in it. Unfortunately, fast food is a cocktail of unhealthy foods that you’ll want to limit the intake of, not just for your physical health, but for the health of your brain as well.

Trans fats can get incorporated into the brain but they do not allow the signals to flow in the normal way. In layman’s terms, the brain gets thicker – and in practical terms it makes you thicker,” says nutritionist Patrick Holford.

Too much fast food can make our brains more vulnerable to depression. Try to eat fast food only once in a while to keep your brain healthy and happy.

Final thoughts

“Some foods have negative effects on the brain, impacting your memory and mood and increasing your risk of dementia.” – Elise Mandl

Food can be so good for our bodies! We need it to live, after all! There’s so many foods that we can’t get enough of. But, on the flip side, there is also food that our bodies can probably use less of. Enjoying those unhealthy foods isn’t the worst thing in the world, but only in moderation.

7 Early Warning Signs of Mono to Never Ignore

“It typically occurs in teenagers, but you can get it at any age. The virus is spread through saliva, which is why some people call it ‘the kissing disease.’” – Jacquelyn Cafasso

Young adults and teenagers are usually well aware of mononucleosis. Mononucleosis is more commonly known as “mono” the “kissing disease”. However, getting mono doesn’t always require kissing.

The virus that causes mono is transmitted through saliva, so you can get it through kissing, but you can also be exposed through a cough or sneeze, or by sharing a glass or food utensils with someone who has mono,” adds Mayo Clinic.

If you’re not sure whether or not you have mono, keep an eye out for these particular warning signs. There are some key symptoms that will keep you alerted to whether or not you’ve caught mononucleosis. If you start showing symptoms, talk to your doctor.

7 Early Warning Signs Of Mono To Never Ignore

1. You’ve kissed someone who’s shown symptoms

Because mono is known as the “kissing disease,” you’re probably going to be more at risk for catching mono if you’ve recently been in contact with someone who is showing symptoms. You would be at risk for the flu or the common cold in the same way.

The virus is spread through direct contact with saliva from the mouth of an infected person or other bodily fluids such as blood. It’s also spread through sexual contact and organ transplantation,” says research analyst Jacquelyn Cafasso.

Therefore, kissing isn’t always required to catch mono. You may be at risk if you’ve shared drink or food with someone who is showing symptoms. Be aware of those around you and the symptoms that people are showing! Always wash your hands and try to keep your contact limited with people who are sick.

2. Fever

You always want to be wary of a fever. A fever is your body’s way of telling you that it is fighting off a sickness. Keep track of how long you have your fever. A flu or cold may cause a fever that lasts one or two days. However, a fever that is caused by mono tends to hang around longer than normal.

A fever of 101 or 102 that persists for more than three days should be checked out by your doctor. Persistent fever is a sign of mono that should never be ignored, so make sure you get it looked at by a doctor.

3. Fatigue

Being run down and exhausted is pretty normal with a lot of illnesses. However, severe fatigue is one of the early warning signs of mono. “Often the person says, ‘Doc, I’m sleeping a lot but I’m still tired and don’t feel like I’m doing too much,’” says osteopathic family medicine physician, Robert I. Danoff, DL.

When you have early signs of mono, your fatigue is going to be long-term and persistent. This isn’t something a quick nap will be able to alleviate. If you’re feeling more exhausted and run down than normal, consult with your doctor and make sure that you get tested for mono.

chronic fatigue

4. Abdominal pain

When you get mono, you can get an enlarged spleen. This is an early warning sign that your body is trying to fight off this virus. You will feel the pain in the upper left part of your abdomen. Abdominal pain is no joke, so if you’re feeling a dull pain, you might want to go see a doctor. Most people don’t know about this particular warning sign. When you’re not feeling well and you think it might be the flu, pay attention to your stomach for signs of mono.

5. Breathing problems

Being short of breath, having issues breathing, not being able to catch your breath, and audible breathing are all signs of mono. “Complications of mono can cause obstruction of the airway from inflammation, causing difficulty breathing or wheezing,” says Dr. Adam Horblitt.

If you find yourself with some flu or cold-like symptoms, and you’re having more trouble breathing than usual, it might be a sign that you’ve got mono. Make sure to talk to your doctor if you’re experiencing shortness of breath or wheezing.

6. Sore throat

In addition to all the other symptoms, mono also causes a sore throat. The sore throat itself may be caused by swollen lymph nodes on the side of your neck. If you still have your tonsils, especially for teenagers and young adults, the tonsils may be swollen as well.

Some people may mistake the mono virus for the flu virus based on the initial symptoms. Pus in the back of the throat and swollen tonsils may accompany the pain. A sore throat may last for several weeks with the virus,” adds registered nurse, Abigail Adams.

If you go into your doctor, they may begin to test you for strep throat. However, make sure to mention any other symptoms that you may have so that your doctor can also test you for mono, just in case.

7. Rashes

If, by chance, you go into your doctor with a sore throat and they give you a treatment for strep, keep an eye out for a rash developing on your skin. When you have mono, you’re more likely to react to the antibiotics that are generally prescribed to treat strep throat. This is usually the first indication that someone has mono. If you go to the doctor and take medication for strep but find that you’re developing a rash, call your doctor so you can get tested for mono instead.

Final thoughts

Mono isn’t fun, and while it’s normally considered an illness that mostly teenagers and young adults get, anyone can get mono. Make sure that you wash your hands and stay away from people who are sick if you can help it. Mono can look like a lot of other illnesses, like the flu or the common cold. Make sure you keep an eye on any of these symptoms, especially the ones that don’t mimic the flu, like a rash or a persistent fever and chronic fatigue. Once you spot the signs of mono, contact your doctor so you can get a test and get treated as soon as possible. That way, you can go back to feeling 100%!

How to Make Pineapple Ginger Smoothies to Help With Pain And Inflammation

Do you like to juice? How about mixing some delicious fruits and veggies? How about making fruit and veggie smoothies to help eliminate pain and inflammation?

Sound good?

“Juices of fruits and vegetables are pure gifts from Mother Nature and the most natural way to heal your body and make yourself whole again.” ~ Farnoosh Brock, The Healthy Juicer’s Bible: Lose Weight, Detoxify, Fight Disease, and Live Long

Okay, let’s make that smoothie!

First, here are the ingredients:

    • 1/2 a Pineapple
    • Two ribs of celery
    • One head of Romaine lettuce
    • A handful of cilantro
    • A thumb-sized piece of ginger

smoothie for pain and inflammationIn case you are curious, here’s what each ingredient does for your health!

Pineapple:

Supports the immune system; increases and maintains bone strength; promotes eye health; contains pain-reducing enzymes.

“Pineapples’ nutritional benefits are as fascinating as their anatomy,” says San Diego-based nutritionist Laura Flores, “As well as having high amounts of manganese, which is important for antioxidant defenses, pineapples also contain high amounts of thiamine, a B vitamin that is involved in energy production.”

Celery:

Lowers inflammation; protects liver health; promotes weight loss; encourages digestion; is an anti-bacterial.

In a study published in the journal Molecular Nutrition and Food Research, scientists conclude that – because of a molecule called apigenin, which celery contains – the vegetable reduces certain inflammatory markers. Apigenin also encourages proper immune system operations.

Romaine lettuce:

Aids weight loss; promotes a healthy digestive tract; helps maintain bone and muscle strength; strengthens the immune system; encourages cardiovascular health.

“A dieter’s dream, romaine lettuce has about eight calories and 1-2 grams of carbohydrates per cup. Although it’s low in fiber, it’s high in minerals, such as calcium, phosphorous, magnesium, and potassium,” says registered dietitian Natalie Butler, “It’s naturally low in sodium. Plus, romaine lettuce is packed with vitamin C, vitamin K, and folate. It’s a good source of beta-carotene, which converts into vitamin A in the body.”

Cilantro (coriander):

Lowers skin inflammation; reduces cholesterol levels; treats diarrhea; stabilizes blood pressure; prevents anemia; anti-allergic properties; improves bone health; aids in digestion.

“Some studies suggest that increasing consumption of plant foods like cilantro may decrease the risk of obesity, overall mortality, diabetes, and heart disease,” writes registered dietitian Megan Ware, “while promoting healthy skin and hair, increased energy, and overall lower weight.”

Ginger:

Alleviates nausea, relieves pain, reduces inflammatory markers, improves respiratory function, increases appetite, relieves cold and flu, and promotes heart health.

Studies demonstrate that ginger’s unique compounds and metabolites help prevent and treat certain illnesses. The compounds gingerols and shogaols have been researched extensively and shown to be effective.

This five-ingredient smoothie recipe is potent against pain and inflammation primarily because of the ingredients’ high concentrations of anti-inflammatory properties. It is also worth mentioning that this drink is fantastic for maintaining healthy immune system function – particularly during the cold and flu seasons.

What a rich array of vitamins and nutrients in romaine lettuce! Besides including the delicious veggie in this drink recipe, it’s worth considering as a stable in one’s everyday diet!

Note: Pineapple may clog up your juicer because of its tough and fibrous texture. Please consider removing the skin and chopping the fruit into smaller portions if this is a concern.

Enjoy!

Science Explains What Makes People Think Something Is Cute

What makes something cute? What goes on in our brain that evokes feelings of “awwww….”?

Millions, probably billions of people spend countless hours perusing the web for the next adorable video. Kittens, puppies, monkeys, goats, babies, … you name it. Zoo animals, including animal “bloopers,” seem to be especially popular.

While the answer to this question may surprise many of us, the answer to “Why do we find something cute?” can be answered in one word: survival. While primitively-motivated, the rationale for why we find something cute is fascinating.

But before we get into the evolutionary mechanisms behind why we determine something to be cute, here are a few characteristics that all physically endearing things seem to have in common:

– Big, forward-facing eyes
– Rounded ears
– Coated fur (or rounded, potted belly)
– Loose limbs
– A large head that’s disproportionate to its body size

These features – and perhaps others – make up what is called kinderschema (pronounced kin-der-skeem-uh). Kinderschema is a set of physical characteristics that humans are naturally drawn towards.

But puppies, kittens, and other adorables aren’t the only things that trigger kinderschema. Human babies do, too; and it’s these similarities (rounded belly, big head, big eyes, loose limbs, etc.) between our offspring and, say, a puppy golden retriever, that makes us smitten with both the former and the latter.

cute smile

Science Explains What Makes People Think Something Is Cute

What goes on in the brain when we find something adorable?

Ever stop and stare when you see a cute baby being wheeled through the mall? Petted someone else’s puppy as they were walking it? When we look at something cute and cuddly, two emotional cues suddenly fire within the brain. Neuroscientists call these emotional signals “hijacks” because they have a way of hijacking our attention!

First, the region known as the orbital frontal cortex, or OFC, becomes highly active. The OFC sits just above the eye sockets and has extensive connections with both sensory and emotional structures involved in emotion and memory. When it comes to “cuteness,” however, it’s the OFC’s decision-making properties that are key. This decision-making mechanism prompts us to want to hold onto that puppy, kitten, or baby – in doing so, we protect the baby or animal – a very natural human desire.

Secondly, the brain’s nucleus accumbens, or NAc, releases dopamine – the “feel-good” chemical – as it does when we do things like fall in love, have sex, or take certain drugs. Relatedly, excess dopamine is what prompts the urge to view the cute video – over and over again. That’s because dopamine, as it turns out, plays a key role in addiction. So it’s not too far off to say, “These cute videos are sooo addicting!”

Both of the above describe actions of the brain that encourage us to protect the baby (or cute animal) and rewards us for doing just that.

One girl shares her story:

“My brain did this very thing when I was at a dairy farm in Maui. A little baby goat came up to me and started chewing on my shorts! Normally, that’s not a thing I’d encourage. But look how cute and adorable his face is! Who could say no to you? I just want to cuddle you and take care of you!”

What does this have to do with survival?

We, humans, possess an intrinsic motivation to care for babies and children. These caregiving tendencies, honed through millions of years of evolution, provide the impulse to protect the child (or animal); even if this means disregarding our own safety in doing so.

Something else quite fascinating: our brain actively searches for babies, animals, and other cute things to protect and care for. Again, this action of the mind may arise from the dopamine “hit” we receive every time we see, hold, and care for a baby or animal.

Kinderschema is so powerful, in fact, that our brain reacts similarly when we see cartoon babies and other cuties. (Who doesn’t think the Minions in Despicable Me are lovable?)

Oh, and the complete absence of kindershema helps explain why most of us find certain creepy crawlies like spiders and snakes so repulsively hideous! Interesting factoid for ya!

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Sources:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orbitofrontal_cortex
https://video.nationalgeographic.com/video/wired-that-way/the-science-of-cute
https://www.neuroscientificallychallenged.com/blog/know-your-brain-orbitofrontal-cortex

Researchers Explain Why You Need Someone Who Accepts You Completely In A Relationship

Acceptance is extremely important in every relationship we have with another person. We always seek acceptance, even if we like to tell ourselves that we don’t. But seeking acceptance is a natural part of being human. We seek acceptance from our friends, our families, or coworkers, and even from strangers.

Researchers have long been putting in the work to understand why we need acceptance from people, especially from people in our romantic lives. Being with someone who accepts you completely will make changes to your life that you may never have guessed.

Here Are 6 Reasons Why You Need Someone Who Accepts You Completely In A Relationship

1. Less resentment

When we are met with a lack of acceptance from people who we love, this can slowly grow resentment in our minds. Having a partner who accepts you completely, no matter what, means that you won’t have any resentment.

Accepting people does not itself mean agreeing with them, approving of them, waiving your own rights, or downplaying their impact upon you. You can still take appropriate actions to protect or support yourself or others,” says neuropsychologist and author Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

However, no one likes to be told what to do, how to do it, or be told that the things they do or like are unacceptable – especially if they’re not harming themselves or others. Resentment can cause a number of different mental and emotional problems, from anxiety to depression. It can even irreparably damage relationships. Relationships should be about acceptance of one another, not fostering resentment.

2. It brings closeness

Acceptance fosters closeness between both partners.

We have all had moments when we wished our partner was thinner, wealthier, more romantic, and so on. Take a look at your expectations and ask yourself how realistic they are. Unrealistic expectations lead to chronic frustration, which my study found is the main reason relationships fail,” says relationship expert, author, professor and therapist Dr. Terri L. Orbuch.

Being with someone is often a learning curve, and learning to trust someone can take a while. When you’re with someone who accepts you for who you are, completely, then it brings both partners close together. Being aware that your partner accepts you for who you are opens up trust that allows partners to connect and grow closer together. It can even improve a relationship when acceptance replaces nonacceptance.

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3. Personal growth

When you are with someone who doesn’t accept you for who you are, your personal growth is stunted. When someone doesn’t accept you, even when they never say it, they will still act and behave towards you in a way that shows that lack of acceptance. On the other hand, when you find someone who accepts you as you are, your personal growth expands. You are capable of learning new things and experiencing growth as a person. You’re able to foster your own unique abilities and skills without judgement.

It’s good when someone encourages you to be the best you can be. As long as you still get to be you. Pushing our loved ones to be better is part of what a successful relationship entails. However, if your loved one asks you to be things you’re not, or compares you unfavorably to others, then you should hear warning sirens in your head,” says translator Carolina June.

4. Letting go of control

We can’t control everything. When we try to control everything around us, especially other people, we’re left feeling frustrated and anxious.

When we start a relationship we like to feel in control, powerful even – to protect ourselves from the vulnerability that comes with opening up to a lover. We may carry the hurt from past relationships, so we protect ourselves by trying to appear in control. Yet no relationship was ever deepened by lovers’ attempts to assert themselves over each other – rather, it is through the mutual exploration of their imperfections, fears and anxieties that true connection occurs. It may sound counterintuitive but it’s true,” says couples’ counsellor David Waters.

Having someone who accepts us for our flaws and uniqueness means that we have the ability to let go of that need for constant control.  We want to control everything that we do, and we want to control how people see us. But since we can’t control how other people feel about us, we are often left feeling upset. Having at least one person who accepts us completely begins to free us from that need of control.

5. Peace and serenity

Being surrounded by people who don’t accept us, or parts of us, can leave us feeling like we’re caught in a world of anxiety and chaos. We don’t feel good about ourselves, and that can harm so many different facets of our lives. The importance of peace in our lives shouldn’t be overlooked. When you have someone who accepts you completely, you’ll be able to find an easier peace and serenity that you may not have known before.

When we accept something just as it is, without judgment, without manipulating it to be something else or without a label, we experience peace. We can have the same peace in our relationship when we learn to accept our partner’s behavior without judgment or without trying to change them in some way. Letting go of our expectations of how we think they should be sets us free and we experience peace,” says therapist Tara Mills.

We all deserve to have a place in our lives where we know peace, and being with someone who accepts you completely can be that place.

6. Great self-esteem

Self-esteem shouldn’t be overlooked when it comes to mental and emotional health. With a lack of self-esteem comes a lot of depression and anxiety.

People with low self-esteem tend to have “lower quality relationships” than people with healthy self-esteem. Their relationships have less love and trust, and more conflict and ambivalence. People with low self-esteem’s relationships are also less stable (more likely to break up),” says psychologist and author Alice Boyes, Ph.D.

“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.” – Brian Tracy

When we are with someone who doesn’t accept us completely, our self-esteem can drop drastically. On the other hand, having someone who can support you and accept you completely will raise your self-esteem, even when other people in your life don’t show you that same support or acceptance.

Final thoughts

Acceptance is a part of human existence. We seek acceptance from all kinds of people in our lives. Not everyone we come across will accept us for who we are, or accept us completely. However, being with someone who accepts us can drastically change our mental and emotional health, and researchers have agreed that acceptance is important to our well-being.

References:
https://www.lifeadvancer.com/date-person-accepts-the-way-you-are
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-wise-brain/201410/accept-them-they-are
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-terri-orbuch/9-new-ways-to-deepen-your-relationship-bond_b_6144640.html
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/relationship-advice-and-romance/11016984/Relationship-advice-five-experts-reveal-the-secrets-to-long-term-love.html
http://forgoodloving.com/should-you-accept-your-partners-bad-habit-how-accepting-your-partner-benefits-you.html
http://www.aliceboyes.com/low-self-esteem-and-relationships/

5 Phrases Highly Confident People Never Use

Self-talk can have a great impact on your confidence. The effect can be good or bad, depending on whether your self-talk is positive or negative. ~ ReachOut Australia

There are ways for us all to become more confident people – and we should take full advantage. First, It’s important to acknowledge the person we speak to the most – ourselves.

Even though you may not know it, you are engaging in self-talk all the time.

Self-talk is your inner voice; it’s usually so subtle that we don’t pay much attention to it unless we directed.

Positive self-talk starts with merely observing what you routinely say to yourself.

Do you direct positive or negative thoughts and feelings towards yourself?

Do you monitor these thoughts and feelings or are you on autopilot most of the time?

Positive self-talk also boosts your confidence. With a confident mindset, you are far less likely to say something that will come back to bite you. You’re also less likely to hurt someone else with your words.

Again – and this is worth repeating: how we speak to ourselves directly influences how we speak to others.

It’s helpful to start by being kind to yourself.

Moving on…

Things confident people don’t say

1. “I’m sorry…” (When it’s not your fault)

Follow an insecure person around long enough, and you’ll probably hear them apologize to someone for something that isn’t their fault. This apology doesn’t come from a sense of remorse. It comes from being overly passive.

It’s essential that we show others respect – but we must first respect ourselves. Save the “I’m sorry” and say something a bit more genuine and impactful.

“Thank you for your time,” “I’ll let you get back to work,” or “I appreciate your help” will stick with someone – and you’ll appear much more self-assured.

2. “You see, what happened was…”

Unless the absolute truth is about to exit your lips, don’t utter these words. “You see, what happened,” or “What happened was” are two well-known phrases of storytellers.

You know what? Forget this phrase altogether. If something happened that threw you off course, just come right out with it. Forget about prefacing the truth with something that sounds inherently untruthful.

Instead of sounding like you’re hiding something, be confident with how you explain situations!

3. “It’s their fault…”

Here’s some truth for all of us: cowards blame other people.

While something may very well be someone else’s fault, confident people don’t name drop someone to take the fall. By all means, explain what happened! Don’t be the target for someone else’s mistakes. But don’t “rat” on someone out of fear, either.

The most confident people own their worlds. Even if you aren’t a very confident person right now (and that’s okay!), start acting with unfiltered integrity and inner strength.

4. “I don’t feel like it…”

Yes, we’ve all uttered this useless, weak, and self-defeating phrase.

Yes, we’ve all felt the pain of regret by choosing the easy way.

But confident individuals, unsurprisingly, are very self-disciplined – including in how they speak to themselves and others. Though they very well may not feel like doing something, they won’t utter this defeating phrase.

While this isn’t to say that confident people always do what needs to be done, it is to say that highly self-assured people monitor and choose their words carefully.

5. “I can’t…”

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something but are unable to. Do you where this is going?

Let’s say ‘John’ has committed to a morning workout with his best friend, ‘Dave.’ He oversleeps one morning when all of a sudden the phone rings.

“Hey, John, you ready to go? I’m almost there.”

John, feeling the warmth of the bed calling out to him, says, “I can’t…” He hangs up and goes back to sleep.

What John did was cowardly, selfish, and weak. First, Jon breaks his commitment to his best friend. Second, he seemingly doesn’t give Dave a second thought. Third, he lies.

Confident people tell it like it is. If they “can’t” do something, they will explain the situation – even if it hurts their ego or disappoints someone else.

Final Thoughts

No person is confident all of the time. All of us have said things that are less than truthful and negative.

What’s important is that we make an effort to be more assertive, forthright, and positive individuals.

Making an honest effort to act with self-confidence in areas of your life where its necessary is – by its very definition – confidence and courage.

And for that, you should be very proud.

Sources:
https://au.reachout.com/articles/developing-positive-self-talk
https://www.workandmoney.com/s/phrases-to-avoid-exude-confidence-get-ahead-97a57e7cc7094fbf

10 Behaviors A Sociopath Displays In A Relationship Before Revealing Themselves

Sociopath: a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience. ~ Oxford English Dictionaries

Although today’s medical community doesn’t officially diagnose someone as a sociopath or a psychopath – at least, not anymore – there are individuals among us who fit the bill.

A sociopath can be defined as someone who “typically has a conscience (“what’s right and wrong), but it’s weak.” For example, someone with a proclivity for stealing may feel a pang of guilt after stealing your wallet – but it’s not enough to stop his or her behavior.

The defining characteristic of both psychopaths and sociopaths is their lack of empathy. They don’t have the ability to stand in someone else’s shoes and understand how they feel.

To clear up a gross (but common) misconception: not everyone who fits the bill of a psychopath or sociopath is violent; some are, but most are not. Both groups of characters have a penchant for taking advantage of people to get what they want.

Sociopath ? Relationship

According to Harvard University psychologist Dr. Martha Stout, as many as 25 percent of the U.S. population possesses sociopathic tendencies.

Think about this: One in every four people you’ve met – or will meet – has at least some characteristics that define a textbook sociopath. Colleagues. Friends. Family. Lovers.

It’s not so strange, then, to date, love, and (God forbid) marry a sociopath. For obvious reasons, a sociopath doesn’t make for an ideal lover. While not all dangerous criminals, sociopaths possess antisocial behavior, or, “actions that harm or lack consideration for the well-being of others.”

Here are 10 behaviors that a sociopath may reveal in a relationship:

1. A Huge Ego

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V) notes that one characteristic of a sociopath is “an inflated sense of self.” Sociopaths are extremely narcissistic about their internal and external “gifts.” They’ll prance, brag, showboat, and generally annoy the hell out of anyone unfortunate enough to be in close enough proximity to their overinflated ego.

2. They’re Manipulative

When you (truly) love someone, the last thing you wish to do is mislead them for your personal gain. In fact, the opposite is true – you’ll willingly sacrifice your happiness for theirs. Sociopaths will try to mislead you, and they don’t care about your happiness.

3. They’re Irresponsible or Impulsive

Sociopaths really don’t commit to anything – personally or professionally. When it comes to decision-making, sociopaths don’t think things through. It’s unsurprising, then, that many-a-sociopath are careless criminals who make dumb mistakes.

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4. They Have No Friends

Sociopaths don’t have friends – at least, not authentic ones. The only use that a sociopath has for someone they call a “friend” is to get something they want. Sociopaths don’t have friends; nor do they want to have friends.

5. They’re Chronic Pleasure-Seekers

“If it feels good, I’ll do it. If I can get away with it, I’ll do it.” This, ladies and gentlemen, is the source of sociopathic joy.

6. They Ignore Social Norms

“The rules of ______ don’t apply to me.” Yep, just fill in the blank. Unless said behavior carries a high risk of landing the sociopath behind bars (and even then, in some cases), they simply ignore the widely-accepted “social contract.”

7. Prolonged Eye Contact

Or the “creepy guy stare.” Whatever you may call it, sociopaths have it down. And it’s bizarre. Sociopaths (and other unnatural personality types) use constant eye contact to show aggression or seduction.

8. Superficial Charm

M.E. Thomas, a self-described sociopath, writes in Psychology Today: “You would like me if you met me. I have the kind of smile that is common among television show characters and rare in real life, perfect in its sparkly teeth dimensions and ability to express pleasant invitation.”

While there are certainly a fair share of moronic sociopaths with zero social intelligence, some can be aptly described as a master of disguise.

9. Lack of Remorse or Shame

Have you ever said the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time? How did you feel afterward? Guilty? Ashamed? Embarrassed?

Most (all?) of us have been in this situation and felt its lingering after-effects. Sociopaths act in a remorseful, shameful way all the time: they just don’t feel any of the emotions.

10. They Break Boundaries

Sociopaths don’t respect the rights of others; so we can’t expect them to understand the notion of “personal space.” Perhaps you’ve tried setting boundaries by telling your partner what you like and dislike; what’s acceptable and unacceptable. Chances are that your efforts mattered little.

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Sources:
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/23/11-signs-dating-a-sociopath_n_3780417.html
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/sociopath-psychopath-difference#1

10 Anxiety Management Tricks That Make You Feel Calm Again

“Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.” – Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

Anxiety is much more common than people want to believe. If you suffer from anxiety, don’t worry. You’re not alone, but do not repress anxious thoughts. “Repressing anxious thoughts won’t work; they will just pop up again, sometimes with more intensity,” says psychologist, life coach and author Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

There are ways to help yourself feel calm again when you feel overwhelmed with anxiety. Here are some of the best anxiety management tricks to help you calm down, approved by therapists and mental health experts.

Here Are 10 Anxiety Management Tricks To Help You Feel Calm

1. Breathe

This may seem like a no brainer, but when the anxiety hits, it can be difficult to remember to breathe. Focusing on your breathing is a sure-fire way to help yourself calm down when you’re feeling anxious. Author Robert Cooper, Ph.D. says, “Breathing from your diaphragm oxygenates your blood, which helps you relax almost instantly.

Breathing in for a count of five and then out for a count of seven will help you focus your mind and relax your body. Deep breathing will also help get rid of the flight-or-fight response that anxiety often triggers in our bodies.

2. Find a support system

Anxiety is hard to deal with on your own. It’s best to make sure that you have people in your life who will support you when the anxiety gets to be overwhelming. “Research shows that people who encounter major life stresses, such as the loss of a spouse or job, come through the ordeal more easily if they have an effective network of friends or family for social support,” says psychotherapist Ben Martin, Psy.D.

A support network of people can help distract you, calm you down, or give you a reality a check when you really need it. You don’t have to deal with anxiety alone. There will always be people who are going to love you and accept you, so make sure you reach out to them during your time of need.

3. Think positive

Anxiety can occur when negative thoughts start to seep into our day-to-day lives. Stopping those thoughts before they cause anxiety is the key to staying calm. One of the best ways to stop negative thoughts in their tracks is by focusing on the positive.

Purposely focusing on positive thoughts will help you calm down by keeping the negative thoughts at bay. The power of positive thought shouldn’t ever be underestimated. It can even help to write out all of the positive things you experienced that day, or the positive things happening in your life.

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4. Avoid caffeine

If you’re prone to anxiety and also drink a lot of caffeine like coffee or soda, you may want to cut back on those types of drinks. “If you’re feeling keyed up all day and having trouble sleeping, look at your caffeine intake,” says wellness expert and health coach, Dr. Susan Biali Haas.

Since caffeine is a stimulant, it’s prone to making anxiety disorders worse. Keeping your caffeine intake to a minimum will help you deal with flairs of anxiety when they do happen. Instead, make sure you’re drinking enough water and staying hydrated. Speaking of…

5. Stay hydrated

When anxiety starts to spike, make sure you’ve got a glass of water nearby. Oftentimes, our bodies have what’s called a “diving instinct” that will calm us down so we don’t drown when we are submerged under water. Like with diving! Many people with anxiety have found that drinking a cool glass of water can have the same effect when they’re feeling anxious. Not only that, but staying hydrated is good for your body and your brain, helping your anxiety.

6. Learn your triggers

Anxiety usually happens for a reason, with what mental health professionals call “triggers.” A certain situation or event can trigger you into feeling anxious. One of the best ways to handle your anxiety is to learn exactly what those triggers are. If you don’t know what you’re anxious over, it can be harder to calm yourself down. But once you learn your triggers, you’ll be much more likely to be able to calm yourself down when the anxiety starts to spike.

7. Maintain good sleep habits

Getting a good night’s rest will help you combat your anxiety before you even start to feel the symptoms.

If you’re sleeping less than 6 hours a night, you’re probably looking at a prime cause of your anxiety. True, anxiety can make it hard to sleep, but if there’s any way you can get eight hours of sleep a night you should notice an immediate difference in your mood,” says Dr. Haas.

Getting ahead of the game is a great way to make sure that you can find ways to calm yourself down again once anxiety starts up. When you’re sleeping well, you’ll be able to stay calm and keep your head clear.

8. Exercise

Yes, exercise can help deal with anxiety. It can help you before the anxiety hits, but it can also help you even out your anxiety when it starts. Go for a jog, or even just a brisk walk around the neighborhood if you can.

The key is to get up and move,” says Dr. Cooper. Sometimes, all you need to do is get your blood pumping so that you can give all that excess energy some place to go.

9. Accept what you can’t control

There’s only so much that you can control in life. You can’t control other people, or most situations. Instead, you can only control your own actions, and your response to situations.

Recognize that, sometimes, all you can control is your effort and your attitude. When you put your energy into the things you can control, you’ll be much more effective,” says psychotherapist and author, Amy Morin, LCSW.

Anxiety often happens when we feel out of control. Take what you can control and allow yourself to let go of the things that you can’t. Doing this can help calm you down when anxiety gets to be too much.

10. Find a coping mechanism

Coping mechanisms can help with anxiety, and many mental health professionals swear by them. A coping mechanism is something that you can do when you start to feel anxious that can help you ground yourself and deal with the anxiety. “Engage in an activity that brings you joy or requires all of your attention,” says Rallie McAllister, MD, MPH.

Some coping mechanisms include writing, drawing, singing, exercise, talking to someone, cooking – anything that doesn’t include maladaptive activities is a good thing when it comes to anxiety.

Final thoughts

Anxiety is no fun, but no matter what, you will be able to find a way to calm yourself down when it starts to happen.

Learn how to recognize worry, and then replace it with thinking. Worry is when your thoughts are stuck on the problem. Thinking is when you are focused on finding a solution. Worry is useless and counterproductive—thinking is progress,” says time-management coach and author, Kimberly Medlock.

Keeping a positive outlook and learning how to deal with the physical symptoms of anxiety will lead you to be able to deal with the mental symptoms. And don’t forget, your support system is always there to help you.

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Science Explains How Licorice Root Can Heal Liver Damage

“ Licorice is said to be one of the most extensively researched medicinal plants, and it has a lengthy list of versatile uses to match, including on the liver. ” – Dr. Joseph Mercola

Licorice root is a plant that mostly grows, naturally, in Asia, Turkey, and Greece. Dr. Joseph Mercola says, “The scientific name for licorice root, Glycyrrhiza, comes from “glukos” (sweet) and “riza” (root). This “sweet root” contains glycyrrhizin, a compound that can be up to 50 times sweeter than sugar.

Licorice is a plant most often used as a dietary supplement rather than something to sweeten the taste of licorice candy. Doctors and scientists have been working on the health benefits of licorice root for a while now, and one of the most amazing things they have found is that licorice root is beneficial for your liver.

If there is any damage to someone’s liver, either from excessive drinking or other harms, licorice root may heal it. Science comes through to explain how, exactly, this miracle plant helps your liver.

Here’s How Licorice Root Can Heal Liver Damage

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1. Licorice root stops the damage

When we drink alcohol, our liver produces enzymes to help repair the damage that the alcohol does. When you drink in moderation, these enzymes do their job and repair the liver without any problem. However, people who drink in excess are often found with a lot more of these enzymes in their liver because the damage can’t be repaired.

Science has found that licorice root actually stops the damage from occurring in the first place. A group of researchers concluded in one of their studies that, “These results suggest that consumption of the proprietary glycyrrhizin study product [licorice extract] during alcohol consumption may support improved liver health compared with drinking alcohol alone.

2. Licorice root repairs and improves liver enzymes

A study that was done on mice who were fed an alcohol-diet for 4 weeks found that the hepatoprotective effect of licorice actually helped repair the damage that was already there. The scientists concluded that, “On the basis of our recent findings that licorice protects cells against inflammation and oxidative stress, we hypothesized that licorice would alleviate alcohol-induced fatty liver injury.

Also, according to the University of Michigan, “Licorice flavonoids, as well as the closely related chalcones, help heal digestive tract cells. They are also potent antioxidants and work to protect liver cells. In test tubes, the flavonoids have been shown to kill Helicobacter pylori, the bacteria that causes most ulcers and stomach inflammation.”

So, not only is licorice root capable of stopping the damage from occurring in the first place, but it can also be used to repair any damage to the liver that has already occurred.

But what else can licorice root do for you? Science has been testing out the health benefits of licorice root for a while now, and it’s good for you in more ways than one. While licorice root can help repair liver damage and keep your liver healthy, it can also help with other ailments in your body.liver

Here Are 4 More Benefits Of Licorice Root

1. Skin treatment

Science suggests that when you use licorice root in a topical extract, it can help some skin conditions. According to an article medically reviewed by Dr. Debra Rose Wilson on Health Line, “Topical gels containing licorice are recommended for treating eczema. Licorice can be a successful dermatological treatment due to its antibacterial properties. For that reason, holistic health practitioners often suggest applying licorice to tooth decay to kill bacteria.”

Therefore, topical licorice root treatment for your skin can help put that all back in order if there is any redness, itching, or rashes. While you may like smelling like licorice, it will certainly help your skin.

2. Heartburn

When used in a product mixture, licorice root has been found to help heartburn. Researchers found, in a study, that taking a combination product that included licorice root helped reduce heartburn symptoms 40% more than those who had participated in the study with only the placebo.

Dr. David Williams says, “The suggested dose of DGL (deglycyrrhizinated licorice root) is two tablets, chewed about 20 minutes before meals, three times a day, or it can be taken shortly before bedtime if you suffer mostly from nighttime acid reflux.

3. Coughing and sore throats

Lozenges containing licorice have been used for patients with tubes inserted down their throats during surgery. Researchers have quoted, “Incidence of post intubation cough and sore throat can be decreased with the preoperative use of one licorice lozenge. This low dose is an effective, cost-limited, and ready-to-use method for decreasing the distressing symptoms of POST.”

4. Hot flashes

Most menopausal women swear by licorice root to reduce the intensity and number of hot flashes they experience. Some research has suggested that licorice root does, indeed, help with hot flashes in women who have gone through menopause. However, other research has found that licorice root doesn’t reduce hot flashes. Still, some women wouldn’t go without it.

Final thoughts

Like most things, licorice root is deemed safe for oral and topical use in small amounts. Talking with your doctor before using licorice root is a good idea. That’s because your doctor will likely know what’s best for you! For the liver, licorice root has science on its side regarding its health benefits. Licorice root benefits can extend from stopping the damage to the liver, all the way to repairing it. As for the rest, research and science is still exploring all of the possible health benefits of licorice root. It’s always good to know the health benefits that the natural world around us has to offer.

References:
https://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2016/03/21/licorice-root-uses.aspx
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4722619/
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ptr.5699/abstract
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3123991/
https://www.drdavidwilliams.com/acid-reflux-natural-treatments
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3832176/
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