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20 Negative Words to Remove From Your Vocabulary

October 13, 2021 by Sarah Barkley

Words can change the course of your day and your attitude. Negative words can do damage to your self-esteem and cause you to lose hope for the future. By removing these words from your vocabulary, you’ll notice an improvement in your life and overall well-being.

The words you say can influence your thoughts and actions, contributing to your success in life. As the words affect you, they also affect your relationships, career prospects, and all other areas of your life. While you might not think the things you say matter, they’re impactful even if no one else hears you.

Negative words lead to negative energy within, attracting more negativity. If you can remove these words from your vocabulary, you can replace them with positivity. Once you find new phrases, you’ll have positive energy, attracting other positive people and things into your life.

Remove These Twenty Negative Words from Your Vocabulary

If you currently aren’t seeing the results that you want, consider the things that you say. Changing the words that you use can lead to transforming your life. By eliminating negative words from your vocabulary, you can begin attracting the results you want.

The Most Important 5 Negative Words

1. Bad

When you use the word bad, it’s an unspecific description. Most of the time, nothing is bad because that mindset is debatable. Plus, many times, when you feel like someone or something is bad, you are basing that off of resentment or other negative feelings.

If you can remove this and other negative words from your vocabulary, you’ll begin to see things as they are. You’ll find better ways to describe and deal with your feelings, opening up more opportunities and ideas. Best of all, you won’t experience the negativity that comes from using this word.

2. Problem

Describing something or someone as a problem causes feelings of stress. When there is a problem, you must find a solution, so your mind associates it with negativity. This thought process blocks your creativity and critical thinking skills.

3. Hate

This word is one of the most negative words you can use as it encourages aggression and violence. The term ‘hate’ and the negative feelings associated with it disrupt your peace and steal your joy. Using the word even one time can cause issues, and using it frequently can cause constant unhappiness.

Rather than use the word hate, try to focus on acceptance instead. Accept that you can’t change the situation, and then move on without anger or resentment.

4. Ugly

Using the word ugly, especially when describing yourself, is one of the worst things you can say. Even if you have pimples or blemishes on your face, avoid using this negative word. Saying the word ugly can prevent you from finding happiness, and it’ll ruin your self-esteem.

5. If

The word if hints at uncertainty, causing you to sabotage your self-confidence. Using the word ‘if’ implies that you won’t reach success and meet your goals. Try using the word ‘when’ in place of ‘if,’ so remind yourself that you will achieve what you set out to do.

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6. Why Me?

These words will keep you stuck in a victim mentality cycle. This cycle prevents you from resolving the situation because you’re focusing on the negative aspects. While you might not have planned for this situation, you can get yourself out of it by avoiding these words.

7. Should

Don’t tell people what they should or shouldn’t do because it implies that the other person can’t make decisions. They might feel disrespected, or they might avoid making decisions for themselves.

When you use the word ‘should’ toward yourself, it causes negativity to set it. You might experience feelings of frustration, guilt, or regret about your life. Try using the word ‘choose’ or ‘could’ instead.

8. Incompetent

The word incompetent implies you or someone else can’t do something. Eliminating this word from your vocabulary is beneficial because it helps you recognize that everyone has a different skill set. Someone might be good at one thing but not another, and the opposite can be true for someone else.

Everyone is good at different things, so the word incompetent is detrimental and inaccurate. Rather than say the word incompetent, try encouraging the person to focus on things they’re good at instead.

9. Can’t

Using the word ‘can’t’ can lead to failing at a task you could have done otherwise. When you say that you can’t do something, you won’t be able to do it. However, if you say that you can do something, you’ll get it done.

Your mind believes the words you say, so make sure you speak positively about your abilities. Saying that you can’t do something will only hold you back from reaching your dreams. It causes self-doubt and defeat.

If someone asks you to do something and you don’t want to, you should still avoid saying that you can’t do it. Instead, say that you choose not to because it reaffirms that you have control over your life.

10. Life Isn’t Fair

While these words might seem true sometimes, you should avoid saying them. When you use this phrase, you’ll focus on the negative aspects of your life. Eliminating it from your vocabulary can help you focus on positivity instead.

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11. Don’t

When you use the word ‘don’t,’ your brain misses that part of the statement. So, if you say you don’t want to do something, your mind perceives it as something you want to do. Rather than think or talk about what you don’t want to do, focus on the things you want.

12. I’ll Try

Saying that you’ll try might sound like a great phrase, but it’s not. When you say you’ll try, you’re only permitting yourself to quit at the first sign of a struggle. Saying ‘I’ll try’ will make each obstacle seem much worse than it is, and you won’t want to find a solution.

Instead, make a definite choice to do something or not to do it. If you do this, you have a better chance of accomplishing your goal and using less negative words like this.

13. Impossible

Saying impossible sets the tone that you can’t do something. Each time you say it, your mind begins to think you can’t get it done. As long as the goal is possible, avoid using ‘impossible’ to describe it.

If the word impossible comes to mind, replace it with the word difficult. Remind yourself that you can do hard things and that anything is possible if you set your mind to it.

14. Useless

Describing someone or something, especially yourself, as useless is displaying negative words directly. If you feel like you aren’t doing enough, it could simply indicate that you haven’t found your purpose yet. No matter what you’re going through, you’re valuable, and so is every other human.

If you’re calling other people useless, remember that it’s a degrading insult. It could make people not want to be around you, as it’ll cause you to radiate negativity and the negative words that go with it.

15. Just

The word ‘just’ minimizes your efforts and who you are as a person. Don’t use this negative word, especially when you’re describing yourself or your achievements.

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16. Someday

Someday isn’t a day that you can find on the calendar, so avoid using the word. The word ‘someday’ is a way to lie about your level of commitment, and it indicates a lack of belief. It also lowers your sense of worth. Avoid negative words like someday at all costs.

17. But

The word ‘but’ is a way to rationalize your excuses and procrastination. Don’t talk yourself out of anything by using this negative word. Own up to the things you didn’t get done instead so that you can adjust it and move on.

18. Boring

There are many words you can use in place of ‘boring.’ Rather than complaining by saying something is boring, use that time as a chance to relax. Complaining that you’re bored only breeds negative thoughts when you could be using that time for yourself to create less negative words.

19. I Have To

Saying “I have to” implies that you have no choice or control over your life. Negative sayings place you into the role of a victim as you give into restrictions. Instead, say “I get to” when you have something going on.

20. If Only

Using the words ‘if only’ is an excuse to not go after what you want in life. It hides your abilities and forces you to stay in your comfort zone all of the time. You have a purpose in life, so avoid using this term along with other negative words, and you’ll find that more positive things happen for you.

Final Thoughts on Negative Words to Eliminate from Your Vocabulary

Your words are more powerful than you realize. They can make all the difference in your mindset and abilities moving forward. Your words are your choice, so make sure you eliminate these negative words from your vocabulary.

Once you remove the negative words, you’ll notice that you become a more positive person. As you begin to radiate positivity, you’ll attract good things and people into your life. If you’re guilty of using any of these words, start working to make a change right away.

BMW-Powered Flying Car Completes 35-Minute Test Flight in Slovakia

October 13, 2021 by Kristen Lawrence

The flying car may make its way from science fiction to reality. In fact, a BMW-powered prototype flying car completed its first 35-minute test flight in Slovakia. According to a press release, Klein Vision’s AirCar flew between the international airports of the capital Bratislava and Nitra.

On June 28th, 2021, the test flight marked a vast development milestone for the company, with production on the horizon. The dual-mode car-aircraft vehicle completed its 142nd successful landing that day at the Bratislava airport. Professor Stefan Klein and co-founder Anton Zajac drove the car, which transformed into a sports car within three minutes upon landing. They sped off toward the city center next, cutting their travel time by 50%.

Dr. Branko Sarh, Boeing Co. Senior Technical Fellow, said Klein leads the pack in developing user-friendly flying cars. He added that the quick transition from road to air vehicle along with the deploying/retracting wings marks an ingenious feat of engineering.

EDITORIAL UPDATE: This car passed final certifications and was cleared by Slovakian authorities for takeoff in January of 2022.

Specifications of the BMW-powered flying car

A 160 horsepower BMW engine powers the flying car, and it comes equipped with a fixed propeller and ballistic parachute. With the Civil Aviation Authority supervising, the AirCar completed 40 hours of test flights. This includes sharp 45 degree turns along with stability and maneuverability testing. According to Klein Vision, the AirCar Prototype 1 reached 8200 ft and a maximum cruising speed of 190km/h (118mph).

As he stepped out of the car in Bratislava, Klein added that the 35-minute flight marks a new era of dual-mode vehicles. It opens new doors in the transportation sector and provides car owners with exciting possibilities. Anton Zajac added that AirCar isn’t just a proof of concept any longer – flying cars have now become a reality.

According to the website, “AirCar is composed of several functional units. Its aerodynamic fuselage provides enough space for the passengers and, at the same time, contributes to better lift characteristics during the flight. Among advanced technologies are the retractable wings, folding tail surfaces, parachute deployment system, etc.

“The folding tail surfaces contribute to a better longitudinal stability and take-off characteristics, just like in a conventional aircraft. However, in the car mode, retracted tail results in a more compact size.”

Klein’s vision for future flying car models

The company’s next project, AirCar Prototype 2, will include a more powerful 300HP engine and variable pitch propeller. This innovation will help reduce drag and increase glide distance in instances of engine failure. In addition, the adjustable blade angles remain efficient at various airspeeds.

The prototype will receive the EASA CS-23 aircraft certification with an M1 road permit. It’s expected to cruise at 300 kilometers per hour (186 miles per hour) and have a range of 1,000 kilometers (621 miles). In the future, Klein Vision aims to develop models of the AirCar, which can seat three or four people. They also want to create twin-engine and amphibious vehicles to expand product lines.

According to Morgan Stanley, the flying car market will be worth an estimated $1.5 trillion by 2040.

Other companies working on flying cars

It seems that the future of cars will include mostly air travel, something people have only dreamed about. Now, it’s starting to become a reality. Many other companies have begun jumping on board with the creation of flying cars.

However, safety and reliability remain a concern since the cars haven’t hit the market yet. It could take years to ensure they can operate safely among other air traffic. They also would need to undergo rigorous testing, which could take a while.

What’s next in the emerging flying car industry?

Hyundai launched a dedicated Urban Air Mobility Division in 2019, led by former NASA engineer Jaiwon Shin. The company announced that it would invest $1.5 billion in urban air taxis by 2025.

Uber and Hyundai have plans to create a flying electric-powered taxi, announcing 2020’s Consumer Electronics Show. According to Reuters, the flying taxis could become operational by 2025, three years earlier than anticipated. The air taxis would have the capacity to carry five or six people from city centers to airports.

General Motors (GM) also announced plans to enter the electric air taxi market. However, an executive said it could take until 2030 to become operational due to regulatory challenges. In the meantime, they’re working on other ideas, unveiling a Cadillac flying car concept in January 2021,

Volkswagen also said they’re exploring options in China to build their version of a flying car. In addition, Boeing and Porsche have begun collaborating to develop flying vehicles.

Japanese company Sky Drive Inc. completed a successful test flight of a flying car in August 2020. It marked the first public demonstration of a flying vehicle in Japanese history. The vehicle took off from the Toyota Test Field, one of the largest in Japan and ground zero for the company’s development. It remained airborne while circling the field for four minutes.

The car, called SD-03, is the world’s smallest electric vertical takeoff and landing (eVTOL) vehicle. It’s about the size of two parked cars, according to the company. To ensure safety should emergencies arise, it’s equipped with a whopping eight motors. The company will conduct more test flights in the future to ensure the car meets industry standards.

Final Thoughts: Flying cars may be the future of inter-city travel

Imagine hopping in your car and flying off to a distant city in a matter of hours. You wouldn’t have to wait in long lines at the airport or deal with lost baggage. People have been dreaming of a future with flying cars for years, and it looks like the world is getting closer every day. Many companies have begun working on flying car prototypes, including Klein Vision.

His AirCar Prototype 1, however, marks the first flying car to successfully travel between cities for 35 minutes. It’s exciting to think about how flying cars will progress and shape our world in the future.

New Iceland Facility Will Capture Carbon and Store It Safely

October 12, 2021 by Kristen Lawrence

Iceland-based company Carbfix recently built the world’s largest facility to capture carbon and store it safely in rocks underground. The process provides a natural, permanent solution for storing excess carbon. When it becomes scalable, this form of carbon capture could potentially help mitigate the climate crisis.

The company says the direct air capture technology can turn carbon dioxide back into rocks in less than two years. Currently, the process can pull 4,000 metric tons of CO2 from the atmosphere each year. While it only equates to taking 870 cars off the road, it’s still a step in the right direction.

Built-in the Geothermal Park in Hellisheidi, Iceland, Carbfix named this latest carbon capture project “Orca.” It’s the culmination of four years of collaboration between Carbfix and Climeworks, a Swiss company specializing in direct air capture (DAC) technology. The geothermal power plant provides the DAC units with renewable energy, while Carbfix offers a permanent solution for the captured carbon.

It works by removing CO2 from the air, separating carbon from oxygen, and collecting it in eight elongated boxes. Then, the trapped CO2 gets released from these rectangular collector boxes into a nearby processing facility. There, it’s diverted into a deep underground well, where it will remain eternally.

The collection tanks resemble the size of tractor-trailers and have large intake fans mounted to the sides. These fans help draw the air inside the collection tanks, where it’s combined with a chemical agent called a sorbent. Once the tanks get filled, a blast of heat from nearby hydrothermal vents helps release the CO2 into the processing facility.

Why basalt rocks?

As it moves underground, the carbon dioxide reacts with basalt rocks and minerals, which takes a few years. Once it’s underground, it can never become a heat-trapping atmospheric gas again. This process reverses the burning of fossil fuels, effectively capturing them and bringing them back to their source.

According to Carbfix’s website:

“Basaltic rocks are highly reactive and contain the metals needed for permanently immobilizing CO2 through the formation of carbonate minerals. They are often fractured and porous, providing storage space for the mineralized CO2. However, other reactive rocks such as andesites, peridotites, breccias and sedimentary formations containing calcium, magnesium and iron rich silicate minerals could also be feasible to do the job.”

Technology to capture carbon continues to advance but needs scaling

The fact that it takes less than two years to transform CO2 back into carbonate materials goes against prior theories. Scientists once believed it could take several hundred or thousands of years to complete this process. Hydrogen sulfides, another byproduct of burning fossil fuels, mineralizes in an even shorter timeframe – about four months.

Carbfix says that by scaling the ability to capture carbon, Europe could store about 4,000 billion tons of CO2 in rocks. The US could hold at least 7,500 billion tons. While carbon capture offers great promise to the world, it faces significant obstacles, such as high costs.

The Orca project cost about $10-15 million, a high price for removing carbon equivalent to less than 1,000 cars. However, the company says it represents an 80-fold improvement in carbon removal over the past four years. Climeworks added that companies could quickly scale and replicate the green technology as long as they have access to renewable energy and storage.

Other companies have already jumped on board to capture carbon on a large scale. Carbon Engineering, a company based in Canada, already received government funding of $25 million. They’re building a carbon capture technology to suck up carbon from the air and store it as compressed gas. Located in the American southwest, it will remove over 1 million tons of carbon dioxide from the atmosphere annually. This equates to the carbon removal of 40 million mature trees.

The company builds two types of plants: direct air capture and “air to fuels” plants. The first one keeps the carbon dioxide in the ground, while the second plant creates near-carbon-neutral fuel. It’s ideal for removing all carbon from the atmosphere, but the environment still benefits from efforts to lower emissions.

The future of carbon capture

Trees and vegetation also sequester carbon, but direct air capture facilities can accomplish this much faster. For example, it takes a newly planted tree about 50 years to offset and sequester carbon emissions. The tree could’ve died in a forest fire or other means by that time, making an effort useless. As climate change continues to spark massive wildfires, green technology used to capture carbon seems like the superior option.

While it’s still in its infancy, carbon capture technology continues to advance each year. If companies can lower costs to around $100 per ton, it could become economically feasible to scale up. It might take decades to offset expenses, but as more companies commit to eco-friendly policies, the vision may soon become a reality.

However, it will take monumental efforts from governments and industries worldwide to achieve a carbon-neutral future. Zeke Hausfather, a climate scientist, involved in charting emissions scenarios for IPCC, paints a sobering picture. He says to limit temperature rises to 1.5 degrees C by 2100. We’d have to remove about 17 gigatons of CO2 from the atmosphere. This goal represents the most optimistic scenario by the IPCC; the more likely scenario of 2 degrees C warming requires bringing emissions to near-zero by mid-century.

As it stands, the future of carbon capture remains uncertain. However, if it becomes scaleable, it presents a viable, effective strategy for combating the worst effects of climate change.

Final Thoughts on a new Iceland facility that captures carbon and stores it underground

Carbon capture technology continues to make advancements in size and scale. Recently, a Carbfix project called “Orca” went online in Iceland, marking the world’s first largest carbon capture facility. The company says it can remove around 4,000 metric tons of CO2 per year from the atmosphere. Other companies have begun investing in carbon capture technologies, providing hope for a cleaner, healthier planet.

5 Overlooked Habits That Can Often Destroy Relationships

October 12, 2021 by Lakeisha Ethans

Do you ever feel like you stop working on specific issues once you get settled with someone? Are there certain habits that seem innocent but have damaged even the strongest of connections? Do you ever feel like you overlook specific issues until one day they blow up? These things can build up–and over time can destroy relationships

Many people harness bad habits because they don’t seem like they would be an issue. This little thing ends up growing like a tumor until it takes over your happiness. But how do people end up in these situations? Why do you overlook very harmful habits, and what can you do to stop that?

5 Overlooked Habits That Can Often Destroy Relationships

Avoid these behaviors to increase satisfaction in your connections.

1. Being Passive-Aggressive Can Destroy Relationships

When you’re in a relationship, you tend to get tired of fights after a while. After a long day at work, the last thing you want is to argue. Especially not with your significant other.

Usually, people try to ignore certain things for the sake of not fighting. But this strategy is a double-edged sword. Whenever you bottle up feelings, you are bound to start being passive-aggressive.

Being passive-aggressive sounds like such a minor issue. How could that ever ruin a whole relationship? It’s just a phase, and after an hour or so, you will be calm again. Right?

Well, that’s not the case. Being passive-aggressive makes you sulk, be harsh and give backhanded compliments, procrastinate and refuse to communicate. Denying your anger can make you frustrated and stressed.

This habit of denying anger and avoiding having to deal with issues will very rapidly crack a connection. The more you bottle up your feelings, the more likely they will annoy you with minor things. If your partner tends to be a bit messy, try to be open instead of being passive-aggressive with them. There’s no reason to be harsh with them and create even more issues when you can tell them up-front what’s bothering you. Staying mad about minor things only makes you a nightmare to be around.

Passive-aggressive people also forget to forgive. Whenever something happens, even if the spouse accepts their harshness and apologizes, they don’t forgive them. They will hold that mistake over their partner’s head for a long time. Even worse, they might even refuse to apologize when they did something wrong. They will use deception and duplicity to make themselves look like an angel and paint their partner in a bad light.

This power dynamic will get too much to handle, and it will eventually create cracks in your relationship. The way to avoid this is to be honest, and open with your partner. Let go of your ego, and don’t keep your anger masked. Snappy comments and a lack of communication will only hurt you and your relationship.

2. Getting Too Comfortable Can Destroy Relationships

After a while in a relationship, people will get lazy. They will stop being as attentive as they once were. Mainly, people will stop learning new things about their partners.

Assuming you know your partner can become an issue. You might do things you thought they were ok with, but you haven’t double-checked. Or they might act in ways you never knew he was capable of. Maybe he has life principles that are antithetical to yours. Not knowing everything there is to know about your partner can create significant and unexpected disagreements.

Another issue with getting too comfortable is that you might start taking them for granted. You might expect them to be there for you without you reciprocating. Expecting someone to dedicate their life to you unconditionally is toxic and unreasonable. Reaching that spot where you aren’t nice to your partner is the first sign that the relationship will fall.

Taking people for granted can manifest in a lack of affection and basic respect. It might reach a point where you don’t even get a thank you for cooking them a meal. These people might stop involving you in their life. Yes, you are their partner, but don’t be surprised if they avoid asking you to be their plus one for social events.

Be careful not to forget to put in the work. Split responsibilities evenly and try to be as mindful of your partner’s needs as possible. It is also important to remember the little things. Remember their favorite scent or color. Or what they were wearing on your first date. This will show them you care.

Avoid getting too comfortable and take care of your partner’s needs. Otherwise, your relationship will not stand the test of time.

3. Being Overly Critical Can Destroy Relationships

We should always welcome constructive criticism. In any kind of relationship, romantic, platonic, professional, whatever it might be, it is even needed at times. But sometimes, people who are romantically involved go way too far with criticism.

After being with someone for a while, you might fall into the trap of only seeing the bad things in someone. That happens because the good parts start to seem normal. The good parts don’t feel special anymore. Instead of being happy that your partner makes coffee every morning, you begin to expect it. So, you start to focus on the annoying parts. Are they messy? Do they snore? Are they a bit lazy?

The most hurtful way in which you can be critical is by criticizing your family. Their family is probably one of the essential parts of their life. Family might even be their emotional and moral support. Being critical of one’s family is a big no-no because there’s nothing someone can do to change their family. It would be best if you were accepting of them instead of tearing them apart.

You might begin constantly comparing them with yourself or others. If you are tidy, why can’t they be like that? If their peers are ambitious, why can’t your partner be the same? Alternatively, you might fall into the trap of being too critical of yourself. Why can’t you be as good as your partner? Why aren’t you as successful? In that case, jealousy might take over and create a crack in your relationship. A relationship is built on trust and mutual respect. If you become jealous of your partner’s achievements instead of supporting them, that may indicate you don’t love them. Or maybe you do, but you don’t know how to be a good partner.

Another effect of being overly critical is feeling the need always to be correct. Many people don’t understand that relationships are partnerships. If fights occur, your partner is not your enemy. They are your ally in all this. But the need to always be right is not only childish but also harmful. You might win the argument for the time being, but you won’t solve problems. You will also create more tension between you and your partner. This can create unsolvable issues.

4. Overstepping Boundaries

Just because they are your partner doesn’t mean you own them or have the right to do whatever. Respect is still the cornerstone of every relationship, no matter its nature. And if respect is ever lost, the relationship will crumble.

Boundaries are designed to protect people’s needs and limits. They are the most essential show of respect. But in relationships, people sometimes overstep them because they feel entitled to whatever they want. They’re your partner. Why couldn’t you do whatever? Right? Well, actually, no. Because your relationship is romantic, respect and trust should be at higher levels than in other relationships. If you don’t give your partner the space they need, they will feel disrespected. Because of that, they will be colder with you. They will try to distance themselves from you in the hope of not getting hurt anymore.

Probably the most blatant form of overstepping boundaries is snooping and spying on your partner. Being suspicious and scared you might be deceived is legitimate. But that doesn’t grant you the right to snoop around in your partner’s things or follow them around. Not giving them the benefit of the doubt is the worst way in which you can break someone’s trust in you. And, once someone breaks the trust, your relationship will never recover.

Avoid overstepping boundaries at all costs and base your relationship on trust and respect.

5. Avoiding Disagreements

This might seem like a good thing—no disagreements, no fights, what’s not to like. But people will always have some issues that need solving, no matter how great they get along. You might be annoyed by your partner’s habit of never washing the dishes. Instead of sucking it up, you might be better off communicating openly.

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. By communicating, you make sure there are no misunderstandings taking place. Misunderstandings should be avoided at all costs because they lead to a lack of coordination. If someone is busy all day, and the other person doesn’t know they should go grocery shopping because they have time, conflicts may arise. You might end up tired after a day at work, with no food in the house and a flustered partner. All this was because you were not communicating, which led to a misunderstanding. Instead, focus on making sure you are coordinated, and communication is open at all times. Always plan. Ask your partner for things instead of passively waiting for them to figure out what you want.

Never allow emotions to go unchecked. If you’re annoyed, tell your partner why you feel that way and talk it out. If you’re sad, angry, tired, whatever it might be, don’t bottle feelings up. You’ll end up exploding at some point, which can destroy relationships. Instead, let your partner know what you feel. They might be able to help you out.

Final Thoughts On Overlooked Habits That Can Often Destroy Relationships

In relationships, people tend to be less careful about certain harmful habits they might have. They get comfortable. They think that just because it was good at some point, the relationship will stay the same forever. Before they know it, there are cracks so deep in their relationship. They will never be able to patch it up.

So don’t destroy your relationship! If you want to make sure you don’t develop harmful habits, try keeping your emotions in check and communication open. Don’t be passive-aggressive and talk all your issues out. Make sure your criticisms are constructive. Respect your partner’s needs and boundaries and, most importantly, never take them for granted. Avoid these harmful habits, and you’ll keep a strong relationship!

10 Signs Someone Is Deflecting Feelings Instead of Dealing With Them

October 12, 2021 by Chris Butler

Your emotions are part of the intricate threads that connect your body, mind, and spirit. Expressing your feeling, but what if heightened sensitivity causes you a pro at deflecting feelings?

Human emotions have been a source of curiosity for thousands of years. Although the psychology of emotions has come a long way, experts still don’t fully understand them. While your feelings result from positive or negative stimuli, your emotional attitude can also affect your surroundings.

According to a study published in the National Academy of Sciences by Cowen and Keltner, humans have up to 27 emotions. Many of them overlap and have definite physical and mental effects. Your feelings also vary in intensity, says the study.

Many of your emotions stem from pleasant experiences, and expressing them only heightens your pleasure. Consider feelings like happiness, joy, surprise, and humor. Even if you are good at deflecting feelings, these emotions come naturally to you.

However, the human experience isn’t always a joyride in the clouds. Loss, frustration, and adverse life events are inevitable. The weave and weft of these feelings help create the tapestry of your temperament and personality. As the book of Ecclesiastes shares, there is a time for everything under the sun.

Ten Signs of Someone Deflecting Their Feelings

Are you one of the countless people who are good at deflecting feelings? If your heightened sensitivity makes showing your emotions uncomfortable, you may often hide your genuine emotions and thoughts.

The poet Paul Laurence Dunbar compared this common ploy to wearing a mask. All your family and friends see is the smiling mask you may wear to camouflage your pain or fury. While deflecting feelings is sometimes expected, heightened sensitivity may cause it to be a habit.

It may be an emotional disconnect if this sounds like you or someone in your life. It’s like children who cover their heads with blankets to make the monster under the bed disappear. Here are ten signs that someone may be ignoring and deflecting feelings.

1. They Feel Uncomfortable With Signs of Emotions When Deflecting Feelings

If a person has heightened sensitivity, they may be a pro at deflecting feelings. Maybe their family and friends have remarked that they are too severe or stoic. Although they may appear cold and callous, they aren’t true to themselves.

They may be repressed that they view other people’s show of emotions as a weakness. It’s common for this personality type to disregard others’ feelings and tell them to “suck it up.” They often use cold anger to redirect their real feelings and use it against those in their circle.

2. They Rarely Cry or Show Their Temper

Everyone grieves differently, and many people don’t mourn publicly. However, those whose senses are heightened are their rarest criers. Even when they are alone or with trusted family or friends, they’ve learned to hold back the tears.

The same goes for displaying their anger. These are the type of people who can smile and nod while inwardly seething with rage. To deflect their pain or irritation, they may often use humor.

3. They Have a Fear of Intimacy

If you’ve ever had a relationship with an emotionally hampered person, you know how difficult it can be. Couples in healthy and lasting relationships share everything, including their feelings. They aren’t afraid to be vulnerable or express their deepest thoughts, dreams, and fears with their mate.

Those who love deflecting feelings can’t fully express their thoughts and needs in a relationship. When conflicts arise, they often refuse to take responsibility and shift the blame to their mate. Since intimacy is the ultimate expression of love and emotion, their romantic relationships tend to be short-lived.

4. They Often Struggle with Addictions

Emotions were never meant to be bottled up in your heart. At some point, they must have an outlet. When people with heightened sensitivity refuse to deal with their emotions, it often morphs into addictions. Whether the addiction is to alcohol, drugs, food, or even the Internet, it can be a tool for emotional suppression. Addicts long for that high that temporarily numbs their feelings.

Unfortunately, the highs don’t last, and the problems and related emotions return with a vengeance. Plus, addiction wreaks physical and emotional health havoc and can destroy loving relationships. These devastating consequences cause more emotional turmoil and keep the person looking for relief.

5. They Usually Have Elevated Stress Levels

Life without some stress isn’t possible. Survival depends on your innate stress reaction. You also use pressure to enhance problem-solving skills and to learn and grow throughout your life. Some stressful situations are beneficial.

However, constant high-stress levels are detrimental to your health. People use emotions to communicate and cope with stress. Those who suppress or deflect their feelings are compounding their problems.

In addition to affecting physical health, undue stress can also create anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions. The more anxious some people get, the more they may try to hide their emotions, increasing their tension. It’s a vicious cycle that robs people of their well-being.

6. Their Sleep Cycle May be Unbalanced

Do you know how you feel when you awaken after a lousy night’s rest? You may be enshrouded in brain fog for the entire day and feel exhausted and irritable. But you are probably on your game when you’ve got enough sleep.

Part of the stress of deflecting emotions is poor sleeping patterns. The person may be plagued with insomnia or might sleep too much. As a result, this debilitating brain fog often becomes their new normal.

Since their moods are off-balance due to a lack of sleep, they may experience heightened sensitivity. They deplete what little energy they have trying to squash their feelings or deflect them onto others. All the penned-up emotions and exhaustion often manifest as weird dreams or nightmares that further hinder their sleep.

7. They May Resort to Gaslighting if Deflecting Feelings

Those who bury their emotions usually aren’t comfortable around people who don’t. Consequently, they expect their mate and others in their circle to conform to their emotionless state. If not, they may use gaslighting to deflect their true feelings.

You recognize this subtle psychological abuse if this sounds like your current or past partner. They hide their emotions by downplaying yours and implying that you’re petty and unreasonable. You may hear snide remarks like, “it’s all in your head,” or “you wear your feelings on your sleeve.”

Gaslighting is just one ploy emotionally suppressed people may use to deflect their feelings. They bring their partner, family, and friends into a vortex of pain and abuse. Deflecting feelings hurts all who are involved.

8. They Tend to Be Introverts

Not all introverts suppress or deflect their emotions. Many introverted people use their heightened sensitivity to be more in tune with their feelings. While they may freely express their feelings in solitude, many aren’t above sharing with close family and friends.

However, people who suppress their feelings often prefer solitude. Even alone, they often refuse to address their emotional issues. They retract into the swirling shadows of past regrets and unspoken feelings.

If you know someone with these tendencies, you’ve probably noticed that they can be reluctant extroverts. They might even be the life of the party and the first ones to crack a joke. Although, it’s often a well-rehearsed ruse to cover their pain or secretly blame others for it.

9. They Are Often in Complete Denial

One of the many frustrating issues involved with those who suppress or deflect emotions is denial. Since they don’t want to feel guilty or less than perfect, confronting the problem can be difficult. They will usually categorically deny that they have any emotional issues and will shift the blame to you.

Their heightened sensitivity closes their ears and their minds. Change is a lot of work and can be painful. So, instead of being receptive and open to help, they slam their heart’s doors.

10. They Aren’t Always Empathetic

Just because a person is emotionally closed doesn’t mean they are cruel and enjoy seeing others hurt. Many have just programmed themselves early on not to get emotionally involved. To observers, they may seem icy and distant.

Some people who suppress or deflect their feelings do have problems with empathy. Since being empathetic involves linking your emotions to hurting people, they may turn the other way. They can’t deal with their feelings and don’t want to deal with other people’s pain.

Final Thoughts on Being Able to Identify When Someone Is Deflecting Feelings

Situations and your environment often solicit emotions that make you uncomfortable. However, deflecting feelings only makes the problems worse. When you’re honest and allow yourself to feel each emotional nuance, it’s a step toward finding solutions and improving your relationships.

20 Reasons Why Nobody Should Feel Embarrassed About Their Body

October 12, 2021 by Sarah Barkley

Everyone experiences embarrassment sometimes, especially about their body. With so many products on the market targeted at changing your body, it’s easy to see why people think they need to change. There are many reasons why you shouldn’t feel embarrassed about the way you look, though.

Feeling embarrassed about your body comes with lots of ramifications on your life. It can create unhealthy relationships, interfere with your well-being, and hold you back in all areas. When you think you must look a certain way, you compare yourself to impossible standards.

All body types are different, so we will all look differently. Comparing yourself to others and feeling embarrassed isn’t good for you. Embracing your body and loving yourself just as you are is good for you, though.

Why Nobody Should Feel Embarrassed About Their Body

As you learn why you shouldn’t feel embarrassed about your body, you’ll quickly learn to love the way you look. You will likely still struggle occasionally, but it’ll get easier to embrace your unique qualities. Remember the reasons on this list so that you can reference them whenever you need a reminder.

1. Embracing Your Body Attracts Positivity

When you embrace your body, you attract positive people and situations into your life. The energy flow around you will change, and you’ll accept and love yourself as you are right now.

This energy flow will make other positive people attracted to you, as well. By not being embarrassed about your body, you’ll quickly experience an abundance in your life.

2. Constantly Feeling Embarrassed Leads to Depression

When you’re constantly feeling bad about your body, you’re more likely to become depressed. Thinking badly about yourself takes its toll on your mind and body. When you learn to let go of embarrassment and embrace your body, instead, you’ll feel better overall.

3. You Free Yourself of Negative Thinking Patterns

When you aren’t happy with your body, you’ll experience more negative thinking patterns. If you aren’t embarrassed by the way you look, though, you’ll free yourself of that thought process. Don’t drain all of your energy and ruin your mindset when you are perfect just the way you are.

4. Loving Your Body Prevents Perfectionist Thinking Patterns

Perfectionist thinking patterns tend to be self-critical thoughts that imply you must change. You’ll never feel like you’re good enough. If you can love yourself, you prevent perfectionist thinking patterns, making your life easier.

You don’t have to be a certain size or weight to be happy in your body. Let go of these impossible standards and embrace your body as it is right now.

5. Being Embarrassed Hinders Your Creativity

People that are embarrassed by their bodies don’t tend to experiment creatively. They might be afraid to put themselves out there because they assume others have the same negative thoughts about their body. By letting go of the embarrassment, you allow your creativity to flow freely.

6. You Will Feel Empowered

When you embrace your body, you become empowered by a mind-body connection. Accepting your body provides a connection between your physical and emotional self. Then, you can better control your emotions and ability to focus.

Plus, when you love your body, you let everyone know that you are worthy of respect. You make it clear that your size or shape does not determine your value.

7. You’ll Have More Energy

When you feel good about yourself, you’ll have more energy. Your confidence will improve your posture, resulting in improved blood circulation. When this happens, you will feel more energetic throughout the day.

8. You’ll Have More Fun

When you aren’t wasting time and energy on being embarrassed, you’ll have a lot more fun. Your body image won’t stand in the way of your participation in activities. When you don’t avoid things because you are embarrassed, life becomes much more joyful.

If you go shopping, you’ll feel comfortable enough to enjoy trying things on. Plus, you’ll be more likely to wear bright colors or try new patterns. When you aren’t afraid to stand out and be noticed, you’ll enjoy shopping a little more.

9. You’ll Take Action and Work Toward Your Goals

When you aren’t embarrassed, you’ll keep taking action and moving forward in life. On the other hand, if you are ashamed of your body, you’ll feel overwhelmed and insecure, causing you to stay complacent. If you can embrace your body, you’ll be more likely to work toward your goals.

10. Every Body is Unique and Special

Every human body is different, and they are all special. While you might wish for a model-thin body or perfect legs, your body is perfect the way that it is. Recognize that your unique qualities are what make you special and beautiful.

If everyone looked the same, the world would be a pretty boring place. Embrace what makes you different, and learn to love the things that make you who you are.

11. You’ll Be More Confident

If you aren’t embarrassed about your body, you’ll be more comfortable with who you are and how you look. With confidence, you’ll portray positivity and a healthy body image. You will also be more relaxed and comfortable in the presence of others.

One way to boost your confidence and stop being embarrassed is to compliment yourself every day. Say nice things to yourself, and make sure your thoughts about your body are positive.

12. You’ll Have Deeper Connections with Others

When you’re embarrassed about your body, it makes you want to isolate yourself. You might feel like you shouldn’t be at events or spending time with someone because of how you look. If you release embarrassment and learn to love your body, you’ll feel more comfortable connecting with others.

Additionally, by loving yourself, you make it clear that you expect respect from those around you. You won’t be as likely to put up with unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships, leaving room for healthy connections.

13. Your Inner Strength and Beauty Matter More

No matter what your physical body looks like, your inner strength and beauty matter more. When you learn to embrace and love your body, your inner beauty will shine through. Plus, accepting your unique qualities will improve your inner strength.

14. You Will Respect Yourself More

When you aren’t embarrassed, you’ll have more self-respect. You will take better care of yourself and be more likely to prioritize self-care. As you learn to love your body, you’ll treat yourself better and kindlier.

Plus, with more self-respect, you’ll surround yourself with other people that respect you, too. The people that matter will accept you and love you just the way that you are.

15. Embracing Your Body Creates Positive Energy

If you are embarrassed about your body, it’ll create negative energy all around and within you. On the other hand, if you let go of the embarrassment, you’ll notice positivity taking over. Your mind and body will benefit, and it’ll draw other positive people to you.

16. You Can Focus on Other Things and Spend Your Time Wisely

You shouldn’t feel embarrassed about your body because it takes your focus away from the things that matter most. When you focus on your flaws, the embarrassment becomes more intense and takes even more time and energy. If you can embrace your body, you’ll be free to focus on other things instead.

When you can focus on spending your time productively, you’ll experience more life satisfaction. You’ll be happier and feel more fulfilled each day. Plus, you’ll have so much more time and energy to chase your goals.

17. You Can Be Yourself

You are unique, just like every other human on the planet. Your body doesn’t have to be perfect, as long as you stay true to yourself and embrace who you are. When you aren’t embarrassed, you can be yourself without holding back.

Remember that you don’t need to be like everyone else. Everyone is different, so be yourself and let those around you love you for who you are.

18. Your Body Is Perfect the Way It Is

Every human body is different, and they’re all perfect. Body diversity is beautiful, and you should emphasize your unique qualities. You don’t have to change who you are or hide your body to feel perfect and beautiful.

19. Everyone Has Imperfections

There is no reason to be embarrassed about your imperfections when everyone has them. Their imperfections might be different than yours, but they still have some. Accept your flaws and remember that no one is perfect, so there is no reason to be embarrassed.

20. Being Embarrassed Causes You to Live in Fear

When you aren’t confident in your body, it causes fear that holds you back. You will make choices based on your level of comfort, missing out on things that might make you feel judged. By letting go of embarrassment, you can stop living in fear and start doing things that make you happy.

Final Thoughts on Reasons Why Nobody Should Feel Embarrassed About Their Body

No one should feel embarrassed about their body because everyone is different. Everyone has imperfections, and your unique qualities are what make you special.

Learn to embrace your body so that you can live a meaningful and fulfilled life. Remember these reasons why shouldn’t feel embarrassed the next time you begin to have negative thoughts about your body.

15 Signs You Are People Pleasing (And Ignoring Your Own Needs)

October 12, 2021 by Sarah Barkley

People-pleasers spend their time trying to make others happy while neglecting personal needs. They do this because they want people to like or approve of what they’re doing or saying. If you think you might be people pleasing and ignoring your own needs, identifying the signs can help.

By spending your time pleasing others, you will find yourself feeling exhausted and overcommitted. It leads to you ignoring your own needs because you feel like you don’t have the time. You can’t become your best self or the person you want to be.

Being a people pleaser also leaves you feeling like you’re living your life for someone else. Embrace the things you want or need before worrying about anyone else. When you put yourself first, you’ll be happier, fulfilled, and more meaningful.

“You always have to remember to take care of you first and foremost, because when you stop taking care of yourself, you get out of balance and you really forget how to take care of others.” – Jada Pinkett Smith

Fifteen Signs You Are People Pleasing but Ignoring Your Own Needs

You might notice that you can’t say no or avoid conflict at all costs. These are both signs of people pleasing that shouldn’t be ignored as they interfere with your well-being. Many other signs indicate your people pleasing patterns, too, so learn what to look for.

1. You Can’t Say No to Others

It’s a sign of people pleasing if you struggle with saying no, even when you already have too much to do. Part of your inability to say no stems from wanting to be helpful but also from wanting to be accepted. You might feel like saying no will make people dislike you, so saying yes is a safer option.

If you don’t want to do something or don’t have the time, you’re ignoring your own needs by saying yes. When you do this regularly, it’s a sign that you have a problem. Work to overcome this by forcing yourself to say no in some situations.

2. You Don’t Have Time for a Hobby

Reflect on the way that you spend your free time. You’re likely neglecting yourself if you spend it doing things for others. After spending time on responsibilities at work and home, you need time for hobbies that make you happy.

If you don’t have time for hobbies, it’s a sure sign you’re a people pleaser. Pinpoint the last time you worked on a hobby and use that to reference how you’re spending your free time.

3. You Feel Like You’ve Lost Your Identity

When you’re always trying to please other people, you might feel like you don’t know yourself anymore. Your goals and dreams might be forgotten or continually pushed back. If you notice that you don’t feel like yourself anymore and let your goals slip away, it could be a sign.

4. You Think Your Worth Correlates to What You Do for Others

People pleasers get some of their identity and sense of worth from what they do for others. If you do this, it’s a sign that you’re people pleasing and ignoring your own needs. Your worth doesn’t come from what you do for others but from how you live your life for yourself.

5. You Feel Guilty for Setting or Enforcing Boundaries

Setting boundaries is beneficial for your well-being, and there is nothing wrong with doing it. If you ever feel guilty for setting or enforcing limits, it could be that you’re a people pleaser.

Sometimes the guilt happens because you’ve felt shamed for setting boundaries in the past. Other times it happens because you’re not comfortable speaking up for yourself. Whatever the reason, you should work to get past the guilt you associate with setting boundaries.

6. You Apologize When It Isn’t Necessary

Apologizing when it isn’t necessary is a common sign of people pleasing. You might apologize for other people’s feelings and reactions, implying it’s your fault or your issue even when it isn’t.

7. You Avoid Conflict by Trying to Prevent Other People’s Anger

People pleasers don’t like anger or conflict and do whatever possible to avoid being in the middle of it. If you have this issue, you might do whatever you can to keep people happy and prevent them from becoming angry. Plus, if someone does get angry, you might feel like you failed at pleasing them.

Remember that you are not responsible for how other people feel. Their feelings are their choice, and you can’t always keep everyone around you happy. Focus on your happiness and positivity, and let other people care for themselves.

8. You Agree to Things You Don’t Want to Do

If you often find yourself doing things you don’t want to do, consider why you’re doing it. People pleasers do something they don’t want to do to make others happy or to fulfill expectations.

If you’re unhappy with what you’re doing, ask yourself if you could stop. You might not have to do it all, or you could simplify the process to make things easier on yourself. Also, stop agreeing to do something you don’t want.

9. You Don’t Take Any Time for Yourself

People who don’t take time for themselves tend to dedicate all their time to others. Self-care and alone time are essential to your overall well-being. By neglecting yourself and not taking that time, you put other people’s desires before your needs.

Another sign of being a people pleaser is canceling your alone time to make someone else happy. You deserve and need time to yourself, so interrupting it for others isn’t beneficial.

10. You Miss Out on Things to Please Others

If you miss out on opportunities or events to do things for or with other people, it’s a sign of people pleasing. When you have plans in mind, even if it’s sitting at home alone, keep your plans even if someone calls.

You don’t have to agree to go out with friends every night or have lunch with a family member every other day. Do the things you had in mind already, unless you genuinely want to change your plans. If opportunities ever appear, go after them despite what anyone else wants or needs.

11. You Worry What Other People Think of You

Feeling anxious about other people’s opinions of you is a sign of being a people pleaser. You might try to conform because you feel insecure or afraid of how others will perceive you. Doing this causes you to lose your true self while pleasing others.

You might also feel the need to get approval from everyone around you. When this is the case, you will also worry about rejection, so you agree to do anything that will make you needed.

12. You Don’t Like to Share Your Feelings

Being reluctant to share your feelings signifies people pleasing and ignoring your needs. You might feel like your feelings don’t matter or that other people’s problems are more critical.

Additionally, you might find that you always agree with the way other people feel so that you are accepted. You might ignore your feelings so that people will like you better, even if you secretly disagree with them entirely.

13. You Suffer from Low Self-Esteem

People with low self-esteem tend to be people pleasers because it helps them feel worthy. They look for validation from others to fill in what’s missing within. If you have low self-esteem, it could be a sign that you’re a people pleaser.

When you feel that people only care about you when you’re helpful, your low self-esteem brings you down. That thought doesn’t stop you, though, as you keep working to earn praise and appreciation from others.

14. You Feel Overwhelmed and Exhausted Because You Overcommitted

Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted are sure signs that you’ve overcommitted yourself. People pleasers often take on more than they can comfortably handle because they don’t want to disappoint. Before you take on more tasks or activities, consider what you already have to deal with.

Along with your job and family life, you also must take care of your physical and mental health. Don’t overcommit to things because you’re afraid to let people down. Put yourself first so that you don’t become burnt out.

15. You Worry People Will Think You Are Selfish

If you ever worry that people will think you are selfish for saying no or putting yourself first, you are likely a people pleaser. You deserve to put yourself first and don’t have to agree to anything. The people in your life who matter won’t make you feel bad, either.

Final Thoughts on Signs You Are People Pleasing but Ignoring Your Own Needs

If you’re people please but ignoring your needs, it’s time to stop that pattern. Recognize the signs so that you can consciously correct them. It won’t be an easy change at first, but the more often you put yourself first, the easier it becomes.

Acknowledge your habits and find ways to overcome the people-pleasing ones. Being a people pleaser might sound nice, but it hinders your growth and holds you back from your goals. Take care of yourself first so you can handle the things that truly matter.

100 Year Old Grandmother Proves That Age Is Just a Number

October 12, 2021 by Kristen Lawrence

Edith Murway-Traina, a centenarian and powerlifter from the Bronx, proves age is just a number (and makes us feel pretty lazy)! Many people can’t remember the last time they stepped foot in a gym. Meanwhile, this 100-year-old grandma lifts weights heavier than small children. Talk about setting the bar!

Edith celebrated her 100th birthday in August, but she’s still young at heart. Not one to be told “no,” she decided to test her limits and get into weightlifting. One day, her friend Carmen invited her to the gym to attempt some new exercises. The rest is history.

“She didn’t want to go by herself,” Murway-Traina told the New York Post. “She dragged me kicking and screaming all the way, so that’s more or less how I got there.

“I saw all these other ladies lifting weights, and it looked interesting. I picked up a couple of weights and had to prove to myself that I could accomplish this.”

Today, Edith is recognized by the Guinness World Records as the oldest competitive female powerlifter. In September 2019, she broke a world record by deadlifting 150 pounds at age 98. This impressive feat made it into the 2022 edition of the “Guinness World Records” book, which came out last month. The spunky centenarian continues to show the world that age is just a number.

Her friend Carmen told Guinness World Records: “Edith kept going because she always keeps going. She will not quit, and anything hard makes her more determined. If it’s easy, she might get bored, but if it’s hard, she’s going to do it. Nobody’s going to tell her, ‘Oh, that’s too hard for me.’”

The weightlifting grandma who proves age is just a number

At first, she lifted smaller weights, then quickly moved on to the heavier duty ones. It seemed she had a knack for weightlifting and soon began competing in senior events. She won many medals and enjoyed the enthralled crowd’s applause. After all, it’s not every day you see a 100-year-old lift nearly 200 pounds!

“When you pull a bar up, and you lift it, there’s a certain power that you experience that is only yours. It belongs to you,” she told the Post.

Her love of physical fitness goes back to her days as a dance instructor and performer in the Bronx. She and her friends idolized Fred Astaire and often held line dancing shows together. Nine years later, Edith found her new passion in life: powerlifting. Not many people get into that sport at 91, but age is just a number once again!

Looking back on the good ol’ days, it’s easy to see why Edith loves weightlifting competitions so much. Accustomed to being in the spotlight and hearing rounds of applause after an outstanding performance, Edith wanted to relive those memories. This time around, she replaced the dance shoes with tennis shoes but felt just as happy in front of a crowd.

“I love to hear the applause,” she said. “What better [thing] is there than feeling like you accomplished something and to hear everyone applaud and make you feel like you’ve done something powerful and important?”

While the pandemic put a hold on her weightlifting competitions and gym time, she’s since returned with a vengeance. She’s back at it three times a week with a trainer, getting ready for a competition in November. Now, she’s setting the bar even higher to see what she can accomplish. She’s got her sights set on another trophy at the competition, and we have no doubt she’ll win it!

Life is a gift to be embraced each day.

Traina loves embodying the idea that age is just a number. However, she hopes people will look beyond her age and also feel inspired to follow their passions.

“I think in my nineties, I became more aware of the need for people to be recognized for who they are, or what they are, or how they are, and it’s the most beautiful thing in the world,” she told GWR. “I think I survive on that, mostly, myself.”

Outside of the gym, Edith enjoys spending time with family and friends. She’s a mother of five, grandmother of 11, great-grandmother of 10, and great-great-grandmother of two. For her milestone birthday, she had a small get-together with friends, donning a gold dress for the occasion. They all line-danced to “New York, New York,” a perfect way to celebrate 100 years of life.

While she’s hopeful about winning a trophy come November, simply being alive is enough for her.

“There’s nothing more that I can ask for than to open my eyes in the morning and know God gave me another day,” she said. “You can’t ask for more than that.”

One of her grandfathers also lived to 102, making Edith the second centenarian in the family. She never expected to live to the ripe age of 100, but she feels pretty good about that accomplishment. She’s got some pretty good genes in her family!

Edith lives alone after outliving two previous husbands, but she gets by with the love of friends and family. Her secrets to living to 100 include laughing a lot and drinking a couple of martinis a year: one on her birthday and another on Christmas. She didn’t give specifics regarding nutrition, saying she just ate whatever her mom gave her. The key to living a long life is to have fun, not stress, and keep reaching for the stars.

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Final thoughts on a 100-year-old world record holder who shows age is just a number

Not everyone gets to live to 100, but Edith is making the most of it. She feels thankful for spending quality time with friends and family every day she gets. When she’s not bonding with loved ones, she’s breaking powerlifting records and training in the gym. What a cool grandma. We hope her story will inspire you to achieve your dreams and remember that age is just a number!

15 Phrases to Help Say the Right Thing in an Awkward Situation

October 10, 2021 by Chris Butler

Everyone knows what it’s like to be in an awkward situation and having nothing to say. It often happens when you’re talking to an acquaintance or stranger and can’t get up and leave without seeming rude. Luckily, you can learn to say the right thing in awkward situations, helping you get through it seamlessly.

The best phrases you can use are ones that require a response or transition to a new topic. Ask open-ended questions if you would rather listen to the other person talk. As long as you can keep the conversation moving without things getting tense, you’re on the right track.

These phrases will help you avoid sitting in awkward silence, fidgeting, and waiting for the situation to pass. If you don’t know what to say, it can make you feel anxious, stressed, and agitated the longer it continues. Knowing what to say can remedy the uncomfortable situation, allowing you to overcome the negative feelings.

Phrases to Help Say the Right Thing in an Awkward Situation

You will want to use different phrases for various situations, so find ones that will work for you. Try to memorize them so that you can use them on the spot. Once you learn how to say the right thing, you’ll come up with even more phrases on your own.

1. What do you think of this?

It doesn’t matter what you’re asking about, but asking what they think can break the tension. Asking questions opens up the opportunity for conversation rather than awkward silence. When they answer, you can play off of what they say to keep the conversation moving.

While it might not be the best situation, it’s still better than feeling awkward. Plus, by the end of the conversation, you might not feel the awkwardness anymore anyway. It engages the other person, shows your interest, and fills any lulls in the conversation.

2. If you weren’t here right now, where would you be?

When you find yourself in a situation you don’t want to be in, you usually assume others feel the same way. If you’re stuck next to someone and don’t know what to say, try asking this question. It is a fun way to break the silence, and you can both dream of being somewhere else for a few minutes.

Not only will it take your mind off of the situation for a little bit, but it’ll break the awkward silence, too. It’ll likely get the two of you talking about things other than being somewhere else, preventing further discomfort.

3. I like your shirt! (Or another genuine compliment is always a way to say the right thing).

Giving a compliment is more beneficial than you might realize. When you’re in an awkward situation, try saying something nice about the other person. It’s always the right thing to say, as people love to hear praise about their choices.

You don’t have to say you like their shirt, as you can praise their purse, shoes, or anything else. By mentioning that you like something they have, it can open a conversation about where they got it. From there, the situation should get a little better.

4. I’d rather not talk about that subject.

Sometimes people will bring up a subject that you’d prefer not to get into. They might not mean to make things awkward, but it can lead to a tense situation if you let it continue. When this happens, be upfront and let the person know you’d rather discuss something else.

When you say this phrase, be strong and assertive. Typically, when you’re honest and direct, it quickly changes the tone of the conversation to something more neutral.

5. Have you seen any good movies lately?

Discussing movies is always a good option because it’s a neutral topic that allows for varying opinions. Whether you change the subject of an awkward conversation or you want to avoid sitting in awkward silence, this question can help.

By the end of the conversation, you might find that you and the other person have something in common. Otherwise, you passed the time and overcame an awkward situation.

6. That didn’t go well. Do you want to start over?

If you’re ever having a conversation and things unexpectedly get awkward, it can make things tense. Whether you said something wrong or the other person made an inappropriate comment, you can recover the conversation.

If you notice the awkwardness, the other person likely does, too. Don’t try to ignore the situation. Instead, ask if the two of you can start the conversation over in hopes that it goes differently.

7. I’m sorry about what I said, and I hope you can forgive me.

When you have to see someone that you hurt, it makes for an awkward situation. If you worry about what to say, keep it simple and use this phrase. You can’t ignore it when you’ve done something wrong, and you can’t expect the other person to, either.

Rather than suffer through an awkward situation, approach them right away with an apology. Don’t over-apologize, though, or it can make things even more uncomfortable. Apologizing will help put the incident behind you, and it’ll make things less tense.

8. How do you know the host?

If you’re at a baby shower, bridal event, or something similar, you can use this question to ease the awkwardness. There will likely be many people you don’t know, but you all have the host in common. This question is a neutral one that can pave the way for more conversation.

9. I love this song! What kind of music do you like?

Anytime there is music playing, you can use this phrase and question to make conversation. Music is another neutral topic that leads to further discussion. Plus, you might bond with the person over your taste in music.

Even if the two of you like different genres, it’s always fun to talk about your favorite songs and bands. Most people love sharing this information, so it’ll surely ease any awkward situation.

10. Did you see the news last night?

This question is safe for most situations, but try to stay away from political topics. If you saw an interesting news clip about something you’d like to share, now is a perfect time. Remember that this is only a safe question if it doesn’t involve politics or controversial subjects.

11. I’m glad the sun is shining today.

Simple phrases like this one are perfect when you don’t know what else to say. No matter what the weather is like, adjust the statement to fit. It’ll help you ease into the conversation, or it can change the subject to something safer.

12. Did anything exciting happen to you today?

People love to talk about themselves, so if you’d rather listen, this question is perfect. It’ll get the other person talking about their day, and you’ll have a chance to calm your nerves. As the person talks, make sure to ask questions to gain clarification or further the conversation.

13. Am I the only one that feels awkward right now?

Acknowledging the awkward situation can ease the tension and help you move past it. You’re probably not the only one sensing it, and it’ll be more awkward to ignore it. Plus, you might make someone laugh when you say this because that person was likely thinking it, too.

The other people in the situation will feel relief that it’s out in the open, and they aren’t the only person sensing it. Then, the conversation can move on in a better way.

14. It sounds like that was really upsetting.

Conversations become awkward when you don’t know what to say when someone stops talking. When this happens, you can validate their feelings by using a phrase similar to this. Use an empathetic tone, and look them in the eyes when you say it.

When people are upset, they usually want to feel heard and understood. This phrase covers both of those things, allowing the conversation to continue seamlessly.

15. Thank you for being open and honest about this.

Sometimes things get awkward when someone is honest about their feelings. While we all want to know the truth, it can make for an uncomfortable situation. Rather than giving in to the awkwardness, use this phrase to move the conversation forward instead.

By thanking the person for their openness and honesty, you establish that you aren’t mad. Then, you can continue your relationship with the person without things being tense.

Final Thoughts on Phrases to Help Say the Right Thing in an Awkward Situation

No one wants to be in an awkward situation, but these phrases can help you get through it. Knowing how to say the right thing in an awkward position can make all the difference. It will be hard at first if you aren’t used to speaking up, but you’ll get more comfortable the more often you do it.

If you learn to say the right thing in an awkward situation, people will love being around you. They won’t have to worry about awkward silences or tense moments. Plus, you’ll have a better time socializing when you always know the right thing to say.

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