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Doctors Explain Why You Stand On One Leg During A Physical 

Researchers say that the ability to stand on one leg for at least ten seconds is a good sign of the overall well-being of an individual. Currently, this test is not part of most wellness exams. But many doctors think it may be worth adding to a routine exam. Why, you ask, would the doctor expect you to stand on one foot?

Great question! Here are some reasons you should stand on one leg during your physical. 

Who came up with this physical test? 

A group of researchers created a study with 1,702 participants between the ages of 51 to 75. Only one-third of the participants were women, and two-thirds were men. The researchers asked the participants to stand on one leg with one leg resting on the back of the other leg. They held their arms at their sides and looked straight ahead. They had three tries and could use either leg they wanted. During the test, 80% of the participants could do the task. Only 20% couldn’t do it, which increased with the age of people.

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What were the long-term results?

When the researchers followed up with wellness exams seven years later, they found that 7.2% of the participants had died. Out of the people who died, 4.6% were participants who could stand on one foot for ten seconds, and 17. 5% were those who couldn’t perform the task. Researchers concluded that survival rates were worse for participants who couldn’t stand on one leg for at least ten seconds. Standing on one leg for this length of time or longer shows longevity and flexibility. 

Why is standing on one leg a good indicator of your physical health?

As you get older, there is a slight decrease in your physical stamina. If you don’t believe this, all you need to do is to get out on the basketball court with some teenagers and see how you perform. It’s a sad part of life that as you get older, you experience a decline in physical fitness related to:

  • Aerobic fitness
  • Muscle strength
  • Flexibility
  • Balance
  • Your body composition-this is the percentage of bone, fat, muscle, and water you have in your body.

So, being able to balance on one leg for at least ten seconds is a good sign you have the following things going for you:

  • Better muscle strength
  • More stamina
  • Are still flexible and have a good balance
  • Have overall good body composition, meaning you have a good balance of fat, muscles, water, and bones. 

Falling is the most significant physical risk as someone ages.

Balancing on one leg reveals your physical well-being and longevity. The most significant risk of being unable to do this test is a lack of flexibility. As a result, that rigidity can lead to a fall.

Researchers say that being overweight and lacking flexibility puts you at risk for a fall. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), falls are the second leading cause of accidental death. Adults sixty years and older are at a greater risk of a fatal fall. The health of the person who falls also affects the severity of the injury. 

The risk levels result from a slower physical reaction, diminished sensory abilities, and aging-related cognitive changes. Men are more likely to fall than women. Women suffer more non-fatal falls than men. 

What are the other risks?

In this same study, of the participants who couldn’t balance on one leg, there was a higher proportion of problematic health conditions such as these conditions:

  • High blood pressure
  • Heart disease
  • Unhealthy blood fat
  • Type 2 diabetes
  • Were obese

Should this test be included in a routine physical exam?

Currently, a routine exam does not include this test. However, many physicians feel this test should be part of a wellness exam for middle-aged to older adults. A person in their fifties should stand on one leg for about forty seconds. A person in their sixties typically can do this for around twenty seconds. Someone in their seventies should be able to stand on one leg for ten seconds. Some doctors suggest including this balance when checking vital signs, as it can show a person’s general health. 

What might prevent you from being able to do this test? 

Different conditions could interfere with your ability to do this test. Things such as:

  • Neurological disease
  • Spatial issues
  • Orthopedic issue
  • Vision problems
  • Sedentary lifestyle
  • Slow reaction time
  • Cognitive problems

Of course, if you know you have these conditions ahead of time, you may not be surprised you can’t stand on one leg. But if you find you can’t balance on one leg, you may want to think about these conditions and talk with your osteopath about your concerns. Also, if you have family members with some of these conditions, it’s imperative to investigate your health condition. 

Walking speed and your health

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Another good predictor of your physical health and brain health is how fast your walk in your midlife. One study found that how fast a person walks could determine their body and brain’s aging tendencies. It could also increase your longevity. 

Some people are naturally fast walkers. They race down the aisles of the stores as if their life depended on it. The tendency to walk fast could be genetic. If your mom, dad, grandma, or grandpa were fast walkers, good chance you walk fast too. 

But even if you’re not a fast walker, you can include brisk walking in your exercise routine. Walking at a brisk pace improves your fitness. It increases your breathing and pumps your heart. Besides that, it improves your coordination and balance. Finally, it helps reduce your chances of diseases such as these:

  • Heart disease
  • Cancer
  • Type 2 diabetes
  • Improves your memory 
  • Decreases your risk of dementia
  • Help you control your weight
  • Lower your blood pressure
  • Boosts your mood
  • Strengthen your bones and muscles
  • Increase your lifespan

What other wellness exam predictors could doctors use to evaluate longevity and good health? 

Sometimes the simple, everything day things reveal your health. Researchers have found that people who live longer tend to 

  • A firm grip predicted a longer lifespan: People with a weak grip’s death rate was 1.68 times greater than people with a firm grip. 
  • Get out of a chair quickly: People with a slower rate of getting out of a chair had twice the death rate as someone who got out of a chair quickly. 
  • Feel positive about their health: People’s feelings make a big difference. Individuals who see themselves as healthy and robust are healthier and stronger. 
  • Have mental speed: Being cognitively active is connected to aging well. However, researchers aren’t sure if staying active is the cause of being healthy in your old age or the result of staying healthy in your old age. 
  • Your attractiveness: This sounds weird, but a study found that facial attractiveness predicted longevity. Many view a symmetrical face as attractive. This quality reflects excellent genes and health without physical trauma. This healthfulness may equal more extended life.

What if you can’t stand on one foot during a physical wellness exam? 

Of course, if you can’t stand on one leg for ten seconds doesn’t mean you’re going to perish soon, but it could mean it’s time to get healthy. This simple test could motivate you to begin to lose weight or exercise more. Here are suggestions for other things you can do. 

Stretches to increase flexibility

Doing flexibility exercises will improve your ease of movement. Being flexible increases the blood flow to your muscles. It also builds muscle strength. Try to do flexibility stretches at least three times a week. These could include the following activities:

  • Yoga
  • Tai chi
  • Pilates
  • Using stretch bands
  • Foam rollers

Balance training

If you have a good balance, it will prevent falls. Balance training can help your equilibrium and help you recover quickly from situations where you start to lose your balance. Good balance is essential for playing sports and doing fitness exercises. 

Good balance is associated with good core strength. Yoga, tai chi, and pilates help develop balance and core strength. 

If you want at-home balance training, try these things at least three or more days a week:

  • Walk backward
  • Walking sideways
  • Walk on your heels
  • Walk on your toes
  • Stand up from a sitting position

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Final thoughts on why doctors may ask you to stand on one leg during a routine physical

If it’s hard for you to stand to balance on one leg, it could be an indication of your overall health and longevity. Some doctors don’t expect you to stand on one leg during your annual wellness exam, but some feel it should be part of the routine physical you get once a year. Standing on one leg for ten seconds could indicate your muscle strength, mental function, and aerobic fitness. 

On the other hand, the inability to do this task could be a good wake-up call for you that it’s time to take your health seriously and get in shape. Maybe it’s time to lose weight, start walking, or take balance training classes. Whatever you decide to do, next time you go to the doctor, if they tell you to stand on one leg, you’ll be ready to show off your flexibility, balance, and overall good health. 

Patagonia Billionaire Gives Up His Fortune

Patagonia billionaire Yvon Chouinard recently surrendered the company he founded nearly fifty years ago. The private outdoor apparel business transferred its ownership to two new entities: Patagonia Purpose Trust and the Holdfast Collective. Chouinard wanted to create the trust and nonprofit organization to help combat climate change and protect biodiversity.

Chouinard’s decision to forfeit the company doesn’t surprise those who knew him. He launched Patagonia in 1973 with sustainability in mind, never planning on becoming a billionaire.

He even ran an ad in The New York Times on Black Friday to discourage customers from shopping. The ad featured a picture of the company’s best-selling jacket, with text above saying, “Don’t buy this jacket.”

About Yvon Chouinard, the Company Founder

As an avid rock climber in the 1960s, Chouinard wanted to launch a company that reflected his values. He started off selling climbing gear and eventually got into the apparel business.

From the start, he aimed to create high-quality items for nature lovers while protecting the environment. Patagonia committed to using 100% organic cotton for its sportswear in 1996. They’ve begun experimenting with recycled cotton after realizing the environmental impact of cotton farming.

For their fleece products, they utilize soda bottles to create recycled polyester. The apparel company also eliminated colors from its product lines that required dyes with toxic metals and sulfides. In addition, they’ve been using recycled paper for their catalogs since the 1980s.

The company quickly became one of the most ethical, sustainable businesses in the United States. Ironically, Chouinard never set out to become a businessman or a billionaire. He merely stumbled into it after making climbing gear for his friends.

While his company took every step to lessen its impact on the planet, Chouinard had a greater mission. He no longer wanted to profit from nature but begin to heal and preserve it.

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Patagonia Founder Gives Up His Company Worth $3 Billion

The decision to surrender Patagonia came to Chouinard in mid-2020. After watching his net worth soar to record heights, he realized he’d become what he detested his whole life.

Of course, he never flaunted his wealth, so seeing his name on Forbes’ list of billionaires surprised him. He didn’t buy flashy cars or anything expensive, and he certainly didn’t have $1 billion in his bank account. The Forbes ranking and the stress of the pandemic ultimately prompted him to surrender his company.

Now, Patagonia will distribute every penny that isn’t reinvested into the company as dividends to the Holdfast Collective. The nonprofit owns the largest share of the company — 98% of its total stock. The Holdfast Collective will use these funds “to protect nature and biodiversity, support thriving communities and fight the environmental crisis.” Patagonia estimates it will pay a yearly dividend of about $100 million, depending on the company’s revenue.

The remainder of the company’s stock will go toward the Patagonia Purpose Trust. It exists to create a more permanent legal structure to ensure the company stays true to its values. In addition, it will facilitate what the company does best: showing that a for-profit business can work for the planet.

In a press release, the reluctant billionaire said, “It’s been a half-century since we began our experiment in responsible business. If we have any hope of a thriving planet 50 years from now, it demands all of us doing all we can with the resources we have.

“As the business leader I never wanted to be, I am doing my part. Instead of extracting value from nature and transforming it into wealth, we are using the wealth Patagonia creates to protect the source. We’re making Earth our only shareholder. I am dead serious about saving this planet.”

The Patagonia Billionaire Means Business

The company will also remain a Certified B Corporation, a designation for companies committed to environmental causes. While the outdoor apparel business will keep operating as a for-profit entity, the Chouinards no longer own the company.

In August 2022, they officially transferred the company’s stock to the newly created trust and nonprofit. The family members will still oversee the trust to ensure Patagonia doesn’t deviate from its mission.

The Holdfast Collective will utilize Patagonia’s profits for preserving wild lands and focusing on other nature-based climate solutions. Since it’s a 501(c)(4), the nonprofit can also make unlimited political contributions. The Chouinards didn’t receive a charitable deduction for their donation, proving their commitment to protecting the planet.

Chouinard’s Legacy Will Continue

Patagonia will continue donating 1% of its annual profits to grassroots activists, something it’s been committed to since 1986.

“Two years ago, the Chouinard family challenged a few of us to develop a new structure with two central goals,” said Patagonia CEO Ryan Gellert in the press release. “They wanted us to both protect the purpose of the business and immediately and perpetually release more funding to fight the environmental crisis. We believe this new structure delivers on both and we hope it will inspire a new way of doing business that puts people and planet first.”

In an interview with The Seattle Times, Chouinard said he hopes his example will encourage reforms in capitalism. The unconventional business model puts other corporations in the spotlight because many actively contribute to the climate crisis. The 83-year-old billionaire said his company would donate every penny to people working on climate solutions.

So far, in 2022, Patagonia has donated $50 million to the Holdfast Collective and expects to contribute another $100 million. Chouinard said he feels relieved that the company will keep “doing the right thing” long after he’s gone.

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Final Thoughts on Patagonia Billionaire Relinquishing His Fortune

Yvon Chouinard, founder and former owner of Patagonia, never set out to become a billionaire. It happened as a natural consequence of owning a wildly successful outdoor apparel company. However, the businessman never felt motivated by money or materialistic gains.

Chouinard felt passionate about protecting the planet as a lifelong nature lover and environmental enthusiast. So, he decided to relinquish Patagonia after 50 years of ownership, creating a trust and nonprofit to help fight climate change. He updated the company’s mission statement to reflect Patagonia’s new direction: “We’re in business to save our home planet.”

30 Types of Happiness (And Why You Should Try Them All)

We all strive for happiness for ourselves and those we care about most. Being happy is different for everyone, and it’s all about doing what makes you feel good.

There are many types of happiness, making it hard to define. This emotional state describes a range of positive emotions that make you feel good. This emotional state often involves joy, fulfillment, and satisfaction.

With so many types, you’ll likely have to implement various methods to find happiness. When you find joy in differing forms, it brings fulfillment and meaning to your life. Knowing the types can help you implement them in your life, making a positive change and improving your well-being.

Thirty Types of Happiness Everyone Should Know (And Why You Should Try Them All)

These types of happiness allow you to find joy in differing situations. When one area isn’t going well, you can focus on the rest and find positivity in other ways.

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1 – Gratitude

Practicing gratitude and appreciation can help identify the good around you. You’ll also recognize your blessings and know you’re lucky to have them.

2 – New Experiences

You might find happiness when experiencing something new. Exploring a new location, swimming in a river, or participating in history can bring meaning to your life.

3 – Love

Love can come in many forms, including family connections, friendships, and romantic relationships. You can also focus on self-love. Love helps you feel secure and valued. It allows you to experience it no matter where you are or what you’re doing in life.

4 – Peace

Finding peace often requires avoiding negative situations. It alleviates the risk of conflict and negativity, allowing you to focus on happier things. However, it isn’t always avoidable, so if issues arise, practice mindfulness to return to a peaceful state.

5 – Pride

Feeling proud is a short-lived type of happiness that can involve pride for yourself or someone else. It allows you to feel good about an accomplishment or achievement. Pride lasts for varying lengths of time, depending on the situation.

6 – Generosity

Wanting to give to those around you can help you find happiness and fulfillment in life. It prevents entitlement because you freely give without expecting anything in return. You’ll expect nothing more than giving when you can and basking in the joy it brings.

7 – Fulfillment

Self-fulfillment involves the journey toward achieving your purpose. You’ll feel happier knowing you’re moving forward and fulfilling your desires and goals. Sometimes fulfillment involves spirituality and finding your calling.

Fulfillment also means you’ve reached a state of life with little to no internal conflict or longing. You won’t want to look for change because you become thankful and happy with what you have.

8 – Spending Time Freely

When you have time for leisure, you’ll feel happier than following a packed schedule. Time to do what you want allows you to pursue interests, hobbies, sports, and entertainment.

9 – Excitement

When you look forward to something, you experience excitement leading up to the event. It is happiness that you feel now but is directed toward the future and often makes you wish time would speed up.

Excitement can also occur in the present when watching something awe-inspiring or unexpected. Using passion while working on a project or task can also bring excitement. It involves feeling enthusiastic and energized.

10 – Feeling Connected

Even introverts can find happiness in feeling bonded to others. When you connect to the community or your friends and family, you can get a sense of meaning. Research backs this up, and experts claim that healthy relationships influence well-being and health.

11 – Taking Risks

Some people enjoy risk-taking and might feel discontent when they don’t have the freedom to do so. They might want to take risks regarding business or their career, travel, adventure, or sports.

12 – Humility

Being humble allows you to practice humility and recognize that you’re only part of the universe around you. It helps you remember that you’re a part of something bigger and that sometimes you must depend on others.

13 – Not being affected by others

When you reach a stage in your life when you’re no longer affected by others, you’ll find meaning and fulfillment. When you don’t worry about what others think, you can focus on your overall goals and desires. It limits social comparison and prevents becoming derailed by others.

14 – Pleasure

Pleasure is a reward related to making your body feel good. It can come from eating when you’re hungry to being hugged by a loved one.

15 – Momentary Joy

This type of happiness doesn’t last long and results from seeing or doing something you enjoy. It brings satisfaction and pleasure in the present moment. You might experience momentary joy when doing something, or it can occur when you see a beautiful scene.

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16 – Relaxation

If you can relax and stop worrying about things, you’ll feel better about your life. It’ll help you feel good about yourself and help you experience happiness.

17 – Humor

Happiness can come through laughter in humor. It can allow you to find a moment of joy, even during hard times.

Humor can also help you connect with the people around you and allow you to laugh, helping increase your joy. Funny movies, stand-up comedies, and laughing with others can bring short hurts of happiness that improve your overall mood.

18 – Contentment

Being happy with who you are, what you have, and where you are right now can improve your happiness levels. It allows you to embrace the present and appreciate your life. You will still strive for more and continue growing, but you remain happy with each stage of life.

19 – Accepting Things You Can’t Control

You can’t change everything and sometimes can’t control when things shift around you. Learning to accept these moments and embracing them can help you find happiness. If life gets hard, remember that it’s only a chance to try again.

20 – Competition

People who enjoy competition find happiness in the experience. They thrive during things like games, sports, and career competitions.

21 – Self-Discipline

Making plans for yourself and following through on them is a sign of self-discipline. It helps build happiness as you continually reach your goals and live up to personal expectations.

22 – Creativity

Doing things that allow you to be creative and use your imagination can help you be happy. Creating new things and coming up with ideas encourages positivity.

23 – Having a Purpose

Finding your purpose increases happiness as you know what you’re striving to achieve. You’ll feel more comfortable making decisions when you know the overall goal.

24 – Optimism

Being optimistic involves believing good things will come to you. You remain hopeful that things will work out and you’ll receive what you need or want. It improves your mood and outweighs any negativity you experience.

25 – Fun

Many adults believe that having fun is for kids, and it’s not an accurate way to view it. Having fun allows you to experience happiness and appreciate life. Life doesn’t have to be all about work and responsibilities, and you’ll be happier when you take the time for fun.

26 – Productivity

Getting things done is rewarding and brings a sense of fulfillment. When hard work pays off, you’ll feel happy about the accomplishment and the effort that went into it.

27 – Wonder

Wonder occurs when you sense mysterious, intriguing, and good things in the world around you. It fosters happy anticipation and allows you to remember bigger things are out there.

28 – Health

When you’re healthy and don’t have medical concerns, it means you’ll likely be happier. Experts indicate that not only does your health bring happiness but being happy decreases your risk of disease or illness.

29 – Basic Freedom

Having a sense of freedom can help you feel happier. While some people want complete freedom, others desire some constraints with:

  • rules
  • social norms
  • responsibilities and priorities
  • tradition
  • culture or religion

Either way, having the freedom you desire is a type of happiness that brings fulfillment.

30 – Virtue

Rather than focusing on what occurred, your virtue only requires focusing on your responses. It involves acting with high moral standards no matter what the situation involves.

Ten Tips for Creating a Happy Life

  1. Develop a growth mindset
  2. Volunteer to help others
  3. Identify something good in each moment
  4. Write in a gratitude journal
  5. Turn off your electronics
  6. Do something you haven’t tried before
  7. Take care of yourself and practice self-love
  8. Apologize when necessary
  9. Spend time with people you love
  10. Do something fun

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Final Thoughts on Types of Happiness (And Why You Should Try Them All)

Finding happiness in life requires creating it by doing things that make you feel good. Do more of what you enjoy and prioritize the things that make you love your life. Be intentional on your journey to happiness because it’s all about what you want in life.

So don’t wait–get started today and find ways to target the differing types of happiness. Don’t limit yourself because you can try something new whenever you want a boost of joy.

Remember that what makes you happiest might not be what makes someone else happy. It’s a personal journey for everyone, making it even more meaningful. Do what makes you feel good, whether it’s short-lived or long-lasting.

Counselor Reveals 15 Ways to Be More Approachable

If anyone has told you that you look angry or distant, it could be a sign that you’re not approachable. You might also notice that people approach others but not you, but you can change that. You can find a way to be more approachable and friendly in all situations.

Being more approachable comes in handy during social situations, dates, and networking opportunities. It can help you make new friends, find a partner, or land a job. However, looking approachable is often hard for some of us.

Some of the things that make someone more approachable include:

  • friendliness
  • kindness
  • confidence
  • handling their emotions
  • positivity

If you worry that you don’t look approachable, learning how to make a change will help. You’ll feel better in public and when interacting with others. Even if you feel nervous or shy, these methods can help you appear calm and friendly.

How to Be More Approachable, According to Counselors

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You can gradually shift your demeanor if you want to be more approachable. Some of the methods include:

1 – Practice positive body language to appear approachable

One of the best ways to be more approachable is by having open body language. If you look closed off, people will want to leave you alone.

Signs of being closed off include:

  • crossing your arms
  • turning away
  • crossing your legs
  • tilting your head back or down

Rather than sending a message that you want to be left alone, try practicing positive body language. Keep your arms at your sides while leaving space between your legs when standing. It implies you’re comfortable and open to conversation.

Additionally, stay upright, maintaining a straight back. You can keep your arms uncrossed and face forward without tilting your head. Keeping your head up is helpful because it allows other people to read you rather than closing you off from those around you. 2 – Act how you do when you’re relaxed

Think about how you behave when you feel relaxed and incorporate it when you’re around others. Relax as if you were alone or with close friends in a safe space. Being calm will make you appear authentic and attractive.

You can imagine that the people around you are old friends as a reminder to be casual. Avoid fidgeting because it shows that you’re nervous. Some of the signs that make others think you don’t want to socialize include:

  • biting your nails
  • nervously twirling your hair
  • constantly tapping
  • touching your face

Be aware of your behaviors in social settings so that someone doesn’t think you don’t want to talk. Place your hands on the table or hold something that reduces your urge to fidget.

3 – Practice mirroring

While you should be yourself, you can seem more approachable if you mirror others. It makes them more comfortable talking to you because it shows you can get along. Think about how you subconsciously begin to copy gestures your friend uses or say phrases they say. It makes you feel connected and shows how well you get along.

Mirroring behaviors in other situations can make people want to talk to and get to know you. Don’t overdo it, or it’ll seem weird but try to match their intensity.

4 – Angle your body towards others

If you want to interact with others, angle your body towards them. Avoid looking directly at them, but focus in their general direction. By looking toward them, you’ll notice if they look at you so that you can make eye contact at that point.

Angling your body toward someone and looking in that general direction shows you’re open to being involved. It’s a welcoming behavior that lets others know they can approach you.

5 – Go out in smaller groups to make yourself more approachable

Going out in large groups can intimidate others and make them afraid to approach you. When others are around, people fear rejection and don’t want others to witness it. People are more likely to talk to you if you are alone or with a small group of one or two other friends.

6 – Focus on having a friendly facial expression

A friendly facial expression is essential for being more approachable. Use the following tips to have a positive facial expression:

  • avoid frowning
  • make eye contact
  • be expressive
  • relax your face, keeping your jaw slightly open
  • keep a smile on the corner of your mouth
  • relax your eyebrows

7 – Make eye contact and smile to look friendly

Making eye contact and smiling shows others you’re open to talking with them. Don’t stare but hold eye contact for a few seconds, blinking occasionally. It makes it less scary for someone to approach you.

As you smile, make sure it reaches your eyes, or it’ll look insincere. Smiling with your eyes involves getting a slight wrinkle at the corner of your eyes and eases a stern face.

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8 – Don’t hide or separate yourself

It’s easy to separate yourself from others if you feel uncomfortable or insecure. You’ll try to take up less space and hide to avoid awkwardness. However, this behavior makes you much less approachable.

Rather than hiding and trying to go unseen, put yourself out there. Walk around an area, checking out the environment without waiting to the side. You can also give your opinion, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Covering your eyes with big sunglasses or your body with oversized clothing can also make you look unapproachable. People might not approach someone if they can’t see their eyes, facial expressions, or body language.

The more often you do these things, the easier it’ll become. While you might feel uncomfortable, it’ll make you more approachable. You’ll quickly see a positive change, showing your discomfort pays off.

9 – Avoid constantly looking at your phone

Staring at your phone or checking it frequently can make you feel like you want to be left alone. While the phone is often a comfort device used when you feel uncomfortable, it prevents you from meeting others. Avoid checking your phone if you want people to approach you.

10 – Stay positive and friendly in your interactions

If you say something positive, it shows you’re open to communicating with those around you. You don’t have to say anything clever but stay positive no matter what you say. Praise the view, a pleasant scent, or how nice something is.

Don’t complain or discuss negative experiences the first time you meet someone. Save those discussions for people you already know well. Positivity makes you stand out, appearing friendly and approachable.

11 – Watch your tone to sound approachable

Your tone can play a role in your approachability. If you sound harsh, other people won’t want to approach you. Sometimes when you feel nervous, you’ll experience a tight throat and stern voice.

One way to alleviate this issue is by trying to relax during the conversation. You can also practice different tones when you’re alone to determine how to make yours sound friendly.

12 – Don’t pretend to be busy

If you’re alone in public, you might pretend you’re busy to avoid discomfort. Some people search in their purses, looking for something they know isn’t there. Others pretend to be in the middle of a phone call.

No matter how you pretend to be busy, it makes you less approachable. People will see that you’re in the middle of something and assume you don’t want to be bothered.

13 – Be friendly first

You don’t have to wait for someone to approach you first. Don’t worry about what they’ll think of you for being friendly because the person might be hoping for the interaction. When others see that you’re open to talking to others, they’ll be more likely to approach you.

Once you introduce yourself, ask personal questions to get the person to open up. Ask how they are, what they do, why they’re there, and other questions you’re curious to know. It shows that you’re a friendly person, open to interaction.

14 – Think about things that make you happy

When you think about things that make you happy, you’ll have an easier time staying relaxed and looking approachable. Think of your pet, a funny video you recently watched, or anything else that brings joy to your mind. It’ll make you look and feel friendly, giving you an advantage in social situations.

15 – Don’t pretend to be perfect; imperfection is more approachable

If you pretend to be perfect, you’ll seem unapproachable. People might be intimidated or worried they won’t live up to your expectations. Admitting to your faults and failures makes you relatable and makes people feel comfortable.

You can also show that you aren’t perfect by speaking up when you need help. Asking for help allows you to meet others and makes everyone feel good. Plus, it’ll encourage more people to approach you as they know you’re friendly and open.

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Final Thoughts on Counselor Reveals Ways to Be More Approachable

If you want to be more approachable, try incorporating some of these methods. It might feel awkward, but you’ll get used to it and notice an improvement.

As you get more comfortable, you’ll find that the methods become a habit for you. It opens you up to more opportunities, friendships, experiences, or romances. Think about how you come across to others and adjust as necessary to show that you’re open to conversation.

Counselor Explains How to Use Thought Replacement for Anxiety

If you struggle with anxiety, you probably have heard of various therapies you can use. Some of them work, while others are an utter disaster. You might try thought replacement therapy if you still seek ways to deal with your anxiety.  

Anxiety is something many people struggle with. For some, it’s such a big issue that it takes over their life. If that’s you, you’re probably always panicked and always overthinking. Anxiety, in its worst form, can hinder your every move. You probably can’t even go grocery shopping without stressing about every little detail. Anxiety is still a menace to deal with, even in mild conditions. 

It still affects people and their mental and physical well-being. And the worst part is that it’s hard to keep it under control. As a result, you might find that you need to spend hours and hours in therapy. Or you could even end up needing medication. 

But what if you need something else to help treat your issue? What if the conventional methods don’t work? What if you want to have a way to deal with it alone, without outside help? Well, in that case, you can use thought replacement as therapy.  

How Does Anxiety Manifest?

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Before getting into how thought replacement can help, you must understand anxiety. If you already have this diagnosis, you already know how it manifests. Other people have not sought help and don’t have a diagnosis for their issues. That doesn’t mean they aren’t dealing with some form of anxiety. And you might be one of those people.  

You need to know that anxiety is an umbrella term. It can refer to anxiety disorders or the general feeling of panic and uneasiness. Colloquially, people use the term anxiety when they are scared or apprehensive about something. That use of the term is still valid. It’s even normal to feel some anxiety from time to time. But, from a medical standpoint, anxiety is a mental health condition. 

Generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, separation anxiety, and phobias are a few examples of anxiety disorders. You need a medical diagnosis if you suffer from one of these disorders. That way, you can get help from a therapist. If you suffer from a severe form, you might even need medication. But how can you tell if your anxiety levels are too high? After all, some anxiety is normal. Well, there are some symptoms you need to watch out for. 

Some of the most common symptoms are restlessness, nervousness, and tiredness. But, of course, these are feelings many people experience to different degrees. If you have anxiety, you will often deal with these issues. You will be abnormally tired and restless, to the point where it interferes with your life. Besides that, you are likely experiencing a constant sense of impending danger. It’s the kind of panic that you can’t ever shake off. It lingers even if there’s nothing to worry about. 

That’s because anxiety is not something that manifests logically. This irrational worry is what’s so bad about it. It makes you feel your life is uncontrollable. It makes you overthink to the point where you can’t focus on other tasks. But the symptoms don’t just manifest on a psychological level. They can also be physical. It’s common for anxious people to have an increased heart rate and experience hyperventilation. This response can lead to sweating, trembling, feeling weak, and having problem sleeping.  

Anxious people are also easily triggered by specific situations or emotions. For example, if you suffer separation anxiety, you dread seeing someone leave. You will try to avoid that at all costs. However, you won’t even be able to be happy about them being with you because of the anxiety. Anxious thoughts will make you overthink to the point where you won’t be able to enjoy the moment.  

Anxiety disorders happen because of a mix of environmental and genetic reasons. Some people have a family history of anxiety and other mental health conditions. That means they are more likely to be born with or develop it during life. Certain personality traits can also make someone prone to developing anxiety. 

For example, shy and introverted people are more likely to have social anxiety. Most notably, anxiety can develop because of past traumatic events. For instance, kids raised by abusive parents will likely grow an anxiety disorder. But accidents, abusive partners, physical illness, and many other things can trigger the development of anxiety.  

How to Use Thought Replacement for Anxiety

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Before getting into how to use thought replacement, it’s essential to understand what thought replacement is. As you might have figured, it simply means replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. This method is a way of practicing cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is a form of psychotherapy that aims to help people identify negative thinking patterns and change them. 

This process might sound simple, but it’s not quite so. Sure, the process isn’t complicated, but it takes some time to get used to. That’s because you have to be intentional with it, thought replacement only works if you give it a real shot.  

Thought Replacement Helps you Identify Your Issues.

Thought replacement is a powerful tool because it forces you to identify the root of your issues. Often, people have anxious thoughts because of the way they view themselves. For example, an anxious person will likely believe they are not enough. They could believe that everyone judges them all the time. Besides, you tend to think the worst will happen if you are anxious. For example, if you hear that your company is laying people off, you will automatically assume you’ll also lose your job.  

But how is thought replacement different from trying to comfort and encourage yourself? Well, it differs because it’s an intentional process. Thought replacement works best when done methodically. Take your time to sit down daily and write down all your negative thoughts. Then, write the positive replacement in a parallel column. 

You don’t have to believe those replacements. You have to write them down. What this does is that it shows you what issues you should work on more. For example, maybe the root of your anxiety is a lack of self-confidence, so you’ll have to work on that. When you think about your negative thoughts, you will inevitably uncover issues you weren’t aware of.

It Wires Your Brain to Default to Positivity 

Thought replacement also helps people with anxiety rewire their brains. It enables you to default to positive thinking whenever you spiral. You can use any method you’d like to replace your thoughts if you do it intentionally. For example, the two columns method described above is excellent. But if that doesn’t work for you, you can journal, meditate, or do anything else that fits you.  

When you first start replacing your thoughts, you won’t believe the replacement thoughts. If you doubt your abilities, you won’t automatically stop because you want to. But the trick is to create a routine. That’s how the brain learns new things. It needs patterns so that it can know what to default to. 

If you are anxious, your default will be negative thoughts. You’ll always panic and expect the worst. But when you systematically tell your brain otherwise, it will start believing that. For example, if you tell yourself every day that you are intelligent and strong, after a while, you’ll believe that. If you keep up this routine, you’ll be able to overcome your worries in no time.  

Thought Replacement Becomes a Soothing Routine

Because anxious people can get triggered easily, they must also find ways to cope. You need to self-soothe when you are spiraling or experiencing a panic attack. And thought replacement can be a powerful tool in these situations. Positive thoughts can become your mantras. They can ground you and offer you a glimmer of hope. Plus, you create a routine when you tell yourself nice things every day. It’s something familiar that feels comforting when things get out of control.  

Besides that, thought replacement therapy pushes you to be more self-compassionate. It allows you to understand that you are allowed to make mistakes. So many anxious thoughts come from believing that you have to be perfect. But, when you force yourself to see the bright side of things, you’ll see the bigger picture. 

You’ll understand that being flawed is normal, and you should embrace all your imperfections. It allows you to stop beating yourself up when you make mistakes. That can prevent you from spiraling. It can even prevent some panic attacks. It’s potent when it comes to day-to-day anxiety and worries. When facing those issues, make an effort to think positive thoughts. You’ll see the difference right away. 

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Final Thoughts on How to Use Thought Replacement for Anxiety

Anxiety is one of the worst things you’ll have to deal with in your life. It can completely overshadow every nice thing that happens to you. The positives seem unattainable when you are always scared and constantly expect the worst. If you are struggling with any form of anxiety, you must find ways to cope. Just keep in mind that, for severe conditions, you need to consult a therapist. 

No matter how efficient self-help methods are, they can sometimes be insufficient. Very severe forms can only heal using therapy and going to therapy. Therefore, it doesn’t hurt to have ways to self-soothe. That’s what thought replacement is. It’s a form of psychotherapy that can help you calm down and manage your nerves. It can be beneficial in milder cases of anxiety or in dealing with normal nervousness and panic.  

Making a conscious effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones has improved emotional health. But that’s only when you create a routine. It would help if you used thought replacement techniques daily for them to be efficient. This routine will help you identify the root causes of your issues. It will also help you rewire your brain for positivity. But, most importantly, it will help you self-soothe and be more self-compassionate. If you give thought replacement a try, it will do you a lot of good.  

18 Affirmations to Increase Self-Compassion

Self-compassion means accepting and understanding yourself as you are right now. While the push for productivity and self-discipline makes failing seem unacceptable, it’s part of growth. When things get hard, being compassionate to yourself will help you remember to put yourself first and accept hardship.

Self-compassion requires learning to love yourself in hard times and keeping the light when things get dark. Accepting the hard parts of life and dark aspects of yourself allows you to understand yourself. It also helps you connect with the wonder of life.

Learning to love yourself can make a difference as it increases self-compassion. Everyone has imperfections, and you must embrace yours instead of criticizing yourself. Self-compassion requires fully accepting and understanding yourself.

Loving yourself and practicing self-compassion isn’t always easy and requires constant effort. Using affirmations for self-compassion can help you stay positive and be kind to yourself. The phrases will encourage you to focus on your strengths and remind you of your worth.

Why Self-Compassion is Important

Being kind can give you a sense of overall wellness and contentment. It is essential during hard times, like when you feel you failed or experienced a setback. Self-compassion allows you to stay positive and maintain a healthy mental state no matter what occurs. You’ll feel more confident and bounce back during difficult times.

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How to Use Positive Affirmations to Be More Compassionate to Yourself

Affirmations are positive phrases that you repeat daily to help you embrace life and stay optimistic. The affirmations can help you love yourself, find success, and attract abundance. Using affirmations is easy, and it’s most effective when you do the following:

  • take a few deep breaths before beginning
  • look at yourself in the mirror and smile
  • watch yourself as you recite the affirmations slowly, giving yourself time between repetitions
  • take the time to let your body absorb the positive energy of the phrases
  • write them down if you want to delve deeper into the positivity

Eighteen Affirmations to Increase Self-Compassion

Your self-compassion journey won’t always be perfect, and these phrases can help you in those times. The affirmations can also help you maintain a positive mindset. Use these affirmations in the morning as you get ready, during your lunch break, before bed, or anytime you need a boost.

1 – I make myself a priority no matter what else comes up.

Self-compassion requires putting yourself first, even when something else threatens to disrupt the plan. You can take care of yourself while still being there for others.

Use this affirmation to remember to be compassionate to yourself despite anything else that happens. You’re important, even when life gets hard or people need your help. Avoid putting your needs and desires last because you deserve good things.

2 – I always do my best, which is all that matters.

Give yourself grace because if you’re trying your best, you’re doing enough. Each attempt you make gets you one step closer to success.

You learn as you go, developing and refining skills. Avoid negative self-talk when things don’t go as planned the first time. Remember that doing your best is worth celebrating.

3 – I love everything about myself.

Self-love is essential for self-compassion, and repeating this affirmation can help you start the day on a positive note. Embrace your flaws and unique qualities because they make you who you are. You deserve self-love, and it’ll improve your overall well-being.

4 – I am patient with myself as I change and learn.

No one is perfect, meaning you won’t always get things right the first time. Be patient with yourself as you go through life because you’re changing and growing. Keep trying and give yourself grace, even when things don’t go as planned.

5 – I am taking care of my physical presence.

Your physical presence is what keeps you moving through life. You wouldn’t be here without your body, so you must take good care of it.  It’s easy to put others first and push your physical health to the bottom of your list. However, self-compassion requires taking care of yourself no matter what else comes up.

Listen to your body because it’ll give you signs when things aren’t right. Don’t ignore these signs to  experience a more fulfilling experience and bask in self-compassion.

6 – I deserve love, and I’ll give myself what I need.

Negative self-talk can convince you that you don’t deserve love, but that’s an inaccurate assessment. You deserve love, happiness, and all good things. Focus on loving yourself and doing all the things you deserve. Before you know it, you’ll experience more self-compassion because you’ve fallen in love with who you are.

7 – I am letting go of worrying about what others think of me.

You’ll struggle to find self-compassion if you constantly worry about what other people think of you. Other people’s thoughts shouldn’t matter to you because your opinion of yourself is all that matters.

You can use this affirmation anytime you let external opinions get to you. It’s also helpful if you know you’ll encounter someone who doesn’t respect you or makes you feel bad about yourself.

8 – I am free to express myself confidently.

Self-compassion involves telling yourself that it’s okay to speak up. Don’t be afraid to express yourself and speak your thoughts. Expressing yourself builds confidence and helps you focus on your needs and wants. Additionally, it helps you feel good about who you are because you’re taking care of yourself.

9 – I will release negative self-talk and focus on positive thoughts about myself.

If negative thoughts frequently come to mind, this affirmation is for you. It helps you free yourself of negative self-talk and embrace the good things instead. Let the negative thoughts pass and replace them with something positive.

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10 – I treat myself how I treat the people I love.

You likely want what’s best for your loved ones and to see them find happiness. If that’s the case, think of yourself that way, too. You deserve the same treatment you give, and it all starts with being compassionate.

11 – I am allowed to make mistakes.

This positive affirmation is a reminder that it’s okay to make mistakes or experience failure. Everyone messed up or doesn’t get things right the first time, and it’s okay because it’s all part of the learning process. Mistakes help you figure out what to do differently in the future, so don’t give yourself a hard time over it.

12 – I give myself opportunities to grow.

Giving yourself growth opportunities allows you to be compassionate toward yourself. It involves trying, failing, and loving yourself through it all. Without trying new things or experiencing failure, there’s no chance to learn and grow.

13 – I embrace my unique qualities and use them to my advantage.

Your unique qualities make you special, and embracing them leads to self-compassion. Once you start loving the things that make you different, you can use them to your advantage. The more you use these qualities, the more compassionate you’ll feel about yourself.

14 – I am giving myself the time and space to heal.

Many people want to suppress their feelings and ignore pain, but it doesn’t help. Give yourself a chance to heal, increasing self-compassion and self-love. It also allows you to heal and move forward with less trauma and negativity. Healing takes time and patience, and this phrase can help you see it through.

15 – I accept myself as I am right now.

Even as you strive to do better and learn more, you can accept yourself as you are right now. Appreciate who you are and what you have, and let it encourage you to reach your dreams. Accept yourself at every stage of life to increase compassionate feelings toward yourself.

16 – I am thankful for who I am.

You can love things about other people and still be thankful that you’re different. Showing gratitude for your strengths allows self-compassion because you’re proud and accepting of yourself. Use this phrase each morning, and you’ll think positively from the start.

17 – I am treating myself with compassion in all moments.

Repeating this affirmation can convince your mind to be kinder to you. The more often you say something, the more you believe it. Then, you begin acting out the thoughts and treating yourself better.

18 – I am practicing self-love and giving myself the attention I need.

When you stop looking to others for love and attention, you’ll find self-compassion as you care for yourself. Do the things you need, be kind, and enjoy your time. Focusing on yourself not all increases self-compassion but it also improves your overall well-being and helps you get to know yourself better.

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Final Thoughts on Affirmations to Increase Self-Compassion

Negative thoughts can be hard to escape, but self-compassion makes it easier to give yourself grace. Self-criticism and judgment bring you down and can prevent you from compassionate self-talk. Ultimately, you block yourself from reaching your goals.

These affirmations can help you refocus and increase self-compassion, improving your life. You’ll begin to understand yourself and embrace every part of who you are.

14 Red Flags Someone Is Using Avoidance Around You

Avoidance coping is a way that people deal with negative feelings. Rather than dealing with the situation and moving on, they avoid it and let it disrupt their life. This coping strategy involves avoiding problems and discomfort, even when addressing the issues that could improve their life.

This type of coping can cause mental health issues while diminishing self-confidence. Avoidance is a way to navigate stressful experiences but contributes to negative thoughts and behaviors. As a passive coping mechanism, it involves ignoring or avoiding stress.

Overcoming avoidance coping requires learning to recognize the signs. Knowing the red flags can also help if someone in your life uses them around you. You’ll understand their behavior better and can help them recognize and move on from the issue.

Rather than opting for avoidance coping, the person should focus on finding solutions that help them heal from trauma. Because avoiding things worsens the situation, finding new ways to cope can make a difference.

Why Avoidance Is an Unhealthy Coping Strategy

Avoiding problems or discomfort might seem better than dealing with them, but it drags the problem out longer. Research indicates that it can lead to anxiety, worsening stress, and depression. When someone lets uncomfortable situations linger, it doesn’t allow for a resolution.

Avoiding emotions contributes to stress, exacerbating the avoidance behaviors. It creates a vicious cycle and hinders your emotional stress response. Additionally, this type of coping can lead to eating disorders and alcohol abuse.

How a person handles life leads to stress and detrimental effects. Learning about avoidance coping can help make a positive shift, allowing the person to focus on dealing with things as they come up. Overcoming issues and discomfort lets you move forward with less stress because the situation is no longer lingering.

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Red Flags Someone Is Using Avoidance Around You

If you see someone using these avoidance tactics around you, it might be time to have a difficult conversation.

1 – They use being busy as an avoidance tactic.

If someone has to have a conversation that they’re not looking forward to, they might continually put it off. They’ll claim to be too busy, even if the conversation only takes a few minutes. When people use this excuse, they’ll likely say they’ll take care of it after getting a few other things off their plate.

Some people also focus on staying busy to avoid dealing with their feelings. Staying active can be an escape system to prevent experiencing their emotions. However, this plan is detrimental because it interferes with healing.

People will convince themselves that if they power through without pausing, they’ll get over their stress. However, not taking the time to slow down doesn’t allow for coping or healing. The negative feelings worsen the longer they’re pushed away.

2 – An avoidance of dealing with things that could have a negative outcome.

Someone might put off going to the doctor if they’re worried about their test results. If they suspect something serious is wrong, they feel that putting off a doctor’s appointment gives them more time.

They might do the same if they know their pet is sick and might be dying. In this case, avoiding the vet gives them time before they hear confirmation of their fears.

Often, someone who uses avoidance coping will wait to address the issues if they fear bad news. It’s easier for them to remain in the dark than seek a professional opinion, interfering with their mental health.

3 – They don’t go somewhere they once enjoyed because of discomfort.

A person experiencing avoidance coping might stop going to a specific place if they were uncomfortable there at one time. They might have been flirted with by someone who made them uncomfortable, so they stopped going.

Rather than confront the issue and tell the person they don’t like it, they no longer go to a place that once brought joy. While it seems easy to avoid the location, it can cause bitterness, resentment, and depression.

4 – They won’t start something unless they have a clear idea of how they’ll finish.

If someone uses avoidance around you, the person might not want to begin a task unless they can see a clear ending. They try to protect themselves by avoiding anything they’re unsure about seeing through.

It prevents them from getting started and reaching their goals. Plus, it can cause them to miss out on experiences and opportunities, potentially holding you back if you work together.

5 – They rely on unhealthy coping techniques.

Sometimes people with avoidance tendencies rely on unhealthy coping methods to get them through hard times. They avoid their feelings by relying on negative behaviors like overeating unhealthy foods and substance abuse.

6 – They stop coming around because of uncomfortable feelings, thoughts, or memories.

Someone might use avoidance around you because of something uncomfortable that occurred. It might not have anything to do with you, but if you witnessed the situation or reminded the person of it, they might avoid coming around.

Sometimes they’ll avoid coming to parties or events because they feel nervous. They’ll give an excuse each time you invite them. Don’t take it personally, as they’re likely avoiding their feelings.

7 – They avoid things that they aren’t the best at.

When someone isn’t the best at something, they might avoid attempting it. The person doesn’t want to feel less than average at anything. It sometimes interferes with their ability to try new things or take the time to develop their skills.

Social comparison often causes fear, leading to those with avoidance behaviors not participating. It shows that they base their sense of self-worth on being the best, and it’s not beneficial to their growth. This method prevents people from learning new things and improving in areas that need attention.

8 – Avoidance looks like giving up when something makes them anxious.

People with an avoidance tendency might give up when something makes them nervous or anxious. Rather than overcoming the feelings and persevering, they choose not to try. They avoid tasks that make them anxious, quitting whenever things get tough.

9 – They avoid potentially awkward situations.

If someone avoids awkward situations, it’s a sign that they are using avoidance behavior around you. They don’t want to have the conversations because it could cause undesirable consequences. It shows that the person avoids things, even when it could improve the situation.

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10 – Avoidance of unwelcome attention.

Some people will do whatever they can to avoid attention. Even when they’re good at something, they choose to underperform. They don’t want attention, and they don’t want anyone to be angry if they do better. People who behave this way often wish to be undetected in a group. They feel failure, but success seems fraudulent to them.

11 – Avoidance of anything that might trigger painful memories.

Sometimes people avoid a situation or location that triggers painful memories for them. It shows that they didn’t take the time to cope and heal so that they could move on.

For instance, they might avoid asking their boss a question if their boss reprimanded them in the past. Approaching their boss for a one-on-one conversation can retrigger how the person felt during the reprimand. Likewise, they might be afraid to ask a question in a social situation because they got ridiculed for it in the past.

12 – They agree to things they don’t want to do.

Working overtime when they don’t want to or have other plans is a sign someone is using avoidance around you. Likewise, another indication is agreeing to help someone when you don’t have the time or desire.

They agree to things they don’t want to do to avoid upsetting people. These people also won’t ask for things they want to need because they worry it’ll upset someone.

13 – Avoidance of physical sensations.

Some people who experience avoidance coping do anything to avoid physical sensations. They might not want others touching them because they don’t feel good about their body. Additionally, they likely avoid sexual interaction.

14 – They don’t want to deal with their feelings.

Sometimes you’ll notice someone experiencing avoidance behaviors overeats to drown out their feelings. They don’t want to deal with the issues that disrupt their well-being, so they overindulge.

Four Coping Strategies That Work Better Than Avoidance

If someone in your life uses avoidance around you, there are some things you can suggest to them. Other coping methods can help them work through their issues rather than avoid them.

Coping Strategy #1 – Practice Not Being the Best

Being around people who are better at something can help with learning. You can’t expect to be the best without putting it into practice, so it’s the perfect way to cope with these situations.

Coping Strategy #2 – Take Time to Pause

Pausing allows for the opportunity to notice feelings and learn to handle them. It might sound scary to let yourself feel the emotions, but it’ll improve your overall well-being.

Coping Strategy #3 – Don’t Worry About Anything Except the First Step

Learning to worry less is essential for someone who uses avoidance because they don’t know how to finish a task. Releasing worry about anything other than the first step allows for productivity and reaching goals. It can also help you come up with new ideas or insights.

Coping Strategy #4 – See a Professional to Help Find Healthier Outlets Than Avoidance

A therapist can help someone with avoidance tendencies find healthier coping methods. The professional can also help overcome trauma so that moving forward is possible.

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Final Thoughts on Red Flags Someone Is Using Avoidance Around You

Overcoming avoidance coping isn’t always easy, but it’s worth the effort. If someone exhibits the behavior around you, you can offer suggestions on how they can ease the anxiety and stress. An alternate healthy and effective coping strategy can allow people to face fears and overcome trauma. It’s not easy because it brings discomfort, but it gets easier the more someone does it.

12 Ways to Stop Eating Unhealthy

For years, a common trend was that you could stay healthy if you exercised a lot, even if you were eating unhealthy foods. It turns out this was terrible advice. Researchers are now saying all the exercise in the world is no match for poor eating habits. If your diet consists of sugary, fatty foods, you’re at risk for heart disease and certain cancers. If you’re struggling with poor eating habits, here are 12 ways to stop eating unhealthy. 

What did the study find?

According to a recent study, high levels of exercise can’t offset the destructive effects of a poor diet. The participants with a good quality diet and a good amount of activity reduced their mortality risk by 17%. They had a 27% lower risk of certain types of cancers and a 19% lower risk of heart disease. In other words, to stay healthy and live longer, you must eat well and stay active. Trying to outrun your poor eating habits by exercising a lot won’t work. 

What are the dangers of dieting?

You might want good eating habits but need to lose weight. Should you go on a diet? Typically, diets are ineffective long-term. You may lose a few pounds the first couple of weeks, but when you go off the diet, you’ll likely gain back what you lost, plus more. Most of the time, the weight you lost was only water weight. Diets can be dangerous to your mental health and your physical health. The downsides of too restrictive of a diet program are listed below.

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1. Unhealthy eating and fad diets slow down your metabolism:

Your metabolism burns calories and gives you energy. When you don’t eat enough calories, your metabolism slows down. It stops weight loss because your body focuses on maintaining fat for energy. You may try to exercise more, but eventually, your metabolism will plateau, and you’ll get discouraged. It’s best to exercise and eat healthy foods to keep your metabolism burning calories. To lose one pound a week, remove five hundred calories daily from your diet and exercise regularly. 

2. You could gain weight after you stop dieting:

Diets are short-term affairs that focus on the extremes. Dieting doesn’t teach you good eating habits or portion control. You fall back into your bad eating habits as soon as you stop the diet. 

3. Unhealthy eating might mean missing out on minerals and vitamins:

It is never wise to eliminate a food group. When you take away a food group, you miss out on the minerals and vitamins your body needs to function correctly. You may not realize the harm dieting does to your body until you’re older. Older women with osteoporosis are often those who are heavy dieters. Cutting out Vitamin D and calcium could result in brittle bones when you’re older. Eating high protein puts stress on your kidneys. There have been cases of acute kidney failure due to high protein diets. 

4. Fad diets and false wording:

Some diets sound so good for you. Who doesn’t want to “detox” and “cleanse” your body? The fact is, your body can detox itself. Your intestines already cleanse your body using fiber and water. Your liver naturally detoxes your body. Beware wording with promises like “quick weight loss.” Rapid weight loss isn’t healthy and rarely long-lasting. Losing weight too quickly makes you feel weak. You often get dehydrated or constipated. 

5. Causes discouragement:

Diets make promises they can’t keep and force you to feel like you failed if you don’t lose weight. Some diets use scare tactics telling you that you must eat one food group to lose weight. Don’t fall for the lies. 

What are good eating habits?

If you want to stop eating unhealthy foods, the keyword for you is balance. Eat a balanced diet and exercise are the best practices for good health and longevity. It almost sounds too simple. However, the CDC estimates that eighty percent of all cardiovascular diseases, premature heart disease, and strokes are preventable. Life habits such as a healthy diet and regular exercise are essential. 

12 Ways to Stop Eating Unhealthy

Try adding one or two of these good eating habits to your daily routine, then add another. Rinse and repeat. Before long, you will have an entire toolkit of good eating habits.

1. Start the day with healthy food

Start the day off with healthy foods. When you begin your day with healthy foods, you’re more likely to not binge on junk food later in the day. A healthy breakfast with some protein will help you feel full and satisfied. Here are a few healthy breakfast ideas: 

  • Oatmeal with fruit and chia seeds
  • Eggs with cheese and veggies
  • Breakfast smoothie made with yogurt, fruit, hemp seeds, or nut butter
  • Whole grain pancakes with carrots, banana 

2. Stop and analyze why you are eating unhealthy things

If you crave certain foods, ask yourself why you want to eat them now. Are you hungry, or are you simply bored? Do you want to eat because you’re feeling sad? Examining your feelings about eating is a great way to stop eating unhealthy foods. It helps you learn to deal with your emotions instead of turning to food. 

3. Plan ahead to avoid unhealthy eating situations

Create a menu. Make a shopping list according to your menu. Be sure to buy everything you need for your meals. You won’t have the urge to eat fast food for dinner if you’re tired. If you don’t like to cook, keep it simple. Plan to make four ingredient dinners. Strive to have healthy protein, one or two vegetables, and whole grain carbohydrates for each meal. Meal ideas could be

  • Ground turkey burgers on a whole wheat bun with pickles and mayonnaise, salad, and sweet potato fries
  • Grilled chicken, greens beans, roasted asparagus, and brown rice
  • Fish tacos topped with greens, chopped sweet peppers, cheese, and black beans.  
  • Grilled salmon, salad, roasted broccoli, and brown rice

4. Keep healthy snacks available

Good eating habits only happen when you have healthy foods at your fingertips. So keep your pantry and fridge well stocked with nuts, seeds, popcorn, low-sugar granola bars, yogurt, and fresh fruits. The more healthy foods you have, the easier it’ll be to avoid eating junk foods. 

5. Chew gum if you’re hungry

One way to stave off hunger is to chew gum. It’s an excellent way to distract yourself from snacking. There’s new chewing gum in town. It’s vegan and kosher and has no artificial flavors, colors, or sweeteners. It’s a better choice than sugar-free or sugary chewing gum. Most stores carry this all-natural chewing gum. 

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6. Eat enough protein

Protein fills you up. It keeps you feeling satisfied longer and increases your body’s production of peptides, a hormone in your gut that makes you feel full longer. It also reduces ghrelin, a hunger hormone. Protein also speeds up your metabolism. Healthy proteins include

  • Fish
  • Lean meats
  • Legumes
  • Dairy products
  • Nuts and seeds

7. Drink lots of water (you’ll feel fuller and encourage better eating habits)

Water is the healthiest choice when you’re thirsty. Avoid energy drinks, sugar sodas, and sweetened coffee drinks. Diet drinks are low in sugar, but they may increase your appetite. Fruit juices give you minerals and vitamins, but they are extra calories you might not need. Quench your thirst with cold water. 

8. Avoid buying processed foods

Skip buying overly-processed foods. They lack vitamins and minerals. Many of them contain a lot of additives, chemicals, dyes, and preservatives. Processed foods you want to avoid include

  • Hot dogs
  • Chips
  • Cookies
  • Frozen pizza
  • Deli meats
  • White bread

Some minimally processed foods may be okay. These foods are bagged or packaged but lack additives and other chemicals. Examples of minimally processed foods that are safe to eat include:

  • Bagged salads
  • Frozen vegetables
  • Frozen fruits
  • Milk
  • Cheeses
  • Rice and other whole grains
  • Flours
  • Eggs

9. Stock your freezer

Another way to stop eating unhealthy foods is to keep healthy frozen foods on hand for quick meal preparation. A wide assortment of meat, frozen veggies, and frozen fruits also saves you money. Stock up on

  • Frozen fruits: Mixed berries, strawberries, or mangos are great for smoothies.
  • Frozen brown rice: Quick preparation rice packets save you time when cooking.
  • Frozen meats: Break down meat packages from the store in the correct amount you need and put them in freezer zip loc bags. 
  • Frozen tomato or pesto sauces: If you make these or open a jar, store the leftover spices in containers and freeze them for another meal. 
  • Shredded chicken: Bake chicken, then shred it. Freeze for other meals. 

10. Stay busy to avoid eating unhealthy things out of boredom

You might eat when you’re bored. Many people do this, so it’s good to kick the habit by finding something to do. Come up with a plan to avoid junk food cravings or unhealthy snacks. You may want to try:

  • Learning to knit: Many say keeping their hands busy helps them not overeat
  • Go for a walk or jog
  • Take your dog to the park
  • Call a friend or family member
  • Run errands 

11. Break the unhealthy eating at snack time

It’s best to avoid snacking because it’s easy to grab unhealthy foods. Try to stick to four small meals a day. Eat enough protein to keep yourself satisfied. So you won’t want to snack. But if you need to snack, choose something like

  • Carrots and hummus
  • Natural popcorn with light olive oil and a little salt
  • Peanut butter on celery sticks
  • Mozerella sticks

12. Be sure to have a variety

If you’re trying to avoid eating unhealthy, make your diet exciting and varied so you don’t get bored. If you eat the same foods every day, you might grab junk food to break up the food boredom. 

How much exercise do you need?

You can reap health benefits from doing moderate to intensive exercise for two hours and thirty minutes (150 minutes) of exercise per week. If you exercise more vigorously, 1 hour and 15 minutes (75 minutes) of activity are enough. This workout could be: 

  • Brisk walking
  • Playing outdoors with your kids
  • Gardening
  • Raking leaves
  • Riding your bike
  • Swimming

Stay active by cleaning your house, running to catch the bus, or taking the stairs instead of the elevator at work.

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Final thoughts on reframing your mind to stop eating unhealthy

Exercise is not a replacement for good eating habits. However, if you’re trying to improve your overall health, you should maintain your regular exercise and eat unhealthy foods. These twelve suggestions are guaranteed to set you on a new course for a healthier you in the coming year.  

10 Ways to Protect a Tender Heart

If you have a tender heart, you no doubt know the pain of heartbreak. Sadly, tender-hearted people are often used as doormats for people who take advantage of their kind and generous nature. You must be careful with your heart, as it’s easily broken.

The world needs more people like you who give without questioning and are great friends in your corner. Sadly, there are those folks who will use and abuse you because you’re such a kind soul. Protecting yourself is the key to learning to live with your big heart and not being constantly under stress.

Ten Tips to Protect Your Tender Heart

Some people will see your vulnerabilities as weaknesses, so you always try to stay one step ahead. Here are some ways to protect your tender heart from being broken.

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1. Channel Your Sympathetic Side to Guard Your Tender Heart

A tender-hearted person is often sympathetic to the needs and wants of others. Be forewarned that people know who is more apt to give them something. You might feel sorry for someone who’s down on their luck and end up enabling bad behavior.

While you do things from a good and honorable place inside, ensure that you don’t let people take advantage of you. If you’re overly generous, you will have people on your door 24×7 wanting to borrow things and asking for favors. You can quickly run ragged trying to help others.

Always be sympathetic and listen to folks going through challenging situations, but you must know that there’s only so much you can do to help.

2. Someone With a Tender Heart Should Not Give All Their Energy to Others

A tender-hearted person likes to reach out to others. You may help at local charities and give until you have nothing left. Some folks and situations can be energy hogs if you allow them to be.

Another concern is that you can work so hard to give to others that you neglect yourself. You can be left feeling drained and empty if you don’t engage in self-care and ensure your needs are met. Sometimes you must turn off that empathetic side and take care of yourself for a while.

3. Be Careful of Other People’s Negativity and Drama if You Are Tender-hearted

Counselors must shake off all the toxic things they hear in a day and put distance between themselves and their patients. They talk with people in very dark places in their life, and they can quickly bring home all this negativity with them. As a tender heart, you must also worry about not getting too involved in people’s drama.

Have you ever seen a tornado hit the ground? The United States experiences around 1,225 storms each year. The average scale of a tornado is an F-2, with winds between 113 – 157 mph. These potent storms can suck anything around them up into their vortex. Unfortunately, unkind people can be just as dangerous.

Allowing yourself to become too involved in someone’s drama can destroy you and your tender heart. Don’t let people draw you into their troubles, as it can leave you ravaged like a tornado wrecking a small town. Many folks turn hard-hearted because they’ve been hurt so much in life, and you certainly don’t want that to happen.

4. Watch What You Tell Others About Yourself

You’re a kind person who sees someone struggling and automatically thinks back to things you’ve been through in your life. While you want to support others and share how you’ve overcome, you must be careful about revealing too much of yourself to the wrong people. Remember that anything you say can and might be used against you, so you want to weigh your words wisely.

Advise without sharing too many of your intimate secrets with people you don’t know that well. Live by the rule that you should never tell someone something about your life unless you feel safe with it being broadcast.

5. Tender-hearted People Must Avoid Displaying Raw Emotions

As a tender-hearted person, you cry at movies, when someone loses a pet, or even from a story you read on the internet. Your emotions are sometimes raw because you’re very compassionate. Some folks might see your emotional side as vulnerable and can use it against you.

There’s nothing wrong with being sensitive, but don’t let people see this as a door to use and abuse you and your generosities.

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6. Never Let People Disrespect You

You have genuine respect for others. You would never say or do anything to deliberately hurt someone. However, other people aren’t so kind. Never let someone disregard your dignity as a human being.

When it comes to the love in your life, make sure they stay within boundaries that you’ve designed to protect yourself. It’s easy to let your compassion take over and be treated in disrespectful ways. You must learn to love yourself enough not to take people’s garbage.

7. Someone With a Tender Heart Must Learn to Say No

One of the biggest follies of a tender heart is that you don’t know when to say no. You will exhaust yourself and give all your resources because you don’t want to let others down by refusing them. It would help if you learned to put your own needs first.

Being tender-hearted allows you to do amazing things. But can it make you overbook yourself. If you want to avoid being upset and stressed and end up broken down and sick, learn how to say no to people.

8. Build A Support Network With Other Tender-hearted People

You’re only as good as your support system. Who do you run to in times of trouble? Some find a counselor on speed dial does the trick, while others visit a wise grandmother who is well schooled in life. It doesn’t matter where you draw your strength from, but your tender heart needs someone that is a source of encouragement for you.

In the Catholic religion, people go to the priest to confess their sins and get things off their chest. The act is not only symbolic but necessary for cleansing. People always feel lighter and refreshed once they lay their burdens down. The same can be said of you and your tender heart once you unload some things weighing on you.

Find friends, relatives, or a counselor who can be your sounding board and let you lay things at their feet. The key is not picking them back up when you leave, as your sensitive nature will dwell on these to the point of madness.

9. A Tender Heart Needs to Find Positive Ways to Decompress

How do you decompress? Life is stressful on a good day, and your tender-hearted self can also feel the pangs from empathy. It would help if you had a way to get rid of it and have fun. Hobbies are a great way to throw caution to the wind and enjoy yourself.

Nothing feels better than busting a golf ball as hard as you can with a putter; talk about some stress relief. Find something that helps you channel some of the energy that you’ve picked up. Axe throwing has become a prevalent sport in this country for this reason.

Ten years ago, there weren’t such venues to allow you to throw axes, but now they’re everywhere. People need ways of getting rid of all the negativity they ingest in a day, and the tender heart you carry needs this decompression.

10. A Tender-Hearted Person Should Learn to Set Boundaries of Forgiveness

This point is controversial because you learn to forgive others if you want to receive forgiveness. It’s the right thing to do as you don’t want to hold grudges either, right? Consequently, there are times when forgiveness isn’t warranted.

Many folks are eager to forgive someone because they want closure. It feels better when you resolve the matter. Did you know that when you forgive someone, situational, individual, and psychological factors come into play?

Sadly, some people don’t warrant your forgiveness. What about a person who shows malevolence and no remorse for their actions? Why would you forgive them when they’re not sorry?

Some folks get satisfaction from your pain, and there’s no earthly reason why you need to forgive them. It’s best to let it go, as you know they’re not going to lose sleep over it. Learn to grieve for what could have been with this person and move forward.

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Final Thoughts on Protecting Your Tender Heart

Being tender-hearted is a beautiful gift that the Universe gave you. You’re kind and compassionate and tend to sympathize with those around you. While it’s lovely to give of yourself freely to help others, you can’t neglect your own needs.

You want to keep your heart from being broken, as you know that’s easy to do. The tender-hearted person tends to be fragile and often wears their emotions on their sleeves. By doing a few of the above-listed things, you can learn how to channel all the good in you in the proper direction and avoid getting burned out or hurt.

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