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8 Behaviors That Reveal Someone Was Raised By Depressed Parents

April 12, 2018 by Power of Positivity

According to The National Council on the Developing Child Working Paper on Maternal Depression, upwards of 20 percent of mothers suffer from feeling depressed at some time during their lives – and often when their children are still of a young age.

But depression doesn’t just affect women…

Though females are twice as likely to develop the condition. The American Psychological Association (APA) estimates that 9 percent of men in the United States have daily feelings of depression or anxiety.

Why are these numbers important?

Frankly speaking, children – particularly when they are younger – depend on continuous interaction from adults. Here’s Dr. Masgrove: “For young children, healthy development depends on the daily, consistent and responsive interactions with a primary caregiver.” It is worth mentioning at this point that up to one-third of fathers with working wives are regular caretakers.

Parents who battle untreated depression are less willing, or able to, say, help their kids with homework, remember a doctor’s appointment, or read them a bedtime story. In short, the quality of caregiving suffers – and the child’s development is often adversely affected.

Dr. Ann Masgrove, a developmental scientist and faculty member at the University of Arizona, specializes in family studies and human development. One wonders if this career choice was born out of what she herself experienced as a child. Indeed, Masgrove’s narrative is saddening and tragic…

“When I think back to my mother when I was a child, I don’t have a single memory of her smiling. She suffered from chronic, lifelong depression, and it affected me and my four siblings every day.” ~ Dr. Ann Masgrove: “How my mother’s depression shaped my whole life.”

“We quickly learned that we couldn’t depend on (my mother) for emotional or physical support,” Masgrove says. “At 7, I became my family’s caretaker.”

Transitioning to adulthood can be a difficult task, as well. Here we will focus on the possible effects of parental and maternal depression once a person reaches adulthood and beyond.

Here are 8 adult behaviors of someone who had depressed parents:

1. Disciplinary Problems

Most kids who have severe disciplinary problems are often experiencing some dysfunction in the home. Sadly, if the situation (i.e., a parent’s depression or poor caregiving) is not rectified, the odds of any behavioral and disciplinary troubles carrying on into adulthood increase considerably.

2. Social Difficulties

Per the World Health Organization (WHO), children with depressed parents are more likely to experience social problems: “The most compelling evidence for the impact of attachment status on the child is with respect to peer relations.”

The WHO report concludes that these social difficulties “have been shown to be related to behavioral problems, including disruptiveness, aggression, and delinquency, especially in boys.”

3. Withdrawal and Isolation

When a kid is worried about what’s wrong with mommy or daddy, the child may very well disengage from their external environment. This is a big problem because young kids require outside stimulation for healthy brain development. Sometimes, this relative lack of interest in the outside world extends to their peers.

In short, social withdrawal or isolation is one of the most damaging things to a child’s development.

4. Anxiety and Depression

Studies show that children of depressed parents are up to three times more likely to develop depression and anxiety than kids of non-depressed parents.

According to Healthline, scientists “believe that as many as 40 percent of those with depression can track it to a genetic link.” Environmental factors, according to the research, account for 60 percent.

5. Poor Emotional Intelligence

The poor emotional intelligence (EI) of adults with depressed parents is likely attributable to one of two things: (1) infrequent caregiver interaction that stunts emotional development, or (2) withdrawal from peers, which is essential to this type of intelligence.

Self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management, the four components of EI, are far more important to success than IQ or educational attainment.

6. Underachievement or Overachievement

Here’s Dr. Masgrove: “I was a perfectionist, an overachiever, always trying to get my mother to notice me, always longing for her acceptance, love, and attention that just never came my way.” Masgrove’s personality carried on into adulthood.

On the opposite side of overachievers are those kids-turned-adults who have, most unfortunately, deeply entrenched cognitive, psychological, and/or social troubles.

7. Physical Health Problems

According to a World Health Organization (WHO) review study, a fair amount of evidence exists that shows a link between the quality of psychosocial care – measured by the caregiver’s affection, openness, and warmth – and a person’s nutrition and growth status.

Depression often leads to inadequate caregiving, which may ultimately negatively impact a person’s physical health.

8. Loss of Direction

Per the WHO report, “Infant temperament, particularly infant difficultness, has been found to be associated with the caregiver-child interaction,” adding “Mothers report feeling overwhelmed by the challenges of caring for a vulnerable child.”

Feelings of overwhelm (e.g., anxiety) unquestionably have strong environmental roots – and it’s something with which we all must contend. However, one’s outlook on life is also shaped by their caregivers; and an inability to manage (and see past) life’s obstacles carries a real risk of leaving someone adrift.

Researchers Explain What Your Eye Color Says About Your Personality

April 11, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Do you know the factors that influence eye color? Surely, most of us simply answer “genetics,” and this is partially true. Partially.

Per the University of Delaware, “Eye color is not an example of a simple genetic trait. (Instead), eye color (is caused) by the variation of several different genes and the interaction between them … this makes it possible (for example) for two blue-eyed parents to have brown-eyed children.”

(It’s worth noting here that we’re NOT referring to the whites of the eyes, but the color of the iris. The former, of course, is at times a clear indicator of one’s state of health.)

While humans have successfully decrypted the human genome, these “interactions” are numerous – with many being inexplicable. Consider the title of this article. What in the heck could eye color say about your health and personality? Well, if the studies mentioned here are valid, they can reveal quite a bit.

Here are five things that your eye color may show about your health and personality!

Light eyes: You’re Competitive

In a 336-person study, Australian researchers surveyed people of white European descent with the aim of measuring personality traits. The assessment included statements like “I make people feel at ease, “I see myself as someone who is considerate and kind to almost everyone,” as well as one’s association with words such as friendliness, generosity, and empathy.

Analysis of the research found that people with lighter eyes (for example, blue and light green) are viewed as more competitive and less agreeable.

Light eyes: You’re Less Likely to Develop Vitiligo

Vitiligo is an autoimmune disease in which certain areas of the skin lose pigment cells. Symptoms and signs of vitiligo include patchy or depigmented areas of the skin that cover the body, including the hair, retina, and mucous membranes.

In a study undertaken by scientists from the University of Colorado School of Medicine, researchers found that just 27 percent of the nearly 3,000 people diagnosed with vitiligo had blue or grey eyes. A link also exists between vitiligo and other diseases, such as type 1 diabetes, lupus, and thyroid disease.

RELATED: WHAT YOUR EYE SHAPE REVEALS ABOUT YOUR PERSONALITY

Dark eyes: You Drink Less

“People with light irises drink more, that’s an undeniable conclusion of this study,” says Christopher Quinn, an ophthalmologist and board member of the American Optometric Association. But, how and why?

The study that Dr. Quinn speaks of is a Georgia State University survey of 12,000 men and women in which the researchers state they found “a real relation between eye color and alcohol consumption.”

Scientists note that the relationship between eye color and propensity for alcohol usage possibly stems from “greater sensitivity to alcohol (and some medications in dark-eyed individuals” and the connections between the limbic (emotional and arousal) centers of the brain and eye color.

Dark eyes: You’re More Trustworthy

In a study published in the journal PLOS ONE, participants asked 238 volunteers to rate the trustworthiness of a person based on eye color. “Eye color had a significant effect,” the authors note, but stating that they were a bit less certain whether additional facial features – the chin, jaw, brow, etc. – influenced the results.

As such, the researchers concluded with “…it was not brown eye color per se that caused the stronger perception of trustworthiness but rather the facial features associated with brown eyes.” Facial features such as larger eyes, bigger mouths, and broader chins also correlate with trustworthiness, according to the authors.

Dark eyes: You Have Healthier Eyes

Per a study published in Clinical and Experimental Ophthalmology, people with light-colored eyes may be up to twice as likely to develop macular degeneration than people with eyes of a darker shade. Macular degeneration is a condition which may result in blurred or no vision in the center of the visual field.

The reason, says ophthalmologists, is that darker irises block U.V. light more effectively than lighter ones. U.V. light is, of course, a significant risk factor for the development of several eye-related conditions, including progressively worse vision while aging.

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5 Easy Ways to Relieve Thyroid Problems Naturally

April 11, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Thyroid problems can wreak havoc on one’s overall wellness. If you seek information to try to reverse the harm, rest assured you are not alone.

“An estimated 20 million Americans have some form of thyroid disease. Up to 60 percent (are) unaware of their condition. Women are five to eight times more likely than men to have thyroid problems. One woman in eight will develop a thyroid disorder during her lifetime.” ~ American Thyroid Association

For such a small gland, the thyroid gland immensely impacts our health. So consider just some of the things that the thyroid hormone affects:

cholesterol levels
heart rate
body weight
energy levels and mood
muscle contraction and relaxation
skin and hair texture
bowel function
fertility
menstrual regularity
memory

Thyroid Conditions

Given its broad scope of responsibilities, it’s hardly a surprise that many things can go awry when the thyroid isn’t properly functioning. A thyroid problem is directly related to hormone production – conditions known as hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism.

Hypothyroidism is the name given to an underactive thyroid. Low thyroid hormone levels define this disorder of the endocrine system. Hypothyroidism can cause numerous symptoms, including constipation, fatigue, depression, and weight gain.

The overproduction of thyroid hormones characterizes hyperthyroidism. An overactive thyroid can significantly accelerate the body’s metabolic functions. Symptoms of hyperthyroidism include irregular heartbeat, nervousness and irritability, heart palpitations, and sudden weight loss.

The causes of thyroid disorders include the following:

autoimmune deficiency
consuming too many soy-based foods
high estrogen levels or low progesterone levels\
nutritional deficiencies, including iodine, selenium, tyrosine, and zinc
toxic levels of mercury

Natural Thyroid Treatments

The problems with thyroid-related treatments mimic those of other medical disorders in that they’re costly, have numerous side effects, and are often ineffective. Then, of course, there’s the more significant issue of being on medication for the rest of your life and the long-term implications of such.

As mentioned, nutritional deficiencies are often a cause of thyroid troubles. On that note, it is crucial to ensure adequate intake of the above nutrients: iodine, selenium, tyrosine, and zinc.

Of the four nutrients, iodine deficiency is far and away the most common deficiency associated with thyroid troubles. Iodine enters the body through iodine-rich foods, including iodized salt, eggs, fish, sea vegetables, raw and unpasteurized dairy products, and certain whole-grain foods. If you ruminate over possibly not having enough vitamins and minerals in your diet, a good supplement will do fine (preferably all-natural or organic.)

Here are some other natural treatments that may ease some of your thyroid troubles:

1. Ashwagandha

As with most natural treatments, this Ayurvedic herb isn’t studied or talked about much in traditional medicine. However, some herbalists and other naturopaths (and some medical doctors) state that ashwagandha appears to directly affect the thyroid hormones ‘T3′ and ‘T4′.

“Ashwagandha is my favorite choice for supporting the thyroid when stress is also a concern,” says Natasha Turner, naturopath and author of The Supercharged Hormone Diet. She recommends taking between 750 to 1000 milligrams (mg) daily.

2. Coconut Oil

Coconut oil contains lauric acid, caprylic acid, and capric acid – all medium-chain fatty acids that increase energy and promote a healthy metabolism. Several studies have shown that merely adding a tablespoon of coconut oil to your diet can accelerate fat loss.

The oil of coconut is quite versatile. In fact, it can be used as cooking oil or as an additive. Many people who swear by coconut oil also add a tablespoon to their favorite smoothie.

3. Probiotics

Probiotics may help thyroid troubles by healing the gut. Products such as kefir, kimchi, kombucha, organic yogurt, sauerkraut, and others also contain their fair share of quality ‘Probs.’

Mechanically, probiotics promote a healthy balance of microflora bacteria in the gastrointestinal (GI) tract. A well-balanced microbiome helps to absorb nutrients, heal leaky gut syndrome, heal inflammation, and suppress adverse autoimmune reactions.

4. Seaweed

Quality seaweed is a beautiful source of iodine, the most common nutrient deficiency for people with thyroid problems. Quality and freshness are paramount when choosing a seaweed product.

Kelp, kombu, nori, and wakame are all seaweeds that are relatively easy to find. Dry varieties of seaweed can be found in local health food stores. Common recipes include seaweed added to fish cakes, tuna fish, and soups.

5. Try a Shoulder Stand

Okay, we won’t try explaining this one for health reasons. Here’s Andrew Weil, M.D., explaining why it may help:

“…a shoulder stand (can) help by increasing circulation to the thyroid (this isn’t a good idea if you’re pregnant, menstruating, or have glaucoma and should be done with caution if you have high blood pressure or sinus problems).”

Before you engage in this athletic move, we advise seeking medical advice from your doctor, especially if you have additional health concerns. Another piece of advice: make sure to stretch, and if you feel pain at any time, immediately discontinue the pose.

Science Explains What Happens to Your Body When You Cuddle Every Day

April 10, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Do you like to cuddle? Do you embrace the comfort of snuggling up against your love? Well, there may be some scientific reasoning behind these lovey-dovey feelings.

Our sense of touch is the very first sense that we develop. After just eight weeks in the womb, a 2.5-centimeter long embryo already has a highly developed sense of touch. Towards the end of life, our sense of touch is the last sense to diminish.

As it turns out, physical manifestations of touch are vital to psychological well-being. Katherine Harmon, an award-winning writer and journalist for Scientific American, wrote in 2010:

“…researchers have been discovering how emphasizing skin-to-skin contact between baby and parent can be a boon to both, and how consistent emotional engagement with infants can speed their development and recognition of self.”

Harmon notes, tragically, that babies who are deprived of touch and emotional engagement “are at a higher risk for behavioral, emotional, and social problems as they grow up.” These problems, Harmon states, could remain with a person throughout their life.

From Babies to the Bedroom…

Harmon’s research is mentioned for this reason: to demonstrate the incredible physical and psychological influence of human touch. We are biologically hardwired to receive touch and, as Harmon explains, the lack thereof can manifest into serious problems.

Which brings us to cuddling. Cuddling, as we all know, is the act of holding someone close as a way of showing love or affection. It is also one of the most intimately effective forms of touch. (Cuddling is also a common practice among members of the same sex – and the benefits are just as tangible.)

Here are a few of the things that science says happens to your body when you cuddle:

“Although poets and authors have tried to describe love, in the world of neuroscience, researchers have found that the naturally occurring hormone oxytocin and love are intimately related.” ~ Psychology Today

You Feel Happier

Cuddling stimulates release of the brain chemical oxytocin, one of the brain’s “feel-good” hormones. Some people also refer to oxytocin as the “love hormone,” as it creates strong feelings of relaxation, stability, and trust. Additionally, oxytocin also appears to reduce stress responses, including anxiety. It also positively influences bonding behavior.

Oxytocin also produces many physical and psychological effects. In females, oxytocin plays essential roles in reproductive functions, including breastfeeding, giving birth, and sexual activity.

You Feel More Connected

According to Dr. Fran Walfish, a renowned child, couple, and family psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, California, cuddling is a powerful way to bring two people close together:

“The most obvious benefit to cuddling is getting close to your partner in the physical sense. There is also the release of dopamine which is an excitatory hormone that increases sexual desire.”

Cuddling also enhances the bond between parents and babies. Science points to the release of neuropeptides as the reason for this effect.

You Communicate Better

As we all know, non-verbal communication is just as powerful as the verbal kind. We all want to be understood, and communication is the underpinning of empathy and understanding.

Sarah Watson, a licensed marriage counselor, says “Cuddling is such a great way for couples to connect! (It) helps us bond, and can lower anxiety, depression and blood pressure. I recommend cuddling to increase intimacy with your partner.”

You Feel Better Rested

In a study published by the Max Planck Institute of Psychiatry in Munich, Germany, researchers found that activation of parts of the brain’s HPA axis helps promote restfulness. More specifically, the actions of neuropeptides in the HPA axis regulate healthy sleep-wake behaviors.

Any couple that loves to cuddle can undoubtedly attest to the study’s findings. In fact, this biological response associated with cuddling may help explain why restful sleep is more difficult for couples when one is away from home.

Cuddling Tips

Samantha Hess, owner of ‘Cuddle Up To Me’ and self-proclaimed cuddle expert, gives some practical advice. While ‘cuddle advice’ may sound silly, Hess’ professional tips can make the experience more enjoyable while helping safeguard your physical health.

1. Be creative: Believe it or not, there are up to 58 (!) different cuddling positions. Do a bit of research and find what positions are most personally enjoyable and relaxing for you and your cuddle buddy!

2. Listen to your body: While the benefits of cuddling are very real, it doesn’t do any good if your body is in pain. Resting on your side too often, for example, can cause inflammation of the shoulder; too much pressure on your back can lead to back pain, etcetera. So don’t stay in the same position for too long and make sure to change things up!

3. Start slow: Not everyone is comfortable with cuddling up to someone else. Hess recommends starting with simpler positions – while reading, or laying back-to-back or side-by-side. These subtler cuddle spots may help warm you both up.

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8 Behaviors That Reveal Someone Is Emotionally Abusive

April 10, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Many people don’t realize that they’re confronting someone who is an emotionally abusive person. These people tend to hide their true identities and are able to charm the people that they’re not actively abusing. It’s important to know the behaviors of someone who is emotionally abusive. Psychologists have put together the top behaviors that reveal someone to be an emotional abuser.

Emotional abuse is no joke as it includes “… verbal assault, dominance, control, isolation, ridicule, or the use of intimate knowledge for degradation,” according to a study by the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health.

Here Are 8 Behaviors Of Someone Who Is Emotionally Abusive

“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.” – Shannon L. Alder

1. Gaslighting

One of the most important and major signs of an emotionally abusive person is their ability to gaslight people. Gaslighting is a term that means a specific form of emotional abuse, where the abuser makes “… you doubt yourself, your intuition, and your reality” in order to keep control over them, says relationship expert Susan Winter. Gaslighting is always a sign that someone is an emotional abuser and it should never be taken lightly.

2. Jealousy

Not every person who experiences jealousy is an emotional abuser. However, someone who is emotionally abusive will have extreme bursts of jealousy. They will be jealous of their partner’s friends, family, co-workers, or anyone else that their partner comes in contact with. If their partner shows any attention towards anyone that is not them, the abuser becomes enraged with jealousy.

3. Constantly checking in

Someone who is emotionally abusive will use everything in their power to make sure they know where their partners are at all points in time. They will constantly be texting and calling their partners to get updates on their location. They will also become extremely upset when their partners go somewhere without asking permission or checking in with them first. This is a red flag that this type of person is emotionally abusive.

4. Humiliation

Verbally humiliating someone is a form of emotional abuse. Someone who does this tends to do it in public and will make sure they do it in a way that they can brush off as “just joking around”. But the damage that it does is no joke. This behavior is indicative of more outwardly sinister emotional abuse. If someone doesn’t listen to their partner when they express discomfort, then it’s a red flag.

5. Picking fights

If someone feels like they always have to walk on eggshells around their partner, then that’s a red flag. Someone who is emotionally abusive will pick fights with their partner. The fights are never designed to be won. Someone who is emotionally abusive will know just how to manipulate the argument so that they seem like the victim. They also make it seem like the other person has to apologize, even if they did nothing wrong.

6. Hot and cold behavior

Also known as the “honeymoon phase,” emotional abusers will often apologize and try to placate their partners after a round of verbal or emotional abuse. These people tend to run hot and cold from one day to the next. They will berate their partner one day, and then try to make up for it with kindness the next. Hot and cold behavior is a key sign of an emotional abuser.

7. Black and white thinking

If you’re not with them, then you’re against them. Emotional abusers have what is called “black and white thinking.” Neutral responses are often categorized as openly hostile. If their partner isn’t actively praising them, then it must mean that they hate them. It can make for a very turbulent and confusing relationship for the partner. If someone is unable to approach a situation with compromise or nuance, then there is a good chance they are an emotional abuser.

8. Withholding affection as punishment

When you’re in a relationship, affection is how you connect with your partner. However, emotional abusers will weaponize this affection in order to get what they want. If their partner is expressing autonomy, or isn’t behaving in a way that they want, they will give them the cold shoulder. These types of people will withhold love and affection from their partners in order to manipulate them. This can create a codependency and complacency in their partner, even without their knowledge.

Final thoughts

Emotional abusers try to twist reality in order to conduct their abuse. “Being subjected to emotional abuse over time can lead to anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, inhibited sexual desire, chronic pain, or other physical symptoms,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT.

Fortunately, knowing the behaviors of an emotional abuser will allow people to get out of the relationship and start healing. There are always ways to get out of an emotionally abusive relationship, and people should always be prepared with the knowledge of the behaviors of someone who is emotionally abusive. Once free from an emotionally abusive relationship, finding a support system will help the healing begin. Always remember: abuse is never the survivor’s fault.

6 Early Health Warnings Women Should Never Ignore

April 7, 2018 by Power of Positivity

“After women, flowers are the most lovely thing God has given the world.” ~ Christian Dior

One of the tragedies of being human is that serious illness or disease is always a possibility. While we may be able to control what goes on inside our bodies to some extent, we can’t account for every variable in this respect.

Which brings us to our female companions. While women serve in numerous societal capacities, it’s fair to say that women are the caretakers and nurturers of humankind.

It is an unfortunate truth that women are susceptible to more health issues than are men. Women, after all, are biologically hardwired to reproduce. Additionally, women continue to face marginalization in what is, to date, the domination of men in maintaining global society’s overarching framework.

Both of the above facts may help explain why women are more likely to suffer from a mental health disorder. Consider, for example, that females experience severe psychological distress (SPD) at a rate of more than five times that of men. These statistics are worrisome, especially since the relationship between psychological and physical well-being has been well documented.

Let’s discuss a few warning signs – and possible solutions – of six female-dominated health issues:

1. Severe Head Pain

The chances are that severe, throbbing-like pain in your head stems from a migraine. However, if the pain is not joined by some other migraine-related symptom (e.g., visual distortions, sensitivity to light, blurred vision, etc.), then you should consider it a medical emergency and act accordingly.

Arterial bulges occur in about 5 percent of women; the effects of which can be life-threatening. The bursting of an artery in the brain can cause possibly permanent damage within just minutes. Call 911 or your country’s emergency number right away.

Possible Solutions: See a doctor ASAP for prompt treatment; if you smoke, cut back or quit, and monitor your blood pressure regularly.

2. Constant Gas or Bloating

Notice the word ‘constant’ here. Many women feel like an overblown balloon at times – mainly before menopause. However, if you experience near-constant bloating, abdominal pain, pelvic pain, and difficulty eating for longer than 2-3 weeks, see your doctor or gynecologist. Ovarian cancer occurs in about 1 in 70 women – and the abovementioned early symptoms are commonly reported.

Possible Solutions: Cut back or eliminate trouble foods; ensure that you’re adequately hydrated; get plenty of quality rest. If none of these work, see a doctor.

3. Extreme Fatigue

Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) is defined by Healthline as: “a debilitating condition characterized by extreme fatigue or tiredness that doesn’t go away with rest and can’t be explained by an underlying medical condition.” CFS occurs in women 3 to 5 times more frequently than men.

Symptoms of CFS include headaches, enlarged lymph nodes in the armpits or neck, brain fog, and loss of memory. If you experience progressive joint pain or are feeling depressed, it is recommended that you see a doctor.

Possible Solutions: Practice good sleep hygiene; get some light exercise; try mindfulness meditation; take an antioxidant-inclusive vitamin supplement; supplement with B-vitamins, magnesium, and zinc. If these measures fail, see a physician.

4. Facial Rashes and Swelling

Lupus is a chronic autoimmune disease that can damage a number of organs and creates a variety of symptoms. 90 percent of individuals diagnosed with Lupus are women. Often, rashes on the face; and swelling of the feet, legs, hands, and eyes are among the first physical symptoms.

Possible Solutions: If you experience any of the following symptoms, schedule an appointment with your physician: fever, fatigue, hair loss, trouble breathing, kidney inflammation, and gastrointestinal problems.

5. Lump in the Breast or Underarm

Per WebMD, the early stages of breast cancer often produce no symptoms, however, “As a tumor develops, you may notice … a lump in the breast or underarm that persists after your menstrual cycle.” Breast cancer is the leading cause of cancer deaths among women ages 15 to 54.

Other symptoms of breast cancer include: breast pain, skin irritation, skin dimpling, swelling of all or part of the breast.

Possible Solutions: Per the Mayo Clinic, the seven steps to reduce the risk of breast cancer include: regular exercise, moderating alcohol intake, not smoking, limiting hormone therapy, and avoiding exposure to environmental pollution and radiation.

6. Back pain and Inflammation

While back pain and inflammation are arguably more common in men, complications from these symptoms are often more severe in women. For example, females are more likely to have a disk that presses on the spinal nerve and suffer from nerve damage.

When it comes to severe back pain, it is wise to seek the advice of a specialist. After all, if you go to the family doc, they’ll probably refer you to one, anyways! Additionally, the latter group is notorious for prescribing painkillers without addressing the underlying issue.

Possible Solutions: Reduce inflammation by taking NSAIDs; eat a balanced diet; avoid inflammatory foods; stretch the back area to the extent possible; do not engage in heavy physical activity.

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Avoid A Heart Attack or Stroke: 10 Foods to Never Ignore

April 7, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Avoiding a heart attack or a stroke can be as easy as knowing what foods to eat. Nutritionists and doctors have been compiling the most heart healthy foods that anyone can eat. It’s not too early to start eating foods that will help you take care of your heart. If you’re getting older, it’s also very important to make sure you’re eating the right kind of foods to make sure your heart stays strong.

According to recent research by the Journal of the American College of Cardiology, “… the future health of the global population largely depends on a shift to healthier dietary patterns.” Taking care of our hearts and avoiding a heart attack or stroke is as easy as looking for the right foods to eat.

“You can’t afford to get sick, and you can’t depend on the present health care system to keep you well. It’s up to you to protect and maintain your body’s innate capacity for health and healing by making the right choices in how you live.” – Andrew Weil

Here Are 10 Foods To Never Ignore For A Better Heart

1. Salmon

Any kind of fish is good for your heart, but salmon is one of the best kinds of fish for anyone to eat to stay heart healthy. Salmon is full of omega-3 fatty acids, which is well-known to lower someone’s risk of heart arrhythmia.

According to the American Heart Association, “Omega-3 fatty acids also decrease triglyceride levels, slow growth rate of atherosclerotic plaque, and lower blood pressure (slightly).” Salmon is both delicious and good for your heart. While salmon can be a little more on the expensive side, other fish can also do the job.

2. Dark Chocolate

For those with a sweet tooth, giving up chocolate isn’t at all needed for being heart healthy. Studies and doctors have found that dark chocolate is one of the best ways to keep your heart healthy. Dark chocolate has also been known to reduce the risk of stroke. Dark chocolate can help inflammation as well as clotting of the blood. For a heart healthy snack, always make sure to pick dark chocolate with the highest amount of cacao and lowest amount of added sugar.

3. Red wine

If you like to enjoy a glass of wine or a beer at the end of the day, try switching to red wine, because according to this study, red wine helps prevent cardiovascular disease. Just one glass of wine is actually thought to help prevent heart disease. Of course, drinking more than two glasses of wine is considered more dangerous. It’s a fine balancing act for most people. If you’re already drinking alcohol, lowering it to just one glass of red wine is more heart healthy than drinking liquor or beer. For perfectly chilled wine every time, consider investing in Enofaber Wine Coolers.

4. Avocado

Most people know that to be heart healthy, or to avoid strokes, you should also avoid foods with a lot of fat in them. While this is still true, there are certain foods that have “good fats” and “bad fats”. Avocados are considered good fats. If you’re looking for a food that will help keep you on the right track when it comes to heart health, avocados are the way to go. Avocados are good for cholesterol and also full of antioxidants that are good for the body.

5. Black Beans

A great way to avoid strokes and keep yourself heart healthy is to make sure you get your daily recommended amount of fiber. Black beans are a great way to get fiber into your diet. Nutritionists and doctors agree that black beans are one of the best foods that will help you avoid having a stroke, or even a heart attack.

6. Low-fat milk

Now, most people will tell you to avoid dairy if you’re looking to avoid a heart attack or a stroke. But actually, low-fat milk is good for you. In order to keep your risk of heart attack or stroke low, you need to keep your blood pressure in check. Low-fat milk helps keep your blood pressure and your risk of heart attack or stroke lower.

7. Bananas

Potassium is extremely important when it comes to keeping your heart healthy and your risk of stroke lower. What is the best way to get potassium into your system? Bananas, of course. Most doctors think that we should be getting a little over 4,000 milligrams of potassium every day. Thankfully, a banana is close to 500 milligrams, which is a good portion of your daily potassium.

8. Spinach

Any dark, leafy green is good for your body in a multitude of ways. But if you’re specifically looking to lower your risk of stroke or heart attack, spinach is the way to go. This is because spinach is full of folic acid. Most people get their folic acid in some vitamin pill form, but spinach is a great way to get your needed milligrams of folic acid, too.

9. Oatmeal

Another way to get the fiber that you need every day is to start your morning off with a bowl of oatmeal. Fresh oatmeal is the way to go, rather than instant. Oatmeal has a good amount of fiber, which helps lower your cholesterol. And as we all know, lower cholesterol results in a healthier heart and a lower risk of heart attack.

10. Fruit

Other than bananas, other fruits are a great way to get some of the best, healthy vitamins that you need. “Currently available evidence suggests that fruits and vegetables are the healthiest and most beneficial source of antioxidants for ASCVD risk reduction,” states the Journal of the American College of Cardiology.

That old saying “An apple a day keeps the doctor away” isn’t popular for no reason! Blueberries, specifically, are great for your heart, but other fruits like oranges, apples, and cantaloupe can help keep your risk of heart attack low.

Final thoughts

Heart healthy foods are easy to add into your diet! You just have to know where to start. No one is too old to start taking charge of their health. In fact, the earlier you start with foods that help your heart, the better off you’ll be when you reach the age where heart attacks are more likely. Make sure to incorporate all these foods in your diet to lower your risk and avoid a heart attack or stroke.

6 Phrases Toxic People Use to Reduce Your Self-Esteem

April 7, 2018 by Power of Positivity

In a world where words wield immense power, the language of toxic people can be a concealed weapon. Indeed, words and undermine your self-esteem and well-being. Have you ever encountered someone whose words left you feeling diminished, questioning your worth, or doubting your perceptions? If so, you’re not alone. Navigating the labyrinth of toxic communication can be challenging, but unlocking the patterns behind it is the key to reclaiming your power.

This article will uncover six phrases commonly used by toxic individuals to erode your self-esteem. By shining a light on these shadowy tactics, we aim to equip you with the knowledge and tools to protect yourself, foster healthier relationships, and cultivate a positive mindset. So, buckle up and join us on this empowering journey to unmask the language of toxicity and discover actionable strategies to rise above it!

“Whether it’s negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people drive your brain into a stressed-out state that should be avoided at all costs.” ~ Travis Bradberry, Ph.D., Author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Key Traits of Toxic People

Here are some of the most common traits of toxic individuals:

Toxic people are manipulative
They’re judgmental
They take no responsibility for their feelings
They don’t apologize
They’re inconsistent
They make you prove yourself to them
They make you defend yourself

Between the manipulation and judging, some toxic folk love to spew their vile words about seemingly anyone. Predictably, many of these words are intended to hurt someone else – possibly even you.

Toxic people are notorious for projecting their insecurities and low self-esteem onto others. If you know of a toxic person, you must understand that nothing they say should be taken personally. In reality, toxic people are miserable and – for some elusive reason – use others in a vain attempt to make themselves feel better.

While a toxic individual can (and sometimes does) contaminate the environment without words, they do have a few common phrases among them.

The Language Toxic People Use to Manipulate You

Here are six things toxic people often say:

1. “You’re just being dramatic.”

Here, the toxic person is coaxing someone into believing they’re at fault for the current predicament. The damage to self-esteem isn’t necessarily in being labeled a drama queen (although it could be perceived as such). But the behind-the-scenes manipulation that’s taking place. The chances are that the toxic one has done something to hurt the other intentionally – and with seemingly little regret. Such statements may send a person reeling, especially someone who is in a delicate state.

So when someone accuses you of being dramatic, they attempt to invalidate your feelings and experiences. This tactic is a form of gaslighting, where the toxic individual tries to make you question your reality and doubt yourself. It’s essential to recognize this behavior and trust your feelings. To counteract this, maintain your boundaries, seek support from trusted friends or family, and consider distancing yourself from the person exhibiting toxic behavior.

2. “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”

Nobody likes to be told that what they have to say is invalid. Phrases like “You don’t know what you’re talking about” give off a vibe of intellectual superiority that most of us find reprehensible. These words can be hurtful and embarrassing.

More than likely, the toxic person saying these words is trying to slither their way out of some trouble. And as this example shows, they’re shameless in how they go about doing so.

This phrase directly attacks your intelligence and knowledge. It belittles you and makes you feel inferior. When faced with such comments, remind yourself of your worth and don’t let someone else’s opinion define you. It’s helpful to stay informed and confident in your knowledge and to assert yourself when confronted with such negativity calmly. Surrounding yourself with positive influences can also help reinforce your self-esteem.

3. “It’s all of your fault.”

Well, it’s probably not your fault at all – whatever it is. But to play devil’s advocate, let’s say – on this occasion – that ‘it’ happens to be “your fault.” What does this mean? Put: In the view of someone toxic, any “affront” is fair game to use as ammunition.

Maybe you did the thing at the time at the place – and now they use your (often innocent) mistake to justify their (often far worse) behavior. In the end, this manipulation rings hollow – but not before someone usually gets hurt.

Blame-shifting is a common tactic used by toxic individuals to avoid responsibility for their actions. When someone tries to pin the blame on you, evaluating the situation objectively is crucial. You may acknowledge any mistakes. However, you should not take on undue responsibility. Practice assertive communication, and don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, but it’s unhealthy to bear the burden of someone else’s faults.

4. “You’re just being insecure.”

(The blame game continued.) An honorable person doesn’t feed off of someone’s fear and anxiety. But then again, a toxic person isn’t honorable. Besides demonstrating a clear breach of respect, plenty of irony can be found in these four words. They’ll never admit it, but they are the insecure ones.

Accusing someone of insecurity is a way for toxic people to exploit your vulnerabilities. Recognize this as projecting their insecurities, not a reflection of their worth. Focus on building your self-esteem through positive affirmations, self-care, and surrounding yourself with supportive people. Don’t let someone else’s negativity dictate your self-worth; embrace your strengths and work on areas you wish to improve.

In short: they’re projecting, and they may not know any other means of expressing their perceived inadequacies. However, this doesn’t excuse the outright disregard for someone else’s self-esteem.

5. “I don’t want to be in a friendship/relationship with someone who _____.”

These words are meant to be used as a threat or an ultimatum. Either way, a real friend or partner doesn’t say such nonsense. A real friend or partner doesn’t utter these words with no genuine sincerity. Nonetheless, that is exactly what is happening; the toxic person doesn’t care about your behavior; they care about getting something out of you. Indeed, they are projecting their shortcomings onto you. It goes without saying that no one should subject themselves to this type of treatment.

This manipulative statement aims to control your behavior by playing on your fears of abandonment. Recognize this as a red flag and evaluate whether the relationship is healthy and mutually beneficial. True friends and partners accept and support each other without issuing ultimatums. Prioritize your well-being and don’t compromise your values to appease someone else.

6. “You are (enter insulting word here.)”

It comes as no surprise that toxic people tend to have a narcissistic streak. When passive-aggressiveness (or other manipulative techniques) fail, they sometimes use old-fashioned verbal abuse. Usually, this occurs out of a sense of desperation, and the ugliness that is their natural disposition fully reveals itself.

“You are stupid,” “You are worthless,” and “You are a loser” are three choice phrases of toxic people. If you should ever find yourself on the receiving end of these hurtful words, you can take solace in knowing that it has nothing to do with you. As mentioned earlier, the toxic person uses you as a sounding board for what’s happening inside their head.

Verbal abuse is never acceptable, and standing up against it is essential. When someone resorts to name-calling, it reflects their character, not yours. Maintain your self-respect, establish boundaries, and consider seeking help if the abuse continues. Surround yourself with positive influences, practice self-love, and remember you deserve respect and kindness.

Ignore them. Walk away. Repeat. Do these three things enough, and you’ll almost certainly be rid of them.

Final Thoughts on Identifying the Language of Toxic People

Identifying the language of toxic people is a crucial step toward protecting your mental and emotional well-being. The phrases toxic individuals use are often laced with manipulation, blame, and a disregard for your feelings and self-worth. Recognizing these harmful patterns enables you to establish boundaries, seek support, and make informed decisions about the relationships you maintain.

It’s important to remember that the language and behavior of toxic people are reflections of their insecurities and shortcomings, not yours. Their attempts to belittle, control, or manipulate are often rooted in their internal struggles. While it can be challenging, try not to internalize their negativity. Instead, focus on cultivating self-love, resilience, and a strong support network.

Empower yourself with knowledge and awareness. Learn to distinguish between constructive criticism and malicious intent. Stand firm in your values, and don’t be afraid to assert yourself when faced with toxicity. Surround yourself with positive influences who uplift and encourage you, fostering an environment where mutual respect and kindness prevail.

You should also seek professional guidance if you are in a persistently toxic relationship. Therapists and counselors can provide valuable insights, coping strategies, and support to help you navigate challenging situations and rebuild your self-esteem.

Ultimately, you have the right to be treated with respect and dignity. By identifying the language of toxic people and taking proactive steps to protect yourself, you can foster healthier relationships and cultivate a more positive and fulfilling life. Remember, the opinions of others do not determine your worth but by your self-perception and the positive impact you make in the world.

Scientists Explain What Happens To Your Body When You Have A Broken Heart

April 7, 2018 by Power of Positivity

Being heartbroken is something that can happen to anyone. We have all gone through bad breakups and were left feeling like we had a broken heart. While some people may think it’s all in your head, science says otherwise. There is scientific proof that broken hearts exist, and that they can have physical effects on your body.

According to the American Heart Association, “In broken heart syndrome, a part of your heart temporarily enlarges and doesn’t pump well, while the rest of your heart functions normally or with even more forceful contractions. Broken heart syndrome can lead to severe, short-term heart muscle failure.”

Science finally has some answers for those of us who have long healed from our broken hearts and those who are still in the process. Here’s what happens to your body when you have a broken heart.

“I think many people can relate to that excruciating pain of love gone wrong. I’d rather have a broken arm than a broken heart.” – Christie Brinkley

Here Are 5 Things That Happen to Your Body When You Have A Broken Heart

1. Heartbreak affects your weight

When a relationship ends suddenly and ends with heartbreak, it can affect your weight. Usually, this concerns how well you cope with your emotions. For some people, eating can fill the hole the emotions leave behind. This might include binge eating or overeating, which can easily cause weight gain. For other people, getting heartbroken can cause their appetite to stop entirely. Appetite loss can result in someone eating less than they need to throughout their day. Weight loss after a heartbreak isn’t uncommon, because many people find eating hard. After a heartbreak, making planned meals can help keep weight under control, whether it’s overeating, or not eating enough.

2. Heartbreak causes depression

As we all know, the end of a relationship can be an incredibly tumultuous time for someone. When a relationship ends suddenly, or ends in heartbreak, what happens afterwards is usually a period of depression. Science and studies have proven that heartbreak can cause depression.

“When we looked at stressful life events that predisposed men and women to the onset of episodes of depression, the most toxic combination was loss and humiliation that in some way directly devalued the individual in a core role,” added psychiatric geneticist Kenneth S. Kendler, M.D.

After the end of a relationship where heartbreak is most probable, it’s essential to have a support system and someone you can talk to. Being able to discuss your feelings openly will make the depressive period after heartbreak much shorter, and help you get back on your feet.

3. Sleeping problems

After heartbreak, many people report having trouble falling asleep and staying asleep. Research has found that stress levels increase when you’re fresh from heartbreak. Increased stress levels cause a whole range of problems, especially when it comes to sleep.

Sleep specialist Chris Winter, M.D. says, “In the sleep world, stress is to sleep as yin is to yang — opposite forces that are forever linked. Stress prevents sleep. Sleep deprivation increases stress and its consequences.”

If you have recently experienced heartbreak, you may have more trouble falling asleep than normal. Finding ways to lower your stress levels before sleep will help you avoid a lack of sleep during a heartbreak. Meditation, tea, exercise, and journaling are all popular methods of helping lower stress levels so you can get some sleep and heal your heart.

4. Weakened immune system

Strangely enough, science has found that heartbreak affects our immune systems. This is due to stress, as well. When you have a heartbreak, stress levels increase. Increased stress levels will cause your immune system to weaken. You may notice you get cold or flu-like symptoms while experiencing heartbreak. You may feel fatigued, haggard and sickly. Try taking vitamins and eating foods that boost your immune system. One of the best ways to get your immune system back to working order is to lower your stress levels. Try doing stress-relieving activities while you’re working on healing your broken heart.

5. Heartbreak can cause physical pain

Most people can swear that they feel physical pain when heartbreak happens. There’s some truth to this, and science backs it up. Scientists believe that emotional and physical pain are processed in the same parts of the brain. So, when you’re going through an abrupt breakup, your heartbreak may very well feel like physical pain. The best way to deal with this kind of pain is to have some way of coping. Usually, doing physical activities will do the trick to help release that emotional pain: exercise, yoga, etc. Having a support system is also invaluable to processing your emotional pain.

Final Thoughts on Coping With a Broken Heart

Heartbreak is a very real concept. Felix Elwert, Ph.D., says, “Broken heart syndrome is a social condition that shows if your wife or husband dies, your mortality goes up and stays elevated for years. So you can almost ‘catch’ death from your spouse. It’s not a coincidence, it’s an effect…”

While it’s true that many people go through heartbreak every day, there are always ways to cope with it. Science shows that a broken heart can have physical symptoms in our bodies and minds. This also means that there are ways to deal with these symptoms. Time really does heal all wounds, and if you find healthy ways to cope, you’ll find that the pain gets less every day.

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