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7 Signs You Have A High Tolerance For Toxic People

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Opposites attract… but if it leads to toxic interactions, what’s the point?

Call it “yin and yang,” “good and evil,” or “right and wrong”; one thing is quite clear: opposites attract.

The Universe has plenty of examples, but perhaps these phenomena can best be explained by the underlying natural laws which serve as their underpinning. Let’s begin where, well, everything begins: energy.

Here’s the definition of Charge Interactions:

“In contrast to the attractive force between two objects with opposite charges, two objects that are of like charge will repel each other.”

If you’re in the mood for a more humanistic explanation, here’s one courtesy of Psychology Today:

“It has been said that the happiest couples never have the same character – they just have the best understanding of their differences.”

So there’s apparently some upward slope on the “x, y” axes of the Universal “frequency, differences” graph.

Toxic people and “weakness”

(Writers note: We do our best here to respect the humanity of every person. In this regard, please think of the words “toxic person” or “toxic people” as describing their harmful effects on your mood and well-being.)

With that said, here are seven other signs/personality traits that you may have an above-average tolerance for toxic people.

7 Signs You Can Deal With Toxic People Pretty Easily

“If they do it often, it isn’t a mistake; it’s just their behavior.” ~ Dr. Steve Maraboli

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1. You’re open and kind – even to toxic people

We must understand and accept one important truth:

Toxic people both look for, and take advantage of, “weakness.”

Toxics have numerous confusions about the world around them, but perhaps the most notable one is their perception of kindness, which is viewed as weak.

Twisted logic, but true.

2. You’re a great listener

Being a great listener is a gift, one that is lacking in today’s world. However, if a toxic person knows you are an active listener they may very well use you as an outlet in which to share their negative disposition.

Also, toxic people don’t care about what you have to say. They’re a conversational bully.

3. You’re laid back

If “Chill, guys” is your motto, we love/admire you. We mean this with the greatest sincerity. You’ve probably made all of our lives just a bit easier.

But toxics are one group of people with whom you don’t want to exhibit your kind, easygoing side. Laidback individuals possess a beautiful sort of inner peace, which a toxic person may misinterpret as passivity.

4. You’re inclusive of everyone

We all know of a person who gets along with darn near everyone. Creating harmony, building bridges, and lifting spirits are in this person’s DNA.

But a small minority, for reasons inexplicable, want to alter your sunny outlook. Like we’ve said, opposites attract. Maintain your distance.

5. You believe everyone can change

While the vast majority of us are good at our core, not everyone is able or willing to uncover their better nature. A person who believes that everyone can change possesses a particular type of idealism.

Many idealists have altered the course of history for the better. But unless you’re prepared to wander into some incredibly murky and uncertain water, it is perhaps best to focus your energy away from toxic situations.

6. You can’t say ‘No’ to toxic people

Some of us have a difficult time saying ‘No.’ If you compose a 300-word email explaining why you can’t do something, this advice is for you.

Learning to say No is essential to living a happy life. This is especially true when dealing with toxics, who will hound you until you cave to their demands.

Look the person in the eye, smile, and with a polite yet firm tone, say “No.” Avoid the awkward silence (if any) by getting back to what you were doing.

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7. You put others’ needs above yours

Some of us are real empaths; those who feel heartfelt sympathies for the needs of others, often to the point of putting everyone else’s needs and wants above their own.

Putting other needs first is admirable, but – as we all very well know – toxic individuals will readily take advantage of such a person.

Final Thoughts on Dealing With Toxic People

Vyoma Nupur, author, and host of the ‘Perfectly Imperfect’ show, recommends three strategies for dealing with toxic people that you may find helpful in both your personal and professional lives:

1) “Be quietly persistent in standing your ground because toxic people smell fear a mile away and if you fear them, their mission is accomplished.”

2) “If you have a toxic boss, till you can move away from that workplace, document and email everything to be able to counter any accusations towards you and remember that him or her are insecure, unhappy people and since you are smart, stay mentally detached from them.”

3) “Toxic people in your personal life are more difficult to deal with but the key is to stand quietly firm on your views and move on if the situation cannot be salvaged.”

10 Laws of Success That Will Change Your Life

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What are the “Laws of Success?” Well, that depends on you. More specifically, it depends on how you think.

“Success” is an ambiguous word for a reason: it means different things to different people. For some, success is wealth. For others, money is nothing else than a tool. Consider Alfred Nobel.

Alfred Nobel was a Swedish chemist, engineer, inventor, businessman, and philanthropist. He held 355 patents and accumulated vast sums of wealth. When he died in 1896, most people – including his family – were shocked to learn that he willed most of his fortune into a trust. The Nobel Prizes were born.

“Contentment is the only real wealth,” Nobel wrote.

Now, consider Winston Churchill:

Success is not the absence of wealth nor the experience of failure. Winston Churchill, a British statesman and Prime Minister of the United Kingdom during World War II said, “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.”

Now, consider Thomas Edison:

Edison, who was once told that he was “too stupid to learn anything” become perhaps the most prolific innovator in history, said, “I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work!”

Whether Nobel, Churchill or Edison followed any set of laws or “secrets” of success is unknown. But that doesn’t mean that they didn’t embody a “greater purpose” that enabled outstanding success.

Cause and effect govern the laws of the Universe. We, as creations of the Universe (be it God, a “Higher Being,” or something else) are also subject to its laws, are we not? Read this quote by Carl Sagan, considered by many to be the greatest astrophysicist who ever lived:

“The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of starstuff.”

10 Laws of Success That Will Change Your Life

“Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result.” – Oscar Wilde

1. The Law of Action

One common (and grave) misperception of LOA is that thoughts are all we need. This is simply not so.

Jim Carrey, the uber-famous comedic actor, once said to Oprah Winfrey: “I wrote myself a check for ten million dollars for acting services rendered and gave myself three, maybe five years … on Thanksgiving (of) 1995 I found out I was going to make 10 million dollars on ‘Dumb & Dumber’…but you can’t just visualize and go eat a sandwich.”

Nothing is possible without action. “A body in motion will stay in motion, while a body at rest will remain at rest.”

2. The Law of Potentiality

Dr. Deepak Chopra made a commitment that he would allocate “30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes in the evening” to meditate. He got to the point where he was so adept at mindfulness meditation that he could, without interaction, “sit silently and watch a sunset…listen to the sound of the ocean…or simply smell the scent of a flower” and it was pure ecstasy.

When we realize the potential of our mind, the possibilities are endless.

3. The Law of Vibration

Did you know that Alexander Graham Bell, the inventor of the commercial telephone, predicted telepathy a century before neuroscientists even acknowledged the possibility?

“Our brains become magnetized by the thoughts we hold in our minds. These magnets attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life which harmonize the nature of our dominating thoughts.”

4. The Law of Giving

Dr. Chopra writes “Today, bring whomever you encounter a gift: a compliment or flower. Gratefully receive gifts.” Wealth is not measured in money, but in affection, appreciation, caring, and love. Some of the poorest people in the world are the richest in heart. It’s all a matter of perspective. Giving, simply put, is as beautiful as it is powerful.

(Readers: have you ever given someone something – a hug, smile, or money – and felt an immense sense of gratification? Please share!)

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5. The Law of Cause and Effect (Karma)

As mentioned, nothing is possible without the law of cause and effect. The Universe was “born” from cause (the “Big Bang”) that produced the beautiful planet which now we call our home.

Most scientists attribute the creation of the Universe to an immediate, extraordinary amount of energy (a “singularity”) that birthed the entire cosmos. We too are products of this miraculous event – one of cause and effect. We too possess capabilities just waiting to be acknowledged and discovered.

6. The Law of Purpose

Every human being, whether they’ve realized it or not, have a special gift or talent to give. When we consciously direct this purpose to the service of others, humanity will evolve for the better.

If you’ve ever felt the uncomfortable gnawing for you to seek something greater, it’s because you’re meant to find something greater.

Do not settle for something that is beneath you. Fulfill your spirit and your destiny by following your heart’s path.

7. The Law of Detachment

On the surface, the word ‘detachment’ may be interpreted as feelings of isolation, or worse, a carefree way of living.

Detachment, in the appropriate context, is explained by Dr. Chopra: “In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty … in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the PRISON of past conditioning.”

Acceptance, responsibility, and tolerance are foundational to this Universal Law. We’re free to be ourselves and allow others to live as they are. Or, we may cast judgment and proclaim our ignorance. The choice is ours.

8. The Law of Intention

Humans possess a remarkable ability to make conceive, construct, and take action on our intentions and desires. “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Without intention or ambition, we will not achieve our life purpose. With such knowledge, our abilities are nearly limitless. The mind, as demonstrated by Laws of the Universe, is capable of expansion. Need proof? Read about neuroplasticity.

9. The Law of Morality

Did you know that homo sapiens are the only species capable of consciously discerning right from wrong? Outliers aside, we possess an “inner voice” that tells us “how” to act in any given situation.

Morality is not some accident. Morality is a journey that will lead to a destination. We’ve, very sadly, witnessed a disproportionate amount of evil in the world. It is fair to say that our race may be on the tipping point.

Will we choose to care for our planet as it has cared for us? Will we allow others to “live and let live?” The Universe, in all its glory, has also experienced a fair share of Chaos. We can – and likely will – weather this storm if we choose right over wrong.

10. The Law of Spirituality

We are not going to rant about some religious dogma. Even the most ardent “non-believer” does indeed exercise the notion that human beings are spiritual in a sense. How else does one explain things like charity, environmentalism, compassion, selflessness, or sacrifice?

Some (albeit a minority) will attribute these feelings to neurochemical reactions. So be it. We’re not here to judge. But if you consider some of the most influential people to have ever walked this earth – Jesus, Buddha, Gandhi, and Muhammed – they all had one thing in common: loving one another and a belief in something greater than ourselves.

Final Thoughts on Achieving Success

Success is not gained through wealth, possessions, or power. Success is self-defined. If we, to the best of our abilities, make the conscious decision to follow the Laws set forth since the Universes’ inception, we will always be successful.

Love, Positivity, and Happiness to all of our Dear Readers. Thank you for what you do, and Thank You for your support.

7 Signs A Narcissist Is Trying to Sneak Into Your Life

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Few personalities are as enigmatic and potentially damaging as the narcissist. Often charming, charismatic, and seemingly confident, narcissists can initially appear as the life of the party or the ideal partner. However, beneath this enticing facade often lies a web of manipulation, lack of empathy, and a hunger for admiration that can leave those in their wake feeling used, confused, and emotionally drained. Recognizing the early signs of a narcissist trying to enter your life can be the key to safeguarding your emotional well-being.

Here’s why:

“They subconsciously deny an unstated and intolerably poor self-image through inflation. They turn themselves into glittering figures of immense grandeur surrounded by psychologically impenetrable walls. The goal of this self-deception is to be impervious to the greatly feared external criticism and to their own rolling sea of doubts.” ~ Elan Golomb, Trapped in the Mirror.

Character Traits of a Narcissist

Here’s an interesting experiment to try if you are so inclined (and can actually stomach it):

Read the news or watch a reality television show. Count how many times you see or read anything on:

– Materialism

– Selfishness

– Egotism

– Manipulation

– Deception

Finally, evaluate your thoughts and feelings. Write them down if you so choose.

Most likely, you’re feeling a sense of anger, confusion, and maybe even pain. This infusion of bewildering emotions is commonplace for someone when targeted by a narcissist.

If you’re courageous, watch some political news channel for a couple of hours.

(On second thought, forget the last.)

On a more serious note, narcissism influences society to a far greater extent than we’d think.

Take a look at the nausea-inducing celebrity scene.

A well-known show about a family called “The K Family” focuses on a dysfunctional celebrity family and has been lambasted by viewers and critics alike.

Laura Burrows of IGN writes:

“Those of us who watch this show … want to believe that these whores of attention have souls and would actually do something for their fellow man and not reap the benefits of their service, but (seasons) worth of self-absorbed egocentrism speaks to the contrary.”

“This show illustrates (the United States) moral, spiritual, and cultural decay,” says Jessica Chasmar of The Washington Times.

Sounds like a failed endeavor, right?

Nope.

In fact, it was once the highest-rated program of viewers between the ages of 18 and 34 in the U.S.

I’ll give the “K Family” credit, however, they’ve helped set the tone for the rest of the article.

Perhaps nobody on Earth exhibits narcissism quite like the Brady Bunch from Hell.

“Where do I come in?”

You’ve likely met a “Kim K.” once or twice in your life. But just in case you aren’t sure, here are seven signs a narcissist may have snuck into your life.

7 Signs You Have A Narcissist In Your Life

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1. They starve for attention.

Just like ‘K’ the bunch, narcissists (or near-narcissists) often reveal themselves with their constant need for attention.

Think of a semi-truck; the kind we Westerners seem to get stuck behind whenever we need to get somewhere. These massive heaps of metal require some serious fuel.

Same goes for a narcissist’s ego. Except that their fuel: (a) comes in the form of attention, and (b) is never truly ‘filled.’

2. They shape-shift

Do you remember Stretch Armstrong? The ridiculously large, gel-filled action figure that can be molded into pretty much any position? (Yes, they’re still around, believe it or not!)

That’s what narcissists do. They’ll contort themselves in a seemingly countless number of ways in order to get what they “deserve.”

3, They’ve got a crazy sense of entitlement

Do you remember ever seeing a television show called “Sweet Sixteen?”

In case you haven’t had the (dis-)pleasure, the show revolves around a spoiled about-to-turn 16-year old whose (failed) parents are about to throw her a birthday bash.

One father mentioned that the Range Rover his daughter liked was used.

Her reply? “EW!” So her Daddy got her a new one.

Apple never falls far from the tree?

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4. They exaggerate the truth.

Though a narcissist may appear confident on the surface, they’ve got a fragile sense of self-esteem. We’d feel bad for them – if they weren’t perpetual liars.

Ronald Zarella, the former CEO of Bausch & Lomb, claimed he held an M.B.A. (Masters of Business Administration) from prestigious New York University. He, in fact, held no such degree – or any credential – from NYU.

His punishment? Continuing to earn a multi-million dollar salary after the company refused his resignation. (Apparently, company Boards are littered with narcissists too.)

5. They don’t acknowledge reality.

Narcissists literally refuse to look at and accept reality.

It isn’t uncommon to confront a narcissist with irrefutable evidence of their shady character only to have them try and blame someone else for it – maybe even you.

Does anyone else remember when Saddam Hussein stood trial for his war crimes? Numerous accounts attested to the former dictator’s outright refusal to accept the harsh reality that his destructive regime inflicted.

Predictably, Saddam – who insisted he was unlawfully overthrown and was still the leader of Iraq – was found guilty and sentenced to death.

This distortion of reality is a hallmark of narcissistic behavior.

6. They ignore boundaries and defy standard conduct.

Many narcissists enjoy getting away with violating boundaries, rules and social norms. In the everyday world, it’s commonplace to witness possible narcissists intrude personal space, disobey laws, break appointments, and negate promises.

The well-accepted social construct – respecting others and doing no harm – simply doesn’t apply to narcissists.

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7. They inflict emotional pain more than anything else.

Though some narcissists are capable of physical abuse, their real calling card is abuse of the emotional and psychological variety.

Indeed, narcissists derive a sick sense of pleasure from arousing negative emotions from others. When confronted, narcissists will steadfastly deny their behavior.

It makes complete sense, yes? After all, they’re always right; so why should they answer to anyone?

11 Signs Your Body Has Too Much Estrogen (And How to Fix It)

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Estrogen dominance: a condition where a woman can have deficient, normal or excessive estrogen, but has little to no progesterone to balance its effects on the body. Even a woman with low estrogen levels can have estrogen dominance symptoms if she doesn’t have any progesterone. ~ John Lee, M.D.

What is it?

Per Medical News Today, estrogen – the primary female sex hormone: “plays an essential role in the growth and development of female secondary sexual characteristics such as breasts, pubic and armpit hair, endometrium (membrane that lines the inside of the uterus), and the regulation of the menstrual cycle and reproductive system.”

Men Have it Too!

We’ll start off by clearing up a big misunderstanding: men produce estrogen and women produce testosterone! We’re all one big hormone-producing happy human family! (Sorry.) The difference, of course, is that your sex determines the dominant hormone.

The Complications in Men

Though estrogen dominance overwhelmingly affects women, imbalances of the hormone have triggered health problems in men. While the rest of this article focuses on female estrogen dominance, we include some info on excess estrogen in men. (The “fixes” included at the article’s conclusion are also applicable to us guys!)

Per BodyLogicMD.com, high levels of it in men usually correspond to low levels of testosterone. This hormone imbalance can lead to health problems: “High estrogen levels … contribute to prostate cancer and heart disease as well as gynecomastia (enlarged breasts).” “As the testosterone is transformed into estrogen the low levels of testosterone can cause many unpleasant symptoms including loss of muscle mass, fatigue, low libido, erectile dysfunction.”

What is Estrogen Dominance?

Estrogen dominance is a condition wherein females experience an imbalance of their estrogen and progesterone levels. Progesterone is a naturally occurring steroid hormone produced in the ovaries, the placenta (when pregnant), and the adrenal glands. The hormone helps prepare the body for conception and pregnancy, aids in stimulating sexual desire and regulates the menstrual cycle.

Progesterone imbalance also has repercussions. High progesterone levels are thought to be partially responsible for symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). Low levels of the natural steroid hormone may lead to ovulation failure or menstrual irregularities.

11 Signs of Estrogen Dominance

1. Weight Gain

One of the main symptoms of estrogen dominance is weight gain, especially in the hip area. Estrogen homeostasis is essential for maintaining a healthy weight. It’s also common to experience bloating or difficulty losing weight.

2. Swollen or Tender Breasts

Female breasts are sensitive to hormonal changes, as evidenced by the swelling and sensitivity during menstruation. Soreness and swelling around the nipples, particularly off-cycle, could be due to high levels.

3. Period Irregularity

High levels throw a loop in the hormonal apparatus responsible for maintaining regular periods. As a result, your period may show up earlier or later than usual.

4. Mood Swings

Under normal circumstances, estrogen increases cerebral blood flow and promotes neuronal activity, which helps us think. However, elevated levels are linked to anxiety, depression, and even panic attacks.

5. Decreased Sex Drive

Not much research has been done on the relationship – if any – between high estrogen levels and sex drive. However, given the myriad physical and psychological complications caused by estrogen dominance, this finding doesn’t surprise us in the least.

6. Headaches

Hormones influence how we humans perceive and process pain. The typical human biochemical reaction to pain is the release of endorphins, which helps to block the brain’s pain signals. However, hormonal fluctuations throw a wrench in this system. More frequently occurring headaches are often the result.

7. Hair Loss

When hair follicles are exposed to excess estrogen, they may shut down and stop responding to growth “commands.” Too much progesterone, thyroid, and DHEA supplements can also cause hair to shed.

8. Cold Hands And Feet

As mentioned, estrogen stimulates the body’s circulatory system – and too much of it slows down blood flow. The scientific rationale for this effect isn’t fully understood, but there’s a general consensus that a relationship exists.

9. Sleep Difficulties

It’s is an ‘excitatory’ hormone – it hypes us up. However, just like caffeine, too much can keep us awake. Unfortunately for those who deal with estrogen dominance, sleep troubles are a recurring problem.

10. Forgetfulness

Per Healthline, “Estrogen is one major hormone that can impact memory before or during menopause.” As the hormone assists in regulating our neurochemistry, it’s predictable that an imbalance may affect short-term memory.

11. Heavier Periods Than Usual

Known as Perimenopause, the lining of the uterus becomes thicker than usual. The disproportionately higher levels of progesterone relative to estrogen cause this effect.

Rebalancing Your Hormonesestrogen

Dr. Josh Axe recommends the following seven steps to naturally rebalance hormones, including estrogen (testosterone, adrenaline, and insulin).

  1. Replace simple carbs with healthy fats.
  2. Use adaptogen herbs – a class of healing plants (ashwagandha, holy basil, medicinal mushrooms, rhodiola.)
  3. Practice acupuncture or breathing exercises.
  4. Try essential oils or aromatherapy.
  5. Consume healthy amounts of vitamin D, omega-6 fatty acids, and probiotics.
  6. If you take prescription meds, ensure you’re aware of potential side effects.
  7. Get at least 7-8 hours of sleep.

Sources:
http://www.healthywomen.org/condition/progesterone
http://www.womensinternational.com/connections/headaches-and-hormones/
https://draxe.com/10-ways-balance-hormones-naturally/
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/estrogen-hormones-heart-health
https://www.bodylogicmd.com/hormones-for-men/estrogen
https://www.healthline.com/health/menopause/memory-alzheimers#1
https://www.johnleemd.com/estrogen-dominance.html
https://www.news-medical.net/health/Estradiol-and-the-Brain.aspx

Why You Should Never Hold Your Bladder, According to Science

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Our bladder is a fluid storage organ that sits within the pelvis. While roughly the size of a large grapefruit, it can stretch from two to over six inches in length. The primary function of the bladder is to store urine produced by the kidneys. Urine transfers to the bladder from the kidneys following a blood filtration process. Urine then moves from the ureters to the bladder for storage until you eliminate it.

The bladder is connected to the kidneys through two long tubes called ureters and is capable of holding 16 to 24 ounces of fluid. The “urge” to urinate is felt when the bladder is about 25 percent full.bladder

Diseases and conditions

The bladder, despite widespread perception, is a highly complex organ. Consisting of four separate layers – made up of connective tissue, blood vessels, fibrous tissue, and muscle – the most commonly-cited problems involve the frequent urge to urinate and involuntary urine leakage.

An overactive bladder is another common disorder and isstems from wide range of conditions, including constipation, excess caffeine usage, and other causes. Urine leakage may be caused by bladder spasms or stress.

Cystitis, or bladder infections, are one of the most common bacterial infections. It’s estimated that around one-third of all females acquire a bladder infection at least once in their lifetime.

Bladder cancer affects around 580,000 people in the United States, according to the National Cancer Institute. Cancer of the bladder primarily affects older adults.

Holding your bladder

Sometimes we have no choice but to hold urine, but it’s probably not good for bladder health.

Here are a few reasons why:

A healthy bladder can hold one and a half to two cups (300-400 milliliters) of urine during the day and about four cups (800 milliliters) at night. It is normal to pass urine five or six times a day if you drink between 6-8 glasses of fluid. ~ Continence Foundation of Australia

1. Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)

When we make a habit of holding urine too long, it inevitably puts pressure on the kidneys. If you’re a female, your chance of developing a UTI is as high as 50 percent. Women are at a higher risk of a UTI because they have shorter urethras, which need only to travel a short distance to the bladder.

Now, holding urine is not the direct cause of UTI. But if we habitually delay emptying the bladder, the risk of infection increases. Symptoms of UTI include mild fever, cloudy or bloody urine, and an urge to urinate.

2. Interstitial Cystitis (IC)

Holding your urine may irritate the bladder’s lining, a condition known as interstitial cystitis. While many health experts aren’t for sure that delaying urination is the cause, some doctors believe it increases the risk of developing IC.

Symptoms of IC include a painful pelvis and frequent urination.

3. Disturbances of the urine response

The bladder is responsible for signaling to the brain that it’s time to answer nature’s call. When we continuously delay urination, this automatic feedback mechanism that sends the signal may become faulty.

As a result, though our bladder is reaching its maximum throughput, the brain doesn’t correctly register and translate the bladder’s signal.

Which leads to this:

4. Peeing your pants

Hey, it happens more often than you think. If our brain doesn’t recognize a stimulus, we aren’t consciously aware of what we need to do. Namely, go to the bathroom.

Or, make headway to the bathroom in enough time to take care of business.

Lauren Streicher, M.D. and OB/GYN, says “As your bladder gets fuller and fuller, there’s a good chance you aren’t going to make it to the bathroom on time.”

Uh, yeah. Don’t pee yourself.

Holding for a short period is okay

Dr. Adam Ramin, a urologic surgeon and founder of Urology Cancer Specialists in Los Angeles, California warns against holding urine:

“Holding your urine for a short period of time, usually up to one hour, is typically okay.” Said Ramin. “However protracted and repeated holding of urine may cause over-expansion of bladder capacity, transmission of excess pressure into the kidneys, and the inability to completely empty the bladder. These problems, in turn, may lead to UTI [urinary tract infection], cystitis and deterioration of kidney function.”

Determining urine health

Dr. Michael Robinette, a urologist at Toronto General Hospital, says there are several ways to determine a healthy urine color.

“Healthy urine is a pale yellow. If your urine is white, you’re drinking too many fluids. However, if your urine is too dark, your urine is concentrated, and you should be drinking more fluids.” he says.

We should aim for seven to eight 16-ounce glasses of water daily. An excellent piece of advice: make sure there’s a water bottle within arm’s reach. If you haven’t already, consider buying a separate water bottle for every place you spend a considerable amount of time, e.g., your workplace.


5 Early Warning Signs of Appendicitis

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All of us experience this misfortunate of an upset stomach. Still, we each contend with bouts of abdominal pain, diarrhea, vomiting, or constipation (gross maybe, but true!). But do you know how to tell if it’s a common stomachache or appendicitis?

Appendicitis is not very common – with only about 5 percent of the U.S. population developing the condition. Those who have will tell you just how painful an inflamed appendix can be. (If this includes you, please feel free to share your story by leaving a comment below!)

Appendicitis is also a severe condition. Jennifer Caudle, D.O., a family physician, and professor of medicine says:

“If it is not treated, your appendix can rupture, which can be life-threatening.”

With that said, here are 5 signs of possible appendix troubles you shouldn’t ignore:

“In the United States, appendicitis is the most common cause of acute (short-term) abdominal pain requiring surgery. Over 5% of the population develops appendicitis at some point.” ~ National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases

Indeed, not every case of appendicitis leads to a ruptured appendix, delaying medical assistance significantly increases this risk.

1. It feels like the worst stomach pain of your life.

No, this isn’t an exaggeration. Appendicitis can feel like the worst stomach pain of your life.

Usually, this pain expands from the belly button to the lower-right side of the abdomen. (The appendix is a 3.5-inch tube that lies in the lower-right section of the large intestine.) When pain surfaces in this area, the abdominal wall may be inflamed.

Prolonged, severe stomach pain is never a good sign. Whether or not it’s appendicitis, it’s essential that you seek medical attention.

2. You have no appetite, or are nauseous and throwing up. 

Dr. Dan Gingold, an emergency physician at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, Maryland, states “Inflammation of the appendix sometimes impacts other aspects of the GI tract … and leads to nausea and vomiting.”

Not everyone with appendicitis experiences these symptoms, but experiencing abdominal pain while feeling nauseous and throwing up necessitates a visit to the emergency room.

3. You’ve got a nasty case of brain fog.

Appendicitis can affect the nervous system, which may lead to foggy thinking, confusion, and fatigue. Lack of focus, poor memory, and diminished cognitive abilities are the primary signs of brain fog.

Dr. Gingold explains the brain fog effect: “It’s not that anything is going on in the brain – just that the infection is getting worse and expending a lot of body resources including oxygen, so the brain doesn’t get enough and doesn’t work normally.”

4. You’re shaking all over while running a fever. 

The presence of both chills and fever indicates there’s inflammation somewhere in your body. Chills and fever while feeling severe pain in the abdomen may point to appendicitis.

Cedrek McFadden, M.D., a board-certified GI surgeon at the University of South Carolina School of Medicine, says when experiencing appendicitis, “the body responds by releasing several chemicals that ring the alarm and bring fighter cells to the area, which can manifest as localized pain as well as whole-body symptoms like fever and chills.”

5. You’re going to the bathroom every couple of minutes – and it hurts.

For some people, the appendix is situated right next to the bladder in the lower abdomen; as such, inflammation of the appendix can both inflame and irritate the bladder, resulting in the need to pee – and then pee again.

Not only do you have to pee a lot, but it hurts when you go. The only two possible explanations are a urinary tract infection (UTI) or appendicitis. Either way, a trip to the hospital is in order.

Sources:
https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/digestive-diseases/appendicitis/definition-facts
https://www.prevention.com/health/5-warning-signs-your-appendix-might-burst/slide/5

8 Habits That Make You Age Faster (And How to Fix It)

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“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you tap into this source, you will truly have defeated age.” ~ Sophia Loren

Interesting fact: The Anti-Aging Market topped $250 billion in the year 2016. It’s estimated that the market will continue to grow at a rate of six percent year-over-year.

Another interesting fact: Most people are wasting their money.

Aging is a natural biochemical process of the body. Until we can “hack” into those little things called cells, we’re going to get old.

Until that time, people will likely continue to spend $50,000 on a facelift, inject themselves with toxins, and gladly turn their face into a birthday cake.

We’re a far cry from a legitimate Fountain of Youth.

It seems that many of these folks have never heard the phrase “Prevention is the best medicine.”

While we’ll (probably) never be able to completely and successfully reverse the aging process, there are things we can do to help counteract the effects of aging.

There are also things we can stop doing – this requires understanding the things that expedite the effects of aging.

With this knowledge, we can proactively improve our health, experience more happiness, and live a more positive, satisfying life!

So without further ado …

8 Things That Make You Age Faster

1. High Blood Pressure

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, over 75 million Americans – or one of every three adults – have high blood pressure.

Statistically, blood pressure tends to spike between the ages of 55 to 64 and slowly increases from then onward. This is problematic, as high blood pressure is linked with an increased risk of coronary disease, heart attacks, and heart failure.

Tips:

– Lose those extra few pounds.

– Aim for 30 minutes of light to moderate exercise daily.

– Eat a well-balanced, healthy diet.

– Reduce salt intake.

– Limit alcohol.

2. Being Overweight

Scientists at the University of Edinburg analyzed the genetic information of more than 600,000 people from 25 different studies across Australia, Europe, and North America.

The researchers discovered that every kilogram (2.2 pounds) of extra weight carried reduced life expectancy by roughly two months. Simple math time: 12 months/2.2 = 5.45 pounds.

Translation: Being overweight by just 5 pounds may take a year off of your life.

Tips:

– Schedule a physical examination to rule out any underlying conditions (e.g., thyroid disorders).

– Create a meal plan that consists of fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein.

– Find a workout regimen that works for you. Engaging in physical activity that interests you (biking, basketball, tennis, etc.) is the best way to stick with a workout routine!

3. Smoking

Per the same study by the University of Edinburg, “cigarette smoking and traits associated with lung cancer had the greatest impact on shortening lifespan.”

Smoking the equivalent of a pack of cigarettes a day reduces life expectancy by an average of 7 years.

Tips:

– Research smoking cessation programs if you need help.

– If you can’t quit cold-turkey, try cutting back slowly.

– Exercise and meditation are two activities that may help reduce cravings.

4. A Highly Stressful Job

Listen, most of us aren’t doing what we love. According to various surveys, job dissatisfaction hovers around 70 percent in the U.S.

But there’s a gaping difference between an irksome sense of job discontent and ceaselessly hating your job.

According to researchers from Indiana University, “people who have little decision-making ability in demanding jobs have a 15.4% increase in mortality compared to those in less demanding jobs.”

Tips:

– Evaluate your current level of job-related stress.

– Start looking for a new job, if necessary.

– Learn basic mindfulness and deep breathing techniques (This will help!)

5. High cholesterol levels

Your DNA influences your blood cholesterol levels; but while you can’t alter your genetic makeup, you can be proactive about keeping these markers within an acceptable range.

Tips:

– Increase dietary fiber intake.

– Eat foods rich in omega-3 fatty acids.

– Eliminate trans fats.

– Increase protein intake.

6. Willful Ignorance

While the sixth item on our list may seem irrelevant, there’s something to be said about the adverse effects of enabling an idle mind.

According to a 2015 study published in the journal PLOS One, “Mortality (due) to low education is comparable (to) individuals being current rather than former smokers.”

Having less than a high school diploma was found to be the most significant risk factor.

Tips:

– Keep your mind active through reading.

– Consider a brain training program.

– Take a free online course on something of interest to you.

– Advance your formal education, if desired.

7. Discontentment

Ecological momentary assessment (EMA) “assesses a person’s current experiences, behaviors, and moods as they occur in real time and in their natural environment.” Many behavioral scientists state that EMA is among the most precise measurements of a person’s well-being.

Relatedly, in a study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS), scientists used the EMA to evaluate 3,853 individuals aged 52 to 79 years.

Those whose scored the quantitative equivalent of “not happy” had a “death rate” of 7.3% – nearly double of those reported a more positive mindset.

Tips:

– Sit down, with yourself or someone else, and think about/discuss the sources of your happiness – or lack thereof.

– Keep a simple gratitude journal, where you write three things that you’re grateful for every day.

– Seek out support – in whatever form (medical, spiritual, otherwise) that’s right for you.

8. Lack of Self-Care

The last item on our list is intentionally broad in scope.

The truth is that none of us know what’s best for someone else. Well-being is a highly subjective thing – just look at the self-help section at your local bookstore!

But deep down, all of us – whether or not we admit it to ourselves – have a pretty good answer to the question “How am I doing?”

Trying to prescribe a one-size-fits-all solution to the neverending list that is “life’s problems” is a futile (not to mention, depressing) endeavor.

So, in closing, please take care of yourself. If you don’t feel right, swallow your pride and seek out some help. Sit down, close your eyes and meditate. Get good at deep breathing.

Most importantly, cultivate and grow your positive natural energy! Believe us; it’s there!

Sources:
http://www.cdc.gov/bloodpressure/facts.htm
http://fortune.com/2016/10/17/job-stress-early-death/
http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0131809#ack
http://www.pnas.org/content/108/45/18244
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/high-blood-pressure/in-depth/high-blood-pressure/art-20046974
https://www.reuters.com/brandfeatures/venture-capital/article?id=11480

6 Proven Ways to Make A Great First Impression

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There exist specific rules of engagement when it comes to making a solid first impression.

Let’s consider a job interview – a situation where first impressions are critical. You already know what to do: dress the part, watch your body language, and hold some knowledge about the company and job role.

But there’s a difference between  – not only making a good impression – but keeping it.

Let’s revisit the job interview from a different perspective – the interviewers.

After a while, interviewers must “get smart” when it comes to doing away with the B.S. people throw at them – or risk having their judgment called into question.

They’ve had to learn the hard way, namely through getting duped by people making a “great first impression” only to disappoint.

The point is if we’re going to keep a solid foundation of people at our side – friends and colleagues, intimate partners, and others –  then we must understand and put into practice something called “impression management.”

Impression management is defined as “a conscious or subconscious process in which people attempt to influence the perception of (others) … by regulating and controlling information in social interaction.”

In this article, we will narrow down some of the best advice from impression management experts that can help us in our day-to-day relationships. If you commit to – and properly execute – these seven methods of impression management, you’ll enhance your ability to impress and influence people in the long run.

6 Ways to Make A Great First Impression

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“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” ~ Will Rogers

1. Mind your body language

We are always communicating, whether or not our lips are forming words. Has anyone ever asked you “what’s wrong” when there was nothing? That’s a perfect example.

We’re always sending messages. Communication is continuously sent and received from the words we speak and our tone of voice – to our body language, such as posture and facial expressions.

Mind your body language.

2. Be respectful to make a great first impression

Respect goes a long way, especially in a society where everyone seems to look out for numero uno.”

Being disrespectful always comes back around. Look at the proliferation of sexual harassment claims against politicians and actors to see this karma in action.

At work, failure to be respectful can get you fired. In your relationships, disrespect can get you dumped.

And so on.

The bottom line: regarding impression management, r-e-s-p-e-c-t is the fundamental building block.

3. Be open-minded

Despite all of the world’s problems, we’re living in perhaps the most learned age in history. The democratization of knowledge and education has led to people worldwide being more informed.

Studies have repeatedly demonstrated the link between education and a more egalitarian world view.

Be fair, even-minded, and mature. Listen to others’ perspectives even if they don’t align with yours. Instead of ridiculing an idea you interpret as unworkable, take the time to listen and understand.

4. Embrace humanity to make a good first impression

Listen, we’re living in some troubling times. North Korea, climate change, and the threat of nuclear proliferation… all of these things are bothersome.

But there’s a whole lot of good going on in the world, too.

Why doesn’t the media talk more about these things? Because human beings possess something called a ‘negativity bias,’ where we pay more attention to bad events than good ones. More viewers = higher ratings = more advertisements = more money.

So just when you’re about to fall into a rabbit hole of negativity, search and find some good in the world!

5. Keep your word

Remain true to your word unless there’s an excellent reason. People who say what they mean, mean what they say, and let their actions do the talking always seem to remain in the good graces of others.

Be on time for appointments. Pay people what they’re owed. Don’t make false promises. Do what’s right even if it requires some sacrifice or discomfort.

Holding others accountable for their word is also applicable.

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6. Speak up

So many people have informative and insightful things to add but choose not to for whatever reason. That’s difficult for introverts – but very necessary.

But people can’t hold you in a positive light if you refuse to engage. Worse, the shy ones are often overlooked because people aren’t aware of their abilities!

Don’t be overly concerned with people’s reactions, either. As long as you remain positive, polite, and conscientious, most people will listen to what you have to say!

10 Reasons Strong Women Handle Relationships Differently

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Strong women know more than anything else that taking care of themselves is a must and to not look upon anyone else to swoop in and save the day for them. They have been battle-tested and learned what independence truly means.

Strong women have never known what’s it like to need anyone because they had to fend for themselves at a young age. Any strong woman you meet has had a few crappy hands dealt to her in life, but she’s risen above like the champion she is at heart, not allowing one misstep or misfortune to hold her down.

Strong women are fierce, courageous, resilient, and beautiful. If you’re the lucky guy or gal who gets to call her yours, you will keep the following points in mind to know what to expect in your relationship with your strong sweetheart.

“I believe in strong women, I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself, I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.”  – C. JoyBell C.

10 Reasons Strong Women Approach Relationships Differently

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1. They aren’t looking for a relationship to save them

No, they learned as a child that no one would come to save them – they had to save themselves. They never enjoyed relying on anyone for anything, so why start now?

The person there for them at the end of the day was always staring back at them in the mirror before they laid their head down at night, so they see no reason to give that duty to someone else.

In relationships, strong women do not view you as a means to an end – a way to become more financially or emotionally stable, cure themselves of loneliness, etc. They don’t have any ulterior motive for being with you, so you don’t have to worry.

A relationship with a strong woman has a lot more security because you don’t have to walk on eggshells around her to keep her happy. You don’t have to bring home a six-figure income to satisfy her, and you don’t have to babysit her emotions. There is security and freedom in a relationship with a woman who needs no hero to save her.

2. Strong women know what they want

Because of this, they don’t approach relationships the same way those who are just wading in the dating pool might. They dive right in and know their target long before hitting the water. In other words, these women have been hurt before and know what to look for in a mate.

They’ve had experience with the types of people they DON’T want, so they know exactly what they do want. They don’t waste their life in dead-end relationships; you’ll know if they feel the vibe with you. If not, she’ll let you know early so you both don’t waste your time.

3. They view relationships as an equal partnership

They don’t seek out a partner to get anything out of them. Instead, they seek someone to add value to their life. They only want someone who will lift them up, not drag them down.

In the same way, they also wish to add meaning to someone else’s life. Indeed, they see the importance of both give and take in a relationship. A strong woman would never take more than she’s willing to give when it comes to love.

4. They know how to handle their emotions

Strong women don’t need anyone to coddle them in life; they can perfectly sort through their feelings. Because of their emotional maturity, talking to them is much easier should a disagreement occur.

In a relationship with a strong woman, things are dealt with in an adult manner, with respect and grace. These type of women don’t let their emotions get the best of them, and always listen to their partner’s point of view without interrupting.

5. Strong women aren’t afraid of conflict

They would rather bring something up front and center than tiptoe around an issue and let it fester. They won’t ever yell or allow their anger to get the best of them, but they certainly won’t cower in a corner, either. If something happens between the two of you, she won’t hesitate to talk about it so the problem can be resolved quickly.

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6. They look at a relationship as a team

They can’t have anyone slowing them down, so they only choose someone they can see building a stable life with in the future. A strong woman doesn’t want anyone to control her or anyone to control her; she wants someone who will grow with her and whose future can be intertwined with hers.

She also wants someone who has her back and who she can protect. Strong women don’t need someone to feel better about themselves. Instead, they want someone to celebrate all the wins in life with, and someone to support and encourage them through the losses.

7. They don’t get jealous easily

Trust is a big deal for a strong woman, because she doesn’t just hand it out. It has to be earned over time; even then, she might still need some more time.

So, if you have her trust, don’t do anything to lose it, because you will most likely not get that privilege back. If she trusts you, she doesn’t worry about the friends you hang out with or where you go after work. She doesn’t get jealous of the other people you spend time with, because she gave you her heart and knows you will protect it no matter what.

8. Strong women aren’t just looking for something casual

They don’t want someone to keep them warm in the winter. No. They want someone who will withstand the seasons. Someone who will weather all the storms and climates with them.

Strong women seek out serious relationships more often than others because they aren’t just looking for someone to love but a partner to complement them. They want a soulmate, and nothing less.

9. They run from negativity

So, don’t expect her to tolerate much of it in your relationship. A strong woman desires a positive, uplifting person. That’s because she’s been through a lot in her own life and doesn’t want someone who will drag her back into the dirt.

She’s blossomed into a beautiful flower and knows that flowers can’t keep growing without sunlight, so she runs from darkness whenever possible. She will always tackle problems with you but won’t tolerate constant complaining and toxic behavior.

10. They have their own goals and dreams

A strong woman doesn’t need a man or woman to bring home the bread or give her life direction. She knows where she’s going and how she’s getting there, and nothing but the end of the world could ever stop her.

She wants you to have your own life, too, so that you both have things you’re working towards while being able to cheer each other on. In the same way that she has her life together, she only seeks out someone with clear goals and direction.

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Final Thoughts on Strong Women

Strong women give this world hope and show us a great example of what we can become if we strive to reach our full potential. These women never gave up despite countless obstacles and adversity; we wouldn’t be here today without them.

In a relationship, a strong woman can balance her fiery nature with her grace and wisdom to avoid taking total control of the partnership. She might come on a bit strong initially, but she will let you take the reigns too, once she gets to know you.

Being in a relationship with this type of woman is quite a privilege and should not be taken for granted. A strong woman can take a relationship to new heights and show you how fantastic love can truly be.

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