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5 Things You Need to Know About True Happiness

Happiness is all around us, but some of us are blind to its presence. It can be difficult to see happiness through the hurts and problems of the present. Pain, loneliness, difficulties and money problems can surround us like a thick fog. The sun can burn off the fog, but when you are inside this fog of emotional distress, the sun can seem dim and distant. We have to ignite the fire within us to burn away that fog. Happy people burn with a light that lets them see all of the joys of the world and pushes away the dark thoughts and emotions. Some folks find it hard to find that spark and ignite their fire because they think that happiness is something that happens to them and not something they create for themselves.

Here are 5 simple truths about happiness that are sometimes shrouded in the fog:

1. It Is a journey and not a destination.

Happiness is not a place you arrive at. Happiness is the journey itself. Everyday you have to choose to walk the path of happiness and not to happiness. Learn to enjoy the journey. Enjoy the view at the very least. Seek out happiness wherever you can find it. It also helps to bring friends along for the ride. Be patient and look for new and wonderful things you might have missed if you had checked your email instead.

2. You have to work at becoming happier.

You have to keep the fire burning everyday by feeding it. Doing things that are kind, generous or helpful can bring happiness to others. Happiness is contagious, and when you make others happy, you will feel happy as well. It feels good to have people appreciate you and be thankful for things you do for them. Do for others everyday and they will bring you joy in return.

3. We adapt quickly.

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The new and the novel will bring us happiness in the short term, but we quickly get used to it. That new house, car, television, relationship or job will make us happy initially, but the newness will quickly wear off. We get used to it and want more. We stop appreciating what we have in our lives and desire something newer and shinier. It is part of our nature and seems to be hardwired into us. But, we can choose to be grateful for the things and people we have in our lives. We have to remind ourselves that we are lucky to have what we have and that many people have far less than us.

4. Happiness and pleasure are not the same.

Some people mistake pleasures of the mind and body for true happiness. They indulge in drugs, alcohol, eating, exercise, sex, adrenaline rushes and any other thing you can imagine that would stimulate the physical body. But, these pleasures are fleeting and we build up a tolerance to them. We require larger and more intense doses of these pleasures to get the same rush. We lose ourselves in our desire to chase the dragon.

Happiness is a state of mind and not one of the body. A healthy body with healthy appetites can certainly help us achieve our happiness, but an overindulgence in physical gratification can actually hinder our state of happiness. Too little and too much of something can fuel unhappiness. We have to find our own “Goldilocks Zone” of moderation in order to sustain long term happiness.

5. Everyone is different.

What makes you happy could be fundamentally different from what makes everyone else happy. You have to find your own happy path. Others will walk with you for awhile, but the path is your own. You build it as you go with the experiences and memories that are uniquely yours. What makes your partner, your friends or your family happy may be different than that which stokes your fire. Feed your fire with the things that make you happy while also feeding the fires of those around you. Once you have found your spark and fed your fire to the point where you have burned away the fog around you, then you can move closer to others who are still lost in their own fog. Move in and let them feel your warmth. Let them feel your happiness as you slowly help them lift the fog around themselves.

8 Ways To Heal After a Major Breakup

The very nature of giving your heart, mind and soul to somebody else is un-replicable. It only makes sense that, when – through the unfolding of unfortunate events – a breakup occurs, it can be incredibly damaging to that very heart, mind and soul.

Vikki Stark, MSW – a family therapist and author – states: “Initially, you feel like you’re never going to get through because you’re just so turned upside down. But the chaos won’t last forever.” While Stark was speaking of divorce following a long-term marriage, a similar sentiment can apply to anyone experiencing a breakup.

This quick intro segues into the topic of this article: how to heal after a breakup. While these tips are not intended to be expediters of the healing process, they may suffice as general guidance during a very confusing and hurtful time.

Here are 8 ways to heal after a major breakup:

Don’t take your love away from me. Don’t you leave my heart in misery. If you go then I’ll be blue. Cause breaking up is hard to do. – Neil Sedaka, “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do”

1. Allow grieving time

Nothing else on this list will matter much if little to no time is allotted for the grieving process. In many ways, a breakup is similar (albeit, often less serious) than death of a close relative. In part, death of a loved one is hard because of the realization that expressing your immense love to that person is no longer possible. It is a forced suppression of love.

A breakup is similar in this respect. The accumulated feelings of love, admiration, curiousness – and a myriad of other feelings – can’t be expressed the same way. To this end, the soul must grieve to account for such a loss.
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2. Lean on friends during recovery from a breakup

As Bill Withers once sang: “Lean on me when you’re not strong I’ll be your friend. I’ll help you carry on. For it won’t be long ‘til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on.” (Sorry, I’m in a lyrical mood today!)

Aside from immediate family, perhaps nobody understands the intricacies of you better than close friends. Apart from being your emotional support, friends will also help to mitigate some of the impulsive behavior demonstrated after a breakup: “drunk texting,” social media wallowing, etc.

3. Expand your social circle

One of the unfortunate consequences of a breakup is the narrowing of one’s social circle. This often happens because couples tend to hang out with other couples. As such, friends that are eating/married/courting may not have the time and/or inclination to meet up with single friends (i.e. you).

Consider getting out and meeting new people. Many groups are out there that focus on relationship problems; even support groups that focus on breakups.

4. Consider professional support

Notice that we didn’t “mandate” the counsel of professionals. That’s because each person deals with grief in a different way.

That said, professional support can, at times, provide unique insight into the situation that friends and family cannot. Professionals (e.g. family therapists, psychologists, relationship counselors) will allow you to divulge some pent-up emotions, but they’ll also be much more proactive in seeking out constructive solutions to your problem.

5. Begin dating again

Even if you’re not trying to enter another serious relationship, dating can still be beneficial. First off, dating expands your social circle. Many people – men and women, included – will often meet up with no other intention than to discover a new friend.

Of course, if you’re ready to “get back in the saddle,” that is perfectly okay as well. You’re intelligent enough to understand that taking things slow at this stage is often the best course of action.

So have fun and do what feels right!

6. Seek self-improvement

The natural (and accepted) tendency to wallow in pity is commonplace following a breakup. One of the best ways to counteract this tendency is to focus on you; specifically, to focus on constructing a “better version” of yourself.

Prioritizing self-improvement is often successful at mitigating many of the negative thoughts and emotions that surface after a breakup.

7. Keep a journal of your breakup emotions

Emotions – especially powerful ones – build up within us. When this happens, we have a much higher propensity to visit and revisit such emotions. This is when writing things down in a journal can help.

First, journal writing can serve as a type of release. Where previously, thoughts and emotions resided mainly inside of your head, they are given some context and released onto a piece of paper.

Second, the benefits of journal writing are backed by loads of scientific research. In a 2008 study at Syracuse University, researchers discovered that post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) patients demonstrated noticeable improvement after writing about their distressing experiences.

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8. Enjoy being single!

Once the dark cloud that is a breakup has lifted, try reflecting on the freedoms allowed by not being attached, to which there are many. No more “checking in” with a significant other. Skip the “getting permission” before doing something that you want. And best yet, no more fruitless worrying over how decisions that you’ve made will be perceived.

Related article: If You’re Going Through A Breakup, This Is For You…

It’s often a long, dark back from a breakup. As such, once you’ve reached the other side, sometimes it may be a cause for celebration. Enjoy being you! Enjoy being single (at least for a while!)

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25 Things You Should Do While You’re Still Young

You live your youth only once. Experience different things rather than following a same boring routine pattern. You still have time so why not spend it on something which you will remember for the rest of your life. Here is a list of many interesting things you can do while you are young.

1. Let it out while young

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There is no point of holding up a thing in your head for a long time. Try to let go of it and clear your mind of such rent-free thoughts.

2. Forget about other people’s perception

For once in your life, try not to consider the views of other people. Do whatever you want to do and let people talk about it.

3. Dance alone

Practice your weird dance moves when no one is looking. Trust me, you will have a lot of fun. It is also an amazing way to relax.

4. Overcome your fears while still young

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Try to face your worst fear once in your life. If you are afraid of heights, go and experience, it won’t kill you.

5. Try a young, new look

We settle for the same style for a long time. Try a new look; do something interesting with your hair or with your overall look and surprise others.

6. Try a weird dress in public

Wear a dress which you will not prefer to wear in normal situations. Wear something which is not your style and go meet your friends. It will be fun.

7. Travel with your bestie

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Travel to your favorite destination with your bestie and spend the best time of your life. Talk all night, try new outfits, do fun things, visit different places and enjoy your perfect bond.

8. Go to a haunted place

Everyone is afraid of going to haunted places. Visit some place haunted near you and get a different and exciting experience.

9. Try a new sport

People prefer to play only one sport in their life. They practice and master skills related to that sport. For a change, try a new sport and experience something different.

10. Get wet in winter rains

Winters are so cold and it’s crazy to get wet in winter rains. But, crazy is sometimes good. Do crazy things but in a limit. Don’t get pneumonia.

11. Be alone for some time

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If you want to know yourself, being alone is the best way. Go with yourself to some place quiet and know about yourself.

12. Spend money without thinking

We earn money with hard work but sometimes for a change, try to buy your favorite expensive dress or watch without thinking about its price. Try an expensive restaurant for a new experience.

13. Love yourself

The one thing you should do is love yourself. No one in this world is perfect so love yourself the way you are.

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14. Meet your favorite celebrity

We all have celebrity crushes and it would be a dream come true to meet them. You like a celebrity; meet them! Go to the place where they live or a place which is convenient for you to meet them.

15. Find that special one

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Take some time out from your routine and find someone special for you. In your busy routine, you may overlook someone who is worthy enough.

16. Live your childhood dream

Everyone has an insane childhood dream. It can be becoming a super hero or creating some kind of tool. Fulfill your childhood desires and live them. You will feel wonderful.

17. Spend a day with an elderly person

We sometimes neglect our elders in our activities. Take a day off and spend it with your grandparents or any elderly among your relatives. You can’t imagine how much fun you will have.

18. Show creativity

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Each one of us has some kind of creativity inside us. Try crafting or do whatever you want to do and make something really creative.

19. Try different jobs while young

It is always good to have different experiences. Try jobs of different natures and test yourself. In this way, you will find your preference if you are still unsure about it.

20. Learn tarot reading

You should learn something new. Tarot card reading can be a good option for this. It’s cool; you can impress your friends and have a fun time.

21. Try a food you dislike

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There are many foods we dislike and we usually avoid them. Trying that disliked food won’t harm your digestive track. May be it results in a good addition to your food list and you thank us later for that addition.

22. Face the crowd

Some people are afraid of crowds. They don’t feel comfortable in the presence of so many people. Try to face that crowd with the real you. They will not punish you for being yourself. Overcome your fear and show who you are to everyone.

23. Tell a secret

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We all have a lot of secrets about ourselves, other people or incidents we face. We avoid telling those things to anyone. Tell something you are hiding in your heart to someone. That someone can be a random person or your best friend.

24. Make an album while young

Life is full of memories and to live them again will be a wish come true. Pictures of our favorite moments allow us to relive them again. Make an album of all of your memories to have a good experience.

25. Spend time with your siblings

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In our everyday activities, we are unable to spend quality time with our siblings. Take some timeout and spend it with your siblings at your home or somewhere out. They will realize your importance and your bond will get stronger.

We only get to live once and it is our right to live life to its maximum. Plan your life and discover new things. You should have something interesting for your grandchildren to listen to. Who knows, they will get the inspiration from you and explore new things.

Asking Yourself These Questions Every Day Can Reveal Your Deepest Desires

We like to think that the Universe is not random and that we were placed here with some mission to accomplish before we die. Of course, that leads to many question. That’s because we want to know that our lives held meaning and that in some small way we changed the Universe for the better.

We want to be reaffirmed. Isaac Newton once said

If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of Giants.” Our descendants will stand on our shoulders and carry the torch of humanity even farther than we have. But what is it that we should be doing?

Asking yourself these questions may raise your vibration, and open up an entirely new world (based on how you answer them…)

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What Makes You Happy?
This is a pretty simple question though it is sometimes hard to answer. What is it that makes us happy when we do it? Does our current job make us happy? Or does it simply keep us housed and fed?
What Do You Want To Do?
Is there something you have been wanting to do but don’t think you can make it happen? Is there something else you would rather be doing? What would you do if money were no issue?
What Would You Try If You Could Not Fail?
If there was no way you could possibly screw up what would you try to do? Most of us convince ourselves that we are going to fail even before we try. We tell ourselves that something is impossible or impractical. We fail before we even try. But what if you couldn’t fail?
What Makes You Lose Track Of Time?

What is the thing you enjoy so much that the hours just fly by and you never have enough time to invest in that activity? When you enjoy something so much time ceases to exist. You lose yourself in the work. This can ultimately bring about a change in your mental, and physical worlds.

What Are You Good At?
If you are good at something wouldn’t it be a waste if you didn’t do that thing full time? What is it that seems to come easily to you? Are you a leader? A good speaker? Are you really good at math? Ask yourself what you are best at. Is there something you really excel at doing? Finding this can create the shift you’ve been looking for.
If You Died What Would You Regret Not Doing?
If you found out today that you were going to die tomorrow what would have wanted to accomplish before you died? Is there something that you feel you have left unfinished?
Related article: Here are some of the most common regrets of the dying…
What Do People Ask You For Help Doing?
Maybe the thing you are really good at is in high demand. Is there something people are always asking your help with because you are so darn good at it? Maybe they are subtly telling you what it is you should be doing with your life.
What Are Your Values?
These are serious questions. Is there a cause that aligns with your values and beliefs? Maybe you feel that something important has been overlooked by everyone else. Perhaps there is injustice in the world and you would like to change that. Maybe homelessness, poverty, inequality, famine, war, hunger, or human trafficking are things you wish you could end as you find your truest calling.

What Are You Willing To Fight For?

What do you care so much about that you are willing to expend your limited time on this earth fighting to solve or rid humanity of. Are you willing to meet the challenges and obstacles head on and overcome them with perseverance and determination?
What Are You Willing To Sacrifice For?
Are you willing to give up recreational time for a greater purpose? Personal relationships? Kids? Money? What do you feel about so passionately that you are willing to sacrifice to achieve your goals? Knowing how far you’re willing to go for what you believe in can change your whole life, and the lives of those around you.
What Is Holding Me Back?
What is it that is keeping you from following your dreams? Is it just fear? What is it that is keeping you from committing completely to achieve your life’s purpose?
How Do You Want Others to Remember You?
Most of us will live and die in obscurity and that is ok. We will not be remembered past our kids or grand-kids. But if you are remembered by society and history how do you want the collective memory of humanity to remember you? Your purpose is closely linked with how you want to be remembered. If you want to be remembered as the person who cured cancer or ended world hunger then those things should illuminate your purpose.
That purpose is out there and is waiting for you to find answers to your questions and grow from there.

10 Ways to Feel Better (In 15 Minutes or Less)

Life is busy and it is easy to forget to do things for yourself when you spend all day working and taking care of the family. But doing things for yourself to feel better is essential too. If you break down then you can’t help anyone. You should get into the habit of doing a little self-maintenance every day. Self Maintenance makes sure that you are refreshed and recharged and that you are not going to bit off the head of some random person. Most people would love to take the entire day and relax doing something they want to do. Time is at a premium for most of us, so we can get by with little ways to fill up the old gas tank occasionally during the day.

How to Feel Better in Under 15 Minutes

Here are some ways to feel better and recharge during the day, that only take fifteen minutes or less:

Take a Long Shower to Feel Better

Get in the shower and just relax for ten to fifteen minutes without anyone bothering you or asking questions. Let the water soak into you. Let the steam clean out your lungs and sinuses. When you are done you will be clean and feel refreshed and recharged.

Do A Quick Stretch

Get on the floor and stretch your muscles out. We build up tension all day. Let some of that tension drain away…you’ll feel better for it, guaranteed. Do some Yoga poses real quick and release some of that stress. Stretching is very relaxing and has the added benefit of getting your blood flowing a bit. Once you get that little jump start you will find you have a little more energy.

Grab a Quick Nap

Jump on the couch and grab a short power nap. You may even find it helpful to just close your eyes and fall into a deep relaxation without actually drifting off to sleep. Set your alarm on your phone and just face-plant into the bed for fifteen minutes.

Indulge In Your Favorite Snack or Beverage

Go grab a luxurious coffee or get your favorite tea. Find something you enjoy and treat yourself. Allow yourself some time to sit and savor the food. It doesn’t have to be a meal just a quick little guilty pleasure to boost your spirits.

Go Outside And Sit In The Sun to Feel Better Sooner

Sunshine provides us with vitamin D and can make us feel refreshed when we sit outside and soak up the sun’s warmth. Some depressions have been linked to a lack of sunshine during the winter months. So a lack of sunshine can affect your mood. Working inside all day under artificial lighting it can screw with your moods and energy levels. If you need a quick pick me up go outside and recharge yourself.

Play A Simple Game

Most of us have access to smartphones these days. With those smartphones come a myriad of simple but entertaining and challenging games. Fire up your favorite game and let yourself have a few minutes of simple fun.

Put on Your Favorite Song to Feel Better

Put in your earbuds, head out to the car, and jam out for a few minutes to your favorite song. Music is a universally human experience and can strongly affect our moods. Find a song that makes you happy and rock out for a bit.

Phone a Friend

Call a buddy or BFF and catch up for a bit. Be silly. Talk about something on your mind or just see what they have been up to lately. Our friends can cheer us up or boost our spirits if we are feeling down or drained.

Go For A Walk

Get outside and walk around the block. Take a short hike around the parking lot at work. Walk down to the store or restaurant and grab a quick bite. Get up and get moving to get the blood flowing. Get those endorphins pumping a little. We feel better after exercise or physical activity because our body releases chemicals that make us feel good. The sunshine and fresh air don’t hurt either.

Unplug For A Bit

Information overload is a common problem in our modern world. Take a break from the constant flow of data and opinions and enjoy quiet time. So set aside that tablet, phone or laptop and enjoy the real world.

This 8 Year Old Saw His Friend Denied Lunch Because Of No Money…Then Buys Lunch For Hundreds

We all know that for most people in the world, times are tough. We all are just scraping by, clinging to any piece of hope and inspiration. Many people have had to resort to getting second jobs or applying for unemployment just to make enough money to make ends meet. However, one boy named Cayde, from Michigan, decided to be the light in a very dark world.

Just 8 years old, Cayden Taipalus decided to find a way to raise money for kids in his school who didn’t have enough funds to pay for a hot lunch themselves. When Cayden saw his friend being denied a hot lunch because he didn’t have money in his account, he knew immediately that he had to take action.

8 Year Old Sees Friend Denied Lunch Because of No Money…Buys Lunch For Nearly 300 Kids

A student at Challenger Elementary in Howell, Cayden had to watch his friend eat a cheese sandwich that the school gave him due to the lack of money in his account. 

His mother, Amber Melke-Peters said that Cayden came home that day upset about the situation, and asked her for advice on how he could help his friends so that they could have hot lunches every day.

His mother wanted to get on board with his vision, too, and helped him create a website to raise funds for the children. They both came up with a site name: “Pay It Forward: No Kids Goes Hungry.” Once they got the website up and running, Cayden asked anyone he knew for whatever they could offer to help the children at his school get hot lunches.

However, Cayden didn’t just count on others for monetary help. He actually went out and did some recycling so that he could raise a bit of money on his own to add to the “hot lunch funds.” 

After he helped his friends pay off lunch debts, he asked the lunch ladies to add money to some children’s accounts who needed it so that they wouldn’t have to go hungry anymore.

Since Cayden started his site, he’s raised almost $7,000 and helped over 300 kids get hot lunches. He plans on keeping the site going and continuing to raise money so that more kids can have hot lunches at his school.

“I am so very proud of my son,” Peters said. “He is only 8 years old and to grasp the concept around this is just amazing in my eyes. He has a heart of gold.”

Along with his mother, the staff at Challenger Elementary and so many others feel inspired by Cayden’s selfless actions. He saw a problem and worked hard to fix it so that his friends could enjoy a hot lunch with him.

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So, we hope that you, too, will find inspiration and beauty in Cayden’s actions, because he shows us that light still very much exists in this world. We can all help out and make a difference, if only we remember to continue looking out for one another and not just ourselves.

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7 Signs of Breast Cancer Women Often Ignore

When you notice something abnormal on your body, it’s easy to dismiss it and assume it’ll go away on its own. However, it’s essential to your health that you address each indication of something being amiss immediately. Ignoring issues with your body could cause you to miss some of the signs of breast cancer.

Breast Cancer is the second-highest killer of women worldwide and the most commonly diagnosed cancer in women. An eighth of all women in the USA will develop it throughout their life, with almost a quarter of a million new cases last year alone. With that being the case, ignoring the signs could be deadly.

Aside from lung cancer, breast cancer kills more women than any other cancer. Women over the age of fifty are more at risk, but 5% of cases occur in women under 40.

Men are not exempt from breast cancer either, but it only affects about one in 833 men in the United States. With women having a much higher risk, women must know the warning signs and have information regarding early detection and survival rates.

Seven Warning Signs of Breast Cancer

If you recognize the warning signs of cancer in yourself, don’t panic before getting medical guidance. These symptoms are merely a guide to help you understand when something might be amiss with your health.

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1. Lumps in Your Breasts

Breast tissue is naturally bumpy, but harder lumps or ones different from the rest are signs. Likewise, if the area feels other than before, it could indicate cancer. If you notice any change, see a health care provider right away.

It could be a benign breast condition, or it could be a sign of cancer. You don’t want to ignore the change and risk worsening conditions.

2. Redness or a Rash

Abnormal redness or having a rash on your breast or around the nipple is a red flag. If it goes away quickly, there’s likely no cause for concern. However, if it remains, you’ll want to consult your doctor.

3. Nipple Discharge can Indicate Breast Cancer

Discharge from your nipple can occur in any color, and it’ll come out without squeezing or pressing. It isn’t always a sign of cancer, but it can be, so get it checked out right away.

Either way, nipple discharge is abnormal, and you should address the underlying cause. If you notice discharge without squeezing, it occurs in only one breast, or it is bloody or clear, see a medical professional immediately.

4. Swelling in the Armpit or Around the Collarbone

You might notice a lump in your armpit or around the collarbone rather than in your breast. The breast tissue extends to both areas, so don’t ignore them when checking for abnormalities. If cancer is present, it indicates that it has spread to the lymph nodes.

Rather than a lump, you might also notice swelling in those areas. If that’s the case, you should still seek medical care, as swelling sometimes occurs before a lump develops.

5. Change in Size and Skin Texture

Changes in the size of your breast could be the result of hormonal shifts. However, if it isn’t normal for you, don’t hesitate to seek a medical opinion.

Additionally, if the appearance of your skin has changed in some way, you will want to see a doctor. It might resemble the texture of an orange peel, or it could dimple instead.

6. An Inverted Nipple

A nipple that pulls inward is called an inverted nipple. While all nipples are different, and some are naturally inverted, it’s worth seeking a medical opinion to be safe. If yours wasn’t inverted before, but suddenly changed, you’ll want to make an appointment right away.

7. Constant Pain Could Reveal Breast Cancer

Cancer lumps are often painless, but they could result in a dull ache in the affected area. Hormonal shifts or a poorly fitting bra can cause breast discomfort, too, but if that’s not the case for you, call your doctor right away.

Sometimes you won’t experience pain, but you’ll notice a weird sensation. It might feel like tenderness or a prickly feeling, too.

12 Risk Factors That Increase the Odds of Breast Cancer

Some risk factors that increase your odds of breast cancer cannot be changed. You can change some aspects, though, and focus on implementing healthier habits to decrease your risk.

1. Getting Older Can Increase the Chance of Breast Cancer

You can’t control aging, but your risk of developing this kind of cancer increases as you get older. Your chance of developing the disease is higher for women over fifty. It is less common in younger women, but it can still occur.

2. Genetic Mutations

Some women inherit gene mutations like BRCA1 and BRCA2. These mutations cause cell-cycle dysregulation, abnormal duplication, genetic instability, and other issues. Women with these genetic mutations have a higher risk of developing breast and ovarian cancer.

3. Age When Menstrual Cycles Started or Stopped

Girls who start their menstrual cycles before twelve are more likely to develop cancer when they’re older. Additionally, women who start menopause after 55 have an increased risk because they were exposed to hormones longer.

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4. Dense Breasts

Some women have dense breasts, meaning more connective tissue than fatty tissue. When this is the case, it makes them more susceptible to getting cancer. Dense breasts make it harder to detect tumors on a mammogram, too.

5. Personal History of Cancer or Other Breast Diseases

Women who have already had breast cancer are more likely to get it again. A re-occurrence typically happens within two years of the first. Additionally, women with non-cancerous breast diseases are more likely to develop cancer.

6. Family History Can Increase Breast Cancer Risks

Having a family first-degree relative with breast or ovarian cancer increases your risk. A first-degree relative is a mother, sister, or daughter, but it could also be a father, brother, or son. However, if a woman has multiple people on their mother or father’s side of the family who have had cancer, it also increases their risk.

7. Previous Radiation Therapy Treatment

Radiation therapy treats certain cancers and other diseases, but it can also increase your risk of developing breast cancer. If the treatment occurred near the chest or breast before the woman was 30, their risk increases.

8. Exposure to DES

Diethylstilbestrol (DES) external icon was a drug used between 1940 and 1971. It was used to prevent miscarriage but was later determined to increase a woman’s cancer risk. The pregnant mothers who took it have increased risk, but their daughters also do.

9. Lack of Physical Activity Can Make a Woman More Likely to Have Breast Cancer

Those who aren’t active have an increased risk of getting breast cancer. Inactivity means you do less than 150 minutes of moderate exercise each week, and experts recommend daily activity. You don’t have to participate in sports or exercise as long as you move in a way that makes you slightly out of breath.

10. Being Overweight or Obese After Menopause

Older women who are overweight or obese have an increased risk of cancer. The risk continues to grow if more weight gain occurs, too. You can make a beneficial change by eating healthy and being physically active.

11. Hormone Replacement and Contraceptives

Taking hormones, including estrogen and progesterone, during menopause increases your risk. Short-term hormone replacement therapy doesn’t seem to cause issues but taking it for five or more years does.

Additionally, some birth control pills raise the risk, too. The risk doesn’t go back to normal until ten years after you stop taking the contraceptive pill. Because the majority of the women who take these pills are young, the risk normalizes before their age becomes a risk factor.

12. Reproductive History

If your first pregnancy occurs after you’re 30, you have a higher risk of developing cancer. Additionally, never breastfeeding or having a full-term pregnancy can also increase the risk.

13. Frequently Drinking Alcohol

Women who drink more alcohol have a higher risk of cancer. The more she drinks, the higher her risk becomes. Limit your alcohol intake to decrease your cancer risk.

Early Detection and Increased Breast Cancer Survival Rates

In the beginning stages of the disease, you might not notice any symptoms. Sometimes the signs are absent altogether, or they are so minimal that a woman doesn’t pay much attention. However, early detection leads to increased survival rates.

If you notice any signs of breast cancer, you must see a doctor right away. The presence of symptoms shows that the disease is actively developing.

Research shows a 90% survival rate when the cancer is diagnosed and treated during the first stage. If treatment doesn’t begin until the third stage, the survival rate decreases to only 40%. Early detection is essential, so monitor your body for the signs of cancer.

You can increase your chances of detecting cancer early by performing self-examinations each month. Try to do the self-exams during the first phase of your menstrual cycle each month. Additionally, regular check-ups with a gynecologist and mammologist are essential.

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Final Thoughts on Knowing the Signs of Breast Cancer

Breast cancer is a scary disease, and early detection is essential for increased survival rates. Monitor your body for the signs of cancer, and don’t hesitate to see a doctor right away.

The sooner treatment begins, the sooner you can get healthy again. Knowing the risk factors can help you with an early diagnosis, too, as you’ll be on full alert.

15 Truths You’ll Have to Accept If Your Partner Is “The One”

You have been seeing your partner for a while now, with the star-spangled Honeymoon period over. Things are a-changin’ and you are wondering what is going on in your relationship. Is Trixie/Trevor “The One”?

It is high time to take off those rose-tinted glasses, thinking that everything will run smoothly. Life is never that way and relationships do not buck the trend. These are things you have to put up with to know whether your partner is “The One.”

15 Truths You’ll Have to Accept If Your Partner Is “The One”

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1. You will have arguments

Arguments in moderation and with good conflict resolution patterns are healthy for relationships. We cannot naturally tell Trixie/Trevor we love them 24/7, that is not healthy. If this is happening in your relationship, watch out! “A relationship with no arguments is a relationship with a lot of secrets,” says the quote. Could you be in one with lots of secrets?

Related article: Why Couples Who Argue Love Each Other More

2. Sometimes, there will not be a solution

An impasse! Oh no, the proverbial kryptonite for any relationship. Yet it does not have to be. Relationship Breaking an impasse can be fixed in these six steps.

A) It starts with loving yourself and believing in who you are. If your self esteem seems like it’s non-existent, start noticing things that you do like about yourself.

B) Lighten up your thoughts about yourself. If all you are doing is tearing yourself down in your mind, it’s no surprise that other people may not value you the way you think they should. Change your thoughts about yourself to better ones.

C)  Lighten up your thoughts about the other person. Remember why you love this person and don’t constantly repeat in your mind what you don’t love about him or her.

D) Know that you have choice. It may not seem that you have choice about your situation but you actually do.

E) Shift your attention to your heart as you listen to the other person and if your mind starts churning, bring your attention south. Find a place inside you where you know that you have choice and you are just listening to try to understand.

F) If you need to set healthy boundaries with this person, do so from a place of loving inside yourself–and from a place of knowing what you will and will not stand for.

3. The Golden Rule is mandatory

Imagine a loved one being on death’s door, what would you expect from your other half? To be there by your side, supporting you. You have to give the same if the shoe was on the other foot. Relationships are about give and take, the giving and taking of centre stage.

4. Changes in your relationship

Not to see changes in the relationship is a very short-sighted way of looking at it. The word “change” is very scary to people, so here it is known as the evolution of the relationship. One cannot argue the existence of evolution, just like how bread becomes stale or how we go from being cradled in the arms of our parents to travelling the world.

5. Your partner may not pick up or return your call

The first thing you think of doing is freak out, is it not? Sending dozens of messages and constant calling will just make you seem needy, which will scare them off and that will turn into a vicious circle. Follow the Power of Positivity’s Love Clinic advice and take a safe dosage of chillaxapil and be tranquil. They could be in a very important meeting or a family might have an emergency and cannot take your call.

6. No real listening at times

Listen up, people! Thank you for your attention. We have to know that people are sometimes away with the fairies, without the need of alcohol or other substances. According to Leon Watson of the Daily Telegraph in the UK, “Researchers surveyed 2,000 participants in Canada and studied the brain activity of 112 others using electroencephalograms. The results showed the average human attention span has fallen from 12 seconds in 2000, or around the time the mobile revolution began, to eight seconds. Goldfish, meanwhile, are believed to have an attention span of nine seconds.” Fancy a snog from your pet goldfish?

Related article: Why most men don’t “hear” women

7. Less frequent compliments over time

No more “looking sexy, hot stuff” type of comments or messages lately? It happens, especially if you are going through a bad patch. All you can do is try not to worry if Trixie/Trevor still fancies you, they are still in a relationship with you. Again, evolution of relationships comes into play and we must accept it. Go with the flow, Jo(e).

8. More practicality than romance

More sweatpants than hotpants, more cookie than nookie, more pay stubs than back rubs, less sugar than “open me this jar”. Again, evolution is at the forefront and these are the natural course of events. It is not to say that this is a bad thing, but men should check their drawers for clean women’s underwear and their bathrooms for that UTO (unidentified toothbrush object).

9. Cooking for them will be more of a must than a pleasure

During the courting phase, you would happily get in the kitchen and knock up a saucy pasta and a sweet dessert, washed down with a full-bodied red and a night cap. Now all you get is the classic Mac ‘N Cheese and a pudding cup, washed down with a few bottles of beer, no night cap. At least the company is not bad.

10. The ever-present “me time”

Unless you are Siamese twins, how can you possibly not want to enjoy the joys of time away from loving dearest? Sure, you were inseparable at the start, but that was during the courting stage. Ever since you love doves cranked it up a notch on the serious-o-meter, the “w” in “we time” turns upside down. There is just no reason you need to feel guilty about spending time by yourself. Being alone is good for you, no matter how

11. Public displays of affection (PDAs) decrease

PDAs are less seen in the relationship than UFOs (unlike the UTO in Number 8) and Casper the Friendly Ghost. OK, that was an exaggeration, but the decrease is noticeable – most of all by you. It is easier said than done but do not take it personally. Evolution does not do personal, it is a one size fits all system.

12. Hearing “Sorry” more than “I Love You”

This is true love. Hearing this tells your partner that you value the relationship more than being right. Is that not being in an adult relationship is all about? This actually says “I love you” louder and better than the phrase itself. Fellas, if YOU hear this, you have hit the jackpot!

Related article: 12 Psychological Reasons People Fall In Love

This is a cliche for a reason, every cloud has a silver lining. As Vincent in Collateral says, “Now we gotta make the best of it, improvise, adapt to the environment, Darwin, s**t happens, I Ching, whatever man, we gotta roll with it.”

How To Avoid A Relapse Into Depression

Statistics show about a 50% chance of relapse into depression. It gets higher if you have had more than one bout of clinical depression. After your second bout the chance for relapse goes up to 70% and after your third it goes up even more to 90%. Preventing a relapse becomes very important after your first bout of depression, and the chance to continue falling victim to depression increases dramatically after the first episode. Prevention is simply a medical treatment that continues after the symptoms enter remission. It is very important to have a prevention plan and to avoid triggers that could cause a relapse. So what can we do to avoid relapsing into a depression after our first?

In the case of a relapse into depression, doing these things will help you avoid it:

Follow Through With Your Plan

The biggest trigger to relapse is not following through with your healing once symptoms begin to go away. Just because you don’t feel them anymore does not mean they aren’t waiting in the wings, ready to leap back into your life if you let your guard down. Don’t skip the mental or emotional healing sessions you need just because you start feeling better. If you have difficulty making it to therapy sessions, speak up and ask for help. If something creates an uncomfortable side effect, seek out your healthcare professional about your experiences. The key is to find a plan that works for you and keeps you from relapsing back into depression.

Eliminate Negative Thoughts

Dwelling on opposing views of yourself can trigger relapses in patients with a history of depression. Looking at yourself negatively and dwelling on past failures or mistakes is counterproductive to your mental health. Cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness-based therapy can help mitigate or eliminate such negative thoughts from intruding into your mind.

Know Where You Are Vulnerable

Every person’s situation is different, and everyone has unique vulnerabilities to their mental and emotional state. You need to identify where you are vulnerable and minimize contact with those persons or places. Also be mindful of special days of the year in your life or holidays where things might be more emotionally difficult than the average day. The stressful holiday season can be a huge factor in the relapsing of depression. Anniversaries of past traumas or injuries can also lead to a relapse, so make sure you plan ahead of time for those periods when you might be more vulnerable.

Keep an Emotional Journal

Keep track of your daily emotional states. This can help you spot a relapse when one occurs and get immediate treatment to help prevent an episode of depression. By being mindful of your emotional and mental states from day to day, you can gain control over the disease rather than become a victim. There may even be some apps to help you catalog how you feel from day to day. If you notice a pattern of negative emotions for seven to ten days then see your doctor immediately and get some help. You may just need to adjust your medication or continue with psychotherapy.

Reach out To People

Whether you are reaching out to a specific support group or a group of close friends or family members, it is essential to remember not to let yourself get socially isolated. Depression can make social situations not feel pleasurable and even be painful. Social isolation is a symptom of a relapse into depression. Be mindful of your habits when it comes to spending time with other people.

Get Enough Sleep

Lack of sleep can be a significant contributing factor in depression and the relapse into depression. If you suffer from insomnia or cannot stay asleep once you have fallen asleep, you should see your doctor. Sleep apnea and other disorders can also contribute to poor sleep and the relapse into depression. If you have a physical disorder that inhibits or disrupts sleep, let your doctor or therapist know, as it may trigger another depressive episode.
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