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9 Signs Your Partner Is Mature Enough To Handle A Relationship

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“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.” – Steve Jobs.

The beginning of a relationship can be a whirlwind of excitement. Glances across a crowded room, flirtatious chats, all that intimate tension. Unfortunately, many of us have had these honeymoon stage feelings and only found out later that our partner wasn’t anywhere near ready to handle a relationship.

While the relationship can be fun and casual, you’ll also want to make sure that you know the signs of when your partner is really ready to take the next step into a mature and adult relationship. Some people just don’t have the experience, while others just aren’t ready to mature yet.

But how can you identify a mature partner?

“Many women talk about dating a “mature man”.  What they’re really referring to is “emotional maturity.”  An emotionally mature man is a man who won’t shut you out the minute things get stressful in his life,” says author Christian Carter.

Make sure you know the signs of when your partner is ready to take that next step with you.

9 Signs Your Partner Is Ready To Handle A Relationship

1. They’re willing to show vulnerability

If your significant other is flighty, cagey and doesn’t seem to want to open up, it may be a sign that they’re just not ready for a real relationship. After all, a key component of being in a relationship is the ability and the willingness to be vulnerable with your partner. Your partner should be willing to share their feelings with you, even when those feelings are upsetting or uncomfortable.

2. They’re authentic

Your partner should act and feel like a real person. You shouldn’t have to watch them put on a show for the people around you. If your partner is authentic, it means that they’re willing to stick to their core beliefs, and don’t feel a need to fake it around other people. Your partner should be entirely comfortable with who they are. If they aren’t, how are they going to be comfortable in a relationship?

3. They’re self-sufficient

If something comes up or things don’t go their way, they’re able to handle it with grace rather than throwing a fit. You want to be sure that your partner is able to go with the flow, because life and relationships are always going to be changing when we least expect it.

You don’t want a partner who is using you for financial gain.

“It is important that someone be able to take care of themselves emotionally and physically. If they can’t, they will never be able to provide the support they need to provide when that is called for,” says clinical psychologist and author Mark E. Sharp, Ph.D.

Having a partner who is flexible and easily able to handle change means that they’re definitely ready and mature enough to be in a relationship.

4. They’re intimate

Having a good sex life is a pretty important part of having a mature relationship. If your partner has troubles with intimacy, it may be a sign that they’re just not ready to take that step with you. And that’s okay! People move at their own pace. Your partner should always be intimate in ways that aren’t just limited to sex. They should be able to share their feelings with you, and share parts of themselves that they don’t with other people. That is an important part of intimacy.

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5. They have good financial habits

The hallmark of someone who isn’t mature enough to be in a relationship is their inability to handle their finances. They should be able to pay their bills on time without accidentally overspending on things that they shouldn’t. If your partner has good financial habits and isn’t constantly running out of money on things they don’t need, it’s safe to say they’re mature enough to handle a relationship.

6. They have goals and stick with them

Having goals is good, but sometimes people just put them on a shelf and forget to actually try and achieve them. You want to make sure your partner has the ability to make goals and also follow through with them. If they want to lose a few pounds, your partner should have the control to change their diet or exercise in order to do so – instead of just saying they want to without doing anything.

7. They’re a good person

Being a good person is a culmination of many things. How do they treat strangers, service workers, their friends and their parents? What are their values? How do they feel about helping others? A lot of being a good person is knowing when to be selfless. If your partner has a hard time thinking about anyone other than themselves, then they might not be ready to think about you.  

A good person is one who has “respect and kindness in his words and actions. You don’t feel belittled or less than even if he isn’t happy with you. He stands with you and has your back when you are struggling. Your priorities become important to him,” says marriage counselor and author Lesli Doares.

8. They’re self-aware

Your partner should be able to notice both their strengths and their weaknesses. You want a partner who has a balanced view of themselves. If they think too highly of themselves, they may not be able to recognize when they’re in the wrong. If they think too lowly of themselves, they may not have the self-esteem it takes to maintain a relationship. Keep an eye out for your partner’s self-awareness; it’ll be a huge indicator of when they’re ready for a relationship.

9. They respect your differences

Not only do they respect them, but they also appreciate them. Your partner should appreciate your differences, and respect you as a person enough to not try and change them. If you find that your partner can’t seem to see past your differences, it may be a sign they’re not ready to handle a relationship.

Because, “To have a great relationship, there needs to be a high level of respect on the part of both partners. Couples who are less intentional and accomplished in this area will find that their lack of respect holds their partnership down to a lower level of well-being,” say authors Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., and Charlie Bloom, M.S.W

On the other hand, if they can accept you for who you are, then chances are they’re mature and ready.

Final thoughts

Making sure your partner hits these checkpoints of maturity is important to knowing whether or not they’re really ready for a relationship. But at the same time, it’s important that you can say the same thing about yourself, as well! Relationships take two people to work, and you want to make sure you’re not holding your partner to a higher standard than yourself.

What Causes People To Have Stress (And How to Avoid It)

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Stress – it’s a serious problem out there.

Maybe there’s a serious problem in there, with you. Don’t fret, my friend. You’re in the company of billions of others.

We’re all perpetually stressed.

It’s easy, and justifiable, to place some blame on the external world (“modern society”) and the feverish pace we’re instructed to live our lives.

What makes it worse is that we’re told: “That’s life.” Got a job you hate? “That’s life.” Barely making ends meet? “That’s life.”

No. The phrase “That’s life” is paradoxical as it is pointless.

The truth that evades so many of us is this: external influences affect us as much as we allow and no more.

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year. ~ The Anxiety and Depression Association Of America

A lesson from long ago…

Siddhartha Gautama, otherwise known as the Buddha, was a real, historical figure, born into a royal family in ancient India. He had everything: wealth, loving parents, the best clothing, servants, and so forth.

But he was deeply discontented.

For a long period, Siddhartha didn’t know exactly why he felt this way. His father, knowing the struggles of the masses, refused to let the young man outside of the palace walls.

The young Prince had enough of his father’s protectionism.

All it took was one jaunt outside of his palace to see the multitudes suffering from poverty, sickness, and despair.

Now young Siddhartha knew why he was disturbed; which led to another question (naturally): why is there so much suffering?

The Prince shed his royal garb, said his goodbyes, and went on a deeply personal search.

After a long period of searching for answers to no avail, Siddhartha refused to move from under a Bodhi tree until he received some sensible answers.

The story goes that Siddhartha sat there for days in meditation. When he awoke, the story goes, Siddhartha was no longer. He was enlightened and became the Buddha.

Buddhists use the term enlightenment to describe “an internal awakening.”

His words would penetrate the souls of people who listened and have categorically baffled the brightest skeptics to this day.

Case In Point

Robert Wright, a world-renowned professor and author of Why Buddhism Is True says:

“The reason we suffer and the reason why we make other people suffer is that we don’t see the world clearly…Buddhism’s diagnosis of the human predicament is deeply valid and urgently important.”

Wright goes on to explain that Buddha knew this well before his time.

Furthermore, Wright explains – like so many other scholars have – that Buddha’s insights into the human mind and meditation are astonishing to the point that they’re just now being recognized as “valid” by legions of brain scientists and their ilk.

What Causes People To Have Stress (And How to Avoid It)

From Buddha to the Brain

Perhaps following the Buddha’s claims, psychologists and neuroscientists continue to show – over and over again – that external “pleasures” can not make us happy for long.

In fact, the very things we “can’t live without” can be detrimental to our mental well-being if used to excess. Yes, this means our cell phones, computers, makeup, cigarettes, alcohol, and every type of luxury.

On a neuroscientific level, our brain’s have evolved considerably over the millennia. However, we are still stuck with the reptilian brain, the amygdala, which is responsible for the fight-or-flight response.

What’s considerably different is the trigger.

That is, we’re not on-edge about some carnivorous predator that may or may not be lurking in the bushes. Instead, we’re overstimulated by noise and busyness.

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We’re perpetually “rushed.” Our fight-or-flight response is also triggered by the very possessions so many of us cherish.

None of this is good for the mind, body, or soul.

What’s the solution?

The answer here is “simple”: you must rid yourself of modern society’s “triggers” at least some of the time.

Logically, there’s no reason to have our cell phones on and by our side 24/7. Rationally, watching 4 or more hours of television is unhealthy and intellectually worthless. Sensibly, consuming a diet of mostly processed foods is foolish and unwholesome.

Minimalism

There’s a reason why things like minimalism, meditation, organic foods, vegetarianism, mindfulness, aromatherapy, acupuncture, and prayer exist.

There’s a reason why people give up their “stuff” and seek a different path.

We needn’t be drastic in our actions. For example, this author found a wonderful white noise application that calms his mind. The phone stays out of his eye line. Organic food is consumed whenever possible. Meditation is practiced for a minimum of half an hour daily.

All of these things, which are ways of life for many, are the answer to why we experience so much stress. Bear in mind that not everyone will have the same “answer.”

We cannot possibly eradicate all stress.

We can – and should – reduce our exposure to it.

Put your phone away, get out into nature, take a mindfulness meditation course.

Breathe.

5 Reasons to Eat Spinach Every Day, According to Science

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“You may have witnessed the short-term effects of food on your brain: a sugar rush after too much candy or mental fog from hunger. But what we eat also affects us in the long term. Starting in the womb and continuing into old age, our diets don’t just shape our bodies, but our brains as well.” ~ Society for Neuroscience

Western Diets & Nutrient Deficiency

The term “Western Diet” is synonymous with bad health – and for a good reason. Westerners have earned the notorious reputation for engorging on hot dogs, cheeseburgers, ice cream cake, and others – all of which have originated in Western countries.

Of the 20 most obese countries in the world, over half consume  “Western diets.” In short, this means more additives and preservatives, less fresh fruits and vegetables, and more processed foods.

When our body is deprived of nutrients, a state that occurs far too often in Western countries, our body responds by craving just about anything.

We’re more vulnerable to the dollar menus and fast food joints; the “quick fixes.”

While this may be good for McDonald’s bottom line, it’s not good for us.

The Answer: More Superfoods!

A superfood is defined as “a nutrient-rich food considered to be especially beneficial for health and well-being.”

Why do we need more of them? Here are a few key reasons:

– Fight off hunger pangs (and the “quick fixes.”)

– Maintain a healthy body weight.

– Feel good about ourselves.

– Stabilize our blood sugar.

And, of course, Feed The Brain!

Spinach: An Impressive Superfood

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Megan Ware, a registered dietitian and private practitioner, writes in MedicalNewsToday:

“Popeye was definitely on to something. Spinach is a super food loaded with tons of nutrients in a low-calorie package. Dark, leafy greens like spinach are important for skin, hair, and bone health. They also provide protein, iron, vitamins, and minerals.”

Now that we’ve established the importance of spinach on our body’s overall health, let’s about five cerebral benefits to eating Popeye’s go-to veggie.

Do You Eat Spinach? Here are Five Reasons Why You Should

1. Spinach boosts memory

A diet that’s deficient in folate, one of the B-vitamins (B9), can cause all sorts of problems. Anxiety, confusion, depression, fatigue, and forgetfulness among them. B-vitamins are critical to brain function, especially for memory health.

The typical “Western” diet – filled with refined sugars and unhealthy fats – can be devastating to both short-term and long-term memory.

Spinach, meanwhile, is one of the most potent memory-boosters. One cup of spinach contains 65% of the recommended daily value (RDV) of folate and over 20% of your RDV for vitamin B6.

2. Spinach enhances focus 

The amino acid L-tyrosine is critical for synthesizing (combining) the neurochemicals dopamine and norepinephrine.

Dopamine is essential for drive and motivation; norepinephrine is the brain’s natural stress deterrent. Drive, motivation, and stress-resistance are crucial for concentration and focus.

One cup of spinach includes 20% RDV of tyrosine. Other tyrosine-rich foods include avocados, beans, meat, tuna, poultry, salmon, seed, and walnuts.

3. Spinach prevents inflammation harmful to brain function

High levels of inflammation increase the risk of many diseases. While we relate chronic inflammation to conditions of the body; it can adversely affect our brain function.

Folate reduces the inflammatory agent homocysteine, which, according to the American Journal of Psychiatry, impedes the activity of the brain’s neurotransmitters.

4. Spinach helps sharpen cognition

Per a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, a group of older adults who ate a diet high in dietary fiber scored higher on cognitive tests than those who did not.

Dietary fiber helps ease digestion and is an essential nutrient for healthy gut function. Numerous studies have demonstrated the important relationship between gut health and brain function. In fact, the two are so intricately connected; scientists refer to the gut as the “Second Brain.”

One cup of boiled spinach contains around 17% of the RDV for fiber.

5. Spinach slows cognitive decline

One of the best things you can do for long-term brain health is eating right. We’ve established the fact that spinach contains some of the most valuable vitamins and minerals for promoting cognitive development.

As it turns out, the superfood helps fight against age-related cognitive decline. Scientists believe this is because of the vegetable’s rich amount of antioxidants.

Spinach, along with other antioxidant-rich foods, “(have) rather hopeful implications for prevention of neurological disorders in our increasingly aging population.”

Putting It All Together

We now know that the brain is “plastic” – it can grow new neural connections throughout life. Scientists call this phenomenon neuroplasticity.

Fantastic as neuroplasticity is, we can only take advantage of this ability by (1) eating right and (2) “exercising” our brain (keeping it active.)

Given that spinach (and other leafy greens) are capable of expanding our cognitive capabilities and fighting age-related mental decay, we should be doing everything we can to incorporate them into our diets!

Sources:
http://www.brainfacts.org/across-the-lifespan/diet-and-exercise/articles/2015/lets-eat-how-diet-influences-the-brain/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-84286/How-spinach-boost-brain-power.html
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/travel/maps-and-graphics/the-most-obese-fattest-countries-in-the-world/
http://undergroundhealthreporter.com/health-benefits-of-spinach-include-improving-memory/

Why People Need to Get Off The Couch (Before It’s Too Late)

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How much time do you spend sitting on the couch?

Ponder this question for a couple of minutes – and be honest with yourself. Let’s do a bit of sampling from the U.S. population. All of these numbers are averages derived from reputable sources, e.g., Gallup.

“41 percent of Americans (do) less than 30 minutes of moderate exercise five times per week. About a third of males are physically inactive, compared to 47.4 percent of women – a difference of almost 14 points.” ~ The Lancet

  • The average commute time in the U.S. is approximately 25 minutes one-way, or 50 minutes total.
  • The average American logs around 35 hours of work per week (~ 7 hours per day)
  • If you’re keeping tract, the total is (so far):  ~ 8 hours sitting (minimum)
  • 36 percent sit for another 1-2 hours watching TV
  • 10 percent play video games for 1-2 hours
  • 25 percent lounge around for 1-2 hours
  • 29 percent use their P.C. for 1-2 hours
  • Average time sitting: ~ 13 hours
  • Average time sleeping ~ 7 hours

Total amount of sedentary (inactive) time: ~ 20 hours

Reality Check Time

“I’m doing this for your own good.” Remember your mom or dad saying this before talking some sense into you? (Or trying to.)

Well, we’re saying this for your (and our) own good. You are (again, including us) probably sitting on your butt for much longer than is healthy.  It’s much better to grudgingly accept this fact now than wait for some ailment to threaten your quality of life.

So, first, we will go over why you should get off of your derriere. Second, we will provide some excellent (if we may say) and time-effective ways for doing so.

Let’s do this!

Health Experts Urge People To Get Off The Couch Before It’s Too Late

Okay, good news or bad news? We know…

Studies are about as fun to research and disseminate as performing your own root canal. So, let’s spare you the dental procedure and cut the research down to parts:

  • Sitting 13-14 hours increases your risk of death from heart disease.
  • The more you sit, the higher your blood sugar, cholesterol, triglycerides, and even waist size.
  • A 10-year study, published in The Journals of Gerontology: Medical Sciences of participants aged 50 to 71 years, found “those who tended to sit the most and move the least had more than three times the risk of difficulty walking by the end of the study.”
  • The same study also reports “those who watched five or more hours of TV (had) a 65 percent greater risk of reporting a mobility [disability].”

T.V. and Tech Ain’t Helping

Loretta DiPietro of the Milken School of Public Health at George Washington University doesn’t mix words when it comes to TV and ill health:

“Sitting and watching TV for long periods, especially in the evening, has got to be one of the most dangerous things that older people can do.”

Bear in mind that Dr. DiPietro was referring to a study conducted in the mid-90’s to 2005. Given that use of streaming services, a la Netflix and YouTube, have seen a sharp increase since then, the problem is much likely worse.

“Even 5 minutes is better than nothing.”

That’s an actual quote from an actual doctor – and it’s true. A simple solution? Get out of your chair every half-hour and “stand up, march in place, jump around, kick legs – do anything to move for at least one to two minutes.”

For a healthy and mobile person, there is no excuse not to do something as easy as getting up and moving for a minute or two.

One tough lady…

Let’s look at 61-year-old Denver businesswoman Liz King. Ms. King is an entrepreneur who spends eight hours “at least, (looking) at the screen and sitting in the chair.”

As many of you business owners out there know, you don’t just “punch in and punch out.” Most business owners spend far longer than eight hours at their computers. They’re on the phone with customers, looking after employees, and handling administrative tasks for 10-plus hours a day.

Despite her crazy schedule, the 61-year old manages to get in a “brisk” 20-minute walk every day. This lovely woman may take a picture or two of the “occasional wildflower” on her stroll, but she doesn’t slack.

Some Ideas to Get You Off the Couch and Moving

Every time we write an article about anything exercise or health-related (usually the two are mutually inclusive), we try to include the following phrase:

“Exercise DOESN’T need to be boring or time-consuming!”

One more time? Let’s all repeat this together – and with some gusto!

“Exercise DOESN’T need to be boring or time-consuming!”

It doesn’t matter what you do. If you enjoy walking like Ms. King, by all means, walk for 20-30 minutes.

If you love to shoot hoops, that’s exercise!

If you love to ride your bike, that’s exercise!

If you love Jai Alai, that’s exercise! (Do you? I’ve never found anyone.)

Anyways, you get the picture. It’s as simple as finding something you enjoy and breaking a sweat three times per week.

Readers: we’d love to hear any and all recommendations for fitting activity into your day!

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Sources:
http://www.npr.org/2011/04/25/135575490/sitting-all-day-worse-for-you-than-you-might-think
http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/09/04/547580952/get-off-the-couch-baby-boomers-or-you-may-not-be-able-to-later

8 Signs You Have A Manipulative Partner

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Manipulative people are everywhere.

And when we say everywhere, we mean everywhere. Is this fact saddening? Yes, but it can also be empowering.

The knowledge and acceptance of the omnipresence of manipulation is empowering because you’re less likely to be played “as a fool.”

Perhaps there is no other scenario wherein detecting manipulation early can save us more heartache than in a relationship. Knowing this, we’re going to discuss eight potential signs you’re living with a manipulative partner.

8 Signs You Have A Manipulative Partner

“Healthy social influence occurs between most people, and is part of the give and take of constructive relationships. (However) in psychological manipulation, one person is used for the benefit of another.” ~ Preston Ni, M.S.B.A.

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1. They don’t help resolve problems

Unhealthy relationships are often teeming with unresolved conflicts. As we’ve mentioned before, some people are more conflict avoidant than others – it’s simply part of their personality.

But frequent and prolonged conflict avoidance in a relationship can be a warning sign, says relationship expert Suzannah Weiss:

“If conflict from days, weeks, or months ago still bother you though you’ve discussed them with your partner, it’s possible they manipulated you into believing the discussion was over before it was,” Weiss says.

2. They weaken your self-confidence

Barrie Davenport, a certified relationship coach, says:

“Emotional manipulators seek out the vulnerabilities of people in order to exploit them. In fact, they may consciously or unconsciously create relationships with people who are the most vulnerable and willing to be controlled.”

Manipulators are close cousins of narcissists. In fact, narcissists are well-known for their extreme manipulative behavior.

If you always seem to be contending with a “push and pull” feeling with your partner, do not ignore it. Many kind people fall into an emotional trap set by manipulators; the important thing now is to act.

3. They have a bunch of “small favors”

A classic manipulative behavior is to throw a bunch of “small favors” at you before getting to the point.

Darlene Lancer, a Marriage and Family Therapist, calls this the ‘foot-in-the-door’ technique, in which the manipulator “(makes) a small request that you agree to, which is followed by the real request. It’s harder to say no, because you’ve already said yes…Now it’s all about them and their complaints, and you’re on the defense.”

4. Emotional blackmail

Emotional blackmail is an abusive type of manipulation that uses guilt, intimidation, rage, shame, or threats. It’s a sick, twisted game that manipulators use to gain the upper hand.

As an illustration, someone in a relationship may hear this from their partner: “I’ve trusted you with my life; now you go and do this. You ought to be ashamed and disgusted. If you pull this again, I’ll just pack up and leave. You can die alone.”

This sounds extreme, right? Well, these type of conversations happen all the time. Bear in mind that the victim has done nothing wrong – it’s all a mirage.

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5. Use of charm and flattery

On the opposite end of the emotional spectrum is the generous deployment of charming and flattering behaviors – a type of passive-aggressive behavior.

For example, the manipulator may say whatever they think their partner wants to hear. They’re evasive and will offer favors, help, and even gifts in order to be loved and accepted.

Why is this manipulation? Because the person intentionally evades uncomfortable questions, uses criticism, guilt, and self-pity, and always plays the victim. They do these things for no other reason than to “get” the love and respect that has “escaped” them so far in life.

6. Silent treatment

Make no mistake. Extreme quiet is not a typical behavior when resolving a conflict. Preston Ni, a professor of communication and renowned relationship expert, writes “The silent treatment is a head game where silence is used as a form of leverage.”

Silent treatment becomes abusive when the manipulator has established a sense of dominance. It’s a twisted act that renders their partner powerless.

7. Playing dumb

Oh yes, manipulators can turn dumb in a hurry. Clearly, feigning obliviousness isn’t always obvious – if it were, the manipulator would be at a disadvantage.

Instead, they’ll activate their dummy mode under one of two conditions: (1) when they’re called out for doing something wrong, and/or (2) when they’re responsible for doing something (chores, paying a bill, etc.)

Ni states: “Some children use this tactic in order to delay, stall, and manipulate adults into doing for them what they don’t want to do. Some grown-ups use this tactic as well when they have something to hide, or an obligation they wish to avoid.”

8. They’ll hurry a decision

Most normal people will take a bit of time before making an important decision.

Manipulators know this, and will do everything in their power to hurry you up. Why? Because time constraints cloud your judgment. Our working memory – the ‘bottleneck’ that holds information for processing – isn’t effective under such conditions.

Ni states “By applying tension and control onto you, it is hoped that you will ‘crack’ and give in to the aggressor’s demands.”

10 Signs A Man Is Ready to Give You His Heart

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Is your guy ready to give his heart to you?

Men can be hard to figure out sometimes, especially if you’re trying to figure out how he feels about you. Society demands that men should talk less about their feelings. In fact, some can often shame them for being too emotional. But, all the same, men do things like fall in love. But when they do, women are often left wondering how they feel about them!

It can be difficult to tell the difference between a guy who is genuinely falling in love, a guy who is just being friendly, and a guy who just wants in your pants. Thankfully, here are some tried and true methods for figuring out whether or not he’s falling for you.

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Here Are 10 Signs A Man Is Ready to Give His Heart to You

“A priceless moment is when the person that you have fallen in love with, looks you right in the eyes to tell you that they have fallen in love with you.” – Unknown

1. He wants to talk on the phone

Like, all the time. Guys who are just your friend or who just want something from you tend to go a more indirect route, like texting or DMing. But when a guy wants to spend his free time talking to you on the phone, it’s a sure sign that he’s got some feelings for you, and they’re very sweet indeed!

It’s a sign that he wants to hear your voice, which is always romantic.

2. He uses pet names when he’s ready to give his heart

When a guy is falling for you, he’s going to use pet names – but something that’s a little more original. He might call you something special, like a pet name that’s more of an inside joke between the two of you. He wants to set you apart from all the other people in his life. Sex expert and author of the ‘Good In Bed’ series Ian Kerner says, “Names like honey, baby, babe, sweetheart (etc.) connote a special intimacy that’s reserved for your significant other.”

3. He remembers what you say

This could be about anything – he remembers what your opinion on a certain movie is, or what kind of food you like at a certain restaurant. This is a sign that he’s both listening, and he values your opinions on things. Not only that, but when the topic comes up again, he’s able to remember your exact words.

4. He makes up excuses to talk to you

Whether it’s on the phone, by text or social media, he finds reasons to pay you a little bit of extra attention. When you post a new selfie on Instagram, he’s always the first one in the comments. He always has something interesting to share with you via text, or he’s always finding reasons to drop by and have a chat. He just can’t get enough of you!

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5. He’s chivalrous

A lot of people think that chivalry is dead, but with him, it’s alive and well. He’s always making sure that you’re comfortable. He’ll do everything from holding doors open for you, to pulling out your chair, to making sure that the temperature in the room is just right. If you’re cold, he’ll probably even offer you his jacket. He wants to make sure that you’re feeling good, and will go to great lengths to ensure it.

6. When he sees you, his whole face lights up

You’ve probably experienced having your whole face light up before – it’s something you can physically feel happening to you, and it’s not altogether voluntary! The same thing happens to him when he sees you from across the room, or walking toward him down the street. He can’t stop the light in his eyes or the big, dopey, love-struck grin when he sees you.

7. He brings you gifts

Relationship expert Dr. Pam Spurr says this:

“If he’s given you a nice piece of jewelry then he’s seriously committed to your relationship. Men just don’t give the good stuff unless you mean something special.”

The gifts that he brings you don’t always have to be expensive or extravagant. In fact, he’ll most likely bring you little things, but often. Perhaps he learns your coffee order, and brings it to you in the morning.

Or, maybe he brings you a book that you mentioned wanting to read – or even a book that he just thinks you might like! It’s the little things that count, and a guy who pays attention enough to know what you like is a guy who’s falling for you.

8. He’s protective of you

A guy who’s falling in love with you will want to make sure that you feel safe and secure wherever you go together. He’ll often walk you home and right up to your door, or wait in the car outside to make sure you get in safe. He’ll hold your hand when you walk through a crowd, or guide you with a hand on the back of your shoulders.

9. He’s genuinely interested in you

He wants to know what you have to say about everything! No topic of conversation is off limits for you two. Not only that, but no topic of conversation seems too boring for him to engage in.

He’ll be happy to listen to you talk about your favorite TV show, or how awful your co-workers have been that week. Whatever it is, he’s always interested in what you have to say.

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10. He’s planning for the future if he’s ready to give his heart

A guy who isn’t interested in the long haul isn’t likely to make plans more than a couple of weeks in advance. On the other hand, when a guy is falling for you, he’s going to plans three or four months into the future. It means that he’s seeing you in his future plans. Moreover, he wants you to be there with him every step of the way.

Like online dating expert Julie Spira mentions, “While the conversation might not include ring shopping, if he’s suggesting things he wants to do in the future, such as a weekend away, going with him to a concert, or even discussing relationship goals, he’s a guy that sees you by his side.”

Sure, sometimes guys are hard to get to talk about their feelings – but actions always speak louder than words! A guy who is acting like this is most certainly falling in love, even if he has a hard time saying it. Learning to read his affection in the things that he does will make it much easier to figure out if a guy is ready, willing, and able to give his heart to you.

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Relationship Experts Explain What Happens When You Meet The Woman of Your Dreams

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Some people (men and women alike) may know right away when the woman they’re seeing is the One. Others may be a bit slower on the uptake. Some may not know the signs to look for.

What exactly should you be looking for to make sure you’re dating the woman of your dreams? According to wedding officiant and author Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, “There is usually a telltale sign that lets you know when true love has arrived – a voice in your head, a sense of recognition or a gut feeling that this is someone special to you.”

If you’re connecting with your soulmate, there are certain things that you’ll experience that are out of the ordinary from all of the other women you’ve ever dated.

Here Are 9 Things That Happen When You Meet Your Dream Girl

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1. You’ll be surprised by your feelings

These feelings will come hard and fast, and you’ll be completely surprised by how quickly you develop them. You may be slower to fall in love with other women, but when you’ve met your soulmate, you’ll be floored by the strength and depth of your feelings. Despite how quickly it happens, you’re not going to feel intimidated. In fact, it’ll feel like the most natural thing in the world.

2. Your attraction will keep growing

Obviously, you’ll feel attracted to her right off the bat. But the thing is, that attraction is only going to keep growing every single day. You’re never going even to want to look at another woman. Her personality and her looks are only going to keep growing on you. You’re also going to feel totally and completely satisfied. There’s nothing about her that you would change.

3. You’re not afraid of disagreements

In some relationships, an argument can be the end. However, when you meet the woman of your dreams, you won’t be afraid to have an argument or disagreement with her. You’ll know that your love is strong enough to survive any spat. In fact, you’ll find that your arguments are over quicker, and you’re more easily able to reconcile and apologize to one another.

4. You’ll always feel loved

The woman of your dreams will never leave you feeling unloved or underappreciated. Some relationships are more casual, and can leave us wanting for emotional connection. However, you’ll know that she’s the One when you feel emotionally fulfilled and appreciated. She makes you feel special every single day, and never takes you for granted.

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5. You share common goals

An important part of any long-lasting relationship is having goals and visions of the future that complement one another. When you meet the woman of your dreams, you’ll realize that you never have to sacrifice your vision of the future, because she’ll have similar goals in life.

Clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Carmen Harra states, “More diminutive opinions will differ, but soulmates generally have the same virtues and values and see the world through a similar lens.”

Therefore, while you may not have the exact same goals, the things you want to achieve work side by side to make a happy life.

6. You adore each other’s annoying habits

Maybe she takes too long in the bathroom getting ready in the morning, or leaves her hair ties lying around all over the apartment. It doesn’t matter – you’re going to find those little quirks to be some of the best things about her that you love.

Brockway adds, “Soulmates often feel a sense of the familiar and a sense of comfort around each other. Many people say it’s easier to relax into that person and allow themselves to be vulnerable.” When you meet the woman of your dreams, you’re going to love every single thing about her … even the things that you disliked in past partners.

7. Your feelings will feel natural

Nothing about how you feel will be surprising or scary to you. If you’ve never been the type of man to commit to a woman before, you’ll suddenly find yourself totally ready to be with her for however long she wants you. And the best part is, these feelings will be entirely natural.

8. You’ll feel safe in each other’s company

Contrary to popular belief, even men need to feel safe and secure in a relationship. And when you meet the woman of your dreams, she’s going to make you feel entirely safe. You’ll be able to tell her things that you’ve never told anyone else.

Author Karen M. Black states, “If you’re fortunate enough to meet someone with whom you have a natural, loving relationship from the get-go, then you’re going to feel this as an unusual comfort level. A low hum. A peace and calm in your heart. A quiet certainty. A curiosity. Safety in their presence.”

Oftentimes, men have a harder time sharing their emotions. It won’t feel difficult with her – you’ll find yourself opening up and sharing things with her you haven’t told any of your past partners.

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9. You’ll want to protect your relationship

If you’re still hanging around with single guys who aren’t interested in a relationship, you won’t tolerate taking any jabs about how deeply you feel for your partner. You may find that you’ll want to protect your relationship more than you’ve ever wanted to before. Your relationship means more to you than any other relationship, and you’ll want to protect it – and her.

Society often finds ways to make men feel like they can’t experience the full range of emotions that come with falling in love. However, men have all the same feelings that women do, and they’ll experience all the same emotions when they meet their soulmates. Finding the woman of your dreams will be one of the most amazing things ever happening to you. You’ll find yourself putting more time and effort into this relationship than any other – and the results will be phenomenal.

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22 Self Care Tips For When You Feel Broken

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Feeling broken happens to us all. After all, no person can be happy all the time, and through it all, we experience many emotions. Sadness, feeling down, and defeat – are just some of the many emotions we go through as human beings. Sometimes, it can seem like those feelings will never leave us. Fortunately, you can restore your shine with a little self-care

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” – Hans Selye.

We all need a little help when it comes to picking ourselves up from feeling dejected. When life gets us down, figuring out a way to get back up can seem hopeless. Luckily, there are so many ways to improve your mood and positively change your emotions when life gets the better of you.

Here Are 22 Positive Things You Can Do For Your Self-Care

 

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1. Get outside and improve your mood

This is an easy way to improve your mood. Fresh air and sunshine can help lift your mood within minutes. The very act of just going outside can sometimes enhance our entire point of view. After all, sitting indoors contemplating our sadness can lead to more unhappiness.

Author Florence Williams said that when a person spends some time outdoors, “blood pressure drops, their heart rate variability becomes more resilient when faced with stress, cortisol levels drop. The subjects report an increase in… mood, and vitality, and creativity. And that’s just after 20 minutes!”

If you find yourself stuck on the couch, try a change of scenery and go for a walk around the neighborhood.

2. Talk to someone to help you feel better

A support system is the best way to make sure that you always have someone nearby who can help you talk out your troubles. Whether this person is a friend, a family member, your partner, or even a therapist, talking to someone you feel close to can help improve your mood drastically.

3. Watch a funny movie

Nothing makes us feel better than just plain old laughter. If you’re in a sour mood or feel a heavy sadness, watching your favorite comedy can quickly boost your mood. You can do it alone or with a friend. Sometimes, hearing someone else laugh can be just what it takes to get our laugh muscles working again when it feels impossible to smile.

4. Turn to music for self-care

It can be tempting to listen to sad, hopeless songs and cry about them when we’re sad. While this is often good for releasing emotions, it’s not good for uplifting your mood. So, after you’ve had your wallowing cry, try putting on some upbeat dance or party music. The beat will get your blood pumping, along with your mood.

5. Take a nap

Our moods are often regulated by something as simple as waking up during the wrong sleep cycle. If you find that you’re just plain miserable, it might do you some good to settle in for a nap. Getting more sleep might be just what you need to chase away your bad mood. While it may feel like a childish thing to do, even adults need the right amount of sleep to function correctly!

6. Hang out with friends

Whether you all go to a movie, out to eat, or hang around together, being surrounded by the people who love you is an easy way to remind yourself of all the good in the world. Your friends will probably know just the way to make you feel better and boost your need for human contact and stabilize your mood.

7. Clean your habitat

Depression and sadness often come with a lack of motivation to do… well, anything! These feelings can leave you unmotivated, so you don’t feel like caring for your home. Cleaning your space can feel like a chore, but you’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel after it’s all done. Once the area around you is clean, you’ll find that your mood is improved even by a little. A clean house is a happy house, after all.

When you clear your physical space, you also clear your mind.

8. Do something nice for others

The best way to boost your mood is to make someone else happy. While it can feel challenging to muster up the niceness to do something for someone else when you’re feeling low, it’s one of the best mood boosters. Brightening someone’s day will make you feel even better about yourself than before.

9. Take a Bubble Bath

The warm water from a bubble bath can ease tense muscles and lift your spirits. Why not light some candles and enjoy the fragrance and the bubbles and ambiance? Turn down the lights and let your troubles float away, as it’s the perfect way to engage in self-care after a long day.

10. Eat Right

The best way to love yourself is to watch what you put into your system. Many people don’t think about all the processed and junk foods they eat, but it’s doing more harm than good. Eating a well-balanced diet is an excellent form of self-care as it’s essential to your overall physical and mental wellbeing.

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11. Try Technology Breaks

Are you spending too much time on technology? A recent report published by Statista Research Department showed that the average person spends 2.45 hours on social media each day. This wasted time doesn’t count all the other time folks spend watching TV, playing video games, or are on their computer.

Try taking a technology break to clear your mind, and you will be surprised how much more you get done and how much better you feel. Plus, if you’re always saying you don’t have enough time to get everything done, you will easily find more hours in your day.

12. Listen to Music

Turn on some tunes and dance the night away. Dancing is an excellent form of exercise as it gets the blood pumping. Maybe you prefer some more mellow songs like jazz or classical music. Music is used to motivate people, and it can also be used to calm you. Part of your self-care routine should involve some good tunes.

13. Meditate

When you meditate, you’re learning to let go of all the negativity you’ve ingested during the day, and you’re becoming in touch with your inner self. This ancient art has many forms, and you can use it to go to sleep, stop a panic attack, or even relax and give your tense muscles a break.

14. Try Aromatherapy

Do you buy candles or incense to burn around your home because you like the smell? Aromatherapy has been used for decades to help people relax, and it can be a significant part of your self-care routine. When you use bubble baths, lotions, essential oils, and candles, you’re stimulating the smell receptors in your nose, according to the Mayo Clinic.

The message from your nose travels through your central nervous system until it reaches the limbic system in your brain. This is the region that controls all of your emotions. So, if you notice that you feel better after rubbing lavender on your wrists or putting a tea tree on your neck, you’ve activated this part of the brain and are calming yourself.

15. Exercise Daily

The more you move your body, the better you will feel. The experts at UW School of Medicine and Public Health state that you need to exercise at least 20 minutes three times a week. However, it would be best if you fit it into your daily routine. Self-care is all about maintaining a good, healthy weight. You’re also boosting those feel-good hormones when you get your heart pumping.

16. Plan a Trip

Why not throw caution to the wind and go on a trip? You work hard, so you deserve a little get-a-way. Why not engage in self-care at an all-inclusive resort? You can even go camping and enjoy nature if you want your excursion to be frugal. The advantage of getting away is that you will feel and look better when you return.

17. Get a Massage

Massages are therapeutic, and they work to release that tension in your muscles. If you suffer from tension-type headaches or migraines, getting a regular massage can help you manage them without harmful substances.

When the masseuse works those muscles, they increase blood flow to the areas in need. Other things to try along this line include acupuncture and cupping therapy. When you learn effective ways to handle your stress, you’ll feel much better.

18. Splurge on A Gift for Yourself

When’s the last time you bought yourself a gift? Have you had a new outfit lately? Perhaps you want a new piece of jewelry to add to your collection.

Going to work and just paying bills isn’t very motivating. Have you ever done a star chart with your kids? These little charts are huge motivators because they give them an incentive to keep doing well.

You can do the same thing by motivating yourself by splurging a bit. While it seems that all the incentives you need are to have a house and car to drive, these little extra things give you the enthusiasm to keep going.

19. Take a Drive in the Country

It doesn’t matter what age you are or your status in life. There’s something therapeutic about a drive in the country. It’s best on days when you can put your windows down and let Mother Nature penetrate your car with her fragrant aroma.

Turn on your favorite music, and grab something to drink. Let your mind go as you get out of the city and the hustle and bustle, and engage in driving therapy. Sitting on crowded freeways only add to your daily frustration but getting out on the open roads with little traffic is relaxing.

20. Get in Touch with Your Artistic Side

Can you paint, draw, color, or make crafts? It’s very refreshing to use your artistic side to help with stress. Many people use art to outlet their emotions, and it can be pretty relaxing. Why not take a sketchpad to a nearby lake and draw the ducks swimming or the sun beaming down on the water?

21. Try a DIY Project

Is there a room in your home you want to remodel? Why not try a DIY project? You can save a lot of money by tackling household repairs yourself.

When you’re learning and taking care of your home, you’re also practicing self-care. Why not turn your bathroom into a tranquil retreat, or paint that drab kitchen that seems outdated? Your mind can explore and get creative to make your dwelling even better.

22. Go Cloud-Watching

There’s something magnificent with the sky above. It’s the key to another dimension, and the clouds are fascinating to watch float aimlessly by. Did you ever lie on the ground and watch the clouds when you were a child?

Did you find funny shapes in them that fascinated you? Why not return to those childhood moments and engage in something so peaceful yet profound. Watching the clouds go by is one of the best forms of self-care, as it’s so relaxing. It reminds you that this world is so much bigger than your troubles, and you live on a planet of majestic wonders.

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Final Thoughts on the Importance of Self-Care

Generating positivity isn’t always the more straightforward thing, but there are ways to make yourself feel better when you’re feeling low. Whether it’s getting outside, connecting with your loved ones, or making someone else’s day a little better, generating positivity is a good habit to have and one that’ll make all of your sad days a little bit better.

How to Lower Cortisol Levels Naturally

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Cortisol plays a role in many bodily functions, and abnormal levels can cause health issues. Learning how to lower cortisol levels is essential to maintaining your physical and emotional health. When your levels are high, your body thinks it is in a constant fight-or-flight situation, triggering severe issues.

As the primary stress hormone, cortisol affects almost every area of your health. It aids in regulating sleep cycles, managing the utilization of nutrients, reducing inflammation, and controlling blood pressure.

While cortisol levels should rise during stressful situations, they should quickly return to normal. It can negatively impact your health when they don’t return to normal. Thankfully, you can figure out how to lower cortisol with some lifestyle changes.

You can balance the hormone level by learning how to reduce cortisol and implementing the tips. Since long-term stress and anxiety can be detrimental, finding a balance is life-changing. When you lower cortisol levels, you can maintain a calm mind and a healthy body.

What is Cortisol?

The adrenal cortex of the adrenal glands produces cortisol. It is a glucocorticoid, a steroid hormone naturally produced by the body. Cortisol is necessary for the proper functioning of the body, but too much can cause severe health issues.

Two of the most significant contributors to high cortisol are chronic stress and the long-term use of corticosteroids. People who cannot produce enough hormones naturally may use a prescription corticosteroid to help. They treat inflammation, immune system disorders, and electrolyte imbalances.

how to lower cortisolThe body requires communication between the adrenal gland, pituitary gland, and hypothalamus. With effective communication, your body can produce the correct amount of cortisol. Not having enough cortisol and having too much are both harmful for the body.

Cortisol supports overall health when the levels are maintained. It helps you wake up, gives you energy during the day, lowers it at night, and helps you sleep and rest. This hormone also has anti-inflammatory properties that boost your health and well-being.

Cortisol also helps you deal with stressful situations as your brain triggers its release through your sympathetic nervous system. This system is your fight-or-flight response, and many forms of stress trigger it. When your levels stay high for too long, it can harm you more than it helps.

If you feel uneasy when you have a close call while driving or get startled by a loud noise, it shows cortisol at work. It makes your blood pump faster, raises blood sugar, and triggers the release of glucose for energy. The problems with cortisol occur when the levels stay high for weeks or months.

If you want to learn how to lower cortisol levels, it’s essential to figure out the root cause of your stress. Once you know the cause, making lifestyle changes is essential to reducing the stressors and allowing your body to find balance.

Once your cortisol levels return to normal, you must maintain them to stay healthy. Continue following the same plan that helped you reduce them in the first place.

What Happens When Your Cortisol Levels are High?

Studies indicate that high cortisol levels can cause many health issues, including:

  • Chronic Disease: Long-term high cortisol levels can increase your risk of high blood pressure, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, osteoporosis, and other chronic diseases.
  • Weight Gain: High cortisol can increase your appetite, leading to eating more. Plus, it causes your metabolism to store fat rather than using it for energy.
  • Sleep Problems: With high cortisol levels, you might experience a lack of energy or difficulty sleeping. It interferes with other hormones that impact sleep quality and length. Too much cortisol links to obstructive sleep apnea and insomnia.
  • Trouble Concentrating: Those with high levels often experience brain fog, difficulty focusing, and lack of mental clarity. It can also interfere with your ability to form memories.
  • Weakened Immune System: High cortisol levels can interfere with the immune system. It makes it harder for your body to fight infections and prevent illness.
  • Cushing’s Syndrome: High cortisol levels cause this rare but severe condition. Cushing’s Syndrome leads to other issues such as weight gain, acne, skin injuries, muscle weakness, and other health concerns.
  • Infertility: Studies show that women with high cortisol levels are less likely to get pregnant. This study included 400 women and followed them through one year of trying to conceive.
  • Irregular Menstrual Cycles: Some women with high cortisol levels experience irregular periods. Other women find that their periods stop altogether.
  • Obesity: Increased cortisol leads to increased blood sugar levels, which can contribute to weight gain and obesity. Plus, it can cause fatty deposits to form.

How to Lower Cortisol Levels

Now that you know all the red flags, let’s look at what lowers cortisol.

1. Get Enough Sleep

Getting enough sleep can reset your circadian rhythm and help rebalance your hormone levels. The National Sleep Foundation recommends seven to nine hours of sleep each night. Sleep deprivation can increase the cortisol levels in your bloodstream even more, so you must find a routine.

Some of the ways you can get more sleep and fall asleep easier include the following:

  • have a consistent bedtime routine to signal your brain to start winding down
  • wake up and go to sleep at the same time every day, even on weekends
  • exercise at least two to three hours before bedtime
  • limit caffeine intake at least six hours before bedtime
  • avoid alcohol and nicotine
  • sleep in a quiet room, using only white noise if necessary
  • take naps whenever you can
  • limit exposure to bright and blue light at least an hour before bed

Many night-shift or rotating-shift workers struggle because they don’t control their sleep schedule. Even still, they can implement some ideas to help optimize their sleep.

2. Exercise Regularly

Exercising four to five times weekly for thirty to sixty minutes can help lower cortisol levels. It helps with handling stress better as it promotes the health of your autonomic nervous system. Additionally, regular exercise improves sleep quality and overall health, further managing your cortisol levels.

If your workout is too intense, it can have the opposite effect, so focus on low or moderate-intensity exercises. Yoga is a good choice because it is low-intensity and had a mindfulness aspect to it. Plus, give yourself plenty of time to rest in between workouts.

The appropriate amount and type of exercise for each person depend on their level of physical fitness. If your body is doing strenuous things that you aren’t used to, it increases the production of cortisol to adapt.

3. Recognize Stressful Thinking

By recognizing stressful thinking, you can learn to improve your thought process. Negative thinking increases cortisol levels and lowers oxytocin, a relaxing hormone and neurotransmitter that calms the nervous system.

Even thinking about the past is considered stressful, as it usually accompanies regret and rumination. Additionally, worrying about the future can cause stress as well.

Recognizing this type of thinking can help you reduce negative thoughts, preventing and reducing stress levels. When you pay attention to your thought process, it offers a mindfulness-based stress reduction opportunity.

Accept the thoughts without judgment, and don’t try to push them away. Instead, allow yourself to process them so that you can ease out of the negativity. Pay attention to your breathing, heart rate, and other signs of tension during these times of stressful thinking, too.

4. Breathe

Deep breathing helps reduce stress, and you can do it no matter where you are. It is similar to mindfulness practices as it stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system. This system is linked to cortisol levels and influences your ability to regain control when stressed.

Studies reveal that when participants implemented deep breathing regularly, they experienced a decrease in cortisol. For even more benefits, accompany deep breathing with yoga or other things that emphasize a mind-body connection.

Experts suggest doing deep-breathing exercises three to five times daily, for at least five minutes. As it lowers cortisol levels, it relieves anxiety and depression and improves memory.

reduce cortisol5. Find A Hobby

Hobbies are satisfying and rewarding as they contribute to a more fulfilling, healthier life. When you do things you enjoy, it increases your overall sense of well-being. Studies show that doing the activities you love can decrease cortisol levels.

Researchers tend to focus on gardening as a hobby, and results show a drop in cortisol. Other hobbies you can consider include drawing, painting, or crafting. It doesn’t matter which hobby you choose, as long as you spend time doing things you enjoy.

6. Take Care Of Yourself

Taking care of yourself requires taking care of your physical and mental well-being. Letting go of detrimental thinking or feelings can help you care for yourself. When you feel shame, guilt, or inadequacy, it can lead to elevated cortisol.

In these instances, you must find a way to care for yourself and overcome the negativity. Work on forgiving and accepting yourself and others, and you’ll notice an improvement in your well-being.

Take care of your physical health, too. Drink plenty of water daily because your body requires it to regulate cortisol levels. Dehydration has the opposite effect and can trigger high cortisol.

7. Maintain A Healthy Relationship With People

Having healthy and happy relationships is essential when you are learning how to lower cortisol levels. Friends and family can bring happiness and stress relief, which play a role in maintaining cortisol. Of course, you will have conflict sometimes, but your relationships shouldn’t be a constant source of stress.

Studies show that when there is conflict within healthy relationships, the cortisol quickly returns to normal levels when the argument ends. If you can’t calm down after an argument, it is a clear sign that your cortisol levels are still high. Practicing compassion and empathy toward the other person can help manage cortisol levels, too.

Another study shows that affectionate interaction with a friend or partner before a stressful situation helps balance your levels. It results in lower stress, heart rate, and blood pressure.

Focus on stable, loving relationships with friends, family, and partners. By doing so, you will experience lower cortisol levels naturally, helping you get through stressful periods.

8. Follow A Healthy Diet

The foods you eat play a role in maintaining hormone levels. When you eat unhealthy, processed foods, it can contribute to high cortisol levels and imbalances. Try sticking to a whole food, an anti-inflammatory diet full of antioxidants, nutrients, and fiber.

You can control cravings and maintain normal hormone balances by choosing healthy options. While any whole foods are beneficial, the best foods for this issue are adaptogen herbs that help fight high cortisol levels. These foods containing antioxidant, antibacterial, and antiviral properties include:

  • astragalus
  • cocoa
  • cordyceps and reishi mushrooms
  • ginseng
  • licorice root
  • holy basil

Other foods that lower cortisol levels include these:

  • dark chocolate
  • whole grains
  • legumes and lentils
  • fruits and vegetables
  • black or green tea
  • probiotics and prebiotics
  • healthy fats

The worst foods for maintaining cortisol include added sugars, refined grains, and saturated fat. Studies show that these components contribute to higher cortisol levels compared to a diet of whole grains, fruits, vegetables, and polyunsaturated fats.

reducing cortisol9. Consider Getting A Pet

Research indicates that spending time with a pet can lower stress levels and decrease cortisol. Other studies show that contact with a pet relieves stress better than spending time with a friend. Additionally, pet owners are scientifically proven to have normal cortisol levels more often than non-pet owners.

If you can’t have a pet, consider visiting an animal shelter where you can spend time with the animals. Spending short time with an animal can help reduce your stress levels. Additionally, spending time with animals increases oxytocin levels, hormones that make you feel good.

10. Take Supplements

A healthy diet is essential, but supplements to reduce cortisol levels. Fish oil is a beneficial supplement because it is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids. Studies show that supplementing with fish oil significantly decreased the levels in response to a stressful situation.

Another supplement is ashwagandha, an adaptogen herb used to treat anxiety and stress. Take between 200 and 300 mg of ashwagandha extract each day for the best results. Vitamin B12, folic acid, and vitamin C supplements can also support balanced cortisol levels.

If you aren’t consuming enough probiotics each day, you should also consider supplementing that. Probiotics support a healthy gut by strengthening your gut barrier, fighting inflammation, regulating the immune system, and promoting mental health.

11. Avoid Caffeinated Drinks at Night

Consuming caffeine in the evenings can interfere with your sleep quality. When you don’t get enough sleep, your cortisol levels increase. Caffeine also increases cortisol secretion and increased blood pressure.

Additionally, consuming too much caffeine can cause adrenal fatigue, when your hormone levels are severely off-balance. Adrenal fatigue causes you to become exhausted, and more caffeine will worsen it.

12. Laugh It Off

Your body releases endorphins while suppressing stress hormones when you laugh. It improves mood, reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and strengthens the immune system. Even forced laughter can benefit your health and reduce cortisol.

When you feel stressed, find something to make you laugh. You can watch funny videos, listen to a stand-up comedy, or spend time with a friend with a good sense of humor.

13. Meditate

One of the quickest ways to reduce stress is through meditation. Researchers found that meditating and focusing on the present can decrease cortisol levels. Meditation triggers the relaxation response, slows breathing, relaxes muscles, and reduces blood pressure.

Practicing meditation also stimulates the parts of your brain that contribute to worrying. Meditation can ease anxiety and replace it with focus and understanding. It helps you identify and address your stressors before they can become a long-term problem.

14. Limit Your Sugar Intake

Your sugar intake greatly influences your hormone levels. If you eat too many foods with added sugars, your cortisol levels will increase. If you reduce or eliminate added sugars in your diet, your cortisol levels can return to normal.

Additionally, avoiding added sugars can help combat high cortisol levels by reducing stress and preventing weight gain. When you’re stressed, it’s hard to resist sugary treats because they trigger your brain’s reward system. Some of the foods that have lots of sugar include:

  • cake
  • pastries
  • white bread
  • candy
  • soda

how to lower cortisolFinal Thoughts on How to Lower Cortisol Levels Naturally

While cortisol is necessary for your body to function properly, too much is detrimental to your health. It releases during stress, but the levels should decrease once the situation has passed. When it doesn’t return to normal, you must figure out how to decrease cortisol levels naturally.

Implementing some healthy lifestyle changes can make all the difference in reducing cortisol. As you become healthier, you’ll notice an improvement in your physical and mental health.

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