6 Signs A Man Is Using You

6 Signs A Man Is Using You

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Do you have doubts about your current relationship? Do you wonder if your boyfriend’s or husband’s feelings for you are genuine? Or, do you have second thoughts about whether you’re being treated fairly by your man?

Unfortunately, this isn’t an uncommon occurrence in unhealthy or unbalanced relationships. Your partner may be using you, whether intentionally or unintentionally, causing you to continually feel like you’re getting the short end of the stick.

But why would someone do this? They may be frightened of being alone, of losing financial and romantic stability, or of breakup confrontation. Perhaps they may desire easy access to bedroom activities or may enjoy being in relationships for the sake of it. They may have feelings for someone else, or they just might not be making enough of an effort.

It’s a complicated situation. Regardless of the reason, though, you never deserve to be treated this way. It can be a severe drain on your positive self-esteem and emotional energy, and it’s just not healthy! That’s why it is imperative that you spot the signs of such treatment.

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Here Are 6 Signs A Man Is Using You

1 –  He Doesn’t Want To Get Personal

Getting personal is part and parcel of being in a relationship. You want to get as close as possible, both physically and mentally. So if your partner has no interest in doing that, he may be using you. Here are some ways he might do that:

·         He’s Not Interested In Getting To Know You

Someone who genuinely likes you will want to find out more about you. That’s how they figure out if you’re compatible in the long run, or find out how to make you happy.

A man who is using you will not be interested in learning about who you are – what’s the point in getting invested in you if he doesn’t plan to stick around? He might not really be interested in you at all.

·         He’s Closed Off About Himself

No matter what you do, you can’t get your partner to open up. He doesn’t tell you about even the simplest of things, like what his hobbies are or what his weekend plans are. He also refuses to talk about his emotions, so you’re never really on the same page.

·         Your Conversations Are Lackluster

When someone doesn’t want to get personal, having in-depth, insightful, or stimulating conversations is nearly impossible. This lack of engagement can leave you with dry, boring conversations. Take extra note of this if it seems like you’re doing all the conversational heavy lifting all the time.

·         He Doesn’t Include You In His Life

This man has plans for his short-term and long-term future – but none of them include you. He talks about what’s to come without thinking about you, or maybe he won’t talk about the future at all. You find out about his achievements and life events by accident, through others, or much too late to bring it up. To him, you’re not a part of his life.

·         He Doesn’t Care How You Feel

When you talk about how you feel like he doesn’t care, or when you try to discuss how distant he is, he shrugs and waves it all away. Even if he pretends to care, his actions, later on, will indicate he never really did.

·         You’ve Never Met Anyone He Knows

You’ve been going out for a while, but you’ve never met his friends or family. When you ask, he brushes it off. A man who is committed to you for the right reasons would want you to meet those he loves and cares about, but a man who is using you wouldn’t see the point in doing so.

2 – He Has Issues Discussing Commitment

Someone who is using you isn’t really committed – or, at least, not in the right ways. It’s pretty evident that if a man won’t talk about commitment or a future together, then he’s not serious about you at all. His lack of communication may also indicate that he’s going to try and continue being with you for as long as he can – or, basically, using you.

But it’s just as bad the other way around! Many people think it’s a positive thing when someone becomes committed to you very quickly, but it can be quite the opposite.

Too-early declarations of love and devotion can indicate that someone is in love with the idea of you, not who you are. That’s how you wind up being a manic pixie dream girl, and being used by someone who doesn’t realize they’re even using you!

3 – He’s Selfish

Selfishness is a terrible trait all around, but in relationships, it can be especially toxic. This trait is often the most definite sign that someone is using you; there’s just no way to look at this behavior in a positive light! Here are some signs to look out for.

·         Requesting Too Many Favors

Relationships are about give and take. If your man always asks for favors but never seems to be able to return them, he might just be using you for convenience. In other words, he’s taking advantage of you!

·         Reluctance To Compromise

Compromise is crucial in any relationship. If you feel like you’re getting a losing deal every time there’s a disagreement while your man walks away happy, he is taking advantage of your love for him to get what he wants.

·         Borrowing Your Things

It feels like every time you see your partner; he’s asking to borrow something of yours that he likes. And then, when you say no, he practically throws a fit. He could be just using you for your material objects.

·         Financial Dependence

Yes, of course, partners often have different income levels. It’s okay for one partner to be financially dependant on another in a committed relationship if both parties are in agreement about it.

But if your man only comes around when he’s in a tight spot or wants to buy something, be cautious. This behavior is especially true for new relationships; someone who wants to be financially dependent on you from the get-go raises many red flags!

·         Bedroom Selfishness

Intimacy is about giving and taking. If your man is only focused on his pleasure in the bedroom and doesn’t care about yours at all, he may just be using you casually for intimacy.

4 – He’s Not Affectionate

Affection plays a significant role in most relationships. Though levels of warmth vary between different couples, they will usually involve much more than none at all. A lack of affection often points to a lack of interest, meaning that the man in your life may be with you for reasons that aren’t purely romantic. Here are some things to look out for.

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·         You Don’t Go On Dates

For some reason, your man never brings you out on dates. If you suggest one, he’s often not interested. When you do see each other, it’s never romantic or unique. It’s like he’s missing a romance chip – but he might just be losing interest.

·         You Don’t Feel Special

He treats you like he treats everyone else – or worse. You often feel like just an acquaintance or a roommate to him. And he doesn’t seem to have any interest in changing that, either.

·         No Physical Affection

He doesn’t hold your hand. He doesn’t want to hug or cuddle. You rarely ever kiss, if at all, even just on the cheek.

In most cases, a man who doesn’t want to express physical attraction to you just isn’t attracted to you at all.

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