Are you worried about the health of your relationship? Maybe some things are troubling you, and you’re wondering if you and your partner will be together. Things can change in relationships over time, and you have to be able to catch negative changes that can completely derail your partnership.

Marriage Counselors Explain 10 Signs That Reveal A Relationship Won’t Last


1. Holding Grudges and Harboring Resentment

If something about your partner is bothering you, kindly bring it up with them and talk it over. Then, once the issue is resolved and you’ve agreed, you should let it go. You shouldn’t hold onto it and build resentment over it.

It is not okay to hold grudges against your partner. Yes, some acts may take some time for you to heal from. But bringing up something that happened months ago and using it against them in arguments forever will only harm your relationship in the long run.

Resentment can often build slowly due to a feeling of underappreciation, invalidation, or dismissal. You must take note of these feelings to talk about them with your partner instead of bottling them up until it all comes to blows.

2. You Have Nothing In Common

It’s okay to have wildly different interests. Still, there has to be something you enjoy doing together – even if it’s just lounging on the sofa watching TV, going out for drives, or something else that is small but significant for bonding.

Besides, having little in common on a superficial level is acceptable, but having considerable differences in ideologies is not. If you have conflicting priorities when it comes to each other or are on opposite sides of the political spectrum, it’s much harder for things to work out. We’re not saying it’s impossible – just nearly impossible.

3. Jealousy and Trust Issues

Jealousy is often not a controllable emotion, and it does not automatically point to a relationship’s death- if handled positively. But an improperly handled green-eyed monster can lead to a steady decline due to all the underlying trust issues. Here are some red flags related to jealousy and trust issues.

·Bringing Along Old Baggage

Did your previous partner cheat on you? Did they hurt you in some way? It can be a painful and challenging healing process from issues like that. You can continue to heal and work on yourself in new relationships, and everyone has baggage – that’s not the issue.

The problem arises when you develop unfounded suspicions against your partner based on this old baggage. Suddenly, you’re worried that they’ll betray you, too, and you force them to prove to you that they won’t. Your trust issues are your own to work on. Don’t drag your partner into it.


Someone feeling jealousy may control their partner, restricting their access to their friends, demanding that they only befriend a particular gender, or insisting on spending all their time with them. The relationship is highly toxic and abusive if you or your partner do this.

·Lack Of Honesty

Honesty is essential as a foundation for trust. If you or your partner regularly tell lies to avoid consequences, no matter how “small” or “harmless” you think those lies are, you will slowly erode your trust in each other. Before long, you may feel like you can’t trust a word they say, and they won’t be able to trust you, either.

4. Bad Connections To Outside Relationships

Other relationships can dictate the health of your romantic relationship. Many believe it shouldn’t or wouldn’t matter, but it does. Here’s how:

·Dislike Of A Partner’s Family and Friends

It’s okay not to get along with everyone in your partner’s family. But outwardly expressing your dislike, hatred, or lack of fondness for the people your partner cares about is unhealthy and likely to cause problems for you in the long run.

Committed relationships also usually require you to be on relatively alright terms with the people in your partner’s life. If you can’t stand seeing their family, the relationship outlook is not great.

·Regular Contact With An Ex

A partner may have to keep in touch with an ex because they co-parent a child or simply because they’re now on good terms and consider each other friends. However, it’s a red flag once they turn to that ex instead of you for everything.

·Too Much Involvement From Family

Partners who regularly defend their parents or refuse to stand up for their partners over their original family are often not sufficiently committed to their new relationship. This interference is unhealthy and can lead to a lack of connection between partners.

·Removal Of External Relationships

Partners must have friendships outside of their romantic relationship. Suppose you and your partner begin to cut off everyone else or have no interest in maintaining those friendships. In that case, you will lose a crucial external support system, and you can both become miserable.

5.    Bad Fighting Habits

Fighting can be a positive thing for a couple. But when done the wrong way, it quickly points to disaster. Here’s how:

·You Never Fight

No arguments don’t mean that couples don’t experience challenges. Often, this is a manifestation of conflict avoidance. Unfortunately, using positive thinking to pretend everything is alright makes it much worse. Some call that response toxic positivity.

·You Always Have The Same Fight

You’ve fought about whose turn it is to do laundry more times than you can count. Although it seems like a small issue, the fact that you have never resolved it suggests that either, one, you are breaking promises and agreements on what to do. Or, two, you have never attempted to find a compromise. Neither is a promising idea.

·You Fight To Win

Fighting in a relationship should be done to solve a problem – the couple against the issue. It should not be you versus your partner in an attempt to come out on top.

·You Fight Unfairly

You hit below the belt and bring up something that happened last year. You guilt-trip, or manipulate, or threaten to hurt yourself. These are all incredibly toxic types of fighting that don’t bode well for you.

6. There’s No More Respect

The relationship is as good as dead if you don’t respect each other. You need to care about one another and value the other person to stay together. Insults, put-downs, and rolled eyes all indicate that your respect for one another is waning.

Once you step out of the territory of constructive criticism and into overly critical bashing, you’ve gone too far. You must work on loving each other for who you are and respecting each other’s wants and needs, or else you’re heading straight to Splitsville.

7. You Are Constantly Criticizing Each Other

Speaking of criticism, many couples go too far and begin to find fault in every single little thing that happens. Nothing you do pleases your partner, and you feel like you’re being stretched thin and still failing to live up to expectations.

Worse still, some couples fail to communicate their issues healthily. Instead of gently explaining a complaint that they have, they lash out, expect the other person to read their mind, or put the other person down so much that it shatters their self-esteem.

Partners may start to feel like they have to walk on eggshells around each other to avoid messing up. Once you’re in this stage, the chances of the relationship lasting are minimal.

8. There Are No Simple Signs of Affection

Passion can slowly fizzle out over the years, but once it dies completely, it has to be reignited to save a relationship. Here are some signs that the affection had died out:

·There’s No More Laughter

Couples who know how to have fun, enjoy each other’s sense of humor, and feel at ease around each other tend to laugh more often. It’s a good reminder of why you first began dating!

·You’ve Stopped Complimenting Each Other

Compliments are a great way to brighten someone’s day, and they inform your partner that you still find them desirable. Tell them they look amazing, praise one of their skills or talents, or talk about how you love a trait of theirs.

·You Rarely Touch Each Other

We’re not just talking about what goes on in the bedroom! Holding hands, touching their arm or leg lightly, or giving them a quick hug or kiss can make all the difference. Touch is a very reassuring and loving act that is intimate and can really strengthen the bond between two people.

9. A Lack Of Taking Responsibility

You will never always be right, and neither will your partner. You will both mess up, make mistakes, and show your worst selves in your time together. It makes sense – you spend lots of time with them, so they’ll see you at your worst and best.

Both parties need to be capable of taking responsibility when something goes wrong. If you or your partner cannot admit when you are at fault, you’re heading straight for Splitsville. You should not:

  • Be overly defensive
  • Stonewall a discussion
  • Blame the other person for your mistakes
  • Refuse to apologize
  • Gaslight the other person and insist they’re being too sensitive or need to be calmer or have more positive thinking.
  • Bring up past issues

10. You Don’t Feel Like You’re In A Relationship Anymore

You feel different than you did before. Worse yet, you go about your day as a single person would. You rarely think about your significant other or miss them. Your solo plans for the future that don’t involve them.

You feel as though you can no longer turn to your partner for support. Or, rarely do you talk about anything beyond the superficial. You feel worried or anxious about your relationship all the time.

All of these statements can indicate that you’ve fallen out of love or that you’re ready to move on to the next chapter of your life without your partner. It doesn’t make you a bad person – it makes you human, and it’s okay to want to leave a relationship that is no longer making you happy. Just make sure you end things with compassion.


Final Thoughts On Some Signs That Reveal A Relationship Won’t Last

If your relationship experiences any of these ten signs, does it mean it’s over for good? In most cases, no! What you have to do now is work on these issues together. Communicate, discuss your wants and needs, and devise a solution together.

Don’t be afraid to try going for relationship counseling if necessary! You and your partner get to decide how your story goes. If you’re willing to do everything you can to stay together, it will help you in the long run.

And if it’s time to end things? That’s okay, too. It will hurt for a while, but you must make the best decision. Take the leap of faith – it will all work out in the end.