Your spiritual energy is akin to your soul. It’s the force that keeps you motivated, the fire of passion and strength in your belly, and the power of faith and trust that you have in yourself and the world around you. It’s an essential facet of your overall well-being.
But what happens when you don’t have enough spiritual energy? You begin to lose yourself and become a blank robot, almost like a shell of the person you’re meant to be. And, unfortunately, there are things you could be doing that are actively draining that power! Here are four things that drain your spiritual energy and make you mindless.
1. Seeking Other People’s Validation
The quickest drain on spiritual energy is an over-reliance on other people. While validation from others is excellent and can feel rewarding, especially when from loved ones, it shouldn’t be the main thing you exist on. If you rely solely on the external rewards of others to keep you going, your spirit will begin to die out. This can leave you without your personality, mind, or soul. Here are some ways you may be seeking the validation of others in this unhealthy way:
It’s not possible to become the perfect people-pleaser. The more you try to make everyone happy, the less happy everyone will be with you. At the end of the day, you need to listen to your spirit and follow it or risk becoming exhausted and mindless from the effort of pleasing those around you.
· Not Wanting To Say No
Some people become yes-men who can’t bear the thought of saying “no” to someone because they don’t want to stir up any conflict. Don’t fall into this trap. You have limited energy to expend, and you’ll lose your head quickly if you overcommit to other people. Pick and choose who you spend your time with.
· Worrying What Other People Think
People are always going to throw their judgments and have their varying perspectives on your life. It’s already tough to think of what’s best for you – adding the additional filter of other people’s perspectives is sure to drain you. The only person whose opinion truly matters when it comes to your personal life is your own.
· Constantly Helping
There’s nothing wrong with being kind and helpful, and you should be those things. But there comes the point when helping people around you is more negative than positive, as you spend all your time and energy on others and are left with nothing for yourself.
· Staying In Toxic Relationships
Any relationship can be toxic, not just romantic ones. If there are toxic people in your life and you continue trying to be pleasant to and with them, it’s time to stop and cut them off. Nothing they can give you will be worth the drain on your energy for sticking around.
· Trying To Meet Societal Norms
The rules of society follow the majority and aren’t worth the validation. What that majority cares about may not be what you care about, so don’t feel pressured to meet those norms if you don’t want to. Your spiritual energy is better spent focusing on doing what you want, no matter what society says.
· Maintaining A Low Self-Esteem
A lack of positive self-esteem lends itself to envy, attention-seeking, and other behaviors that rely on others to boost your mood. It can be exhausting, and not being fulfilled with yourself is a surefire way to drain energy. Of course, improving self-esteem is difficult, but if you know you have trouble with insecurity and similar problems, it’s time to focus your efforts on improving those aspects of yourself.
2. Negative Thinking
Negativity and negative thinking are a drain on you and those around you. When you focus too much on evil thoughts and make them central to your mind and being, you’re becoming a part of the problem. Your spiritual energy will die away without positive thinking, leaving you confused, lost, angry, and mindless. Here are some forms of negative thinking to avoid:
It’s easy to overthink when you’re anxious, have big or difficult decisions to make, or are aware that outcomes to your choices aren’t obvious. While considering different avenues is crucial to wise decision-making, there’s only so much you can ruminate on something before you’ve exhausted productive thought and all your energy. Learn to take a leap of faith and trust your instincts – or your capability to sort things out if you made the wrong choice.
· Worrying All The Time
A little worry is normal and natural. Too much of it, and it becomes unproductive. Some things are out of your hands, and worrying about them will no longer be of any use. Instead of worrying, focus on learning from past events and on what you can control now. Your spiritual energy is better spent in this way.
· Constant Complaining
Complaining as a method of expressing negative emotion isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But if you find problems and things to bemoan in every aspect of your life, then you’re just keeping yourself in a negative headspace and losing your spiritual energy in the process. Instead of complaining, ask yourself what can be done about the situation you’re in, then work on that solution.
· Taking Everything Personally
Not everything that happens in life is out to get you. People have bad days and take it out on others randomly. Bad things happen in the universe, and sometimes your luck isn’t great. Lots of things have nothing to do with you, so why waste your energy focusing on wondering where you went wrong or what you’ve done to “deserve” misfortune?
Some people enjoy having a little clutter in their lives. But a full-blown lack of any positive organization can mess with your spiritual energy and leave you with none leftover to think or perform daily tasks. You can lose positive thinking, gain lethargy, and feel overwhelmed thanks to disorganized living. Here are some signs that your disorganization is getting dangerous for your energy:
· Your Tasks Aren’t Well-Managed
If you have many things to do and many small daily tasks to juggle, you need to stay organized enough to manage them, their deadlines, and their descriptions. A lack of organization can add a lot of effort and time to what would typically be quicker jobs. Finding organizational methods for your task list can help you accomplish each goal without too much spiritual drain.
· Your Workspace Is Messy
Some people work well with a bit of mess. But for the most part, the human brain doesn’t do well in cluttered environments. Your eyes will naturally latch onto mess, distracting you from your daily tasks. Finding ways to add a semblance of order to your workspace can be tiring at first, but it will preserve your spiritual energy in the long run.
· You Tend To Multitask
People often pride themselves on their ability to multitask. However, the reality is that doing so is usually pretty bad for overall productivity. When you multitask, you’re not doing many things at the same time. What you’re doing is swapping between multiple different tasks, which uses up your energy as you try to switch jobs and re-focus every few minutes. It’s best to do things one at a time, then take breaks between each task.