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How To Treat Your ‘Second Brain’ For Anxiety and Depression

Believe it or not, tiny microbes lining your gut actually play a huge part in your mental and neurological health. A groundbreaking study performed by UCLA researchers shows the strong connection between healthy gut bacteria and brain functioning.

Regarding this study, Dr. Emeran Mayer, a professor of medicine (digestive diseases), physiology and psychiatry at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA and the study’s senior author, stated:

“There are studies showing that what we eat can alter the composition and products of the gut flora — in particular, that people with high-vegetable, fiber-based diets have a different composition of their microbiota, or gut environment, than people who eat the more typical Western diet that is high in fat and carbohydrates,” Mayer said. “Now we know that this has an effect not only on the metabolism but also affects brain function.”

While scientists say they still need to do further research into how exactly this occurs, some believe that the gut microbiome release signaling molecules into our gut, affecting our dietary decisions. Since the gut is linked to the immune system, endocrine system, and nervous system, these signals consequently impact our physiological and behavioral reactions.

However, just as the bacteria can influence our behaviors, we can alter them by changing what we consume, which would then alter the bacteria itself.

Research proposes that gut bacteria might influence what we eat by manipulating signals in the vagus nerve, which connects 100 million nerve cells from the digestive tract to the base of the brain.

“Microbes have the capacity to manipulate behavior and mood through altering the neural signals in the vagus nerve, changing taste receptors, producing toxins to make us feel bad, and releasing chemical rewards to make us feel good,” said Athena Aktipis, co-founder of the Center for Evolution and Cancer.

Because of the gut’s profound influence on mental health in humans, many people call the intestines “The Second Brain,” since the microbes found throughout our bodies actually weigh twice as much as the human brain. While experiments that test the impact of gut bacteria on mental health are in the beginning stages, researchers seem to have found a clear link between having more robust gut bacteria and having a healthier brain.

In fact, another study found that young adults who eat more fermented foods, or those containing probiotics, have fewer symptoms of social anxiety than adults who don’t eat fermented foods. This might be attributed to the fact that the healthy bacteria lowers symptoms of anxiety in general in the gut. Studies into how gut health affects depression are ongoing, but we do know that most medicines for depression contain serotonin, a chemical found naturally in certain foods.

“Time and time again, we hear from patients that they never felt depressed or anxious until they started experiencing problems with their gut,” Dr. Kirsten Tillisch, lead author of the UCLA study, said. “Our study shows that the gut–brain connection is a two-way street.”

Our modern world runs largely on heavily processed, nutritionally-lacking foods, which may explain why we have so many digestive and mental health problems today. These toxic foods may explain why Western societies in particular have such high rates of anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and other common mental disorders.

So, what can you do to promote healthy gut bacteria to reduce anxiety and depression?

How To Treat Your ‘Second Brain’ For Anxiety and Depression

Eliminate, or greatly reduce, highly processed foods.

Consuming whole, fresh foods straight from nature will allow your digestive system to reset, therefore altering the bacteria in your gut. Opt for fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, sweet potatoes, fermented foods, and a small amount of unpasteurized, organic dairy, and lean, organic meats.

Related article: 6 Things People With A Healthy Gut Do Differently

Introduce more fermented, unpasteurized foods into your diet.

Fermented foods contain lactic acid bacteria, a beneficial bacteria that promotes good microbes within the gut. Examples of fermented foods that you can eat include tempeh (made from fermented soybeans), miso, kefir, sauerkraut, kimchi, kombucha, and yogurt.

Eat fiber-rich foods.

A study released by Professor Andrew Smith at Cardiff University in 2002 revealed that eating more fiber results in higher energy levels, more clarity, and a more positive mindset as opposed to eating a low fiber diet. Also, high fiber diets can reduce fatigue and lessen the risk of developing diseases of the bowels, including cancer.

High fiber foods basically include three food groups: fruits, vegetables, and starches such as brown rice, sweet potatoes, and other grains classified as complex carbohydrates.

Sources:
Joe Alcock, Carlo C. Maley, C. Athena Aktipis. Is eating behavior manipulated by the gastrointestinal microbiota? Evolutionary pressures and potential mechanisms. BioEssays, 2014; DOI: 10.1002/bies.201400071
Matthew R. Hilimire, Jordan E. DeVylder, Catherine A. Forestell. Fermented foods, neuroticism, and social anxiety: An interaction model. Psychiatry Research, 2015; DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.1016/j.psychres.2015.04.023

Rachel Champeau. Changing gut bacteria through diet affects brain function, UCLA study shows. May 28, 2013. Retrieved from http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/changing-gut-bacteria-through-245617 March 7, 2017.

How to Train Your Brain To Stop Overeating

Overeating is a problem for many people, but getting to a place where you can recognize hunger cues can be difficult. Not to mention, many people overeat to try to cope with emotions, deal with stress, distract themselves from boredom, or because of an eating disorder.

We will provide some tips in the article below about how to retrain your brain to stop overeating, but please remember, if you continue to struggle with eating habits, consult the help of a licensed professional.

How to Train Your Brain To Stop Overeating

Train your brain to measure your hunger to stop overeating

Ask yourself this one question: ‘On a scale of one to ten, how hungry am I really?’ Think of this scale as a ten as if you went without food for more than 24 hours and a one on the scale as if you had just eaten a big Thanksgiving meal. If you look at your level of hunger this way, you can see that you probably aren’t literally starving and you are also not stuffed from just eating, but that you are really somewhere in between. Identifying the level of your hunger helps you see that maybe you could use just a small snack now and that will allow your hunger rating to come down a bit.

Train your brain to pay attention to the signs of hunger

Is your stomach rumbling? Do you feel a little light-headed? Your body knows when it needs nourishment and it sends signals like a growling stomach that are so obvious that even other people can hear that you’re hungry. So use that information. If you aren’t getting signals like these, could your brain be making you overeat?

Identify your current emotional state to stop overeating

Awareness of your emotional state will help you to see patterns when your brain sends signals to overeat. The phrase ‘comfort food’ is used because it does exactly that; give us a sense of warm, well-being and happiness that is just what we need when we are upset, frustrated, or a little sad about something.

Our emotions can influence us to seek comfort through food. Avoiding this pitfall by increasing your awareness of your emotions before you go to the kitchen to get a snack is one way to train your brain to stop overeating. Post a reminder on the fridge or wherever you keep the hidden stash of cookies that says ‘Wait. How am I feeling?’ Catching yourself before you choose to eat is key.

Train your brain to notice overeating

We all need food to live. It is one thing that none of us can do without, but how much is too much and how can you tell your brain that you’re done eating?

A study in the journal Health Education Research show that improving your level of self-efficacy can help you avoid overeating. Self-efficacy is your belief in yourself to prevent yourself from overeating. Increase your self-efficacy by remembering times when you have stopped yourself from overeating to reinforce and train your brain to stop overeating.

Train your brain to notice marketing influences on overeating

Brian Wansink, food habit researcher and author of Mindless Eating, says that every time we make a food choice, unless we are looking at only raw whole foods, marketing and advertising are working against us to influence us to consume more of products that companies want us to buy. Wansink says from restaurants to grocery stores, ‘Plate shapes and package sizes, lighting and layout, color and convenience: these are a few of hidden persuaders that can contribute to how much food a person eats.’

Related article: 7 Ways to Put Your Metabolism into Fat-Burning Mode

Wansink says that we make a choice not only about what to eat, but also about how much to eat every time we are hungry. Wansink says we overeat for two reasons. One way we can train our brains to stop overeating is to identify the cues that cause us to keep eating after we aren’t hungry anymore. For example, your brain says to eat until your plate is clean? Use a smaller plate. You can’t stop eating chips if you open the bag? Measure a reasonable portion size into a smaller bag and use that as a serving.

The second reason we overeat is that we aren’t good at figuring out when we are no longer hungry. In a study that illustrates this, Wansink’s team designed a fake restaurant and refillable, trick soup bowls that they asked guests not to touch. The study found ‘those who had been given these ‘bottomless bowls’ ate an average of 73% more than those eating from a regular bowl. When asked if they were full, a common response was, “How can I be full, I still have half a bowl left.”

Sources:
http://www.webmd.com/diet/obesity/features/overcoming-overeating#1
Self-efficacy: a contributor to the explanation of eating behavior
https://academic.oup.com/her/article-abstract/5/4/395/569014/Self-efficacy-a-contributor-to-the-explanation-of
From mindless eating to mindlessly eating better
https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Brian_Wansink/publication/44600055_From_Mindless_Eating_to_Mindlessly_Eating_Better/links/551e75cd0cf29dcabb03cd44.pdf

How To Train Your Brain to Be More Productive

The ability to be productive is necessary for all of us. It doesn’t matter if you’re the President of the United States or the President of a book club. Every job, task, and responsibility requires a productive mindset to achieve a positive outcome.

“Time is not refundable. Use it with intention.” – Unknown

Relying on willpower and self-control will only get you so far. Both of these attributes are quickly depleted, so the ability to remain productive quickly dissipates.

The fact is that our brain is the key to establishing and sustaining productivity. While our brain resources (i.e., “energy”) are finite, efficient use of these resources will allow anyone to remain productive throughout the day.

We will discuss some simple ways to ignite your brain’s “productivity mode.” More importantly, we’ll discuss how to sustain these efforts without experiencing burnout.

As with any skill, knowledge without practice is worthless. While we’ll provide some excellent – and scientifically proven – ways to increase your productivity, you must remain committed. This means accepting inevitable setbacks and moving on.

Here are a few ways to train your brain to be more productive:

1. Single-task

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Concentrating on one thing – and only thing – is the most powerful skill in improving productivity. Again, single-tasking is the most powerful skill in improving productivity.

The ability to efficiently multitask is a complete myth. Research study after research study has confirmed the fact that the human brain is not physiologically capable of processing multiple stimuli.

After assessing the abundance of research on multitasking, The American Psychological Association (APA) reached the following conclusion: “Understanding the hidden costs of multitasking may help people to choose strategies that boost their efficiency – above all, by avoiding multitasking, especially with complex tasks.”

2. Work at a coffee shop

Many of us desire to “power through” our work by cutting ourselves from the world. These types of folks possess incredible focus and determination, but it may not be the most productive mindset.

In a study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, scientists concluded – through several different experiments – that a bit of ambient noise improved creativity and productivity. An environment with low ambient (?70 decibels) noise may replenish your productive tank.

Of course, it all depends on the individual. Creative people will attest that working with ambient noise stokes our creative and productive nerves.

3. Take a power nap – at the right time

Short periods of sleep are associated with a number of benefits. According to two UCLA professors, one such benefit is a boost to productivity. Some caveats to this benefit must be considered.

First, experts note that a 10 to 20-minute nap is the “sweet spot” for boosting alertness and energy. This time window limits the brain to lighter stages of non-rapid eye movement (NREM) sleep, which makes it much easier to get back on your feet and into work mode.

Second, researchers have discovered that power napping between 1:00 and 3:00 p.m. may enhance the abovementioned benefits.

4. Optimize your environment

It’s hardly groundbreaking news that your environment significantly impacts productivity. Here’s the good news: the right amount of temperature and lighting can drastically improve your work performance.

In a study published by professors at Cornell University, “Results suggest that performance improves as conditions approach a predicted thermal comfort zone.” In other words, you’ll want to regulate the temperature in your office.

Grab a small plugin fan if you’re too warm, or wear an extra layer of clothing if you’re cold. The “optimal” temperature, according to the research, is room temperature – 77 degrees Fahrenheit (25 degrees Celsius).

Studies also suggest that adequate lighting can improve productivity. Light emitted from computers, lamps, overhead fixtures, and natural light (i.e., the sunshine) all fall under this category. Practically speaking, adjust the brightness of lighting objects to prevent eyestrain and eye fatigue. Doing so will help ensure that you remain productive.

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5. Look at cute animals

Okay, so this last one is a bit less predictable – and maybe even a little odd to some. In a research article titled “The Power of Kawaii: Viewing Cute Images Promotes A Careful Behavior and Narrows Attentional Focus,” scientists at Hiroshima University in Japan observed a strong correlation between looking at cute images and performance.

(The word “Kawaii” in Japanese means “cute,” just in case you’re curious.)

The authors concluded the study with this:

Kawaii things not only make us happier, but also affect our behavior…viewing cute things improves subsequent performance in tasks that require behavioral carefulness, possibly by narrowing the breadth of attentional focus.”

The next time your boss catches you surfing the web for cute animal pics, just refer him or her to this study. That’ll teach ‘em…or not.

References:
Mehta, R., Zhu, R. (., & Cheema, A. (2012). Is Noise Always Bad? Exploring the Effects of Ambient Noise on Creative Cognition. Journal of Consumer Research, 39(4), 784-799. doi:10.1086/665048
Nittono, H., Fukushima, M., Yano, A., & Moriya, H. (2012). The Power of Kawaii: Viewing Cute Images Promotes a Careful Behavior and Narrows Attentional Focus. PLoS ONE, 7(9). doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0046362

Why You Should Never Tell Someone “Stop Crying” (And What to Say Instead)

How to you console a crying friend or family member? Well, for starters, telling them to stop the tears will only make things worse. We explore why that happens–and what to do instead.

“An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioral or expressive response.” – Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007

Emotions are intricately complex psychological states. Consider the studies of two prominent psychologists, Paul Eckman and Robert Plutchik:

– In 1972, Eckman proposed that there were six universal human emotions: anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, and surprise. 27 years later, Eckman expanded his list to include seven other emotions: amusement, contempt, embarrassment, excitement, pride, satisfaction and shame.

– In the 80’s, Robert Plutchik put forth a model called the “wheel of emotions.” Plutchik proposed that humans “mix and match” emotions, similar to how a painter chooses their paints.

Emotions, almost without exception, cannot be compartmentalized.

Perhaps the best way to define emotions is to “explain” them in simple, human terms: every face has a story. You can only see the cover unless someone decides to read you this story.

Sadness is arguably the most misunderstood, abstract, and criticized emotion in the “wheel.” One only need to look at the stigmatization of depression to comprehend this argument.

Childhood Roots

People raised in a strict environment have probably been told to “Stop crying” – or something similar – during their childhood. Kids brought up this way are instructed to hide their feelings, be quiet, and not to embarrass themselves.

Childhood is a time of immaturity – of discovering and trying to make sense of the world. Are people empathetic and kind? Are people ruthless and authoritarian? Do more people love or hate? Do people try more to understand or be understood?

Children taught to repress their emotions often develop problems. Abuse, intolerance, and misunderstanding are incompatible to a child’s healthy upbringing.

Of course, fits of crying are uncommon during adulthood – but they do happen. Why? Many reasons: anxiety, depression, overwhelm, personal problems, loss, etc.

We shouldn’t tell a child to “stop crying,” we shouldn’t tell an adult, either. If anything, observing an adult crying should ring some internal “alarm” that evokes empathy and seeks to understand.

Some people are natural empaths – and others, not so much. (There is nothing wrong with this latter group – it’s simply part of their personality.) The former group, naturally, is better equipped to interact with and help a saddened individual.

Regardless of where you may fall along the empathy /” indifference” spectrum, there are some ways you can learn how to respond to a hurting individual.

Here are ten such ways:

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1. “Tell me about it.”

Some people are more prone to open up than others. To make sense of what’s going on, it’s important to probe a little. This will give you a better frame of reference as the interaction progresses.

2. “Sadness is okay.”

Whether it’s a 5-year old child or a 50-year old adult, sadness is a natural human emotion. Some societal elements attempt to replace natural sadness with an artificial “I’m tough” attitude. There are a time and place for both – but it’s up to the individual. Regardless, it’s important to emphasize the rationality behind sadness.

3. “I’m here with you.”

Sad people are often lonely people. As such, it is reassuring to know that another person is with them – and wishes to help. These four simple words may change the person’s entire perspective on their situation.

4. “I’m listening.”

People crying or sad don’t need a lecturer; they need a listener.  Active listening in this situation is crucial. In other words, paying complete attention to what the other person is saying while refraining from adding your two-sense.

5. “Let’s work it out, together.”

For someone experiencing sadness/crying/depression/etc., these words are perhaps more comforting than anything else you can say. First, it sends the message that a solution is possible. Second, the person has a “teammate” in helping solve the problem.

6. “That sounds disappointing/hurtful/etc.”

Empathy is a potent emotion, particularly when expressed in reciprocation. When a person is in a depressed state, their thinking is often confined and limited – as if they’re the only ones who possibly understand. This statement helps dissolve this way of thinking.

7. “I want to be here for you. Feel free to contact me when you need to talk.”

Not everyone is ready to “spill the beans” at first. This is common during periods of grief and loss. Eventually, the person may or may not want to speak with someone. In the event of the former, they know there’s someone they can call.

8. “This doesn’t feel/sound fair.”

This statement warrants a bit of caution. In other words, a comprehensive understanding of the scenario helps ensure that you aren’t (unknowingly) enabling someone’s self-defeating behavior. If you can put confidence behind these words, then, by all means, carry on.

9. “I’ve experienced something similar.”

This is real-life empathy – and perhaps the solution to a person’s problem. Similar experiences are not to be hidden in this case. If you trust a person and want to help, this is one of the best ways to do so.

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10. “Don’t be afraid to get more help.”

As much as we’d like to help, we don’t always have all the answers to someone’s problems. If the person is suffering from mental illness or domestic violence, for example, your reach here is limited. Of course, you can (and should) help the person. But you should also encourage them to seek further assistance.

‘Modern Family’ Star Sarah Hyland Has The Best Comeback To Bodyshamers With Emotional Must-Read Message

Sadly, our culture today seems totally infatuated by how someone looks, or even doesn’t look. If you log on to any social media outlet, you’ll likely come across cruel comments that bash someone based on their outward appearance. If the comments are directed towards someone’s weight, it’s known as bodyshaming. This is an all-too-common practice in modern society. People get brave behind a keyboard, because they don’t have to look at the person in the eye. They’re protected by the veil of anonymity. However, this doesn’t mean that the comments don’t have an effect on the person they’re directed toward.

Because there is no face-to-face encounter, people often forget that there is a real, live human being looking at these comments, having to deal with the painful sting that bullying leaves behind.

However, Sarah Hyland from ‘Modern Family’ put an end to the comments people left about her being “too skinny” by being totally open and honest about her health struggles in the past year.

Sarah’s Story

Sarah Hyland is an American actress best known for her role as Haley Dunphy on the ABC sitcom Modern Family. She’s received many nominations and accolades for her performance in the show, such as sharing four Screen Actors Guild Award for Outstanding Performance by an Ensemble in a Comedy Series with her cast members and earning a Critics’ Choice Television Award nomination of Best Supporting Actress in a Comedy Series.

She’s appeared in many other movies, shows, and even a Broadway play and commercials, but her role on Modern Family has been the highlight of her career thus far.

She was diagnosed with kidney dysplasia as a child and received a kidney transplant in April 2012. Unfortunately, she’s had to deal with health problems in the past year or so of her life, which have driven her to bedrest for months at a time. As you might expect from someone on bedrest, she lost a lot of weight, and is currently trying to gain some back. No one should have to put up with bodyshamers, but when they began to attack Sarah’s appearance, she had an amazing comeback to silence them.

‘Modern Family’ Star Sarah Hyland Has The Best Comeback To Bodyshamers With Emotional Must-Read Message

Taken from her Twitter account, this is Sarah’s emotional message to her “haters”:

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You tell em, Sarah. If you’ve ever been the victim of bodyshaming, just remember that people’s words can’t hurt you unless you allow them to. Like Sarah said, don’t allow people’s often tactless words to change the outlook you have on yourself. After all, only your opinion of yourself matters at the end of the day.

On the other side of the coin, if you have ever put someone down because of their weight, remember that your words DO affect people, even if you can’t see their reactions personally. There’s never any good reason to shame someone because of their appearance. Period.

Body shaming can happen to anyone, whether you’re in the public eye or not. If you notice people bullying someone due to their weight (or any reason), stand up for them. Why? Because you would want them to do the same for you.

We should not tolerate bullying any longer, because it can have serious consequences on the victims, including suicide.

If we all lifted one another up and supported each other, imagine how different the world could be, whether we’re trying to lose, gain, or maintain weight.

Sources: 
https://twitter.com/Sarah_Hyland/status/867476483505176576

5 Traits of A Star Child

A Star Child is a unique living person who, unlike most of us, has special perceptive abilities. This metaphysical concept of a Star Child is sometimes called a Star Seed or an Old Soul. If you think you could be a Star Child, read about these five common traits that these highly aware individuals share.

5 Common Traits of A ‘Star Child’

1. They are empathic and aware.

Often the first to reach out in empathy, a Star Child commonly sees people who are hurting emotionally and want to help. These people act like observers of others rather than participants in conversations or activities that people engage in. As an observer, they are curious about people and especially how they love. These people
are sensitive to body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice that reveal more than words do.

2. They demonstrate wisdom beyond their years.

At a young age, people may have thought you were a genius due to the significant concepts you could easily understand. This is a common trait for Star Children because they have likely incarnated as a living being before this life. They understand things beyond their physical form and the limits of Earth.

3. A Star Child feels they do not belong on Earth

Feeling that you have more in common with fantasy creatures in fictional stories than you do with human beings is a common trait for Star Children. A Star Child may feel unaccepted by others because of their unusual thoughts and behavior. A Star Child is often a person who finds spiritual inspiration in the stories of aliens, vampire stories, and science fiction novels.

Researchers studying people involved in alternative spiritualities find that as people are selective about spirituality, they create new myths. A belief in Star Children can be seen as an alternative spirituality since this concept is not common in traditional religious paths.

4. A Star Child knows they have lived several past lives

The concept of reincarnation is something a Star Child is familiar with and may feel like they have lived several previous lives. Research Psychiatrist Ian Stevenson from the University of Virginia, investigated reports of Star Children who claimed to remember past lives. In over 2500 case studies, Stevenson documented each child’s statements and then identified the deceased person the child had memories of being in a past life. In each case, he verified facts about the dead person’s life that matched what the Star Child reported.

Swedish stem cell researchers found that the average age of cells in an adult body would be between 7 and 10 years. They say “Considering this sober evidence, we can understand that as we age, our bodily cells are replaced regularly. Hence, we have a constantly changing body. However, our consciousness of who we are, remains unchanging.“ In this sense, our consciousness is immortal, which means that it could possibly travel through many changing bodies in time. The researchers say “This is the rational explanation of reincarnation.”

5. A Star Child finds love everywhere.

A Star Child is often calm, smiling, and the first to hug a stranger in a world filled with unhappiness and frustrations. Unconditional love is all around for the Star Child, because they can see beyond the negative emotions people outwardly display when hurt.

A Star Child commonly uses their loving nature to help heal others around them. They have a high degree of emotional intelligence and they spread positive emotions to those who are being outwardly negative. As a result of the unconditional love they give to others, a Star Child receives unconditional love returned to them from all of those they help.

10 Behaviors That Build Trust In A Relationship

“Most good relationships are built on mutual trust and respect.” – Mona Sutphen

Depending on the person and situation, the word trust can take on different meanings.

For example, a person with a good heart who has never experienced betrayal is far more likely to confide in someone who’s reeling from an abusive relationship. Situationally, in a business environment, trustworthiness may be harder to earn than in a personal relationship.

Nan S Russell, an educational psychologist, sums up the word ‘trust’: “People mean different things when they use the word trust. Ask five friends and you’ll get five definitions. (There) are various kinds of trust – confidence trust, competence trust, relationship trust, basic trust, authentic trust, organizational trust, self-trust, situational trust, and leadership trust – to name just a few.”

While trust may indeed be fluid by definition, there is one near-absolute truth: certain behaviors build trust faster than others.

Here are ten behaviors that can build trust quickly:

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1. Admit your mistakes

Mistakes – everyone makes them, but not everyone owns up to them. But if your objective is to create trust, admitting when you’ve screwed up is not an option. Ever heard the adage “The coverup is worse than the crime?” Well, this is especially true when you’re seeking to establish a reputation for trustworthiness.

2. DWYSYWD

Do What You Say You Will Do. Consistent, dependable and reliable behavior is one of the most expeditious ways to earn trust. If you make a promise, keep your word and follow through to the best of your ability. Most of us try, but sometimes things fall through the cracks. Minimize these mistakes and you’ll quickly build trust.

3. Give trust

Commitment and trust is a reciprocal action. Ever seen the movie Meet the Parents? Robert Deniro’s character (Jack Burns) lectures Ben Stiller (Greg) on the “Burn’s Family Circle of Trust” which he prides himself on: “I keep nothing from you and you keep nothing from me – and round and round we go.”

Trust is like that (just less funny).

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4. Listen mindfully

Mindfulness is observation without judgment. For illustrative purposes, think of the people you consider to be the most trustworthy in your life. The chances are that they’re willing to listen to you no matter your state of mind. Mindful (or active) listening is rare nowadays – a fact that makes the practice invaluable for establishing trust.

5. Show interest

Demonstrating interest helps build relationships and reinforce trust. Showing interest is also critical to developing and maintaining rapport. You show interest in someone through being inquisitive and curious. If the person senses your sincerity, you’ll quickly earn their trust.

6. Be self-aware

Self-awareness is defined as “conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires.” Renowned behavioral psychologist Nan S. Russell calls self-awareness “the missing ingredient’ for building trust. “(Too) often people don’t realize the messages that their actions send,” says Russell, “You can’t adjust your actions to communicate what you intend without self-awareness, ” and you can’t establish trust when the signals you send are the wrong ones.

7. Be prompt

Chronic poor time management should be considered personally inexcusable. It’s also certainly viewed as a sign of disrespect by others. The odds are that if you don’t hold yourself accountable, then someone else will. In the meantime, you’ll initiate a sense if doubt in others, which will call into question anything you do or say – no matter how well-intended.

8. Communicate openly

Sometimes being open and honest can be a bit uncomfortable. This is especially true if you’re conflict-avoidant, which many people are – and that’s okay. Open communication is easier when you define your intentions during the onset, act politely, and listen intently. Effective communication may be the most important aspect of developing trust.

9. Resolve conflict swiftly

Conflict, in any form and to any degree, is counterproductive to establishing trust. Thus, it’s incredibly important to quash any conflicts as they arise and to do so quickly and efficiently. It is not necessary to approach conflict with a “conflict-like” mindset. Here’s an experiment: the next time someone gets angry with you – it doesn’t matter if it’s in traffic or at the office – smile politely and nod. You’ll be astonished at some of the responses you get (most will be positive!)

10. Be exemplary

There’s no better way to establish a culture of trust in a relationship than to exemplify the behavior. If this sounds like a “blanket solution” for reciprocating trust, that’s because it is. Quite simply, making the conscious decision always to tell the truth, be sincere, be responsible, refrain from gossip, and so forth will communicate to others that they can trust you. In return, you may find it’s much easier to trust them. Indeed, it is a “Circle of Trust.”

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References:
Russell, N.S. (2013, October 23). The Missing Ingredient for Building Trust at Work. Retrieved June 22, 2017, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/trust-the-new-workplace-currency/201310/the-missing-ingredient-building-trust-work

http://4h.missouri.edu/showmecharacter/trustcc
https://leadingwithtrust.com/2013/09/01/five-ways-to-rapidly-increase-trust-in-your-relationships/
https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/building-trust-team.htm

The 10 Most Destructive Human Behaviors (And How to Avoid Them)

“If you don’t find some way to discuss what’s going on inside you, it can come out in other ways that are self-destructive.” – Viggo Mortensen

Human beings often engage in behaviors that aren’t entirely beneficial, either to ourselves or to those around us. There’s a host of reasons that this occurs: socialization, societal pressure, stress, to name a few.

Destructive behaviors can also be learned through a home environment, or by formative interactions with other people. There are many signs of a destructive person, and if you recognize them in yourself, there are ways to change your behavior and make your life more positive, fulfilling and healthy.

THE 10 MOST DESTRUCTIVE HUMAN BEHAVIORS AND HOW TO AVOID THEM

1. LYING

People lie for a variety of reasons. Sometimes the lies are little white lies and done for good reasons. Other times, people will lie to boost their own self-esteem, and tend to lie more often when they feel that other people’s perception of them is not as flattering as they would like it to be. The best way to combat the need to lie is to ask yourself what you are gaining, and whether the consequences for when the truth comes out are worth the risk. Connecting with people on a genuine and truthful level will garner longer lasting relationships than ones built on lies.

2. VIOLENCE

Researchers believe that a need for violence has evolved with human beings’ need for survival. However, we are no longer hunters and gatherers, and our ability to dispute calmly has evolved with our ability to engage in language and social interactions on a more intimate level. Neuroplasticity is a powerful tool for rewiring the brain from receiving dopamine in response to an aggressive situation or event. Allowing yourself not to engage or take pleasure in violence such as fights or harassment will do wonders for your disposition.

3. STEALING

While theft can often be a desperate person’s act of survival, human beings also engage in stealing for purely selfish reasons. Some people do it to get a high or excitement. If you find yourself tempted to steal for any reason when you don’t have to, you may be indulging in a self-destructive behavior. Analyze where the need comes from, and ask yourself if the consequences are worth the thrill.

4. CHEATING

If you are in an unhappy relationship, or find yourself no longer engaged with your partner or spouse, you may feel yourself tempted to stray from the relationship. While the act at the time may seem justified, you will only be hurting both your partner and yourself by destroying the trust that they had in you and the relationship you built together. Open and honest communication can help heal any rifts you may be feeling without the need to become unfaithful.

5. BAD HABITS

Everyone has a bad habit that they have trouble kicking. However, it becomes destructive when someone clings to the habit as an excuse or with justification that it’s just too hard to quit. Seeking outside help, or support with friends or family, can make kicking a bad habit easier. You will feel better once you do.

6. BULLYING

Children and adults both engage in bullying behaviors. It can be tempting to engage in this type of behavior, especially when others around you are encouraging you to do it, and it seems like the other person “deserves” it. But bullying is a destructive behavior for both ourselves and the people around us, and feeds on nothing but negativity. Standing up against bullying can be the first step to dismantling this particular behavior, and turning the situation around.

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7. COSMETIC SURGERIES

Self-esteem issues are common among children, teenagers and adults. Society often tells us that we have to look a certain way to be attractive. In the end, it can be tempting to schedule a non-essential cosmetic surgery to fix your nose, or tighten your jawline, or get rid of wrinkles. Unfortunately, what society deems and pushes as “beautiful” often changes within a few year’s span. Learning to love yourself just as you are is the best way to combat this particular destructive behavior. Not only is it destructive for our self-esteem and mental health, but for our bodies as well.

8. STRESS

Sometimes, stressful situations happen and we can’t avoid it. However, sometimes we indulge the stress rather than taking steps to alleviate it. It can feel good in the moment to complain and go on and on about how stressed you are, and to feed into it. But once that’s over, you will be left feeling even more stressed out, and with no energy to destress. Taking the time to figure out a game plan for stress and self-care when it happens can make your life ten times easier, and nip this particular destructive behavior in the bud.

9. GOSSIP

Humans are social creatures, and connecting with one another is the main purpose of language and social interaction. The goal of gossip is often to establish the boundaries and exclusivity of a certain group. It can be a powerful bonding tool, but at the expense of other people who are singled out to be gossiped about. Don’t engage with gossip if you find yourself in a situation where others are doing so. Changing the subject, or questioning the validity of the gossip can break you out of this habit.

10. GAMBLING

People love to feel a rush, and gambling provides that rush. It can also be gravely addictive. This addiction can cause people who feed it to become self-destructive, as well as destructive to those around them by making it far more likely for the gambler to lie, cheat or steal in order to feed his addiction. If you have an addictive personality, do your best to limit your exposure to gambling, or seek help if you find it to become a problem. Play responsibly and enjoy the games joker123 hack apk, in which you can experience fun and enjoyment.

A destructive person will inevitably end up surrounded only by other destructive people. Once you become aware of these behaviors in either yourself or others, you can learn how to combat them. Taking charge of your life, your social interactions, and your behaviors are the first invaluable steps to turning your life around, or helping others in the same way. It’s important to recognize the destructive behaviors that we exhibit in our daily lives, so we can work to change how we interact with people and how we treat ourselves.

25 Reasons Why You Should Eat A Whole Avocado Every Day

Although the term “superfood” doesn’t exist medically or legally, everyone from fitness experts to doctors uses the term to describe “nutrient powerhouses that pack large doses of antioxidants, polyphenols, vitamins, and minerals.”

“The myriad of healthy fats and nutrients found in an avocado – oleic acid, lutein, folate, vitamin E, monounsaturated fats and glutathione among them – can help protect your body from heart disease, cancer, degenerative eye diseases, and brain diseases.” Dr. Frank Lipman

Indeed, Dr. Lipman “ranks” avocado as the #3 superfood (behind leafy greens and cruciferous veggies.)

In this article, we give you not one, not two, but 25 reasons to eat an avocado daily!

Let’s get going.

25 Reasons to Eat An Avocado Daily

#1 Avocados are nutrient-dense

Avocados are among the richest sources of vitamins and minerals; offering up nearly 20 in each serving. In a small 3.5 ounce (100 gram) serving, an avocado contains the recommended daily amount (RDA) percentages of these vitamins and minerals: vitamin K, 26%; folate, 20%; vitamin C, 17%; potassium 14%.

#2 A rich source of healthy fats

Avocados are a “fatty” food. The good news is that nearly all this fat is healthy, or monounsaturated fat.

#3 Helps maintain a healthy weight

Avocados, despite being “high in fat” may actually promote and help maintain a healthy weight. One reason is the fruit is high in fiber, which promotes feelings of satiety (fullness).

#4 Fights inflammation

As avocado is high in oleic acid – a fatty acid that reduces the inflammatory response – the fruit is effective at fighting off inflammation.

#5 Promotes eye health

Avocados contain the nutrients lutein and zeaxanthin, two nutrients that fight macular degeneration.

#6 Prevents diabetes

Studies show that people who eat half an avocado with lunch stabilize blood sugar levels.

#7 Increases nutrient absorption

Eating a lot of minerals, nutrients and vitamins is all well and good, but your body needs to absorb them too! Avocados help with this, as well.

#8 Lowers bad cholesterol levels

Research shows that avocados reduce total cholesterol, blood triglycerides, and LDL (bad) cholesterol.

#9 Promotes hair and skin health

Everyone wants fabulous hair and skin health. A combination of the fruit’s high vitamin E and healthy fat content can help create more youthful-looking skin and hair.

#10 An effective pain reliever

Much of the pain we experience is due to inflammation. As mentioned, avocados suppress the inflammatory response. This, of course, helps to mitigate pain caused by inflammation.

#11 Strengthens your bones

Avocados contain good amounts of copper, folate and vitamin K – all important nutrients for bone strengthening.

#12 May help fight off cancer

The cancer-fighting properties of avocados are still being researched. However, some research has been promising; this includes the slowing of cancerous prostate cells.

#13 Improves digestive health

Fiber is a critical nutrient for ensuring proper digestive health. Fortunately, avocados have plenty of this nutrient to spare!

#14 Regulates blood pressure

Potassium sources serve an important role in regulating blood pressure, and one avocado contains 28% of the RDA of potassium.

#15 Helps ensure a healthy newborn

Vitamins B6 and C, and folate and potassium are some of the most important nutrients of expecting mothers. Avocados, of course, are rich in all four.

#16 Enhances your state of mind

Potassium and folate are known “brain foods.” Lack of both nutrients has been linked to depression and like-symptoms. As mentioned, avocados are rich in both.

#17 Provides an energy boost

This is an oft-overlooked benefit of avocado. Of all macronutrients (carbs, fat, and protein), fat is the most concentrated for boosting energy – this is particularly true of healthy fats. Thus, an avocado provides a slow but steady supply of energy that can last a full workday.

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#18 Fires up the immune system

C vitamins, along with B and E, are all natural immune boosters. An avocado provides plenty of all three.

#19 Helps brain power

Copper is a brain stimulant that is often disregarded. It is no surprise, then, that many people have a copper deficiency. An avocado contains 20% RDA of copper, which may help with your cognitive functions.

#20 Is an incredibly versatile fruit

There are so many ways to enjoy an avocado. You can slice, peel, mix, or dice it; it can be added as an ingredient or a side dish. As you probably know, that tasty guacamole (which can be made healthily) is almost all ‘cado.

#21 Can be enjoyed in many ways

It’s worth mentioning again the different ways an avocado can be eaten. Here are some more creative avocado dishes: banana and avocado bread, pineapple/avocado smoothie, avocado hummus, avocado pesto, avocado/tomato bruschetta, and chilled cucumber & avocado soup.

#22 Protection benefits are wide-ranging

Eye, skin and hair, brain, immune and arthritis protection are just a few protective benefits of avocado. For such a delicious fruit, the multiple protective benefits are astonishing.

#23 More potassium than bananas

Yeah, this one is quite surprising. Most people’s primary potassium source is a fresh banana. One avocado has more than twice the amount of potassium than a banana (975 milligrams). Even a few slices will probably beat the Minion’s favorite fruit in potassium count.

#24 Very heart healthy

As avocado consumption is linked to lower blood triglycerides and LDL measurements, has potent anti-inflammatory properties, and helps normalize blood pressure; it’s one of the most heart-healthy foods around.

#25 Regular avocado eaters are healthier

According to an analysis of over 17,500 people, regular avocado eaters were found to be much healthier than others. More specifically, the former group had lower rates of heart disease, diabetes, and obesity.

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