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5 Gut Instincts You Should Never Ignore

When people say they’re “listening to their gut,” they really mean that their intuition is guiding them in making a decision. We all have this innate ability to listen to that inner voice telling us not to go through with something, or that the person asking us for help might have ulterior motives, or that our childhood dream could actually become a fulfilling career choice in our adult life.

We can essentially decode this often indescribable gut feeling we get in certain situations, because that pang in your stomach, sudden bout of fatigue, or strong urge to help the person next to you can reveal more than you think.

Here are 5 instincts you don’t want to ignore:

1. “I don’t feel good.”

If something in your body doesn’t feel right, you should listen to this feeling before it gets any worse. A lot of people ignore subtle signs from their bodies and end up dealing with a much larger problem than they originally planned for. Your body instinctively knows when something is off balance, and those initial warning signs warrant your acknowledgment and further investigating to find out what your intuition is trying to tell you. Don’t ever hesitate to go to your wellness advocate if your inner voice starts to scream at you to take action – the human body communicates to us surprisingly often through the power of intuition.

On another note, pay attention to how you feel every time you interact with someone. Do you feel drained, anxious, or depressed? These feelings have come to the surface for a reason – by listening to yourself intuitively, you can determine which people in your life suck your energy dry, and who actually makes you feel alive.

Your intuition speaks to you in many ways, so never ignore any “off” feelings you get, no matter how subtle.

2. “This situation seems dangerous.”

Have you ever seen the Final Destination movies, where one person out of a group of friends gets intense visions before something bad happens? These movies, whether intentionally or not, portray the uncanny role that intuition can play in perilous situations.

For instance, maybe on your weekly trip to the grocery store, someone meets your gaze and you instantly get an uneasy feeling about them. Let’s say they start to follow you discreetly around the store, and then you watch them go outside without buying anything. However, they don’t leave; instead, they wait outside the store, and you intuitively feel that by going to your car, you will put yourself in a potentially life-threatening situation. While this person may not have directly endangered you, your intuition commands you to not leave the store without telling the manager or calling the police first.

The fight-or-flight response in humans was designed to warn us of immediate danger, and move us to act on that feeling. While our gut instincts can have flaws, you should listen to them regardless – they might just save your life.

3. “I should help that person.”

Gut instincts don’t always indicate something negative. Since we all originate from the same source, we have direct ties to each other and can sense when someone needs help. We have the powerful ability to read other people’s energy by evaluating their facial expressions, body language, or just how we feel around that person. Have you ever noticed how everyone scrambles to offer whatever help they can after a natural or man-made disaster? This strong desire to assist our fellow humans comes prewired in our evolution as a species; after all, when humans lived off the land, they depended on one another for survival. Some of them gathered wood for shelter and fire, while others wanted to help find food for themselves and others. They helped one another not just out of necessity, but because of a deep understanding that humans need to feel cared for and protected.

Offer help even if the person in question doesn’t ask for it – nonverbal cues can offer much more insight than words in these types of situations.

4. “This comes naturally to me.”

Overthinking can often cause problems that didn’t even exist in the first place, especially in regard to your natural talents. Maybe you have spent weeks practicing your lines for a play, and have all the hand motions, inflections in your tone, and the whole thing down pat. Then, when you get on stage for your final practice, you suddenly forget everything you worked so hard practicing. Or, maybe you have become the star player on your baseball team, but your mind runs on overdrive and puts you under pressure, making you miss every ball pitched to you at home base.

People with extraordinary talents commonly choke when it’s time for them to perform, and all of it stems from letting their minds run haywire. They pay too much attention to their thoughts, rather than letting their instincts take over. If something comes naturally to you, distract your mind with something other than the task at hand, such as a song or memory that makes you happy, and allow your instincts to take over instead.

5. “This just feels right.”gut-instincts-quote

Whether it applies to changing careers, picking your next boyfriend or girlfriend, or deciding where to live, your intuition actually plays a bigger role than rational thinking in these decisions. When you make these life-altering choices, it mostly boils down to how you feel about them. Think about it: we all just want to feel good, so we add and subtract things from our life to align with that feeling. If your career earns you $100,000 a year but makes you miserable, would you stick with it rather than take your dream job that pays $40,000? Your gut would probably tell you to do what makes you happy and take the lower paying job rather than keep one that makes you feel dead inside.

When something feels right, a lightbulb goes off inside you and it doesn’t really require much cognitive ability – it comes easily to you. Listen to your intuition next time you make an important decision – it will help you choose the right path.

5 Reasons You Don’t Want To “Be Like Bill”

You are perfect, just as you are, so there’s really no reason to want to “Be Like Bill”, or anyone else for that matter. That desire to want to please others or to belong is not part of what makes you, you.

You are special, unique, and different. You are unlike anyone you have ever met. Moreover, you have your own style, your own preferences, your own beliefs, attitudes, emotions, thoughts, wisdom, skills and so much more. And no one else has exactly the same experiences in what makes you. So why would you want to Be Like Bill or anyone else?

Why Would You Want to Be Like Bill?

Be Like Bill is the most recent wave of meme generators; this one from Blobla features a stick figure who acts superior to others. Blobla asks you to put in your name and gender and generates a meme telling people in what ways you are superior to others. These popular memes have plastered the pages of social media and the over-abundance of them is more than just annoying; it can be hurtful.

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Wanting to be part of the Be Like Bill meme comes from multiple places in your psychology. There is the desire to be liked, the desire to be socially accepted, the desire to be part of the in-crowd, the desire to be on the cutting edge of new trends, the desire to display your superiority, or the desire to change others’ behavior based on your choices.

All of this is a psychological mashup of reasons for you to be other-focused, not self-focused. Have you ever heard the expression “You can’t pour from an empty cup?” You are the cup and what is in it. When you focus on others rather than on yourself, you are pouring from your own cup into theirs. If you empty your own cup, you have nothing left for yourself.

Self-love is one of the most authentic things that we can give ourselves and it has nothing to do with other people’s approval. Comparing ourselves with others is not healthy to our well-being. “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” – Max Ehrmann, Desiderata

People have called the Be Like Bill meme passive-aggressive, insensitive, smug, annoying, click-bait, and clutter that adds no value.

5 Reasons You Don’t Want to Be Like Bill (Or Anyone Else)

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1. Being Like Bill means being judgmental

Stick figure Bill is not only better than you are, he thinks he is able to pass judgment on you because you are not like him. He passes judgment on you without even knowing you. The Be Like Bill meme will never praise you for your behavior, he is always negative in his assessment of you.

The psychological theory behind this tendency to compare others to us is called The Theory of Downward Comparison. Researchers speculate that people who feel negative emotions can enhance their sense of well-being through comparison with a less-fortunate other. You can always find someone worse off than you are, right? So why not let ‘Be Like Bill’ help you find your less-than-you friends who their complaints on your Facebook page can identify? This sounds like very passive-aggressive behavior.

2. Being Like Bill means over-generalizing

Bill’s judgments are either black or white, there is no room for grey. Bill says “this is good” and “this is not good” rather than “sometimes this is good, but not always” or “I, personally prefer this over that.”

3. Being Like Bill means feeling superior over others

Stick figure Bill in the meme thinks he is better than you somehow. He does many things better than you, and he is not afraid to tell other people how much better he is than they are.

When someone tells you that they are better than you are in some way, it can prompt a variety of emotions; jealousy, anger, bitterness, resentment, frustration, sadness or depression. None of these things is a positive emotion that builds up your self-worth.

Your intrinsic value is greater than Bill’s because you embrace your differences rather than saying why your differences make you better than others.

4. Being Like Bill means being a separatist

The Be Like Bill meme brings up separatist issues for some people. He is assigning a value to others he perceives as less than himself. Therefore, if you are not like Bill, you are somehow less than. No one wants to be treated as less than someone else.

To treat others with less value than oneself is to be in the company of Hitler, misogynists, homophobes and apartheid supporters. Bill’s narrow worldview is perpetuating a culture of separatism. “Be like me or else be excluded” is what Bill seems to imply.

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5. Being Like Bill means limiting yourself

Bill, the stick figure meme, is only interested in people like him. You could choose to be like Bill, but then you limit your possibilities. Your own freedom to express yourself is unlimited. Why let Bill influence your actions? Why is Bill trying to control or limit you?

Do you know someone who needs to be less like “Bill”? Share this to help us spread the message of being your authentic self!

11 Life Changing Lessons To Learn From Jim Carrey

You might just think of Jim Carrey as a highly energetic, animated actor and comedian, but he can also teach us valuable life lessons through his own personal experiences. While he had many struggles early on in his life and career, he pushed through and rose to fame and success by never letting go of his dream.

We see Carrey on TV or in movies and easily laugh at his slapstick comedic routines and humor, but beyond that, he possesses a lot of wisdom about how to live the best life possible.

Here are 11 life-changing lessons to learn from Jim Carrey:

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1. Appreciate the little things.

“I wake up some mornings and sit and have my coffee and look out at my beautiful garden, and I go, ‘Remember how good this is. Because you can lose it.'”

2. Jim Carrey does not take life too seriously.

“My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it. And laugh.”

3. Never doubt your potential.

“Maybe other people will try to limit me but I don’t limit myself.”

“If you’ve got a talent, protect it.”

4. Take responsibility for your life.

“I really believe in the philosophy that you create your own universe. I’m just trying to create a good one for myself.”

5. Stay humble.

“I’m the first to admit this whole salary thing is getting out of control. In the final analysis, it’s still about the work.”

“I feel like I want to take care of everyone and I also feel this terrible guilt if I am unable to. And I have felt this way ever since all this success started.”

“Life is an ordeal, albeit an exciting one, but I wouldn’t trade it for the good old days of poverty and obscurity.”

6. Don’t forget about what really matters.

“I got a lot of support from my parents. That’s the one thing I always appreciated. They didn’t tell me I was being stupid; they told me I was being funny.”

“If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret.”

“Creative people don’t behave very well generally. If you’re looking for examples of good relationships in show business, you’re gonna be depressed real fast. I don’t have time for anything else right now but work and my daughter. She’s my first priority.”

7. Have a sense of humor.

“Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes.”

“Ya know what I do almost every day? I wash. Personal hygiene is part of the package with me.”

“Maybe there is no actual place called hell. Maybe hell is just having to listen to our grandparents breathe through their noses when they’re eating sandwiches.”

8. Jim Carrey lives life by his own rules.

“I practiced making faces in the mirror and it would drive my mother crazy. She used to scare me by saying that I was going to see the devil if I kept looking in the mirror. That fascinated me even more, of course.”

“You know, I live a monastic lifestyle. No, I do. I do live in extremes, basically. I go back and forth. Once every six months, I’ll have a day where I eat more chocolate than has ever been consumed by a human being.”

“I’m very serious about no alcohol, no drugs. Life is too beautiful.”

9. Jim Carrey knows that things aren’t always as they seem.

“I tend to stay up late, not because I’m partying but because it’s the only time of the day when I’m alone and don’t have to be performing.”

“That’s the trouble with being me. At this point, nobody gives a damn what my problem is. I could literally have a tumor on the side of my head and they’d be like, ‘Yeah, big deal. I’d eat a tumor every morning for the kinda money you’re pulling down.'”

“I think I could go away tomorrow. I’ve already accomplished something. It’s such a selfish business that sometimes I get sick of myself.”

“I’m so wrapped up in my work that it’s often impossible to consider other things in my life. My marriage ended in divorce because of this, my relationship with Holly has suffered by this.”

10. Jim Carrey is not afraid to change.

“I’ve arrived at the place if I’m not taking a career risk, I’m not happy. If I’m scared, then I know I’m being challenged.”

“I know this sounds strange, but as a kid, I was really shy. Painfully shy. The turning point was freshman year, when I was the biggest geek alive. No one, I mean no one, even talked to me.”

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11. Take risks, no matter how scary they seem.

“I don’t think human beings learn anything without desperation. Desperation is a necessary ingredient to learning anything or creating anything. Period. If you ain’t desperate at some point, you ain’t interesting.”

“It is better to risk starving to death than surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what’s left?”

“Life opens up opportunities to you, and you either take them or you stay afraid of taking them.”

5 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken

No doubt about it – this life will chew you up and spit you out from time to time. However, just because you go through struggles, does not mean you have to give up on life entirely. In fact, pushing through the pain will teach you valuable lessons, and show you that light always exists even in the darkest places. Feeling broken can make you feel like you have nowhere to turn, like you’ve hit rock bottom and you have no way out.

We’ve all been there, but don’t allow these feelings to take over your whole life. The pain won’t last forever, and on the other side of it, you’ll find more bliss than you could’ve ever imagined. We live in a world of duality, so of course we can’t feel whole and complete without knowing the despair and hopelessness of being broken.

Here are 5 things to remember when you feel broken:

“Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.” – Susan Gale

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1. Remember not to give up.

We all go through struggles in life – it’s inevitable. Think of how unsatisfying life would be without challenges, though. We would never grow and learn without going through hard times; we would simply walk around feeling stagnant and bored. Obstacles keep us on our toes, encourage us to change and continue to break through barriers, and not fall into a trap of comfort and complacency. Just because times seem tough now, does not mean they will remain this way for long. Just keep your eyes toward the sun, and you’ll eventually find that the shadows disappear behind you.

2. Remember to open your heart to change.

A lot of times, we complicate life by resisting change. However, change keeps us afloat, helps us grow, and ensures that we continue evolving and learning important lessons. No one said change feels comfortable, but if it did, would it really be worth it? If you haven’t noticed, the best things happen in life when we reach a crossroads, when life seems so dark and depressing that we can’t imagine it getting any better. Usually, when you’ve reached your limit and can’t imagine going on any longer, this exasperation and desperation actually shows you the right path to take. Nothing good in life comes easily, but it wouldn’t feel nearly as satisfying if it just fell into your lap.

3. Remember that you have a choice.

At any point in time, you have the power to control your life – no outside force decides what job you will take, where you will live, or what attitude you will have. Everything lies in your hands, so instead of fearing or denying this responsibility, embrace it. You don’t have to work at a job you hate, or live somewhere that doesn’t make your heart happy, or stay in a relationship just because it feels safe. The moment you notice yourself falling out of love with life, you need to step back and reevaluate what decisions you’ve made thus far.

Remember, feeling broken just means that we need to make better choices for ourselves, so give yourself the opportunity to do so. You deserve to feel happy, but sometimes, it takes some elbow grease and a total upheaval in life to get there.

4. Remember that pain doesn’t last forever.

Pain never goes on forever; if it did, we wouldn’t even know what happiness feels like. Just as we said before, life works in a realm of duality – we must feel sadness and despair to know joy, as frustrating as that might seem. Remember also that it’s okay to feel uncomfortable – instead of fighting these feelings, allow them to just pass through you. What you resist persists, so the longer you go to war with your innermost feelings, the longer they will linger. Embrace the pain, learn and grow from it, and thank it for teaching you valuable lessons. Pain can serve as a very valuable teacher if we accept it instead of condemning it and wishing it would leave us alone.

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5. Remember to focus on all the good in your life.

Oftentimes when we feel broken, we tend to just fixate on everything wrong in our lives instead of everything going right. Even if you can only feel thankful for getting out of bed this morning, extending gratitude toward life helps more goodness flow your way. If you focus your attention on everything going badly, guess what? You will only attract more of the same. Countless studies have linked gratitude with better relationships, improved health, a more optimistic attitude about life, and much more.

If you’d like to read more about things to keep in mind when you feel broken, read our related article here.

What Does Your Blood Type Reveal About Your Personality?

It pumps through your veins and arteries keeping every cell in your body alive, yet you rarely think about your blood. How often have you consider how it relates to your personality? Your blood type and personality may have more in common than you might think.

Much of our personality is determined by genetics. It makes sense that personality and blood type could be connected. Your blood type is also determined by your genetic heritage. In a cross-cultural study of blood antigens and personality traits, researchers found correlations between type and personality.

In another study of teenage boys and personality styles, blood type A was typically seen as more “tender-minded.” Meanwhile, types O, B, and AB came across as more “tough-minded.”

You may recall the book Eat Right for Your Type by James D’Adamo, which spoke to matching diet with your blood type. Donna Gates worked with the research of James D’Adamo for her book, The Body Ecology Diet. There are definite connections between blood type and health. For example, eight out of 10 children with autism have type A blood.

Japanese employers will ask the blood type of their job candidates because they feel strongly that personality is linked. In Japan, many people also consider this information when seeking out potential romantic partners. Marketers there use similar consideration for marketing specific products.

What Does Your Blood Type Reveal About Your Personality?

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Personality of Blood Type O

Famous “Type O” People: Al Capone, Gerald Ford, Mikhail Gorbachev, John Gotti, Crystal Kay, Queen Elizabeth II, John Lennon, Paul Newman, Elvis Presley, Ronald Reagan.

The O in type O could stand for outgoing because that is a typical personality trait. These people tend to be go-getters who set high standards for themselves and achieve them.

The type O personality is usually a leader, has excellent intuition and can manage stress better than other blood types. These personalities demonstrate confidence, but can come off as insensitive to others.

O’s are most romantically compatible with other O’s or AB’s.

Personality of Blood Type A

Famous “Type A” People: George H. W. Bush, Ayumi Hamasaki, O.J. Simpson, Britney Spears, Alan Alda, Adolf Hitler, Lyndon B. Johnson, Richard Nixon, Jet Li, Maki Nomiya, Rick James.

The most research on personality and blood types comes from Japan, where 74% of the population have type A. A’s tend to have a more sensitive constitution than other types. Stress can weaken their immunity. Unfortunately, they tend to handle stress poorly.

Those with blood type A generally demonstrate more anxiety and less trust than other blood types. These personalities tend to follow intellectual pursuits in fields such as science, math and research. Since they lean toward introversion, they work best independently. At the same time, they are also good at cooperating with others.

Blood type A personalities can be passionate, but require trust to be established before they can be intimate with someone. They tend to be perfectionists who demonstrate patience.

A’s are most compatible with other A’s or with the blended personality of AB.

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Personality of Blood Type B

Famous “Type B” People: Akira Kurosawa, Jack Nicholson, Luciano Pavarotti, Tom Selleck, Mia Farrow, Paul McCartney, Leonardo DiCaprio, Vince Young.

If you are a blood type B, your personality tends to be creative, introspective, empathetic, emotional and intelligent. At the same time, you can be self-focused and come across as selfish, but you tend to be the most caring of the blood types.

B’s generally balance the personalities attributed to both type O and type A. B’s are ambitious like O’s are, but they are also thoughtful like the A.

Health-wise, B’s are more likely to develop lupus, multiple sclerosis and chronic fatigue.

B’s are compatible with other B’s. They can also relate well to AB’s.

Personality of Blood Type AB

Famous “Type AB” People: John F. Kennedy, Marilyn Monroe, Mick Jagger, Thomas Edison, Bob Sapp, Miyavi, Jackie Chan, Ken Kitamura.

As you might imagine, people with a mixed type AB also have a mix of personality traits. AB types are trustworthy, but they can be both shy or outgoing depending on the situation.

AB’s can be charming, connected to their spirituality, relaxed, open to change and friendly. The AB blood type personality is very individualistic and prefers to be different from other people.

Romantically speaking, AB’s are compatible with any of the types, including other AB’s.

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This Relaxation Exercise Can Help You Fall Asleep In 60 Seconds

Are you feeling the daily stress that comes from a lack of sleep? If you cannot fall asleep at night, it turns out that you are not alone.

There is no doubt; we are a society of sleep-deprived citizens. In fact, according to a recent Gallup report, a whopping 41% of Americans aren’t getting the recommended seven to eight hours of sleep per night.

By now you’ve surely heard that proper sleep affects all aspects of our life including mood, decision-making, productivity and even our weight. Lack of sleep can also affect your physical well-being. Last year, a study was published showing that sleeping less than six hours per night for just one week resulted in changes in 700 genes in the human body.

And while the researchers don’t quite understand the full ramifications of these changes, they have been able to determine that there is an impact on our immune system, stress response and an increase in inflammation.

One contributing factor to our lack of sleep is actually finding effective ways on how to fall asleep. Our over-scheduled, over-worked and over-burdened lives have us hitting the sheets with a lot on our minds. All of the chatter running through our heads has us lying awake in bed wondering why sleep eludes us.

It’s can be difficult to clear the clutter from our minds allowing sleep to come, but according to Dr. Andrew Weil, it can be as easy as breathing. Dr. Weil says that a relaxing breathing exercise can help calm the mind in preparation for sleep. He recommends the 4-7-8 breathing technique as a natural tranquilizer for your body.

How The 4-7-8 Breathing Technique Teaches You How To Fall Asleep

  1. Make sure your posture is such that you are not restricting your ability for deep breathing.
  2. Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth behind your front teeth. Try to keep it there through the entire breathing sequence, even during the exhale.
  3. Begin by exhaling completely.
  4. Inhale through your nose to a count of four.
  5. Hold your breath for a count of seven.
  6. Exhale through your mouth to a count of eight.
  7. Finally, complete the sequence three more times.

This breathing technique may cause you to feel light-headed at first but becomes a powerful sleep and relaxation aid with practice. It is not only useful at bedtime but is appropriate to use during times of stress and anxiety throughout the day.

So why is this breathing technique a natural tranquilizer? The slowing of your breath, filling your body with oxygen, and forcing you to focus on your breath at the moment allows your body to relax enough to welcome sleep. Doing so reduces the stress and anxiety we often feel when we can’t fall asleep.

When we start to worry about what the lack of sleep will do to our day, our breathing goes into panic mode and becomes more shallow. This in turn elevates the heart rate that will move us further away from the sleep we crave. So, breathe it out to get back on track.

Related article: 10 Rituals to Guarantee a Good Night’s Sleep

While many claim that this breathing technique will help you fall asleep quickly, there are other things you can do to help you prepare for and honor your sleep. It is all about setting the expectation by giving your body notice that sleep is coming so it can physically prepare for it.

More Tips on How to Fall Asleep Faster

  • Create a sleep only environment. When you keep work, television, and other digital devices out of the bedroom, you are sending a signal to your body that your day is done.
  • Turn down the thermostat. In several sleep studies, it has been shown that people sleep better when their bedroom is on the cooler side.
  • Write it down. Spend a few minutes before slipping under the covers to write down anything that is lingering in your mind. Writing it down sends the message to the brain that it is okay to let those thoughts go because they are taken care of.
  • Quiet your space. Eliminate annoying noises from your room. And if you can’t get rid of your snoring partner, try noise-reducing earplugs.
  • Create a routine. Do you remember hating having a bedtime routine as a kid? Well, it seems as if our parents knew what they were doing. Going to bed at the same time every night and waking up naturally before your alarm every morning is the best way to honor your sleep. Your body responds well to routine, so give it one.

At the end of the day, there is nothing our body needs more than sleep to reenergize us so we can live our best life every day. We owe it to ourselves to get proper rest and, unfortunately, that doesn’t often happen on its own.

Do yourself a favor and create an environment where sleep is inviting and then use your breath to bring yourself back into the moment and calm your mind. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. So get to it, a good night’s sleep awaits – sweet dreams!

9 Things Sigmund Freud Taught Us About Our Thoughts

We’ve all heard of Freud’s name. Some of us may have heard about his unorthodox theories on psychology. Indeed, to say that Sigmund Freud is a polarizing figure in his chosen profession is an understatement – psychologists and psychiatrists are either a disciple of Freud’s theories on the mind or an adamant antagonist. In fact, two legendary psychologists who were students of Freud – Carl Jung and Alfred Adler – recognized this disassociation and eventually discovered their own theories.

Sigmund Freud is the first name that comes to the mind of many when they think of psychology. Adore him or abhor him as they may, Freud left a distinctly powerful legacy in the field of psychology, especially in the realm of psychoanalysis – the psychotherapeutic theory in which he founded and practiced.

The basic tenants of psychoanalysis provide the foundation Freud used to iterate on a variety of topics, including: bisexuality/homosexuality, hypnosis, religion, seduction, fear and a host of others. Psychoanalytic theory can be summarized using five basic tenants:

  1. Personal development comes from  oft-forgotten events that took place in early childhood, rather than inherent traits (genetics).
  2. The unconscious mind – automatic, non-introspective thoughts – is the root of a person’s attitudes, experiences, mannerisms and thoughts.
  3. A person’s motivations and drives can only be uncovered through bypassing psychological resistance in the form of defense mechanisms.
  4. Mental and emotional ailments – anxiety, depression, neurosis, etc. – are conflicts between the conscious and the unconscious mind and repression of thoughts.
  5. The contents of the unconscious mind are freed via transfer to the conscious by direct, therapeutic guidance.

Using these tenants as a guideline, it equips us to better understand Freud’s thoughts on these 9 fascinating lessons of the mind!

Here are 10 things Sigmund Freud taught us about our thoughts:

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What progress we are making. In the Middle Ages they would have burned me. Now they are content with burning my books. – Sigmund Freud

1. Sigmund Freud Formed The “Plaiting and Weaving” Theory

There’s no getting around this: Freud was known for his misogynistic concepts. His patronizing theories on women are among his most disagreeable works.

According to Freud, women were naturally inferior simply because they were born female. Due to their “genital deficiency” (not having a penis), lack of aggression and strongly passive nature, Freud was adamant in his theory that women would contribute little to the advancement of civilization. Oh, but they could still occupy themselves by plaiting and weaving.

Needless to say, this theory is effectively nullified given women’s exceptional accomplishments and contributions today.

2. Primal Horde Theory and God

Freud’s theories on God are quite interesting. According to the Jewish “father of psychoanalysis,” the Judeo-Christian views on God stem from the primitive psychological states of man.

“Primal horde” is Freudian terminology, and it refers to the repressed mental state that man lived in during the Stone Age. More specifically, that our distant ancestors lived in a group (“horde”) that was overseen by an Alpha Male, who used tyranny and aggression to maintain control – including keeping the company of women to himself. This led to sexual and aggressive urges that manifested into a state of obedience and dependence.

This pitiable state led to man seeking solace in an omnipotent and benevolent power. Humankind eventually called this power, “God.”

3. Seduction Theory

To account for the state of neurosis and hysteria in his female patients, Freud developed another unpopular theory: the origins of neurosis and hysteria have a direct link with repressed memories of early childhood sexual abuse.

In itself, the theory does not seem outrageous, but it’s Freud’s interpretation (as usual) that sparked condemnation. In Freud’s view, these memories of sexual abuse are manifestations of imaginary fantasies.

4. Sigmund Freud BelieveinInnate Bi-sexuality

Freud held the belief that inherent traits could be defined as masculine or feminine. He associated dominance and conviction with masculinity; he labeled submission and passivity as feminine traits.

Though these beliefs on intrinsic traits aren’t too polarizing, Freud’s extrapolation on these traits is. Freud faced vehement opposition. In fact, many of his colleagues ostracized him.

What got them all upset? Well, Freud concluded that since we all inherit feminine and masculine traits, we’re all inherently bi-sexual. That triggered many academics of the era.

5. Interpretation of a “Death Wish”

Having established his “pleasure principle” theory – a human being’s desire for life, health and success – Freud faced a conundrum when counseling traumatized soldiers from World War I. Despite having been involved in terrorizing and deadly battles, many troubled soldiers insisted on getting back into the fight. Of course, this participation brought about the strong possibility of death.

To accommodate this direct opposition to his “pleasure principle theory,” Freud developed the theory of a “death drive.” This theory states that we all unconsciously have a death wish that directly opposes our desire for pleasure.

6. Hypnosis and Love

Earlier in his career, Freud designated considerable amounts of time studying the effects of hypnotism. After a certain period, Freud made the conclusion that individuals range in their susceptibility to the practice of hypnosis.

He discovered a supposed link between the reciprocation of love and a patient’s ability to undergo hypnosis. Patients that loved another to the extent of idolization were more willing to surrender their will, which hypnotism accomplishes to a certain extent. As such, these patients were more easily prone to hypnotism.

7. Cathartic Relief

Catharsis is the tempering of emotions achieved through venting. With the advice of his colleague, Freud began to effectively use catharsis in his practice. Freud came to the conclusion that catharsis is effective only in the immediate short-term, but did not achieve his primary objective: relieving the unconscious mind of suppressed desires.

At least we know that screaming loudly in the car after a stressful day will help for a bit.

8. Acting Our Opposite

Freud postulated that emotions and impulses producing anxiety are overcome by hypertrophy (exaggeration) of its opposite. In other words, if we have feelings of hate towards another person, it often results in anxious feelings. These anxious feelings place pressure on the Ego, which serves to dissipate conflict. As a result, the Ego will facilitate feelings of love and acceptance in order to avoid the anxiety that hating the other person causes. Scientists call this theory, “Reaction Formation.”

Other examples of Reaction Formation:

– An alcoholic expressing the virtues of sobriety

– A workaholic parent that attempts to “buy love” by spoiling their kids

– A person with racist views against a certain group, but personally befriends a person of that group

9. Relief Through Laughter

To many of us, laughter provides a much-needed relief. Freud explains laughter’s effect on our psyche by tying it to suppressed desires, such as sexual aggression. In effect, when one is laughing they’re releasing pent-up, unconscious urges.

Well, at least we can all agree with Freud that laughter is a relief…not altogether certain about the “suppressed desires” aspect, though. Not surprisingly, his peers didn’t think much of this theory either.

15 Natural Remedies That Can Replace Painkillers

When you are in pain, you reach for anything that will help it to go away. But what if your usual over-the-counter painkillers are less safe than a natural remedy that you could easily store in your kitchen?

Aspirin, acetaminophin, ibuprofin and naproxen sodium all go by other brand names on the drug store shelves. All of these have information on their warning labels about possible serious side effects and interactions with other medications.

Risks associated with these painkillers are higher for the very young or old. Other risks of over-the-counter medications exist for those who have pre-existing medical conditions like diabetes, asthma or immune system problems.

Studies of nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs show significant problems with major upper gastrointestinal bleeding as the most important adverse effect of aspirin and other over-the-counter painkillers. The concern over stomach bleeding is especially true of these painkillers in higher doses.

Other studies show that for people with a risk of cardiovascular disease, ibuprofen may add an increased risk of thrombotic and congestive heart failure events. Ibuprofen had a risk that was similar to that of prescription painkillers, especially when combined with aspirin.

Consult with your medical provider if you have concerns about interactions with natural painkillers. It is also wise to discuss your plan to seek natural pain remedies and ask if there are any concerns associated with your preferred natural solution.

15 Natural Remedies That Can Replace Painkillers

Apple Cider Vinegar

ACV, as it’s known in herbal remedy shorthand, can help to relieve arthritis and minor muscle pain. It is also believed that ACV helps improve joint mobility in older adults. Try 2 teaspoons of ACV in a glass of water daily to help with these pains.

Lavender essential oil

Some hospitals have found that using lavender essential oil for aromatherapy has helped to keep patients feeling calm before and after surgical procedures. In addition to that, the scent of lavender has been shown to reduce the amount of painkillers needed for women experiencing the intense labor pains childbirth.

Cloves

Clove essential oil can help oral health and can also relieve the pain of a toothache. If you don’t have any clove oil handy, you can also use raw whole cloves to chew on. Cloves contain eugenol which is a natural anesthetic.

Turmeric

Turmeric has excellent potential to be a painkiller that is as effective as aspirin and other over the counter medications. This natural painkiller can be used to relieve arthritic pain. You can read more about turmeric and other plant remedies that are better than pills here.

Cranberry juice

Most women who have experienced a bladder infection know that it comes with some intense pain and discomfort. Flushing your system with cranberry juice can help clear up a minor bladder infection.

Peppermint

As a painkiller, peppermint tea can help with a sore throat. Peppermint is also good for the discomfort of an upset stomach, headache and minor muscle pain. It is believed that the menthol in peppermint prevents nerves from responding to painful stimuli.

Raw honey

Honey helps coat a sore throat in your hot tea. Raw honey also has excellent anti-inflammation properties. The antioxidants in honey help the body’s natural healing process. Honey can be applied to minor cuts and burns externally.

Tart cherry

The painkillers in tart cherry and raspberries come from the flavonoids and anthrocyanins found in these fruits. It is believed that the natural anti-inflammatory properties of tart cherry juice can help reverse oxidative damage that can happen with strenuous exercise, like that from long distance running.

Arnica

Arnica gel is a topical painkiller that can help with osteoarthritis. In one study, arnica was given both as oral tablets and an ointment for patients who were recovering from carpal tunnel surgery. The patients who were given arnica had significantly less pain after 2 weeks. Arnica is also used for reducing bruising and swelling after minor injuries.

Ginger

In a study of patients with osteoarthritis of the knee, those who were given ginger extract had a 63% reduction in knee pain. Ginger is also traditionally used to help cure the discomfort of an upset stomach. Ginger can also help relieve menstrual pain.

Omega 3

Omega-3 fatty acids can be as effective as ibuprofen in reducing arthritis pain, but with the added benefit of having less side effects and more health benefits.

Olive oil

As a painkiller, olive oil is a natural anti-inflammatory ingredient.

Ginseng

Ginseng has both painkilling and anti-inflammatory properties that are as effective as ibuprofen. This root also has potential as a solution for those who suffer from rheumatoid arthritis.

Chinese skullcap

As a painkiller, Chinese skullcap has been used to treat infections, inflammation and headaches. It may also have antifungal and antiviral effects in addition to reducing pain.

Astaxanthin

This carotenoid extract of algae has anti-inflammatory properties that help reduces arthritis pain. It is also a powerful antioxidant.

This Armpit Detox Helps Prevent Breast Cancer

Breast cancer can develop close to the armpit area, which raises concerns about commercial skin products for this delicate body part. However, educating yourself about the ingredients in these products can help you avoid them on your next shopping trip. Luckily, we have many natural deodorants, sunscreens, and other products nowadays.

Although safety regulations exist for skincare and hygiene products, some creams, lotions, and deodorants fall through the cracks. For example, an independent testing lab detected the carcinogen benzene in almost 80 sunscreens in 2021. The lab contacted the FDA after making the finding, suggesting they immediately recall the products. Long-term exposure to benzene can lead to blood cancers such as leukemia.

However, benzene isn’t the only chemical known to cause cancers. Research shows that deodorants made with aluminum can cause levels of the female hormone estrogen to increase, potentially leading to cancer. Also, parabens – an artificial preservative used in cosmetic and body care products – can increase the risk of breast cancer. Studies show these chemicals mimic estrogen activity in the body and could promote cancer cell growth.

So, applying products containing estrogen-enhancing chemicals to sensitive areas such as armpits provides a direct pathway to estrogen receptors. In some cases, it can lead to cancer when these harmful chemicals make their way under the skin. Cancer can occur in almost every organ and tissue in the human body. Genetic mutations or cellular damage cause cells to multiply abnormally in tissues, forming tumors.

Breast Cancer Statistics

breast cancer cell

According to the American Cancer Society, approximately 1 in 8 women and 1 in 833 men will get breast cancer within their lifetimes. Breast cancer is the second most commonly diagnosed cancer among American women after skin cancer.

Having a family history of breast cancer significantly increases the risk of being diagnosed with the disease. In fact, a women’s risk nearly doubles if a first-degree relative (mother, sister, or daughter) gets diagnosed with breast cancer.

However, about 85% of women with a diagnosis have no close relatives with breast cancer. These cases occur due to other factors such as genetic mutations, aging, or environmental conditions rather than heritability.

Researchers have extensively studied ways to prevent breast cancer by identifying modifiable risk factors. Armed with this knowledge, we can reduce our breast cancer risk by removing the environmental factors linked to the disease.

Synthetic Hormones Associated With Breast Cancer

Our natural hormones do wonders for our bodies. Unfortunately, synthetic hormone-like chemicals come in many body care and hygiene products. These compounds can lead to poor health and could lead to an increased risk of breast and other cancers.

Numerous synthetic chemicals (called xenoestrogens) act like estrogen in our bodies. Xenoestrogens do not biodegrade and get stored in our fat cells. Estrogenic chemicals often found in cosmetic products include the following:

  • 4-Methylbenzylidene camphor (4-MBC) (found in sunscreen)
  • Erythrosine / FD&C Red No. 3 (red color)
  • Phenosulfothiazine (red color)
  • Parabens
  • Phthalate
  • Aluminum

Parabens are preservatives found in makeup, moisturizers, hair care products, and shaving creams. Companies may disguise this cancer-causing chemical in other variations on cosmetic labels, including methylparaben, propylparaben, ethylparaben, and butylparaben.

A Study Made a Breakthrough Discovery

One study discovered that parabens occurred in the breast tissue of 99% of women who had cancer. While manufacturers no longer use parabens in deodorants, researchers still found them in the breast tissue of women who did not use deodorant. Clearly, this warrants further research to confirm the link between parabens and breast cancer. The safest bet is to avoid using underarm products or other cosmetics that contain parabens.

The chemical additive phthalates may be present in cosmetic products such as nail polish and spray products to maintain color and reduce brittleness. However, studies show that the chemical disrupts the balance of other hormones that interact with estrogen, including testosterone. In some cases, this could increase the risk of developing breast cancer.

Aluminum, also appearing on labels as aluminum ammonium sulfate, aluminum chlorohydrate, and aluminum zirconium may also increase estrogen unnaturally. Absorption of aluminum salts from deodorant inconclusively links to cancer.

One study of 437 women showed that the frequency of deodorant use might contribute to breast cancer. However, a second study showed little correlation between deodorant and cancer. Again, you might decide that it pays to play it safe with deodorant by avoiding these additives altogether.

Natural Armpit Detox to Help Prevent Breast Cancer

  • Use an organic soap to clean your armpit area and remove unwanted chemicals. Discard any suspect products.
  • Exercise or use a sauna to activate your sweat glands. Sweating does an excellent job at removing toxins from our bodies. Clean your skin again to remove any surface toxins.
  • Drink water. After sweating, you need to hydrate your body. The extra water will also help your kidneys to keep flushing and detoxifying your body.
  • Eat your greens. Multiple studies have shown that Broccoli, cabbage, kale, Brussels sprouts, and other cruciferous veggies have high levels of indole-3-carbinol (I3C). This compound can help your body clear out excess estrogens.
  • Avoid chemical additives. Read labels or use the Environmental Working Group’s (EWG) Skin Deep app, which allows you to scan barcodes of various products. The app assigns a rating from 0 to 10 (low to serious concern) for the risk factor associated with the product. They rate products based on their cancer-causing ingredients, allergy-producing ingredients, and risk factors for reproductive harm.
  • Make homemade deodorant. Search for natural alternative recipes for the products that you’ve eliminated. Try a blend of coconut oil, bentonite clay, and your favorite essential oils to create a homemade lotion-like deodorant. Or, make a spray solution with natural salt, witch hazel, and a high-quality essential oil for natural fragrance.

In addition to these natural remedies, the CDC recommends the following to reduce breast cancer risk:

  • Maintain a healthy weight.
  • Reduce or avoid alcoholic beverages.
  • If you currently take or are considering hormone replacement therapy or birth control, ask your doctor about the risks.
  • When possible, breastfeed your children.
  • If you have a family history of breast cancer, talk to your doctor about other ways to lower your risk.

breast cancer cell

Final Thoughts on Preventing Breast Cancer

While millions of women get diagnosed with breast cancer each year, recently, prevention methods and treatments have improved. Early detection through screening may have contributed to the decline in deaths from breast cancer since 2013. In addition, maintaining healthy body weight and remaining physically active can reduce cancer risk. Avoiding synthetic chemicals in products such as deodorants can potentially prevent breast cancer.

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