For a hopeless romantic, life is love and love is life. Theirs is a world of love at first sight, soul mates, destiny, chivalry, true love, happily-ever-after — and finding “The One.” They’re not just looking for love; they’re on a noble quest for it. Friends and family may dismiss their lovestruck notions as signs of a hopeless romantic: idealistic, unrealistic and irrational, with perceptions skewed by rose-colored glasses.
A romantic is incompatible with a world of one-night stands, phone sex, booty calls, casual dating and sexting. They want the courtship, hand-holding, walks in the rain, candlelit dinners, love letters and roses. Does this mean that they’re unsuitable for a relationship? Not at all. In fact their unwavering pursuit of love, and the conviction that they’ll find it, actually makes them a very hopeful romantic.
Here’s why a hopeless romantic actually makes the best partner:
SHE’S EASY TO PLEASE
This doesn’t mean that she’s pushover. It means that she will notice — and appreciate — the thoughtful little things that you do for her. When you hold a door for her, when you notice that she’s wearing a new perfume, and even when you rinse your beard shavings down the drain, she’ll be touched that you’re being chivalrous. It’s easy to notice big things. Someone who observes the small, special things that come from the heart is equally special.
THE DATES ARE AMAZING
She has fantasized, possibly for years, about a date where she could finally express her romantic visions. Whether the two of you travel to a resort in Fiji or hit the local McDonald’s, the experience with be phenomenal. After all, romance is what she lives for. You get to benefit from it.
SHE WILL LOVE YOU MORE DEEPLY THAN ANYONE HAS
When you’re in a relationship with a hopeless romantic, you will be loved more passionately than you ever have been loved. A romantic may have had their heart shattered countless times, but their faith in love is so unwavering that they’ll love you utterly, totally and completely. Their idealism and willingness to commit to you in the face of all of that adversity is a rarity.
Remember that this is someone who has seen every rom-com since the day Meg Ryan was born. Displaying signs of a hopeless romantic, she knows every possible outcome of every possible romantic situation with every possible personality type.
Are you burned out after a stressful meeting at work? She’ll understand why you want to sit alone on the patio with a cup of coffee. Are you obsessing over the guy who gave you the finger in traffic? She’ll know that you have to flee to the bedroom and distract yourself with mindless TV. Being a romantic means she wants what’s best for you and that includes giving you space.
SHE’S GREAT IN BED
She wants to be the best lover you’ve ever had. She believes that lovemaking is the most basic aspect of romance, and since romance is her raison d’être, sex with her is incredibly passionate. Her sexual fantasies are finally — finally! — being given waves of expression. Towering waves. They’ll engulf you, too.
SHE EXPRESSES AFFECTION IN SMALL, TENDER WAYS
She deeply believes in intoxicatingly dramatic displays of affection, and she also appreciates the power of small tender gestures such as:
• Kissing you hello and goodbye on your cheek
• Holding your hand
• Cuddling you
• Gazing tenderly into your eyes
• NOT checking Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social media sites while the two of you are on a date. The same goes for email and voice mail.
A ROMANTIC WILL HELP YOU BE A BETTER PERSON
You may not recognize your worth, but the romantic wholeheartedly does. She’ll encourage you to recognize your significance and potential. Through the eyes of a romantic, these are heroic pursuits and she’ll cheer you on as you chase them.
THE HOPELESS ROMANTIC IS STRONG
It takes a special kind of strength to be a romantic in a world that, largely, is not. She goes through much of life feeling like an outcast, yet retaining the courage of her convictions. She is incredibly resilient, picking herself up time and time and time again after failed relationships, and moving forward with unflagging optimism that she’ll find love. Romantics aren’t afraid to be vulnerable, openly expressing their emotions. Do not mistake a hopeless romantic for a meek, mousy weakling. They’ll bring rock-solid strength, fearlessness and invincibility to your relationship.
A romantic sees true love in all aspects of life. The way an autumn leaf drifts to the ground. The way the air smells right before a storm. The way an elderly couple gaze fondly into each other’s eyes. The way her lips feel when they ever-so-lightly brush yours.
Hopeless romantics can be counted on to make the best partners in a relationship. Contrary to their label, they are not hopeless at all. They simply believe in true love. They love love so much that you’ll love it, too.