Not everyone is comfortable opening up about their affections and feelings. Men have faced social conditioning to hide their feelings, so it can sometimes be tough to tell if a man is into you. Additionally, men show love differently than women, demonstrating it in action instead of speaking the words.
Luckily, body language and nonverbal communication can often speak louder than any words can! Here are 20 ways men show love without saying it.
20 Ways Men Show Love Through Actions
1 – Being Close Physically
Men often express themselves physically. Someone who is always close to you is taking comfort in the knowledge that you are with him.
Men also like the feeling of protectiveness that comes from being close to you. He might even be sending a subconscious message to the world: She’s with me, so back off! He may:
- Have his arm around you regularly
- Hold your hand
- Hug you at random times
- Always want to cuddle you
- Walk or sit very close to you
- “Accidentally” touch you
2 – Providing Gifts Of Affection
People have been giving gifts as a method of showing their affection for centuries. It’s not surprising, then, that men continue to do so today to make the people they love happy!
Gifts don’t have to be materialistic or expensive – in fact, they don’t need to cost any money at all! Here are some examples of gifts a man may give you when he loves you:
- Love letters or love notes
- Little trinkets that he thought you would like
- Gifts for online games that you play
- His time and effort
3 – Eagerly Listening To You
It’s not unusual to hear complaints that men don’t listen. Of course, this isn’t factually true, to begin with, but someone’s rapt attention is always a sign of affection!
If a man very eagerly and happily listens to you, even about very small details or through long rants, he’s definitely showing you some love! He values your words and wants to be there for you – and to pick up new information about you, too!
4 – Smiling After Kissing You
Kissing is romantic and feels great thanks to the rushing release of hormones that comes with it – but those boosts to positive thinking are even more obvious when the people who are kissing are really into each other!
A man who can’t stop smiling after a kiss – even from a little peck on the cheek! – is feeling giddy because of his love for you. This is especially true from men you’ve just started to date, but also for men you’ve been dating for a while. No one can resist the charm of a kiss from the person they love!
5 – Remembering Details About You
A man who remembers as much as he can about you is likely motivated by more than just platonic emotions. He may remember:
- Your favorite things
- Random little details about you
- Details of your conversations or dates
- What you were wearing on certain days
Even with people you platonically like, you’ll probably forget a couple of things about them as time passes – and we’re not saying a man in love has perfect memory! But he will make an effort to remember things about you, even when they don’t seem important or memorable to you!
6 – Shifting Posture
Watch what happens when you enter a room with this man in it. When he sees you, does his posture change ever so slightly? He might:
- Straighten up
- Puff out his chest
- Square his shoulders
- Seem more alert
- Seem more lively
If a man behaves this way around you, you’ve made him perk up because he’s happy to see you! He’s also posturing in a subconscious effort to impress you – he wants you to think well of him.
7 – Taking An Interest In Your Interests
Each individual is different and unique, with their own set of interests, likes, and dislikes. This means that there’s a very good chance that the man in your life won’t really like the same things you like!
But if this man loves you, then he’ll show it by taking an interest in your interests, even if he doesn’t understand them. He’ll:
- Be supportive of your interests
- Ask questions about your interests
- Agree to participate in some way in something involving your interests
- Learn about your interests
- Listen to you rave about your interests
8 – Including You In Future Plans
Men who love you will talk to you about their futures and those futures will always have you involved. He will even take your own plans into account so you can line your goals up and be together as you work towards them!
9 – Never Staying Angry
Your relationship with a man is not going to be conflict-free. There will be times when you fight and disagree, or get mad at each other. But a man who loves you can’t stay angry at you for too long. He’ll eventually stop being angry and will want to talk it out so your relationship can be positive again.
Here’s a little disclaimer: if you mistreat or do harmful things to a man, of course, he’s going to stay angry at you; if you’re the person fully at fault for something significantly worse, it’s your job to apologize and earn back his trust!
10 – Giving You Space
A man who loves you, no matter how clingy he usually is, will respect your need for space. He will understand that you are a unique, special individual who needs their own time – just like he needs his! He won’t be controlling or possessive, which is really bare minimum!
A lot of romantic ideology forces the idea that an ideal couple needs to be together forever in a physical sense; any time spent apart should feel “intolerable” and ruin your positive thinking. It doesn’t take much to figure out that this isn’t a healthy mindset! So embrace the space and don’t forget to be your own person!
11 – Chivalry
They say chivalry is dead, but they haven’t been looking for it very hard, evidently! A man who acts like a gentleman around you is doing a number of things:
- Caring for you
- Showing off his strong side
- Trying to impress you and show that he can be a good partner
Chivalrous acts include:
- Walking you to the door
- Cooking for you
- Holding open doors or pulling out chairs for you
- Checking to make sure you got home safe
- Sharing a coat or umbrella with you
12 – Eye Contact
Eye contact is a very intimate form of affection for something that’s non-physical! It’s a way to build a bond and hold your attention while sharing a moment with you. It can also be a sign that he can’t stop looking at you, or it may be an intentional attempt at seduction!
13 – Introducing You To Friends
If his friends know about you and have heard positive things about you, that can only mean one thing: he talks about you to them, and men rarely do that unless they’re in love!
A man who introduces you to his friends is saying that he thinks you’ll be a part of his life for a long time, so he wants his friends to know about you. He also wants to show you off to them!
14 – Little Touches
Small little touches often indicate love and affection. It shows that a man constantly wants to touch you, even in little ways. That physical contact can be electric! He might:
- Kiss the back of your neck as he walks by you
- Squeeze your hand or knee under the table
- Brush up against your shoulder “accidentally” as you walk together
15 – Meeting Your Needs
A man who loves you will also care for you delicately. He will make sure that your basic needs are met and will even go above and beyond to care for other needs. He might:
- Help you when you need help
- Look after you when you’re ill
- Give you his jacket when you’re cold
- Whittle down your to-do list
- Pamper you
- Anticipate your possible needs
- Strive to do nice things for you to make you happy
16 – Protecting You
Men often feel the need to protect those they love. Even if you think his protectiveness is a little annoying, as long as it’s not to a point of possessive or controlling behavior, know that this is a sign of his love! He may:
- Walk on the side of the road when you stroll down streets
- Provide backup support when you are telling someone off
- Step in when people are potentially harassing you
17 – Smiling A Lot Around You
When a man is in love with you, he is happy to be around you. He often won’t be able to control those emotions of his and will wind up grinning from ear to ear whenever you meet! So if he can’t stop smiling when you’re with him, it may be a sign of his love.
18 – Mirroring
Mirroring is a common part of nonverbal communication. It lives in our body language and when done can make others like us more, or make us more favorable towards others. It’s powerful stuff when used in a positive way!
A man who loves you will be watching you a lot, and as a result, their bodies will naturally mirror or copy your actions due to how in tune they are to you. If he moves his arm after you do, he’s mirroring, and he’s into you.
19 – Becoming Flustered
When you have feelings for someone, you can get nervous or anxious around them. If a usually confident guy is suddenly flustered when you come around, it’s likely because he is struggling to keep “cool” around you. He might:
- Blush a lot
- Mess with his hair
- Have trouble meeting your eyes
- Bite his lip
- Fidget or shift
20 – Just Liking Spending Time With You
A man who loves you simply wants to be around you, and it doesn’t matter what you’re doing together. As long as you’re with him, it’s a good time for him. This means that he’ll find any excuse to spend time with you! He may:
- Accompany you on your grocery shopping trips
- Head out with you when you go shopping
- Come over just to chill
- Plan dates all the time, or just ask you to hang out
- Enjoy doing domestic things with you, to just share your everyday lives
Final Thoughts On Some Ways Men Show Love, Without Saying It
Love is a complicated thing, but thankfully, the ways that we express love aren’t all too complex. Men show love through these 20 signs. So it’s a huge indicator of his true feelings for you. Do with that information what you will!