Cheaters are a dime a dozne these days. But you have to wonder. Why do people, in an otherwise good relationship, cheat?
This is a complex question that would demand hours upon hours of research and subsequent pontification. Suffice to say that being cheated on is one of the worst things you could ever experience in a relationship.
Perhaps a more beneficial angle – particularly those with a partner who is a susceptible cheat – is to elaborate a bit about the signs of cheating. It is worth noting that not every individual who expresses these behaviors will cheat, or has cheated. Relatedly, many individuals cheat who provide no apparent, outward reason to suspect infidelity.
As such, it is necessary to take some deliberate precautions before confronting someone with “evidence” of unfaithfulness. There’s quite a bit riding on the line to be impulsive, after all.
That said, here are 5 signs of a cheater you should (probably) not ignore:
They are always coming home late
Your partner used to be a time hawk, always ragging you about needing to be (someplace) at (specific time), only to suddenly disavow his/her meticulous time ownership in favor of arriving home late, it may be a sign of cheating.
Quite simply, it makes little sense for someone involved in a relationship to ignore obvious changes to how they manage time. Those that do are often willing and able to provide an honest explanation to exactly why such changes are taking place… except for a potential cheater, that is.
They safeguard their phone
Nobody likes having their phone tampered with. In a serious relationship or marriage, however, it is not unusual to play with your partners phone out of habit. If your partner suddenly and uncharacteristically objects to this by snagging their phone out of your hands, it may be worthwhile to have a constructive dialogue.
Unexplained charges or lines of credit
It is common for those in a serious relationship to share financial information with each other – a “My money is your money” kind of deal. So, for your partner to inexplicably have spontaneous charges to their credit or debit cards makes little sense. Perhaps more deserving of scrutiny is a newly-opened line of credit that was neither discussed with, nor approved by, their relationship partner.
4.They “need privacy”
Make no mistake: privacy is absolutely essential to the well-being of every relationship. However, constantly insisting upon ‘privacy’ in excess is a potential misnomer when need to said ‘privacy’ was never a prior issue until recently.