10 Red Flags Reveal That Someone is Antisocial

10 Red Flags Reveal That Someone is Antisocial


The word antisocial gets thrown around a lot today. When you use it to describe a co-worker or someone at school, you usually mean they lack good social skills or don’t know how to relate to other people. But antisocial behavior is something totally different. This type of behavior involves bullying and aggressiveness.  So, how do you know someone is antisocial? Here are 10 red flags that indicate someone is truly antisocial.

What’s the difference between unsocial and antisocial?

It’s important to understand the meaning of the word when you’re using it. For example, there is a lot of confusion about the word “antisocial”.  If a person avoids being around other people or is awkward in social settings, they may be labeled as “ antisocial” but a  better word to describe their behavior is “unsocial.” This is because unsocial and antisocial aren’t synonymous. When someone displays antisocial behavior, it has a totally different meaning. Here is the meaning of the words: unsocial and antisocial.

antisocialUnsocial behavior:

This means that a person struggles with social anxieties and a fear of not being liked by others. They may have been called names or worry they’ll say or do the wrong thing when they’re around people.

Antisocial behavior:

People who display antisocial behavior may display either public antisocial behavior being openly aggressive behavior or private antisocial behavior where they show their aggression in acting out against the rules or the law.  Characteristics of antisocial behavior include:

  • Bullying
  • Hitting
  • Yelling
  • Stealing
  • Lying
  • Arson
  • Not cooperating with rules
  • Drug abuse
  • Alcohol abuse
  • High-risk behavior

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines antisocial as, “ aversion to society of others, hostile or harmful to organized society and being marked by behavior debating sharply from the social norm.”

Red flags that reveal someone is antisocial

Keep your eyes open for these red flags.

1 – A disregard for right and wrong

Most people try to obey the law to avoid getting into trouble. Driving over the speed limit may be as risky as you get when it comes to disobeying the law in your life.  But people with antisocial behavior have a strange view of the law, assuming that rules don’t apply to them. Their disregard for authorities and the law make them dangerous to themselves and those around them. They don’t mind breaking laws to get what they want. Besides this, they don’t care how their lawlessness will affect others. If you know someone who shows this behavior, you may want to distance yourself from them to protect yourself from their actions.

2 – Lying or deceitfulness for their own advantage

Another red flag to be aware of someone with antisocial behavior is lying. They can be very convincing in their lies, to the point that people believe them. Even if they’re caught, they will lie about their lies to confuse people. They may point the finger at those who are accusing them, even accusing them of lying.

3 – Manipulate others

The antisocial person can be very manipulative to get something they want. They manipulate people using enticing words and mannerisms.  If you don’t respond to their manipulation, they will get angry and threaten you. It’s a dark, twisted kind of charm that is self-focused and has no regard for the people around them.

4 – Arrogance

Another red flag of someone who is antisocial is the propensity towards arrogant behavior toward other people. They feel they are superior to other people using put-downs, bullying, and other intimidating behavior to show they’re better than you. They expect people to fall into line and do what they want. If you don’t do what they want, they get angry and sometimes violent. They justify their behavior and have no regard for how their actions affect others.

5 – Risky behavior

Antisocial behavior is displayed in risk-taking that may put others at risk. These people are prone to drug and alcohol abuse, unsafe sex, and dangerous hobbies. They also have little consideration for their own health and other’s safety.

They may belittle anyone who challenges their risk-taking, resorting to bullying, or threats if someone tries to intervene. Once in a while, they will decide the risk is more than they want to take if it threatens something that is important to them. They may step back from risky behavior, but this is usually on their own terms rather than because someone has tried to stop their behavior.

pop quotes6 – Charming

People with antisocial personality disorder tend to be very charming. They use their charm to exploit people, often taking advantage of softhearted people. They use sweet talk to get what they want, but if you don’t go along with what they want, they will quickly turn on you, becoming angry and aggressive. They’re good at using people and using their charm with false humility to manipulate people to get them to do what they want at work, school, or at home.

7 – Violence

Violent behavior is a red flag that someone is antisocial behavior. They may not get physical, but use aggressive language to bully people. They can be cruel, mocking people without regard to how their words affect people. Besides being hostile themselves, they can misinterpret other’s behavior as being hostile. Antisocial people are hard to reason with because they feel justified in their behavior. If you try to reason with them, they will get defensive and aggressive. They don’t know how to talk about things or compromise unless it’s for their good.

8 – Lack of the ability to empathize with others

They lack remorse about hurting people or animals. Lack of empathy is easy to overlook. Sometimes people seem snarky or sarcastic, so you assume it’s their sense of humor, but antisocial behavior goes deeper. They don’t feel sad about situations or for things they do. Sometimes they’ll even laugh it off, justifying their behavior. They come across as callous and hardhearted. Antisocial people often commit crimes like murder, with no remorse or dread of the consequences. Studies show that approximately 35% of those people in prison have antisocial behavior.

9 – Blameshifting

A big red flag of antisocial behavior is blameshifting all the time. An antisocial person may be surprised if you point out something they did wrong. They’ll defend themselves, refusing to take responsibility for their own actions. Antisocial behavior often overlaps with narcissistic behavior. They two have a lot in common, especially the inability to take responsibility for actions.

10 – Can’t finish a job

Those who have antisocial behavior can’t learn from their mistakes because they never admit they’ve made a mistake. They have a hard time meeting deadline. They’ll brag about all they’ve done when in fact they haven’t done their work or met financial deadlines as they promised. If they are called out on their lack of finishing something, they’ll turn it around blaming somebody else. This can result in them not being able to hold down a job very long. This also affects their relationships since they aren’t trustworthy and can’t be depended upon to do what they say.

What causes antisocial behavior?

Researchers aren’t totally sure what causes antisocial behavior. It’s hard to know why some people develop antisocial behavior while others don’t, but there are several factors that contribute to this type of behavior. Those at risk for developing antisocial behavior usually include those who:

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