10 Toxic Thoughts People Have (That They Don’t Realize)

10 Toxic Thoughts People Have (That They Don’t Realize)

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Our brains are wired for negative thoughts.

Here’s Amit Sood, M.D., author of The Mayo Clinic Handbook for Happiness: A 4-Step Plan For Resilient Living:

When it’s bored, the brain sulks in its default mode. Its attention wanders, thinking about something other than what you’re currently doing or wanting to think about. A wandering mind costs you nothing, but it’s very expensive. It causes stress, depression and anxiety, and takes away happiness.

Negativity bias … refers to the notion that, even when of equal intensity, things of a more negative nature (e.g. unpleasant thoughts, emotions, or social interactions; harmful/traumatic events) have a greater effect on one’s psychological state and processes than neutral or positive things. – Wikipedia

Your brain spends more than fifty percent of its time in “default” mode.

negative thinkingOur mind’s operations are dominated by stimuli produced by the lower (“reptilian”) brain, what Dr. Sood refers to as the “default” mode. Our default mode produces neutral or negative thoughts and is often experienced as mind wandering. Consequently, we tend not to be happy when we spend too much time in default mode.


Unfortunately, we spend more time in default mode than in focused mode, something that is evident by the amount of mind-wandering we engage in.

Default Mode = Toxic Thoughts.

Have you ever noticed the amount of garbage that your brain produces when left to its own devices? The Japanese call this “monkey mind,” as our brain hops from one useless thought to the next without inhibition, similar to how a monkey hops around without thinking about where it’s going!

Of course, such “mind hopping” invites toxic thoughts to take hold. This is due to our brain’s innate negativity bias. That is, our mind has a tendency to pay more attention to things that are negative than positive or neutral topics.

Recognizing Toxic Thoughts

In this article, we’re going to talk about 10 toxic thoughts and thought patterns that are common to many. It’s essential to notice when our thoughts turn toxic, as this enables us to switch to a more positive way of thinking.

First, here are 10 toxic thoughts that many people have and don’t recognize:

1. “I’m a loser.”

Feeling unworthy impairs our ability to function, period. Destructive and self-limiting beliefs about one’s self can lead to the development of anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. Constructing a healthy mindset involves challenging this limiting belief.positive quote

2. “Someone else will take care of me.”

A sense of entitlement is a poisonous and dangerous state of mind. Poisonous because it will ruin our relationships, self-confidence, and self-worth. Dangerous because it sets us up for an existence where we depend on someone else for everything – and remain vulnerable to their whims.

3. “I’m always right.”

People who insist on being right all of the time risk living a life of stagnation. Without a willingness to admit when we don’t know something, it’s impossible for us to make mental and spiritual progress.

4. “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

Will you really do it tomorrow? Or will tomorrow become next week, next month, or never? Whatever you decide, know this: procrastination is the number one cause of dissatisfaction. Also, procrastination produces unnecessary stress and anxiety. Taking action, even if it’s just a small step, can quickly render these negative feelings mute.

5. “I’ll be happy when…”

“I get that new job,” “I have a million bucks,” “My house is paid for,” “College is finally over.”

No, no, no, and no. Multiple studies have shown that happiness is not dependent upon on income, education, or career. Studies have also shown this to be true: happiness is a life spent working on our life’s purpose and the ability to enjoy the present moment.

6. “It’s their fault.”

As you might have come to realize already, adults are not immune to immature thinking. Failing to take responsibility and blaming someone else for our problems can lead to a life of dissatisfaction. Own up to your choices in life and refuse to entertain self-made excuses.

7. “I can’t screw up.”

Mistakes are part of being human. This may sound cliché and overhyped, but expecting perfection will breed disappointment. Worse, fear of making mistakes manifests in procrastination, low self-esteem, and overthinking. Take action and let the chips fall where they may!


8. “It’s so unfair.”

Let’s not kid ourselves: life can plain suck at times. While this may tempt us to ruminate on the unfairness of life, to do so would only compound whatever crapfest is being thrown in our honor. Instead, face whatever it is head-on and try to make the best of things!

9. “I don’t want to put in the effort.”

In the 1920s, the socialist Soviet Union (now Russia) hung posters that read, “He who does not work, neither shall he eat.” People had to take whatever work they could for the mere hope of being able to feed their children. We all get lazy from time to time, But when we look at it rationally (in this case, historically!), we have no excuse for living a lazy life.

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