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10 Signs Your Friend Has A Crush…On You

November 20, 2016 by Power of Positivity

We like to think that we understand our friends quite well. In almost all cases, this is true. But what about when feelings of love begin to surface? In this case, things can get a little trickier.

Perhaps you’ve thought, at one time or another, that a friend might just think of you in a way that is a bit more serious. Emotions can be very difficult to decode unless one has a keen sense for observation and intuition. This is particularly true if one happens to have a very close (think ‘BFF’) relationship with a person, as behaviors that may signify love or infatuation are more commonplace and accepted.

In order to decipher friends’ emotions, it is necessary to watch how they behave around you. Again, this is not as easy as it sounds. Some people have a way of masking their emotions; providing little evidence that anything is out of the ordinary.

Here are 10 such signs that your friend may be crushing on you:

That said, there are ways to determine whether a not a friend is infatuated, maybe even in love, with you.

1. They’re super concerned with their appearance around you

One of the more obvious ways to know your friend is crushing on you is if they suddenly become meticulous with their appearance. This is especially the case when they know you are going to be somewhere, and make the extra effort to look their best.

2. They always seem to be looking at you

If you notice that, all of a sudden, your friend begins peering at you, it may be a sign you’ve become more attractive to them. A usually reliable sign is if they seem to do this at the expense of pretty much everyone else in the room. They may even lower their eyes or look elsewhere if you look back.

3. They “avoid” you in public

If you are among other friends and this one particular friend purposely avoids you, it may be a sign of a crush. To rule out animosity as an impetus, notice how they act when you’re together again. Do they all of a sudden get super friendly like they never avoided you in the first place? They probably have a crush and don’t want others to know about it.

4. They begin to imitate you

Imitation (or synchrony) is one of the strongest indicators of attraction. This has been demonstrated in a number of scientific studies involving psychology and mechanisms of attraction.

So, if you notice that your friend all of a sudden mirrors your body language or other behaviors it may be a sign that they’re attracted to you.

5. They love to keep you guessing

If your friend suddenly begins taking you aback – by gifts, food, or something else – it may be a strong signal that they’re attracted. Frequency is important here, as by nature, some people are just supremely generous. But, intuition and common sense will stimulate the notion that they’re acting strangely.

6. They “become available” when you’re around

Here’s another obvious sign, as when we’re attracted to someone we always want to be around them. So, if your friends tell you that he or she decided to go somewhere after your name was mentioned…well, that’s a pretty good indication. They also never seem to miss even the most insignificant of events when you’re around.

7. They suddenly become shy around you

This is different for everyone, but sudden shyness may be a sign of attraction. The best explanation is that they’re probably coming to grips with the complex thoughts and feeling that accompany crushing on a friend…or they’re just plain nervous around you now. Either way, it may be a good indicator.

8. They go “above and beyond”

Friends usually lookout for friends…we all know this to be the case. But, if this one particular friend begins to do things that defy the “friend zone,” even if that means sacrificing something themselves, it may be a sign that they’re falling for you.

9. They’re always laughing at your jokes

That terrible joke you told after one-too-many adult beverages…the one where almost no one laughed? Except for, of course, your potentially-infatuated friend? That could be a good sign that they’re thinking of you in more intimate terms. As with many things on this list, frequency and suddenness are good barometers.

10. They touch you every chance they get

If your friend is either touching you more than usual or making an effort to close the distance between you, it may be a good sign that they’re crushing. This may show up in obvious ways: hugging, rubbing, etc.; or it may show up in more subtle ways, such as “accidentally” bumping into you, or constantly brushing against you in a crowded place.

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How to Hypnotize Yourself in 15 Minutes For Stress and Anxiety Relief

November 20, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Hypnosis is really nothing more than relaxation and concentration. No one can hypnotize you against your will. You are simply relaxing your mind and allowing your powerful subconscious mind to rise to the surface more than usual. Many psychologists believe that your subconscious mind exerts subtle influence over your personality and actions.

Repressed feelings and thought patterns gently affect your decisions without you being consciously aware of why you did something or said what you said. Anxiety and stress can be pushed down and allowed to fester in our mind until they start causing problems. Self-hypnosis is really nothing more than placing yourself in a state of relaxation and then acknowledging the things that are causing us stress. Once we acknowledge our stress and anxiety, we can let it go and break the cycle of negativity. We can then boost our positive outlook by giving ourselves positive messages. Once you get into the habit of daily self-hypnosis and relaxation, you will see your attitude change to a positive and constructive one.

How to Hypnotize Yourself in 15 Minutes For Stress and Anxiety Relief

Start With Deep Breathing

Start by getting comfortable and breathing in deep and slow. Deep, slow breathing will increase your body’s oxygen levels and cause your heart rate to slow down. Breathe in deep and let the air flow out of your lungs in a slow and controlled manner. For the first minute, just focus on the act of breathing and letting the tension in your body relax.

Visualize Yourself Floating On A Cloud

Visualize yourself floating on a cloud. You are surrounded by the cloud and it is warm and soft. Let the cloud absorb your tension and your anxiety. You are safe and nothing can hurt you while you are floating on the cloud. The cloud is peaceful and serene. Imagine reaching out and embracing its warmth and safety.

Monitor Your Thoughts

While you are relaxed, you might find stressful or negative thoughts creep into your mind. That is okay. Allow them to surface and acknowledge that they are there. Do not get caught up into the thoughts as they surface in your mind. Let them come and go as they please. Try to identify the thoughts as either positive thoughts or negative thoughts.

Let Go Of Troublesome Thoughts

Once you have identified the troublesome or negative thoughts, then gently let them go. Do not allow your mind to dwell on them or stay on one thought for too long. Let them come and let the negative ones go and float away from your puffy little cloud. Acknowledge any anxiety or negative feelings that come with the thoughts and gently let them go as well. Keep doing this exercise of monitoring your thoughts and letting go of negativity and anxiety until your mind is clear and free from stress. The point of the exercise is to clear your mind and let the white cloud absorb your stress and anxiety. You want your mind to be a blank slate for the next part.

Tell Yourself Something Positive

Now that you have acknowledged your negativity and stress and then let it go, you should spend some time telling yourself some positive things about yourself and your situation. Even simple thoughts like “I am calm and at peace with myself” or “My thoughts create my life” can have a beneficial impact by bringing your thought pattern around to something positive and breaking the cycle of negativity.

Enjoy The Peace And Tranquility

Once you have relaxed, let the anxiety and stress go and center yourself with some positive or motivational thoughts that will help you enjoy the relaxation and tranquility. Just spend a few minutes enjoying the relaxation and peaceful quiet of the moment. The rest of the day may be filled with hectic work and family life, but for these fifteen minutes, you are free of time and space and relaxing on a cloud. There are no worries or concerns. There is just you and the quiet, peaceful relaxation.

Self-hypnosis can be a wonderful tool to manage stress and anxiety. The only difference between self-hypnosis and regular hypnosis is that with regular hypnosis, you are just permitting someone to bring you to that state of deep relaxation. It doesn’t take hours or a special sofa or bed. It can be done just about anywhere and at anytime.

What Does This Ancient Tibetan Test Reveal About Your Personality?

November 20, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Have you ever truly taken the time to dive deep and learn more about yourself? This Tibetan personality test can help you do just that, by tapping into your higher self and deepest desires. This test may seem abstract at first, but it will get you thinking deeper and learning more about your subconscious mind. The personality types can get pretty complex, but this test is designed to simplify the topic and help you understand yourself better.

While there are literally thousands of personality tests available online, it’s believed that this particular test was created by the Dalai Lama himself. Whether that’s completely true or not, we aren’t sure, but either way, it’s worth taking to get a new, possibly better perspective about yourself.

To do this test properly, you only need to remember this simple instruction. Don’t think about each answer too much, instead just letting the thoughts come to you and going with the flow.

You’ll also need a notepad and pen to get started. So, without further ado, let’s get on with it!

“Happiness is not something readymade it comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama

What Does This Ancient Tibetan Test Reveal About Your Personality?

1. First, imagine there are five animals standing in front of you.

Remember, just go with it. Imagine that a cow, a sheep, a tiger, a horse, and a pig are currently staring at you, just waiting for you to decide your favorites.

Now, list the animals in an order that suits you. Whether you list them from most to least favorite or some other way, just write them down in an order that you like.

2. Write one word that describes each of the following.

A dog is _______.
A cat is _______.
A rat is _______.
Coffee is _______.
The sea is _______.

Remember to just list one word per noun.

3. Link five people in your life to a color.

Each person needs to be assigned to a color from this list below.

Yellow
Orange
Red
White
Green

Use your intuition to assign each person to one color from the list.

When you’ve finished, read below to find out what your answers mean!

1. The Priorities of Your Personality Type

If you chose the cow, your first priority is your career. If you chose the tiger, you’re mostly concerned with your self-worth. Chose the sheep? You place love at the top of your priority list. Picking the horse means that family is most important to you, and choosing the pig means you care mostly about money.

Then, you can read even further into it and see not only your first priority, but how you view all the important aspects of your life, and the order of importance for all of them.

2. Your Attitude About Life

Dog: Your personality
Cat: Your partner’s personality
Rat: Your enemies’ personality
Coffee: Views about sex
Sea: Your life overall

What adjective you chose to describe each noun will determine your attitude about each of these things in your life.

3. Your Attitude Towards People

Yellow: Someone who impacted your life positively.
Orange: A person that you view as a true friend.
Red: Someone you love with all your heart.
White: Your true spirit.
Green: Someone you’ll never forget.

So, whatever people you associated with each color will determine your thoughts and feelings about each of those people.

Final Thoughts on the Tibetan Personality Test

What did you learn about yourself? Did the results match up with how you view your personality?

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10 Things Alpha Women Need In A Relationship

November 19, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Alpha women portray the strength of mind and independence in every sense of the word. Accustomed to taking charge, they can intimidate some people. Alpha women are confident, ambitious, and unafraid to tell people what is what. That kind of power can be off-putting for some partners who are either overly competitive with the Alpha woman or too submissive. So how can a true Alpha woman maintain a strong and healthy relationship?

10 Things Alpha Women Need in a Relationship:

1. Alpha Women Need To Be Challenged

A partner to an Alpha woman needs to hold his own. The Alpha woman needs someone to compete with, yet someone secure enough in their abilities to be gracious in victory and a good sport in defeat.

2. They Need Trust

They need to know that what they tell you in confidence will stay in that relationship vault. An Alpha woman needs to feel the allowance to be vulnerable and let their guard down occasionally. They need to trust someone not to stab them in the back for personal gain.

3. They Need Respect

The Alpha woman needs her partner to respect her decisions and not second-guess them at every turn. Challenging her before the decision is made is okay, but not afterward. She needs her space and boundaries respected as well. This includes not being lied to for whatever reason. She respects someone who doesn’t belittle her when she is angry or put her on a pedestal she will fall off of eventually.

4. Alpha Women Need Their Independence

They need to be able to enjoy their passions and their friends. Alpha women don’t need a clingy person who can’t survive for a few hours without them. They want someone like them who also has a life outside of the relationship.

5. They Need Someone Who Can Keep Up

Alpha women have things they have to do, and they know no one will do those things for them. They are moving at a high speed, time-efficient, and booked solid almost 24/7. Someone who can hang with them and their high-pressure, high-intensity environment is what they are looking for.

6. They Need an Equal Partner

Someone who is an equal partner and carries their own weight in the relationship – this is who Alpha women will respect. They need someone with their own opinions and their ego in a healthy place. In other words, they need someone to walk with them, not behind them or in front of them. Their partner doesn’t need to have the same opinions, hobbies, or friends as they do. Alpha women respect a partner who is a complete and self-sufficient person.

7. Alpha Females Need To Laugh

Like many, alpha women love someone who can make them laugh and lighten the mood in their often stressful and high-pressure lives. They need someone who can bring a smile to their face, tease them and be teased in return without hurting feelings on either side.

8. They Need To Be Called Out When Necessary

This is challenging, but Alpha women need someone strong and secure enough to call them out on their bullsh*t. Someone to remind them that they are not perfect and that they can make mistakes from time to time. Everyone needs their ego checked occasionally, and the Alpha woman is no exception. Their power and personality makes it necessary to have someone who will reign them in a bit when they go off the rails.

9. Alpha Women Need Someone Who Is Informed

To be all of these things, a partner of this strong woman should be informed about things from current events to esoteric knowledge. They need to be able to have an intelligent conversation with the Alpha woman and express ideas on her level. In the age of social media and information bubbles, the partner of an Alpha woman needs to have a well-tuned bullsh*t detector.

10. Alpha Females Need Someone With Tact

Most importantly, they need someone with tact, someone who knows when to have that intense talk about something important and when to let it go. They need someone who can handle their moods and emotions without ruffling feathers. An Alpha woman needs someone thoughtful and sensitive enough to pick up on how she is feeling and broach difficult subjects in private.

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Kids’ Drawings Are Being Turned Into Beautiful Jewelry Parents Can Wear Forever

November 19, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Any parent will tell you that one of the greatest parts of parenting is seeing your child express their creativity in their own unique way. If you have young kids right now, then you probably can’t wait to see what art projects they bring home from school each day, simply because they created it themselves and it came from their own imagination. Now, imagine that you could turn those precious drawings into a timeless piece of jewelry that will always remind you of your child.

Kids’ Drawings Are Being Turned Into Beautiful Jewelry Parents Can Wear Forever

A Turkish jewelry company has now made this a possibility, helping you to keep your child’s artwork alive through beautiful, handmade bracelets, necklaces, cufflinks, and ornaments.

Many times, a lot of our child’s memories and creative projects get forgotten and tossed aside as they grow older, but now, you will never forget the special art that your child creates!

Yasemin Erdin Tavukçu and Özgür Karavit founded their Istanbul-based company, Tasarim Takarim, two years ago. These two artists have enjoyed every piece of jewelry they’ve created in that time, saying that they make “a single moment of someone’s childhood timeless.”

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Tavukçu decided to start making jewelry from children’s art after seeing her own daughter, Serin, making her own artwork. She partnered with Karavit, a goldsmith and sculptor, to turn her dreams into reality. Now, the two receive artwork from parents all over the globe.

All their pieces are made of either gold or silver, and no two pieces of jewelry are identical. According to Tavukçu, they have to brainstorm to come up with unique ways of making each piece since all of the art is so different.

These pieces of jewelry don’t just benefit the wearer, however. You’ll also get to witness your child’s face light up at seeing you wearing their artwork as jewelry! For Tavukçu and Karavit, they agree that their favorite part of the business is simply witnessing a child’s happiness over seeing their art turned into jewelry.

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If you want to get a piece of your child’s art turned into jewelry yourself, check out Tasarim Takarim’s Etsy page. It takes about a week on average, and will cost anywhere from $100-200.

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7 Amazing Health Benefits of Sleeping With Your Dog

November 18, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Ask any pet owner about the notion of sleeping with their dog, and you’ll likely get one of two responses: they do, and they love it; or they don’t, because it’s nasty/disrupts sleep/etc.

From an evidentiary standpoint, the data appears to support the former group. Many studies have been conducted that confirm the health benefits of sleeping with dogs. Even the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has published the opinion that sleeping with one’s beloved canine can bring forth a number of benefits.

And there appears to perhaps be something to this. Nearly 50 percent of all dog owners sleep with their pet. As an aside, this is one area where the Chihuahua, Poodle, Schnauzer, and Terriers have the advantage: over 60 percent of small dog owners sleep with their furry, compact friend.

Dog owners that sleep with their pet may already be aware of the things on this list. Some of you may just start inviting Fido under the covers.

Why?

Here are 7 amazing benefits of sleeping with your dog:

1. A dog provides comfort

If you’ve ever cuddled with a dog, you can probably attest to the fact that there is just something so comfortable about the experience. Simple things like listening to the dog’s breathing, feeling their fur, etc., can bring about a strong sense of comfort. When this feeling is carried onto the bed, it may provide additional benefits. This may mean improving sleep, or strengthening the special bond that you have with your pet.

2. They improve sleep quality

In many cases, the physical and mental benefits brought about by a dog’s presence in the bed can result in better sleep. In general, dog owners feel a sense of calm and assurance when their furry companion joins them in the bedroom. Interestingly, some insomniacs have reported an improved sleeping experience once their dog began sleeping in their bed.

Of course, this can swing both ways. Some people simply don’t sleep well with their pet, and vice-versa. Still, it doesn’t hurt to give it a try.

3. They relieve distress

Most dogs naturally have an exceptionally attentive nature. They love being close with their owners. This fact, combined with the usual comfort that a dog provides, can be a great stress reliever.

The use of therapy dogs is a common practice for this very reason. Therapy dogs will often follow their owners into bed for treatment purposes. It makes sense, then, that your beloved pet can provide similar benefits.

4. They give us warmth

There really isn’t a whole lot of science behind this one. Dogs are just comfy creatures; their warm-bloodedness, rhythmic breathing and propensity for close physical contact are enough to manifest a feeling of comfort in just about everyone with a pulse.

Many of us like a sense of warmth when we sleep, which explains the two or more blankets/comforters/etc. found on so many of our beds. Accompaniment of your dog, then, makes perfect sense!

5. A dog can help with depression

Dogs often both give and receive a sense of unconditional love and loyalty. Someone with depressive symptoms is often void of this feeling, or doesn’t experience the feeling nearly enough.

It is also common for someone experiencing depression to have difficulty sleeping. Put two and two together, and a dog’s presence may just help alleviate some of those symptoms.

6. They provide a sense of security

Speaking of innate canine traits, many of them have a keen sense for protection. This fact, in conjunction with most dog’s excellent sense of sound, can evoke strong feelings of security and well-being.

While most of us love sleep, it is definitely when we are at our most vulnerable. Most break-ins and other crimes occur during late night and early morning hours. This is where having a dog to provide an added layer of security can help!

7. And…the dog benefits, of course!

Come on… SURELY you didn’t think we’d leave out a man’s best friend?

Your pup absolutely loves spending time with you. They also deeply miss your presence when absent. Why not give them the special feeling of sleeping with the person they love most in the world?

It will also assuredly deepen the already special relationship that you two have. This benefits both you and your pet!

11 Behaviors Women Show When They’re Truly In Love

November 17, 2016 by Power of Positivity

Women tend to be much more in touch with their emotions, and yet, they sometimes keep those emotions close to the chest. They don’t want to give too much away too soon. They are subtle and complex in their signals. Sometimes, guys feel like they have to be mind readers to figure out what is happening inside their women. But, when they are falling in love, they let their guard down, and the signs become more apparent.

Here are 11 things women do when they are falling in love:

1. She Cuts Out Other Guys

It is not uncommon for people to have more than one dating situation going on at one time on the dating scene. But when a woman starts to fall for someone, they cut out those other suitors. They are no longer accepting applications. The position has been filled. I appreciate your interest.

2. She Uses The Royal We

She starts thinking of you two as a couple and refers to you both in conversation as a single unit. You will notice that she uses the royal we. “We would love to attend” “We brought you a housewarming gift” She starts thinking of you as part of her team.

3. She Makes Plans For You Both

She starts making plans for you both to do things together. Besides that, she doesn’t just plan to go on vacation alone or with her friends. She plans to go on vacation with you. She plans to go to dinner with you. She’ll assume that you will want to do those things together. She is thinking of you and her as a team.

4. She Gives Meaningful Gifts

She doesn’t just give you a throwaway gift that anyone could have gotten for you. In fact, she puts a lot of thought into what you want, what you like, and what you would most enjoy. She listens when you mention that you like a specific band, tv show, style of clothing, or sports team. And she pays attention to the details and gets you something that fits you perfectly. It is the thought that counts, and she is thinking about you.

5. She Finds Your Quirks Endearing

Your friends may joke about your quirks. Your family may find those quirks annoying as hell. But she loves those weird quirks about you. To her, they are what makes you so uniquely you. She falls in love with those little quirks of yours.

6. She Thinks About You All The Time

She can’t stop thinking about you. She’ll become distracted because she is daydreaming about you and her. She finds concentrating hard because you keep popping up in her day-to-day thoughts. Also, she lets you know she is thinking about you. She will text you or call or DM to let you know she is thinking about you.

7. She Acts Silly

Your lady turns into a giddy schoolgirl when you are around. She feels awkward and clumsy. Perhaps she giggles about things that she usually wouldn’t. Her love and joy bubble up from within, and she cannot hold it in any longer.

8. She Misses You

Yes, you just saw each other five minutes ago when you walked into the kitchen to heat that burrito, but she already misses your company. She wants more of your time together. She wants more of that emotional high from being around you.

9. She Can’t Get Enough

Because being around you is intoxicating to her, she wants to spend a lot of time with you. She’s thinking about you all of the time, and she misses you intensely when you are gone. She wants to keep that high going, so she will be slow to say goodbye. She’ll linger long after the date is over. She will squeeze as much time as she can out of you before you have to go. She’s addicted to you and her growing love.

10. She Is Self-Conscious

She wants to look her best for you. She’ll take forever getting ready, picking out her clothes, doing her makeup, and ensuring everything is perfect. She feels self-conscious because she wants to knock your socks off when you see her.

11. She Tells You How She Feels

The biggest and most stressful thing (for her) is telling you how she feels. This is a big step as it makes her vulnerable to rejection if you don’t feel the same way. It takes a lot of courage to admit your feelings, but when she is in love, she doesn’t care. She has to tell the world how she feels about you.

25 Etiquette Rules You Should Never Forget

November 17, 2016 by Power of Positivity

A collection of interconnected rules that implies good impressions in our lifestyle as we engage in social and business interactions is usually referred to as etiquette. These good manners evolve from time to time as they reflect our cultural norms and other ethical codes as rules in various groups or occasions.

Though we get to contend in a lot of arguments these days about etiquette; whether they still matter or not as some people believe that these rules of good behaviors are unnecessary or outdated. Whichever side you choose to stand, the fact is that; everyone loves to receive respect and care or consideration at certain times. In fact, you should never disregard these acts cannot that show courtesy and kindness.

If we choose to do away with these good manners, our societies would quickly see disrespect for one another, insults, cheating, and many more ill manners.

A lifestyle of respect, politeness kindness does a lot of good in maintaining sanity and respect in relationships and our societies as it shows in how we treat other people around us.

In some other ways, etiquette also shows the kind of courtesy and morals you conform to and if you fail in certain expectations of the expected lifestyle, you may be at a risk of sabotaging a good image or even your own success. How you conduct yourself is either impressive to a person or offensive to another.

Here are 25 Rules of Good Manners and Etiquette Everyone Should Know (And Follow!)

1. Timing is very important. Always keep to time when honoring a meeting, date, event, etc. When you show up late, it says so much about your personality and the kind of regard you show to important things.

2. Always take note of what you pick out of the refrigerator at the office; if you haven’t kept some food or drink in there you have no business taking anything out. Leftovers should also be thrown away rather than getting the refrigerator stocked with junk.

3. Watch your manners when you make use of the cell phone. Being loud on the phone is a lot of disturbance to those around you. You are more likely to cause some distractions or disrupt other people’s concentration.

4. If you RSVP for an event, you must show up. If probably you won’t be able to honor such an event anymore, you must have communicated that early enough or else you will be causing a lot of imbalance for the celebrant.

5. Your diet plans are for you; don’t bother other people with what you have to do or eat. If you prepare food for a lot of people you should be considerate enough to note that your diet isn’t the same as well as others.

6. When your family is invited to visit a friend, make it a duty to help with some clean up and rearrangements especially when the kids loiter and displace things around.

7. Never break up with your partner or announce a death incidence via text; you should convey some information face to face or via a phone call.

8. No matter how cute dogs are, aside from taking them for a walk it is not ideal to take them to shopping malls or places where it is uncalled for. Most times people do this just for the sake of gaining some attention.

9. While using an earphone, make sure it is well plugged to avoid a situation where it’s playing in your ears and at the same time playing on your device’s speaker. It can be discomforting to people around.

10. When inviting people for a party, it is unruly to ask them to come with their food. They can eat at home; bringing their food has ceased it from been a party.

11. Posting your personal conversations and arguments on social networking sites is poor etiquette. The drama can be done privately in your inbox rather than bringing such awful conversation to the public.

12. Lend books to people only when they ask for it. When you force people to read a book by giving it to them, you may put some guilt on them and in the end, you will feel pained that they do not appreciate the book.

13. During a dinner, it is offensive to be loud while laughing, talking or even to stare at other diners.

14. It is expected that a person who invites you to lunch pays the bill. However, you should keep track of your portion and be ready to pay to avoid embarrassment.

15. When invited to a party, it’s courteous not to bring any uninvited guests. It is important that you use some decency here.

16. As a gentleman, always open doors and allow ladies to enter first. And if you have a reserved table, the man should locate it and lead his companion there.

17. While you are at a dinner party, it’s advisable to leave your phone on silent mode or put the cell phone off. It’s better to respond to urgent calls by text rather than excusing yourself too often to pick calls.

18. Perhaps you come in late to a meeting, class or any other gathering. It is more honorable to find a seat behind where you won’t be causing some distractions rather than trying to fit into your favorite position.

19. As a commuter, an able-bodied young person should give an elderly person or a woman carrying children his or her seat rather than leave them in less comfort.

20. Men should only sit on public transport if no woman is left standing near them. Men should always give their seats to ladies.

21. When a man has a lady as company, he is expected to use the exit first and clear the way for her as he assists her to exit the building, train, bus, etc.

22. As a guest, it is not polite to refuse food. It is better to ask for a lesser portion rather than turning down the offer. If you are on a diet, it is more honorable to decline an invitation rather than accept it and then avoid their food.

23. Listening is very important. It doesn’t mean you must keep mute during a conversation, but showing a keen interest in the discussion and interjecting at an appropriate timing depicts that you are on the same page as your partner.

24. Show your good use of etiquette by greeting the driver when you board a bus or a taxi and show some courtesy by thanking them as you alight.

25. As a commuter, be careful not to inconvenience others with your luggage. Do not place your belongings on the seat next to you; if you can’t manage to hold them closely on your lap, you can as well put them under your seat.

The Most Important Trait Every Man Needs To Have In A Relationship

November 17, 2016 by Power of Positivity

The idea of Emotional Intelligence was first presented by two Yale psychologists in 1990 and explored a person’s ability to recognize emotions in themselves and others, apply emotions to tasks, and manage their feelings and the feelings of others. But how does this apply to a relationship? In long-term relationships, especially ones revolving around the creation and raising of children, a woman tends to be much more emotionally, physically, and financially invested in any relationship involving children.

If that relationship is to succeed, then it depends on the man’s ability to give, receive and communicate love. A committed relationship revolves around four critical abilities proposed in the theory of Emotional Intelligence.

Why Emotional Intelligence Is The Most Important Trait In Every Man’s Relationship

A man with emotional intelligence can recognize emotions

A man has to be able to recognize his own emotions. This requires some self-awareness and introspection about his emotional state. He has to know deep down who and what he is. He also has to recognize other people’s emotional states through body language, vocal tone, and facial cues. If a man cannot remember his own emotions or the emotions of others, then he will make emotionally inappropriate remarks or actions during very emotional times. He may joke at a funeral. Or he may wrongfully sling accusations at others.

Use emotions wisely

We all have changing moods or good and bad days. Someone with a high EI will be able to recognize when they are in a mood or emotionally upset and use those emotions to get things done without upsetting those around them. They will channel that emotional energy into something productive or work on something in a more emotionally conducive environment.

Understanding emotional intelligence

A man has to understand the emotional states of those around him. Relationships are emotionally complicated, and a man has to know how emotions evolve and be sensitive to minor variations.

Manage emotions

A man has to be able to manage his emotions and harness them appropriately. Emotions are a powerful energy source, and unchecked emotions can be a virtual volcano destroying every relationship around them. A man who manages his emotions well can take that volcano and turn it into a geothermal power station, providing warmth and power to those around him.

People with high emotional intelligence manifest through kindness, sincerity, affection, and empathy. In a relationship, these traits are crucial to its success.

Emotional intelligence begets kindness

If a man is kind and generous to those around him, especially to those unable to benefit him directly, he shows that he is not just another emotional vampire. Kind people tend to attract other kind people. A kind man will give back as much or more than they take in a relationship.

Sincerity

A sincere man recognizes his own emotions and is unafraid to express them to his partner. Being able to express genuine and honest feelings is a valuable tool in a relationship. Sincerity means the man is emotionally available and willing to risk being hurt to deepen the relationship.

Affection

A man has to be willing to express his affection openly. He also has to be able to receive appreciation from others. Affectionate men will have good, long-term relationships with their closest friends. Indeed, they give each other hugs and embrace open displays of affection with their partner and friends. Conversely, a man who cannot express or receive respect will have strained relationships with those around him and be closed off from his partner.

Empathy comes from emotional intelligence

Understanding and empathizing with another person indicates high emotional intelligence. A man that cries during an emotionally charged movie is a good sign. If he can connect emotionally with a fictional person, he will be able to do the same in an honest and romantic relationship.

Low emotional intelligence means that a man disconnects from himself and those around him. He cannot understand his emotional states, much less those he interacts with socially. He may be emotionally stunted due to early trauma and doesn’t get why others react to emotions the way that they do. Regardless of why, a man’s relationships depend on his ability to understand the emotional needs of those around him, understand his own emotional needs and states, and connect with others on more than a superficial level for his relationships to last.

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