So you have it all. You have a good job, a safe home, and supportive family and friends. You should be happy, but you aren’t. What could possibly be wrong? Potentially, a lot of things. No one is immune to unhappiness, and true happiness takes some soul-searching. You owe it to yourself and those close to you to give it all you have. Here are ten reasons why you’re not happy even if you have everything in life.
1. You Can Be Secure But Unfulfilled
Having everything isn’t necessarily fulfilling for you as a human being. You can end up spinning your wheels without much meaning in your day-to-day. That’s because success doesn’t answer the underlying question of why you’re doing anything. You may remain unhappy if you aren’t driven by purpose. Prevent that by being passionate about your life and having a vision of who you are.
· Understand Yourself
You may need to dig deep to understand your personality and what you want in life. Decide if you’re comfortable with where your career is going in the next few years. Drop hobbies that aren’t worth it while emphasizing ones that suit you. Be open about your aspirations during quality time with family and friends.
· Make Changes
It may all call for drastic lifestyle changes, but health coach Emily Laurence points out that just learning what you want is a significant advantage. Then it’s simply a matter of creating the space for you to enter into a new way of being. Don’t hesitate to act because you don’t want to lose time mired in a life you don’t like.
Starting from a young age, people spend a lot of time trying to impress others. Even if you have everything, the need to impress will keep you unhappy. Just because people like your fancy clothes, car, and house, doesn’t mean they’ll stand by you in your time of need. It’s a fragile sort of happiness that makes you clingy and leaves you bitter when you aren’t getting the attention you think you deserve.
· Impressing People Isn’t Worth It
When you crave admiration, it’s hard to appreciate all the nice things you have. Maintaining other people’s interests, rather than your happiness, is stress you don’t need. It’s been shown that buying things to impress others tends to remove your satisfaction with the purchase.
· Seek A Healthier Kind Of Happiness
It would be best if you were above seeking validation from others, so take advantage of what you have. If you’re considering spending to impress people, save your money for something important. Stay positive to be satisfied with yourself and strengthen the bonds you already have to secure happiness through being loved.
3. You Have To Practice More Gratitude
It might sound harsh, but try to be grateful for everything you have. If you have everything, savor it and remind yourself how lucky you are. Some people become disillusioned with their satisfactory lives, filling the void by buying more things, not knowing what they’re doing.
· Give Back To The World
Avoid this by deciding to give back to the world from your position of power. Enthusiastically say thank you and praise people. Contribute to charitable causes. It’s also important to take some pride in yourself and remain interested in your accomplishments. If you have everything, there’s no reason not to be optimistic.
· Be Thankful Of Your Accomplishments
Set aside time every once in a while to be thankful for your decisions that garnered success. How does it all affect your view of the future? Ponder your hopes for what good can be accomplished next and engage in positive thinking about your impact on the world.
4. Learn How To Appreciate Goals And Milestones
Just because you have everything doesn’t mean you can’t work toward something. Regardless of luxury, stagnating as a person isn’t a nice feeling. So challenge yourself and get excited about trying new things.
· Set New Goals
Set goals that are fun rather than more tasks to check off. Cook food you’re not good at making, learn a new language, and cultivate yourself into the best you can be. It’s daunting, but Laurence recommends you start pursuing what’s missing from your life in small ways because baby steps are powerful.
· Create New Milestones
Your mental state is aided by looking forward to milestones too. In a life where you have everything you need, it’s good to get people together and celebrate that. Make anniversaries and birthdays about quality time rather than gifts, so you’re in an appreciative mood. Like the goals we accomplish, milestones are thresholds of growth, showing us how far we’ve come.
5. You’re Restricted By Routine
A life where you have everything is safe, meaning you can become restless and bored quickly. This is especially true if you live by a rigidly regimented routine, lacking the fun of spontaneity. It’s hard to be fulfilled by a life of prosperity when you’re on a tight schedule, always doing the same thing. As author Travis Bradberry says, some structure is necessary because the happiest people have honed habits maintaining their good mood day in and day out.
Learn to mix things up! You’ve still got to mix things up, so you don’t go stir-crazy. Now and then, tell yourself to come up with something interesting to do. Complete tasks in a different order or wake up at a different time. See how quickly you can get a particular chore done. It’s good for your brain to face varied situations, allowing you to stay sharp.
Even if you have a good life, you can’t be endlessly running from one thing to the next. Between work, household duties, and time with your kids and partner, you’ll burn yourself out. It would be best if you had time to reflect on life and indulge in what you like.
· Free Yourself And Get Some Quality “Me” Time
Without any “me time,” you can get sidetracked from who you are and what you’re all about. Let yourself eat, meditate, get fresh air, and be free. Research shows that just going for a walk is pretty beneficial. Such mental breaks are essential to fostering good concentration and stress management.
· Rest And Recalibrate
This good habit of resting and recalibrating opens you up to positive reminders, accepting your life, and recommitting hard work. Treat yourself properly, and you’ll be a well-oiled machine, able to enjoy the life you’ve made for yourself. It’s impressive how small breaks can have such a pleasing effect on the body and mind.
7. You Aren’t In Touch With Your Emotions
Emotions are our lifeblood, so try to keep them in check. A good life can be harmed by an unpleasant emotional state. Unmet basic needs won’t stop you from getting cynical. You shouldn’t live life on autopilot and become stilted, distant from what’s going on. Though your needs may be taken care of, there’s still the matter of being a welcoming person.
· Be There For Others
Being emotionally available makes you an asset to your loved ones. That’s not possible if you allow feelings of frustration, disinterest, and inefficiency to build up. Hone your empathy and have regular conversations with those close to you.
Understanding others can help you understand yourself. If something bothers you, don’t hide it. Be introspective to know why you feel the way you do. All the while, be a good listener, and you can maintain a positive atmosphere.
8. Learn To Indulge In Simple Pleasures
Lasting happiness is thought to be brought about by obvious markers like marriage or childbirth. Some people crave loud, exciting satisfaction. You can spend a lot of time chasing material wealth and not become happy. Don’t relentlessly pursue happiness like a destination. No matter how many good things you have, that can be destructive. Remember, happiness is a state of mind, not a destination.
· Slow Down And Notice The World Around You
Instead, slow down and drink in the world around you. Discover the simpler pleasures in life. Bradberry says that fascinating things happen around us every day if you know where to look. It can fill you with awe, which is humbling. There truly is so much to appreciate.
· Pamper Yourself With You Indulge In The Little Things
Have a relaxing bubble bath, stroll through morning mist and dew, follow a workout with a hot shower, explore bike trails on a summer night, bite into a juicy fruit, drink hot chocolate in front of the fireplace, dance to music, and more. Enhance these activities with positive thinking for time well spent.
9. You’re Overthinking Instead Of Living
Having everything doesn’t change the destructive nature of overthinking. You’ve got to get out of your head and live in the present. Overthinking tends to be a response to anxiety but can just as easily lead to it.
Overthinking is more dangerous than you think. Research has found that overthinking is associated with the onset of depression and has been linked with psychopathologies like binge eating, binge drinking, and self-harm. To avoid this fate, talk openly with others about what’s rattling in your head. If you begin to zone out and overthink, question what’s bothering you and how the problem arose.
10. Sources Of Negativity Bring You Down
There’s plenty of negativity in the world. Sometimes when people are feeling down, they engage in negative self-talk that leaves them depressed for days. Sometimes everything in life is going well, but sources of negativity are pronounced and ruining it all. Negativity can’t be eradicated, but it should be dealt with healthily.
· Put Your Foot Down
If you’re spending time with people who ruin your mood, you can have negative emotions stirring in your head, making it harder to sleep and concentrate. Sometimes your friends are complainers who pity themselves and put their problems in your lap instead of doing anything constructive. Put your foot down with people who stress you out, either by distancing yourself or presenting them with concrete solutions.
· The Right Mindset
Rely on positive thinking, even when you don’t believe it, to lift you. Spend time on things you like, even if you’re afraid your mood will get in the way. Your hobbies and interests can always create good memories you can recall for weeks to come and provide a cathartic sense of accomplishment.
There are no catch-all solutions. Everyone is different and suffers from various combinations of factors. However, everyone has the power to fight against their unhappiness. Never take it lying down. You and your loved ones are worth it and will grow by overcoming obstacles.