You have the capacity to do so many things with your life. You have the capacity for greatness, if you allow it. However, to get there, you’ll have to let go of negativity.
Read the 12 tips below to discover how to let go of negativity.
1. It’s Them, Not You
If you’ve ever heard the famous breakup line, “It’s me. Not you,” it really is true. People will treat you in the way you allow them, but the way they react to you is all them. If you’re a genuinely nice person and someone gets mad at you, you need to know it’s their problem and not yours. If they’re mad, they have a responsibility to deal with their own emotions just as you have a responsibility for yours.
2. “Their Reality Is Not My Reality”
It’s okay to be different, and it’s time to let go of trying to fit in with everyone. You need to be different to be of any benefit to the world. It’s time to embrace your individuality, and just because someone is different than you doesn’t mean you have to be upset about it. Celebrate your individuality every day by being your true self.
3. Let Go of Codependency
Let go of trying to fix someone and allowing yourself to feel bad just because someone else feels bad. Save your energy for more important things like having an awesome day. Trying to fix people and allowing your emotions to go up and down based on others’ emotions will leave you exhausted. You can’t enjoy life when you’re constantly worried about how someone else is feeling. Release yourself of this negativity, and don’t put others’ needs ahead of your own.
4. Stop Beating Yourself Up
People can be their worst critics sometime. It’s astounding that people will be incredibly nice and forgiving of others but then be overly critical with themselves. You are a person too. Beating yourself up is mean, and you don’t deserve it, even if it’s from yourself.
5. Let Go of the Past
Imagine if you tried walking forward while looking behind you. You’d eventually fall, and you wouldn’t get to see all the amazing things coming in front of you. You can’t possibly enjoy where you are now or see what’s to come if you constantly focus on the past. You need to heal past pain, but from there on, let go.
6. Let Your Feelings Out
Negative feelings have a bad way of lingering if they never see the light of day. If you can’t speak your feelings out loud, you’ll need to commit to daily journaling, but it doesn’t really matter how you let your feelings out so long as you do. Take time to journal each morning. Even if you have nothing negative to write down, you can put down all of your thoughts to successfully plan out your day.
7. Say “No” to Negative Thoughts
People don’t realize the impact of their thoughts. Whether a person thinks something bad about themselves or something bad about others, it creates more negative thinking to occur. These negative thoughts make their way into the heart after a while. As a result, negative behaviors will be born. It’s important to guard your mind against negative thoughts before they make their way into your day-to-day life.
8. Create Goals
If you’re not reaching for goals, one day can, dangerously, start to look like the last. In fact, you may lose sight of which day it is because each day does look like the last. Creating goals fills your life with positivity, which removes room for any negativity to come in.
9. Clean Up Your House
You’d be surprised by the impact your environment has on your feelings. While you should definitely think about how you want to react to something, your environment has a way of affecting your thought process and how you feel, in general. When you clean up, your mind is more focused and calm.
10. Keep a Gratitude List
It’s hard to be negative when you’re busy being grateful. It doesn’t have to be huge things either. You can always find something. Things aren’t always going to be perfect, but you can celebrate what you have. You can be grateful for what’s to come too.
11. Get Rid of Stressors
If you’ve never thought of your stressors before, it can seem overwhelming at first. However, writing down things that bother you allows you to let go of them. More than getting them out, you need to resolve to remove them from your life to let go of negativity.
12. Forgive Yourself
The person you are today isn’t necessarily the same person you were before. Any amount of change can make a huge difference between who you were and who you are today. Just as it’s unfair to continue to judge someone else over the past, it’s equally unfair to judge yourself for old things.
The good thing about negativity is that you don’t have to have it in your life. Negativity is evidence of things that are not good for you. Thankfully, it’s completely your choice whether or not you are going to have negativity in your life.