Research Shows Parents Who Raise Successful Kids Do These Things Differently

Research Shows Parents Who Raise Successful Kids Do These Things Differently



Kids are going to end up defining what success looks like to them as they grow up, but parents who raise kids who are happy, healthy and independent do these 10 things differently from other parents. Your role as a parent lasts a lifetime, but your role in their development is crucial. How can you find a balance between molding them and letting them mold themselves?

Let’s look at 10 things that research shows parents who raise successful kids do differently.

Research Reveals: Parents Who Raise ‘Successful’ Kids Do These 10 Things

1. Let them fail

Persistence is what parents who raise successful kids are teaching when they allow kids to fail in small ways without rushing in to rescue them. Learning to get back up after a fall builds determination to carry on.

2. Teach the meaning of gratitude

Spend time with those who have less, who have lost, or who are fighting a battle beyond what your children have to deal with in their young lives. Seeing that what is provided to them is more than others have cam be a valuable lesson in gratitude and humility that parents who raise successful kids teach early on.



3. Teach them to be their own best friend

You won’t always be there to pick them up after they are lonely and need comforting. Kids who don’t learn to rely only on other people to comfort them are independent and more likely to be successful.

4. Teach them the value of hard work

Chores are the kid equivalent of adult work and allowances are the kid equivalent of a paycheck. No work, no paycheck means that you are teaching consequences for behavior that will serve them well in the real world.


5. Don’t let them settle if you know they are capable of more


Researchers from the University of Minnesota and University of Miami School of Medicine looked at parents who teach competence and resilience in their kids to help them be successful. We can say that a kid is raised to be competent when they are able to adapt successfully to changes, for example when school work gets harder as they progress, or when they have to make new friends due to a move. We have already talked about resilience in our first list topic about overcoming failure.

The research found that knowledge rapidly expands for children and the brain changes in both structure and function as they learn. The researchers listed these characteristics of parents who raise successfully resilient kids:

* Good intellectual functioning


* Appealing, sociable, easygoing disposition

* Self-efficacy, self-confidence, high self-esteem

* Talents

* Faith

* Close relationship to caring parent figure

* Authoritative parenting: warmth, structure, high expectations

* Socioeconomic advantages

* Connections to extended supportive family networks


* Bonds to pro-social adults outside the family

* Connections to pro-social organizations

* Attending effective schools

6. Praise their efforts, not the results

Researchers looked at parents who raised successful kids based on their academic performance and found that there were five family and home environmental factors that affect student achievement in school and academic performance. These five factors are:

* Parent expectations and attributions


* Structure for learning

* Home affective environment

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