It’s hard to make a relationship stronger when your partner is often negative. You must recognize the signs that he’s jealous and controlling early on. Don’t invest too much time in a non-productive partnership. If you find that he exhibits behaviors like these ten, you might need to find a new one:
1. Your significant other doesn’t call you, text you, or respond when you’re out with your friends.
This behavior is your partner’s way of showing you that he or she resents the time you spend with others because you’re not with them. If he or she isn’t happy, then they doesn’t want you to be happy. Like anything else in life that feels overwhelming, the feeling of being ignored when you’re doing something that makes you happy is not acceptable.
2. He or she won’t admit to feeling jealous, but instead will withhold affection.
Sometimes, your love refuses to be intimate, especially after fighting. It feels like he or she is making you pay twice for their poor choice of behavior instead of accepting responsibility for their actions. You can tell if he or she really loves you by the way they look at you.
3. Your partner often makes excuses for not taking you out.
He or she doesn’t want you where you’ll attract attention from other people. If there is something your significant other doesn’t want to do with you, then do it alone. Don’t let this person hold you back or make you regret not doing things that make you happy. You are the one who decides how to live your best life!
4. He or she wants to decide the mood for both of you.
He or she will work hard to adjust any plans to be in control. And, they will sabotage things they don’t want to do. When he or she feels great, they expect you to feel the same. When he or she is feeling down, they expects you to be miserable. You don’t get to have a say in what you do with your time together because they remain firmly in control.
5. Your love will take steps to avoid being alone with you.
It’s hard for him to overcome jealousy. The underlying problem could be that you have both gotten into a boring intimacy pattern and he doesn’t want to admit it. You could spice things up and increase both of your libidos by trying something new, like taking tango lessons.
6. If you are in a really good mood, your partner cuts you down.
Or, he or she brings up something negative to change your mood. You know that positive thinking, especially daily meditation, will lower your stress levels. Even when you haven’t done anything wrong, he or she feels better about themself by bringing you down. This is because your love suffers from low self-esteem or another personal problem that has nothing to do with your relationship. Your partner is the jealous type, and his or her insecurities affect many of the days you spend together.
7. He or she resists your positive influences.
You can pray for your partner and think positive thoughts, but they must want to commit to change. You want them to overcome jealousy, but they enjoys being miserable. When you suggest taking a walk on the beach together, he or she says, “No, I’ll just stay home in my boxers and watch UFC. No fun today.”
8. To make you feel jealous, your partner pays attention to other people.
He or she often looks at them, flirts with them, and adds them to Facebook or Instagram. However, whenever this happens, you aren’t “allowed” to feel jealous. If you try it, they get livid.
9. He or she leaves the restaurant if you talk to another person.
Your partner doesn’t give you a chance to explain that you are reconnecting with a long-lost friend or a college study partner. Instead, they storm off, enraged that you know other people.
10. He or she makes up details about past relationships.
You hate this because your love does it in front of friends, colleagues, or members of the family. If he or she were not insecure, they wouldn’t judge you for the past. A significant other who loves you will not use anything you might have shared to embarrass you.
Decide if your special someone is a positive person in your life. Be honest with yourself. Examine this person’s recent behavior patterns. Oprah Winfrey once said, “I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.” If he or she treats you poorly most of the time, you can do better. You can choose to love yourself more and to set yourself free from this control problem. Wait for the partner who treats you right most of the time.