If you live in the West – say the United States or the U.K. – you know all too well people’s problems with managing finances. The savings rate is abysmal – something like 4.8% for Americans.

(It’s even less for Brits.)

Meanwhile, people in this part of the world have racked up trillions of dollars in credit card debt.  In 2017 alone, Americans charged over $92 billion to their credit cards. Over 60 percent have less than $1,000 in savings.

Think the problem is about not making enough money? Think again. While American families earning less than $25,000 per year have the most trouble saving, one in three households with an annual income of $50,000-$100,000 live paycheck to paycheck. One in four making over $150,000 (!) are in the same predicament.

How can we be this bad with money? What can explain such unsustainable and irrational behavior?

We might agree with the famous comment from Will Rogers, “Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”

Honestly, though, one saying applies throughout this entire article: “It’s not how much money you make; it’s how much you keep.” As you will see, your income is only a (small) part of the equation. The good news is that you can change your spending habits. Later, we will discuss twenty ways to have more control over your finances!

First, let’s talk about the psychology of finances (and spending!)

The Psychology of Finances (and Spending!)

Our subconscious mind drives our financial decision-making – this is why people have so much trouble altering their spending habits. Advertising and marketing companies make a lot of money exploiting the psychological processes that drive spending.

Can we flip the tables on these schemers? Yes! It all starts with understanding the rationale behind why we spend. With a basic understanding of consumer psychology, we can practice financial self-awareness. This powerful knowledge will assist you in recognizing and correcting bad habits you might have with your finances.

The psychology of spending can be broken down into seven parts: advertising, “Keeping Up with the Joneses,” of impulse buying, “But it’s a good deal!” of consumer therapy, loving money, and present bias.

The psychology of advertising:

As mentioned, advertisers and marketers make a living – a handsome living – out of knowing what makes consumers buy. Consciously, we know that sports drink won’t give us phenomenal abilities – but our unconscious doesn’t. That’s advertising in a nutshell.

The psychology of “Keeping Up with the Joneses”:

There’s a reason why many six-figure earners have little to no savings – and it’s called the “appearance of success.” It isn’t enough to be highly educated with a good job; now they must show everyone else. The problem, of course, is that they’re sacrificing financial independence for the sake of “social approval.”

The psychology of impulse buying:

Walk into any supermarket, and you’ll probably see one (or all!) of the following items near the checkout counters: candy, soda, “bargain” items, magazines, and electronic accessories. Supermarkets like Walmart and Target strategically place every item to increase the chance of its sale. (This is marketing psychology 101.)

The psychology of “But it’s a good deal!”:

We often use the “But it’s a good deal!” excuse to rationalize impulsive spending. Buying items on sale that you truly need or were planning to buy is smart shopping. However, it is essential to remember that every purchase has a cost – whether or not it’s a bargain. Try to keep the cost in mind, not just the savings. When that $100 pair of shoes is a “can’t miss” 75 percent off, you’re still spending 25 bucks.

The psychology of consumer therapy – and its impact on finances:

Studies show that the brain’s reward system goes haywire when we buy things. The neurochemical dopamine, associated with feelings of pleasure and excitement, spikes when we buy something on impulse. Of course, these feelings of bliss and excitement are transitory, giving way to guilt and low self-esteem.

The psychology of buying love with money:

A strange trend has developed since the advent of consumerism: the idea that money can buy or replace love. This absurd notion continues to increase, in large part to the epidemic of overwork prevalent in many developed countries. Can’t go to your son’s ballgame? Meh, stop and get him a new mitt. Forget your anniversary? Just charge that diamond necklace to your Sapphire card.

The psychology of present bias:

Another obstacle to circumvent on the way to financial sanity – the brain’s predisposition for instant gratification. As defined by behavioral psychologists, present bias is “the tendency of people to give stronger weight to payoffs that are closer to the present” than in the future. Here is an excellent example of present bias in the context of behavioral economics: waiting until the last minute to save for retirement.

Ask yourself these questions to help you make better financial decisions when shopping:

  • Have I given thought to purchasing this before I saw it just now?
  • Is this product available for a lower price elsewhere?
  • Will I feel happy about this purchase if I were to make it 48 hours from now?
  • Is this something that I need?
  • How often will I use this product or service?
  • Do I have something similar at home that I can use?
  • Do I feel calm and collected when I consider the purchase, or scattered and irrational?

20 Ways to Get Control of Your Finances

Now that we’ve discussed the psychology of money and spending, let’s go over 20 easy ways to get control of your finances!

1 – Get a jar

We’re going old school with this one. If you can, buy an old-fashioned mason jar (you can also buy a money-counting jar for like $5). Now, go on a change-scouring expedition. Any loose change and dollar bills go into this jar from now on. When you have a couple of bucks extra at the end of the day, put it in the change jar. The amount doesn’t matter; the idea is to help get your brain into the habit of saving.

2 – Track your spending and finances

Get a pen and piece of paper and carry it around with you for a week. Jot down every penny spent (don’t forget to write it down every time). At the end of the week, tally up the numbers. Where is your money going?

3 – Know your income

Sounds simple, right? You’d be surprised at how many people don’t know how much goes into their monthly bank accounts. You absolutely must know this amount by heart.

4 – Check your credit report

Millions of people have errors in their credit reports – which can cost you big time. Double- and triple-check the information on your credit report for any inaccuracy. Challenge any items that you do not recognize as legitimate. (You may need to research DIY credit repair.)

5 – Find a good savings account

As banks become more consolidated, finding a savings account that offers a decent interest rate becomes harder. However, there are some good ones. Ally Bank offers a 1.9% APY savings account, as does American Express.

6 – Sign up for direct deposit

If you haven’t already, sign up for direct deposit with your employer. Besides being super convenient, having your paycheck direct deposited allows you to see your earnings and spending trends over time.

7 – Clip coupons

Swallow your pride and sharpen your scissors. You can save some serious dough by clipping those coupons. Don’t you think saving a measly 30 cents on that jar of pickles is worth the effort? Assuming you shop for groceries once a week, cashing in just ONE 30-cent coupon each time would save you about $16 in only one year.

8 – Automate your savings

Most employers have a direct deposit system that allows you to allocate your net pay into one or more checking and savings accounts. Automating your savings is the best way to ensure you don’t squander it.

9 – Cut up your credit cards

Or, just keep one to help you build and maintain your credit score. Once you get into the habit of saving a bit of your paycheck each week, you’ll find that you don’t need to whip out that credit card nearly as often.

10 – Sell your car to improve your finances

Think about your car payment. Does it cause you undue stress and anxiety? Consider selling it and buying something cheaper. While you may not “look cool” (hint: nobody cares), you’ll enjoy the financial weight lifted off your shoulders. Furthermore, if you have an old car sitting in your yard, you may consider selling it.

11 – Cut out the fees that eat away at your finances

Fees are the devil, and boy, do they add up. Check with debit and credit card statements for any “miscellaneous fees” (ugh). Then, contact your financial institution(s) and inquire about waiving them. If they refuse, take your business elsewhere.

12 – Eat at home

Eating out may be the worst money-wasting habit of all. Besides making you fatter with that processed garbage, the markup on the raw product used by restaurants and fast food joints is ridiculous. (No, not even that super-delicious steak should cost $30.)

13 – Look for deals

With the market being as competitive as it is, there is no reason to pay the full price for anything. While you may feel the need to scratch your consumerist itch, exercising a bit of discipline and scouring the internet for a day or two can save you some serious cash – especially for big-ticket items.

14 – Pay yourself first

Pay yourself before you cut anyone a check (does anyone still use those?). Put five to 10 percent – or more – into your savings account. (If you’ve automated your savings, you already do this!)

15 – Go minimalist

Consumerism is a pointless, expensive, and, most of all, wasteful experiment. Minimalism isn’t about eating top ramen while watching your 18-inch black-and-white T.V. It’s about buying things you truly value and will use regularly. Please give it some thought.

16 – Give up control of the finances

Is your husband or wife better with money than you? If so, why are you still handling it? Stop being your own worst enemy and let them have the financial reins.

17 – Use a list

You should carry a written list when grocery shopping (or shopping for anything else with five or more items). Use this list. Get in and get out.

18 – Find a second (or third) source of income

While more money is rarely the panacea it’s made out to be, some extra money in the bank never hurts. The internet allows you to work at home part-time, from filling out surveys to freelancing. Another gig may be the cushion you need.

19 – Pay down your debt

While paying yourself first is Rule Number One, paying down your debt is still essential. Because interest accumulates fastest on the largest debt amount, this debt requires your attention first.

20 – Meditate about your finances

Huh? Wha–? Why is a meditation on here? Fair question – and here’s the answer: we are more prone to act irrationally when stressed, burned out, and so forth. The purpose of meditation is to quiet your mind. Another ancillary benefit to meditative practice: more joy in the here and now.


Final Thoughts on Gaining Control of Your Finances

Changing deeply entrenched financial habits requires attention, deliberate action, and willpower. In other words, establishing smart spending and saving habits requires that we be conscious consumers. Act with awareness. Don’t go on “autopilot,” especially when you are in a department store within arm’s reach of your wallet or purse.

Times are tough and will probably remain that way for the foreseeable future. While you’ll experience more than one bump in the road on the way to getting in control of your finances, there are few things more liberating than knowing you are no longer at the whim of those wishing to separate you from your hard-earned money!