Now that you’ve found your one true love, you want to ensure that you stay deeply connected and in love with your partner for as long as possible.

The Gottman Relationships Research Institute says that deep, intimate connections between couples are created ‘through hundreds of very ordinary, mundane moments in which they attempt to make emotional connections.’

These mundane moments are usually conversational in which one partner attempts to gain the attention of the other.

This research reinforces other studies by the Gottman Relationships Research Institute. Turning toward your partner when they ask for your attention is one of the fundamental keys to relationship success.

It makes a difference between demonstrating care for your spouse by giving them your attention versus disregarding them. Your partner’s internal emotional state is at stake when it’s your turn to listen.

Seven ThingsThat Deeply Connected Couples Do to Build Love and Trust in Their Relationships:


Building a strong relationship requires effort from both partners in a deeply connected and committed partnership. Here are some ways couples can build love, trust, and commitment in their relationship:

  1. Communication: Good communication is vital to any relationship. It is crucial for couples to openly and honestly communicate their feelings, thoughts, and needs.
  2. Quality time: Spending quality time together, whether it be going on a date, doing a hobby together, or simply just talking, can help strengthen the bond between partners.
  3. Acts of kindness: Small acts of kindness and thoughtfulness can go a long way in making your partner feel loved and appreciated.
  4. Trust-building activities: Engaging in activities that build trust, such as couples therapy, can help both partners feel more secure and connected.
  5. Honesty and transparency: Honesty and transparency are essential building blocks of trust in any relationship. Being truthful and open with your partner can help them trust you more.
  6. Shared goals and values: Having shared goals and values can bring a couple closer together and give them a sense of direction and purpose as a couple.
  7. Emotional support: Offering emotional support and being there for each other in good times and bad is crucial for building a solid and committed relationship.

Couples can create a solid and fulfilling relationship that lasts by putting in the effort to build love, trust, and commitment.

5 Habits of Deeply Connected Couples

Now let’s examine five habits of couples who share a deep connection.

1. Continuously learning about the other person

No matter how long you’ve been together, you can never really know another person. There will always be memories that your partner has that you cannot know. But you can get to know your partner more by asking deep questions.

Here are a few questions to ask your partner to get to know them more deeply:

  • What was your first experience with the death of a pet or loved one?
  • What was the happiest/saddest/most frightening moment of your childhood?
  • Where would you be, and what would you do if you never met me?
  • Why do you believe what you believe?
  • Who has been the most important influence on your life?
  • What are your goals for this year, and how can I help you achieve them?
  • How can I be a better partner to you?

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2. Sharing intimate knowledge of yourself

Invite your partner to learn about your personal and private aspects of yourself. Intimate knowledge shared with a partner can include ‘shared secrets, interpersonal rituals, bodily information, awareness of personal vulnerability and shared memory of embarrassing situations.’

Deeply connected partners have a shared language of endearment for each other or unique ways of touching each other that convey meaning or give pleasure to the other. Inside jokes, pet names, and playful teasing are ways that couples connect on an intimate level.

3. Positive interactions

Communication is a very important two-way street. In our article 5 Little Things That Will Improve Your Relationship, we mentioned two important parts of daily couple interaction – listening and play. Listening is a gift you give your partner when you are fully available to hear their words and the emotion behind it. Play is a choice that you make to have fun with your partner.

Both listening and play contribute to deeply connected couplehood. Imagine yourself not only being heard and understood on a meaningful level, but also having fun while interacting with your partner. You would feel happy, loved, and supported.

Active listening is a lost art. Rather than giving your partner half of your attention, face them and listen intently to what they are saying.

This is your beloved speaking to you. Please treat them with the compassion that you also deserve.

Deeply connected couples spread joy as often as possible to their partner. In a study of relationship health and longevity by the Gottman Relationships Research Institute, researchers found that using humor or affection during conflict was essential to the relationship’s health.

4. Shared philosophy

In our article 5 Signs You’re in a Spiritually Intimate Relationship, we discussed sharing the same outlook on life. You and your partner share a story about what is important to you.

When you tell others about your relationship, you talk about ideas, values, goals, and how you knew you were right for each other rather than your personality traits.

Deeply connected couples know that each person can change over their lifetimes. What rarely changes about a person are their deeply-held core beliefs.

Deeply connected couples share these beliefs, morals, and values, which enhances the depth of their relationship because they connect on a meaningful level.

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5. Reinforced commitment

Trust is one of the most critical factors for deeply connected couples. Connected partners take every opportunity to demonstrate to their spouses that they will protect their feelings. This demonstration of trust deepens their commitment to each other.

Betrayal is not in the language of committed couples. Each partner protects the boundaries of the other person. By keeping their partner’s intimate details secret, they demonstrate trust in their partner.

Deeply connected couples see every interaction with another person as an opportunity to betray or protect their partner and always choose to protect their other half.

Trust is not always about monogamy. Deeply connected couples care for their partner’s heart by refraining from paying extra attention to someone their partner might see as a romantic rival.