When you experience something upsetting, do you tend to hold in your feelings and try to hide them? Do you attempt to bottle up your emotions in favor of acting like you’re fine, even when you’re definitely not?
This kind of behavior can be very harmful to you, and it can make your life worse. There are better ways to go about dealing with complicated feelings than by repressing them. Here are 3 reasons you should never bottle up your emotions and ways to express yourself instead of keeping it all inside!
Why You Should Never Bottle Up Your Emotions
Keep this advice in mind.
A refusal to accept the negative emotions that you feel can actually cause them to become more overwhelming. When you repress those bad feelings, you’re not getting rid of them – just storing them further back in your head as they build and build unaddressed. They will come back to bite you later, or they may start bogging you down right away!
Studies have long found that expressing negative emotions may result in a more positive mental state. To reduce the impact of our worst feelings, voicing them openly and honestly (in the right situations, of course) can help reduce their severity and promote recovery from those feelings.
In terms of repressed emotions, the resulting strength increase in them can also cause:
· Increased Anxiety
The stress from the buildup of emotions may begin to take a toll on your stress levels, causing you to feel more anxious and uneasy.
· Mental Exhaustion
Dealing with overwhelming emotions that you don’t even realize are still affecting you can slowly but surely take a toll on your every move.
· Worsened Negativity
Whenever you experience a new bad emotion, you might feel them in a much more intense manner.
· Difficulty With Positive Thinking
Repressing emotions may cause that negativity to overwhelm you, leading to trouble being happy even in good times.
2. It Can Isolate You
People often worry that being open about emotions will cause others to dislike them. In reality, they should be worrying about it the other way around.
Even though people can’t read your mind, most have enough emotional intelligence and insightful empathy to subconsciously pick up negative emotions. People naturally, without thinking about it, move away from these kinds of “auras.”
Here are some specific ways that bottled-up emotions can isolate you:
· You Cut Yourself Off
Most people naturally start to cut people off – whether directly or indirectly – when they’re bottling up their feelings. You may think, “no one cares about me anyway,” and your behavior will let these thoughts seep through, leaving you lonely.
· You Lash Out
Bottling up emotions causes them to grow stronger, as we’ve already established. But you don’t know that, so you’ll act totally fine and normal until something triggers the release of those emotions. Then you’ll experience sudden outbursts over small issues, hurting those around you.
· You Are Uncomfortable Around People Who Are Struggling
Every human being experiences negative emotions, but when you’re bottling yours up, seeing other people healthily exhibit negative signs can make you nervous. You might even judge them, thinking that showing negative emotion is embarrassing.
· You Can Seem Two-Faced
Those who bottle up their emotions typically behave very differently by themselves than with others. While most wouldn’t notice this, those who catch on to these changes may view you as dishonest or not be trusted.
Being honest about your emotions can help make relationships stronger, not weaken them. Telling someone honestly and positively about how you feel can help rectify problems and grant them more insight into your moods and behavior.
3. Your Health Can Suffer
Emotional repression affects so much more than just your mental state and ability to maintain positive thinking or relationships. It can also genuinely take a toll on your physical health, and this has been studied and recorded for a long time. Here are some ways bottling things up might take a toll on your wellbeing:
· Digestive Trouble
You’re more likely to experience gut issues if you spend a lot of time dealing with negative emotions, especially if they involve stress, anxiety, and other similar problems.
· Unhealthy Weight Gain
The bottling up of emotion is often linked to poorer food and snacking choices, contributing to unhealthy forms of weight gain.
Regular headaches without any underlying health-related cause can often be traced back to emotional problems, including the chance you’ll bottle up your emotions.
· Decreased Lifespan
Due to the health issues caused by bottled up emotions, many people who repress their feelings experience a shorter lifespan overall.
· Cancer Risk
More studies are still needed to confirm this, but it’s worth noting that some evidence indicates that emotional repression may worsen the risk of cancer development.
· Bad Coping Mechanisms
To cope with the bottle-up feelings, you will have to turn to some methods that may not be the best for your health. This may include smoking, drinking, eating junk food, unsafe promiscuity, and substance abuse.
Use these methods to express yourself. Don’t bottle up your feelings.
The act of writing down your emotions sounds very simple, and yet few people realize just how much it can help them! Journaling, in particular, has been shown in multiple studies to have hugely positive results on overall mental and even physical health.