“Ten minutes with a genuine friend is better than years spent with anyone less.” – Crystal Woods
We all know that one person who just tells it like it is – the friend that is brutally honest with us and gives us the tough love we need to make it through the day. Blunt, according to the dictionary, means “uncompromisingly forthright”. We all know someone just like that. Why is it that everyone seems to have that one blunt friend? Well, according to sociology, people who are blunt actually make the best kinds of friends. Here are some of the reasons that blunt people make better friends than those who are less forthright.
Here Are 5 Reasons Why Blunt People Make The Best Friends
1. They tell it like it is
This means that they’re going to be honest with you, even when you don’t want to hear it. Blunt friends believe in telling “it as it is so people can deal with the very root of the situation,” says William B. Bradshaw, PhD.
That doesn’t mean they’re going to be cruel, though. Brutal, honest and tough love is about telling someone exactly what they need to hear, even if it isn’t what they want to hear. A blunt friend is never going to lie to you to try and spare your feelings. You know exactly what you’re getting, which means there will be less uncertainty in the friendship. You’ll always know when your blunt friend tells you something, it’s going to be the truth.
2. You’ll always know they want to be your friend
The best thing about blunt people is that they have no reason to pretend to be friends with someone that they don’t like. They also have no reason to lie about how they feel. A blunt person is going to tell you if they like you or not. So, when a blunt person has decided that they like you, you won’t ever have to second guess how they feel. They want to be your friend, and they’ll have no problem building a strong and lasting friendship with you.
3. They push you to be better
When it comes to other people’s shortcomings, most people find it hard to tell their friends what needs improving. This is usually due to a desire not to cause a rift in the friendship, or a desire not to hurt the other person’s feelings. Blunt people don’t have these same hang-ups. A blunt person is going to tell you exactly what you need to do to better yourself, and you’ll know that they mean it.
“When you surround yourself with friends like this, your life will completely change. You become more positive, driven, and focused on your priorities,” adds lifestyle and business expert Chalene Johnson. They’re the perfect person to go to when you’re looking for some honest feedback and criticism.
4. They’re not afraid to apologize
Admitting when you’re wrong can be difficult for some people. For blunt people, admitting they’re wrong is a lot easier. This is because they don’t have a problem telling other people when they’re wrong, so why should they have a problem admitting it themselves? Friendships with blunt people are usually free of the same kinds of arguments that happen in other relationships. Someone who is blunt will be willing to admit when they’re wrong and won’t be afraid to apologize for it.
5. They won’t let you get harmed
A blunt friend doesn’t put up with any kind of wrongdoings against themselves or against their friends. Because they’re not afraid to say what they mean, and mean what they say, a blunt person will be the first one in your corner when you need it. They’re going to be by your side and have your back, especially when you’re dealing with a stressful situation. If other people try to talk behind your back, your blunt friend is going to be the first one to step into the ring for you. They make the best friends because they’re not afraid to fight for their loved ones.
Human beings benefit from a variety of social interactions. We need a lot of different types of emotions and energy to keep our social lives healthy. Just as much as we need the person who is going to be kind and compassionate, we need the person who is going to be blunt and brutally honest. This is why sociologists agree that blunt people make the best kinds of friends. We need someone who will be in our corner, unconditionally. We also need people who will challenge us and make us be the best person we can be. Thankfully, people who are unapologetically blunt fill that role.