You’re Not an Introvert or Extrovert…Are You An Ambivert?

You’re Not an Introvert or Extrovert…Are You An Ambivert?



Have you ever heard of an ambivert? It’s a relatively new term that experts use to describe someone who falls between the category of an introvert and an extrovert. The personality comes with both positive and negatives, but gaining some knowledge will help you understand it better.

Understanding an Ambivert

Extroverts are the life of the party, while introverts need to be alone and have time to recharge their batteries. One prefers solitude while the other one wants people all around them. Well, the ambivert’s personality is a mixture of both.

The individual with this charisma isn’t as quiet as the introvert, but they’re not as loud or outgoing as the extrovert either. The range from introversion to extroversion has many facets, and it’s not always a straight line. Think of it as a personality that comes with many curves along the way.

You can’t always package people up into an excellent little category, as many folks will fall somewhere in the middle. When you’re riding the center lane, you’ll draw attributes from both sides, which means you have the best of both worlds.


Do You Think You Might Be An Ambivert?

So, how do you find out where you fall on the spectrum of personalities? An easy test is to ask yourself what you do when you come home after a hard day at work. Do you head straight to the club, a restaurant, or some other social engagement, or do you prefer to get into your pajamas and relax in solitude?

Maybe you want to sit on your porch or take a walk in nature as you destress from the day. Now, from these analogies, the extrovert is the one that has a hopping social life and prefers to be with people. However, the introvert wants to be alone and doesn’t need stimulation from other folks.

However, the ambivert falls right in-between or in the cracks. Sometimes they like to go out and socialize, but they don’t want too much of a good thing. Other times, they like to be alone with their thoughts and to have time to reflect. Their mood dictates what they will do that night and which personality type they will nurture.

The Hardwired Brain

Each brain consists of a hardwired system that affects how someone will respond to stimuli. Did you know that as a baby, the hardwiring is already in place? Think about all the babies you’ve encountered.

Some of them love to be cuddled and hugged and be the center of attention, while others are content to be alone in their swing, cooing away. No one showed these children how to act, but it was hardwired in their brains from birth. You often hear mothers describe their babies as either “good” or a “handful.”

Some children are very content and learn to self-soothe from an early age, while others need constant stimulation from their parents. Is it possible that being your personality is determined before anything happens to you in life? The extrovert needs that activity from external stimulation, but the introvert does most of their internal processing.


According to Laurie Helgoe, Ph.D., at The Ross University of Medicine, one personality turns inward, while the other turns outward.

Seven Key Indicators That You Might Be An Ambivert

If you’re still not sure where you fit on the personality spectrum, there are a few ways that can help you decide. Here are common characteristics of the ambivert that you might be able to identify.

1. Focused and Not Easily Distracted

Unlike the extrovert, external stimuli don’t bother the person who rides the middle of the curve. A study was conducted in Malaysia and published by the International Journal of Science. They want to see how this personality type is measured when it came to brain response.

They found that their focus and ability to stay on task were remarkable. The brain scans proved that most of the responses were coming from the front area of their brains, which is why they reacted the way they did.

2. Flexible Enough To Roll With the Punches

Another characteristic of this personality is that you can act either like an introvert or an extrovert, depending on the situation. You can chat with employees while riding an elevator, but the difference is that you’re listening to every word they say and carefully analyzing it. Think of it like flipping a light switch; you know which personality characteristics to bring out when the situation warrants.

Having a personality that balances in the middle means that you can adjust to various people and places. Many people wrongly think that introverts lack social skills or emotional intelligence, but they can be quite charming. The difference is they prefer to step back and observe more than speak.

Paulette Kouffman Sherman, Psy.D., says this about ambiverts in her relaxation guide, The Book of Sacred Baths:


“Ambiverts can get energy from being with people and from being alone and they can be self-reflective in situations and also work things through by talking with others.”

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3. Very Persuasive

Did you know that the ambivert is an ideal sales professional? They make way more money than the introvert and extrovert combined. Why are they so good at this kind of career?

For starters, they are listening to your needs and wants before you tell them. They’re very in-tune with their customers, so they want to find the product that makes your life better. They want to make a sale, but customer satisfaction is a big priority.

To be a good salesperson, you need to know how to be enthusiastic and listen to the customer’s needs. In fact, Psychological Science, a psychology journal, published a study noting how this gift of persuasion translates to a fruitful sales career for many ambiverts.

Study author, Adam M. Grant, with the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, stated the following:

“…ambiverts are likely to express sufficient assertiveness and enthusiasm to persuade and close a sale but are more inclined to listen to customers’ interests and less vulnerable to appearing too excited or overconfident.”

4. Standing up for Yourself

Many people think that the introvert is shy and won’t speak in public, which is not valid. They will speak in public only after they’ve determined they absolutely must, and they’ve connected all the dots. Sadly, they can often become paralyzed by the analysis they feel needs to be done.

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