At this point in your life, you probably know if you’re a sensitive person. The truth is that the majority of us are sensitive about something to varying degrees.
Different personality traits provide some insight into ‘sensitivity.’ For example, in her internationally bestselling book, The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine Aron defines a population of individuals who possess an “increased sensitivity to stimulation,” and who are “more aware of the subtleties and process information in a deeper, more reflecting way.”
Dr. Aron’s work was the byproduct of widespread misunderstanding of sensory processing sensitivity, or SPS for short. This trait, above all others, helps to define a highly sensitive person. Aron and her colleagues discovered that about 15 to 20 percent of the world’s population experiences high levels of SPS.
Before Dr. Aron’s groundbreaking work, researchers had repeatedly linked high SPS to adverse outcomes and personality disorders (PD). Aron debunked the PD theory using rigorous research. Other researchers soon followed her lead, attributing SPS to both positive and negative experiences and outcomes.
A Deep Misunderstanding
Dr. Aron wrote her book in 1996; over 20 years later, many parts of society continues to place a stigma on the sensitive individual. They’re (incorrectly) labeled “weak,” “neurotic,” and “insecure.” The problem with this mislabeling is two-fold.
First, this mislabeling is categorically false. Some of the best and strongest leaders in history: Jesus, Buddha, Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, and others were sensitive to many things, and steadfastly remained committed to their ideals.
Second, this falsehood negatively affects the self-esteem and ability of many empaths – people who our world desperately needs now more than ever.
This focus of this article is to equip empaths with useful strategies to overcome society’s ignorance and correct any self-realized deficiencies.
Without further delay, here are five self-care strategies for sensitive people:
“Some people are far more cognizant than others; but sensitivity has its own cross to bear and ample insight, in many cases, can bring on disquietude.” – Donna Lynn Hope
1. Don’t take things personally
If someone is directing some incoherent rant your way, you may feel a bit hurt. Here’s the deal: people who experience problems in life – and don’t know how to solve them constructively – often, consciously or not, take it out on others.
We see this with irritated co-workers, who seem mad at the world, quickly leaping at the opportunity to voice their irritation onto someone else. They are redirecting their anger and frustration as a (counterproductive) coping mechanism.
Unless their anger is justified, e.g., they’re your boss, and you made a critical mistake; there is no reason to carry this emotional burden. Mindfully take ten deep breaths, relax your body and continue on.
2. Make the right choices
You may be thinking “Gee, ‘make the right choices,’ thanks. Great advice.” Please hear me out.
I’m dropping the writing formalities here.
I’ve been there. I’ve dealt with anxiety, oversensitivity, and have been berated by people from my family to my managers. (In my case, it was an underlying psychological condition.)
As a sensitive person, perhaps you (like me) have allowed anxiety or sensitivity to supersede your judgement. It is easy to do this. High cognitive and emotional sensitivity can obstruct the decision-making process – this impediment can be detrimental.
So, try to make the best choices by using your logic and disabling your sensitive side for a bit. You’ll be much more satisfied and less stressed as a result.
3. Treat yourself well
The ironic thing about some sensitive people is that they’re unkind to themselves. They’ll treat everyone else as the center of the Universe, but they’ll neglect self-care. The pattern of overthinking can explain part of this conundrum.
As mentioned during the introduction, sensitive people are susceptible to sensory overload. This overload manifests into a pattern of overanalyzing things. This leaves empaths and other sensitives vulnerable to exhaustion, depression, and intense anxiety.
What worked for this writer: exercise, focusing on work (see #5), supplements, a good diet, meditation, and beta blockers (relieves hypertension).
Remember, we need you. But we also need the best version of you. Please treat yourself well.