When you are in a relationship for a long time, you get to know your partner so well and you are so comfortable, that both of you can sit next to each other without feeling the need to fill the silence with chatter or idle messages. We fall into habits, we say “Good morning.” How was your day?” “What would you like to eat for dinner?” by memory.
It is like we have our own little script from day to day. But, there are some special messages you should make sure you send everyday.
We all want our significant other to send us messages that make us smile and make our hearts open up to joy. However, not all of them have to be a Pablo Neruda poem:
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
Here are 3 messages you should send to your partner everyday as a reminder that they are appreciated:
1. “Good Morning, Gorgeous!”
Make sure you let your partner know that you still find them attractive. Sometimes this is all a person needs to make it through a busy and stressful day. Most of us are concerned with how we look and feel everyday. This is especially true as we get older and it becomes harder to find time for the gym or a walk with busy schedules and the exhaustion that comes with it.
To have our partner affirm that we are still attractive to them can banish the negative thoughts we have about our bodies for awhile. And, who doesn’t like to feel wanted and needed? Who doesn’t like to feel a little sexy? There is nothing sweeter than the reminder that we are still beautiful in the eyes of our beloved.
No matter if it’s been 10 days or 40 years, we all want to feel special.
2. “Wonder Twin Powers Activate!”
If you don’t get the Wonder Twin reference, Google it. It doesn’t have to be this exact phrase as long as it is silly, goofy, nostalgic, funny and, most importantly, an inside joke just between the two of you. Also, change it up and don’t use the same phrase every day. Be creative. It says to your partner that you are thinking of them and that you are in a good mood. People in good moods are contagious to others, especially your partner. Even if you are in a crappy mood, fake it till you feel it.
It also says that you are in this together and can conquer any challenges as a team. After all, it is the two of you against the world. Humor ignites the beautiful energy of positivity.
Author Tina Tessina, of How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free says:
“If you’re really interested in making your relationship work, little rituals are a great way to do it. Every marriage has what I call a relationship reservoir, or the stored-up emotional energy of the relationship. And although these daily habits are all very simple things, they help fill that reservoir. When there’s a lot of positive energy there, you give each other a little pat on the butt or say, “I’m so glad I’m sharing my life with you,” and you’re storing it up. Then when the relationship is under stress, you’ll have the energy you need to get through.”
3. “I Am Grateful For Having You In My Life.”
Everyone wants to feel that what they do is appreciated by those they do it for. Your partner is no exception, and making sure they know just how grateful you are everyday can ease their daily stress. It gives them a purpose, an answer to the question. Why am I doing this? Indeed, it serves a reminder, from your family, that what you do everyday matters to them and is appreciated. It can really lighten your load when you are feeling burdened by life’s hardships.
There is nothing worse than an ungrateful person, and letting your partner know they are appreciated can prevent feelings of resentment or bitterness at having to work long hard hours, be away from home on business, or work a stressful job. You are giving your partner a sense of relief with those simple sweet words.
The messages are really unimportant as long as you are letting your partner know that they are loved, appreciated and still bring joy and humor into each others lives. Making sure you let your partner know these things every single day can make a relationship last even through tough times.
Your partner will know you have their back, that you are a team, and even in the toughest times you can still laugh and joke around with each other. After all, laughter is the best medicine!