Dealing with a breakup can turn your world upside down and disrupt your comfortable life. It can leave you feeling confused, rejected, and apprehensive about the future. However, you can always get through this challenging phase. While you might not see it clearly now, as people say, there’s still sunshine after the rain.
Here are some ways to deal with a breakup, based on experts’ advice:
Here Are 10 Ways to Deal with A Breakup, According to Psychology
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” – Dalai Lama
1. Cry it all out
Go ahead and cry your eyes out. You’re in grief and you need to release this emotion in your system. A good cry can be self-soothing and makes you feel better, according to a study in Frontiers of Psychology, so don’t deny yourself this natural reaction. However, don’t make a habit of it either, as wallowing in sadness can temporarily disable you emotionally. Dwelling on negative emotions might make it so that you cannot function or concentrate in your daily routines.
2. Reconnect with your friends
While you might want to close off and be alone after a breakup, it might actually help to reach out and reconnect with your friends. You need a support system to get through this phase. According to psychologists in an interview on Inside Edition, talking about your feelings and emotions with your closest friends can be a self-reflective process. You might learn new things about yourself, figure out any mistakes you’ve made, and find a way not to repeat the same actions in your life.
3. Take a breather
Some people deal with a breakup by becoming workaholics or by drowning themselves in activities to help take their mind off a painful episode. However, you might easily tire yourself out if, in your heart, you’re not ready to take on new things in your life. The best thing to do is take a breather before you head back into the pond. By assessing your feelings and situation, you’ll make your recovery easier.
4. Get back to the gym
A breakup is a stressful experience, but exercise can do wonders for your body and mind. It’s a stress reliever, according to Psychology Today. Working out releases endorphins – in other words, chemicals that trigger the happy hormones. You’re likely to feel more positive about yourself if you exercise regularly. Another study in the journal Psychological Science showed that a breakup could impact your heart rate so you might feel more tired and exhausted. Doing exercises, however, can give your body more energy.
5. Eat right
Some people lose a lot of weight due to the emotional stress; however, others try to go on a breakup diet as revenge on their ex. The thing is, you’ll only end up punishing yourself if you don’t eat right. You would only be denying your body the nutrition it needs. Additionally, if your main goal for the diet is revenge, you would just be reinforcing that you got rejected. Don’t use food as a means to cope with a breakup.
6. Do the things you love
A study in the Journal of Neuroscience revealed that people can get over a breakup better if they do the things they love to do. This will often help them manage their feelings. The study highlighted that when people embraced the positive aspects of the things they experience, they can heal from a breakup faster. It doesn’t matter what this activity is. If a person believes it is a remedy, then there’s a big chance that it will really help him.
7. Channel bad thoughts and feelings into productive pursuits
If bad memories crop up, write them in a journal. If you’re getting the urge to call your ex, take a walk or go to the gym to exercise. If you get the triggers, acknowledge your pain and try meditating. Use your energy to do something productive instead of beating yourself up for the breakup.
8. Take charge of your life
The agony of a breakup is truly painful and can lead to depression, loss of appetite, and stress, according to research from experts at Virginia Commonwealth University. You’ll likely be in deep grief for two weeks and have bouts of sadness for at least the next three months. But if you used to rely on your partner for certain things, you need to start doing these yourself to get your life back on track. When you begin taking charge of your life, you’ll realize you can be okay on your own.
9. Seek a therapist
You might need to seek professional help. If the depression becomes crippling, it’s a sign that you’re not handling the breakup in a healthy manner. In such a case, you need some expert intervention that can help you process your grief better. Although a stigma may exist about seeking help from a therapist, it’s not a sign of weakness. In fact, you’re actually lot stronger for acknowledging that you can’t deal with the breakup alone.
10. Believe it will be okay
By practicing positive thinking and having a grateful attitude, you will be okay after a breakup. Keep reminding yourself that when you’re down, there’s nowhere else to go but up. The pain of a breakup isn’t permanent, and you can still find love again.
You might feel that your world has crumbled when a relationship ends. But when the dust settles, you’ll realize that you can start rebuilding yourself and your new life. It might be different, but you can look forward to having new experiences that will hopefully change your life for the better.