To love an Aquarius is to love someone who is as changeable as the liquid that this water-bearer pours without end. When your partner is an Aquarius, you would be smart to learn the 10 most important things to know about how to best love your Aquarian.

10 Things You Need to Know About Loving An Aquarius

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1. Aquarius has emotions that run as deep as a puddle

The image of Aquarius is of a water-bearer who pours water from a bottomless vessel into a river or sea that also seems to be never-ending. With all that water around, there is bound to be a corresponding amount of tears that flow from the eyes of your love, right?

Actually, no, that’s a common misconception about Aquarius. They actually don’t tend to be very emotional, but they do have an earnest love for you. Fortunately, you’ll never have to wonder how Aquarius feels, because they will just come out and tell you, if you ask. And then they will be brief about it. Now knock off the touchy-feely stuff or you will make your Aquarian lover uncomfortable.

2. Aquarius is an ideal lover

The Aquarian lover is idealistic. They have lofty standards and if they have chosen you, it means that you live up to their ideal. Lucky you. Your Aquarius is a choosy lover who knows exactly what they are looking for in a perfect mate. You can read about compatibility and astrological signs in our article What Does Your Sun Sign Reveal About Your Personality?

3. Aquarius has their own unique style

You won’t think that your Aquarius is like any other lover you’ve had because Aquarius prides themselves on being special. They want to be the one and only person on the planet who does that one thing that you like. Make them feel unique and that will be a great way to show your Aquarius that you love them.

4. Aquarius wants freedom AND commitment

Your Aquarian lover will want the freedom to express themselves and live life on their own terms, but they also expect your eternal, undying, devoted commitment. They don’t want freedom from a monogamous relationship but they sure don’t want to be tied down and controlled either.

5. Aquarius wants to learn from you

The thirst for knowledge is never going to be quenched by all that water that your Aquarius is carrying around. If you can teach them something new and hold their interest with a lifetime of continued exploration and learning, they will love you for loving their brain.

Although Aquarius carries water as a symbol, they are actually an air sign. As a sign of the air, they value intellect and the pursuits of the mind above all else. Stroke your Aquarian’s libido by playing to their love of words. Show your love by reading or writing a poem.

6. Keep it interesting to keep an Aquarius

Aquarius likes a challenge and they hate a routine. Do not use one and only one position in bed with your Aquarius or they won’t be loving you for long.

7. Your Aquarius might need help connecting

Because they are unemotional, Aquarius needs you to know that they just have a hard time with feelings and as a result, they know what they need but saying emotion words is hard for them. Can’t you just read their mind and see that they really need a hug right now? Don’t make them come out and ask for it.

Oddly enough, Aquarius can get lonely because they do such a good job at shutting off emotional connections to others. This is true not just with you, their partner, but with friendships as well.

8. Talk dirty to your Aquarius

Again, you need to know that your Aquarius finds the brain sexy so show your love by flipping that passionate mind-switch in their heads. Aquarians love to talk and they will return the favor to keep their information-loving brains engorged.

9. Be mysterious, confident and a bit unavailable

Loving an Aquarius requires the realization that you can never fully possess that which you love. To hold the attention of an Aquarian lover, you can’t be overly available. Project confidence and a bit of aloofness around your Aquarian.

Disappear one night a week and tell them that you have a ‘thing’ to go to. This one tiny bit of mystery will drive your Aquarius insane with wanting to know all about what you are doing without them. What could possibly be so interesting as to tear you away from them?

10. If you love an Aquarius, set them free

Don’t worry, Aquarius doesn’t want to stray but they dislike the bondage of a tight grip on their freedom. If you tell your Aquarius that they can do whatever they want to, they will just be so happy to have their freedom that they will never use it.

Read about what 2016 holds for your sign and the sign of your partner in our guide What Does Your Zodiac Reveal for 2016?