People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime; it’s the same with situations in life, too. If there is one constant, it is change. But how do you know when it’s finally time to break from the past and move on living your happiest life?
To be our happiest, best self, we must be able to let go… let go of past hurts, past relationships that didn’t work, and most importantly, of the blame we put on ourselves in most every situation.
Here are 10 signs it is time to let go and live happily:
1) When fear of change or the unknown stops you from taking advantage of new opportunities.
When we are living in our fear-based mind, we resist change, even those opportunities that could propel us toward the happiness we seek. Let go of that fear and get out there!
2) You’ve lost the excitement for things that used to light you up.
Sometimes, when we are stuck in negative thinking patterns, we feel numb to all those things we used to love and enjoy doing.
3) When you talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk.
If you say you know what you want and need to do to achieve that life you dream of, but consistently find yourself not acting, or doing the opposite, this is a sure sign.
4) There is something that your heart tells you you want to do, but you resist it.
If there’s something you have always wanted to do, and your mind wanders frequently into daydreams about it, this is a definite sign you are ready to let go of the past and move on. Don’t let fear stop you in your tracks.
5) When you feel stuck in a rut, or as if you have settled for less than you want.
There may be no more obvious sign than this. When your life feels completely stuck in a rut, or the pangs of having settled for less than what you want and deserve plague you, it’s time to do some soul-searching and let go.
6) Your relationships feel lackluster, unfulfilling, or stale.
We are the sum of the people we surround ourselves with. Who surrounds you? Does your circle lift you up? Do they support, encourage, and have your back? Do they fan your flames, or do they douse your fire?
7) You spend more time daydreaming about how things “should” be, rather than making any progress and enjoying the here and now.
Much of our own suffering comes from the expectations of how we believe things “should” be, rather than accepting and working with things as they are. Look inside; is your soul searching for something you don’t have yet? If so, what’s stopping you from going after it?
8) You feel lost, confused, or unsure.
When even the simplest decisions and choices feel monumental, or confusion is the general rule of the day, this is a definite sign you are ready for a change and ready to move onto the next happier phase of your life.
9) You feel like a fake or a fraud.
This one is closely tied to 3 above. When you know what you need and want to do, but don’t – or worse, unconsciously sabotage yourself – you can begin to feel like a fraud or a phony.
10) You know in the deepest, darkest part of your heart what you truly desire, but are too scared to do anything about it, or even tell anyone.
We all have our own unique, specific calling in this lifetime. If your heart and soul is urging you to do something you’ve always wanted to do, but you find yourself in resistance and fear, perhaps that is exactly what you need to be doing to move forward into your happiest and best life.
We all know holding onto the past isn’t healthy, but it can still be hard to let go. If you recognize yourself in any of the above, you owe it to yourself to take a good hard look at what it is you truly desire. Are you living your best life? If not, why? Examine what is holding you back. Get curious; ask yourself questions about why you can’t seem to let go of past hurts. Often, the familiar discomfort or pain of what we know seems easier than the potential discomfort of the unknown.
You are meant to be brilliant and shine in this life. You have your own unique gifts and calling, and all the rest of us in the world are waiting to hear from you. If your soul is urging you, listen to it; it already knows what you need to do.