Being in a relationship can be the most incredible thing, but the tide can quickly change for a couple, especially if they’ve been together for a few years. But how do you know if your relationship is just in a rough patch or if your issues are serious? Take a look at some signs that your partner might be falling out of love with you.
Here Are 10 Signs Your Partner Is Falling Out of Love (And Not Telling You)
“How do you know when it’s over? Maybe when you feel more in love with your memories than with the person standing in front of you.” – Gunnar Ardelius
1. They hardly spend time with you.
Spending time alone is necessary. You need to pursue your own interests even if you’re in a relationship. But if your partner hardly makes any effort to spend time with you, it could be red flag. It may indicate that they’re falling out of love. A study from the University of Minnesota has shown that couples are a lot happier as individual people when they make time for each other. They are a lot more satisfied with life in general when they are able to grow individually as a person, yet at the same time spend quality time together. If this is lacking in your relationships, it could affect your positive outlook in life.
2. They don’t ask about your day.
Can you remember the last time your partner asked about your day? Have you stopped discussing things like movies, current events, or the bar that recently opened around the corner? If you have not been talking about the daily grind as much as before, it could be a sign your partner is no longer interested in doing things with you. If he doesn’t bother to ask about the mundane things, you’ve got to wonder if he’s still concerned about important matters in your relationship.
3. There’s a failure to communicate.
You don’t want to jump to conclusions about why he’s not interested in asking about your day. Of course, you don’t want to immediately think he’s falling out of love with you. So, you initiate a serious talk about what’s really going on, but you realize that communication is no longer fluid between the two of you. He’s having a hard time opening up and he’s becoming defensive, while you’re unloading your frustrations on him. Poor communication is one of the biggest reasons couples breakup and seek a divorce, according to a survey done by University of Washington professor John Gottman.
4. There’s no more intimacy.
There’s no more spark in the bedroom and you don’t hold hands in public anymore. The physical connection has faded. Intimacy, however, involves more than a physical connection; it also considers the emotional connection. If you can’t remember the last time you had deep discussions about your life together, there could be something seriously wrong with your relationship that could lead to a divorce.
5. There’s nothing BUT physical intimacy.
On the flip side, your physical chemistry in the bedroom might still be amazing but what if it’s the only thing you share together? Outside of the bedroom, your partner is distant and you no longer connect. This likely indicates someone falling out of love because there’s no more emotional value in the relationship except the physical aspect.
6. Their priorities have changed.
You were once the center of her universe and she always considered you in most of the decisions she makes every day. But if that is no longer the case now and you’re no longer the top priority, then it’s a sign that she’s not into you anymore.
7. There’s no more laughter in your relationship.
In the beginning, you used to do so much crazy stuff together. He used to crack you up or she used to laugh at anything you said (even if your jokes are corny). It’s not a good sign when the laughter has died down in your relationship, according to Enda Junkins, who wrote the book “Belly Laughter in Relationships: Something Else Positive Below the Belt.” When partners no longer share fun and joy, it could indicate they are not satisfied with the relationship anymore.
8. Your fights are becoming more intense.
Disagreements happen even between the happiest couples but when fights become more intense, then a breakup and a divorce may be imminent. When couples argue over the same things or can’t seem to let go of the small disagreements, then there are unresolved core issues in the relationship, according to family therapist Talia Wagner. Unresolved issues can grow into resentment or anger that wrecks your relationship, leading to a breakup.
9. There’s no more respect.
Respect is more important than love in relationships, according to psychologist Peter Gray. Without respect, your partner could belittle you, disregard your opinions, or question your choices. Someone who takes you for granted and has stopped saying positive things to you isn’t just showing signs that the love is no longer there. It’s also a sign of disrespect, and this is unhealthy for any relationship.