Unfortunately, not everyone is worthy of our love, regardless of how we would like life to be. We can give the wrong person millions of chances, hoping they will learn to earn our love, but they never do. And most of us have been in that situation at least once.
You have probably tried to keep someone even if you knew they don’t deserve it. You have probably fallen for the wrong person more than you can count. But over and over again, you have gotten hurt. No matter what stories and movies tell us, love doesn’t conquer everything. Unfortunately, love has limitations, especially if you want to keep that person in your life for a long time.
And the idea of having to pick and choose who to give your love to might seem forced and fake. But it’s a reality of life. You won’t be able to get along with everyone, and that’s ok. The faster you learn that the better off you’ll be.
5 Behaviors That Reveal Someone Is Worthy of Your Love
When you learn to keep only the people worthy of your love in your life, you’ll finally experience fulfillment.
1. A Worthy Partner Will Respect You
Whether we’re talking about romantic or platonic relationships, respect is integral. No relationship is healthy and stable without mutual respect. The issue is that some people aren’t willing to show it. Or maybe they just don’t know-how. So, you risk ending up respecting someone who will never reciprocate.
This can only lead to grief and disappointment. Your opinions, accomplishments, wants, and the other person will neglect needs. Maybe you can get used to some lack of respect from your family, though that’s also toxic. But not having the respect of your friends or your partner is bound to crush you.
By now, you’ve probably put two and two together and figured that someone worthy of your love would respect you. Having people in your life who can treat you like an equal is very valuable. You probably assume that respect is something that the people around you always give. But you’d be surprised just how selfish and arrogant people can be.
Many people you’ll meet will think of themselves better than the ones around them. Or they’ll be extremely competitive and unwilling to see anyone else succeed. Because of our society, people have become increasingly more individualistic. This has prompted them to think they’re competing with everyone around them. So, they become mean and disrespectful.
If you give your love to these people, you’ll constantly have to defend yourself against their attacks. They’ll question your intelligence, morals, and opinions. They’ll act like everything you do is wrong or stupid. Instead of uplifting you, they’ll put you down. So, if you want to find worthy people, make sure they respect you. If they listen to what you have to say and they want to see you succeed, they’re a keeper.
2. They Are Supportive
We all know people we get along with fine, but there’s no real connection. Maybe we even like them, but they’re people who wouldn’t show up when you need them the most. For one reason or another, some people are not supportive of others. In most cases, people don’t want to spend their time helping others. This can be because they lack empathy or don’t care about you as they should.
When you start a new relationship, it’s essential to see how willing to be supportive they are. This is a way to determine how worthy they are and if you should put effort into the relationship. When someone is truly supportive, they help you without asking. They’ll always make an effort to pay attention to how you act and how well you’re doing.
Acquaintances and people who aren’t worthy of your love won’t do that. Even if you are in trouble, they’ll make up a reason as to why they can’t help you. At most, they’ll comfort you for a few minutes out of complacency. But they’ll never go out of their way to ensure you’re ok. You’ll always feel lonely if these are the people you have in your life.
You’ll struggle to get through rough patches in your life. You need to learn to love people who will be there for you no matter what. If someone goes to any length necessary to help you out, they are worthy of your love.
3. A Worthy Partner Solves Problems Instead of Starting Fights
There’s a narrative in society that love is passion, and that means fighting, crying, and suffering are part of the package. Because we make people believe this, they are more likely to accept toxic people in their life. Whenever someone you love starts a fight, you might be tempted to find excuses and say they’re just passionate. But that’s not an excusable behavior. Someone worthy of your love wouldn’t treat you that way.
Instead, the people who are worthy of being in your life are the ones who strive to solve issues. Let’s get one thing straight: people are bound to disagree sometimes. The problem is not that they oppose it. They don’t know how to handle disagreements and often get into insane fights. Many people don’t know how to handle when they make mistakes or how to diffuse tense situations. When faced with an issue, they tend to get defensive and cagey.
Instead of being calm, they try to throw all the blame on you. Even worse, they might start fights just for the sake of it. A worthy and valuable person will not do that. They understand that your relationship is more important than feeling like they can get the upper hand. They’ll do their best to stay calm and talk things through. They will aim to understand how they hurt you or to convey how you hurt them. They’ll take accountability for their actions and respect your boundaries.
4. They Want to Know Who You Are
In this world, there are many relationships in which people act selfishly. Some people make friends for the sole purpose of having someone to vent to. They want you to make an effort without them having to do the same. They want someone who follows them around and listens to all of their problems but won’t do the same.
All this means they are not interested in getting to know you. This is something to look out for, especially in new relationships. If the conversation is always about them but never about you. Someone worthy of your love will try to get to know the real you. And they don’t do it out of a sense of duty.
They do it because they genuinely like you and want to know all there is to know about you. In doing this, they can create deeper connections with you. More importantly, they don’t just want to know the good parts. They want to know everything, even the dark parts of you. They embrace you even if you are broken or scarred.
This is how you know that someone cares about you. Such a person will learn how to act around you no matter your mood. They’ll see how you like your coffee or what to get you for your birthday. You’ll never feel neglected in the presence of someone like this.
5. They Make Sacrifices for You (the Ultimate Sign of Respect)
One of the most evident signs that someone genuinely cares about you is when they are willing to make sacrifices. After all, every healthy relationship depends on people’s ability to compromise. No matter how similar they might be, two people will always have different desires in life. If two people have been together for a long time, and one gets a job offer in another state, the couple faces a choice.
Either they come to an agreement and compromise, or they break up. In some cases, it might be true that breaking up is the best option. But ideally, they would be able to make things work. Maybe they try long-distance, or one moves to support the other’s new career. These are the kinds of decisions people need to be able to make together. And that’s why compromise is so necessary.
Some people you’ll meet will be the type of people who are unwilling to sacrifice anything. They will only do what’s best for them without considering what others feel. They’ll even try to force you to make the decisions that favor them. And we’re not just talking about big decisions.
We’re even talking about not being willing to compromise about where to eat. If they can’t even sacrifice for something that small, they’ll never do it for things that matter. It’s not worth waiting around for people like these, no matter how nice they seem. In the long run, you’ll only end up getting hurt.
Final Thoughts on Behaviors That Reveal Someone Is Worthy of Your Love
Everyone wants to find people they can love and cherish. But not everyone you come across will be worthy of your efforts. Sometimes, you need to let go of the people who take more than they give. But the best thing you can do is approach new relationships with care. Don’t just give your love to anyone you meet.
Take your time to analyze a person before you become emotionally involved. When you meet new people, you need to make sure they can bring value to your life. They need to respect and support you. Healthy love is only possible when you can treat each other as equals. Give your love to people willing to be calm and talk through your problems.
Or to the people who can make sacrifices for the sake of you and your relationship. But, most importantly, be around people who genuinely want to know who you are. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Take your time and let people prove they are worthy before you give them your love.