Holding on to relationships that make you unhappy won’t be good for your well-being. Yes, you used to value that person in your life, but if that person is becoming a big burden, then the toxicity will slowly kill your sanity and even hinder positive thinking. Letting go of toxic people could be the best thing you can do. It might sound harsh, but you will be a better person for it. Some good things can happen when you get toxic people out of your life.
“There’s folks you just don’t need. You’re better off without em’. Your life is just a little better because they ain’t in it.” – William Gay
Here Are 10 Things That Will Change When You Get Toxic People Out of Your Life
1. Your life will not be over.
It’s hard to let go of someone with whom you’ve shared a long history and that’s understandable. It might even be hard to imagine your life without this person because of your shared moments, so how could you cut them out, right? While moving on from toxic people can be hard and painful, know that your life will go on. You’ll soon realize that without them, more doors of opportunity will actually open, and like a Phoenix, you can rebuild your life after this loss.
2. You’ll be rid of the drama.
Toxic people love drama and like to involve people in it, psychotherapist Jodie Gale says. You might have willingly offered sympathy and support to them before because of what they mean to you. You might have even dished out some advice because you care for their welfare. But they likely brushed your advice off. Toxic people, unfortunately, don’t want solutions to their problems, despite your intentions to help them. Once they are gone from your life, you’re no longer affected by their drama. You’re no longer fighting their never-ending battles with themselves and with other people. You’re free from the arguments, too.
3. You won’t feel stressed out.
Toxic people are also called emotional vampires because they can bleed you dry. They can be manipulative and bring you down with them, because of their pessimism, their criticisms, and their tendency to talking bad about other people. Being with a toxic person who always keeps you on the edge isn’t a healthy way to live. In fact, the stress of dealing with them can actually wreck your brain cells, according to experts from Germany’s Friedrich Schiller University. Without them, however, you’ll find your stress levels going down because you have controlled the chaos and blocked off the poison that’s draining you.
4. You’ll gain more energy.
After staying in a relationship with an emotional moocher, you’ll find that you will have more energy to pursue other interesting things. Stuff that you wanted to try out before but couldn’t because you had been convinced it was worthless. Because of your renewed optimism and regained positivity, your zest for life will return. You’ll have time to focus on and do other things.
5. You’ll enjoy life more.
When you’ve finally escaped the negativity, you’ll pursue life with hope. Even failures or disappointments can’t shake you because you’re living your life according to your rules as you always wanted. You’ll see the worth in what you’re doing, whether it’s a big or small project, and enjoy life more. You’ll find that there are plenty of things to be happy about and grateful for because no one is constantly showing you what’s bad about something good.
6. You’ll regain your self-esteem and self-worth.
The venom that comes from toxic people might have dampened your self-esteem, but once they’re no longer in your life, you regain what you lost. You’ll find your power again and grow more confident each day you pursue new things … because there’s no one is saying you can’t do it.
7. You’ll evolve as a person.
You’re not going to be the same person after you get toxic people out of your life. In fact, you’ll actually evolve into someone better, someone more positive. You’ll find that you’ve smartened up about dealing with people. You’ve likely also reaped a lot of patience, empathy, and understanding for every person’s journey because you know how hard it can be for them.
8. You get to reconnect with other people.
Your relationships with other people might suffered casualties when you were with a toxic person. You’ve probably distanced yourself from others so that they wouldn’t be involved in the drama, gossip, and meanness of a toxic individual. But now that this person is gone, you can reconnect with friends and family. Better yet, you’re going to have more room for new friends and acquaintance in your life – people with whom you can form new bonds.
9. You’ll surround yourself with more caring people.
When you’ve regained relationships or formed new ones then you’ll have more good people surrounding your life. Life will be happier when you’re with friends and family who genuinely care for your welfare and help you to be positive. You’ll have the social support you didn’t really have because of your relationship with that toxic person.
10. You’ll be happy with your life in general.
You’ll find that the pursuit of happiness is actually simple once you’ve cut out toxic people from your life. The secret is in having the freedom to enjoy the choices you’ve made, free from pressures and negativity.
Life’s too short to hold on to relationships that burden or hold you back. Letting go of toxic friends, family members, or intimate relationships is hard. You might feel various levels of guilt, experts say, but it’s still a choice you need to make. Take that first step into a better life. You’re going to be in a much better place with people and situations that let you fly and spread your wings.