“Here is the rule to remember in the future. When anything tempts you to be bitter: not, ‘This is a misfortune’ but ‘To bear this worthily is good fortune.'” – Marcus Aurelius
When misfortune enters our lives, we often wonder what we have done to bring trouble upon ourselves. Everyone experiences bad things in their lives from time to time. Dealing with setbacks is part of the human condition. Sometimes these bad things are career related and sometimes they are related to dealing with family and friends.
No one can stop bad things from happening, but we can control our reaction to them. Taking action can help you process your disappointment. These 21 tips will help you learn to move forward from misfortune and find a sense of peace.
21 Things You Can Do When Bad Things Happen
1. Focus On What You Can Control
Rather than obsessing about the ways life has let you down, it’s a good idea to focus on what you can change. Don’t focus on the ways you failed.
2. Avoid Unhelpful Thoughts
When bad things happen, do your best to adapt your thinking to a more positive mindset. Don’t blame yourself for your misfortune.
3. Reach Out to Friends
Friendly support can help you deal with bad things when they happen. Find a trusted friend with whom to share your emotions.
Exercise can burn off the bad feelings in your heart and give you a boost from endorphins.
5. Think Objectively
Rather than focusing on how the bad things make you feel, look at them without interference from your feelings.
6. Ask for Help
Always be willing to swallow your pride and ask for help fixing your problem.
7. You Can Change Your Reaction
It’s important to remember that while you can’t stop bad things from happening, you can change your attitude. Try to take control of your emotions.
8. Accept What Happened
Moving forward requires letting go of our self-pity and blame.
9. Do Your Part
When misfortune happens to other people, focus on how you can help them. When they happen to you, take concrete steps to make the situation better.
10. Write Down Your Feelings
Journaling can be an immense help in processing your thoughts. If it makes you feel better, write out your troubles and then burn or destroy the paper to symbolically let them go.
11. Think of Your Misfortune as an Obstacle
Rather than focusing on how your difficulties have interrupted your life, try to view them as obstacles to be overcome. You will learn from your mistakes and move on as a stronger person.
12. If You Survive This You Can Survive Anything
Focus on how your misfortune has strengthened you as a person. If you’ve lived through the worst, life can only get better.
13. Reach for a Higher Power
If you have a religious or spiritual practice, look toward it for help in a bad situation.
When we find ourselves in unfortunate situations, our minds often race and continually go over the mistakes we’ve made. Meditation can help you clear your mind and organize your thoughts.
15. Take Time to Feel Your Emotions
Rather than sweeping your negative emotions under the rug and pretending nothing bad has happened, take time to work through your feelings. Acknowledging your pain can help you move on.
16. Make a Plan
When you’ve made a mistake, make a plan to keep yourself from making it again.
17. Turn to Great Minds
Find inspirational words and take comfort in them. You will find that reading about someone else’s experiences may help you process your own.