When you meet your twin flame, you know it. The universe opens up, and things start to conspire in your favor. You get to witness the intense acceptance of who you are through the images. Twin flames do not have to be identical in every aspect. They get to fulfill each other in the areas that have been asleep. This person “sees” your essence. A twin flame relationship is a genuine acknowledgment of heart and soul. There isn’t a desire to fix anyone. There isn’t the criticism or judgment that arrives in relationships when two people are afraid to see the incompatibility.
8 Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship
Here are eight stages of a twin flame relationship:
1. The myth of “The One” becomes real.
From childhood, we have been ingrained that there is one person out there that will find us and make us happy. But, you have endured chaotic, unreliable, and challenging love in your life. You believe that the stories you’ve heard are fictional and disappointing. When you meet your twin flame, that entire mentality and belief system disappears. You begin to understand and accept that “The One” has been searching for you as intensely as you have them. You cannot believe that this is real. But, you give in to the possibility. And if you do, this person helps you regain a love for life that you believed could never exist.
2. You recognize the reason for their existence.
When you start to accept that this person has undergone similar experiences, it becomes clear that you had to reach this point in your life to accept this kind of relationship. Twin flames enter our lives at the precise moment that we require to learn something incredible about ourselves. A twin flame often comes into your life when you are in another committed relationship. You may be married, engaged, or dealing with the loss of your mate. This person shows up with incredible wisdom that you need to hear to move on. And it is then that you also realize that if this person had come into your life earlier, you would have taken the experience for granted.
3. You fall in love.
There is a difference between loving someone and genuinely falling in love with them. We love our parents, friends, family members, and other past lovers. When you meet your twin flame, those forms of love cannot measure up to the intensity and passion of your other half. You do not have to force the love or try to make sense of it. Your heart knows something that your mind cannot analytically put together for the first time. Falling in love is the easiest thing in the world. It becomes the most natural substance of the union. Twin flames aren’t blinded by reality because they are their world. Illusions fall short of this fire. This is the phase of pure ecstasy because you allow the heart to do what it is there to do: love unconditionally.
4. You begin to see all aspects of yourself.
Every relationship teaches something valuable about the self. Once the initial passion starts to stabilize and the daily routine takes over, you begin to witness the many aspects of yourself. Twin flames not only have the same magical and beautiful dispositions, but they also mirror the dark parts of our souls. In this space, we must learn to heal, forgive, and partake in accepting all aspects of the self. It is always easy to live in the light of all goodness, but we are made in duality: dark vs. morning, good vs. evil, and so on. These are the moments that we must be mature to understand that there is always soul work to be done in this human experience. This person will heighten all facets of ourselves.
5. You want to run away.
The depth and dimension of this love affair are sometimes too much for someone to handle. You recognize parts of yourself that you aren’t willing to look at. In those moments, you start to put on your running shoes. The first few stages of twin flames relationships often look like the coyote and roadrunner. You can’t help but chase after each other in circles. In these times, you get to witness all the similarities in each other. Fear and anxiety become the judging mates for egotistical decisions. Are you willing to continue?
6. You surrender.
All that running away and running around gets exhausting. You wear each other out. In this stage, you know that this is going to take some adjusting. You and your twin flame are willing to enter this experiment of cosmic challenges. You recognize that there is work to be done, and you can accomplish it together. Once you set ego aside, you feel the love and fear dissolve. This is when you start to understand the soul contract created many lifetimes ago. This is the phase when you both can find peace in the union.
7. You challenge each other.
The moment you surrender without fear of this person taking off, it is easier to settle into a healthy relationship. Twin flames have the most vital ability to make each other succeed. They are each others’ cheerleaders, coaches, and audience. Your twin will pull and push you with love and encouragement beyond any other relationship in your life. They will not stand in your way while you follow your purpose. Sometimes twin flames separate for just a bit during this transition as they find grounding in their own lives. But, out of mutual love and respect, they return with power and ambition to run side by side on this life journey.
8. You become one.
Once the ego is no longer dictating the partnership, the heart mends and becomes one. You and your twin flame become a powerhouse of love, empathy, and compassion for each other. And this is contagious for everyone around you. You are the epitome of true unconditional love. Fear is no longer a valuable commodity. You have both worked through heartache. The mirror lives from past experiences have served as a union for this exact moment when you accept this type of love. Twin flames recognize each others’ vibration and frequency. They become one in rhythm. The oneness of their coupling isn’t only through the death of egotistical beliefs. It’s in letting go that the heart recognizes why you need one another. You are here to make a difference in your lives.
How to Find Your Twin Flame
Although you feel complete in yourself, do you still long for a romantic relationship? It’s a basic human need that can bring you even more joy and satisfaction in your life. If you believe that you have a twin flame, here are 12 ways to get your star’s paths to cross.
1. Be the Best You Possible
If you don’t love the person you see in the mirror, how can you expect others to love you? It’s imperative to remember to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Of course, that doesn’t mean you’re perfect and have no room for improvement.
You learn how to be comfortable in your skin and shine as an individual. Self-confidence is a desirable attribute. Be genuine and honest with a potential twin flame because nobody likes a fake. The right person will fall in love and accept you exactly as you are.
2. Know What You Want in a Relationship
The only way you know if you’re in a destined relationship is if you know what that means for you. Not everyone has the exact definition and expectations, so take time to ponder yours. How will you know when you’ve met your soulmate?
What are the qualifications for your ideal mate? Is it outgoing and adventurous or a person who flies under the radar? Do you want someone with a similar background or a mate with an entirely different perspective?
3. Define Your Life Goals
In a serious relationship, you’ll be discussing your future as a couple. When you have these conversations, notice how it changes from “I and You” to “We, Us, and Ours.” The best way to build a future together is to know your life goals beforehand.
Perhaps one or both of you want to further your education or career. Maybe you’ll need to relocate to another city or state to do it. Do you plan on being just a darling duo for life, or have you always dreamed of having children?
These are goals and dreams you may have had for years. If you’re with someone whose goals are opposite, it doesn’t make for a fulfilling relationship. Although there’s always room for compromise, being in a committed relationship doesn’t include discarding your dreams.
4. Know Your Values and Boundaries
Other essential standards for finding your life flame are values and boundaries. Not everyone comes from the same ethnic, cultural, and socio-economic backgrounds. Even people with similar upbringings may not always share the same values and boundaries.
In any relationship, you must create mutual limitations. An article published by Vanderbilt University states that an effective boundary is strong enough to protect you. However, it needs to be flexible enough for you to connect with others.
These are conversations to have early in a budding relationship. Both of you may need to compromise on certain traditions and preferences. However, values and boundaries that are non-negotiable need to be discussed upfront.
5. Do What You Love
Life is too short to waste on doing things that don’t make you a better person or bring you joy. Of course, everyone has daily chores and things at home and work that are drudgery. These menial tasks can’t be ignored just because they’re not fun.
Considering the bigger picture, are you working toward your life’s goals, or are you stuck in a dead-end situation? You owe yourself to live up to what you’ve always dreamed of. You may attract your soulmate without even trying when you’re getting the most out of life.
6. Test the Waters of Love
If you’re a classic poetry fan, you’ve probably memorized the immortal love advice from Alfred Lord Tennyson. He declared that it’s better for you to lose at love than never to love. In other words, you’ll never know until you try.
It’s natural to be reluctant to make your heart vulnerable for fear of being hurt. However, many times taking risks is worth it. You may kiss a few frogs before you find that royal love who’s your twin flame.
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Try New Experiences
If Picasso were content to bend to traditional definitions of art, would he have ever created his masterpieces? Most people like to “play it safe” and color within the conventional lines. Don’t let fear and self-doubt stand in your way of love and a fulfilling life.
When you take a step of faith and try new things, you may be delightfully surprised. For example, maybe you’ve always wanted to go to culinary school but are afraid of failing. Learning new skills and talents can change your life dramatically and may lead you to your soulmate.
8. Write Down the Qualities of your Ideal Partner
If you met your destined love as a stranger on the street, how would you know they’re the one? What are the qualities and characteristics of the person with whom you want to spend forever? Perhaps writing a list can bring more clarification for you on your twin flame.