When you meet your twin flame, you know it. The universe opens up and things start to conspire in your favor. You get to witness the intense acceptance of who you are through the images of another. Twin flames do not have to be identical in every aspect. They get to fulfill each other in the areas that have been asleep. This person “sees” your essence. A twin flame relationship is defined by true acknowledgment of heart and soul. There isn’t a desire to fix anyone. There isn’t the criticism or judgment that arrives in relationships when two people are afraid to see the incompatibility.
Here are 8 stages of a twin flame relationship:
1. The myth of “The One” becomes real.
We have been ingrained from childhood that there is one person out there that will find us and make us happy. But, you have endured chaotic, unreliable, and challenging loves in your life. You believe that the stories you’ve heard are fictional and disappointing. The moment you meet your twin flame, that entire mentality and belief system disappears. You begin to understand and accept that “The One” has been searching for you as intensely as you have them. You cannot believe that this is real. But, you give in to the possibility. And if you do, this person helps you regain a love for life that you believed could never exist.
2. You recognize the reason for their existence.
When you start to accept that this person has undergone similar experiences, it becomes clear that you had to reach this point in your life to accept this kind of relationship. Twin flames enter our lives at the precise moment that we require to learn something incredible about ourselves. Many times, a twin flame comes into your life when you are in another committed relationship. You may be married, engaged, or dealing with the loss of your mate. This person shows up with incredible wisdom that you need to hear in order to move on. And, it is then that you also realize that if this person had come into your life earlier, you would have taken the experience for granted.
3. You fall in love.
There is a difference between loving someone and truly falling in love with them. We love our parents, our friends, family members, and other past lovers. When you meet your twin flame, those forms of love cannot measure up to the intensity and passion of your other half. You do not have to force the love, or try to make sense of it. For the first time, your heart knows something that your mind cannot analytically put together. Falling in love is the easiest thing in the world. It becomes the most natural substance of the union. Twin flames aren’t blinded by reality, because they are their own world. Illusions fall short of this fire. This is the phase of pure ecstasy because you allow the heart to do what it is there to do: love unconditionally.
4. You begin to see all aspects of yourself.
Every relationship teaches something valuable about the self. Once the initial passion starts to stabilize and daily routine takes over, you begin to witness the many aspects of yourself. Twin flames not only have the same magical and wonderful dispositions, but they also mirror the dark parts of our souls. It’s in this space that we must learn to heal, forgive and partake in accepting all aspects of the self. It is always easy to live in the light of all goodness, but we are made in duality: dark vs. light, good vs. bad, and so on. These are the moments that we must be mature to understand that there is always soul work to be done in this human experience. This person will heighten all facets of ourselves.
5. You want to run away.
The depth and dimension of this love affair is sometimes too much for someone to handle. You recognize parts of yourself that you aren’t willing to look at. In those moments, you start to put on your running shoes. The first few stages of twin flames relationships often times look like the coyote and roadrunner. You can’t help but chase after each other in circles. It’s in these times that you get to witness all the similarities in each other. Fear and anxiety become the judging mates for egotistical decisions. Are you willing to continue?
6. You surrender.
All that running away and running around gets exhausting. You wear each other out. It’s in this stage that you know that this is going to take some adjusting. You and your twin flame are willing to enter this experiment of cosmic challenges. You recognize that there is work to be done, and together you can accomplish it. Once you set ego aside, you feel the love and fear dissolves. This is when you start to understand the soul contract that was created many lifetimes ago. This is the phase when you both can find peace in the union.
7. You challenge each other.
The moment you surrender without fear of this person taking off, the easier it is to settle into a healthy relationship. Twin flames have the strongest ability of making each other succeed. They are each others’ cheerleaders, coaches, and audience. Your twin will pull and push you with love and encouragement beyond any other relationship in your life. They will not stand in your way while you follow your purpose. Sometimes twin flames separate for just a bit during this transition as they find grounding in their own lives. But, out of mutual love and respect, they return with power and ambition to run side by side on this journey of life.
8. You become One.
Once the ego is no longer dictating the partnership, the heart mends and becomes one. You and your twin flame become a powerhouse of love, empathy and compassion to each other. And, this is contagious for everyone around you. You are the epitome of true unconditional love. Fear is no longer a valuable commodity. You have both worked through heartache. The mirror lives from past experiences have served as a union for this exact moment when you accept this type of love. Twin flames recognize each others’ vibration and frequency. They become one in rhythm. The oneness of their coupling isn’t only through the death of egotistical beliefs. It’s in the process of letting go that the heart recognizes why you need one another. You are here to make a difference in your lives.
Twin flames are miraculous in finding one another. They have learned to follow synchronicity, intuitive whispers and the wisdom of divine guidance. Unlike soul mates, twin flames have the ability to lovingly stay and enhance the soul’s purpose. They are the reason we believe in fairytales.