Getting over someone you once loved is one of the hardest things people have to deal with. You have to give up on a person and deal with that. They’re not part of your life anymore. You have to make peace that you won’t reunite with them. Someone who once was your everything is now gone. Sometimes, the decision is mutual, and it’s genuinely for the best.
But love is complicated, and people are even more complex. Relationships have ups and downs. People who love each other are bound to be at each other’s throats from time to time. Because of how tumultuous relationships are, breakups are often one-sided. Someone gets thrown to the curb while the other moves on. Or both of them still have feelings, but one of them decides that moving on is for the best.
Even in mutual breakups, there’s no way that both people have lost all feelings. You are bound to have at least one relationship that ends on a sour note throughout your life. Or a breakup that doesn’t quite put an end to the whole ordeal. And you will most probably have to deal with exes who want you back.
You might even be that ex yourself. And, in some cases, getting back with your ex might even be the best possible option. Of course, you want to get back with the person you love. Right? But it’s not always that easy. So, for anyone confused about an ex, here are four signs they want you back. But don’t just rush into a relationship with them. Look out for these four reasons why getting back together is wrong for you.
4 Signs an Ex Wants to Reunite
Watch for these behaviors in your ex.
1. They Keep in Touch in the Hopes You Will Reunite
In more cases than not, you also stop communicating after you break up with someone. Sure, you might wish each other a happy birthday or merry Christmas. You might even chat if you bump into each other on the street. Or you might even keep in touch if you run in common circles and share a group of friends. But the chances are that you don’t go out of your way to talk to each other. You probably don’t text every day, and you don’t take the time to show that you still care.
So, when an ex goes out of their way to text you or call you, that’s when you know they still aren’t over you. If they text you out of the blue to ask you how you are doing, they are trying to rebuild something. No one makes an effort to entertain a meaningful conversation if they’ve stopped caring about you. And, they want to be more than friends. After all, people who have shared a special bond can’t just go back to being friends.
2. They Always Bring Up the Past
If your ex wants to get over you, they will try their hardest to forget everything you’ve been through. No matter how good or bad your relationship was, you have undoubtedly been through extraordinary times together. So, when you are trying to move on, you will do whatever it takes to forget how happy that relationship used to make you. Otherwise, it will be that much harder for you to move on.
But if your ex takes every opportunity to bring up your past together, they could be trying reunite. They are trying to make you feel what you used to feel when you were together. They are trying to let you know that you can be happy together like you once were. It’s also a way through which they can communicate and get closer to you. The memories you share are something that no one else knows about, so they will always bring you closer.
3. An Ex Who Wants to Reunite Will Try to Hang Out with You
Seeing an ex is so complicated it can make you physically hurt. Your heart starts beating like crazy, and it feels like it’s constricting in your chest. Your palms start sweating. Seeing someone, you love that you can never have back is maddening. So, if your ex is going out of their way to see you and hang out with you, it’s clear that they want to fix things.
No one would ever put themselves through the pain of seeing the one who broke their heart. Plus, when you hang out with them, they have a chance to remind you of who they could be and why you should give them another chance. Or maybe they miss you so much that they just want to see you again.
They don’t need to have an ulterior motive for asking you to see them. But one thing is sure. If they constantly ask you to hang out, they still have feelings for you, and they’re probably hoping to get you back.
4. They Get Jealous
If an ex is completely over you, they will not care that you’ve started dating again. After all, they’re moving on with their lives and finding new happiness. In many cases, your ex won’t just move on that quickly, nor will they want to move on.
If an ex still wants to know who you are daring and they seem very critical of your choices, that’s a sign they’re still not over you. And we’re not just talking about making sure your new boo is good enough. We’re talking about pure jealousy here. They will not accept anyone but themselves as good enough for you.
Your ex will always get angry or irritated when they see you out with someone else. They will try to do anything to convince you to leave them. While this behavior can be toxic, it’s also normal for humans to get jealous. Jealousy comes from a need to be protective over the person they love. So, when an ex gets protective, that’s a sign that they aren’t ready to let you go.
4 Reasons to Stay Apart
Despite their charm and persistence, ask yourself this. Was your breakup a blessing in disguise?
1. You Risk Falling into an Abusive Cycle if You Reunite With Your Ex
Making up with your ex can potentially be the best decision. But it can also be one of the biggest mistakes. That’s mainly because always making up and breaking up can create an abusive pattern that will do nothing but hurt you.
When you repeatedly break up and get back together, you will have a weird power dynamic. You will start breaking up over minor things, only to chase each other afterward. You will be vulnerable to abuse. If they treat you wrong, you might let it slide because you are scared that they’ll leave you again. Be careful before taking your ex back because you might take hurt.
2. Unresolved Issues Might Resurface
No matter how much you love someone, you certainly have reasons for breaking up. Whether they cheated on you, were toxic towards each other, or didn’t get along, you might set yourself up for fresh heartache. And, since you broke up, you couldn’t work through your issues. That means that some things between you are unresolved.