Creating a true emotional connection to your partner is one of the great joys of being in a relationship. You may be also looking for signs that your partner feels the same deep love and connection to you, which means they are more likely to stay long-term.
5 Signs You’ve Made A Deep Emotional Connection With Your Partner
We all want the moments of joy and happiness to outweigh our worries and sorrows. Creating an emotional connection with your partner is about the full range of human emotions; sadness, anger, fear, and joy.
We cannot have only positive emotions in our relationships, but we find good, healthy, positive ways to talk about and deal with the negative emotions. Doing the emotional work for your relationship will be worth it to create the loving emotional connection that you want with your partner.
1. You know how to eliminate distractions
Some things in your environment are preventing you from bonding to your partner. One of them could be your social media habit. Researchers found that a high level of Facebook usage is associated with breakups and divorce, especially for those who have been in relatively newer relationships of 3 years or less. These are negative relationship outcomes that no one wants when they are working to make an emotional connection.
Distractions like TV and social media are ways to emotionally disconnect. When you are focusing on something else, you can’t focus on the person that is right next to you. Rather than disconnecting, turn toward your partner and ask an open-ended question like ‘What is on your mind?’ or ‘How can I show you more love?’
Communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship with your partner. Sometimes, we get it wrong, and miscommunication creates conflict. Eliminating distractions helps avoid miscommunication and helps you two to listen more to each other’s needs. If you know what your partner needs, and they know yours, you are better able to provide it and keep them happy in the relationship.
2. You respond to them, rather than react
Our initial gut reaction to what we see, hear or feel is not how we should talk to our partner, unless our gut reaction is love. Initially what your partner says may upset you. If that is the case, recognize that you are reacting and say ‘I’m reacting right now. Give me a moment to respond to you.’
Wait to say the words that properly communicate how you feel, rather than how you first felt. Defensiveness is a response to a threat, which may be how we feel when our partner raises their voice, for example. Own your defensiveness and recognize when you put up a barrier. Again say what’s happening ‘I’m being defensive, let me take a few breaths and prepare to really listen to you.’
3. Build greater intimacy through intimate moments
Intimacy is about much more than sex. Intimacy can be built from a touch on the hand, a shared joke, a quiet moment of eye contact, or many different ways that aren’t sexual. Time sleeping in bed together is an intimate moment that most couples take for granted.
Touch is important to human companionship. Part of an intimate relationship, or even a companionship involves touch of some kind. Touch releases happy hormones for our brains, which creates an emotional connection to your partner and makes them want more of the happy hormone. Getting addicted to intimate touch is not a bad thing when you are building emotional bonds with your partner.
4. Create a safe place for expressing emotions
Emotions are bad words to some people. Men, especially, are traditionally taught to be tough and to stuff emotions down and hide them. Men can be as gentle and loving as women can, but they have a harder time showing it because they have less experience with it after practicing emotional stuffing for so long.
Being sensitive to your partner’s sensitivity about emotions is important. Researchers at the University of Melbourne found that responding to your partner with gentleness and care was the most accurate predictor of marital strength, even more than sexual attraction.
5. Picture your future together
Imagine you and your partner growing old and building a lasting companionship. The emotions come to your eyes quickly when you think about long-term love. We can avoid many small aggravations by looking at our relationship big picture as a journey. Each partner will grow and evolve, change, and make a new start every time a major life event happens.