Sadly, millions of women worldwide experience a miscarriage each year. Most often, miscarriages happen due to the baby having extra or missing chromosomes. Scientists estimate that around 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriages before the mother realizes she’s pregnant. In addition, 15-25% of women who find out about the pregnancy will miscarry.

Over 80% of miscarriages occur during the first trimester; having them after twenty weeks is rare. Common symptoms reported when a woman miscarries include heavy bleeding, painful cramps, and stomach pain. She may also experience back pain, body weakness, contractions, weight loss, blood clots, and pink mucus.

The traumatic experience of losing a baby also triggers a cascade of emotions. Some women find healing by talking to supportive people in their lives, such as a partner or family member. Others may seek mental health counselors or support groups to process their feelings.

However, some women may feel too embarrassed or ashamed to admit the loss of a baby. They might even blame themselves, despite the situation being out of control. Despite increased awareness about miscarriages, many still consider it a taboo subject. Therefore, some women may not feel comfortable talking about it, even with their loved ones.

Woman Shares Fourteen Tweets About Miscarriage Most People Don’t Know.


To help end the stigma and shame, Kristen R. Moore created a Twitter thread detailing her miscarriage. She hoped that being upfront about the experience would encourage other mothers to join the conversation. Below, we’ll share the raw truth about miscarriages that often goes unnoticed.

The pain of losing a baby doesn’t just go away overnight.

Medical professionals may not have the training to deal with miscarriages.

Some pharmacists may pass judgment when it comes to miscarriage medications.

The pharmacy does not always provide all the information you need.

But, a good pharmacist will explain more about the medication.

When you get pregnant again, you immediately worry about losing another baby.

No one can truly understand the pain you’re going through.

So many emotions arise when a woman miscarries.

Men also suffer from losing a baby, but their feelings often go unnoticed.

“My husband adds that the miscarriage experience was really traumatic and long for him too. And unexpectedly so. He needs/needed those conversations as much as I did and do,” she said to Buzzfeed News.

The body takes time to adjust even though you’re not pregnant.

It’s challenging to discuss miscarriages with others.

Remember to never say these things to someone who miscarried.

Even if it feels lonely, you still have people who care.

As if losing a baby wasn’t heartwrenching enough, the process of miscarrying itself can cause pain. And, the procedure doesn’t come cheap.

According to an interview with Buzzfeed News, Moore conceived one child through IVF. 

 “We tried for seven years before we got our first positive pregnancy test through IVF, after a laparoscopy, several rounds of insemination, and years of trying ourselves,” she said.

However, she had an unexpected pregnancy a few years later, which resulted in a miscarriage. Her doctor performed a dilation and curettage (D&C) procedure to clear her uterine lining.

“I was 13 weeks along by the time I had the D&C,” she said. “I was almost 12 weeks when we couldn’t find the heartbeat. We’d heard the heartbeat several times before and had gotten the all-clear on our genetic tests. We’d just started telling people because the tests were all good,” she added.

Moore Believes Women’s Healthcare Should Be More Accessible.

Moore said that despite having great insurance, the procedure cost over $1,200. That didn’t even include the cost of copays, follow-up doctor visits, and medications. After paying the bill, she felt compelled to share her experience on social media.

She and her husband felt grateful to have the means to pay for the procedure. But, the high cost makes it inaccessible to many parents who may not have insurance. We have enough money to incur a surprise bill like that now. But a few years ago, that would have really sent us into a financial tailspin,” she said.

“I believe we should implement comprehensive healthcare reform, especially for women. That healthcare reform should include post-miscarriage support, including time off after birth and miscarriage, therapists/doula support, and a more holistic approach to training medical professionals dealing with this kind of loss. This might include articulating the complexities (physical and emotional) of recovering from miscarriage (and birth),” she said.

“But most importantly, you shouldn’t have to have a ton of money in order to receive this support. The way that class inequities shape patient care is indisputable, and those inequities intersect with other forms of inequity, like race and gender. So, Black and trans patients are likely to struggle to get the care they deserve in miscarriage situations (among others). We can and should do better,” Kristen added.

Kristen hopes her story can help other women who have experienced a miscarriage feel less alone. Some women may fear they can never get pregnant again after losing a baby. However, around 85% of women who have miscarriages go on to have healthy, full-term pregnancies.

And, having a miscarriage doesn’t always signal a fertility issue. But if you have repeated miscarriages, you should talk with your doctor. They can perform specific tests to determine why you’re miscarrying.

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Final Thoughts on Things Most People Don’t Know About Miscarriages.

When Kristen Moore experienced a miscarriage, she felt so alone and misunderstood. Even pharmacists and doctors didn’t know how to deal with it. So, she took to Twitter to voice her concerns and experience.

Many women seemed to relate to her story and agreed that healthcare should have serious reform. Every woman should have access to miscarriage treatment, regardless of the cost. They also shouldn’t feel ashamed to seek care or ask questions about the procedure.

Hopefully, Kristen’s honest account of her experience provides support and comfort to many women (and men). Perhaps it will encourage women to continue advocating for their health and wellbeing.