How To Tell If A Cheater Has Changed

How To Tell If A Cheater Has Changed

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The betrayal of a partner who is a cheater can devastate a relationship, but it is possible for a person to change their cheating behavior, and these 6 signs can tell you if he or she has changed.

Romantic relationships are built largely on trust, so cheating and going outside of the relationship bond is a clear violation of the trust that the two partners had for each other. Trust can be rebuilt with time, effort, and forgiveness of the partner who was betrayed.

For those not currently in a relationship, deciding whether or not to date a cheater who has a reputation can be tricky. Can a cheater change their roaming ways and become your one-and-only, or by dating a cheater are you likely to find out how it feels to be cheated on?


6 Signs A Cheater Has Changed

1. The flirtations are gone

Instead of trying to catch the eye of every available person who might be attracted to them, you’ve noticed a pattern that they’ve stopped vying for others’ attention, and is consistently seeking your own. You might notice something as simple as fewer selfies without you and more shots of the two of you – it’s the smallest nuances that can create the biggest differences.

If a cheating partner has changed, the behavior difference should be clear. You no longer feel threatened by their behavior toward other potential romantic partners.


2. They make you feel secure

You’ve noticed them to actively seek physical touch in public, like holding your hand and other gestures showing everyone that you (and they) are off the market. If a cheater has changed, they take responsibility for you as their soul mate and they show their care by taking care of your needs physically, financially, and emotionally.

Related article: 5 Signs Your Partner Deserves Your Trust

3. You are open about the cheating behavior and what triggered it

Talking about the betrayal may be hurtful, but getting out all of the details might be best, especially if you uncover triggers that may cause your cheating partner to be likely to feel the need for attention from another person again.


When one partner feels unappreciated, unheard, or mistreated, they may seek another person who can give them the tenderness that they crave. Ask your cheater how they felt before they cheated so you can identify the emotional triggers for cheating.

For example, if your partner says they felt neglected, tell them several specific things you will do to make sure that they don’t feel neglected. Also ask your partner to commit to telling you if they feel that way again or if they have thought about cheating.

4. They make future plans for you as a couple

Future plans doesn’t have to mean marriage, but even planning a trip for the both of you for 6 months from now gives you some sense of hopefulness for your future as a couple who has successfully conquered cheating.

When your partner is focused on creating a happy future, you feel more secure in your relationship, knowing that you are being planned for. When you have a close, committed relationship, your partner and you have future-focused items like a living will, life insurance, and other legal and financial aids that protect your domestic partner and yourself.


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5. They have asked for forgiveness

The act of asking for forgiveness opens the door to healing in a relationship after cheating happens. Whether it was an emotional attachment or a sexual one, when the partner who did the cheating asks for your forgiveness, they are admitting that they know their behavior was wrong.

North American Journal of Psychology researchers who studied forgiveness and cheating say, ‘People are more likely to forgive their partners when they are committed to and satisfied with their relationships.’ They also say ‘forgiveness was most likely when cheating was an isolated incident and when an apology was offered by the partner.’ If you haven’t gotten an apology, ask your partner for one.


6. There is a new level of emotional openness

A cheating partner who is now capable of being vulnerable around you is a cheater who has changed. Emotional cheating happens when a partner leaves the relationship to give their burdens to another person who they feel will listen. Feel secure about your partner if they have opened themselves up to you and told you intimate things that they couldn’t tell anyone else.

Ask your partner about their opinion of infidelity in a relationship and whether monogamy is something they feel comfortable with now. The reason for the question is that your partner’s attitude toward cheating can predict how likely they are to cheat in the future. Researchers studying why cheating happens in a Marquette University study say ‘individuals who hold more permissive attitudes toward adultery and uncommitted sexual relationships are more likely to engage in adulterous acts.’


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One thought on “How To Tell If A Cheater Has Changed

  1. Number 3 implies that the cheating is the fault of the betrayed partner instead of the cheater. Yes, it takes 2 to make a relationship, cheaters take the easy way out and work on attracting someone new instead of working on their relationship. I’m guessing you have never been cheated on by someone you trusted. As most of the time the betrayed partner is blindsided by the cheating.

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