4 Habits of Couples That Last Forever

4 Habits of Couples That Last Forever

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In a lasting relationship, couples demonstrate their love by doing things every day to support each other. Although a loving, committed couple can make a relationship look easy, it actually takes a little bit of work. In fact, ask anyone who has been in a long term relationship, life together isn’t always perfect.

Linda and Charlie Bloom, authors of, “Secrets of Great Marriages”, write about lasting couples and say that over time, “the experience of nurturing the relationship no longer feels like effort or work, but literally becomes a labor of love that feels more like a gift, a joyful opportunity for which we feel grateful and blessed.”

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Here are the top 4 Habits of Lasting Couples:

1. They talk about their emotions.

One thing that lasting couples do is care for each other’s feelings by doing the emotional work that the relationship requires. Emotional work is something that we rarely hear about, but psychologists study this topic as a factor in relationship happiness.

Researchers in the “Journal of Family Issues” say that, “Family members do work to meet people’s emotional needs, improve their well-being, and maintain harmony.”

When emotional work is shared equally, both men and women have access to emotional resources in the family. However, like housework and childcare, the distribution of emotional work is gendered.’ Women are the ones who typically talk more about their feeling in a relationship, but it’s not impossible to get a man to open up too. He needs to feel sa

Researchers show how important emotional work is to healthy relationships. Partners with a gender imbalance towards expressing their feelings, tended to see an erosion of the marriage, which poses a health risk from psychological distress.

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All in all, for a lasting relationship, men need to identify emotional cues from their female partner and help her to release feelings of anger/sadness/fear. When male partners can express their feelings as well as support their companions emotionally, they have one of the biggest skills needed for a lasting relationship.

2. Work on solving problems

Every day couples face challenges. Large or small, sometimes just getting coordinated to get out the door for work in the morning can be a task. Then, later in the day, the topic of what you are having for dinner and who is going to cook it can become an issue. Beyond that, larger problems come up with regard to finances, health, family planning, social commitments, etc.

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Couples who have a lasting relationship make every day issues a breeze. They communicate well and problem solve. They don’t fret on the small things, they look forward to their future together. They usually share a common goal, for example retiring early or paying off the house so that they have money to travel. The more shared goals you have, the easier it can be to problem solve.

3. Communicate openly

Of course you talk to your partner, but when you are in a lasting relationship you seek to understand your other half rather than just talking to them. You express your viewpoint and ask your partner to contribute their opinion as well.

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Communication is a gift that you can give your partner in the form of excellent listening skills. Misunderstandings can be a source of tension and anger in a relationship. Prevent problems by being fully present when your partner is speaking. Eliminate distractions, make eye contact and do not wait to speak. Ask questions about what your partner said and restate their words so they know that you truly understand them.

The importance of excellent communication cannot be overstated for lasting couples. Open communication is also the basis of trust. Lasting couples do not hide things from their partner.

4. Create a shared special moment

Successful business leaders know that reviewing the workday to find the lessons learned is an excellent practice to follow. In a strong relationship with your romantic partner, you should also look back to see how your day went as a couple.

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