Remember the old saying from Alfred Lord Tennyson that stated it was better to have loved and lost than for you to have never experienced love at all? Love is a beautiful thing, but sometimes love isn’t enough. Many folks prefer to stay single rather than entering into a committed relationship.
Do you prefer to live alone, or do you have issues from past relationships that make you feel uneasy about starting over? It’s estimated that 110.6 million Americans prefer a single life, according to the US Census Bureau.
24 Compelling Reasons to Skip a Committed Relationship (at least for right now)
There’s nothing better than having someone to snuggle up with on a cold winter night or to have someone to help carry your burdens in life. However, there are plenty of reasons why people don’t want to get married, and here are the most common ones.
Money is always a big issue in a relationship. It’s no wonder that in the United Kingdom, an article posted in the Independent lists financial woes as the number one cause of marriages ending, and American statistics are similar.
2. Previous Bad Relationships
Some folks choose to be single because they’ve already been there and done that when it comes to relationships. They have been burnt before, and they don’t decide to put themselves through the trouble again.
3. Sexual Dysfunction
Sometimes, there are sexual issues that stem from abuse or medical issues. If a person feels that they cannot keep up in the bedroom, they may prefer to live a single life rather than complain about it.
4. Poor Self-Esteem
If you have poor self-esteem, you may not be interested in looking for someone. Sure, love can happen when you least expect it, but you’re not putting yourself out there where you can meet and mingle with other singles.
5. Poor Dating Skills
Some people don’t know how to find a love interest. They have poor dating skills, and they don’t know how to improve them. These are often people that put little effort into finding someone because they are socially awkward.
6. Freedom When You’re Not Committed to One Partner
When you’re not tied down with someone, you have freedom of choice. There are no arguments if your plans differ, and you call the shots. To a strong and independent person, freedom is everything.
7. Fear of Rejection
There’s always the fear that if you put yourself out there that you will be rejected. If you’ve experienced rejection before, the fear of this happening again may be too much for you to handle.
8. Work and Career Driven
Some people are married to their job. They have what it takes to be a good partner, but they don’t want to bring someone into their life because of their career. This is often seen in doctors, lawyers, and other high-power positions that require so much of a person’s life it leaves little time for other things.
If you have a substance abuse issue, you might not be in the right frame of mind to have a relationship. You may prefer a fling on occasion, but your addiction is the driving force in your life right now. You know that being committed is not in the imminent future for you until you conquer your addiction.
10. Always Picks the “Loser.”
Have you ever heard the term “loser magnet?” Some people feel that they always attract those individuals that are going nowhere and have nothing to offer. No matter how hard you try, you may attract people that aren’t good for you. Rather than engage in all this pain, it’s easier to stay single.
11. Fear of Commitment
You may want a relationship, but the fear of becoming committed keeps you from moving forward. This is often observed when people have lived through horrible divorces or watched their parents have terrible marriage problems. The fear of history repeating itself is too much to handle.
Romance without finance isn’t happening, and no man or woman wants to be with someone who is a financial disaster. So, it’s a commonplace that someone who is in a complex financial state would avoid relationships.
Additionally, if someone is disabled or has other issues that cause them to live on meager means, they may struggle to take care of themselves. They feel they don’t have the resources to add anyone else to the mix.
13. Can’t Get Over A Past Love
How many times have you thought about your first love? Whether it’s your first love or the mother/father of your children, you may not want to move on because you love someone else. Unrequited love is a significant heartache to manage, and you can die of broken heart syndrome, according to the National Institute of Health.
14. You’re Introverted
Introverts keep to themselves. While some might think that this person is shy, it’s not always the case. Many introverts stay single because they don’t want to step outside their comfort zone and meet new folks. The very thought of leaving the house to go to a club or other social gathering is terrifying to them.
15. Don’t Want to Be Tied to One Person
The thought of finding someone to share your life with doesn’t appeal to everyone. Some people find it horrifying that you would spend all your days with one person. If you prefer to play the field or like to date around and make no commitments, then you should stay single.
16. Stress Less
Even in the best relationships, there are always issues that come up that can be stressful. When you’re only responsible for yourself and your actions, then it’s not as troublesome. Some people love flying solo because they feel it’s a life filled with less drama.
17. You Consider Yourself Too Selfish for a Committed Relationship
Some folks are just selfish by nature, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to cater to your needs. If your time, money, home, and future don’t have room for another person, then it’s better to stay single than to make someone else miserable. Knowing that you need to put your needs first–at least for right now–is a sign of emotional intelligence.
18. Relationships Are Hard Work
No relationship doesn’t take work, even those that seem to fit together like a sock and a shoe. If you don’t have it to put all this work into being a couple, you may choose a single life.
19. Like Living Alone
When you move another person into your space, you need to share everything. Your bathroom, dresser, and closet are not your own, as well as your time. Some folks prefer to live alone and not have to share all their things. Relationships require a lot of give and take, and many people are unwilling to do either one.
20. Kids from A Previous Relationship
You may prefer to fly solo if you have kids from a previous relationship. Think of the movie stereotypes, where the evil stepmother and stepsisters haunted this child, are certainly typical. You may choose to be single because you prefer to make sure no one comes between you and your kids. Staying single until the kids get older might be the brightest idea for your family.
21. Fear of Divorce
Some people don’t want to take a trip down the aisle because they fear divorce. Maybe you have wealth that you don’t want to share or don’t want to go through all the drama. If you’ve been divorced before, it might scare you enough to keep you single.
22. Afraid to Lose Individuality
There are certain things that you must say and do when you’re in a relationship. Some people aren’t willing to compromise as they feel they will lose their individuality.
23. Mental Health Issues
If you struggle with depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns, it may be easier for you not to bring someone into your world. Sadly, many folks don’t understand mental illness, and you might not want to subject someone to this life.
24. Too Picky
Finally, one of the common reasons why people remain single is because they’re too picky. They want to choose a partner that checks all the boxes on a proverbial list; however, they inflate their self-worth and undervalue others.
While marriage and being connected with someone were commonplace in the old days, people are more open about their options in today’s society. You can choose a single life, and you don’t have to answer to anyone else.
There’s scarcely a person on this planet that hasn’t been in love at least once. However, these relationships may have ended badly, and it’s left a sour taste in your mouth. If you want to fly solo in this life, then it’s your choice to make.
Some people aren’t the marrying kind, while others wait their whole life to take those life-changing vows. No matter where you stand on the spectrum, you might find that some of these issues may keep you from a committed relationship, even if you desire one.